4 thoughts on “Desires and Passions Well Regulated”

1. The only thing with alcohol is that it can destroy your witness. Also, when we are around those who have trouble with it we are harming them. People have no idea how much you are drinking or why. You are drinking. It seems best to just leave it alone all together in order to not be misunderstood or hurt someone whom it could be a problem for.

2. Absolutely 100% right.

   I’m glad to hear someone else say that.

   If you care about the people who have trouble with alcohol, don’t drink yourself!

   My husband had no trouble quitting alcohol because I don’t drink.

   I think the truth is people care more about Being Morally Superior (‘I drink but I don’t have a problem’) than about their friends or family…or even worse…they just don’t care about their friends or family.

3. That’s actually one of the ways I got my husband to stop drinking…

   I forgot exactly the wording but basically I sent an email early on in the relationship with a single very cryptic sentence that encapsulated this attitude…

   None of these people care about you. If you die of a heart attack they will care for all of five seconds and then move on. They just want someone to drink with…a body…you’re replaceable and interchangeable.

   I also learned that my husband drank because his friends/family are not so great. Whenever I’m around his family or friends and say silently in my head ‘If I have to sit here for one more minute…I need a drink’ …my husband will reach for the bottle of alcohol.

   If you come from a divorced family and you are loyal to maybe people you shouldn’t be loyal to…The only way to make it through the evening is with the bottle.

   So for years my husband dealt with people by numbing his emotions…so then he could stay ‘loyal’ to them when they do not deserve that type of loyalty.

   My husband had a long-term relationship before me (he’s my one and only) and in every photo he is drunk and every photo breaks my heart to see him with that silly drunk happy—but not really happy—vacant smile. My dad said that’s a common tactic women use…keep the men drunk so they never realize that their life is slipping away. I see that tactic with the stepmother and husband…oh Honey…have Another Glass of Wine!!! You won’t ever have to deal with your conscious again!

   Yeah it’s horrible…

4. Agree with commenter #1. We dont drink alcohol amd if people want to drink it, they bring their own. However they risk being asked to leave if it gets out of hand. If people want to smoke, they do it outside the house and they are to clean up after themselves. We also will not buy alcohol for anyone else. I get really offended though, when people know we dont drink and its obvious im pregnant and they offer me a drink. Ive had ‘christians’ do this. I just think ‘where are youre morals?’. Wine in the bible was grape juice. Todays alcohol was traditionally used as Gods weed killer. Will never touch the stuff.

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