We live in a highly sexualized culture. Not many young people are virgins when they marry, even those within the Church. Years ago, Ken and I mentored young couples who were engaged. The leaders of this program, who have been in charge of this ministry for 30 years, told us that when they began this ministry most of the engaged couples had not had sex before marriage but nowadays, it was difficult to find any young couples seeking premarital counseling who were still virgins.
What does God say about fornication? (Fornication is sex outside of marriage. It may be a man and woman before marriage or a married man with an unmarried women or vice versa.)
“Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators….shall inherit the kingdom of God” (1 Corinthians 6:9, 10)
“Flee fornication. Every sin that a man does is without the body; but he that commits fornication sins against his own body” (1 Corinthians 6:18).
“Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband” (1 Corinthians 7:2).
“Neither let us commit fornication, as some of them (the Israelites) committed, and fell in one day three and twenty thousand” (1 Corinthians 10:8).
There are many more verses related to fornication in the Bible. It is a serious offense in God’s eyes. He wants us to be chaste and pure before marriage and become one flesh with one man. God’s commands are for our good. The spread of sexually transmitted diseases is at an all time high. Yes, the sin of fornication has some serious ramifications. It breaks the covenant of the one flesh marriage (even prior to marriage) and it is a sin against one’s one body.
Is there hope for those who have committed fornication? Of course, but they will deal with the regret and possibly the scars (infertility and/or disease) from it all of their days but there is forgiveness in the Lord Jesus Christ. “And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of God” (1 Corinthians 6:11).
Teach your young daughters and sons to be chaste until marriage. Tell them that God’s ways are best and for their protection. Everything He commands is good. He is a good God and wants us to be holy and set apart. You will reap His blessings if you live your life for Him; for we are promised that we will reap what we sow.
Blessed is the man that walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of the scornful. But his delight is in the law of the Lord; and in his law does he meditate day and night. And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that brings forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he does shall prosper.