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Trying to Justify Christians Watching “This Is Us”

Trying to Justify Christians Watching “This Is Us”

Yesterday after I wrote a post about not being entertained by sin, I wrote a summary from my experience watching a couple of episodes of This Is Us. (It’s a very popular TV show for those who have never heard of it.) I had been told it was a great show by Christians and that it didn’t have anything bad in it. It began with nudity, then a threesome. It had God’s name in vain, premarital sex, and homosexuality. Basically, it’s watching a godless family live their lives. After a few episodes, I turned it off since I knew it wasn’t something I should spend my time watching. I shared this on my Facebook page and many agreed with me until one woman. I want to share what she wrote and give my response to each portion.

“We enjoy this show and sure it can do without some scenes. The characters bring us through real life problems and situations adults encounter in every day life. This makes us realize how blessed we are and how graceful and merciful God is. It also helps us to have compassion for those who don’t live the same life style or have the same standards we do.”

So in order to be thankful for our gracious Lord and have compassion for those who live ungodly, we should be entertained by them? It sure isn’t what the Word of God tells us to do. “I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes: I hate the work of them that turn aside; it shall not cleave to me” (Psalm 101:3) We are told to dwell on the true, honorable, right, and true (Philippians 4:8). Bad company corrupts good morals (1 Corinthians 15:33). “But exhort one another daily, while it is called To day; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin” (Hebrews 3:13). I could give you MANY more but you get the idea. What she wrote sounds good but isn’t backed up by Scripture.

“Randall’s biological father is gay on the show, so what? We have co-workers and acquaintances that are gay and don’t agree with them but don’t shun them for it. My husband likes to put it this way: ‘If I like black coffee and you like yours with creamer, it doesn’t mean we don’t like you, can’t associate with you or we can’t be friends. It means you have your preferences and I have mine.’ (We are called to love like Jesus did; they know where we stand and that we don’t agree.) Just like Election, not all have the eyes to see and ears to hear which is why being chosen we need to take the gospel, wrap it in love and gently deliver it to those around us.”

Again, this all sounds great but it isn’t biblical. Yes, we are to love the homosexuals in our life but we shouldn’t be entertained by it or do anything to help promote it by watching it on TV shows. God destroyed two cities because of homosexuality. Be kind and loving to the homosexuals in our lives but lead them to Jesus. They need Jesus. We can’t lead some character on a TV show to Jesus. The main purpose of having a homosexual on a TV show is to normalize the sin Christ died for. God told Lot if there were ten righteous people in Sodom and Gomorrah, He would have spared them but there were not. Even Lot was “vexed (tormented) with the filthy behavior of the wicked. (For that righteous man dwelling among them, in seeing and hearing, vexed his righteous soul from day to day with their unlawful deeds;)” (2 Peter 2:7, 8). We are called to FLEE all sexual immorality, not be entertained by it or normalize it. It’s a deadly lifestyle. Jesus loved but then told the adulterous woman at the well to “Go and sin no more.” We are commanded to speak the truth in love. We must never leave out the truth part as so many today want to do.

“It’s great to not watch if you feel convicted, but there are good life lessons that can be ‘observed from the outside’. It’s easy to find the bad when looking for it.”

We are told, “Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves” (Matthew 10:16). What does this mean? “For your obedience is come abroad unto all men. I am glad therefore on your behalf: but yet I would have you wise unto that which is good, and simple concerning evil” (Romans 16:19). “Hate evil, you who love the LORD” (Psalm 97:10), NOT be entertained by it.

“From this ‘review’ I got the impression that you’re putting yourself higher than a godless family. With that said, we are all filthy wretches according to God, we are all sinful, and all have fallen short of the glory of God.”

On the contrary, once we believe and are saved, God calls us saints, new creatures in Christ, freed from and dead to sin and condemnation, His children, holy, righteous, transferred from the kingdom of darkness and into the kingdom of His dear Son, and sitting at the right hand of God. Please listen to Michael Pearl teach at “The Door” on Facebook and learn who you are in Christ!

“Being a Bible believing Christian (reformed) we know that we were chosen by God, are free in Christ and cannot be plucked from his hand. Life is messy, not everyone around us is a cookie cutter ‘Christian’ (which is a very vague word these days). I have seen wonderful examples of marriage, parenting, being a great friend and brother/sister, promoting adoption, to prioritize, listening to your heart (I’m more of a logic over feelings gal though), to be selfless as well as addressing and overcoming problems that us as humans face. Just this wife’s take on the show.”

No, thank you. I would rather obey the clear Word of God and how the Lord commands that I should spend my time. “See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise; Redeeming the time, because the days are evil” (Ephesians 5:15, 16) There is nothing redeeming about watching a filthy, nighttime soap opera. I was convicted about watching soap operas when my oldest daughter was five years old and began to watch them with me and nothing will convince me that I should watch them ever again.

“We should not be entertained by the sins which Christ died.” (John MacArthur)

“So I say again, love for others must hate evil. Because evil hurts others directly, and evil hurts others indirectly by hurting you. Evil obscures the beauty of Christ. And Christ is our greatest good. Our greatest joy…hold fast to Christ, and abhor everything that dishonors him.” (John Piper)

Should We Watch Movies With Sin in Them?

Should We Watch Movies With Sin in Them?

How many of you are boycotting Beauty and the Beast because there is a homosexual agenda by the director? Do you boycott movies with premarital sex and adultery too? Is there a difference and how careful should Christians be in what they watch, thus support? This meme was shared around Facebook:

The woman who posted this also wrote, “It must be said. So if you’re not going to see Beauty and the Beast, I hope y’all didn’t go see the 50 Shades of Grey stuff. Or basically anything for that matter.”

The Old Testament has premarital sex, adultery, homosexuality, lying, committing murder, drinking (getting drunk), and stealing. Should we not read the Bible? The difference becomes that we are not shown the sex scenes so no images are plastered in our mind and no explicit details are given (except for the “newest” interpretations of Song of Solomon). All of the sins have negative consequences and are condemned in the Bible. In fact, we are told to FLEE sexual immorality so where does a Christian draw the line?

I don’t watch anything with premarital sex or adultery because when you see people having sex, it’s for real. They aren’t just pretending. I have come to the conviction that I don’t even want to watch movies or shows that imply premarital sex or adultery since we are commanded to dwell on the good, the pure, and the lovely. “But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becomes saints” (Ephesians 5:3). These types of sins should not even be named among us, let alone entertain us! When movies begin to show and make us believe that premarital sex, adultery, and homosexuality are okay is the line I draw since they are not okay with the Lord and they shouldn’t be okay with us.

When we watch a murder mystery, we all know the murder is make-believe and the entire movie is based on trying to solve the mystery. Lying, stealing, and murder are still considered sins in our culture, as far as I know, and are considered wrong in most shows and movies. Little House on the Prairie had most of these sins in them but it was always shown to be wrong.

Shows and movies with drug use and alcohol are make believe as well unless they are reality shows which I won’t watch, except for the Duggars and wholesome family shows like theirs. Drug use is usually condemned in movies but getting drunk is not always. I won’t watch movies with people enjoying getting drunk.

Therefore, this meme isn’t entirely accurate because if it were the Bible would be off-limits but as believers, we must be very careful what we put before our eyes. Study 1 Peter 1 and 2 if you want to know how God wants us to live our lives. Here are some of the pertinent verses:

Wherefore gird up the loins of your mind, be sober, and hope to the end for the grace that is to be brought unto you at the revelation of Jesus Christ; As obedient children, not fashioning yourselves according to the former lusts in your ignorance: But as he which hath called you is holy, so be ye holy in all manner of conversation (behavior)…pass the time of your sojourning here in fear..But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye show forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvelous light…abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul; Having your conversation honest among the Gentiles.

We must NOT go with the flow of our culture, women. We must not compromise with the world because it is on the broad path that leads to destruction. If God calls us to purity, this includes what we put into our minds. All manner of sexual scenes and innuendos affect us greatly because we are sexual beings and this is why God wants us to FLEE them. Just because a large part of the Church is lukewarm today doesn’t mean we should be. Yes, it will mean giving up passing pleasures but we must be known for pursuing God and His will for us over pursuing the fleeting pleasures of this world.

“Christian, beware how you think lightly of sin. Take heed lest you fall by little and little. Sin, a little thing? Is it not a poison? Who knows its deadliness? Sin, a little thing? Do not the little foxes spoil the grapes? Does not the tiny coral insect build a rock which wrecks a navy? Do not little strokes fell lofty oaks? Will not continual droppings wear away stones? Sin, a little thing? It girded the Redeemer’s head with thorns, and pierced his heart! It made him suffer anguish, bitterness, and woe. Could you weigh the least sin in the scales of eternity, you would fly from it as from a serpent, and abhor the least appearance of evil. Look upon all sin as that which crucified the Savior, and you will see it to be ‘exceeding sinful.'” (Charles Spurgeon)

My Comment Policy

My Comment Policy

Normally, I don’t write posts on Saturday and Sunday but I felt compelled to write one today to explain my comment policy. I have done this in the past, but it needs to be explained again. My blog is a teaching blog. I am not going to publish comments that teach things that are contrary to what I teach. If you have an honest question, that is great, but I get comments that are longer than my post explaining why what I just wrote about is all wrong. I want you to know that I won’t publish this type of comment.

I don’t agree with every single comment I publish but I will usually explain underneath it why I don’t or ask Ken to do it. Then I will allow other comments under it that explain their thoughts about it. Sometimes it’s good to have some of those who have a different viewpoint from me to see what the arguments for or against it are and always try to point to the truth of God’s Word.

I try hard to only teach the truth of the Bible and from my experiences as being married over 36 years and raising four children to adulthood and now having grandchildren. No, I am not God nor do I claim to know everything perfectly but I share my views and interpretations of God’s Word concerning biblical womanhood, then you need to come to your own convictions. I am not going to water down the Word to fit with every exception. I will teach what God has commanded older women to teach and allow His Word to convict and challenge women’s thinking since His Word alone does not come back void.

If you worked a long time on a long comment that directly contradicts what I have written, please expect that it won’t be published. If it is a cruel comment, I will either not publish it or edit it to take out the cruel words. I have this right since it’s my blog. Just as you wouldn’t like my dog pooping on your yard and leaving it there, I don’t allow others to poop all over my blog and Facebook page since it takes away and distracts from what I am trying to teach. If you don’t like what I teach, you don’t have to read it. Believe me, I don’t have much power to change anyone’s mind or actions. Only God has the power to do this and each individual as they have the freedom to obey His Word or not.

Thank you!

And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient, in meekness instructing those that oppose themselves; if God peradventure will give them repentance to the acknowledging of the truth.
2 Timothy 2:24, 25

***This verse is my goal. Do I do it perfectly? No, but I sure try and will always strive to do better.

Commands to Godly Women with Strong Warnings

Commands to Godly Women with Strong Warnings

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There are few times in the Bible that has a strong warning after a command. Look at these two verses closely and examine the strong warning after each.

“I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully” (1 Timothy 5:14) The command is for younger women to marry, bear children, and guide the home. The warning is to give none occasion to the adversary (the Devil) to speak reproachfully.

“The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed” (Titus 2:3-5). The commands are to the older and younger women on how they should live their lives and the warning is that the Word of God be not blasphemed.

God is serious about how godly women live their lives as you can see from these commands and warnings. Other things that blaspheme (speak evil against) the Word (Christ – John 1:1) or against the Holy Spirit (Luke 12:10) are those who dishonor and oppress the poor (James 2:6, 7), and “For the name of God is blasphemed among the Gentiles through you, as it is written” (Romans 2:24).

What does all this mean? From Barnes’ Notes on the Bible: “That is, your conduct is such as to lead the pagan world to blaspheme and reproach both your religion and its Author. By your hypocrisy and crimes the pagan world is led to despise a religion which is observed to have no effect in purifying and restraining its professors; and of course the reproach will terminate on the Author of your religion – that is, the true God. A life of purity would tend to honor religion and its Author; a life of impurity does the reverse.”

God gives clear directions on how women who love Him are supposed to live their lives in honor of Him. Can you see how much this culture hates and despises God’s ways and so many Christian woman have fallen for their lies and deceit not realizing that they are blaspheming God’s Holy Word? Yes, the world hates God and I am consistently ridiculed for teaching His Word but when they see Christian women willing to live out their lives in obedience to Him, these God-fearing women are witnessing to a dying culture the power of a Living God. We should not want to give the enemy of our souls any reason to speak reproachfully or blaspheme His Word if we love the Lord Jesus. Our greatest desire should be to live for Him completely. You need not guess what He wants for you, women. It is clear in these verses. Now, go about living your life in obedience to Him which brings glory to Him.

The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge:
but fools despise wisdom and instruction.

Proverbs 1:7

Sin Hardens Hearts

Sin Hardens Hearts

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“Take heed, brethren, lest there be in any of you an evil heart of unbelief, in departing from the living God. But exhort one another daily, while it is called To day; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin. For we are made partakers of Christ, if we hold the beginning of our confidence steadfast unto the end; While it is said, To day if ye will hear his voice, harden not your hearts, as in the provocation” (Hebrews 3:12-15).

From Matthew Henry’s Commentary about these verses: “But sin, long persisted in, will make God’s wrath discover itself in destroying the impenitent; there is no resting under the wrath of God. Take heed: all who would get safe to heaven must look about them; if once we allow ourselves to distrust God, we may soon desert him. Let those that think they stand, take heed lest they fall. Since to-morrow is not ours, we must make the best improvement of this day. And there are none, even the strongest of the flock, who do not need help of other Christians. Neither are there any so low and despised, but the care of their standing in the faith, and of their safety, belongs to all. Sin has so many ways and colours, that we need more eyes than ours own. Sin appears fair, but is vile; it appears pleasant, but is destructive; it promises much, but performs nothing. The deceitfulness of sin hardens the soul; one sin allowed makes way for another; and every act of sin confirms the habit. Let every one beware of sin.

More from Matthew Henry: The saints’ privilege is, they are made partakers of Christ, that is, of the Spirit, the nature, graces, righteousness, and life of Christ; they are interested in all Christ is, in all he has done, or will do. The same spirit with which Christians set out in the ways of God, they should maintain unto the end. Perseverance in faith is the best evidence of the sincerity of our faith. Hearing the word often is a means of salvation, yet, if not hearkened to, it will expose more to the Divine wrath. The happiness of being partakers of Christ and his complete salvation, and the fear of God’s wrath and eternal misery, should stir us up to persevere in the life of obedient faith. Let us beware of trusting to outward privileges or professions, and pray to be numbered with the true believers who enter heaven, when all others fail because of unbelief. As our obedience follows according to the power of our faith, so our sins and want of care are according to the prevailing of unbelief in us.”

And what is the unpardonable sin? “And to whom sware he that they should not enter into his rest, but to them that believed not? So we see that they could not enter in because of unbelief.” Unbelief.

Seeing then that we have a great high priest, that is passed into the heavens,
Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast our profession.

Hebrews 4:14

Should Young Women Teach Titus 2:4, 5?

Should Young Women Teach Titus 2:4, 5?

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As many of you have noticed, there are a lot of younger women teaching other women the precepts of Titus 2:4, 5. It is most likely due to the void left by older women who are not obeying the Lord in this area. But are they the ones that should be teaching these things according to the Word? We know that younger women should love and obey their husbands, love their children by raising them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, be sober, good, discreet, chaste, and keepers at home. There is nothing in this list about them teaching other women. The Lord has given older women this responsibility.

Older women in the Bible are described in 1 Timothy 5:10, “Well reported of for good works; if she have brought up children, if she have lodged strangers, if she have washed the saints’ feet, if she have relieved the afflicted, if she have diligently followed every good work.” Then younger women who have lost their husbands are told to “bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully” (1 Timothy 5:14). I don’t see that the younger women are to teach other women in this verse either.

Why is God’s perfect plan to have the older women teaching the younger women? (I have heard many say that “older” means older “spiritually” in Titus 2:3 but this isn’t what God meant. In the KJV, He calls them the “aged” women; those who have aged – older in age.) He wants the older women who have the time, wisdom, and experience to teach the younger women who are busy at home taking care of their families. Older women have raised children to adulthood. They know what works and doesn’t work in teaching children how to be obedient, hard workers, and mother children through the teenage years. They know what it is like to be married to the same man for many years. They have many years of being a keeper at home. They have learned to be modest, discreet, sober, and good since they have most likely walked with the Lord for a long time.

Many of these younger women who blog, even those who aren’t teaching Titus 2:4, 5, write books and leave their homes for book signings and conferences. I just finished writing a book. This book took hours, days, and many months to finish, plus a lot of money. I couldn’t imagine trying to do this and write for a blog while raising children let alone travel, do conferences, and all that they do. I am sure it is the husband who is neglected in all of this. The older women, who have time on their hands now that their children are raised, need to fill in the gap. This is why I was drawn to Debi Pearl and Nancy Campbell years ago. They are older, time-tested women of God. They have walked with Him for many years, raised godly children, and are still in love with the husbands of their youths. I wanted to be like them, so I read everything they write. I learned from older, godly women with a lot of experience.

If you are a younger woman with a yearning to blog and teach other women, I encourage you to wait until your children are grown up and out of the home. It takes a lot of time and mental thought to write and blog, then moderate your comments, and mentor those who email you. If you have a friend that you see struggling in her marriage, of course, meet with her for coffee and share the truths of what you know. Be a light to all those around you, but spend the precious little time you have with your children to do what the Lord has called you to do. Love your family and care for them.

The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:3-5

***People have asked me if my book is the same as my blog. No, it’s not. All of my chapters are brand new but the theme of my book is Titus 2:3-5 as is my blog. At the end of some chapters are some of my most favorite posts. I had amazing editors help me so you get some of their insights too. I have given this book to women who are not Christians and even they like it. It is not offensive in any way except to those who despise the Lord and His ways. Yes, it speaks Truth but in a way that even may convict and challenge unbelievers without causing them to dislike Christianity but be drawn to it instead because doing life God’s way is SO good. I am selling 2 books for $20 right now. If interested, send the money to laalex2@aol.com at PayPal with your address in the note section. Thank you! (It’s my Black Friday sale. 🙂 )

I sent a copy to Debi Pearl and she wrote me this about it. “I got your book this afternoon and thumbed through it reading a chapter here and there. I will take it with me to China next week to finish reading on the plane. What I did read made my afternoon a most pleasant and rejoicing time. You have opened your heart to others so they can learn from your mistakes and victories. After 3 or 4 chapters I skipped to the last chapter and read your husband’s words and his poem. My soul was moved with thanksgiving that after years of struggle you and your husband found real joy and love. What your book gives best is HOPE.”

Please Don’t Fall Into the Nebuchadnezzar Syndrome

Please Don’t Fall Into the Nebuchadnezzar Syndrome

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Those of you who have read my blog for a long probably remember the post written two years ago about the “Christian” woman and famous blogger, Glennon Doyle Melton, who did this after her pastor preached a great sermon:

After he finished, I stood up in my pew and clapped and cheered and WOOT WOOTED and pumped my fists and well, my church is not that kind of church. And so Craig {her husband} said, “SIT DOWN HONEY. HONEY, sit down.” So then I stayed standing even longer than I WOULD have because Craig is not the boss of me and nobody puts baby in a corner and submitting to your spouse is not really something we focus on much in the UCC.”

I even added the post in my book since it was relevant to the topic I had just written: submission to our husbands. Well, I have just found out that the woman who wrote this has divorced her husband and is in a relationship with a woman. Glennon wrote, “Oh my God, she is so good to me. She loves me for all the things I’ve always wanted to be loved for. She’s just my favorite. My person.” Is this what life is about: the measure by how someone treats us and loves us or is it to love others and be a living sacrifice for our Lord and Savior? “Glennon Doyle Melton has reiterated for years her position affirming that same-sex marriage is not sinful and celebrating love in various forms.” She clearly does not care the least about how God created marriage and what He calls love. “If ye love me, keep my commandments” (John 14:15).

“Both Melton and Gilbert, who had not openly been in lesbian relationships before, first shared their news on Facebook, discussed the importance of living their truth and referred to their new partners as ‘my person.’ The similarities reflect what fans immediately notice: Both women value transparency and share an open-life-memoir writing style. Both have undergone spiritual journeys, separations and sexual awakenings.” I pray that all of you can clearly see the lies these women believe. They are both “living their truth.” I have no interest in living my own truth for it is a dangerous path to be on. God’s truth is the only truth I want to live out because it leads to eternal life. Be careful whose writings you read if you are a true follower of Jesus Christ.

I was deeply saddened about this but I clearly understand that this is what happens when people, especially those who claim to be Christians, are in rebellion to God’s clearly spelled out ways. God tells us that those who know His truth, yet reject it will be given over to reprobate minds as stated in Romans 1:28.  Rebellion to Him takes a person step by step, day by day away from God’s Word and towards selfish pride; wanting to be their own god, writing their own bible, and being in control of their own destiny. This is why we must not allow the enemy of our soul to have a foothold into our lives.

Look at Nebuchadnezzar who was in rebellion to the Lord. God gave him over to a reprobate mind and caused him to eat grass by acting like an animal for five years. Later, after being humbled by the Lord, he lifted his eyes back to heaven. God restored his mind and his kingdom back to Nebuchadnezzar. All we can hope with Glennon is that she will be humbled by the Lord, lift her eyes back up to Almighty God, then hopefully be restored back  to her husband and family and most importantly, to the Lord.

It is a scary thing to walk in rebellion to the Lord. What He commands for us to do and how He commands for us to live, we ought to obey. Yes, He is all about love and grace but His grace doesn’t allow us to walk in sin (Romans 6:1, 2). His grace gives us the power to walk in the Spirit and live in obedience to Him, since it was His grace that freed us from our sin and the wrath to come.

The days are evil, women, and you must know how to keep Satan from getting a foothold in your life. Put on the armor of the Lord daily found in Ephesians 6:10-18. Let His Word dwell in you richly and obey it. Be thankful and sing praises to Him. Listen and learn from godly teachers and preachers of the Word (men) and ignore those who are teaching and doing things that are opposed to what the Bible teaches. Hate what is evil and cling to what is good. Love the Lord with all of your heart, mind, and soul and love others as you love yourself.

All this came upon the king Nebuchadnezzar. At the end of twelve months he walked in the palace of the kingdom of Babylon. The king spake, and said, Is not this great Babylon, that I have built for the house of the kingdom by the might of my power, and for the honour of my majesty? While the word was in the king’s mouth, there fell a voice from heaven, saying, O king Nebuchadnezzar, to thee it is spoken; The kingdom is departed from thee. And they shall drive thee from men, and thy dwelling shall be with the beasts of the field: they shall make thee to eat grass as oxen, and seven times shall pass over thee, until thou know that the most High ruleth in the kingdom of men, and giveth it to whomsoever he will. The same hour was the thing fulfilled upon Nebuchadnezzar: and he was driven from men, and did eat grass as oxen, and his body was wet with the dew of heaven, till his hairs were grown like eagles’ feathers, and his nails like birds’ claws. And at the end of the days I Nebuchadnezzar lifted up mine eyes unto heaven, and mine understanding returned unto me, and I blessed the most High, and I praised and honoured him that liveth for ever, whose dominion is an everlasting dominion, and his kingdom is from generation to generation.
Daniel 4:28-34

Why Do I Hate Women So Much – A Woman Asks

Why Do I Hate Women So Much – A Woman Asks

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“Why do you hate women so much? Why do you hate that women now are allowed to be intelligent and get an education? Why do you hate that women can have jobs and earn their own money? Why do you hate that women are allowed to contribute to society? Why do you despise yourself so much that you must belittle every other woman? Is it because you see other women living the lives they want and envy their happiness? You have such an empty life, Lori.”

Yes, I am asked stupid questions like this. I pray the Bible verses that I use will one day convict their hearts and what I write won’t be foolishness to these women any longer. As Summer White wrote, “Lesson of the week for me: Christians have allowed themselves to be so shouted down and shoved into a corner by the world, that at least 50% of them have purchased the idea that Gospel truths should always be ‘nice’ and humor is always ‘rude’. Hey guys, the Gospel is offensive and ultimate foolishness to the world. And if the Gospel that you preach isn’t, it’s a watered-down Gospel that will save no one. Don’t let the world so scare you that you are afraid to speak the truth.” As one of my favorite older godly woman told me after she read my book, “I’m sure that Satan is very angry about this book…which makes me shout for joy!”

“Why do you hate women so much?” I don’t hate women. I hate what feminism has done and the devastation it has caused upon women. This is why I am obeying the Lord and teaching the hard parts of Titus 2:3-5 that offend many. I love teaching women to love and obey their husband, love and discipline their children, be sober, chaste, discreet, good, and keepers at home. I have seen the fruit of my ministry and it is good. Marriages are being restored; women are learning to be submissive and kind towards their husband; children are being raised to be obedient and a pleasure to be around; women are becoming modest, chaste, discreet, sober, and good through the Holy Spirit that guides and leads them.

“Why do you hate that women now are allowed to be intelligent and get an education?” I have never taught women to be dumb and get no schooling. Higher education, however, is expensive and burdens many with heavy debt which the Lord does not want us to have (Romans 13:8), plus I try to persuade women to marry, bear children (1 Timothy 5:14), and teach their children at home instead of strive for careers. As Paul Washer said, “Your children will go to public school and be trained for somewhere around 15, 000 hours in ungodly secular thought. And then they’ll go to Sunday School and they’ll color a picture of Noah’s ark. And you think that’s going to stand against the lies that they are being told.” Homeschoolers are winning spelling bees and math competitions since they are being taught better from home and have mothers who love and care for them more than any school does. Besides, “the wisdom of this world is foolishness with God” (1 Corinthians 3:19).

“Why do you hate that women can have jobs and earn their own money?” Titus 2:5 states that younger women should be “keepers at home’ so “that the word of God be not blasphemed.” Therefore, they are blaspheming (speaking evil about) the Word of God if they are not keepers at home. Women ought to take this seriously because most Christian women I know don’t want to speak evil of God’s Holy Word. I also hate the consequences of women working outside of the home. Children are being raised by people who are not their mothers. Marriages are falling apart since working mothers are exhausted after working all day away from home. I know since I did it the first two years of my oldest daughter’s life and was continually exhausted and wasn’t a good wife, mother, or teacher. I don’t like that women are now submitting to and obeying their bosses and have no problem with this but refuse to treat their husbands, their heads, in the same way. I hate that earning money and having more stuff is more important than raising their own children to many women today.

“Why do you hate that women are allowed to contribute to society?” The most important thing younger women who are married can do to contribute to society is to bear or adopt children and raise them to be godly, hard-working, and trustworthy adults. There is nothing that can compare to this. Nothing.

“Why do you despise yourself so much that you must belittle every other woman?” I belittle every other woman? It surely doesn’t take into account the heart-felt emails and comments I frequently get from those who have been blessed by my ministry. I don’t belittle anyone. Yes, I will at times point out error that someone else is teaching but this is important for us to know so we won’t fall into the errors of false teachers which the Word warns about.

“Is it because you see other women living the lives they want and envy their happiness?” Not at all. I have been married to one man and am growing older with him for almost 36 years and we are happier together than we have ever been. I have four grown children all walking in truth and are happily married. I have five precious grandchildren who I love dearly. I am blessed and want no other life. God is good to me.

“You have such an empty life, Lori.” No, I have a very full life. I have this ministry the Lord has blessed me with. I have written a book and ventured out into making YouTubes. I have the Lord and He has promised to never leave me nor forsake me. I have everything I need for life and godliness (2 Peter 1:3) and I pray you will find the joy in Jesus someday that I have. Blessings.

Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights,
with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.

James 1:17

Self-Pity is Satanic

Self-Pity is Satanic

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Many years ago, Ken and I read Oswald Chambers. We are now reading Charles Spurgeon because we enjoy his writings more because he understood our new lives in Christ clearer than Oswald did who is the type that focuses on us as “sinners” and Spurgeon on us as “saints” once we are His. One of my dad’s friends said that reading Oswald was like drinking castor oil! Something I did learn from Oswald’s writings, however, is the term, “self-pity is satanic.” Whenever I begin to feel sorry for myself in any way, inadequate, feeling left out, or mistreated, I remember this phrase. When my oldest daughter was going through one of the difficult teenage insecurity times, I shared this with her and it helped her get out of her self-pity trap immediately. Focusing on ourselves never produces anything good. Focus upon the Lord and all He has done for you instead. Be blessed by Oswald’s words.

Whenever anything begins to disintegrate your life with Jesus Christ, turn to Him at once, asking Him to re-establish your rest. Never allow anything to remain in your life that is causing the unrest. Think of every detail of your life that is causing the disintegration as something to fight against, not as something you should allow to remain. Ask the Lord to put awareness of Himself in you, and your self-awareness will disappear. Then He will be your all in all. Beware of allowing your self-awareness to continue, because slowly but surely it will awaken self-pity, and self-pity is satanic. Don’t allow yourself to say, “Well, they have just misunderstood me, and this is something over which they should be apologizing to me; I’m sure I must have this cleared up with them already.” Learn to leave others alone regarding this. Simply ask the Lord to give you Christ-awareness, and He will steady you until your completeness in Him is absolute. (This is a statement I disagree with him about. “And ye are complete in him, which is the head of all principality and power:” – Colossians 2:10. Now, believe you are complete in Him!)

If we try to overcome our self-awareness through any of our own commonsense methods, we will only serve to strengthen our self-awareness tremendously. Jesus says, “Come to Me…and I will give you rest,” that is, Christ-awareness will take the place of self-awareness. Wherever Jesus comes He establishes rest— the rest of the completion of activity in our lives that is never aware of itself.

Give thanks in all circumstances;
for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.

1 Thessalonians 5:18

Taking Up Your Cross Daily – What Does it Mean?

Taking Up Your Cross Daily – What Does it Mean?

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Many Christians teach that we should “die daily” and “take up our cross daily.” What does this mean? (This was a question asked of Michael Pearl and he answered on a video.)

  Okay, let’s look at that. That’s a commonly misunderstood concept. Always consider the context. He says, “If any man come after me, let him deny himself, take up his cross daily, and follow me” (Luke 9:23).

Jesus is preparing his disciples for his crucifixion. He’s been telling them about how he’s going to die. He asked them, “Whom do people say that I am?”

He’s inquiring to get a feel for what the population was thinking about him. They gave various answers, and he said, verse 20, “‘But whom say ye that I am?’ Peter answering said, ‘The Christ of God.’ And he straightly charged them and commanded them to tell no man that thing saying…”

This is Verse 22, the verse before the one in question. “The son of man must suffer many things and be rejected by the elders and the chief priests and the scribes and be slain and be raised the third day.” So, in the context of how he was playing with the public, he warned them that He Himself was headed to the cross, to rejection, and to death.

Then he follows that immediately and says, “And he said unto them, if any man will come after me…” Okay. let’s stop right there for a moment. Come after me, where? “Come after me suffering, rejected by the elders, the chief priest, and slain.” So, “If any man will come after me,” if he follows me, if he’s my disciple and goes where I go, “If any man will come after me let him deny himself…” So, stop there again. Deny himself in what way? Later, when Jesus announced that he was going to be crucified the next day, and that one of them was going to betray him, they all spoke up and said, “Lord, is it I?” Peter said, “I won’t do it.” He said, “I’ll die first but I won’t deny you.”

Well, within a few hours, Peter was denying Jesus Christ. So Peter didn’t follow Jesus to the cross. The Bible said he and the disciples “stood a great way off.” He is challenging them to follow him in His sufferings and in His death. In other words, instead of being three crosses on the hill, four with Peter, five with John, six with Andrew, and so forth.

“So if any man will come after me, let him deny himself, take up his cross daily and follow me.” Now, when he said, “take up his cross,” we know what that is. As we look later on, Jesus is bearing the cross, he falls down, and they compel Simon, one of Cyrene, to bear the cross after him.

So Jesus is carrying one end of it, Simon is carrying the other end of it, and they’re carrying the cross. Any time that the city of Jerusalem saw a man carrying a cross through the city, outside to Golgotha where he would be crucified, they knew what he was doing. He was a dead man walking. He was heading to his death.

Jesus said, “If you’ll come after me, take up your cross daily.” In other words, you must be prepared at any moment to die, because it could happen at any time. So every single day as you follow me, be prepared to do what I do, which is die for this teaching that I have.

Then he goes on to say, “For who so ever will save his life shall lose it; but whosoever will lose his life, for my sake, shall save it.” And so He’s saying if you depart from me, you deny me, you lose your life, but if you go ahead and follow me all the way you save it.

If we were to draw an application of that passage beyond the original context, what would it be? Well it’s obvious. There was recently a man, a Christian in Iran, who had the death sentence upon him. He was a pastor. He was preaching the gospel, and it’s illegal there to be a Christian. So they told him if he would recant, if he would deny Jesus Christ, and come back into the Muslim fold, then he would not be executed.

I was praying on this end, that he would take up his cross and follow Jesus, deny himself, for God’s sake, and for the gospel’s sake, and in so doing save his life. Otherwise, if he denied Christ he’d lose his life. So it’s this contrast, if you think, if I deny Christ I’ll save my life, I won’t die. He said, no, if you go ahead and confess me you may die, but you’ll save your life. He’s kind of got a turn on words and concepts there.

Now there’s quite a few other passages, maybe a dozen, maybe not that many, six of them, eight of them, in the New Testament where people have developed this doctrine of this daily dying to self, this self-introspection, this morbid putting away of self‑motivation, self‑aggrandizement, self‑pleasure, and sublimating your humanity to some sort of a morbid austere spiritualism.

I’ve known so many people like that. They’re all nauseous. It really came out of the Keswick movement in England. It’s the concept that we must, or God must, God or us or both, must do this work inside of us. Books like the Calvary Road, Roy Hession, Norman Grubb, Iron Thomas, Andrew Murray, wrote a lot about this concept of daily experiencing this inner crucifixion of self.

That’s not a biblical doctrine. It’s totally contrary to the Bible. It’s anti‑Christian, it’s anti‑Bible. It’s really a doctrine you’d find in Buddhism. Some of our missionaries come back and they say, “That’s the very doctrine.” In fact, the doctrine originated a whole lot out of Eastern teaching, and it is an Eastern mysticism rather than a Christian doctrine. It’s amazing how it perpetuated in spite of the clear teaching of Scripture, but that’s the meaning of the passage.