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Home Workers Not Career Workers

Home Workers Not Career Workers

Written By Nancy Campbell

Many women don’t like this phrase. Even Christian mothers. And yet it’s in the Bible! Isn’t that amazing? However, I think it comes down to the fact that we either believe the Bible or we don’t. If we believe the Bible we must receive every word as the living, breathing Word of God. It is an eternal Word. It is as up-to-date as tomorrow’s newspaper!

Therefore, if you believe the Bible, would you like to come with me on a little word study? Let’s look into this phrase and see what it really means, shall we?

The phrase “keepers at home” in Titus 2:5 is translated from two different earlier manuscripts.

The first Greek word is oikourogo, coming from two words:
“oikos” meaning “home” and “ergon” meaning “to work.”
The word literally means HOME-WORKERS!

I am a great believer in working mothers. However, we must know the place where God wants us to work. It’s in the home. It says “home-workers,” not “career workers.”

The home is not a prison to lock us away from all the wonderful things we could do in this life. The home is where we CAN DO all the wonderful things that will bless our own lives, the lives of our family, and many others.

The home is a place of function and action. It’s a place of nurturing where we have the privilege of nurturing and teaching the children God gives to us. It is also a place of creativity where we can accomplish all the creative ideas God brings to our minds. It’s the most exciting place in the world. We make our own hours and are free to create. We are not bound to an employer (submitted to another man rather than our husband).

That’s why we are workers in the home. We are not lazing around, but working. As we work, ideas come to us to do things in a better way. God gives us anointed ways to teach and minister to our children. Solutions come to us to solve problems in our family life. Inspiration comes to our hearts about hospitality and how we can reach out to the lonely, hurting, and those who need encouragement.

When you lift your eyes from focusing on the so-called “mundane” which must be accomplished each day and instead open your mind and heart to God, you’ll never have another boring moment in your life. And you’ll never have time to be lazy. You’ll be working hard and loving it.

Why do I used the words “so-called mundane”? Because if Jesus Christ, the Creator of the universe dwells in you, everything you do is sacred—whether it’s a huge project or the daily tasks of laundry, dishes, or cleaning up baby poo! Everything you do pulsates with the power of God and counts for eternity.

Why not decide to be the greatest homeworker in your city? Wow, can you imagine what miracles will happen?

Love from Nancy Campbell

This is the first comment she received after she wrote this: “My Mother-in-law was a schoolteacher, and the most faithful Christian I know. Life doesn’t lay itself out perfectly and neatly so that every woman has the leisure to remain at home without providing any monetary contribution to the family.”

How did Nancy respond (since I receive these types of comments as well. “How can that be when so-and-so works outside of the home and she’s the most amazing woman I know!”) “May be it reveals whether we revere God’s Word or not. Often our way seems far better and even more wise, but how can we go against God’s Word?”

My question to this woman would be, “Were your mother’s-in-law students more important than her own children?” Women who had mothers who were teachers and nurses have told me that they longed for their mothers to be home full time. They felt their mothers gave all of the energy to their students and patients instead of them. The best and only job for a mother is at home with her children.

 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:5

Does Your Home Look Loved?

Does Your Home Look Loved?

There’s an old home we walk past every day. It is not in good shape. The yard isn’t either and the whole placed appears completely unloved. A few weeks ago, there were a lot of trucks in the driveway. After a week or so, it was empty and I told Ken I thought that they had probably been evicted from the way they left it.

One day, we walked by and the garage door was left open so while Ken went to close it, I peered into the windows. There was no carpet on the cement floor in the living room and it was dirty and ugly. We finally met the man who owned this home and he said his mother used to live there but it was a rental now and the renters had destroyed it. He said there was an inch of mold in the refrigerator, they stole some of the carpet, and left the home a wreck. He told us that they were drug and alcohol addicts. Sin and Satan does this. They make things ugly and ruined. 

God makes things beautiful and orderly. He makes us into new creatures and clothes us with white robes of righteousness. It’s our responsibility, women, to make our homes places of beauty and order. We are called to be “industrious in our homes.” If we work hard in our homes, as we are called to do, we will have clean and tidy homes. Yes, children will mess it up but for the most part, it will be a place of beauty and order no matter how little money we have. I have been in large, expensive homes that were filthy so money isn’t the issue.

I have a cousin whose parents owned a very old, small trailer. (Yes, this is what they called it.) Once her parents died, she took it over and clean and decluttered that place to make it look great! I even peeked into the drawers once and they were all neat and organized. With some elbow grease and hard work, she transformed that trailer into a pretty place. She always had flowers out in front and food for the birds.

We won’t like our homes or being in them if they are dirty and messy. They will never be beautiful if we aren’t willing to work hard to make them this way for our family. It just takes a willingness to work. We are the queens in our home and it’s up to us to make them places where our families want to be. Work on creating a home that you love!

Make sure you make your bed every morning and train your children to do the same. Fluff up the pillows and make your covers as wrinkle free as possible. Take time to do it right! Make sure all of your clothes are put away and everything is off of the floor. I hang all of my shirts since this is easier than storing them in drawers. Neatly arrange things on your dressers and remember that the fewer things you have on them, the easier they are to keep clean and tidy.

Keep up with the work in the kitchen before it gets overwhelming. Learn to clean as you go. Put a bowl of ammonia in the oven at night, close the door, and let it sit in there all night with the racks and any thing made of metal that has hard stuff caked on it. In the morning, it will all come off easily. Just make sure you open the windows and have fresh air when cleaning around ammonia. Wipe off your stove top often so food doesn’t become hardened on it.

Use Bar Keepers Friend on your sinks to keep them shiny and clean. I use a Norwex kitchen cloth to keep my counters clean and the Norwex window cloth to keep the windows clean. Wipe out the frig whenever you see something that needs to be cleaned. Put the dishes in the dishwasher soon after using if you have one. The kitchen floor needs to be swept almost daily in my experience. None of this takes long at all but is so worth having clean kitchen.

In the bathrooms, make sure the sinks are continually wiped out and clean. Teach your children to clean up after themselves. I visited a friend years ago and she had two teenage daughters. I had to use the restroom and there were globs of toothpaste still in the sink and stuff strewn all over the counters. The mirror was splattered and the toilet was dirty. No, this should not be. We should never be embarrassed to have a visitor use any of our bathrooms. Toilets need to be cleaned often and the floor in front of them, especially if you have boys.

In your living and/or family room, make sure the furniture is dusted, the picture frames aren’t crooked, and everything is off the floor when you go to bed since most children love to play in the room closest to the kitchen where mother usually is working. Learn to feather your nest each night! Keep all of their toys in one basket and make sure they help pick them up. The earlier you teach them to work, the easier it will be for them when they get older.

Plant some flowers in your yard and use them to decorate your home in the warmer months. Fresh flowers always add beauty to any home! You can also plant some fresh herbs to spice up your meals and make your food more nutritious and tasty.

If you’re creative and have the time, paint pictures for your home, sew pillows and curtains, frame your windows with hardwood (I did this years ago for very little money!), paint the walls, and rearrange the decorations. Look around your home and figure out ways to make it more beautiful and orderly. Sometimes it helps to have a friend who has a good eye for organization and decorating to come and help you figure out new ideas and solutions.

Be constantly searching for new ways to be more efficient in your home and learn to love serving your family with joy! Make sure all those who live in your home and visit can see that you have a well-loved home, and as the queen of your home this is your job.

Thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house: thy children like olive plants round about thy table.
Psalm 128:3

Can Working Mothers Be Keepers AT Home?

Can Working Mothers Be Keepers AT Home?

Women try to convince me that just because they work outside of the home, it doesn’t mean they aren’t keepers at home. I am not sure how you can be at home if you aren’t home! It’s a recent phenomenon to have so many women who are not homemakers anymore and many more who are out in the workforce.

When God instructs women to be keepers at home and guide the home, it was to prevent them from running from house to house and being gossips and wasting their time away from home as Ellicott’s Commentary puts it: “Home duties, cares, pleasures, sacrifices of self—these God-appointed duties ought to fill the mind and the heart of the young wife. There should be no desire, no attempt, to go round to the other houses, and so contracting idle, gossiping habits.” So does this mean that keepers at home can have jobs outside of the home if they aren’t idle and gossiping?

In searching all of the commentaries of old not one of them mentions a woman having a career outside of the home. Yes, some mention doing something concerning their religion but not allowing it to interfere with their home duties which include disciplining and training children, being a help meet to their husbands, and doing all that pertains to homemaking and caring for the family.

Jamieson-Faussett Commentary: “keepers at home—as ‘guardians of the house,’ as the Greek expresses. The oldest manuscripts read, ‘Workers at home’: active in household duties.” How can a woman guard the home from all of the evil influences if she isn’t there all of the time? Someone needs to be taking good care of the children and that someone needs to be the mother; for no one replaces a mother in a child’s life.

Matthew Poole’s Commentary: “house-wives, not spending their time in gadding abroad, but in looking to the affairs of their own families.” I venture to add that not “gadding abroad” would include not having jobs or careers outside of the home since these take the women away from where that are supposed to be.

Gill’s Exposition: “a woman may go to her father’s house to visit him, and to the house of mourning, and to the house of feasting, to return a kindness to her friends, or to her near relations–but it is a reproach to a woman to go out daily; now she is without, now she is in the streets; and a husband ought to restrain his wife from it, and not suffer her to go abroad but about once a month, or twice a month, upon necessity; for there is nothing more beautiful for a woman, than to abide in the corner of her house; for so it is written, (Psalm 45:13) ‘the king’s daughter is all glorious within’.”

“It is a reproach to a woman to go out daily.” As one woman said, “Ask her secrets for doing two full-time jobs, plus taking care of herself and not stressing out, and keeping a sweet temper and playing with/reading with her kids. If she’s honest, she’ll tell you that at least one of those things doesn’t happen.”

I was a full-time teacher for the first two years of my oldest daughter’s life and I can tell you that I wasn’t a help meet to my husband, a good mother to my children, nor a good teacher. I was spread way too thin and exhausted all of the time. There I was teaching other children and away from all the responsibilities the Lord had given me. It was a terrible time in my life. Even when I substituted a couple of days a week years later, I neglected my children at home and home duties to do something that I was not called to do.

“Mothers who work at home usually find it a more absorbing pleasure than ‘going about from house to house” (1 Timothy 5:13).” (Expositor’s Greek Commentary). Yes, when mothers understand that their place is in the home and not running here and there but finding contentment at home, they learn to enjoy it and children thrive in a secure and predictable environment in a home with their mother.

“But οἰκουρός, which is probably the true reading (Huther), is common in good classical Greek for ‘stayers at home.'” (Pulpit Commentary). It can’t be any clearer than this; we are called to be stayers at home! It’s God’s perfect will for you, women. No, you don’t have to be involved in a lot of church activities or other things that take you away from what the Lord wants you to be. Home is where it’s AT for you!

She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Proverbs 31:27

How to Afford Staying Home and What If the Wife is Better Educated?

How to Afford Staying Home and What If the Wife is Better Educated?

Whenever I teach that women are called to be keepers at home, without fail I have women asking me how they are supposed to afford it. I wrote this on my Facebook page last week about this topic:

When I teach that women are to be the ones to work hard at home and be keepers at home, I teach what God calls women to do; looking well to the ways of their household and not eating the bread of idleness. My mom never expected my dad to do housework. He was away from home twelve hours a day five days a week and when he was home, she wanted him to rest and he did.

Working outside in the world is a whole lot harder than working in the home if the children are disciplined and trained. My four children were in bed for two hours a day for naps so I could rest. If I was sick, my children played on the floor around me when they were young.

Many men are working many hours a week and some even must work more than one job in order to pay the bills. They deserve to come home to a hot meal, clean home, and be able to rest. As our children get older, it even gets easier for us who are at home, especially if we’ve trained the children to help. Once they are grown, it’s even easier, yet men have to still work long hours every week trying to make money.

With a bit of organizing, decluttering, not running around a lot, and living on a simplified schedule, life at home as a homemaker can be mostly pleasant and enjoyable. Yes, it’s hard work but hard work is what we were created to do.

Suzanne was the first one to ask this question: “What about families that can’t afford to have a stay at home parent?”

Then some wise women quickly answered her:

Sheila: My fiance makes $24,000 a year – I stay home… I find that if it’s important, you make it work. (Not sure if she lives with her fiance but unfortunately, this is becoming way too common today, even among Christians. No, we shouldn’t be living with any man until we are married.)

Suzanne: Wow, that is a tight budget! I don’t even know where to begin on cutting costs like that.

Misty: Last year we grossed $9000 all year!! I stay at home because we agree we don’t want to pay someone else to raise our children… it’s all about what you can live with out to reap the benefits of being home with your children…

Debbie: We’ve made it almost 27 years on one income at a very average wage and four children! Sacrifices made are worth it.

Angel: We knew it would be hard for us, but we did it because it was important to us. I’ve worked here and there but in the end, home is where I meant to be. My husband has always wanted me home. When I work, we see it more that I need to be here. Eat at home, turn off cable, lower your cell phone bills, do stuff for free, find free things to furnish and decorate your home. Don’t buy movies or books–borrow from the library and friends. The list goes on and on. Pray about it more. God will direct you and He will make you and your husband agree.

Debbie: No cable, lower cell phone costs, make personal products and meals at home instead of buying, no new vehicles (repair what we have), no mall (yard sales, Goodwill), no manicures out (do it myself), cut back on eating out, no movies out (we still have fun), no keeping up with the Jones.

Then this question was asked by Venus: “How about if the woman is the main bread winner with a college degree and the husband has no college degree and makes a lot less money?”

Jessica: When I began my stay at home season, my husband was only working part-time. God was in it and we even managed to buy our first home on that single income. He eventually went full time but we also added four children to our family. His vehicle is 30 years old and mine is 15+ years old and we do our best to live within our means. When it is a priority and important, it is possible with God’s provision.

Debbie: Venus, I just read a testimony about a woman with a PhD leaving the workplace and coming home. She said she has no regrets at all.

Laura: Yeah, my husband is a carpet cleaner. We make about 30k a year. We do not collect any form of welfare and we have five sons. They lack nothing. So it can be done. Just takes creative finesse. And I am a certified cosmetologist with college experience and my husband is not certified with no college. But seriously God is always faithful and provides!!! Luke 12:22-34!!❤❤❤

Rebecca: My husband has no college education. For at least 20 years he made less than $18000 a year. We we’re content and happy. We did without a lot. We prayed for what we needed. We paid $3000 for our 15 passenger van that we prayed for. We’ve been driving it for five years with very few problems. There’s ten in our family. When there was only eight we lived in a single wide trailer for five years. We grew most of our food for years. God has blessed us mightily!

Sasha: I have three college degrees, my husband has none. We have nine children. It works. God provided. What I need help with is burnout… Finding my joy in the home again.

Me: Sasha, keep saying to yourself that the joy of the Lord is your strength and a cheerful heart does with good like medicine. We are transformed by renewing our minds with the truth.

Venus: I’m not asking about myself. I have enjoyed being a stay at home mom to two children who are now 30 and 33. I am still married to their father for 36 years and I am still at home while he works, and I help out with my grandchildren. What better job could I have but this God-given job? Praise the Lord.

Rebecca: Women at home can be more frugal and creative with what they have.

But godliness with contentment is great gain.
1 Timothy 6:6

Mothers are to Be Keepers at Home, Not Fathers

Mothers are to Be Keepers at Home, Not Fathers

Nancy Campbell is one of my favorite godly, older woman. She hasn’t compromised on the truth of God’s Word and I appreciate this about her since I see so many other women compromising on what they used to teach that was biblically sound to fit into our culture and not offend women. Our goal in life shouldn’t be to not offend others. We are commanded to speak the truth in love and may we never veer away from this high and holy path no matter who it offends or how many “followers” you lose.

Nancy was asked about stay-at-home-dads and her reply was biblically accurate and exactly how I have replied to women who have asked me. This is how she responded.

This is becoming more accepted in our humanistic society. However, it is the opposite to God’s plan for men and women. God created the woman to be the nurturer, nourisher, and nest builder of the home. He created the man to be the provider, protector, and priest of the home.

When a mother, to whom God has graciously and miraculously given children, leaves her children in a daycare, or even with their father, to pursue a full-time career out of the home, she denies who God created her to be. When a father refrains from taking up his responsibility to provide for the home, he denies who he is as a man!

The only way you can accept this state of affairs is if you have a humanistic and progressive mindset. You cannot accept it if you have a biblical worldview.

God gives a warning to men in 1 Timothy 5:8: “If any provide not for his own, and especially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.” Take notice that these words were spoken to men, not to women.

Two verses onwards, God speaks about the woman and gives a description of the lifestyle He has planned for her: “Well reported of for good works; if she has brought up children (FIRST ON GOD’S LIST), if she has lodged strangers, if she has washed the saints’ feet, if she has relieved the afflicted, if she has diligently followed very good work” (1 Timothy 5:10). It is a picture of a mother ministering to her children first and then opening her doors in hospitality and reaching out to the needy around her. Her ministry is in her home.

The picture God gives of the wife in Psalm 128 is of her in the heart of her home with her children all around her table (Psalm 128:3). The picture God gives of the wife in the New Testament is of her being a keeper at home, ministering to the needs of her children and managing her home (1 Timothy 2:15).

To accept the reversal of roles, we must be brainwashed in some way. Why? Because it is opposite to nature. God has not invested in men the same maternal anointing He put in women. Yes, fathers love their children, but they do it in a different way to mothers. They have a strong instinct to protect their children. They want to provide for their children, but they cannot “mother” their children, especially babies and little ones. They are anointed to “father’ their children. And children need both mothering and fathering.

Babies and toddlers need the comfort of their mother’s breasts. Breastfeeding is tied up with motherhood. Scientific studies reveal that the more frequently a mother breastfeeds her baby the more motherly and nurturing she becomes. The hormones release the mothering hormones. A man does not have the same hormones God gives to mothers.

God has also put within women a love for home, unless of course it is brainwashed out of her by our education system, the media, and the deception of our progressive society. A man is not cut out for the finer touches of the home and to making a home feel like a home. He was created to go out and to provide; to work hard for his family.

And what about the following generations? The greatest teaching we give our children is our example. They watch what we do. They observe our roles. When we reverse the roles, they grow up confused. What happens to society? As more men stay home and more women enter the work force, there will be less and less children born. A career woman who is full time providing for the family does not have time to have children. Already we are being overtaken by the Islamic population who surpass us. Our average is only 1.8 children per family. Their average is 6.8 per family.

And God’s very first commandment carries with it a mandate for dominion (Genesis 1:28). Those who are fruitful and multiply will be those who take dominion. We see this already happening in Europe.

Let’s stop this ridiculous deception now–for the sake of our families now and for the sake of future generations.

Be blessed, Nancy Campbell

One young woman responded this way to Nancy’s post on Facebook: “I TOTALLY DISAGREE AND I WILL BE LEAVING, THIS PAGE. VERY VERY SAD. I will pray for you.” Women today are deeply offended by truth, especially if it doesn’t match up to what they want to do and believe. Then they have temper tantrums, as this young woman did, and stomp off.

This should never be said about us, women. As godly women who love the Lord’s ways more than our ways since His ways are so much higher and better than our ways, we seek to know His will for our lives and then walk in it joyfully; for there is nothing better in life than walking on the narrow path that leads to life, even if it is in complete opposition to the world’s ways.

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1 Timothy 5:14

Not One Bible Verse Instructs Women to Have Careers

Not One Bible Verse Instructs Women to Have Careers

Of course, careers for women came from a godless, heathen world! There is nothing in the Bible that encourages or instructs women to leave their homes for hours every day, their children with strangers to raise, and go to a job. If there is one, I have never read it. Yes, there are some women in the Bible who made things in their homes and sold them like Lydia and the Proverbs 31 woman but not one left their home all day long with their children in the care of others and worked for a boss for five days a week.

Yes, some were midwives but they were at home unless they were delivering a baby. They didn’t keep office hours that kept them away from their family for hours every day. Priscilla worked alongside her husband making tents but again, this wasn’t in a factory where she had to be away from her home all day long. She was being a help meet to her husband. Deborah was a judge in Israel but it doesn’t say anything about her holding regular office hours, working for a boss, and nothing about her having children but she was referred to as the Mother of Israel.

Are older women, as written in the Bible, to be known for their careers? No! They should be known for bringing up children, lodging strangers, washing the saints’ feet, relieving the afflicted, diligently following every good work (1 Timothy 5:10) and teaching the younger women (Titus 2:4). There’s nothing about them having careers.

Widows are not commanded to go out and pursue careers. Their families are the ones who should care for them and if the widow doesn’t have family, then the churches are to care for the widows. (Notice 1 Timothy 5:4 states who in the family should care for widows; “children or nephews” not “children or nieces” – the female children would most likely be married and have husbands who would provide whereas the nephews should help provide, not the nieces.) This is how God set it all up for the provision of women.

Men are the ones in the Bible that God commands to be the providers. This is God’s perfect will from the beginning of time and He reminds us that His commands are not burdensome. Nothing is impossible with Him and if He wants women home with their families, He will provide a way. He instructs us to ask for wisdom and He will give it freely!

There are several problems I see with women having careers, even when they are single. After spending all the time and money in pursuing their career, it’s difficult to give it up once the children come along, if and when they do. Also, many husbands like the money their wives make and don’t want them to stop so they insist on their wives keeping the job even when it becomes a strain on the wife. Married women who don’t have children still come home exhausted after working all day. They don’t have the energy to care for their homes or husbands like they would like to do, unless they are high energy women.

I believe one of the main causes of divorce today is due to women having careers. Women put all of their time and energy into their careers and neglect their husbands. They were created to be their husband’s help meet but they fail to do what God has called them to do because they can’t do everything and are too tired and exhausted to be helpers to their husbands. This is a recipe for failure and marriage is important to the Lord so it should be a priority for us; for marriage is an example to a lost world of Christ and His Church! Plus, when women have careers, they know that they have the freedom to divorce their husbands since they aren’t dependent upon their husbands for provision but God created wives to be dependent upon their husbands. This is a good thing, contrary to popular opinion.

Women who have careers typically have to work for a boss and the boss is usually a man, therefore, she is living in submission to a man who isn’t her husband which is not God’s plan. Plus, women don’t have the physical makeup that a man has and God created women with a more sensitive and emotional nature in order to be home with their children and/or caring for others, not out in the workforce.

What about single women who never get married? God’s instructions to them are to be holy in body and spirit. No, they don’t have to live underneath their father’s authority their entire lives. I know there are some who believe this but I don’t see this being instructed in the Bible although for protection and provision it is a good idea. She does need to know about the dangers of pursuing a career in case she does eventually get married.

But what about the women who do remain single their entire lives and don’t get married? What if careers are causing many more women to not get married since they don’t “need” a man to take care of them? What if this pursuit by women for careers makes them unattractive to men since they become forceful and independent? God’s plan from the beginning is for men and women to marry. He created men to need a help meet.

Colleges and universities don’t help women acquire meek and gentle spirits. Quite the contrary! They teach them to be strong (apart from the Lord), independent (they don’t need a husband), speak their minds, and stand up for themselves which is completely opposite of what the Lord wants for women. They don’t teach them to be gentle, submissive help meets to their husbands or how to raise godly offspring. Neither do they teach them anything about godly womanhood; no, not even the Christian colleges and universities since they push careers on the women.

There are many things women can do who aren’t married without getting a job. Culture tell us that there’s only option for young women today but it’s not. The young, unmarried Duggar and Bates women take courses on-line, serve their families, go on mission’s trips, assist midwives, serve their communities, find ways to make money from home, and many other things that help others instead of pursuing careers which take them away from their homes. This seems the way it should be, in my opinion.

Women working have taken many jobs away from men. Men NEED to work. God created them to have jobs and this usually defines them, whereas women define themselves by their relationships. Men don’t have to take off time when they bear children, their children get sick (if they have a wife at home), and they don’t feel guilt leaving their children all day long like women do because women know deep down that they are the ones who are supposed to be home with their own children.

I believe all godly women need to live their lives as if they may get married and have children some day. The worse thing would be to pursue a college education, amass a large debt, and place this burden upon their husbands when they get married, thus continuing to have to work after having children to pay off their debt. This is insanity to me! There are too many women that tell me they want to come home but are unable due to debt, their living style is too high, or their husbands want them to work because they make a large salary.

Finally, we are to live our lives according to God’s Word, not culture’s path. Young women, prayerfully consider the path you want to take. I encourage you to study God’s Word (all of the verses pertaining to godly womanhood) and make your decisions from doing this instead of watching the way our society’s women are going which has only led to the destruction of our culture. Children grow up to be much more productive members of society when they are loved and nurtured by their mothers during their childhood.

Please, don’t ask me about women being nurses (Do you know how hard it is for women to be on their feet for twelve hour shifts?), teachers, dental assistants or having careers such as these. I can assure you that not all of the women in the world are going to go home full time by reading this post or my blog. There will always be plenty of female nurses and teachers since there are many women who have no desire to be home full time, many more who are not believers so they don’t care about God’s will for their lives, and others who are not convicted that they should be home for their families and not have careers. There’s no need to hyperventilate about it!

Thankfully, I am not the judge of the world. I am only teaching my convictions based upon what I have read in the Word and obeying what the Lord has instructed older women to teach younger women, namely, to be keepers at home so they won’t blaspheme the Word of God which is a terrible thing to do.

Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are ye not much better than they?
Matthew 6:26

Labor not for the meat which perishes, but for the meat which endures unto everlasting life.
John 6:27

Beautifying Her Home With Little

Beautifying Her Home With Little

Bernard O’reilly shares in his book from 1886 titled The Mirror of True Womanhood a story of a young wife who had a husband who was very prosperous in his business. They had six beautiful children and she was known for her kindness and cheerfulness. Her husband’s business, unfortunately, took a dramatic turn for the worse and he was nervous about telling his wife about it.

Many of his friends offered to give him money to support their lifestyle but when he told his wife about it, she told him it would be wiser to sell their home and all of their expensive furnishings and rent a small cottage rather than be in debt to others. He was pleased with her idea so this is what happened.

“But what was the astonishment of friends and relatives, when, after a few days of pity or wonderment, they called on the brave little woman in her new home, to find so fair, so bright, so beautiful! The carpets were plain, it is true, and the furniture was of the commons kind; but chairs and sofas and ottomans had been covered with a chintz so pretty that no one stopped to inquire what was beneath the covering…and the little mistress, with her sunny smile and merry laugh, and the warm hospitable welcome for every friend and acquaintance; and there, too, were the rosy children, as unconscious of any change of fortune.

The little ones saw no change around them, save that the light of their mother’s smile was even more sunny than ever, that she loaded their dear father with fonder caresses and called forth from his big heart louder bursts of joy and mirth, and that she had been busier than ever with her active hands and restless needle in transforming and beautifying the face of things in every room with the smallest possible expense.

And so the happy nestful increased, and the husband rose higher in public confidence and in his noble profession, while his wife bestowed her whole care on the lovely children, whom she educated herself in every branch of learning and in every accomplishment necessary or suitable to their position.

Limited as was their income, neither the husband nor the wife ever bestowed a thought on the expenditure consequent upon such an unbounded and uninterrupted hospitality. The little wife managed to have a bountiful table at all times, never an extravagant one; and thus she never once allowed her household expenses to go beyond her means. What made her table, her drawing-room, the whole atmosphere of her home so full of an undefinable charm, was the love, the innocence, the paradisaical purity and charity which parents and children shed around them.”

May we all aspire to be like this godly wife; for godliness with contentment is great gain.

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
Proverbs 31:30, 31

Careers for Women Came from the Ungodly, Heathen World

Careers for Women Came from the Ungodly, Heathen World

This post is from a YouTube by Traditional Catholic Faith and Morals. It is biblically accurate and worth sharing. I took snippets out of it so it’s not the entire video.

A stay at home mom is often viewed by career women as being a slave, a victim, and having no life.

Many feminists view children as a nuisance, a hindrance to personal success; thus, many blinded women have chosen not to get married, not to bear children and not to guide the house. These ideas are evil.

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1 Timothy 5:14

God never intended for women to pursue careers at the expense of motherhood. God intended for women to be keepers at home.

To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:5

God wants young women to be keepers at home – baking, cooking, sewing, doing laundry, teachers of her children, taking care of family business, and being a help meet to her husband anyway she can. That’s why God created the woman – to help her husband.

And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
Genesis 2:18

The idea of a woman having a career came from the ungodly, heathen world and not from the Scriptures. God never intended for women to be executives, cops, helicopter pilots, lawyers, realtors, soldiers, etc.

Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.
1 Timothy 2:15

Modern apostate society treats women just like men, as a consequence, women now act like men.

Many people see no harm in women pursuing professional careers, but when it comes down to reality these types of women act and think like men.

They are decisive, strong-willed, tough, loud mouthed, demanding, dominant and lack the biblical traits God desires in a Christian woman.

She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house.
Proverbs 7:11

(Yes, this is a verse concerning prostitutes but many women are prostituting themselves on the idol of feminism and unfortunately, many are sexually promiscuous and acting like prostitutes as well.)

A career woman is very far from what God intended for her to be.

She looks well to the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness.
Proverbs 31:27

Feminism is a “social movement” that demands it all. It makes us like men. It makes us infertile, frustrated, unhappy, and empty inside. There is no true happiness in feminism. It is against our own nature!

Women will only find true freedom when they believe in Christ and submit their lives to God’s holy law.

For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; and they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables.
2 Timothy 4:3, 4

Feminists’ Leaders Had Terrible Mothers

Feminists’ Leaders Had Terrible Mothers

Did you know that the modern feminist movement began with three women who had terrible childhoods. “How ironic that these three intelligent women (Betty Friedan, Germaine Greer, and Gloria Steinem), none of women is currently married, have so influenced our current notions of family and motherhood” (Dr. Brenda Hunter).

In the chat room, we have been discussing the book Home By Choice by Dr. Hunter. If you ever want to be convinced of the value of mothers at home with their children, I encourage you to buy this book and read it carefully. Dr. Hunter was raised by a single mother and tells of the fear and loneliness she felt growing up without a mother at home most of the time.

She also explains how children need a mother at home whether they are an infant or a teenager. The infant needs all of their needs taken care of and the warmth of a mother to bond with and a teenager needs a mother at home to guide and encourage them through the turbulent teenage years.

A mother at home is a steady, comforting presence for her husband and her children. But she must be a wife and mother who is actively involved in their lives and looking well to the ways of her household. She must be willing to take time to listen to them, look them in the eyes, and show them plenty of love and affection.

In her book, Dr. Hunter shares that when children don’t have a mother at home, there is a much greater possibility that they will become involved in sex, drugs, and alcohol. I saw this happening to the peers in my high school who had working mothers. Their lives seemed aimless and empty so they filled it with things that harmed them. I never wanted to do any of those things because I knew it would hurt my mother badly and I loved my her deeply. She was there for me my entire childhood and thus, I grew up to be loved and secure.

Yes, the three major women who began the modern feminists movement came from broken homes and had distant mothers. They had never experienced a warm and loving mother with intact parents. Yet, they were used by the enemy to cause dissatisfaction among millions of mothers who left their homes and gave their children the same lonely childhoods that these three women experienced. Tragic.

Go home, mothers, and nurture your own children. If you are a single mother or widow, ask the Lord to make a way for you to go home since your children need you there regardless of your circumstances. Trust God and then step out in faith believing that He will provide what He has commanded.

As for God, his way is perfect: the word of the LORD is tried:
he is a buckler to all those that trust in him.

Psalm 18:30

The High Priority of Earning an Income

The High Priority of Earning an Income

Have you noticed how today’s stay-at-home mothers love to try and convince their husbands that their jobs at home are so much harder than having to go to work all day like their husbands do? I read this silly spoof about a husband staying home for a day but realized that it’s never a woman having to go to her husband’s job for an entire day in any of these spoofs. No, the spoof is always about a husband who becomes a woman for a day and finds out how difficult it is to keep a home and raise a family.

A woman made this comment under this article on Facebook where it was shared: “I tell you what! God willing, I’d rather work for a earning, till I no longer can work; be independent, than be a stay at home mother, being house cleaner, window cleaner, curtain cleaner, taxi driver all afternoon, and the list can grow and grow.”

In our culture, earning an income has value and raising children and being home full time does not. I have stay-at-home mothers write and tell me that they don’t feel productive because they aren’t bringing in money. These thoughts aren’t from the Lord. He calls mothers to be keepers at home since this is a full-time job, especially when the children are little. These small children grow up very quickly and if a mother has disciplined and trained her children properly, her life gets a whole lot easier.

I am a full-time wife now. My children are long gone and I have the blessing of being able to mentor many women, watch my grandchildren, and help when needed. Ken still works his tail off to provide. No, you’re wrong culture! A man’s job is never ending and most women’s job does end; at least the hard part of disciplining and training and caring for young children. Being home full time is a blessing and a joy!

“You and I know that love is the world’s most powerful motivator. So love your home – love being there and love managing it, watching over it, keeping it, and, yes, cleaning up the mess. Love will enable you and empower you to tackle it, master it, and excel at it. Turn to the Lord to fire up your passion in your heart to manage your home His way…in a loving, serving, sacrificial capacity.” (Elizabeth George)

Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the Lord keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain. It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows: for so he giveth his beloved sleep.
Psalm 127:1, 2