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Social Justice and Immigration

Social Justice and Immigration

“Wait? Why are you writing on these political hot topics? You’re supposed to teach women to love their husbands and be homemakers, not delve into the political scene?” I try not to “delve” into it often (but I may if I feel something is important) but I have seen something disconcerting to me among many famous women bloggers and teachers/preachers. Instead of teaching women to love and obey their husbands, love their children, be modest, discreet, good, sober, keepers at home, with meek and quiet spirits, they have taken on the mantle of social justice.

It sounds great. Feed the hungry. Clothe the poor. Petition our government to do the same. What is a government’s role according to the Bible:

“Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God. Therefore whoever resists the authorities resists what God has appointed, and those who resist will incur judgment. For rulers are not a terror to good conduct, but to bad. Would you have no fear of the one who is in authority? Then do what is good, and you will receive his approval, for he is God’s servant for your good. But if you do wrong, be afraid, for he does not bear the sword in vain. For he is the servant of God, an avenger who carries out God’s wrath on the wrongdoer. Therefore one must be in subjection, not only to avoid God’s wrath but also for the sake of conscience” (Romans 13:1-7).

The government’s chief aim is to protect its people from harm from inside forces (police and firemen do this), set rules that govern the nation for protection (legislative branches), and protect from outside evil (military fights this). Period. Policemen, military, and firemen are the men who are called to protect our nation from harm. Yes, America has always welcomed those who are poor and this is good but its first priority is to protect the people “that we may lead a peaceful and quiet life, godly and dignified in every way. This is good, and it is pleasing in the sight of God our Savior” (1 Timothy 2:3).

God commands Christians to be the ones to help the poor and needy by giving them money and any help they are able to give, not governments. Big, intrusive governments hurt people. They don’t ever make people’s lives better by redistributing wealth because they are a cold, hard, and lifeless organism that wastes money and resources, unlike the Church is supposed to be.

Now, what about all these women teachers who have taken over social justice as their cause. Let’s go to C.S. Lewis’ The Screwtape Letters for some answers. The Devil speaking to one of his followers: “About the general connection between Christianity and politics, our position is more delicate. Certainly we do not want men to allow their Christianity to flow over into their political life, for the establishment of anything like a really JUST society would be a major disaster. On the other hand we do want, and want very much, to make men treat Christianity as a means; preferably, of course, as a means to their own advancement, but, failing that, as a meant to anything – even to social justice.” (I capitalized just.)

What is a just society in God’s eyes? Women are keepers at home, loving and obeying their husbands, loving their children, sober, good, discreet, and chaste with gentle and quiet spirits. They work quietly within their homes having hands that stay busy cooking, cleaning, training, loving, and serving. Single women are holy in body and in spirit (1 Corinthians 7:34). All just societies are built upon strong families. When families crumble, so do nations. As godly families, we are lights in a dark world, helping any one and in any way that we can but mostly that others come to know the Savior of their soul.

We aren’t continually leaving our families to go “preach” to large gatherings of women like the IF Gatherings that teach nothing about building strong marriages and families.

“IF’s leaders insist that biblical Christianity has failed as a viable work of God and that God and they are bringing forth a cure—New Christianity.

I fear that IF’s excellent adventure is advertisement for a mass departure from God’s Word. Rather than having their faith built up, participants are encouraged to question ‘traditional’ Christianity. And those who are giving the answers—the IF women—are unfortunately getting their information from emergents and mystics who present a different gospel and another Jesus.

It is addictive, this linguistic confection. The mind is overcome with giddiness. But is it of God? Or is it rather a ‘beautiful’ seduction? I believe the latter is true.”

These women remind me of last phrase: “Thus saith the LORD, Stand ye in the ways, and see, and ask for the old paths, where is the good way, and walk therein, and ye shall find rest for your souls. But they said, We will not walk therein” (Jeremiah 6:16). Let us, as godly women, walk in the old paths and the good way described perfectly in God’s Word!

When governments do what they are called to do, the Church is doing what it is supposed to do (including helping the widows and orphans), women are doing what they are supposed to be doing, and men what they are called to do, then we will have a JUST society and not until then.

Women’s Oppression is a Lie

Women’s Oppression is a Lie

This symbol for Feminism means emancipation: “The fact or process of being set free from legal, social, or political restrictions; liberation.” The second wave of Feminism (beginning in the 1960s) didn’t fight to be freed from any of these but instead, they fought and are still fighting to be freed from Christianity and God’s roles for women. Unfortunately, the majority of women today have breathed in this putrid feminist air their entire lives. Few women, including Christian women, are being raised to desire to be how God designed them and wants them to be. Most are being raised to be Feminists.

One example, Christian women continually try to convince me how wrong I am to teach that mothers should be full-time keepers at home. They don’t believe this is biblical. I do. I believe when women understand the root and goal of this newer wave of feminism, they will understand how far it is from what God wants for godly women and how they are called to live their lives.

A woman mentioned that Feminism began in order for government to be able to tax a lot more people, break up the family by mothers working away from the home all day, and having the government raise their children (public schooling). This made sense to me since now many mothers are working full time so they are getting taxed, the majority of divorces are initiated by women, and the government is raising our children as shown by the Women’s March and what they value. This is why all Bible believing Christian women need to RUN away from the feminist mindset as fast as they can and run to the clear Word of God and obey it.

One man believes that the Rockefellers funded feminism and that the CIA financially supported Ms. Magazine (a Feminist magazine).  I decided to check these out to see if they were in fact true.

“Most feminist ‘Women Studies’ funding comes from big foundations like Rockefeller Foundation, Ford Foundation, Carnegie Foundation etc., and of course USAID, UNIFEM and UN. Behind the facade of ‘women’s rights’, Feminism teaches that heterosexual roles (wife, mother, etc.) are socially constructed by MEN and oppressive to WOMEN. This underscores the fact that feminism was created to destabilize the society and undermine the institution of family

American feminist icon Gloria Steinem, (an ex CIA agent) proudly claims in one of her own books that CIA funded Ms. Magazine with the stated goal of breaking up the families and taxing women. Watch MTV program “Sixteen and Pregnant” to understand the real state of affairs of the so called empowered liberated women in America. They fail to understand that this way of marginalizing men through one sided laws will soon, rather than later, force men to back off from running a family to avoid legal, mental, social, physical and financial harassment and also for the well being of age old parents.”

From another articleFeminism has done the most damage. There is no more fundamental yet delicate relationship in society than male and female. On it depends the family, the red blood cell of society. Nobody with the interests of society at heart would try to divide men and women. Yet the lie that men have exploited women has become official orthodoxyThe American woman has been hoodwinked into investing herself in a mundane career instead of the timeless love of her husband and children.

Many women have become temperamentally unfit to be wives and mothers. People, who are isolated and alone, stunted and love-starved, are easy to fool and manipulate. Without the healthy influence of two loving parents, so are their children. 

Feminism is a grotesque fraud perpetrated on society by its governing elite. It is designed to weaken the social and cultural fabric in order to introduce a friendly fascist New World Order. Its advocates are sanctimonious charlatans who have grown rich and powerful from it. They include a whole class of liars and moral cripples who work for the elite in various capacities: social workers, lawyers, ‘educators’ and the media. 

Women’s oppression is a lie. Sex roles were never as rigid as feminists would have us believe. My mother had a successful business in the 1950’s importing watch straps from Switzerland. When my father’s income increased, she was content to quit and concentrate on the children. Women were free to pursue careers if they wanted to. The difference was that their role as wife and mother was understood and socially validated, as it should be.

Until Gloria Steinem and the CIA came along.”

Do you still want to call yourself a feminist and go along with the crowd on the broad path that leads to death and destruction or do you want to be known as a godly woman who loves the Lord and His ways and  joyfully walks on the narrow road that leads to life? Do you still believe that it is not in the best interest of your children to be home with you full time?

Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path.
Psalm 119:105

Orpah Went Back to Her Idolatrous Friends

Orpah Went Back to Her Idolatrous Friends

Written By Charles Spurgeon

BOTH of them had an affection for Naomi, and therefore set out with her upon her return to the land of Judah. But the hour of test came; Naomi most unselfishly set before each of them the trials which awaited them, and bade them if they cared for ease and comfort to return to their Moabitish friends. At first both of them declared that they would cast in their lot with the Lord’s people; but upon still further consideration Orpah with much grief and a respectful kiss left her mother in law, and her people, and her God, and went back to her idolatrous friends, while Ruth with all her heart gave herself up to the God of her mother in law.

It is one thing to love the ways of the Lord when all is fair, and quite another to cleave to them under all discouragements and difficulties. The kiss of outward profession is very cheap and easy, but the practical cleaving to the Lord, which must show itself in holy decision for truth and holiness, is not so small a matter. How stands the case with us, is our heart fixed upon Jesus, is the sacrifice bound with cords to the horns of the altar? Have we counted the cost, and are we solemnly ready to suffer all worldly loss for the Master’s sake?

The after gain will be an abundant recompense, for Egypt’s treasures are not to be compared with the glory to be revealed. Orpah is heard of no more; in glorious ease and idolatrous pleasure her life melts into the gloom of death; but Ruth lives in history and in heaven, for grace has placed her in the noble line whence sprung the King of kings. Blessed among women shall those be who for Christ’s sake can renounce all; but forgotten and worse than forgotten shall those be who in the hour of temptation do violence to conscience and turn back unto the world. O that this morning we may not be content with the form of devotion, which may be no better than Orpah’s kiss, but may the Holy Spirit work in us a cleaving of our whole heart to our Lord Jesus.

“Orpah kissed her mother-in-law; but Ruth clave unto her.”
Ruth 1:14.

Standing with the March For Life

Standing with the March For Life

Today we will see a March for Life instead of a “Women’s March” that was more like a March for Death of the unborn and everything that is good and godly. There have been over 60 million unborn babies murdered in their mother’s womb since Rove v. Wade was instituted. I am thankful that we finally have a president who cares about the life of the unborn and is willing to speak out for life. And as Ted Cruz wrote, “This week, there will be another march on Washington. This one is to celebrate life, and all are welcome, including the unborn and those who love them.” (Praise the Lord for godly Senators like him in the leadership positions of our country who stand up for life as well!)

“On his very first day of work in the White House, Trump signed an executive order reinstating the ‘Mexico City Policy’ which banned government funding of foreign pro-abortion groups like the International Planned Parenthood Federation. 

The following day, the Republican-controlled U.S. House of Representatives voted in large majority to permanently ban taxpayer funding of abortion on U.S. soil. That same day Trump’s press secretary promised a ‘heavy Administration presence’ at the March for Life. Today, news broke that Vice President Mike Pence will speak at the March, the first time a vice president will do so in the event’s 44 year history.” (source)

This is great news after eight years of having a president who believed that even babies who were born alive from botched abortions should die: President Obama voted against the Born Alive Infant Protection Act four times, horrifyingly voting against protecting babies who survived abortion and voting in favor of leaving them to die. A vote against this legislation was a vote for infanticide. [Source]”

“Planned Parenthood’s funding jumped from 33% to nearly 50% – over $487 million in taxpayer funding now goes to the abortion giant (under Obama and his administration). This is almost half a billion dollars that American families are forced to pay in tax dollars to the nation’s largest abortion provider, Planned Parenthood. [Source]”

How anyone can believe that abortion is okay when they know that it isn’t a blob of tissue growing in the mother’s womb with the advent of the sonogram but a human being is beyond comprehension. What about the argument that if we make abortions a criminal act that women would go to back alley abortions and possibly die from them. Kymberlie from my Facebook page answered this perfectly:

“Every one needs help but not with murdering their babies. By that logic because I don’t like someone I should have the right to murder any one and the government should pay for a hit man to do so because I need help. I can’t pay for it my self and then it’s just between God and me. No, that’s not how the real world works. If you want abortion, pay for it your self because it’s murder plain and simple. If it wasn’t for my dad picking my mom up and then never letting her leave his side I wouldn’t be here. My mom was minutes from having an abortion with me. These babies have no voices and someone needs to be their voice.”


For You formed my inward parts;
You wove me in my mother’s womb.

Psalm 139:13

Is Your Church Like This One?

Is Your Church Like This One?

The Church (believers), Christ’s bride, should be the “light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden” (Matthew 5:14). Is your church this way? Just think how powerful the Church would be today if all Women’s Bible Studies were older, godly women teaching younger, godly women:

what loving their husbands is supposed to look like and how to go about loving, respecting, and obeying them,

how to go about disciplining, training, and loving their children in the ways of godliness,

to be sober-minded and able to clearly discern between their emotions, feelings, and truth,

about dressing modestly and how men view immodest women,

to be sexually pure before being married and after they get married in all areas of their lives,

to look and act like a feminine, godly woman,

encouraging them to have children and being the ones to raise them at home,

to work hard in the home and teach them to cook, clean, sew, can, etc.

and helping them learn the ways of goodness and kindness in all areas of their lives.

These older women were actually involved in these women’s lives and were there to help them when there was a need and the younger women were eager with teachable hearts to learn from the older, wiser women who had raised children and been married a long time. Yes, what if the Church actually obeyed Titus 2:3-5? Marriages would be stronger. Divorces would be few. Peace and unity would more than likely reign in the most of the homes. Many more children would grow up to be godly offspring, as the Lord wants.

Also, just think if all the elder, deacons, pastors, and teachers in the church were strong, godly men and all the women were happy about this. They silently listened and learned when these men powerfully taught the Word of God clearly and without watering it down at all. They were far from being politically correct and nothing in God’s Word was off-limits. They weren’t afraid to teach the women to respect and obey their husbands, to be keepers at home, and to dress modestly. They would tell the older women to work hard with the younger women teaching them all the ways of godly womanhood.

These men made sure their congregations knew who they were in Christ, all the promises that come from Him, to live in obedience to the Word with the Holy Spirit working mightily within them, and encouraged their congregations to be in the Word and in prayer daily. They wanted to make sure their people went way past the milk and learned the meat of the Word so they would be mature Christians and could easily distinguish between good and evil (Hebrews 5:14). What a powerful Church this would be! Do you go to a church like this? If so, please publish it in the comments so others who live near you can attend. Thank you!

And He gave some as apostles, and some as prophets, and some as evangelists, and some as pastors and teachers,  for the equipping of the saints for the work of service, to the building up of the body of Christ; until we all attain to the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to a mature man, to the measure of the stature which belongs to the fullness of Christ. As a result, we are no longer to be children, tossed here and there by waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, by craftiness in deceitful scheming; but speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspects into Him who is the head, even Christ, from whom the whole body, being fitted and held together by what every joint supplies, according to the proper working of each individual part, causes the growth of the body for the building up of itself in love.
Ephesians 4:11-16

Godless Societies Don’t Reproduce

Godless Societies Don’t Reproduce

God commands young women to “marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully” (1 Timothy 5:14) therefore, if you are a young woman who loves the Lord, you should be obeying this command to the best of your ability. Too many Christians have been swayed by the culture they are living in instead of reading and obeying the Word of God. This world needs children and no, it is NOT overpopulated as the left wants you to believe. They have left out God so they believe they know better than Him but they don’t. “Godless societies don’t reproduce. The death of God is the death of reproduction.” (Dennis Prager)

The New York Times has an article titled Where Have All the Children Gone? “The share of children in San Francisco fell to 13 percent, low compared with another expensive city New York, with 21 percent. In Chicago, 23 percent of the population is under 18 years old which is the overall average across the United States.” California has the lowest birth rate since the Great Depression. San Francisco has as many dogs as children, the article states, but I bet it has more dogs than children since people value pets more than they value people. In 1970s, a quarter of the people in San Francisco were children. The city is doing what it can to bring back children but to no avail because godless societies don’t reproduce. They are more into their pleasures than into sacrificially raising children. “Mr. Florida, the expert in urban demographics, said a lack of children made a city ‘a little bit more of a colder or harder place.’..the city seems detached from the life cycle.”

I don’t know about you but I wept when I read this article. (Yes, I weep more in my older age.) Our children have brought so much joy into our lives and if I hadn’t gotten so sick, we would have gladly welcomed more into our family. Now, we are enjoying our precious grandchildren who make us laugh and fill us with joy just as our own children did when they were young. My oldest granddaughter calls me “Mommy” once in a while but the last time she caught herself and said, “Ooppss, I called you Mommy!” I told her it was okay since I am her Mommy, her Grandmommy! I just have a grand in front of it! 🙂

Christian women, you need to begin having children and raising them in the wisdom and the knowledge of the Lord. You saw the depravity of the so called Women’s March and it’s the product of children being raised by a godless government run school system that has taken God completely out of the schools and replaced it with securalism. They worship the creature instead of the Creator and it has caused havoc. Take your children out and you be the one to train them in the ways of righteousness. The Lord has given you this job, not an unrighteous institution. Have children, lots of them and enjoy them. Love your time at home. Sure, there will be difficult days. I raised four children while being sick as a dog but God gave me strength all along the way and now I am blessed with four great children who married precious spouses and are having children.

There is nothing in life better than loving the Lord and living for Him by obeying what He has commanded us to do. His ways are perfect for us because He is our wonderful Creator. If you think you don’t have enough money to have more children, the Lord owns everything and He is our provider. If you have a hard-working husband, the Lord will provide for you. All He asks of us is that we step out in faith, obey what He has told us to do, and He will provide and give strength to accomplish His perfect will. If godless societies don’t reproduce, godly people cheerfully reproduce if they are able because God’s command to be fruitful and multiply has never been rescinded!

Behold, children are a gift of the Lord,
The fruit of the womb is a reward.
 Like arrows in the hand of a warrior,
So are the children of one’s youth.
How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them.
Psalm 127:3-5

Are Wives in Submission to Their Husbands Inferior?

Are Wives in Submission to Their Husbands Inferior?

A woman asked John Piper this question and I thought I would take a stab at it since it is what I teach.

“Hello Pastor John, my name is Jennifer and I live on Long Island. I have a question about complementarianism. It is something I have struggled with for a long time, and it is something I need to have worked out before even considering a relationship or marriage in the future. I know the Bible clearly states that men and women are equal in their standing before God as far as salvation. But in other areas of life I still struggle with feelings of inferiority, because of certain comparisons used in the Bible.

For example, regarding submission, the Bible says that the servant is not greater than his master, and wives are called to submit to their husbands as the church submits to Christ. However, servants are not equal to their masters, and the church is not equal in worth to Christ. In almost every area of life, those in positions of authority are considered more valuable than those under that authority. Just like the President is more valued than the secret service men, and in businesses, managers are more valued than the workers under them, and throughout history women have always been treated as less valuable than men. In light of these things, I greatly struggle with feeling inferior in worth to men. Is there something that you might be able to see that I am missing, as I read through Scripture? Thank you.”

When people ask you about something in the Bible, always take it in context. When she mentioned “the servant is not greater than his master” she was assuming that this meant that “servants are not equal to their masters” but what did Jesus actually mean by this statement? Let’s find out in the Word what He meant. “Remember the word that I said unto you, The servant is not greater than his lord. If they have persecuted me, they will also persecute you; if they have kept my saying, they will keep yours also.” (John 15:20) All Jesus was saying here is that because they persecuted Him, they will persecute all who believe and follow Him. We are not greater than Jesus and can’t assume just because they persecuted Him, we won’t be persecuted. So in fact, we are equal to Jesus in how we will be treated!

So many take verses out of context to prove their points as valid when in fact, they prove no such thing. Then she mentions “wives are called to submit to their husbands as the church submits to Christ.” She took this to mean that “those in positions of authority are considered more valuable than those under that authority.” Is this what the Bible says?

“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,  That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.  So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loves his wife loves himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourishes and cherishes it, even as the Lord the church” (Ephesians 5:25-29).

Do these verses support her statement that “those who are under the authority of another are inferior”? Not one bit! In fact, she has been listening to the lies of feminism instead of allowing the Word of God to dwell in her richly because then she would know that the wisdom of this world is foolishness to God.

Are children inferior to their parents because their parents are in authority over them? No! They are just as valued but there always needs to be an authority structure in every single institution on the earth, including marriage, or else chaos will surely reign.

Lastly, she asked, “throughout history women have always been treated as less valuable than men. In light of these things…” Jesus is the one who came to bring value to women, not feminists. They have devalued women because they have made them feel like in order to have value, they need to become men and do what men do instead of finding joy, purpose, and value in who they are in Christ and all the blessings and promises from the Lord and the value of being at home with their children and as a help meet to their husband. In the eyes of God, this has great value because women are raising the next generation and those who don’t have children or aren’t married can do many things that women should learn to do: nurture and care for others. Then when and if they get married, they will be well prepared to nurture and care for their husband and children.

Wise Thoughts on the Women’s March

Wise Thoughts on the Women’s March

As many of you watched the many feminist women march on Saturday for the murder of unborn babies and the “end of patriarchy” whatever that means, the women in the chat room were discussing it and had very wise thoughts concerning it. I want to share some of them with you, but first I wanted to share what I thought about Madonna’s speech since she was one of the main, famous speakers.

“Welcome to the revolution of love. To the rebellion…” with some vile language afterwards. Love and rebellion never go together in the Word of God. “Where not just women are in danger but all marginalized people.” Oh yeah, Madonna, go to any of the Islamic countries and see what real marginalization and danger of woman looks like. You are a rich woman who lives the high life and lacks NOTHING. “The revolution starts here. The fight for the right to be free, to be who we are, to be equal. Let’s march together through this darkness and with each step.” She is living in darkness but she doesn’t even see it because she is blinded by the prince of the power of the air and believes wrong is right. Women will never be equal (the same) as men because God created us male and female. “Yes, I have thought an awful lot of blowing up the White House, but I know that this won’t change anything…I choose love. Are you with me? Say this with me: We choose love. We choose love. We choose love. Love…thinks no evil (1 Corinthians 13:5). Love does no wrong to a neighbor (Romans 13:10).

And if you think it was a peaceful march by good women to protest President Trump’s behavior, why didn’t they protest President Obama when he fully support the murder of full-term babies, same-sex marriage, and all types of perversions. He didn’t support Israel, the police, or the military. Where were they then? Why didn’t they allow those women who were pro-life to march with them if it were for ALL women? Because this is a tweet from the Planned Parenthood President:

No, Cecile Richards, abortion is murder plain and simple. This is why you fight sonograms being given to pregnant women who come into your clinics. You don’t want them to see the life that is growing inside of their womb so you can sell the “blob of tissue” parts for a lot of money. There are six things which the LORD hates, Yes, seven which are an abomination to Him: Haughty eyes, a lying tongue, And hands that shed innocent blood. (Proverbs 6:16, 17)

Now for some wisdom from godly women who are in the chat room.

“I think that on some level, women who vehemently and aggressively fight for ‘women’s rights’ in the form of free health care for anything having to do with abortions, birth control, periods, etc. are mad because they are the sex that has to bear children. Instead of being honored at that amazing gift God has given our bodies, the liberal feminist mindset has ultimately begun to see and preach children as a burden in every sense: periods aren’t fair (even though getting them is a necessary part of our bodies’ ability to bear children), birth control needs to be provided because one should always be able to have sex without any ‘consequences’ just like men because they never have to bear children, and abortions must be provided because women need another option to be ‘consequence’-free. I think they believe men have it so much better because they can live life and never have to be affected by having a child, which they see as a burden. If only people could follow God’s ways! Wait until marriage, stay faithful, and welcome children as blessings!”

Quite frankly, Lori said it perfect….FREE IS NOT FREE!! Just because you get cheaper deductibles and premiums, low or no cost prescriptions and free screenings/exams, does NOT mean they are free. You can bet your last dollar that the provider CHARGES for those. That means, someone has to pay it. It’s us, the overtaxed and underpaid. It’s my husband who works six days a week, 52 weeks a year, 45 mins away from home. It’s me who scrimps and saves every penny. It’s my kids who I have to weigh if I want to take them to the doctor because I have to pay the first $3,000 each for them. It’s us who pays 15% of our income to premiums that still mean I’ll be paying out of pocket every single time we go to the doctor. It’s my kids who have second hand clothing and don’t participate in any paid clubs. It’s the burdened middle class who pays for this. I cannot afford it, but I don’t have a choice. It’s taken from me and redistributed regardless.

I understand it’s hard to know the weight of these financial responsibilities. But, it’s still not others responsibility to provide for me as it SHOULD not be mine for them. Free is not free.

I saw a great analogy. When you are in a nature preserve, there are signs that say do not feed the animals. Why? Because then the animals will never learn to fend for themselves.

Big government redistributing my husbands earned income is not FREE.”

He that walks with wise men shall be wise:
but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.

Proverbs 13:20

In order to join the chat room, you must be a Christian woman and you must fill out the application as requested. Thank you!

The Lamb of God

The Lamb of God

By Charles Spurgeon

The apostle John was privileged to look within the gates of heaven, and in describing what he saw, he begins by saying, “I looked, and, lo, a Lamb!” This teaches us that the chief object of contemplation in the heavenly state is “the Lamb of God, which taketh away the sins of the world.” Nothing else attracted the apostle’s attention so much as the person of that Divine Being, who hath redeemed us by his blood. He is the theme of the songs of all glorified spirits and holy angels.

Christian, here is joy for thee; thou hast looked, and thou hast seen the Lamb. Through thy tears thine eyes have seen the Lamb of God taking away thy sins. Rejoice, then. In a little while, when thine eyes shall have been wiped from tears, thou wilt see the same Lamb exalted on his throne. It is the joy of thy heart to hold daily fellowship with Jesus; thou shalt have the same joy to a higher degree in heaven; thou shalt enjoy the constant vision of his presence; thou shalt dwell with him forever.

“I looked, and, lo, a Lamb!” Why, that Lamb is heaven itself; for as good Rutherford says, “Heaven and Christ are the same thing;” to be with Christ is to be in heaven, and to be in heaven is to be with Christ. That prisoner of the Lord very sweetly writes in one of his glowing letters–“O my Lord Jesus Christ, if I could be in heaven without thee, it would be a hell; and if I could be in hell, and have thee still, it would be a heaven to me, for thou art all the heaven I want.” It is true, is it not, Christian? Does not thy soul say so?

“And I looked, and, lo, a Lamb stood on the mount Sion.”
Revelation 14:1

Giving Men a Voice on Being Starved for Sex

Giving Men a Voice on Being Starved for Sex

Yesterday, I received a comment on a post I wrote years ago called A Sex Starved Husband. I thought his comment would make a great post so I went to the post and began reading the comments from men regarding the lack of sex their wives are giving them. Ken is mentoring a man whose wife hasn’t given him sex for over six months. I wept as I read these heart-felt comments from them. The main reason men marry is for sex and a lot of it. If they are godly men, they probably dreamed about getting married for years before getting married and being able to sleep every night with one woman they loved above all and having frequent sex, but unfortunately, this isn’t the case for way too many men.

This is the only comment by a woman but it concerns her husband: “Lori , your timing on this post was, well, God’s. It popped up in my reader last night while my husband and I were sitting on the couch together playing Words with Friends with each other. I said, quite casually, (knowing the answer) ‘Are you a sex-starved husband?’ This opened up a conversation. My husband read the post while I was getting the kids ready for bed. When I came back into the living room, he was crying. As we talked he began to sob!

Do you know that he revealed to me that he plays so much golf in the warm months as a SUBSTITUTE for the intimacy we don’t have in our marriage? And I thought he just really liked golf. We had a long discussion. We have had this discussion many, many times. But, here of late, before last night, I had REALLY been feeling a stirring from God about my lack of intimacy in my relationships, not just my marriage. I have known that it was something that I needed to let God change in me. Always before, though, it has been out of fear or guilt But, as of late, it has been a stirring in my heart of something that I want to change FOR GOD and myself, as much as for my husband.

I am hoping, no earnestly praying, that God can change this in me. I do enjoy sex with my husband. I am just not an intimate person. I believe ‘cold-hearted bitch’ has been thrown around a few times. I don’t really know where to start, but I know that I am starting with God. I want to be the woman and wife God wants me to be. I know that discontinuing this sin in my life with benefit my husband and our marriage. Thank you for your wisdom and timely post.”

“Is it ever okay to leave someone over this? I’ve been playing the ‘good’ husband for over 20 years.  The worse it is the more I pretend – fake it until you make it stuff – the more it feels like a lie. The worst point was when I fell in love with a friend and had to cut off the friendship for the marriage.  It isn’t like we haven’t done years of therapy and it isn’t because she is mean. She just doesn’t feel like it for a million reasons, maybe the biggest feeling guilty about not being interested. In the meantime I can’t sleep. I’m so tired but at what point does personal integrity and self respect enter the picture?”

“I see mostly women commenting here. I am a man; my circumstances are because my wife has a personality disorder, which she will not acknowledge. But a few years ago, a stranger gave me a book for my wife to read. She won’t read the full book. But I made all three of my daughters read it because I believe it really captures the heart of a man and it was written by a pastor’s wife. I actually was in tears reading some of it, because I could identify with it so much. I believe every woman who intends to get married or is married should read this book. There is much godly wisdom backed by a ton of scripture for women and how their man feels and functions. The book is Created to be His Help Meet.”

“I am trapped in a sex-starved marriage. The irony of this is that my wife loves me, but doesn’t have a clue about the damage she has caused in me and our marriage for over twenty years. She thinks that she is doing well. She loves me. She cooks meals and washes my clothes. We have children, and for the most part, all is well. But the marriage and relationship could be so much better. Most of the time, I tolerate the relationship and exist in it. But I wish I could reach a state of numbness and feel nothing because the emotional hurt is real and painful.

I should be grateful for my wife, and I am for the things she does. But she keeps me starved and craving for physical intimacy. She says I am asking too much of her. She says she doesn’t like the feeling of being used. So, our physical intimacy is enjoyed three or four times every six months. Currently, we are going on two months of abstinence. We have gone abstinent for as long as a year. All I can do is ask. The answer is up to her. I am stuck having to cope with the rejection.” (He has a very long comment. You can read the rest on the post.)

“Hey, Anon. You speak for me. That is almost a carbon copy of my 22 year marriage pain. My wife is a ‘no’ wife. Best part of my life is wasted. Thanks for what you wrote. I am going to print it out.”

“It’s useless. She doesn’t have a clue about the pain. She won’t talk about it. I’m not even sure if she knows how wonderful it could be. Should have run a long long time ago. Now I’ve just given up. Whatever.”

Stop depriving your husband of the sex and intimacy he deserves and is required by God from you.

The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
1 Corinthians 7:4, 5