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A lot of couples only think of “me, me, me…” but never think to serve the other! Women have been told through radical feminism the man must serve and treat her like a queen, but she can treat him like a peasant in return and society accepts it! It’s all about what she wants, if the husband wants to move, do something else, or any decision that will affect the both of them, more often than not, he will be branded sexist and domineering if he insists doing it his way this time around! Conversely, if a woman wants to do something but he objects, he must unquestioningly follow her or else the same outcome! If he wants children but the wife doesn’t anymore, -sexist!, if he likes that dress over this one, -sexist! It’s socially acceptable to joke about deriding your husband and all his negative qualities, whereas if he dared speak of his wife the same way, it’s decried! In such an atmosphere of double standards, and “all about her” attitude, no wonder there aren’t more divorces! The traditional devotion and love and sacrifice of a wife is no longer socially sanctioned, and in this society of instant gratification, any imperfections in one’s partner means throw them away for the new one, not repair them and honor one’s marriage vows! Abuse is about the only circumstance I would ever encourage divorce! In that case, perhaps he should leave his domineering ungrateful wife!
Well said Lori. I was telling a friend today that I’m learning to be content with what I have. I love my husband and my daughters and I wouldn’t trade this life for anything.
Amen! Thanks for the continual encouragement!!
Well said, Lori. Lately when I have caught myself being discontent or bitter at something/someone, I have been reminding myself to do it “heartily as unto the Lord, and not unto men” – for I know I don’t deserve anything less than eternal damnation! When I focus on this, the Lord in His graciousness and mercy frequently dissipates the discontentment and bitterness, and replaces it with peace so I can serve Him with the honor He deserves.
Thank you as always for your encouraging posts filled with truth, and God bless you for your faithfulness!
Thank you Lori! Such a good reminder! Thank you for always encouraging my heart & walk!
Thanks. I hope this post gets lots of exposure. All of us are prone to discontentment, but we don’t like to admit that an attitude change is possible or even desirable. The women hearing the apostles’ teaching probably had to put up with quite a bit more than we comfortable 21st-century women.
Wow, Thank you for writing this – it needed to be said, and I would only be persecuted for doing so.
You’re so right! We deserve NOTHING! Expectations and discontentment clearly shows a sense of entitlement and that we “deserve” something we are not getting. This attitude destroys marriages and nations as we are seeing in our own nation.
You’re right about that, Heidi. The battle truly is in the mind. Who are we going to listen to: the lies from the enemy and our culture tells us or the truths and promises that are in God’s Word?
Awesome article. You are really at the root of it.
… even if we aren’t feeling loved by or love for them.
Part of the problem is that the Bible commands love, but people confuse that with some sort of feeling.
Ephesians 5:33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
A man is to love his wife like how he cares about himself. That is not romantic, but it should be received with gratitude. If wives want more than that, they should try treating their husbands reverently, “as unto the Lord“, and they will then likely remain the utmost object of his affection and desire.
How do I get my wife to read this?
I have been struggling with for some time now. My husband retired 2 years ago and has done nothing but drink beer and play on the computer since I’ve tried talking to him about it but he says he’s happy just the way it is. I can hear people telling me to volunteer but I am physically disabled and can only leave the house if he takes me out. I have no one or nowhere to turn so if you could give me ideas to be more content I will continue to try. But also when is it enough.
It doesn’t sound like your husband is a mean and terrible man, Tammy. The Apostle Paul had to learn contentment in a prison and asks us to learn contentment since godliness with contentment is great gain. Read books especially the Bible. Read, study, and meditate upon it daily. Find your joy and strength in the LORD. You accomplish this by renewing your mind with truth. Every time a bad thought comes into your mind, kick it out and replace it with the truth of God’s Word. “He’s a lazy bum!” replace with “He worked hard his entire life and is now retired. He’s a grown man and can live his life as he chooses. He’s not out running around getting into trouble. I am thankful that he is in the home with me. Love bears all things, believes all things, endures all things, and hopes all things. Love never fails!”
Thank you, great reminder. Those words were in our wedding vows. If that’s not a sign don’t know what would be.
Amen brother, amen!
@A Lady of Reason has it right: “In that case, perhaps he should leave his domineering ungrateful wife!”
Those descriptions only begin to scratch the surface of accuracy in her character.
How do you call to life that which does not exist? Its not like we can command dry bones to come to life….there aren’t even any bones to talk to.
Living with anybody, whether a husband or wife, son or daughter who is not content in life, that is another hell life on earth. After eating a good meal while the millions are crying for a piece of bread, the first thing some people utter ‘ that was not a good meal”. While riding a comfortable car, not content with the car and argument will start for some expensive vehicle. Never content in life, that means they will never be happy in life.