The Transformed Wife

Written By David Cook

THE EVIL INFLUENCE OF TELEVISION! BE CAUTIOUS AND CAREFUL!!! I HOPE YOU WILL READ ALL OF THIS POST. PROTECT YOUR MIND AND THE MINDS OF YOUR CHILDREN AND GRANDCHILDREN!!

Only eternity will reveal the sad horrible effects of television on the minds of Christians in this present evil age we live in. We have no reason to watch things that defile our minds. To say, ‘It does not effect me’ is a very poor excuse indeed! The writers have an agenda which is to promote evil in the name of entertainment.

1. According to Jeremiah 10:2 we must not ‘learn the way of the heathen.’ Do you heed this warning from God? Constant watching of TV programs that are full of crime, violence, hatred, sexual impurity and mocking of God dulls your conscience and implants sinful thoughts into your mind. It is the very opposite of the command to ‘cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.'(2nd Cor.7:1)

THINK HOW THIS AFFECTS THE MINDS OF CHILDREN ?

2. To watch the glorification of evil and sin is wrong for the child of God, who is to set his affections on things above. (Col.3:1-3) The family hour is now prime time TV instead of gathering the family together for a time of Worship and instruction in the Word of God which renews the mind.

3. People live in a fantasy world that is unreal and makes sin look good! Hard to be a dedicated born again Christian if you are devoted to the idol of TV instead of being fully devoted to a holy God!
God must be 1st place in our lives !

4. TELEVISION is very distracting, time wasting, and causes temptation and the lowering of the holy standards of God. Watching a TV program that ‘calls evil good and good evil’ will cause you to compromise with evil and to tolerate evil since you allow yourself to be entertained by evil. This is very harmful and it is not innocent fun! TV is a deadly distraction that kills the spiritual atmosphere in your life and home.

5. You cannot easily sit with those who mock the Lord with filthy suggestive jokes and language and grieve the Holy Spirit and live wholly to the Lord at the same time. Sin is portrayed on TV not as sin but as “normal and acceptable” and God forbid that we approve of this portrayal of sin. Do you laugh at what God hates? Most TV viewing cannot be pleasing to The Spirit! It may pull and attract the flesh but we are commanded to deny worldly lusts. (Titus 2:12)

6. To look on and enjoy the things He has redeemed you from is very offensive to the Son of God. To allow your life to be cheapened by such garbage is to abuse the grace of God.Where is the love for worship ,for fellowship with a holy God and renewing your mind with the Truth ?

7. WE SHOULD BE IN CLOSE FELLOWSHIP WITH A HOLY GOD WHICH MEANS YOU WILL BE REPULSED AT THE AMOUNT OF WICKEDNESS ON TELEVISION!!

I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes: I hate the work of them that turn aside; it shall not cleave to me.
Psalm 101:3

In the movie The War Room, Priscilla Shrier plays a wife who at one point “rebukes the devil” by screaming at him and telling him that he is to leave their home and stop destroying their family. This seems to be a common practice today among women especially. They falsely believe that it is their job to speak to the Devil and tell him to flee. Is this biblical?

For one thing, demons don’t live in homes or inanimate objects. They live in fleshly things like people and animals. There’s not one instance where a demon lives in a home in the Bible. There’s no such thing as haunted houses, unless they have been created by people to appear that way. Therefore, we don’t need to rebuke the demons! If you are a believer in Jesus Christ, you are an overcomer and He has defeated the Devil.

James 4:7 states, Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. What does resist mean? Does it mean yelling at Satan? No, it means to “literally, to stand against.” So how do we stand against the Devil? Was he not already defeated at the cross? I remember Michael Pearl saying years ago that the only reason God allows Satan to roam the earth is to refine His saints.

Gill’s Exposition of the Bible interprets this verse this way: “Satan is to be looked upon as an enemy, and to be opposed as such, and to be watched and guarded against; the whole armour of God should be taken and made use of, particularly the weapon of prayer, the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God, and the shield of faith; and also the grace of humility, than which nothing is more opposite to him: he is a proud spirit, and he endeavours to swell men with pride of themselves; and when he has worked them up to such a pitch, he is then master of them, and can manage them as he pleases; but a poor humble believer, with whom God dwells, to whom he gives more grace, and who comes forth not in his own strength, but in the strength of the Lord God, as David against Goliath, and who owns his vileness and sinfulness, and flies to the grace of God, and blood of Christ, Satan knows not what to do with him, he is puzzled, baffled, and confounded; such he leaves, from such he flees; he does not like the power of prayer, nor the strength of faith, nor the sharpness of the two edged sword, the word of God, nor the humble believer’s staff, bag, scrip, and sling.”

 The way that we resist the devil is to put on the full armor of the Lord explained in Ephesians 6:10-18. We spend daily time in His Word and hide it deeply in our hearts so that we won’t sin against God. We pray to the Lord and ask that He be a hedge of protection around us from the Devil’s wiles. We walk in obedience to His commands. We seek daily to become more like Christ by disciplining ourselves for the purpose of godliness.

In 1 Peter 5:8, 9, we are told how to stand fast against Satan and his attacks. Be sober: calm, not controlled by passions or alcohol, serious, habitually temperate (moderate), and calm. Be vigilant: watchful, circumspect, attentive to avoid danger. Whom resist STEADFAST IN THE FAITH.

Our faith is made strong through our trials and tribulations because we depend upon the Lord’s strength to carry us safely through. This is, also, how we resist the Devil. We know his ending and its horrific. We are risen with Christ and are His children. Speak and pray to the Lord instead. We can rest in Him knowing that He is fighting our battles and He is always victorious.

Instead of rebuking the Devil and tell him to stop destroying your family, begin practicing having a meek and quiet spirit, live in joyful submission to your husband, be cheerful and kind, and obey the Lord in how He instructs you to live! He has laid out exactly how you are to live as a wife and He has given you everything you need for life and godliness. Satan was conquered at the cross and greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world. As you live with your husband as a godly wife, you are sanctifying him and he is being influenced by Jesus who lives inside of you. There’s zero need to yell at or rebuke the Devil. Sing praises to the Lord instead!

Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour;  Whom resist stedfast in the faith.
Peter 5:8, 9

Most Christians are afraid to rebuke other Christians who are in sin. Most Christians hate being rebuked by others if they are in sin, therefore, there’s not much rebuking going on and many Christians who are in sin refuse to listen to rebukes. This is NOT how the Church of the Living God is supposed to operate.

Reprove not a scorner, lest he hate thee: rebuke a wise man, and he will love thee (Proverbs 9:8). A wise person takes rebuke because they know they aren’t perfect and they want to grow into Christ-likeness. Therefore, they welcome it and learn from it.

We are commanded to exhort one another daily because of the deceitfulness of sin. But exhort one another daily, while it is called Today; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin (Hebrews 3:13). ‘Exhort’ means to advise, warn, and caution. Sin hardens people’s hearts against the Lord so if you see a fellow believer going down the wrong path, it is your duty to go warn them about it. Sin grows in darkness and secrecy. Rebuking sin exposes it to the light of truth.

Women have told me that they don’t want to rebuke. They would rather just “love” others. This sounds warm and fuzzy but it’s not biblical. Speaking the truth in love is biblical and truth isn’t always easy to speak but imperative for the body of believers; for he who turns a brother or sister from his error covers over a multitude of sin. My brethren, if any among you strays from the truth and one turns him back, let him know that he who turns a sinner from the error of his way will save his soul from death and will cover a multitude of sins (James 5:19, 20).

Ken wrote a reply to a man who tried rebuking someone and lost the friendship over it. Yes, this often happens, unfortunately, since there aren’t many believers who are in sin who will receive rebuke without getting angry.

“I suggest that if you are prayerful about your questions and seek the help of the Spirit in what you say, you then must leave it to the Spirit to do his mighty work in the lives of those who are transgressing or moving towards sin. If this same person was too close to a cliff and about to fall, would you not try to stop them and move them away from the cliff even at the risk of your friendship? We are not responsible for how people respond to exhortation and we won’t always get it right, but when the body of Christ stops exhorting and rebuking is when we end up with a weak and sinful church.

I can tell you over the years that I have many who I have counseled, Christians and non-Christians, who have told me that they were upset with me when I talked to them about their faults, yet weeks and years later I get a kind thank you. Some have said I helped radically change their lives with my exhortation. So be patient and respond to the Spirit inside of you with care and yet not being shy to do as He prompts you to do. If not, we are not being a brother to the family of God.”

My favorite authors, preachers, bloggers, and teachers are those who convict and challenge me towards godliness since I know that I need it. I don’t care at all for those who make me comfortable and feel good about myself, except for who I am in Christ. The culture pulls us away from godliness and this is why we need godly brothers and sisters in Christ who are willing to rebuke, exhort, and encourage us in our daily living. We easily forget and need to remind each other continually.

Never be afraid to do what the Lord has called you to do. There’s an eternity in front of us and all that matters is where our loved ones spend it. 

In our devotions the other day, we read these verses: “But if all prophesy, and there come in one that believes not, or one unlearned, he is convinced of all, HE IS JUDGED OF ALL: And thus are the secrets of his heart made manifest; and so falling down on his face he will worship God, and report that God is in you of a truth” (1 Corinthians 14:24, 25). What does prophesy mean? We are given the answer in 1 Corinthian 14:3: “But he that prophesies speaks unto men to edification, and exhortation, and comfort.”

Prophesying is speaking the truth of God’s Word. As I wrote last week, I receive comments from women that I’m judging them because I teach the truth of God’s Word. As I was pondering this, I realized that truth always convicts. For those who don’t like being convicted, they shout out at me, “YOU’RE JUDGING!” They want to ignore the conviction of truth instead of change. They enjoy their godless lifestyle more than living in obedience to the Lord.

Truth judges people. It exposes the sin in their hearts and in their lives. This is a good thing if received with a soft and teachable heart. “He is judged by all – By all that speak; by all that they say. The ‘effect’ of what they say shall be, as it were, to pass a ‘judgment’ on his former life; or to condemn him. What is said will be approved by his own conscience, and will have the effect to condemn him in his own view as a lost sinner. This is now the effect of faithful preaching, to produce deep self-condemnation in the minds of sinners.” (Barnes’ Notes)

Therefore, it’s not me who is judging as I am often accused. The truth brings judgment into their lives because it points out their sin and they don’t like this one little bit. When I teach women to be keepers at home, I am not judging career women who choose to work away from their children. The truth of God’s Word is judging these women. When I teach women to be submissive to their husbands, I am not judging unsubmissive women. God’s Word is judging unsubmissive women.

This is why so many women actually hate what I write. They don’t like someone who teaches the truth of God’s Word because of its conviction and judgment in their own hearts. They much prefer their ears to be tickled and feel comfortable with how they are living their lives. They love feminism and what it has accomplished. They don’t like hearing that their entire lives are based upon lies and deceptions from the prince of the power of the air.

This I say therefore, and testify in the Lord, that ye henceforth walk not as other Gentiles walk, in the vanity of their mind, Having the understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God through the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart: Who being past feeling have given themselves over unto lasciviousness, to work all uncleanness with greediness.
Ephesians 4:17-19

Written By a Retired Minister in Tennessee

I like the old paths…
Moms were at home, dads were at work,
Brothers went into the army and sisters got married
BEFORE having children!

Crime did not pay; hard work did
And people knew the difference.
Moms could cook, dads would work,
And children behaved.

Husbands were loving, wives were supportive
And children were polite.
Women wore the jewelry and men wore the pants.
Women looked like ladies, men looked like gentlemen
And children looked decent.

People loved the truth and hated a lie!
They came to church to get IN, not to get OUT!
Hymns sounded godly, sermons sounded helpful,
Rejoicing sounded normal, and crying sounded sincere.

Cursing was wicked, drinking was evil,
And divorce was unthinkable!
The flag was honored, America was beautiful,
And God was welcome!

We read the Bible in public, prayed in school,
And preached from house to house.
To be called American was worth dying for;
To be called a Christian was worth living for;
To be called a traitor was a shame!

Sex was a personal word.
Homosexual was an unheard word.
And abortion was an illegal word.

Preachers preached because they had a message;
Christians rejoiced because they had the VICTORY!
Preachers preached from the Bible, Singers sang from the heart,
And sinners turned to the Lord to be SAVED!

A new birth meant a new life,
Salvation meant a changed life,
Following Christ led to eternal life.

Being a preacher meant you proclaimed the word of God,
Being a deacon meant you served the Lord,
Being a Christian meant you lived for Jesus,
And being a sinner meant someone was praying for you!

Laws were based on the Bible, families read the Bible,
And churches taught the Bible.
Preachers were more interested in new converts
Than new cars and new clothes.
God was worshiped, Christ was exalted,
And the Holy Spirit was respected.

Church was where you found Christians on the Lord’s day
Rather than in the garden, on the creek bank,
On the golf course or being entertained somewhere else.

I still like the old paths best!

Thus saith the LORD, Stand ye in the ways, and see, and ask for the old paths, where is the good way, and walk therein, and ye shall find rest for your souls.
Jeremiah 6:16

A woman commented on Ben Shapiro’s post about Matt Walsh writing and speaking too much about Jesus,“I love this! One thing I don’t understand is how can you be a Democrat and a Christian? Pro-choice, marriage equality, anti-gun (we have a right to defend ourselves). I’m not saying I’m against marriage equality because it’s not my place to judge. But I don’t go around promoting it.”

Is it not our place to judge? How can we rebuke, exhort, and speak the truth in love if we can’t make judgments between what is right and what is wrong? How can we not say that abortion is murder and any person who is a Democrat is automatically supporting the murder of the unborn since this is the Democratic party’s platform? As Lindsay Harold wrote: “Even if one can claim that they do some good things, their support for the murder of children cancels out any other good they do. They cannot be termed a good party. The murder of children makes them a horrible monster of a party.” How can we not say that God ordained marriage to be between one man and one woman from the beginning of time if we can’t judge?

Frequently, women accuse me of judging. Lately, I have been posting Paul Washer’s words under their accusations: “People tell me, JUDGE NOT lest ye be judged. I always tell them TWIST NOT SCRIPTURE lest ye be like Satan.” Yes, many women are great at twisting Scripture these days. Women can be preachers in the churches and teach men. They no longer need to be silent. Women don’t need to submit to their husbands because they are equal in every way. Women don’t need to be keepers at home since careers weren’t possible back in the day but now women are highly educated. “Women are enlightened these days, you know!”

Some women write and tell me that when I teach women to be keepers at home and homeschool their children, I am making all the women who must work and send their children to public schools feel horrible about themselves and we’re supposed to build each other up, not judge. Well, I am commanded by God to teach women to be keepers at home. I am commanded to teach them to love their children and raise them in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord.

What if 20 percent of the women who have careers and send their children to public schools read my posts and decide this is what they want for their children? What if they seek the Lord, explore their options, and finally make a way to be home full time with their children homeschooling them? Would you not say this was best for the children – to be home full time with their mothers and wouldn’t you be happy for this 20 percent?

Am I not supposed to teach what God has commanded I teach because I make some women feel badly? If I were a single mother who had children in public schools and read my posts, I would be convicted about working and sending my children to public schools since I’ve always had a soft and teachable heart to the ways of the Lord. I would seek the Lord in prayer, write to godly friends and family for advice and maybe help, and do all I could to be able to be home full time with my children. I would consider that if my Creator said this was His will for my children and me, I would do everything in my power, with His power working mightily within me, to make it happen.

Many women are WAY too easily offended these days. No, I’m not going to stop writing truth. I’m not going to stop writing what is best for women and children because it offends some of them and makes them feel badly. Maybe, just maybe, some of them will find a way to do what is best for them and their children because with God ALL things are possible and what He commands He provides.

Instead of getting offended and being afraid of judging (speaking the truth in love), seek and speak the Lord’s ways. Ask Him to make a way to obey His commands and then trust Him. He owns everything! He can make a way.

Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us, Unto him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus throughout all ages, world without end. Amen.
Ephesians 3:20, 21

Bad things happen in this life. Evil things happen. Many question the goodness of God because of these things. Babies are diagnosed with leukemia. Women who want so badly to have children are infertile. A diagnosis of cancer shortens a life. Where is God in all of this and how should we respond in and through our sufferings?

In a book called The Made From Scratch Life by Melissa Norris, Melissa tells of a time when she lost a baby and her Fallopian tube because of an ectopic pregnancy. While she was mourning this loss, her pastor’s wife called to comfort her. She had delivered a stillborn baby years earlier.

“She could have chosen to wallow in her pain, to become bitter, or to blame God. Why would a loving God allow these things to happen? But she’d made a choice to love, to believe God had good things in store for her. I had the same choice. I could choose to hand all the pain to Him and see how He could redeem it, or I could let it continue to hurt me. I chose my Redeemer. In choosing him, I was transformed.”

All of us will go through suffering in this life. We will be the ones who choose how we handle our suffering. Will we curse God or understand that suffering is a part of His plan for us? Job said in the midst of his pain and suffering, “Though he slay me, yet will I trust in him” (Job 13:15). He lost everything yet continued to trust in God.

Then we look at the life of Joseph and how his brothers sold him into slavery. He went through many sufferings yet when he met up again with his brothers many years later, he was able to say, “But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good” (Genesis 50:20).

As many of you know, I have suffered through a lot of physical pain but through all of it, I never questioned God. Why not me? I know I don’t deserve anything, yet alone health, so I trusted that God had it all under control. When I felt desperate because the pain was so deep, I would quickly remind myself that the joy of the Lord is my strength and I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

I have always believed God at His Word. “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose” (Romans 8:28). I believe 100% that this verse is true for believers. It may not work out for good the way we consider good but it will work out for good the way God considers good and He is a much better discerner of good than we are.

I could have easily died when I was 45 years old when I was in the ER with a sodium level of 110 when normal sodium levels are 137 and 147. I was told that level of 110 are death levels but God spared me. Soon after this happened, I began mentoring young women in the ways of biblical womanhood. I know life is fragile and I want to use the rest of my days for Him and His glory. I choose to believe God. I chose my Redeemer and have been transformed. Yes, pain transforms you when you use that pain to seek the Lord and allow His Word to permeate your mind.

Read 1 Peter if you are suffering and in pain. Camp out in this book and memorize it. You will see how suffering is good and a part of God’s plan for us. No one grows from a easy and pain-free life. We grow in godliness through our suffering and it is good.

But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, stablish, strengthen, settle you.
1 Peter 5:10

From David Murray on Revive Our Hearts Radio

Well, I’ll sum it up very briefly . . . it (technology) is killing us. I can expand on that if you want. I love technology—I’m a technophile—I just love it! But, and it’s not just Christians saying this, it’s a very broad range of secular opinion, from a sociological viewpoint, educational viewpoint, health viewpoint.

We’re seeing, increasingly, the digital revolution is changing us in detrimental ways. It’s damaging us, and I think even out of self-interest—never mind spiritual interest at the moment—but even out of self-interest, I truly believe that the young people, the millennials, that are able to get their technology under control and develop a disciplined life in that area, the competitive advantage they are going to have, over the long haul, is going to make them soar career-wise in whatever field they are in, because our brains were not made for this. Our brains need rest; they need quiet; they need peace; they need down time.

It’s like a muscle. When it’s continually being stimulated and exercised, it’s being worn down and worn down and worn down. We’re only ten to fifteen years into the real digital era, and so it’s been a while until we realize just what it’s doing to us. But the science is in, and it’s really bad! On a physical, emotional, mental, relational viewpoint, it’s really bad, but on a spiritual viewpoint it is devastating. We will not know God properly, I don’t believe, until we get it under control.

For thus saith the Lord GOD, the Holy One of Israel; In returning and rest shall ye be saved; in quietness and in confidence shall be your strength: and ye would not.
Isaiah 30:15

“It always gets me when people talk about ‘listening to your heart’ or ‘following your heart.’ Jesus didn’t say, ‘Lay down your life, take up your cross, and follow your heart.’ In fact, the Lord said quite the opposite. ‘The heart is more deceitful than all else and is desperately sick; who can understand it?’ Christians should not follow their hearts, but the Word. We live in a time where people are more concerned with living by their feelings than by the Truth, sadly.”

This was written by Kelly who just commented on Trying to Justify Christians Watching This is Us. She’s right. We should not follow our hearts but carefully follow God’s Word in everything we do, watch, and read. Charles Spurgeon wrote, “I believe that one reason why the church of God at this present moment has so little influence over the world is because the world has so much influence over the church.”

Are we being entertained by the same garbage that the world is being entertained by or do we make sure that our entertainment is good, lovely, and pure? Are we reading the same books that the world is reading or are we careful with what we fill our minds with? Are we careful to measure our lives and actions by the Word of God instead of our culture? Do we care more about being seekers of God rather than seekers of pleasure?

God is clear in His Word how we are to live our lives. There is no doubt. We are to be a people who are wholly set apart and not conformed to the world (Romans 12:2). We are repeatedly warned of false teachers so we need to avoid them. We are exhorted to be thankful because not being thankful is one of the first steps that leads to all types of sin in Romans 1. Every day is a gift, therefore, it’s important to be thankful to the Giver of life and for each day.

It’s popular today for Christian women to “hear” from God and try to get others to believe that God speaks to them personally. This appeals to their emotions. Does God tell us anywhere in His Word that He will personally speak to us outside of His Word? “What the Holy Spirit has never promised to do is to deliver new revelation to non-apostles, no matter how sincerely they wait and listen. Generations of Christians have found that the Holy Spirit has faithfully fed them and led them in deep communion with the mind of Christ through the Scriptures as they have learned the discipline of reading, meditating on the Word, and acquired the tools to study it.”

This is how we are to live our lives, women. Not by following our hearts or our feelings or what we may hear God speak to us personally but by reading and knowing God’s perfect Word. It’s easy for us to be deceived since we tend to allow our emotions  and feelings to guide us instead of truth. We are warned of this in the Word (1 Timothy 2:14). Yes, living godly lives takes sacrifice and self-denial but this what God asks of us and it is the least we can do for all He’s done for us.

There is a great famine in our land of the knowledge of God’s Word, the Bible. This is why so many women are so easily led by false “Christian” authors and teachers. They make them feel good. They don’t know the Word. When they know the Word, they can easily detect a false teacher and flee as the Bible warns. Television shows, movies, and books that are ungodly and/or false teachings will no longer hold any appeal over them since they only want to please the Lord. They are more concerned with following and obeying truth rather than their heart, emotions, or feelings.

But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvellous light.
1 Peter 2:9