The Transformed Wife
“I Can’t Afford Not to Work!”
Written By Nancy Campbell
I often hear mothers say, “I wish that this [being a stay-at-home mom] was the case for me, but we can’t afford for me to stay home.” Why are these words such a common reply? I think it is because we feel we must take things into our own hands to make it work. We don’t think that God is able! That’s the bottom line.
That’s rather challenging, isn’t it? Especially when we read the words in Psalm 78:19-22: “Yea, they spake against God; they said, Can God furnish a table in the wilderness? . . . Can he give bread also? Can he provide flesh for his people? . . . Therefore the Lord heard this, and was wroth… because they believed not in God, and trusted not in his salvation.”
When we don’t believe that God can provide, we are really confessing that we don’t trust Him and that He is not sufficient for our needs. And yet, isn’t He God? The God of the universe. The God who owns the cattle on a thousand hills. The God who has promised to provide for the fruit of the womb.
I know it can be scary when you wonder where the next meal is coming from. And we all go through seasons, just as Paul did (Philippians 4:11-13). There were times when he abounded and times when he was abased. We’ve faced the same thing many times. I remember one time when we had no money coming in and I thought that I would help the situation! Help, Nancy Campbell didn’t trust God! Shame!
I could never imagine my getting a full-time job out of the home, but I thought I’d do a few cleaning jobs to bring in a little extra (my children were mostly grown by this time). I was dutifully doing this when a woman of God challenged me. She said I was blaspheming God’s Word and not being an example to the younger women. At first, I was indignant. “Who does she think she is?” I thought. “She doesn’t know our situation.”
But then the Holy Spirit used her words to speak into my heart. I realized she was right! I confessed my sin and unbelief and immediately stopped these little jobs that took me out of the home. The amazing thing is that it didn’t change a thing! I noticed no difference when I was trying to bring in extra money than when I trusted God! God could do better than what I could do!
Why is it we think we can do a better job than God? God doesn’t require sacrifice but obedience. When we obey Him and trust Him, we experience His faithfulness. That doesn’t mean we will always be abounding, but we will never starve!
To the dear mothers who are still working and yet long to be home, I want to encourage you. Please, take a step of faith and obedience. You will wait for the rest of your life for the circumstances to be right before you can come home! Your circumstances will never be perfect. You will never think you have enough money without your wage. You need to take a step of faith. You must act in obedience. Give your notice and then you will see what God can do.
While you try to do it in your own strength, God steps back and lets you do it your way. He can only show you His faithfulness and His provision when you let Him take over! Try it and see! I would love to hear the hundreds of testimonies from those who have seen God’s provision as they have taken this step of faith.
Instead of “We can’t afford for me to stay home, “my husband always said, “I can’t afford for my wife to leave the home. Too much is at stake!”
When the mother is out of the home, the enemy and destroyer of souls has a chance to influence our children. We, as mothers, are watch dogs of our children and our homes. A watch dog is of no worth if he is not at home. We can’t leave our post. Our children, the nation, and future generations are dependent on us!
Be blessed today, Nancy Campbell
Here is a video of how a young family of almost four children have learned to live on one small income.
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How to Create a Peaceful Home
Don’t be ruled by your moods. Let Truth control you instead. Take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ.
Smile often and decide to choose joy and contentment instead of complaining and being negative.
Work hard in your home to make it a place of order and beauty rather than chaos and clutter.
Submit to and love your husband. Your children are watching you. Stop arguing with him. Respect him instead.
Invest into your children. Let them know they are FAR more important to you than your phone or anything else.
Be home full time. Live simply within your husband’s income. Your husband and children need you at home.
Have Bible verses around your home and on the walls so everyone who comes into your home knows who you love and serve, Jesus Christ.
She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
Proverbs 31:27-31
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Train Up a Child in the Way He Should Go
Written By Ken Alexander
We were accused of being excessive in our discipline actions by those who were into the gentle/permissive parenting movement. Flicking a cheek and making a child comply by picking up the raisins she threw onto the ground because she did not want to eat them are considered cardinal sins worthy of purgatory by some, yet ask the child who is now a well-adjusted, wonderful mom of her own, and she laughs and understands how important it is to raise cooperative children, especially for the sake of the home when you have many of them. It’s for the sake of the child themselves to not have to battle rebellion and destruction in their teen and adult years but have self-control instead.
God’s promise is that if we raise our children well in the Lord, they will not depart from Him and His ways. All discipline must be modest, give pain appropriate to the age of the child, and not leave marks, especially not emotional marks. Each child is different and each must be dealt with a little differently, but modest pain for a child can be a good thing in training where there is no verbal understanding or in cases of outright disobedience and rebellion. Be a sensible, kind, loving parent, and not angry or yelling when disciplining a child. If you need a time out to get your head together, take it, and come back later to talk to the child and give any necessary discipline that fits the crime. As they get older, the spankings should become far less prevalent and again used only for disobedience and rebellion.
Talk through everything else as they grow older and show the love and grace of Jesus in all discipline, just as you desire Him to show you. We spent hours talking to our teens instead of punishing them, and at times, I bet some wish they could have just had the spanking. But the reality is that training requires teaching proper thinking, not just proper behavior. “Don’t do it again” can be just as effective or more so than punishment after gaining commitment from a child who understands. But if they do it again, then appropriate physical discipline, time out, or some other form of punishment is necessary so that they know Mom and Dad mean what they say.
We have four wonderful children who are healthy and whole in body and spirit as we write these things, and they are raising their own children in the Lord. You will stand before God some day and give an account as to how you raised your children. If God says not to spare the child the rod, He means some physical form of discipline is not only acceptable but necessary.
Prayerfully unite with your spouse on how you will consistently implement disciplining in your home. Discipline is a gift we can instill in our children, and if the two of you are not on the same page together, your child will see this and play the two of you against each other to get what they want. Be consistent! Do not say something then not follow through with it, or you will confuse the child who can no longer believe and trust you to keep your word. Your word is your bond, and you must teach your child the same or watch them become something you are not proud of in this life. They are your handiwork on display, and eternity is at stake.
He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes. (Proverbs 13:24)
Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of correction shall drive it far from them. (Proverbs 22:15)
Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell. (Proverbs 23:14)
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A Nurse Wants to Go Home and Raise Her Children
A woman just wrote this on my blog:
“I’ve worked as a nurse our entire marriage of nearly 18 years. I’ve hated every minute of it and see so much destruction to our family because of my working. The nursing career field is extremely toxic and as a Christian, I resented ‘taking care of other people’ and spending countless hours toward a sick hospital organization, when I had my own family I longed to take care of. I longed to focus just on them and not constantly have to fight my exhaustion and divided attention. But, financially the idea was never discussed between my husband and me, and it was believed it was impossible in our world. There was a lot of financial fear we didn’t adequately address for various reasons at that time.
“We now have an 11 and 13 year old, and I feel so saddened over so much time that I’ve lost and how the stress has affected my health. I read your post about women falling for the feminist lie, and that’s me. I work full time from home as a nurse now, and our kids are homeschooled but as I learn more about God’s design and commands for men and women, I feel so burdened. I am a homemaker at heart and try my hardest to do that effectively by showing Christ to our kids daily, but it’s extremely difficult to feel effective at any of it, home life and work life alike. I live out the saying ‘jack of all trades, master of none.’
“I see why I’m tired and exhausted and borderline sick now. You may say, ‘Great! Now why are you still working?’ I just don’t know how I can quit my job mainly due to financial debt we’ve gotten ourselves into. It will take us years to dig out. I want to follow the Lord’s command now! But I don’t know how; debt doesn’t disappear quickly. Not the kind of debt we have. We’re working hard towards getting rid of it, but it’s a large burden. I’ve asked the Lord to forgive me of my sins and I know He has, but I feel the repercussions are life long, and I can never quit my job because of it.”
I shared this with women in my Facebook group. Here are some of their responses:
Lydia: “The thing that people don’t realize is that when we stop trying to fix everything ourselves and trust God, He is the only true provider and problem solver. When we are out of his will, of course we will get into trouble and problems that need never have happened, but when we step back onto the best path He has designed, He makes a way! Usually, we just need to get out of the way and let Him get on with sorting the issues. It’s not a prosperity gospel. It’s letting Him guide each step and faithfully trusting Him.”
Judy: “You need to read or watch Dave Ramsey. We never thought that I could stay home, but I did. We dug out, and it was the best thing we ever did! God bless.”
Brooke: “Get out now while your kids are at home. So, it takes longer to pay off debt. Be purposeful in cutting expenses and faithful in paying down what you can on a single income. When your kids move out, go back to work and put your entire earnings toward the debt until you are free. But focus on your kids and family now. God will provide for you, and your family will benefit. Get out of God’s way so He can perform the miracles you need. He gave you those kids to care for. Focus on that job so God can do His.”
Becky: “I commend her for recognizing ALL of this. In my heart, I truly believe IF she has asked the Lord to forgive her and now she is wanting to be obedient to Him and His Word, she needs to 100 percent surrender and TRUST in the Lord with her choice of QUITING her job, being a full time mom, help meet to her husband, and homemaker. ‘
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
Proverbs 3:5-6
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What I Eat in a Day
As some of you know, I have had a bad gut since I was 30. I was loaded with parasites, then had to take many drugs for a few years to try to get rid of them. Even when the parasites were gone, my gut hurt badly from the damage done by the parasites and drugs, and I often had diarrhea. I have tried parasite cleanses, probiotics, drugs, naturopaths, and every thing else I could think of to try and heal. Nothing worked. Then, I got Covid and had terrible diarrhea daily and couldn’t digest food. I couldn’t even eat a yam without it coming back up into my mouth. It was bad!
Then, I discovered a healing diet which I began a year ago this past February. I immediately had no diarrhea! I have written about this in previous posts, and women have asked me if I would share what I ate so I decided to do that!
Soon after I wake up, I have a mug full of my healing broth. I add a teaspoon of coconut oil to it and more salt. (Recipe in link above.)
I make a huge pot of this soup once a week and store it in quart jars. I put two of them in the freezer until I need them.
An hour or so later, I have a mug of my protein shake. I make enough for two mugs; one for the morning and one a few hours later. I sometimes mix the protein powders shown in the pictures below. I use 3/4 cups of coconut milk that I buy from Thrive Market. I use 1 to 2 scoops of the protein powders, and 2 cups of frozen organic blueberries from Costco. (I buy the Pure Paleo on Fullscript. My daughter has an account that let’s me do this. It’s far cheaper there. I buy the other one on Amazon.)
About 1:30 pm or so, I have lunch. I have one of these three lunches every day. I have just found that this diet and schedule works best for me and keeps the pain from inflammation away.
Frozen wild caught salmon from Costco, mushrooms, and avocado. I cook everything in ghee.
Steak with mushrooms and avocado. Often, I will eat a whole avocado.
Scrambled eggs with avocado and mushrooms.
Around 4:30 or so, I have another mug full of the healing soup. I don’t eat anything else that day.
I have determined that the best way to find healing is through diet, not drugs, vitamins, treatments, or anything else. In some cases, we need these things but true healing for me and many others that I know personally have found healing from all types of diseases, skin conditions, and ailments through this diet. It’s sure worth a try. I have managed to keep my weight stable. I did need to add more calories at one point. If I’m hungry between meals, I eat a hard boiled egg.
I recommend you buy this book. It will give you specifics of what to eat for your infirmity. In most cases, you can eat a lot more than me but since my gut has been inflamed for many years, it will take a long time to heal. Even once it feels completely healed, I need to stick to this diet for a while before trying new things. I have tried new things recently, and it didn’t go well. Feel free to ask me any questions in the comment section!
Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth.
3 John 1:2
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Women Are Not Permitted By God To Hold Political Office And Rule Over Men In The Political Sphere
Should Women Hold Public Office?
Written By Pastor William Einwechter, Original Print Date Likely in the 1990s.
William O. Einwechter is a teaching elder at Immanuel Free Reformed Church. He is a graduate of Washington Bible College (B.A.) and Capital Bible Seminary (Th.M.) and was ordained to the Gospel Ministry in 1982. He is the vice president of the National Reform Association and editor of the periodical “The Christian Statesman.” He is the author of “Ethics and God’s Law” and “English Bible Translations: By What Standard?” and editor of the book “Explicitly Christian Politics.” His writings have appeared in “The Christian Statesman,” “Chalcedon Report,” and “Patriarch.” He and his wife Linda are the parents of 10 children.
With more and more women entering the political sphere and running for political office, the conscientious, biblically oriented Christian is confronted with the question of whether or not he should give his support and vote for a woman. This question becomes more pressing for many when the “best candidate,” i.e., the most conservative, pro-life candidate in a particular race is a woman.
A number of years ago, we in Pennsylvania were confronted with this issue when an articulate, pro-life, politically conservative woman (who was also a wife and mother) ran for governor of our state. Many Christians enthusiastically supported her. But not all of us were confident that this was the right or consistent thing to do. The following essay grew out of the concern over her candidacy, and seeks to address the larger questions of the acceptability of women magistrates and the Christian’s responsibility before God in regard to supporting a woman for political office.
In approaching this matter, we need to first understand that these questions can only be answered from Scripture. Mere human opinion or reason is not sufficient for the Christian. The Word of God is the only infallible, authoritative standard for directing us into the paths of righteousness. Only the Bible has the power to equip us for every good work (2 Tim. 3:15-17). The duty of every true follower of Jesus Christ is to obey His commandments (John 14:15), and, in fact, the sign that we are really His disciples is that we continue in obedience to His Word (John 8:31; 1 John 2:3-5). So then, if we are to be faithful to Christ, we must search the Scriptures to see what the Lord says in regards to the issue of women civil rulers, and whether it is permissible for Christians to support a woman for the office of civil magistrate.
Second, we should recognize that the issue here is not the character or ability of the woman seeking the office; nor is it her spiritual condition, her views on the issues, or even if she is the “best” available candidate. The point in question is this: does the Word of God give us the liberty to place a woman into a political office where she will in some sense bear rule over us in the civil sphere? Or, to state it more precisely: is it biblically proper for a woman to hold political office, and thus rule over men? Has God ordained women to be civil leaders, or has He reserved this authority for men only?
I believe that the Bible gives a definitive answer to this question: women are not permitted by God to hold political office and rule over men in the political sphere. There are four lines of evidence in the Bible that establish that women are not to hold political office. I will first set forth the biblical evidence that prohibits a woman from bearing rule, and, then, I will deal with the example of Deborah that is often cited as proof that it is permissible for a woman to hold public office.
The Biblical Doctrine of the Headship of Man Disqualifies a Woman for Civil Office.
The scriptural revelation of the creation of man and woman, and the scriptural commentary on their creation establishes the headship of the man over the woman. The text of Genesis 2:7 and 2:18-24 teaches us that man was made first, and then the woman was made to be man’s helper and companion. The Bible instructs us that this order of creation was by God’s design, and that it establishes the positional priority of the man over the woman in regards to authority and leadership. In setting forth the authority of the man over the woman in the context of the local church, Paul appeals to the creation order saying, “For Adam was formed first, then Eve” (1 Tim. 2:13).
In another passage, Paul states the divinely ordained order of authority and headship: “But I would have you to know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God” (1 Cor. 11:3). Therefore, the Apostle Paul teaches that God has decreed that the order of authority be as follows: God-Christ-Man-Woman. Each one in this “chain of command” is under the headship (i.e., authority) of the one preceding him or her. Later on in this same text, Paul, as in 1 Timothy 2, calls upon the order of creation to show man’s headship over the woman.
He says, “For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man” (1 Cor. 11:8-9). The Bible explicitly states that the man has headship over the woman, and that this headship is not based on cultural factors, or even the fall; rather, it is based on the created order established by God Himself.
Now it is also plain in the Bible that God has ordained that the order of the headship of man must be maintained in each governing institution set up by God. There are three primary institutions established by the Lord for the ordering of human affairs. These are the family, the church, and the state. Each of these institutions has authority to govern within its appointed sphere.
We could say, then, that there are three “governments” in the world: family government, church government, and state government. In each of these governments, God has commanded that men bear rule. The man has headship in the family (Eph. 5:22-24), the church (1 Tim. 2:11-14; 1 Cor. 14:34-35), and also by implication and command, in the state as well (1 Cor. 11:3; Ex. 18:21; see point 2 below).
Could it be that the man has headship only in the family and the church but not in the state? No, this could not be, lest you make God the author of confusion, and have Him violate in the state the very order He established at creation and has revealed in Holy Scripture! If one is going to argue for the acceptability of women bearing rule in the civil sphere, then to be consistent, he or she also needs to argue for the acceptability of women bearing rule in the family and the church.
Now it is true that some attempt to do just that; but their denial of male headship for the family, church, and state is really a rejection of the Word of God and is a repudiation of God’s created order. And it is not sufficient to contend that it is acceptable to support a woman for civil ruler when she is the best candidate, unless you are also prepared to argue that it is acceptable to advocate a woman for the office of elder because she is better suited than the available men in the church; and unless you are also prepared to say that the wife should rule over her husband if she is better equipped to lead than her husband is.
The Biblical Qualifications for Civil Office Require Civil Leaders to Be Men.
Every time the Scripture speaks to the subject of the necessary qualifications for those who will bear rule in the civil sphere, it always speaks in terms of men and never in terms of women. This is significant, and based on point number 1 above, it is not hard to understand. The consistent assumption of Scripture is that men are to be the civil magistrates; and, as we have seen, this is not based on culture but upon the created order.
Since God is both Creator and Lawgiver there is never any contradiction between the created order and the law of God. And as creation establishes the headship of man in the civil sphere by means of man being created first and the woman being created for man, so the law of God sets the headship of man in the civil sphere by means of the stated qualifications for civil rulers.
God set forth the essential qualifications for civil magistrates for all people and for all time when He spoke through Jethro to Moses: “Moreover, thou shalt provide out of all the people able men, such as fear God, men of truth, hating covetousness; and place such over them, to be rulers…” (Ex. 18:21; emphasis added). And Moses himself said to the people as they were about to choose their civil magistrates, “Take you wise men, and understanding, and known among your tribes, and I will make them rulers over you” (Deut. 1:13; emphasis added). Importantly, the word for “men” chosen by the Holy Spirit in both of these texts is the Hebrew, gender specific word for a man, i.e., a male as opposed to a female.
Furthermore, the directions that God gives concerning the establishment of a king in Israel requires that a man, and not a woman, be chosen (Deut. 17:14-20). The king was to be a “brother,” and he was not to “multiply wives to himself.” Clearly, a man is in view here. The law of God commands us, therefore, to choose men to be our rulers! Likewise, in every other passage of Scripture dealing with the civil magistrate and his qualifications and duties, men are in view (2 Sam. 23:3; Neh. 7:2; Prov. 16:10; 20:8, 28; 29:14; 31:4-5; Rom. 13:1-6; etc.).
Therefore, the standard of God’s law that men be our civil rulers upholds the order of creation. God has spoken to us in His Word, and there He commands us to set men, not women, into positions of civil authority. To consider these texts (Ex. 18:21; Deut. 1:13; 17:14-20) irrelevant in regards to what they say about setting men in civil office, would logically require us to consider the other qualifications listed as being of no account as well. The rejection of these Scriptures would leave us with no biblical standard for citizens in choosing their rulers. This may suit some, but for those who are the disciples of Jesus Christ and love the law of God, such a position is abhorrent.
The Biblical Picture of a Virtuous Woman Is Against a Woman Holding Civil Office.
In Proverbs 31:10-31, we are given the biblical picture of a woman who fears God and walks in His ways. The passage begins with a question: “Who can find a virtuous woman?” The question implies that such a woman is rare and precious, just like rubies. The description of the virtuous woman shows her to be an industrious, loving woman who devotes herself to the well-being of her husband and children. The center of her interest and the place of her ministry are in her home. God has called her to be “a keeper at home” (Titus 2:5), and she willingly and joyfully fulfills her calling to the great blessing of all who depend on her piety, wisdom, and homemaking skills.
Of great importance to the issue before us in this essay, are these words concerning her husband: “Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land” (Prov. 31:23). The “gates” in Old Testament times referred to the place where the leaders of the city (i.e., “the elders of the land”) would gather to discuss community affairs, administer civil law, and judge in criminal and civil cases. The “gates,” therefore, is a reference to the “city hall,” the “capital building,” the “courthouse” or, in short, to the seat of civil government.
The key for us is to note that, in the case of the virtuous woman, it is her husband who is active in the gates; the virtuous woman is not herself seated in the gates — she is active in her home. This should not surprise us, for the order of creation and the law of God establish the fact that men are to bear rule in civil government. The virtuous woman understands this, and takes the vital place that God has assigned her in the home and with her family; she does not try to intrude herself into a seat in the gates.
However, we need to note that the virtuous woman’s works are to praised in the gates (Prov. 31:31). Her works are not in the gates, but they are to be praised in the gates; that is, those who are leaders in the community ought to recognize the great work that she is doing in support of the community by faithfully fulfilling her duties as a wife and mother (1 Tim. 2:15; 5:10, 14; Titus 2:3-5). This is her glorious work for the Lord and His kingdom. It is of the utmost importance!
Furthermore, it should be recognized that the virtuous woman does make her presence felt in community concerns. But it is through the influence that she has on her husband (and mature sons) that her wisdom and knowledge will help to direct the affairs of the community. Yes, it is her husband who sits in the gates, but his renown and ability as a civil leader is due, at least in part (if not largely), to her help and support. Yes, it is the husband who speaks and judges in the gates, but it is his wise and godly wife who is his chief counselor.
Let no one speak lightly or disparagingly of the woman’s appointed role and her service to Christ and His kingdom! And let no woman set aside the example of the virtuous woman and seek to sit in the gates with the rulers of the land. And let no Christian have any part in putting her there.
The Biblical Lament that “Women Rule over Them” Confirms the Error of a Woman Holding Civil Office.
In Isaiah 3:12, the prophet, as the representative of the Lord, laments the condition of the covenant nation saying: “As for my people, children are their oppressors, and women rule over them…” There is some debate as to the precise meaning of this verse. Some would contend that actual children and women were ruling, while others hold that this verse is teaching that those who were in authority were completely unqualified for such a position — as unqualified as women and children.
Whatever the exact connotations of this text are, one thing is clear: women ruling over men in the civil sphere is put in a very unfavorable light. The fact that Israel had women reigning over them is seen to be the result of sin and a part of God’s retributive justice; it is certainly not considered a blessing in this text! I believe that the most likely interpretation is that Israel had weak and incompetent leaders (cf. Isa. 3:4; Ecc. 10:16) who are being controlled by women.
Now if it is a sign of weakness for men who are civil rulers to be ruled by women, what is it but a sign of feebleness on the part of men to actually seek to have women rule over them? It is weakness and a sin because it is an abdication of their responsibility to be the leaders God has called them to be. No people ought to rejoice in women rulers for it is a sign of confusion and judgment. It is a sign that men have utterly failed to exercise the leadership required of them.
The Biblical Account of Deborah Does Not Imply that Women Should Hold Civil Office.
Those who believe that it is biblically permissible for women to hold civil office look to the account of Deborah (Judg. 4:1-5:31) for their main support. They must hope for support of their view in this account because there is no explicit teaching anywhere in the Bible that establishes the position that women should bear rule in the civil sphere. But does the account of Deborah in the book of Judges support their view? I believe that it does not, and I will seek to show that the example of Deborah is not of sufficient weight to overthrow the four-fold cord of evidence that has been weaved above.
First, in regard to the account of Deborah, recognize that it would be unwise to cancel out the explicit biblical teaching on the headship of man, the clear statements of the law, the picture of the virtuous woman, and the lament over women ruling on the basis of what took place in Israel in one of the most confused periods in Israel’s history. We should remember the important admonition of the Westminster Confession of Faith: “The infallible rule of interpretation of Scripture is the Scripture itself: and therefore, when there is a question about the true and full sense of any Scripture (which is not manifold, but one), it must be searched and known by other places that speak more clearly.”
We contend that the biblical teaching presented above speaks far more clearly to the issue of women magistrates than does the account of Deborah. It is a serious mistake of hermeneutics to use the story of Deborah to overthrow the positive precepts and principles of other Scriptures, and to establish it as the standard biblical text for determining the propriety of women rulers.
Second, the judges during this period were more military leaders or “avenging deliverers” than they were civil magistrates (cf. Judg. 2:16-19). Because of this fact, we must ask ourselves if we can even consider Deborah to be a “judge” in the same sense as the other judges in the book. The account of Deborah is unique in that she did not lead Israel into battle herself (as did the other judges in the book), but, rather, the Lord choose Barak to be the military commander. Would it not be more accurate to say that Barak was the true “judge” here (cf. Heb. 11:32 where Barak alone is mentioned), and that Deborah’s role was that of a “prophetess” who gave divine guidance to Israel?
Third, the Song of Deborah and Barak gives some important insight into Deborah’s actual position in Israel (Judg. 5:1-31). In verse 7, she claims to be a “mother” in Israel, not a father. This is significant, given the headship of the father in Israel, and it is in line with our suggestion that her role was one of support and guidance to the leaders of Israel as a prophetess. Additionally, verse 9 indicates that there were yet “governors” (literally, lawgivers, or leaders) in Israel. This would refer to the elders of the people and the rulers of the tribes.
This further supports the idea that the judge was not a civil magistrate in the usual sense, but rather a military leader and deliverer — Deborah was neither a “judge” nor a magistrate. Also, in verse 12 of the song, Deborah is exhorted to awake and sing, but Barak is exhorted to arise and “lead,” indicating that Barak is the military leader. Additionally, the “dominion over the mighty” in verse 13 is either a reference to Israel’s victory over Sisera and the Canaanites, or to the gathering of the people to go up to battle; whichever, it does not mean that God has appointed Deborah to the position of civil magistrate.
There is no question that Deborah was a great and godly woman who had considerable influence in Israel. But in the light of the evidence it is highly questionable to build a doctrine of women rulers from the case of Deborah. Deborah’s role in Israel was that of a “prophetess,” but not that of a civil ruler or military leader. The text does not support the idea that she was a civil magistrate. She “judged” Israel (Judg. 4:4) only in the sense that she was sought out by the people for advice and judgment in the settlement of disputes because of her wisdom from God. Apparently the priests and Levites were so corrupt that the people had to seek wisdom and judgment from this godly woman. But let us not seek in Deborah a doctrine of women rulers, and thereby become guilty of setting aside the definite precepts and commandments of God which forbid women magistrates.
Conclusion
In view of the biblical evidence presented above, it can be concluded that women ought not to be civil leaders; only men have been called of God to exercise rule in the civil sphere. For those who believe in the full inspiration and authority of the Bible, how can there be any other verdict than this? To assert that God’s Word permits a woman to hold civil office and that Christians have the liberty to support a woman for the position of civil magistrate means that one has to deny the biblical teaching on the headship of man, reject the qualifications for civil rulers set down in the law of God, ignore the biblical picture of the virtuous woman, and close his or her ears to the biblical lament of women ruling over men.
The example of Deborah does not give sufficient evidence to prove that she held the office of civil ruler or to overturn the biblical doctrine that men alone are called of God to the office of civil magistrate. Therefore, Christians should not support a woman for the office of civil magistrate. It is imperative that Christians labor to restore God’s order for the family, the church, and the state. If we violate God’s order in any way or in any sphere, we will have confusion and will invite God’s judgment on us. God forbid that we would ever be so foolish.
As for my people, children are their oppressors, and women rule over them. O my people, they which lead thee cause thee to err, and destroy the way of thy paths.
Isaiah 3:12
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Women Don’t Need Women’s Bible Study
Written By Lindsay Harold on Facebook
Women don’t need “women’s Bible study.” They need Bible study, just like all believers do. Women need doctrine. Women need exhortation. Women need correction. They need these things from the qualified male elders of their church, not emotional fluff marketed to women and taught by another woman.
Women are not a special and different kind of Christian than men. They don’t need their own parallel church just for women. There’s no different set of doctrines for women. There’s no easier, more emotional gospel for women. Women need the same rigorous teaching of God’s word that everyone else needs.
Women do need to be taught the practical matters of loving their husbands, loving their children, being chaste, discreet, and good, and keeping a home. These things they can and should learn from older Christian women. This is not what “women’s Bible study” generally teaches. If that’s what it taught, that would be great. However, these things are best taught one-on-one from a godly older mentor rather than in a class.
What too often happens is that “women’s Bible study” becomes a way for women to avoid the accountability and rigorous teaching of the church elders and set up a women’s church within the church, with what amounts to female elders teaching them scripture. This is not God’s prescription for the church and, not surprisingly, it bears bad fruit.
This is a true saying, if a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work. A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach…
1 Timothy 3:1,2
My Videos on Created to Be His Help Meet
This post is for those who don’t follow me on social media to let you know that I am presently going through “Created to Be His Help Meet” on my YouTube channel if you’re interested.
The link is HERE
I thought since this is my favorite marriage book, it was time to do this! Enjoy!
Love, Lori
Living a Beautiful Life
This was written by Bethsaida Hernandez Figueroa as a comment from the above post on Facebook.
I am a mom of 12 children, and we live on my husband’s income. We receive no government intervention whatsoever. These are the things that work for us:
1. Trusting in God
2. Giving to God first
3. Using Proverbs 31 as a manual for myself, and teaching it to my 6 daughters.
4. I homeschool my children so they get quality, loving education full of biblical truth.
5. We surround ourselves with spirituality-like people, so my children don’t crave what others have.
6. Simplicity. This world is not our home, and we are only here temporarily.
7. While my children do have toys and the teens have typical teenage items, we gift with memory making events. This cheaper and far more meaningful.
8. We cook from scratch. This keeps us healthy, and it’s also cheaper.
9. We garden.
10. My girls are taught to sew and enjoy the beauty in their own creations.
11. My six boys are taught extremely early on “trades” so we don’t pay people outside our home unless we absolutely have to do things around our home.
12. Part of my children’s homeschooling is starting their own business with their interest and talent. They are taught to give to the Lord, contribute to our home, save, and bless others.
13. We do not hide finances from our children. Monthly, my girls will meal plan, shop, and prep with me according to our budget. While our boys sit with my husband and visually watch him administer our homes finances, give to the Lord, pay all the bills, save, bless others, and discuss how to make things better. We make them aware of what it costs to live. They are financially mindful.
She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Proverbs 31:27
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Healing Disease on an Anti-Inflammatory Diet
A year ago, I began an anti-inflammatory diet to heal my battered gut. I have suffered from a bad gut since I was 30 years old. I was diagnosed with multiple parasites and was put on many, toxic drugs. I’ve had a bad gut since then, and Covid made it worse. I couldn’t digest food, not even a yam. A friend of mine has a daughter who was 12 at the time. She was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease. She had 12 bloody stools a day. Doctors say it’s incurable.
I remember reading that Jordin Rubin cured his Crohn’s, so I researched what he did. This post explains it all. I began the diet to see if it would help my gut. I have suffered from diarrhea since I was 30. As soon as I began this diet, I haven’t had diarrhea once! The intense pain in my gut began to settle down after the fourth month mark. In just the past few weeks, I have added some more foods to my diet. My gut is FAR better!
The mother of the 12 year old girl texted me the other day and told me her colonoscopy shows no inflammation in her colon! We praised the Lord! She went from 12 bloody stools a day to zero. She’s gained weight and looks great! She’s enjoying life again.
My brother-in-law had arthritis in his back. He went on the Keto diet which is anti-inflammatory, and his pain went away.
My good friend was suffering from numbness and tingling in her hands and feet. She went through a year of medical testing, and they couldn’t find the cause. She went on Keto and all of her symptoms, along with the arthritis pain in her hands, went away.
A young man I know always had aches and pains. He felt like an old man. He is a great athlete but could only play a sport for a short time due to the pain. He went on an anti-inflammatory diet and now feels great!
Debi Pearl’s son-in-law was diagnosed with a horrible cancer. He went to “Hope For Cancer” in Mexico. Along with many other treatments, he lived on an anti-inflammatory diet. His cancer is gone! This diet is great for preventing cancer too.
The book I recommend you reading is Restoring Your Digestive Health by Jordan Rubin and watching the video in the post I linked above. Almost all disease is from inflammation in the diet. Health begins and ends in the gut. You must heal your gut if you want to heal your disease. If you have any skin problems, I encourage you to try it for a month. All skin issues come from a bad gut too.
What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?
1 Corinthians 6:19
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