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Not One Bible Verse Instructs Women to Have Careers

Not One Bible Verse Instructs Women to Have Careers

Of course, careers for women came from a godless, heathen world! There is nothing in the Bible that encourages or instructs women to leave their homes for hours every day, their children with strangers to raise, and go to a job. If there is one, I have never read it. Yes, there are some women in the Bible who made things in their homes and sold them like Lydia and the Proverbs 31 woman but not one left their home all day long with their children in the care of others and worked for a boss for five days a week.

Yes, some were midwives but they were at home unless they were delivering a baby. They didn’t keep office hours that kept them away from their family for hours every day. Priscilla worked alongside her husband making tents but again, this wasn’t in a factory where she had to be away from her home all day long. She was being a help meet to her husband. Deborah was a judge in Israel but it doesn’t say anything about her holding regular office hours, working for a boss, and nothing about her having children but she was referred to as the Mother of Israel.

Are older women, as written in the Bible, to be known for their careers? No! They should be known for bringing up children, lodging strangers, washing the saints’ feet, relieving the afflicted, diligently following every good work (1 Timothy 5:10) and teaching the younger women (Titus 2:4). There’s nothing about them having careers.

Widows are not commanded to go out and pursue careers. Their families are the ones who should care for them and if the widow doesn’t have family, then the churches are to care for the widows. (Notice 1 Timothy 5:4 states who in the family should care for widows; “children or nephews” not “children or nieces” – the female children would most likely be married and have husbands who would provide whereas the nephews should help provide, not the nieces.) This is how God set it all up for the provision of women.

Men are the ones in the Bible that God commands to be the providers. This is God’s perfect will from the beginning of time and He reminds us that His commands are not burdensome. Nothing is impossible with Him and if He wants women home with their families, He will provide a way. He instructs us to ask for wisdom and He will give it freely!

There are several problems I see with women having careers, even when they are single. After spending all the time and money in pursuing their career, it’s difficult to give it up once the children come along, if and when they do. Also, many husbands like the money their wives make and don’t want them to stop so they insist on their wives keeping the job even when it becomes a strain on the wife. Married women who don’t have children still come home exhausted after working all day. They don’t have the energy to care for their homes or husbands like they would like to do, unless they are high energy women.

I believe one of the main causes of divorce today is due to women having careers. Women put all of their time and energy into their careers and neglect their husbands. They were created to be their husband’s help meet but they fail to do what God has called them to do because they can’t do everything and are too tired and exhausted to be helpers to their husbands. This is a recipe for failure and marriage is important to the Lord so it should be a priority for us; for marriage is an example to a lost world of Christ and His Church! Plus, when women have careers, they know that they have the freedom to divorce their husbands since they aren’t dependent upon their husbands for provision but God created wives to be dependent upon their husbands. This is a good thing, contrary to popular opinion.

Women who have careers typically have to work for a boss and the boss is usually a man, therefore, she is living in submission to a man who isn’t her husband which is not God’s plan. Plus, women don’t have the physical makeup that a man has and God created women with a more sensitive and emotional nature in order to be home with their children and/or caring for others, not out in the workforce.

What about single women who never get married? God’s instructions to them are to be holy in body and spirit. No, they don’t have to live underneath their father’s authority their entire lives. I know there are some who believe this but I don’t see this being instructed in the Bible although for protection and provision it is a good idea. She does need to know about the dangers of pursuing a career in case she does eventually get married.

But what about the women who do remain single their entire lives and don’t get married? What if careers are causing many more women to not get married since they don’t “need” a man to take care of them? What if this pursuit by women for careers makes them unattractive to men since they become forceful and independent? God’s plan from the beginning is for men and women to marry. He created men to need a help meet.

Colleges and universities don’t help women acquire meek and gentle spirits. Quite the contrary! They teach them to be strong (apart from the Lord), independent (they don’t need a husband), speak their minds, and stand up for themselves which is completely opposite of what the Lord wants for women. They don’t teach them to be gentle, submissive help meets to their husbands or how to raise godly offspring. Neither do they teach them anything about godly womanhood; no, not even the Christian colleges and universities since they push careers on the women.

There are many things women can do who aren’t married without getting a job. Culture tell us that there’s only option for young women today but it’s not. The young, unmarried Duggar and Bates women take courses on-line, serve their families, go on mission’s trips, assist midwives, serve their communities, find ways to make money from home, and many other things that help others instead of pursuing careers which take them away from their homes. This seems the way it should be, in my opinion.

Women working have taken many jobs away from men. Men NEED to work. God created them to have jobs and this usually defines them, whereas women define themselves by their relationships. Men don’t have to take off time when they bear children, their children get sick (if they have a wife at home), and they don’t feel guilt leaving their children all day long like women do because women know deep down that they are the ones who are supposed to be home with their own children.

I believe all godly women need to live their lives as if they may get married and have children some day. The worse thing would be to pursue a college education, amass a large debt, and place this burden upon their husbands when they get married, thus continuing to have to work after having children to pay off their debt. This is insanity to me! There are too many women that tell me they want to come home but are unable due to debt, their living style is too high, or their husbands want them to work because they make a large salary.

Finally, we are to live our lives according to God’s Word, not culture’s path. Young women, prayerfully consider the path you want to take. I encourage you to study God’s Word (all of the verses pertaining to godly womanhood) and make your decisions from doing this instead of watching the way our society’s women are going which has only led to the destruction of our culture. Children grow up to be much more productive members of society when they are loved and nurtured by their mothers during their childhood.

Please, don’t ask me about women being nurses (Do you know how hard it is for women to be on their feet for twelve hour shifts?), teachers, dental assistants or having careers such as these. I can assure you that not all of the women in the world are going to go home full time by reading this post or my blog. There will always be plenty of female nurses and teachers since there are many women who have no desire to be home full time, many more who are not believers so they don’t care about God’s will for their lives, and others who are not convicted that they should be home for their families and not have careers. There’s no need to hyperventilate about it!

Thankfully, I am not the judge of the world. I am only teaching my convictions based upon what I have read in the Word and obeying what the Lord has instructed older women to teach younger women, namely, to be keepers at home so they won’t blaspheme the Word of God which is a terrible thing to do.

Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are ye not much better than they?
Matthew 6:26

Labor not for the meat which perishes, but for the meat which endures unto everlasting life.
John 6:27

Beautifying Her Home With Little

Beautifying Her Home With Little

Bernard O’reilly shares in his book from 1886 titled The Mirror of True Womanhood a story of a young wife who had a husband who was very prosperous in his business. They had six beautiful children and she was known for her kindness and cheerfulness. Her husband’s business, unfortunately, took a dramatic turn for the worse and he was nervous about telling his wife about it.

Many of his friends offered to give him money to support their lifestyle but when he told his wife about it, she told him it would be wiser to sell their home and all of their expensive furnishings and rent a small cottage rather than be in debt to others. He was pleased with her idea so this is what happened.

“But what was the astonishment of friends and relatives, when, after a few days of pity or wonderment, they called on the brave little woman in her new home, to find so fair, so bright, so beautiful! The carpets were plain, it is true, and the furniture was of the commons kind; but chairs and sofas and ottomans had been covered with a chintz so pretty that no one stopped to inquire what was beneath the covering…and the little mistress, with her sunny smile and merry laugh, and the warm hospitable welcome for every friend and acquaintance; and there, too, were the rosy children, as unconscious of any change of fortune.

The little ones saw no change around them, save that the light of their mother’s smile was even more sunny than ever, that she loaded their dear father with fonder caresses and called forth from his big heart louder bursts of joy and mirth, and that she had been busier than ever with her active hands and restless needle in transforming and beautifying the face of things in every room with the smallest possible expense.

And so the happy nestful increased, and the husband rose higher in public confidence and in his noble profession, while his wife bestowed her whole care on the lovely children, whom she educated herself in every branch of learning and in every accomplishment necessary or suitable to their position.

Limited as was their income, neither the husband nor the wife ever bestowed a thought on the expenditure consequent upon such an unbounded and uninterrupted hospitality. The little wife managed to have a bountiful table at all times, never an extravagant one; and thus she never once allowed her household expenses to go beyond her means. What made her table, her drawing-room, the whole atmosphere of her home so full of an undefinable charm, was the love, the innocence, the paradisaical purity and charity which parents and children shed around them.”

May we all aspire to be like this godly wife; for godliness with contentment is great gain.

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
Proverbs 31:30, 31

Careers for Women Came from the Ungodly, Heathen World

Careers for Women Came from the Ungodly, Heathen World

This post is from a YouTube by Traditional Catholic Faith and Morals. It is biblically accurate and worth sharing. I took snippets out of it so it’s not the entire video.

A stay at home mom is often viewed by career women as being a slave, a victim, and having no life.

Many feminists view children as a nuisance, a hindrance to personal success; thus, many blinded women have chosen not to get married, not to bear children and not to guide the house. These ideas are evil.

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1 Timothy 5:14

God never intended for women to pursue careers at the expense of motherhood. God intended for women to be keepers at home.

To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:5

God wants young women to be keepers at home – baking, cooking, sewing, doing laundry, teachers of her children, taking care of family business, and being a help meet to her husband anyway she can. That’s why God created the woman – to help her husband.

And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
Genesis 2:18

The idea of a woman having a career came from the ungodly, heathen world and not from the Scriptures. God never intended for women to be executives, cops, helicopter pilots, lawyers, realtors, soldiers, etc.

Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.
1 Timothy 2:15

Modern apostate society treats women just like men, as a consequence, women now act like men.

Many people see no harm in women pursuing professional careers, but when it comes down to reality these types of women act and think like men.

They are decisive, strong-willed, tough, loud mouthed, demanding, dominant and lack the biblical traits God desires in a Christian woman.

She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house.
Proverbs 7:11

(Yes, this is a verse concerning prostitutes but many women are prostituting themselves on the idol of feminism and unfortunately, many are sexually promiscuous and acting like prostitutes as well.)

A career woman is very far from what God intended for her to be.

She looks well to the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness.
Proverbs 31:27

Feminism is a “social movement” that demands it all. It makes us like men. It makes us infertile, frustrated, unhappy, and empty inside. There is no true happiness in feminism. It is against our own nature!

Women will only find true freedom when they believe in Christ and submit their lives to God’s holy law.

For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; and they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables.
2 Timothy 4:3, 4

Feminists’ Leaders Had Terrible Mothers

Feminists’ Leaders Had Terrible Mothers

Did you know that the modern feminist movement began with three women who had terrible childhoods. “How ironic that these three intelligent women (Betty Friedan, Germaine Greer, and Gloria Steinem), none of women is currently married, have so influenced our current notions of family and motherhood” (Dr. Brenda Hunter).

In the chat room, we have been discussing the book Home By Choice by Dr. Hunter. If you ever want to be convinced of the value of mothers at home with their children, I encourage you to buy this book and read it carefully. Dr. Hunter was raised by a single mother and tells of the fear and loneliness she felt growing up without a mother at home most of the time.

She also explains how children need a mother at home whether they are an infant or a teenager. The infant needs all of their needs taken care of and the warmth of a mother to bond with and a teenager needs a mother at home to guide and encourage them through the turbulent teenage years.

A mother at home is a steady, comforting presence for her husband and her children. But she must be a wife and mother who is actively involved in their lives and looking well to the ways of her household. She must be willing to take time to listen to them, look them in the eyes, and show them plenty of love and affection.

In her book, Dr. Hunter shares that when children don’t have a mother at home, there is a much greater possibility that they will become involved in sex, drugs, and alcohol. I saw this happening to the peers in my high school who had working mothers. Their lives seemed aimless and empty so they filled it with things that harmed them. I never wanted to do any of those things because I knew it would hurt my mother badly and I loved my her deeply. She was there for me my entire childhood and thus, I grew up to be loved and secure.

Yes, the three major women who began the modern feminists movement came from broken homes and had distant mothers. They had never experienced a warm and loving mother with intact parents. Yet, they were used by the enemy to cause dissatisfaction among millions of mothers who left their homes and gave their children the same lonely childhoods that these three women experienced. Tragic.

Go home, mothers, and nurture your own children. If you are a single mother or widow, ask the Lord to make a way for you to go home since your children need you there regardless of your circumstances. Trust God and then step out in faith believing that He will provide what He has commanded.

As for God, his way is perfect: the word of the LORD is tried:
he is a buckler to all those that trust in him.

Psalm 18:30

The High Priority of Earning an Income

The High Priority of Earning an Income

Have you noticed how today’s stay-at-home mothers love to try and convince their husbands that their jobs at home are so much harder than having to go to work all day like their husbands do? I read this silly spoof about a husband staying home for a day but realized that it’s never a woman having to go to her husband’s job for an entire day in any of these spoofs. No, the spoof is always about a husband who becomes a woman for a day and finds out how difficult it is to keep a home and raise a family.

A woman made this comment under this article on Facebook where it was shared: “I tell you what! God willing, I’d rather work for a earning, till I no longer can work; be independent, than be a stay at home mother, being house cleaner, window cleaner, curtain cleaner, taxi driver all afternoon, and the list can grow and grow.”

In our culture, earning an income has value and raising children and being home full time does not. I have stay-at-home mothers write and tell me that they don’t feel productive because they aren’t bringing in money. These thoughts aren’t from the Lord. He calls mothers to be keepers at home since this is a full-time job, especially when the children are little. These small children grow up very quickly and if a mother has disciplined and trained her children properly, her life gets a whole lot easier.

I am a full-time wife now. My children are long gone and I have the blessing of being able to mentor many women, watch my grandchildren, and help when needed. Ken still works his tail off to provide. No, you’re wrong culture! A man’s job is never ending and most women’s job does end; at least the hard part of disciplining and training and caring for young children. Being home full time is a blessing and a joy!

“You and I know that love is the world’s most powerful motivator. So love your home – love being there and love managing it, watching over it, keeping it, and, yes, cleaning up the mess. Love will enable you and empower you to tackle it, master it, and excel at it. Turn to the Lord to fire up your passion in your heart to manage your home His way…in a loving, serving, sacrificial capacity.” (Elizabeth George)

Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the Lord keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain. It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows: for so he giveth his beloved sleep.
Psalm 127:1, 2

My Viral Post

My Viral Post

This is a repost from a year ago when a post of mine went viral!

Yes, I had a post go viral. It didn’t go viral because the women loved what I said in the post. It was because they hated it and it made them angry. One woman even told me to remove it since it was so evil. What was this evil post?

It’s just evil, isn’t it? Just sixty years ago, I could write this same post and it would be received as normal living for women. The majority of women had as many children as the Lord blessed them with and were full-time homemakers. Their husbands were the ones working hard outside of the home providing a living. The women were working hard inside of the home for the family. They all knew their place in the family. Women depended upon their husbands to support them and men depended upon their wives to bear children and take care of the family. 

My mom only completed high school. She was a full-time mother as well as most of her friends. They all married around 20 or 21 years old and stayed married until death did they part. All of her friends were full-time mothers. Children were cared for by their mothers full-time. Dads worked hard to provide. No one thought anything about it. It was just the way it was and always had been. Who changed this? Was it from the Lord that caused women to leave their homes in pursuit of higher education and careers thus leaving their homes and children in a mass exodus or the enemy of their souls?

It was the feminist movement. Have you ever studied how the feminist movement and birth control entered this nation? Roxanne Dunbar, author of the book Female Liberation wrote: “How will the family unit be destroyed? … the demand alone will throw the whole ideology of the family into question, so that women can begin establishing a community of work with each other and we can fight collectively. Women will feel freer to leave their husbands and become economically independent, either through a job or welfare.”

The introduction of birth control was just as evil. “The most serious evil of our times is that of encouraging the bringing into the world of large families. The most immoral practice of the day is breeding too many children,” she wrote.“The most merciful thing that the large family does to one of its infant members is to kill it.” (Margaret Sanger).

So my question to you, Christian women, is why have you allowed Satanic inventions influence your life? This is something you will have to wrestle with. I hate birth control because of what it has caused – the long term consequences of it, namely 58 million babies slaughtered in the womb. I fault the feminist movement for all of the children being raised by strangers instead of their mothers, plus all of the divorces that have been perpetuated upon marriages, the confusion of roles in marriage, and the extreme wing that wants to see no differences between men and women.

Yes, I was attacked viciously on this post and other posts close to it. No, I am not bothered by it. I have been viciously attacked since I began blogging. This should come as no surprise to any of you. The world hates God’s ways. I love His ways and will teach them to whoever will listen as long as the Lord allows me to do this. They judge me constantly; the same thing they are accusing me of doing. I have never called anyone a name, ridiculed or treated those with whom I disagree with disdain and disrespectful foul language.  

Many believe that America is a place of tolerance, yet far too many are now trained by the system to attack any ideas that seem to go against their worldly agenda.  I am comfortable standing on the Truth as I know Who has my back and He who is in me is greater than he who is in the world. They are being blinded by the enemy of their souls. We are commanded to speak Truth in love and plant seeds where we can. This is what I do and I love doing it. I also love watching God send thousands of new readers to my blog and Facebook. What Satan intends for evil, God can use to help pull His remnant together so that together we can support each other in the ways of the Lord.

Don’t feel badly for me when I get hateful comments. We have been promised in Scripture that we will be hated because He was hated. This is nothing new. Jesus spoke the most radical words at the nexus of history that exploded forth the greatest display of God’s salvation by way of the cross. They hated the creator God so much that they murdered His Son, and God turned their hate into the greatest good for mankind. Yes, pray for me and my ministry, and be an unashamed light in a world that is quickly growing dark with sin and blindness. Continue to do what the Lord has commanded you to do and store your treasures in heaven. The time is short. So recognize that anyone can replace you in a job, but no one can replace you as a godly wife to your husband and as a loving mother to your children. 

The name of the LORD is a strong tower: the righteous runs into it, and is safe.
Proverbs 18:10

*My post was carried in two different news sources.

What I Love About Being Home Full Time

What I Love About Being Home Full Time

Ever since I had my second son thirty two years ago, I have been home full time except for a few teacher substituting jobs one year. I love being home full time and it’s all I’ve ever wanted.

I love never having to wake up to an alarm. If I’ve had a rough night of sleep or can’t sleep, I don’t worry about it because I know I don’t have to go to a job in the morning.

I love Mondays just as much as I love Fridays and Saturdays!

I love not having to fight traffic in the morning but instead get to write, read, and study my Bible, then have devotions with Ken and cuddle every morning.

I love not having to submit to a boss who doesn’t care much about me but instead I get to submit to my husband who loves me, provides for me, and has committed his life to me.

I loved being able to be home for my children and getting up each morning to fix them breakfast and read them the Bible as they ate. I loved being home when they were sick to care for them and when they got home from school to hear about their day. I loved being able to homeschool them for a few years and have the freedom to take them to the beach or do other fun things. I loved being the one to train, discipline and teach them.

I love being home when my children, who now live far away, come to visit and I can be here with them full time to make their time as pleasant as can be by watching their children, fixing them food, and keeping the home clean and tidy.

I love being available to watch my three grandchildren, who live close by, for three days like I did last week while their parents got away for the first time alone since they were married.

I love being able to go visit my old parents, take my mom out to lunch, and bring her homemade soup. Tonight, we’re all going out to celebrate their 65 years of marriage!

I love being able to have a wonderful salad every day whenever I want for lunch. I get to sit in the beauty of my own home or in my backyard and eat it at my leisure.

I loved being able to garden when I was younger and healthier and now have the time to lay out in the sun for the vitamin D.

I love being able to go out to lunch with friends and/or sisters on the spur of the moment and have my best friend call to ask if she can come visit for a week and being able to say, “Yes!”

I love knowing I’m right where the Lord wants me to be and I’m so happy about it!

I love being free to mentor women when needed, write for my blog, write a book, run a chat room, and have plenty of time for this ministry to women.

I love being able to take long walks with Ken every day since I have the energy because I didn’t have to work outside at a job all day long.

I love having a husband who has worked very hard our entire marriage in order for me to be home.

I love being able to be home full time!

He maketh the barren woman to keep house, and to be a joyful mother of children. Praise ye the LORD.
Psalm 113:9

***The picture at the top is my almost finished remodeled kitchen! Our old sink was completely rusted out so it leaked and our stove top didn’t work well, plus our counter-tops (Corian) had cracks in it so we changed to granite, an amazing sink (Blanco which is 80% granite), and a new stainless steel stove-top. We then had our cabinets painted an off-white (replacing them is way too expensive!) and had a great tile guy create our back-splash with natural stone and glass tiles. We will paint the walls a warm beige in the fall (yes, the sunflowers will go). One thing I do notice is that products made by God (wood floors, granite counter-tops and sinks, and stone tiles) are far more beautiful and stronger than anything man can make!

Tired of a Filthy Home?

Tired of a Filthy Home?

Ken and I love to walk along the beach. On Sunday night, we walked along the beach to our favorite little hole-in-the-wall restaurant where we sat outside on the patio with the late afternoon sun on our faces and we watched one of the waitresses tidying up the patio by fluffing and arranging the pillows. She worked on making it look clean and tidy. We eventually struck up a conversation with her and she told us that she is an immaculate housekeeper. She loves cleanliness and tidiness. I asked her if her mom was like this and she said she indeed was so she was blessed to be trained by a mother who worked hard in her home since few women do these days.

Men build houses but women make them into homes. Bernard O’reilly wrote this about a woman who loves making her house into a home:“There will be loveliness in the home where true love causes order and comfort to reign. For the poorest room can be made lovely by a woman’s cunning hand. She can have flowers at her window, and flowers on her mantel and table. And the curtains of windows and bed may be beautified by some simple ornament devised by a woman’s taste and executed in spare moments by the hand of even the busiest.”

If your home is a mess and you’re just sick of it, I have a great verse for you to memorize and meditate upon. The soul of the sluggard desireth, and hath nothing: but the soul of the diligent shall be made fat (Proverbs 13:4). In order to have a clean and tidy home, you must learn to be diligent and willing to work hard as the Lord has commanded for us to do.

Diligent means “constant in effort or exertion to accomplish what is undertaken; assiduous; attentive; industrious; not idle or negligent; applied to persons.” Laying around and being lazy isn’t going to give you a clean and tidy home. You must discipline your flesh and make it your slave!

Gill’s Commentary puts it this way: “The soul of the sluggard desireth, and hath nothing,…. He desires knowledge, but does not care to be at any pains to get it, and so has it not; he desires riches, but chooses not to make use of the means, to be diligent and industrious, and so he is without them; he desires to wear good clothes and rich raiment, but is unwilling to labour for them, and therefore is clothed with rags; he desires food, and plenty of it, but refuses to work for it; and he that will not work should not eat, and therefore he has it not, but starves and famishes: and, in spiritual things, the sluggard desires heaven and happiness, but does not care to do the duties of religion; he would die the death of the righteous, but is unwilling to live his life; to abstain from sin, and live soberly and righteously, is too hard service for him; he does not choose to do or suffer anything for the cause of Christ and true religion.”

Many in our culture are lazy, refuse to work, and want handouts. Train yourself and your children to work hard. You won’t accomplish anything good in this life by being lazy. As Gill wrote, you won’t grow in the wisdom and knowledge of Him if you don’t spend time in His Word. Laziness is a terrible sin and must be dealt with. The best way to deal with it is to confess it and find ways to fight against it.

Join flylady and begin to make baby steps by cleaning up your kitchen and shining your sink at least once a day. Make your bed every single day. Go around your home each day and fluff up pillows, put them in order, and feather your nest! Read a chapter in the Bible every single day. Clean the toilet after you use it if it looks like it needs to be cleaned. Rinse out the sink after using it and use the towel to wipe down the counter top. Pick things up off the floor when you see them and put them away. Get rid of clutter and things you don’t use! Teach your children to help. Commit to doing these small things for 30 days and they will begin to be a habit, then you will no longer have a filthy home.

Whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men.
Colossians 3:23

Depression and Suicide is Skyrocketing Among Women

Depression and Suicide is Skyrocketing Among Women

“The suicide rate is up 63% for women aged 45-65 and up 200% for girls aged 10-14,” wrote Jamieson Webster, a clinical psychologist, in her article Why are Suicides in Women Rising? Why is this happening so dramatically in women?

“Many patients struggle in their role as women, something that has taken on a particular exigency because of drastic changes in gender dynamics. The women I see are often anxious and cannot reconcile ideas concerning work and family, what it is to be a successful woman and a mother, to say nothing of the demands of maintenance placed on their bodies. They are disappointed and they feel disappointing.” She falsely believes that women need more “rights,” more independence, and more leadership positions in order to become mentally stable.

The reasons women are so depressed and suicidal these days are because they have lost their way and are so far from the narrow path that they are supposed to be on, thus they are left confused and depressed. How can we leave the life that our Creator created for us and expect to find satisfaction and joy? Way too many women have been raised in broken homes and/or without mothers home full time because their mothers refused to make “narrow path” choices. This is the result of feminism and lies, not from “a lack of child-care support and maternity leave, as well as male dominance in the workplace,” as Jamieson concluded.

She also believes that women suffer from“a wandering womb that would suffocate a woman from the inside.” No, the womb isn’t suffocating women from the inside. It is God’s perfect design and gift to women. Most women have no idea that they were created by their Creator to be wives and mothers and use their wombs to bear and raise children because they aren’t being taught this anywhere in our culture, not even in the church. The narrow path is ignored.

Instead, they are being taught to pursue higher education, a career, have multiple sexual partners, use birth control, have abortions, and “live” life before being tied down. When they finally get married, they make sure they keep their false sense of freedom by staying in their careers and leaving their children in the care of strangers while they stay on the hamster wheel away from home.

In her book Home By Choice, Dr. Brenda Hunter found from her study that babies who are unable to bond with their mothers full time because their mothers work, grow up to be emotionally unstable and insecure. “We’ve radically altered the way we rear our children. It’s just never happened in history that we’ve imposed such early separations of such a lasting duration. It’s a big human experiment that has a huge price tag…severe separations in early childhood can create ‘scars on the brain.'”

Our children need continuing parental care to have a sense of wholeness. They need someone at home who’s passionately concerned about them, not just during the early years but over the long haul. Even beyond infancy and toddlerhood, children need someone to be present during most of the hours they are at home. Someone needs to be available on a daily basis to educate, love, nurture, discipline, and guide…If a mother wants to rear a child who will leave home with a sturdy sense of self, she needs to be there for her child during his growing up years.”

If you were not bonded and raised with a mother full time and struggle with depression, are there answers for you? Yes! If you believe God’s Word, there are definitely answers for you, for the battle is in the mind.

Jeff Vanderstelt wrote a great article called How to Win the War For Your Mind. “We need to take captive our thoughts and examine them. To take something captive is to take control of it and put it in a controlled environment — like putting a ferocious animal in a cage. Then, we need to take a close look at our thoughts and consider what we are thinking or believing and why.” If God says He gives us a “sound mind” (2 Timothy 1:7) I believe Him and who is to argue with Him BUT we must take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ and dwell on the lovely and the good as He has told us to do, along with being transformed by renewing our minds with truth.

Everyone talks about hormones being a cause of depression. I had almost NO hormones for many months before hormone replacement and yes, I could tell my body was not thriving and something was terribly wrong with me, but I had NO depression. Even through my many years of illness and pain, whenever I began to feel like I was getting depressed, I would immediately take my thoughts captive and remind myself that I can indeed do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me and that the joy of the LORD is my strength. (I do know there are some mind-altering drugs with the side effects of depression and suicide. Stay away from those, if at all possible.)

 If you struggle with depression, begin reading Philippians 3 and 4 every day for a month. Highlight verses that stand out, circle words that mean something to you, and memorize your favorite verses. Allow His Word to dwell in you richly. Then go to Romans 6 and 8 and do the same thing. Find out who you are in Christ, that you are dead and freed from sin, and now walk in newness of life and see that you, too, can be transformed by renewing your mind with the truth of God’s Word, just as He promises you will.

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
Romans 12:1, 2

Happy to Say “I am a Wife and Mother!”

Happy to Say “I am a Wife and Mother!”

Once in a while, I listen to Dennis Prager on the radio. I enjoy him because his values are the same as mine and he is kind. Yesterday, he shared that he asked one woman what she does for a living and she pondered for a minute and answered, “I am a domestic engineer.” He went on to say how badly he felt that women today can no longer simply answer, “A wife and mother” but needs to make up some fancy description to describe the most important job in the world – raising children into adults.

Anyone can take the place of an astronaut, an engineer, a doctor, or name any other career out there, but no one can take the place of a mother in a child’s life. If you are married and have children, no one can take your place and your time and energy should be going to caring for these important people in your life, not given to strangers who could replace you in a blink of an eye.

Dennis also brought up something that happened in the Australian Parliament. A senator nursed her baby while the Parliament was in session. She has no problem showing her breasts to men while she is nursing her baby. Why not? Men can go shirtless and there’s no problem with it. Since men and women are now equal in every way, according to feminism, this shouldn’t be a problem, right? Wrong. They fail to realize that men will always have an attraction for women’s breasts. God made them this way: “Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love” (Proverbs 5:19).

Then I hear of Ivanka Trump trying to convince her father, our President, to create another enormous government program to pay for childcare for mothers so they can have careers and not worry about the financial situation. All of these are lies that our culture keeps screaming at us and trying to pull us away from the life that God has planned for us!

God made you a woman for a reason. He gave you a womb to bear children. He gave you breasts to nourish your baby and satisfy your husband. He made you soft for your baby to cuddle with you and your husband to enjoy. He made you the weaker vessel and your husband stronger to provide and protect you. He made you love beauty so you could use your desire for beauty to make your homes places of beauty for your families and all who enter. It’s all a part of His wonderful and perfect plan for you.

The job the Lord has given you at home is holy, women. Since God has created you to be keepers at home, being a keeper at home is set apart and as you clean, cook, and care for your family, you are doing it in service to the Lord and as an act of worship to Him. This culture is trying to tell you that these things don’t matter and you were called to more “important” things but it’s not true. It’s all a lie from the enemy of our soul who tries to continually encourage women to blaspheme the Word of God (Titus 2:5).

Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God (1 Corinthians 10:31). Raise your children to the glory of God. Clean your home to the glory of God. Cook nourishing food for your family to the glory of God. Dress modestly for the glory of God. Make love to your husband to the glory of God. All of this pleases Him and this is all that matters.

“God sanctifies our work. Feed the hungry. Give drink to the thirsty. Clothe the naked. Hey! I do that everyday! Who knew that I could be completing the corporal works of mercy right in my own home?” (from the article “Asking for a drink,” Soul Gardening, A Mother’s Journal).

Why do people today call us radical for following God’s plans for us? It’s not. They are the ones who have radically veered from the ancient paths set for them from the beginning. We are on the right path – the narrow path that leads to life! Never be ashamed to say that you are a wife and mother for this pleases the Lord and know that all of your work, if done for the Lord, in your home and for your family is not in vain.

Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye stedfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, forasmuch as ye know that your labour is not in vain in the Lord.
1 Corinthians 15:58