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Not Teaching Exceptions and What Ifs

Not Teaching Exceptions and What Ifs

God commands that I teach women to be keepers at home so this is what I will teach no matter how much backlash I receive from it. But what if a woman asks me if it is okay for her to work two days a week? I would tell her “no” since she is called to be a keeper at home as God has commanded. Let’s say she decides to work two days a week and puts her child into daycare and that child is molested, abused, or neglected which does happen? I dare not compromise God’s command to me and take responsibility for possible harm to the child. God gave mothers to children for protection.

What if a wife asks if she can work at night while her husband watches the children? Yes, he works all day and then would come home and watch the children because she “enjoys” working. I am not going to take responsibility when the marriage falls apart because they had little time together and she was too exhausted to be a proper help meet to him.

I’m not giving exceptions and what ifs. Those are up to each of you to decide. I’m committed to teaching what God has told me to teach. You’re going to have to take sole responsibility for going outside of God’s will and plan for you. I sure don’t want it on my conscience. I want no part in having God’s Word blasphemed.

This is why God has commanded older women to teach young women to love their children and be keepers at home. It’s not a natural tendency to give up self and its desires to do what is in the best interest of children which is to have their mother home full time caring, loving, training, and disciplining them. This takes a lot of time, patience, gentleness, and consistency which can get tedious but this is storing treasures in heaven where they belong. There is absolutely NO greater joy than to have children who walk in truth. None.

That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:4, 5

Living Simply to Be Home Full Time

Living Simply to Be Home Full Time

Matt Walsh wrote a post yesterday about Americans being a nation of depressed people. I wrote this comment in response to it: “It’s because we have left our Creator’s design for us. Men were created to be the providers and protectors. Women were created to be keepers at home, help meets to their husbands, and bearing and raising children. Children need mothers who are home full time to raise, protect, train, and nurture them.” 

Of course, some agreed and some disagreed. Those who disagreed don’t like to discuss or acknowledge the facts. No, they have to attack and make false accusations against those to whom they disagree with because they despise the ways of the Lord. As an example, one guy wrote about another woman and me: “They don’t get it. Never will. They are blind to facts. They feel cause they can, everyone can. The holier than thou arrogance here is ridiculous.” So we are arrogant because we speak the truth of God’s Word?

But then a woman named Deborah wrote the following and is worthy of a post of its own:

Yes, it is more difficult today to make ends meet. The Socialist Left made the cost of living so high so that mothers would need to leave the home to help provide a living. They indoctrinated the women in the 60s to beat their chest and declare they are equal to men and they began to refuse to keep a home, raise their children, cook, or do any other domestic skill.

They (and men) began to demand the best of everything, clothes, homes, every shiny bauble known to man. They stopped having children in lieu of fancy cars and boats. I was raised by my grandparents the OLD way. We didn’t even have running water in the house, no plumbing, drew water from a hand dug well, GREW OUR OWN MEAT AND VEGETABLES, canned everything to get us through the winter, SEWED OUR CLOTHES, and lived on very little.

WE WERE NEVER HUNGRY. We did not have candy, chips, colas, beer, nor any of the other luxuries of frozen foods, delivery of food, etc. We had NO CAR. We walked to town and carried the bags back. I was quite old when we got our first phone and TV. We plowed the fields with a horse and hand hoed the vegetables. We raised chickens, hogs, etc. for eggs and meat. Poppy hunted for game.

My grandparents were in their late 50s when they took on five grandkids under the age of seven. They didn’t have two nickles to rub together. But we survived and LOVED IT. I wouldn’t trade that life for all the shiny baubles in the world.

What I’m trying to say is that you can do without a lot of things you think you have to have. You can supplement your food with a garden and animals. If your wife doesn’t work, you don’t need two vehicles. Yes, it is more difficult today because the Left wants to destroy everything “family” and everything Christian.

(Directed to men:) You need to get educated so that you don’t have to settle for minimum wage. There is a dire need for the “trades” in this country, such as welders, etc. Women need to get educated so that if something happens to their husband, they can make a living without depending on others for their needs. (I don’t agree with her on this one since getting an education today means accruing a large debt and putting off marriage and children, plus many husbands don’t want to give up their wives’ income when they marry. As believers, we don’t need to live in fear of the “What ifs…?” We need to obey what God has commanded and live in faith of the “But God…!”)

Everything in the right season. Courtship, marriage, THEN CHILDREN, and don’t forget education to support the family. Start your own business. Electrician, plumbers, or whatever you can do, do it and do it well. Minimum wage jobs were never intended to support a family. They were always intended for teenagers to start their work history and make money to support their young years and SUPPLEMENT their family. It was also a place for those who cannot rise higher in society, for whatever reason. My main point is that people don’t have to have the best of everything but you do have to get above minimum wage if you are to raise a family these days.

Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal: For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.
Matthew 6:19-21

Feminists Have Done Violence to Mothering

Feminists Have Done Violence to Mothering

In 2006, Dr. Brenda Hunter wrote her book Home By Choice and investigated the problems she was seeing with children. She found out that those who don’t have full-time mothers are much more insecure and mentally unstable. Children were meant to be raised by their mothers, contrary to popular opinion.

Now, there is a post going viral written by Victoria Prooday that states the silent tragedy affecting children:

“There is a silent tragedy developing right now, in our homes, and it concerns our most precious jewels – our children. Through my work with hundreds of children and families as an occupational therapist, I have witnessed this tragedy unfolding right in front of my eyes. Our children are in a devastating emotional state! Talk to teachers and professionals who have been working in the field for the last 15 years. You will hear concerns similar to mine. Moreover, in the past 15 years, researchers have been releasing alarming statistics on a sharp and steady increase in kids’ mental illness, which is now reaching epidemic proportions:

1 in 5 children has mental health problems
43% increase in ADHD
37% increase in teen depression
200% increase in suicide rate in kids 10-14 years old”

Here are the reasons Victoria Prooday gave for these problems:

Digitally distracted parents
Indulgent parents who let kids “Rule the world”
Sense of entitlement rather than responsibility
Inadequate sleep and unbalanced nutrition
Sedentary indoor lifestyle
Endless stimulation, technological babysitters, instant gratification, and absence of dull moments

The solutions she gives to these problems are great and useful but she somehow missed the most important ones: mothers being keepers at home and staying married to the father of their children until death do they part but, of course, this is not politically correct to say even among most Christians. Children need and want their mothers home full time to bond with them and they need their fathers’ love and stability. Their mothers and fathers are the ones called to teach, train, nurture, and discipline them.

Dr. Brenda Hunter wrote the following about the importance of a full-time mother in a child’s life:

If a man had a mother who was physically or emotionally absent for most of his childhood – if he was raised by babysitters or a succession of other caretakers – he will most likely not know what emotional closeness or intimacy feels like. So how can he possibly know what his child is missing? 

  “The point of this brief examination of male vulnerabilities is to assert that sons and husbands need the women in their lives to nurture them, appreciate them, and express interest in their lives. As little boys or as high-powered executives, males suffer from female neglect.

“Kids do not profit from parental absenteeism and the empty house can be a dangerous place…many find empty houses a convenient place to engage in self-destructive behavior.

“Moreover, as these insecure children grow up, the ramifications for society are disturbing. One psychologist has said that never before in American history have so many children been raised by strangers.

“While it is not my intention to heap guilt on single mothers who find they must work, they need to be aware of how their children are affected. You see, young children don’t understand that the mother doesn’t have a choice. I would challenge the single mother, if at all possible, to use her wits and ingenuity to turn her skills into profit at home.

“Feminists have largely controlled the public image of women. Mothers at home, who are impediments to the feminist agenda, have been largely ignored. In their thrust for subsidized child care, equal rights, and abortion rights, feminists have done violence to mothering with their constant proclamation that mothering is a ‘low status job.'”

Mothering is NOT a low status job. It is a job given to women by their Creator. Do you see how easily the enemy of our souls tries to deceive people into believing the opposite of what God has commanded? Stop listening to him and begin listening to the Lover of your soul.

When you come home full time, love your children deeply, speak words of life and Truth into their lives consistently, and teach them to work hard, be honest, love God, and be kind. Raising up godly children takes a lot of time and effort but it is well worth it. It is the most important ministry you will have in your life.

 For my thoughts are not your thoughts,
neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD.
Isaiah 55:8
Playing Russian Roulette With Your Children

Playing Russian Roulette With Your Children

Written By Ken

In today’s world of broken homes and broken children, it is hard to believe that our society cannot see that it is the result of the lies they were told and they believed just a few generations ago. Women were told they could do whatever they wanted with their lives with no thought of the damage it would do to their children over time and over many numbers of women working. What is a mother to a child but EVERYTHING to them?

Women were told that they did not have to stay in a relationship that did not fit their feelings, or they felt like they were not the sole focus of a husband’s life, so they divorced without thinking of the damage it would do their kids and now in turn all of society. Yes, women were taught to follow their feelings and desires because they were equal to men, while never realizing that most men were not following their feelings or desires but instead putting their hands to the plow and working hard to support a family that would stay together and create their legacy.

You see, women have been lied to and its the same lies told over and over again that began in the garden. “God did not really say that, did He?” and “You won’t really get into trouble as the apple in front of you looks so delicious…, just eat. Then worry about the long term consequences later.”

We all eat the apple. We all want to do things our ways, be our own little god of our puny little lives, and seek the immediate pleasures over ignoring the long term consequences. Well, the day has come when the consequences are coming home to shower bullets on our children and wreak havoc on our society.

Oh, you say, “But I work and there is no problem in my family and with my kids.” And I say “Congrats!” You played Russian roulette with the lives of your children and family and you are one of the maybe 50% that has not suffered divorce or children damaged because of it. Just keep in mind that the sins of a parent are visited even until the third and fourth generation. You may have escaped, but have your children’s children when now their mom goes off to try to follow the example set for her by her mother?

We live in a depressed, anxious, and often dangerous society because the family unit is broken. Moms and dads chasing their own apples of desires and pleasure all at the expense of their children. Of course, these women hate it when Lori speaks the truth to them and she tries to get them to think about the damage they are causing society.

And yet I hear them now, “Not me! I was able to avoid the gun going off in my family.” Okay, now look to your left and your right and see that only about 50% of families are escaping the dreaded consequences that come when we walk away from God’s Word and God’s values. And you have taught your sons and daughters to take the chance and eat the fruit as a two worker home that surely does provide far more security and pleasures than a family with one dad who works hard for his family.

Alas, if we want to look to why some of our kids are so messed up: eating Tide Pods, guzzling alcohol, doing drugs, catching life-long sexually transmitted diseases, turning gay, and worse yet cutting off body parts to try and feel whole, look not much further than a mom who was rarely at home when they needed her love, comfort, and correction. Look no further than the stupid experiment perpetuated on America by Dr. Spock of lax discipline. The experiment failed and now we have half a generation of unhappy and depressed kids and adults. For there are no more apples to eat. We are already eating them all and not a one of them is satisfying.

To get our society back on track will take a huge amount of energy and effort by those willing to look at the damage caused by moms leaving their children and lax parenting and get back in the home and do the work of training. Yes, just as God said from the beginning, “Train them in the way they should go and they will not depart from it.”

The God who wrote the instruction manual on human love and life has spoken, but will our society listen and allow His Word and values back into our homes, schools, and churches. Or are we in for the next generation who will not only walk away from God’s values, but will choose to rebel against Him and destroy those who love anything about God and His ways? I pray our society is reaching a turning point, but fear it will once again choose to no longer hearken to the words of the Lord. Just because you escaped your sins with no seemingly bad consequences doesn’t mean the woman you influenced will.

Whom shall he teach knowledge? and whom shall he make to understand doctrine? them that are weaned from the milk, and drawn from the breasts. For precept must be upon precept, precept upon precept; line upon line, line upon line; here a little, and there a little.
Isaiah 28:9, 10

Cultivating a Love for Home in Your Daughters

Cultivating a Love for Home in Your Daughters

There’s something I have sadly noticed. There aren’t many young women who are good at being homemakers. They weren’t raised to keep their homes clean and tidy. They fail to look well to the ways of their household. No, they were raised to pursue a career, instead, since this has value in our culture and not homemaking.

When they are home full time with their children, their homes are a mess and they don’t like to be home often. They have no will nor desire to keep their homes clean. Where are the mothers who should have trained up their daughters in the fine arts of homemaking? Why aren’t the daughters, when they are young, right by their mother’s side as they cook and clean?

Chris Starr preached a great sermon called Biblical Womanhood and spoke about this topic. (It is well worth your time to listen to the entire sermon.) “All of you single ladies, I want to talk to you for a second. Be careful of filling your life with all kinds of pursuits that substitute for you learning how to take care of a home and enjoying that.

“Many young women have struggled with this. They don’t like being at home. They don’t like caring for the home. They don’t like homemaking. They don’t see it as a worthy profession and every young lady who is not married should be cultivating desires to be and to take care of a home. Mothers should help cultivate this…Your home is a priority and it needs to be taken care of by the woman. There’s no doubt about that. You should be cultivating a love for the home even as a single young lady. The home is the woman’s primary place of ministry. Young women need to be taught to be keepers at home.”

Do you have a love for home? Are you cultivating a love for motherhood, marriage, and homemaking (the most important ministries in the world) in your daughters instead of a desire for college and careers as our culture is doing? If you aren’t, you have some work to do! Are you training your daughters to be godly wives by the way you love and live in submission to your husband? This is the single most important thing you can do for them.

If you train them from a young age to cook, clean, and enjoy being home with you, they will grow up to want to cook, clean, and be in their own homes serving their families. It will come naturally to them. Anything that can be learned and trained as a child is much easier to want to do and do well than it is trying to discipline oneself as an adult.

If you raise your daughters to be clean and tidy and enjoy cooking, they will most likely grow up to be clean and tidy and enjoy cooking. Make sure that you are cheerful when you are teaching them. Show them the joy of the Lord living in and through you while you go about your homemaking!

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
Proverbs 22:6

Studying to Be Quiet

Studying to Be Quiet

This world is chaotic and noisy but we, as believers in Jesus Christ, are called to be peaceful and quiet. “And that ye study to be quiet and to do your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you” (1 Thessalonians 4:11). How do we study to be quiet?

“Orderly, peaceful; living in the practice of the calm virtues of life. The duty to which he would exhort them was that of being subordinate to the laws; of avoiding all tumult and disorder; of calmly pursuing their regular avocations, and of keeping themselves from all the assemblages of the idle, the restless, and the dissatisfied. No Christian should be engaged in a mob; none should be identified with the popular excitements which lead to disorder and to the disregard of the laws. The word rendered ‘ye study’ means properly, ‘to love honor, to be ambitious;’ and here means the same as when we say ‘to make it a point of honor to do so and so.'” (Barnes Notes on the Bible)

It’s our job, women to have orderly and peaceful lives. We are commanded to build up our homes and look well to the ways of our household. If you are busy keeping your home clean, orderly, and tidy, you are studying to be quiet. As you dust your furniture, clean your dishes, organize your closets, vacuum your floors, fold your laundry, and train your children, you are learning to be quiet. You are doing your business, which is being a keeper at home, with your own hands and the Lord is pleased with this.

The way to have a calm and peaceful life is to allow the Word of God dwell in you richly so that you won’t sin against the Lord. Daily renew your minds with God’s truth since this is what conforms you into the image of Christ. This will match your emotions and feelings with truth. You will be lead by God’s Word instead of selfishness and what you feel like doing. You won’t get riled up and worried about the state of the world because your mind is steadfast on your hope and trust in God.

“To live peaceably in their own families, and to give no disturbance to other families, by talebearing, whispering, and backbiting; to behave with quietness in the neighbourhood, town, or city, they dwell in, and to seek the peace thereof; and to lead a quiet and peaceable life, in all godliness and honesty, in the commonwealth, and under the government to which they belong; and not to create and encourage factions, divisions, animosities, and contentions, in their own church, or in any of the churches of Christ; and it becomes saints to make this their study, to be very solicitous for it, to strive for it, and pursue after it: the word used signifies to be ambitious of it, as what is a man’s glory and honour, to emulate and strive to outdo each other, as who shall have the honour of being the quietest person, and the most peaceable member in the community:” (Gill’s Exposition)

How do we live peaceably with our own families? By being kind towards them and loving them. We don’t argue with them or insist upon being right. We serve them just as the Lord took on the form of a servant, we are to do likewise and serve our families.

Talebearing, whispering, and backbiting should have NO place in a believer’s life. Yes, we are to speak the truth in love but we don’t share things about others that shouldn’t be shared. We don’t allow any unwholesome word to come out from our mouths but only those that encourage and build others up.

We are not to create divisions in the church. We don’t rebuke the pastor if he said something we don’t like. We don’t sit in our chairs and criticize in our minds what’s wrong with the singing and the service. We don’t murmur against what we don’t like about the church to others. No, we find things to praise in our churches and focus upon these things!

We are known as a peaceable member in our community. We don’t debate the political climate with others in order to force our views upon others. No, we show them the love of Jesus. We obey our government authorities and pray for them. We are salt and light in our communities by not grumbling and complaining but being joyful and content; for godliness with contentment is great gain.

Study to be quiet, women. Learn to do your own business in your home. Learn from those who keep clean and orderly homes. Work hard with your own hands. This is God’s perfect will for you!

And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men.
Colossians 3:23

Working Mothers and Public Schools Produce Mentally Ill Children

Working Mothers and Public Schools Produce Mentally Ill Children

Years ago, I read the book Home By Choice by Dr. Brenda Hunter and she found that children who are home full time with their mothers have a much greater chance of growing up to be emotionally stable and secure. Children need and want their mothers all the time! This seems about right since God, our Creator, commands mothers to be keepers at home and have their children at home with them for very good reasons. All of His commands are for our good.

Daily Mail just came out with an article titled Pscychotherapist warns that working mothers are producing mentally ill children – and claims the problem is at an epidemic level. “‘Our society tells women go back to work, do what you want, they’ll be okay,’ she explained. ‘But they’re not OKAY. ‘I was seeing it in my parent guidance practice. I was actually seeing an epidemic level of mental disorders in very young children who were being diagnosed and medicated at an earlier and earlier age. ‘I started looking at the research that backed up what I was seeing in my practice which is that the absence of mothers on a daily basis in children’s lives was impacting their mental health.

‘”I still say daycare is my least favorite option,’ she said. ‘You’re taking a very young baby and exposing them to a great deal of stimulation and a great deal of fear. ‘When you take them out of their immediate environment and put them in a group with a lot of stimulation and a lot of people that’s not the natural environment for babies.'”

The natural environment for babies and children is at home with their mothers. This is where they belong and what is crucial for their long-term mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health.

Rates of suicide and suicidal thoughts are climbing drastically among the youth in this country. Most children are no longer being raised by their own mothers full time. They aren’t being protected by their mothers from all of the evil in culture, including the evil in the schools. Children are hearing, seeing, and experiencing things that they should be protected from. Their childhoods and innocence have been stolen from them and many are products of divorced parents. We’re reaping the rotten fruit that we’ve sown as a nation.

The Federalist just came out with an article titled 13 Ways Public Schools Incubate Mental Instability in Kids. “The correlation between public school environments and the deteriorating mental health of children has been intensifying for decades. We ought to consider how these settings serve as incubators for the social alienation that can fuel such horrors.

“First, consider how common it is for a public high school today to house thousands of teenagers for most of their waking hours for four solid years. (More than 3,000 students attend the Florida school where the most recent shooting took place.) During their time in that maze, kids learn to ‘socialize,’ basically by finding their place in a school’s hierarchy of cliques.

“Dr. Peter Gray at Boston College has studied in depth the harmful effects of mass schooling on children’s mental health. Gray makes the point that school is simply an abnormal setting for children. But instead of admitting that, our culture prefers to say that the children are abnormal for squirming. In short, school is a prison that actually causes trauma in children.

“This sort of pecking order dynamic tends to breed resentment, status anxiety, and social dysfunction. Combine that with the toxic effects of social media and family breakdown, and you’ve got a deadly brew. Public schooling is increasingly unhealthy for kids’ emotional stability.”

Youth are taking more drugs and trying to escape reality. They are lost and confused. They have no moral compass. They don’t know right from wrong. Too many children are being put on drugs at young ages instead of being home with their mothers and being disciplined and trained by them. They aren’t being loved and nurtured by the one person God gave to do this and they are suffering.

I can tell you one thing that is for sure – God never ordained mothers to work away from their children all day long nor did He ordain public schooling where children are being taught all of their childhood by a godless government. These were invented by our culture and we know who the prince of the power of the air is and his evil intent for our children. God commands that women be keepers at home and raise their children in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord while training them in the way they should go. The Devil is the one who wants women out of the home and he wants our children on the train that is headed for hell.

Rescue your children, mothers. Go home full time and homeschool your precious children. God wants a family; a family of godly offspring who grows up to be adults who love and obey Him. They won’t learn about this at preschool or public schools. It’s the ministry the Lord has given to you when you were blessed with children. Children are the most innocent among us and must be protected from the enemy of their souls. You were the one God gave to protect them.

Many women will be repulsed by these articles from the Daily Mail and The Federalist because they want to do what they want to do. They don’t want anyone telling them what to do even if it’s best for their children. Speak the truth in love to whoever will listen to you, women. There’s a tragic crisis among children and you have the answers. “On a societal level we need to recognize mothers work is valuable work. We emphasize material success and professional achievement, but there is no more valuable or more important work.” Amen.

Finally, as our preacher taught yesterday – God always pays for what He orders. He has ordered young women to be keepers at home and wants them loving their children enough to raise them in the nurture and the admonition of Him. Trust your Great Provider to pay and provide a way to accomplish what He commands of you.

He maketh the barren woman to keep house, and to be a joyful mother of children. Praise ye the LORD.
Psalm 113:9

***There’s a HomeMaker gathering on March 8th to speak out against the feminists agenda and for the value of mothers-at-home: “Fletcher said that while the left and feminists are promoting daycare and government schools, mothers hold the key to creating a healthy and prosperous society.

“What children need more than anything isn’t the best tax-payer funded daycare, it’s the love of their mother,” Fletcher said. “Strong family connections create more stable, well-rounded kids who become good husbands, fathers, wives, and mothers and contributing participants in building stronger communities.”

The Devil Wants Women Out of the Home

The Devil Wants Women Out of the Home

“Why does the devil want women out of the home? So he can get his claws on the children. He wants to steer them towards his ways. It’s the mother who protects the children from the lies of the deceiver” (Nancy Campbell). God is clear in His Word that He wants women to be keepers at home (Titus 2:5) but women rebel against this today. They don’t want to be keepers at home since this isn’t valued in our culture. No, only making money is valued in our culture. Raising the next generation is not.

God tells us that women are to be keepers at home so they don’t blaspheme the Word of God. What does this mean? It means that when mothers aren’t keepers at home, their children are with people who are not their mothers. God gave mothers to children to protect and nurture them. Children are not nearly as safe when they aren’t with their mothers. This blasphemes the word of God since God wants children safely at home with their mothers.

Mothers are to teach and train their children in the ways of the Lord. When they are not with their children full time, they can’t do this and the children are being influenced by those who don’t love and care for them like their own mothers do. Those caring for the children are most likely working for a salary and don’t have the children’s best interest in mind. Yes, there are many great teachers and preschool workers but they can’t possibly fill the role of a mother in the children’s lives. There is just no way.

Children are exposed to garbage away from a godly mother’s home. They hear things they shouldn’t hear. They see things they shouldn’t see. Yes, Satan is getting his claws into the children and if mothers aren’t around to protect their children, no one will. God wants mothers to be keepers at home to raise up their children in the Lord.

The healthiest and happiest children are those who have been raised up by godly mothers full time. They are secure in who they are in Christ and haven’t been marred by the Devil and his schemes. They are prepared to go out into the world and be salt and light instead of trying to heal the wounds from their childhood.

Women are safer in their homes than out in the workforce. They don’t have to worry about sexual harassment and abuse, plus hearing and seeing things that are opposed to God’s Word and what He commands that we dwell upon: the good, the lovely, and the pure. Their marriages are stronger since they aren’t exhausted from working out of the home all day and giving their energies to others. They can be busy at home and make it a beautiful place for their families, friends, and visitors.

Go home, women. Yes, God will provide a way. Seek His wisdom in prayer and He promises to give it. He wants you home with your children.

She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Proverbs 31:27

*Photo by Daniel Gerhartz

Why Are Children Leaving the Church in Droves?

Why Are Children Leaving the Church in Droves?

The following was posted on Elisabeth Elliot Quotes on Facebook:

A friend asked a thought provoking question today…“Why are our children leaving the church in droves?” I need to rent a soap box for this one! But here is my answer (for what it’s worth) and it’s just a small part of the answer. I see so many mistakes in young families these days, and I wish I could reach them and get them to listen. Child rearing and family life just aren’t that hard when you follow the Bible’s advice. So here’s what I answered if you are wondering.

My opinion is that we have broken so many of God’s principles concerning family life. We allow the church youth group to keep our children too busy and separated from their families, then we have our kids in public schools where they are taught the very ideas that go against what the parents are trying to instill. Add several hours per day on social media and the parents end up being in less than 10 percent of their children’s lives. And it starts all the way back in child care centers when they are just wee babes. Parents and their children are strangers these days.

We need to get back to moms being at home with their kids, teaching them in homeschool, attending church faithfully, and keeping their kids with them while at church. What ever happened to families worshiping together? Don’t even get me started on TV, social media, and Hellywood! And where are “family devotions” led by Dad? We are paying the price for snubbing our noses at God’s User Manual aka The Old Bible. (Pam Cassada) 

Of course, many women were highly offended at this and wanted scripture reference for what she wrote. If women aren’t living up to the commands of God’s Word, they will cry “legalism” or “you’re judging” instead of examining their lives for error. Here is how an administrator at Elisabeth Elliot Quotes responded:

I will put my trust in what the Bible tells me of Jesus and of Heaven. I will put no stock in someone’s “died, went to Heaven, and came back” stories.

Here are the scriptures I promised to post today:

Titus 2 on mamas staying home with their children

Deuteronomy 6 on homeschooling and dad leading devotions in the home

Hebrews 10:25 on faithful church attendance

Matthew 21:15, 16; Psalm 148: 12, 13; Ezra 10:1; Nehemiah 8:1, 2, 5, 6, 9 on children attending church service with parents

The only hope for our families, for our churches, for our nations is a return to the Holy Bible. Do as it says! Do not argue. Do not misconstrue. Do not put your own interpretation on it. Believe it. Live it. Don’t say one can’t do it in “this day and time.” Don’t believe the devil’s lie that someone else can care for YOUR children. Don’t believe the devil’s lie that putting your children in a godless education system won’t hurt them. I realize we have Christian teachers, etc., but as a whole our education system in America is set up to indoctrinate our children in the ways of the world and not in God’s ways.

If you are not fully familiar with who Elisabeth Elliot is, read her books Through Gates of Splendor, Let Me Be a Woman, and The Shaping of a Christian Family. Elisabeth’s daughter raised eight children on her husband’s income in California for many years. She homeschooled.

Some of you have said Elisabeth traveled to speak and wrote books thus making her a working mother. But you must remember that Elisabeth and Valerie lived in the jungle until Valerie was around 8 years old. Yes, Elisabeth was translating scripture and working as a missionary, but often their home was a hut without walls and so as Elisabeth did her work, Valerie was usually a few feet away playing with the Waorani children or sleeping on her mat beside Elisabeth’s hammock. Elisabeth wrote three books while living in the jungle.

However, after coming back to the States and then later on marrying Addison Leitch, she did not publish another book until Valerie was 19. She put being a mother to young Val first always.

Ladies, the family is under attack. It saddens me when I hear young Christian mothers say they don’t cook meals, they eat in front of TV, they never read aloud to their children, they have no time for Sunday evening services at church, because ball practice, dance lessons, etc, come before family devotions. Their children have never heard them pray. I could go on and on. It IS POSSIBLE to live as scripture instructs.

Pour your life, your time, your energy into your family. I know there are circumstances such as an unwanted divorce, widowhood, disabled husband, etc, that make it impossible for mother to stay home. God knows and understands these cases. But His ideal is daddy supporting the family, mama guiding the home, and children learning the Word of God at mama and daddy’s knees. Don’t discount this!

In our church, the working mama is a rarity. It can be done! We have mamas with nursing degrees, teaching degrees, etc. who are stay-at-home moms. Motherhood, full-time devoted motherhood, is a proud profession! I have one daughter and two daughters-in-law with college degrees who are now stay-at-home mamas pouring their hearts into the training, nurturing, and raising of their children. One sells health products from home, one sews for extra money, and one takes care of all the finances for her husband’s timber business. They are busy AT HOME. They love their husbands and love their children as scripture teaches.

I am not saying if you work you don’t love your husband and children or that you don’t cook, etc. No, no, no a million times no. But please, don’t get upset at me for posting scriptural truth and quotes by Elisabeth and others about being keepers at home. Do as you wish. But do pray and ask God to show you His will and give you the “desires of your heart.”

For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.
Hebrews 4:12

The Mother is the One Supreme Asset of National Life

The Mother is the One Supreme Asset of National Life

You would think I was evil for teaching younger women to be keepers at home and that mothers should be home for their children full time. This topic makes many women angriest, by far, of all the things that I write. They must not believe children are better with their mothers. They must not trust God enough to provide for them if they come home.

Many believe they find satisfaction and fulfillment from a career. They think widows still should work full time even though their poor children have lost their father. Now, they must lose their mother to a full time job? They don’t understand that children who are raised with their mothers are emotionally more stable and secure in life. They believe a mother giving more time to a career is more important than giving more time to their own children. I don’t get it.

Is this cruel of me to have concern for the children? How about the marriages of these working women since the husbands usually are the ones that are neglected the most? Lastly, what about the mothers who are exhausted from trying to work full time, take care of their homes, and be with their children. Do I not care about them? Of course I do.

One woman wrote me and told me to stop teaching women to be keepers at home because no one is listening and no one cares. Another woman wrote an entire post on her blog about how far off I am for teaching this. Well, I will stand before God someday and He is the only one that I will have to give an answer for what I teach women.

Women write me and tell me they are home full time with their children now from reading my blog and they are thankful. Others have told me they are praying that their husbands will change their minds and allow them to come home full time. (I will never understand why some men want someone other than their wives, the mother of their children, to raise their children.) Some are asking the Lord for wisdom in finding a way to make some money from home. Yes, women are listening and some care. It makes sense compared to the nonsense they’ve been listening to their entire lives.

“I want my daughters to grow up to be doctors, lawyers, or whatever they want.” Yes, if this is what you want your daughters to grow up to be and have a stress-filled life with a lot of debt, go for it. After many years in school, then college, then medical school, and finally residency, they will be in their 30s most likely.

While you are having a daughter who is a doctor, I would much rather have a daughter who is having children and is home full time with them. Children are more valuable to me and to the Lord than any career can be. Any career can be filled with someone else but being a mother to a child can not be. Our values have been completely mixed up today.

As President Theodore Roosevelt said, “The mother is the one supreme asset of national life; she is more important by far than the successful statesman or businessman or artist or scientist.” Presidents of old felt this way, whereas President Obama said this while he was in office: “In a speech in Rhode Island in October, President Obama offered his views about child care in a society where many parents have to make difficult choices: ‘Sometimes, someone, usually mom, leaves the workplace to stay home with the kids, which then leaves her earning a lower wage for the rest of her life as a result. And that’s not a choice we want Americans to make'” as if her earning power is more important than being home with her children.

Go back to where the Bible calls mothers to be and realize your importance there.

She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Proverbs 31:26, 27