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Arrayed and Acting Like a Harlot

Arrayed and Acting Like a Harlot

There met him a woman with the attire of a harlot, and subtil of heart. She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house (Proverbs 7:10, 11). I decided to dig into these verses to find out the opposite of what we are called to be and study the qualities of a harlot from the old commentaries to make sure none of us can be accused of any of her ways. There are many women who act as harlots today by their behavior, clothing, and willingness to defile the marriage bed by having affairs, divorcing their husbands, and remarrying another man.

The attire of a harlot is described as “showy gaudy garments, such as the Athenian whores wore, or sort ones, as the Romans; the word signifies one fitted to her body, neat and well shaped, to recommend her: so the woman, the whore of Rome, is said to be arrayed in purple and scarlet color, and decked with gold, and precious stones, and pearlrs; signifying the outward pomp and splendor or the Romish religion, designed to captivate weak and unwary minds” (Gill’s Exposition).

From this old commentary, we are given some guidelines about what is considered immodest. Wearing showy, gaudy garments designed to show off and draw attention to ourselves is not being ‘shamefaced’ (1 Timothy 2:9) as we are called to do. The word ‘modest’ not only describes covering up but includes not spending a lot of money on our clothing and not being excessive or extreme in the amount of clothing we own, as many are prone to do today. We need to learn to deny ourselves and not live for what we want but for what God commands.

It’s shameful how packed full most of our closets are with clothing that we never wear. Our time and money shouldn’t be spent at the malls and pouring over the Internet for more clothes to buy; for godliness with contentment is great gain. Let’s not be known for how we dress but for how kind and loving we speak and act instead.

Our clothing must not be too short or too form fitting, as to show off our bodies in order to entice men. Our desire should never be to try to attract attention by the clothes we wear or cause men to stumble and lust after us but to cover up and respect the men in our lives.

“In Revelation 17:14, the harlot is ‘arrayed in purple and scarlet, and decked with gold and precious stones and pearls;’ and in the present case the female is dressed in some conspicuous garments, very different from the sober clothing of the pure and modest” (Pulpit Commentary). In comparing the harlot to the pure and modest woman, this commentary uses the word ‘sober’ to describe the clothing that we are to wear which simply means being serious in our walk with the Lord and obeying what He has commanded us to do in all areas of our lives. We don’t need to be known for having the latest fashion designs, but for caring more about our good works and others; for this brings glory to the Lord.

Next, the harlot is known for being subtil of heart. “Feigning love to her husband and devotion to her lovers, yet caring for none, only to satisfy her own passions” (Ellicott’s Commentary). She is selfish, self-seeking, and doesn’t care who she hurts in the process. Sadly, many women, even Christian women, don’t care about causing harm to their husbands and children as they divorce their husbands because they aren’t happy, fulfilled, or any other adjective they use to justify their selfish behavior. They tear their homes down with their own hands by not being faithful to the husband of their youth.

She is “open to all impressions of evil, empty-headed and empty-hearted; lounging near the house of ill-repute, not as yet deliberately purposing to sin, but placing herself in the way of it at a time when the pure in heart would seek their home” (Barnes’ Notes). As you will notice in the commentaries concerning “her feet abide not in her house,” all of these men of old knew and taught that women were to be keepers at home, not out and about. (This is studied in more detail below.) Strive to be known as women who are pure in heart and seek the good of your homes. This is your God-ordained workplace, not finding amusements elsewhere.

She is loud and stubborn…

She was “clamorous, noisy, and talkative, when she has got her gallant with her; pouring out foolish and unchaste words to allure and entice him; unless it is to be understood of her bawling and scolding, when within doors, at her husband, in order to get him out, and be rid of him; to whom she is ‘stubborn’ and ‘rebellious’, breaking the covenant with him, and disobeying his commands; and departing from him, declining out of the way; speaking rebellion: all which agree with the whore of Rome, who is rebellious against Christ, whose spouse she professes to be; is perfidious to him, disobedient to his commandments; is gone out of the way of his truths and ordinances, and publishes and encourages everything that is contrary thereunto; as well as has a mouth speaking blasphemies” (Gill’s Exposition).

She was know for scolding her husband and being stubborn and rebellious towards him. Do the words stubborn and rebellious describe you? Do you insist on your way like a bull dog with a rag in its mouth? Do you treat him more as a child than your husband? Do you refuse to submit to his leadership and obey him in everything?

The harlot was known for “disobeying his commands” whereas we are commanded to obey our husbands as well as reverence, submit to, please, and serve them. Let this come from a heart that wants to please the Lord in everything and joyfully submitting to your husband’s commands. As we live in submission to our husbands, we are living in submission to our Lord.

She “publishes and encourages everything that is contrary thereunto; as well as has a mouth speaking blasphemies.” This reminds me of feminism and their leaders who have published books and articles encouraging women to do things that are completely opposed to what the Lord has called us to do. They have completely twisted God’s beautiful role for women and femininity and made it into something ugly and vulgar: independence from men, being away from the home, careers, pushing birth control, abortion, immodesty, and all types of evil.

“She hides her real feelings, feigning, perhaps, affection for a husband, or love for her paramour (lover), while she seeks only to satisfy her evil passions” (Pulpit Commentary). She doesn’t know how to love. She is not patient and kind. She doesn’t bear all things, believe all things, hope all things, and endure all things. She is a covenant breaker and her heart is hard and not transformed by the power of the Lord. She will reap the bad fruit she sows.

“She is full of talk, self-willed, disobedient to her husband, rebellious against God, and incorrigible by any admonitions of ministers or friends” (Benson Commentary). She may say she is a believer but her actions are contrary to her words; having a form of godliness but denying the power thereof (2 Timothy 3:5).

Her feet abide not in her house…

She is not a “keeper at home as St. Paul would have Christian matrons to be” (Ellicott’s Commentary). God commands older women to teach the younger women to be keepers at home. Apparently, younger women don’t naturally want to be keepers at home just as they don’t want to obey their husbands, dress modestly, be sober, good, chaste, and discreet, therefore, they must be taught all of these qualities by godly, older women who have hopefully acquired them.

“She minds not her business, which lies in her own house, but give herself wholly up to idleness and pleasure, which she seeks in gadding abroad, and in changing her place and company” (Benson Commentary). Our business is in our homes, women. This is where we are called to work hard by being help meets to our husband, mothers to our children, cooking, cleaning, washing, and all the other work in the home.

If any of this is neglected due to time on the Internet, watching television, shopping, ministries outside of the home, and entertainments, please seriously consider changing your life around to focus your time and energies upon what the Lord has called you to do: be in your home as keepers at home. Never be accused of “gadding abroad”; seeking pleasures outside of your home when things at home are unfinished or falling apart.

“She minds not her business, which lies at home, but gives up herself wholly to idleness and pleasure, which she seeks abroad with other men” (Matthew Poole’s Commentary). There are few women who were trained to keep clean and tidy homes. Our culture is an entertainment and pleasure-seeking one. Most children weren’t raised to work hard or have much responsibility in the home but this doesn’t mean that you must stay this way. You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you, including learning to work hard at home and serving your husband and children.

She fails “to attend the business of it; but site is gadding abroad to seek her lovers, and bring them in; it is the character of good women that they are keepers at home, but it is the sign of a harlot to gad abroad” (Gill’s Exposition). Did you notice that he wrote that the character of women is to be keepers at home? Yes, this is our calling and when we are “gadding abroad” we are blaspheming the Word of God since He is the One who calls us to be keepers at home.

“She is the opposite of the careful, modest housewife, who stays at home and manages her family affairs – always restless” (Pulpit Commentary). A perfect description for a godly woman is one who is careful, a modest housewife (not forward or boastful but virtuous), staying at home and managing family affairs. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. The majority of her time and energy are in her work at home.

I often hear of women saying they are bored at home. Well, you know what? Women who work at jobs outside of the home get bored, too. Being bored isn’t wrong or bad but complaining about it is so decide to not say you’re bored anymore and find things to keep yourself busy, even if this means fixing meals for mothers who just had a baby, writing encouraging letters to others, calling your parents, visiting the elderly, and any number of ways to minister to others but make sure you are never neglecting your duties at home and with your family; for this is God’s high calling upon your life.

Drastic Do’s and Don’ts

Drastic Do’s and Don’ts

When I was a little girl, my parents attended Lake Avenue Church in Pasadena, CA. Ray Ortlund was the well-beloved pastor at this time and my parents became good friends with him and his wife, Anne. When I was five years old, my parents moved about an hour away but Anne would come out to our home to give Bible Studies. As an older women now, I love her writings (except for her book about marriage which I wasn’t too crazy about). The following was at the end of her book Disciplines of the Home and she shares wisdom we all should strive to obtain.

Lord, I’m not going to try to drag my family back to yesterday – that’s impossible. But I want to go back to the Bible and courageously follow what You want us to do, together as a family.

Lord, I’m not going to divorce, from here on, ever. (If you now have a marriage partner.) As I did when we married, I surrender my heart again to lifelong commitment, faithfulness, love.

Lord, give me the courage to slow down, to truly seek to capture the elegance, the grace, of a more simple life, as You desire for me. Work this in me as I surrender to Your Spirit’s control.

Lord, I’m going to seek a lifestyle to stay close to my kids until they’re out of the nest. Please make them great men and women of God.

Lord, as a loving, faithful Father, please continue to discipline me, and help me to do the same with those You have given me.

Lord, with the loving firmness of Your Holy Spirit, I’m going to slash the TV watching.

Lord, I want to model and teach “male” and “female.” (Yes, this book was written in 1990. Oh, if only Anne could see how important these words are for today.)

Lord, I want to model and teach respect for authority.

Lord, I want to seek after the values of Your Word, and model and teach them to my children.

Lord, I want to believe You. “Help me overcome my unbelief!” (Mark 9:24) I want to live not in unhealthy fears but in joyous trust in You.

Lord, in these precious years, teach our family to “cocoon” – to love our home, our table, our family altar.

Lord, please preside over our finances. And as we handle them in obedience to you, I trust You to care for all our needs.

For whether we live, we live unto the Lord; and whether we die, we die unto the Lord: whether we live therefore, or die, we are the Lord’s.
Romans 14:8

There is Hope and There is Light

There is Hope and There is Light

This marriage testimony was given in the chat room from a woman who wishes to remain anonymous.

I want to take a moment and share an experience with you ladies who have husbands who are not only disobedient to the Word, but in direct contrast with it. I was sorting through years of paperwork this morning and I found some very old receipts and statements. I found my husband’s ambulance bill from when he crashed his car into a house while driving drunk. I found his income statement for that same year: $5700. I found a credit card bill with his mother’s signature. Court documents. Prescriptions for antidepressants.

God used this to show me how far he has come. I am guilty of having high expectations of my husband. God used this to show me that my husband is a transformed and redeemed man now; born again. These events happened just seven and a half years ago in 2009. My husband is seven and a half years clean and sober. He has held the same job for seven years this September, received several promotions, and now makes ten times the amount he made in 2009.

We both got saved in 2012 and he is growing as a man of God every single day. He has never been one to read the Bible often, but I have been struggling with depression and it has been very difficult these past few weeks. He has been praying over me and reading devotions to me at night and sometimes in the morning, too. We recently bought a house, and although we have a little debt (we are working on that), all our bills are paid and he even has retirement investments through work. He is a completely changed man, and I forget that often.

I want to share with you, ladies, because I want to show you that those of you who are walking with your husband during his darkest days, there is hope and there is light. There is a way with Christ Jesus. Even before I was a believer I prayed for my husband, and I have done it without ceasing for five years now. Fight your battles on your knees and know that no matter how depraved and disobedient your husband may seem there is hope for him yet. Be his advocate and his helper. Be loyal and give him the assurance that you will be there when no one else is. And learn to appreciate how far he has come, rather than how much further he has to go.

The people which sat in darkness saw great light; and to them which sat in the region and shadow of death light is sprung up.
Matthew 4:16

Rush Limbaugh Gets a Lesson on Submission

Rush Limbaugh Gets a Lesson on Submission

Rush Limbaugh received a telephone call yesterday from a woman named Angela. She’s a Christian who has been married 27 years and is a wise woman!

They were discussing a new policy that has been instituted at Princeton. If you don’t believe that universities are poisoning our culture (as Dennis Prager consistently states on his radio program), you sure will now.

RUSH: Princeton – they’re setting up a person to guard against and advise against and to rehabilitate men that are too masculine on campus. Princeton University’s ‘Men’s Engagement Manager’ to Battle Aggressive Masculinity.”

ANGELA: “It’s terrible. And I believe that’s the downfall of our society. Men aren’t allowed to be real men…Women are not allowed to be feminine. They’re not allowed to take care of their husbands. They’re looked down on if they enjoy doing that. They’re not allowed to be submissive to their husbands, and no one can control the children. The children are basically running everything…I believe that the husband should be the head of the house and responsible for the family, and that the woman should do whatever her husband wants her to do.”

Then Rush wanted to know exactly what she meant by the word submission and he made these comments in order to clarify what it doesn’t mean.

It’s not superior status and secondary status.”

The way you mean it is not a put-down of women…The husband’s responsibility is X; the wife’s is X.”

When you say ‘submissive,’ you don’t mean dominated and dominating.”

ANGELA: “I try to submit to my husband and do whatever it is that he wishes me to do. But my husband is not a dominating, hateful man.”

RUSH: “So you’re not a prisoner…Some people might think you’re painting a picture here where you might be a subservient wife with no power.”

RUSH: “He says, ‘Get me my slippers!’ and there you go off and get the slippers. ‘Rub my feet!’ and there you are rubbing his feet. You’re not talking about that?”

ANGELA: “No. Although I would do that for him if he asked me to.”

Here Rush has painted her in a corner and she answered, “No” but qualified that she absolutely would do anything her husband asked her to do as she had stated previously; “the woman should do whatever her husband wants her to do.” She has no problem serving and pleasing her husband!

RUSH: I’m telling you, there are a lot of men listening to this saying, ‘If only.’ Don’t doubt me on this…But, yeah, Mr. Snerdley wants to know if your husband realizes how lucky he is?”

Rush knows that a woman builds up her home or tears it down with her own hands (or mouth). He understands the power women have in a home and how destructive feminism has been for marriage and family.

Submission is not something a husband can force. Submission doesn’t make a husband dominant and cruel. It’s God’s perfect prescription for women to actually win their husbands (1 Peter 3:1) and adorn themselves (1 Peter 3:5). It’s a beautiful word that culture has twisted and made to look ugly as they miss out on strong, happy marriages while marching down the broad path that leads to destruction. Stay on the narrow path that leads to life, women. Live in cheerful submission to your husbands; for this not only pleases the Lord but makes your husband a very lucky (blessed) man!

For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands.

1 Peter 3:5

Men Need Gentle Women in Their Lives

Men Need Gentle Women in Their Lives

Many women who want to be home full time with their children have a problem with their husbands wanting the same things. Most of these husbands had mothers who weren’t home full time to nurture and give them emotional support, therefore, they don’t understand what they missed but it does affect them deeply. They usually have a hard time being emotionally close to their wives because of the lack of motherly care and affection.

Dr. Brenda Hunter in Home By Choice explains how important it is for full-time mothers to have husbands who are supportive of their roles at home. If your husband is not, give it to the Lord daily in prayer and ask Him to convict and change your husband’s mind. Also, your appeal to him to stay home will be more accepted if you are living as a godly, kind, and submissive wife to him.

Then the author goes on to explain the horrible effect feminism has had on men. “American males are not only angry and confused, but they are exhausted from trying to live up to performance standards they feel women impose. Modern men must be sensitive, but not wimps; they should exhibit ‘tempered macho,’ and be super successful in their careers.”

Men are not supposed to open a woman’s door or help her out of a chair. If he says anything to her when she is immodestly dressed, he may be considered for sexual harassment. In short, men are not supposed to act like men, according to feminism. They want men to act like women and women to act like men! They don’t know what they want because the further one wanders from the truth, the more difficult it is to figure life out. What’s right is wrong and what’s wrong is right.

The author’s solution for men these days – a gentle woman! “A gentle woman can teach a man to be gentle, respectful, and reverent of her womanhood as complementary to his own manhood.” You know, that winning them without a word by godly, chaste behavior and having a meek and quiet spirit. God knew exactly what men needed when He provided a mother to raise them and a wife to be a help meet to them when they married.

Studies have proven that boys suffer more than girls if their mom returns to work. Boys all the way up to men were created to need women in their lives to care for and encourage them. “The point of this brief examination of male vulnerability (from the book Home By Choice) is to assert that sons and husbands need the women in their lives to nurture them, appreciate them, and express interest in their lives. As little boys or as high-powered executives, males suffer from female neglect…all men need sensitive women in their lives.” Sadly, few of them are receiving this these days.

Then she shares about the “father hunger” that so many men suffer with today. “Many men suffer from father hunger, not only from fathers who were absent, but also from fathers who were passive or uninvolved.” This is so common. In fact, she stated that there are few people today who were deeply loved and nurtured by both mother and father. Are you one of the few who were loved by both parents? If so, you are very blessed!

If a man is denied his father’s affirmation and blessing, he will search for it all his life. The absence of a father’s acceptance and unconditional love can cause a man to become an overachiever or a convict. I have never met an inmate who loves his dad.” This, my friends, is why you do everything in your power to keep your marriage to your children’s father strong and intact. Your children need their fathers in their lives. Fathers are not expendable as our culture tries to make them out to be.

If your husband has left you, begin memorizing and learning 1 Peter 3:1-6 and become attractive to your husband by your sweet, gentle, and feminine ways as I have written about many times before. If you are married, never take your husband for granted. Stop being critical and fault-finding of him. This will never make a good marriage. Once you love him just the way that he is and allow the Lord to be the one to convict and change him, you will find peace beyond comprehension and joy unspeakable!

And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient.
2 Timothy 2:24

Their Affection For Each Other

Their Affection For Each Other

Last Sunday, our church held their service on the beach at Lake Michigan. We are in Door County, WI where we’ve come almost every summer since I was a child. My grandpa built a cabin up here in 1959 and then my dad built one right next door thirty years ago so we’ve always loved coming here.

During the service, there was an older man with long, gray hair in front of us sitting next to his wife who had long, wavy blond hair. I noticed that he was continually putting his hand on her back and around her waist. It was easy to notice how much affection he had for her. Her Bible was laying on the ground in front of her and was all marked up so I could tell she was a woman of the Word. When she sang, her arms were lifted high in the air praising the Lord.

When the service was over and they turned around, Ken asked if he was a part of the Gaither Band. I then remembered last week someone telling me that the young, tall handsome man who sings up front was one of the sons of Guy Penrod who sang in the Gaither Band and then it all made sense. The couple I was admiring was Guy and his wife, Angie!

I then found out that they have eight children! Many of them were standing right in front of us next to their parents; all of them were very tall boys. They have seven boys and one girl. There was a baptism after the service and I saw Angie come up behind Guy and wrap her arms around him. Anyone watching them could tell they have a strong and happy marriage.

It’s rare to see a couple interact the way they did and knowing they’ve been married a long time and have so many children makes it even more special. They are witnesses to all around them the value of having a good marriage and children. Their children are blessed being raised by parents like them. This shouldn’t be rare among Christian couples but it seems to be, unfortunately.

Guy wrote this on his Facebook page on his 30th wedding anniversary: “When Angie and I married almost 30 years ago now, we could have never known how much we would learn from one another about love, life, and God Himself. As believers, whether you are married or single, God has chosen to show us how He wants to relate to us by using the model of marriage.

Angie and I hope that you will press into the presence of God more each day of 2015, remembering that good communication done often, is the key to an ever deepening relationship of any kind. Love God, and each other, the way He says to and the rest falls into place! LOVE NEVER FAILS! (1 Cor. 13:8)”

Here is a video of them from 2006 and Guy said about his wife Angie, “She feels like she was put on this earth to be a mama!” Yes, the picture above is one I sneakily took of them after the church service. They are a beautiful family and I felt privileged to be able to have a small glimpse into their lives.

Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
Proverbs 5:18

Not One Bible Verse Instructs Women to Have Careers

Not One Bible Verse Instructs Women to Have Careers

Of course, careers for women came from a godless, heathen world! There is nothing in the Bible that encourages or instructs women to leave their homes for hours every day, their children with strangers to raise, and go to a job. If there is one, I have never read it. Yes, there are some women in the Bible who made things in their homes and sold them like Lydia and the Proverbs 31 woman but not one left their home all day long with their children in the care of others and worked for a boss for five days a week.

Yes, some were midwives but they were at home unless they were delivering a baby. They didn’t keep office hours that kept them away from their family for hours every day. Priscilla worked alongside her husband making tents but again, this wasn’t in a factory where she had to be away from her home all day long. She was being a help meet to her husband. Deborah was a judge in Israel but it doesn’t say anything about her holding regular office hours, working for a boss, and nothing about her having children but she was referred to as the Mother of Israel.

Are older women, as written in the Bible, to be known for their careers? No! They should be known for bringing up children, lodging strangers, washing the saints’ feet, relieving the afflicted, diligently following every good work (1 Timothy 5:10) and teaching the younger women (Titus 2:4). There’s nothing about them having careers.

Widows are not commanded to go out and pursue careers. Their families are the ones who should care for them and if the widow doesn’t have family, then the churches are to care for the widows. (Notice 1 Timothy 5:4 states who in the family should care for widows; “children or nephews” not “children or nieces” – the female children would most likely be married and have husbands who would provide whereas the nephews should help provide, not the nieces.) This is how God set it all up for the provision of women.

Men are the ones in the Bible that God commands to be the providers. This is God’s perfect will from the beginning of time and He reminds us that His commands are not burdensome. Nothing is impossible with Him and if He wants women home with their families, He will provide a way. He instructs us to ask for wisdom and He will give it freely!

There are several problems I see with women having careers, even when they are single. After spending all the time and money in pursuing their career, it’s difficult to give it up once the children come along, if and when they do. Also, many husbands like the money their wives make and don’t want them to stop so they insist on their wives keeping the job even when it becomes a strain on the wife. Married women who don’t have children still come home exhausted after working all day. They don’t have the energy to care for their homes or husbands like they would like to do, unless they are high energy women.

I believe one of the main causes of divorce today is due to women having careers. Women put all of their time and energy into their careers and neglect their husbands. They were created to be their husband’s help meet but they fail to do what God has called them to do because they can’t do everything and are too tired and exhausted to be helpers to their husbands. This is a recipe for failure and marriage is important to the Lord so it should be a priority for us; for marriage is an example to a lost world of Christ and His Church! Plus, when women have careers, they know that they have the freedom to divorce their husbands since they aren’t dependent upon their husbands for provision but God created wives to be dependent upon their husbands. This is a good thing, contrary to popular opinion.

Women who have careers typically have to work for a boss and the boss is usually a man, therefore, she is living in submission to a man who isn’t her husband which is not God’s plan. Plus, women don’t have the physical makeup that a man has and God created women with a more sensitive and emotional nature in order to be home with their children and/or caring for others, not out in the workforce.

What about single women who never get married? God’s instructions to them are to be holy in body and spirit. No, they don’t have to live underneath their father’s authority their entire lives. I know there are some who believe this but I don’t see this being instructed in the Bible although for protection and provision it is a good idea. She does need to know about the dangers of pursuing a career in case she does eventually get married.

But what about the women who do remain single their entire lives and don’t get married? What if careers are causing many more women to not get married since they don’t “need” a man to take care of them? What if this pursuit by women for careers makes them unattractive to men since they become forceful and independent? God’s plan from the beginning is for men and women to marry. He created men to need a help meet.

Colleges and universities don’t help women acquire meek and gentle spirits. Quite the contrary! They teach them to be strong (apart from the Lord), independent (they don’t need a husband), speak their minds, and stand up for themselves which is completely opposite of what the Lord wants for women. They don’t teach them to be gentle, submissive help meets to their husbands or how to raise godly offspring. Neither do they teach them anything about godly womanhood; no, not even the Christian colleges and universities since they push careers on the women.

There are many things women can do who aren’t married without getting a job. Culture tell us that there’s only option for young women today but it’s not. The young, unmarried Duggar and Bates women take courses on-line, serve their families, go on mission’s trips, assist midwives, serve their communities, find ways to make money from home, and many other things that help others instead of pursuing careers which take them away from their homes. This seems the way it should be, in my opinion.

Women working have taken many jobs away from men. Men NEED to work. God created them to have jobs and this usually defines them, whereas women define themselves by their relationships. Men don’t have to take off time when they bear children, their children get sick (if they have a wife at home), and they don’t feel guilt leaving their children all day long like women do because women know deep down that they are the ones who are supposed to be home with their own children.

I believe all godly women need to live their lives as if they may get married and have children some day. The worse thing would be to pursue a college education, amass a large debt, and place this burden upon their husbands when they get married, thus continuing to have to work after having children to pay off their debt. This is insanity to me! There are too many women that tell me they want to come home but are unable due to debt, their living style is too high, or their husbands want them to work because they make a large salary.

Finally, we are to live our lives according to God’s Word, not culture’s path. Young women, prayerfully consider the path you want to take. I encourage you to study God’s Word (all of the verses pertaining to godly womanhood) and make your decisions from doing this instead of watching the way our society’s women are going which has only led to the destruction of our culture. Children grow up to be much more productive members of society when they are loved and nurtured by their mothers during their childhood.

Please, don’t ask me about women being nurses (Do you know how hard it is for women to be on their feet for twelve hour shifts?), teachers, dental assistants or having careers such as these. I can assure you that not all of the women in the world are going to go home full time by reading this post or my blog. There will always be plenty of female nurses and teachers since there are many women who have no desire to be home full time, many more who are not believers so they don’t care about God’s will for their lives, and others who are not convicted that they should be home for their families and not have careers. There’s no need to hyperventilate about it!

Thankfully, I am not the judge of the world. I am only teaching my convictions based upon what I have read in the Word and obeying what the Lord has instructed older women to teach younger women, namely, to be keepers at home so they won’t blaspheme the Word of God which is a terrible thing to do.

Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are ye not much better than they?
Matthew 6:26

Labor not for the meat which perishes, but for the meat which endures unto everlasting life.
John 6:27

Freedom From Depression

Freedom From Depression

Women are twice as likely as men to get depressed and studies have shown that not only are women more hormonal but we are much more relationship oriented. Women suffer depression over loss more easily than men as well. If they move to a new place and lose old friendships, they can easily get depressed. Those who were not close to their mothers, rejected by their mothers, had distant mothers growing up or lost their mother by the age of eleven years old have a much greater risk at being depressed than those who had a mothers who were kind, cheerful, affectionate, and engaged according to Dr. Brenda Hunter in her book Home By Choice.

“Depression is feeling inside, ‘I am unloved; no one will ever truly love me. Nothing will ever be good. These feelings are persuasive and powerful…Aaron Beck, one of the world’s foremost authorities on mood disorders wrote this: We feel the way we think, and when we are depressed, we think in illogical, self-defeating ways.”

Depressed women have a tendency to always be looking in their past which gives them a sense of hopelessness and their thoughts become distorted. “Burns believes that as we become aware that our thoughts precede – and determine- our feelings, and as we learn to control our thoughts, we can banish depression.”

Whenever a woman tells me she struggles with depression, I encourage her to be in the Word and renew her mind with truth. Learn about her identity in Christ and that her past is forgiven and forgotten. She is a brand new creature because of Christ’s work on the cross. Her past no longer has to define her. God tells us that He gives us a sound mind. He instructs us to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. He commands that we dwell on the lovely and the good. We can trust that the God who made us knows what is best for us!

“We remain in the darkness at our own peril. If we allow the darkness to engulf us, we may not be able to combat the inertia that sets in. We must learn to catch ourselves at the beginning of our downhill slide. As we monitor our self-talk, we fight back.”

Dr. Hunter encourages mothers to also find support groups. In our chat room, there are many women who don’t have any godly, support outside of our group so it’s good to be encouraged and supported by other women. “Women need other women. We wither in isolation; we blossom with nourishing friendships. We need our female friends in the good times of life, and we especially need them when we are grappling with the loss of a spouse, parent, or friend.”

Find a solid Bible teaching church with godly women to get together with when you can. Build friendships since women do need friends. Become best friends with your husband as far as it depends upon you. Learn to smile and laugh with him. Work hard at home. God created us to work and work is good for us! Discipline yourself to eat healthy and stop eating sugar and junk food. Get outside and exercise. Don’t allow your thoughts to define your life but take control of your thoughts and allow truth to define them instead.

For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
2 Timothy 1:17

Beautifying Her Home With Little

Beautifying Her Home With Little

Bernard O’reilly shares in his book from 1886 titled The Mirror of True Womanhood a story of a young wife who had a husband who was very prosperous in his business. They had six beautiful children and she was known for her kindness and cheerfulness. Her husband’s business, unfortunately, took a dramatic turn for the worse and he was nervous about telling his wife about it.

Many of his friends offered to give him money to support their lifestyle but when he told his wife about it, she told him it would be wiser to sell their home and all of their expensive furnishings and rent a small cottage rather than be in debt to others. He was pleased with her idea so this is what happened.

“But what was the astonishment of friends and relatives, when, after a few days of pity or wonderment, they called on the brave little woman in her new home, to find so fair, so bright, so beautiful! The carpets were plain, it is true, and the furniture was of the commons kind; but chairs and sofas and ottomans had been covered with a chintz so pretty that no one stopped to inquire what was beneath the covering…and the little mistress, with her sunny smile and merry laugh, and the warm hospitable welcome for every friend and acquaintance; and there, too, were the rosy children, as unconscious of any change of fortune.

The little ones saw no change around them, save that the light of their mother’s smile was even more sunny than ever, that she loaded their dear father with fonder caresses and called forth from his big heart louder bursts of joy and mirth, and that she had been busier than ever with her active hands and restless needle in transforming and beautifying the face of things in every room with the smallest possible expense.

And so the happy nestful increased, and the husband rose higher in public confidence and in his noble profession, while his wife bestowed her whole care on the lovely children, whom she educated herself in every branch of learning and in every accomplishment necessary or suitable to their position.

Limited as was their income, neither the husband nor the wife ever bestowed a thought on the expenditure consequent upon such an unbounded and uninterrupted hospitality. The little wife managed to have a bountiful table at all times, never an extravagant one; and thus she never once allowed her household expenses to go beyond her means. What made her table, her drawing-room, the whole atmosphere of her home so full of an undefinable charm, was the love, the innocence, the paradisaical purity and charity which parents and children shed around them.”

May we all aspire to be like this godly wife; for godliness with contentment is great gain.

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
Proverbs 31:30, 31

Careers for Women Came from the Ungodly, Heathen World

Careers for Women Came from the Ungodly, Heathen World

This post is from a YouTube by Traditional Catholic Faith and Morals. It is biblically accurate and worth sharing. I took snippets out of it so it’s not the entire video.

A stay at home mom is often viewed by career women as being a slave, a victim, and having no life.

Many feminists view children as a nuisance, a hindrance to personal success; thus, many blinded women have chosen not to get married, not to bear children and not to guide the house. These ideas are evil.

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1 Timothy 5:14

God never intended for women to pursue careers at the expense of motherhood. God intended for women to be keepers at home.

To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:5

God wants young women to be keepers at home – baking, cooking, sewing, doing laundry, teachers of her children, taking care of family business, and being a help meet to her husband anyway she can. That’s why God created the woman – to help her husband.

And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
Genesis 2:18

The idea of a woman having a career came from the ungodly, heathen world and not from the Scriptures. God never intended for women to be executives, cops, helicopter pilots, lawyers, realtors, soldiers, etc.

Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.
1 Timothy 2:15

Modern apostate society treats women just like men, as a consequence, women now act like men.

Many people see no harm in women pursuing professional careers, but when it comes down to reality these types of women act and think like men.

They are decisive, strong-willed, tough, loud mouthed, demanding, dominant and lack the biblical traits God desires in a Christian woman.

She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house.
Proverbs 7:11

(Yes, this is a verse concerning prostitutes but many women are prostituting themselves on the idol of feminism and unfortunately, many are sexually promiscuous and acting like prostitutes as well.)

A career woman is very far from what God intended for her to be.

She looks well to the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness.
Proverbs 31:27

Feminism is a “social movement” that demands it all. It makes us like men. It makes us infertile, frustrated, unhappy, and empty inside. There is no true happiness in feminism. It is against our own nature!

Women will only find true freedom when they believe in Christ and submit their lives to God’s holy law.

For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; and they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables.
2 Timothy 4:3, 4