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Mothers are the Central Nervous System to Babies

Mothers are the Central Nervous System to Babies

It’s surprising to many when science backs what God has commanded. It’s not to me. Why would it be? He’s our Creator and knows what is best for us. He knows that mothers home full time with their children is best for all involved. Ms. Komisar, a Jewish psychoanalyst and liberal Democrat, discovered the importance of mothers being home with their children and wrote a book about it. James Tarnato wrote about her findings in the article The Politicization of Motherhood.

“The premise of Ms. Komisar’s book—backed by research in psychology, neuroscience and epigenetics—is that ‘mothers are biologically necessary for babies,’ and not only for the obvious reasons of pregnancy and birth. ‘Babies are much more neurologically fragile than we’ve ever understood,’ Ms. Komisar says. She cites the view of one neuroscientist, Nim Tottenham of Columbia University, ‘that babies are born without a central nervous system’ and ‘mothers are the central nervous system to babies,’ especially for the first nine months after birth.”

Isn’t God amazing! He created women with wombs, ovaries, and breasts in order to bear and nourish their babies and now we find that mothers are the central nervous system to their babies! This is His perfect and awesome design. His will is that mothers be the ones to raise their own babies and be there for them continually since they are perfectly created to do this.

“Women produce more oxytocin than men do, which answers the obvious question of why fathers aren’t as well-suited as mothers for this sort of ‘sensitive, empathetic nurturing.’ People ‘want to feel that men and women are fungible,’ observes Ms. Komisar—but they aren’t, at least not when it comes to parental roles. Fathers produce a ‘different nurturing hormone’ known as vasopressin, ‘what we call the protective, aggressive hormone.'”

People have gotten angry with me for suggesting that God wants mothers home with their children full time, not fathers. God is the One who commanded women be keepers at home, not fathers, and now there’s proof to why mothers are better than fathers with their children full time. God created women more emotional and sensitive than fathers for a very good reason. Who are we to question His perfect will?

“As Ms. Komisar ‘started to put the pieces together,’ she found that ‘the absence of mothers in children’s lives on a daily basis was what I saw to be one of the triggers for these mental disorders.’ She began to devour the scientific literature and found that it reinforced her intuition.”

This is exactly what the author of the book Home By Choice found. Those children who are raised by their mothers full time are much more secure and emotionally stable than those children who were not raised by their mothers full time. It makes perfect sense when we understand the mother’s effect on her baby’s central nervous system and the oxytocin that comes from her towards her baby.

“When she was shopping for a literary agent, she tells me, ‘a number of the agents said, ‘No, we couldn’t touch that. That would make women feel guilty.’  Another time she was rejected for a speaking gig at a health conference. She quotes the head of the host institution as telling her: ‘You are going to make women feel badly. How dare you?'”

I was told the same thing many years ago when I wanted to teach about women being keepers at home to a group of women at my church. I was told it would make working women feel guilty, thus I was not supposed to teach them what God had instructed me to teach them. Sadly, few older, Christian women are teaching the younger women to love their children and be keepers at home and the women and children are suffering.

“You can see why tradition-minded conservatives welcome Ms. Komisar so warmly. Think about how they are stereotyped—as backward, superstitious, hostile to science. She shows that science validates what they know as common sense.”

Unfortunately, it’s not common sense anymore, even among Christians, or else so many wouldn’t fight against what I teach. Yes, women are commanded to be keepers at home and raise their own children. Their children desperately need and want their mothers. No one can take the place of a mother in a child’s life. These teachings aren’t backwards and superstitious. They are what is best for the children. Children, the most innocent among us, are suffering so terribly in our country right now.

I don’t agree with Ms. Komisar’s conclusion that the solution to this problem is more government funding for maternity benefits which simply increases the tax burden on everyone, especially upon the men who are the sole providers of their families. Mothers need to stay home with their children as long as their children are under their roofs. Children need their mother’s protection, their care, their guidance, training, and love. No one can replace a mother in a home or in a child’s life.

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1 Timothy 5:14

Does God Depersonalize Women?

Does God Depersonalize Women?

One woman who claims to be a Christian wrote, “When men rule over women, there will be abuse. Period. Christians need to look at the fruit of Patriarchy. God does not depersonalize women.” Unfortunately, this is how MANY women who call themselves Christians believe today. They throw out a lot of the Word in order to come to this conclusion. There are billions of men who have lived in this world who have ruled as heads of their homes without abusing their wives, just as there have been billions of parent who have ruled over their children who have never abused them.

There are governments who have ruled over their citizens without abusing them. There are bosses who have ruled over their employees without abusing them. The messed up thinking of so many women today makes it difficult to teach submission because for some reason, they know “boatloads” of women who have been abused due to submission. No, submission and men ruling over women doesn’t cause abuse. Evil hearts cause abuse, not men in general. There are many more men who would never abuse their wives than there are those who would.

All of the Kings, Prophets, Patriarchs, and Apostles were men in the Bible but only evil kings abused those underneath them. Evil women abuse, too. Evil women harm and even kill their children. You see, women, those who make up their own god don’t believe in evil. They fight against those who teach there is evil. They make up their own rules for what is evil (like submission and patriarchy), thus forsaking what the Bible clearly says is evil.  In fact, in 2 Timothy 3:1, 3 we are told this: “This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come…despisers of those that are good.” There are many who despise those who are good and love the Lord and His ways. I hear from them almost daily.

God doesn’t say that men ruling over women causes abuse. No, His design is for men to be heads over their wives and leaders in the churches but feminists fight against this because they falsely believe that women do a much better job than men.

No, God does not depersonalize women; it’s feminism that has depersonalized women. “Feminism is designed to make women feel unworthy for devoting their lives to the people they love. It forces them out of the house where their employers can control them. It forces infants into joyless day cares subject to conditioning and who-knows-what-else” (Henry Makow). It’s feminism that has taken away the femininity out of most women, devalued their roles as wives, mothers, and homemakers and replaced it with careers that can’t love them back and won’t be there for them at their deathbed. Don’t fall for the lie, women. Listen instead to the One who created you.

Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the Lord, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon. For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.
Isaiah 55:7-9

What is a Feminine Woman?

What is a Feminine Woman?

Written By Henry Makow Ph.D.

A feminine woman is motivated by love of husband and children. She is the heart of the family, devoted to her husband and children’s well being. This is her career. A woman who is preoccupied with another demanding career cannot pay attention to her family. Love is mainly paying attention. There is a New Yorker cartoon where a child is wearing a welder’s mask and using a blowtorch to write, “I need love” on the living room wall. His mother says to her friend: “He’s just doing that to get attention.”

Career is a feminist lie. Since when are careers the source of human fulfillment? What is so great about being an Assistant Loan Manager at a bank? Is society expected to provide legions of eager feminists with “fulfilling” careers to compensate for their loveless lives?

Feminists are teaching women to be “strong and independent.” This is not feminine. Men respond to a woman’s need. We want to rescue the damsel in distress and to win her favors. This archetype is also innate in women. She wants to be enlisted by a man.

A feminine woman DEPENDS on a man. This doesn’t mean she is an emotional waif. She is competent but she doesn’t pretend to be independent. Men and women need each other to be whole. As long as I have my wife, I am self-sufficient. So is she.

Just as the woman is the heart of the family, the man is the head and shoulders. A feminine woman is her husband’s partner (I would change it to “help meet”). They make decisions together but he has the last word (I would add that the wife lives in submission to her husband’s leadership). Men must be the visionaries, captains and navigators. A woman’s most important decision is the man she chooses to love and marry.

A feminine woman is modest. She wants a man to pay attention to “her” so she doesn’t flaunt her sexuality. A woman wants to be loved more than anything in the world. She wants to be “known” in all her divinity. This happens when she is truly loved. Is it a coincidence the Bible uses the word “know” as in Abraham “knew” Sarah, to speak of sexual intercourse? All women are beautiful when they are loved. Women’s liberation has taught women to pursue sex for its own sake, as though they were men. This is not feminine. If a man prefers a new car, why would he marry a “used” woman? He doesn’t want a car that’s been driven by a lot of men. He doesn’t know where it’s been, what damage has been done. He will choose a brand new car. In my wife’s words: “A man wants to be a woman’s first lover; a woman wants to be his last.”

If men chose wives with the same attention as cars, more marriages would succeed. Women are the vehicles to the future, in terms of emotional fulfillment and family. If men knew where they wanted to go, they would choose women who would get them there. They would not be blinded by sex.

A feminine woman tries to please the man she loves. No, this has not been outlawed, it just seems that way. A feminine woman generates love by giving love. She empowers her man by believing in him. Love is expressed in actions and effort. Baking a pie is an act of love. So is making the home beautiful. Are we so blind, impoverished and demoralized that we cannot appreciate this? Why have we allowed feminists to stigmatize homemaking? Women would be more than happy to be homemakers if it received the recognition and appreciation that it deserves.

A feminine woman has grace, beauty and wisdom. These all come from staying in touch with her spirit and not pursuing an exhausting career that requires masculine qualities.

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
Proverbs 31:10-12

*picture by Daniel Gerhartz

**I don’t know anything about this author, if he is a Christian or not, and I did add and delete a few things that I disagreed with but overall, I believe he wrote a lot of truth that we can learn from!

Her Husband is Known in the Gates

Her Husband is Known in the Gates

Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
Proverbs 31:23

As we know from God’s Word, God’s instructions in marriage are for the husband to be the provider and protector of the family and the wife is to be his help meet and keeper at home. This is the way God created marriage to be and is His perfect will for us.

“Instead of being a hindrance to her husband’s advancement, she furthers it. Her influence for good to him also. Having no domestic anxieties, he is set free to do his part in public life” (Ellicot’s Commentary). Unfortunately, many women demand that their husbands help around the home, even after the husbands have worked hard all day at work. A godly wife will do all she can to make sure that all of her home duties are taken care of and the children are well disciplined and trained so that when her husband comes home from work, he can relax and enjoy his time with his family.

“Known; observed and respected, not only for his own worth, but for his wife’s sake; not only for those rich ornaments which by her care and diligence she provides for him, which others of his brethren, by reason of their wives’ sloth or luxury, are not able to procure, but also for his wisdom in choosing, and his happiness in enjoying, so excellent a wife, by whose prudent care, in the management of his domestic concerns, he hath perfect freedom wholly to attend upon public affairs…Sitteth among the elders of the land, in counsel or judgment” (Matthew Poole’s).

Her husband’s career is as a leader and/or judge in the land. He is able to do his job well because he has no concerns or anxieties coming from his marriage or home life. He chose a godly, submissive help meet who takes pleasure in working hard in the home and with her children. He trusts her to take care of all her work in the home so he can take care of providing for his family. They each know their role and work at it to the best of their ability.

We know couples where the wives are slothful in the home. They don’t care for their home, nor do they discipline and train their children well. Their husbands don’t come home to a delicious smelling dinner, nor do they come home to a clean home or well-trained children. In the morning before work, their work clothes sit wet in the washing machine. Their wives bring them dishonor and shame. Let this never be said of any of you.

“Her husband is known in the gates,…. Of the city, where courts of justice were kept, and causes heard and tried by the judges, the elders of the land, later mentioned; among whom the husband of the virtuous woman was, where he was known, taken notice of, and celebrated; not so much for the beautiful garments she made him, as Jarchi; but rather for his wisdom, as Gersom, and for being the husband of such a woman; who, taking such care of his domestic affairs, he was more at leisure to attend public business, and transact it with reputation…when he sitteth among the elders of the land; when he sits in his house, at his table, circled by his saints, his ancient ones; or as King, head” (Gill’s Exposition).

Everyone admires this man for the wisdom and confidence that he shows in his work. His wife is definitely his crown. She has built him up and encouraged him, thus she has made him look good to all those around. She is his biggest cheerleader and confidant. He knows he can put all of his energy into his work because he can come home and enjoy the fruit of his wife’s labor. He is a blessed man indeed.

“Such a woman advances her husband’s interests, increases his influence, and, by attending to his domestic concerns, enables him to take his share in public matters, so that his name is in great repute in the popular assemblies at the city gates” (Pulpit Commentary).

May you all be this kind of wife who builds her husband up by respecting, reverencing, submitting to, and loving him. May you treat him with kindness and gentleness. May you work hard in your home and make it a place of order and beauty. May you raise your children in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord so that your husband can be thankful that he was blessed with such an incredible help meet; the perfect one for him.

Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.
Proverbs 18:22

*picture by Daniel Gerhartz

Proverbs 31 Woman – The Modern Day Fallacy

Proverbs 31 Woman – The Modern Day Fallacy

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Over and over again women use the Proverbs 31 woman to try to convince me that women are allowed to have careers. There is no way this made-up woman in the Bible who represents godliness would leave her children every day for many hours a day for mammon (money). God wants mothers to raise their children. He has made this very clear in His Word. God spoke mostly negatively about money in His Word and positively about children. He loves and values children. They are gifts and blessings from Him.

A woman with a career is making her boss the one she is in submission under. The Proverbs 31 woman was only under submission to her husband. It doesn’t speak about a boss or coworker rising up to praise her. No, it is her husband and children because these are who she has invested her life into, certainly not a career. She looks well to the ways of her household, not her career.

When a woman has a career, she must give her best for it. Her children get the leftovers and her husband gets little to nothing. Is it any surprise that divorces have skyrocketed since the feminist movement which convinced women that it was imperative for them to leave their homes and get out of the bondage of being home with their children and a wife to their husband? A wife’s first responsibility is to be a help meet to her husband. This is why God created her in the beginning.

The Proverbs 31 woman’s entire life revolved around her home and family. Everything she did was for them. The best thing she did was being there with them. You can’t be the best for your family if you are rarely with them. She most likely (although remember she is a made up woman) did most everything with her children at her side teaching and training them in the ways of the Lord. She taught them to work hard and to live simply (since they had to sew their own clothes and plant their own garden). Yes, she had servants but technology has given us an abundance of things that make our lives easier. Flip a switch and light, heat, and air conditioning comes on. Turn a knob and fresh hot, warm, or cold water flows freely. Yes, we are blessed with many things that make our lives easier but has it made many lazier, too. Probably since lives don’t demand hard work in order to survive in wealthy states.

Here is what the great theologian, Matthew Henry, wrote in his commentary about these verses in 1706. You will notice there is nothing about having a career and leaving her children for strangers to raise.

This is the description of a virtuous woman of those days, but the general outlines equally suit every age and nation. She is very careful to recommend herself to her husband’s esteem and affection, to know his mind, and is willing that he rule over her.  She can be trusted, and he will leave such a wife to manage for him. He is happy in her. And she makes it her constant business to do him good.

She is one that takes pains in her duties, and takes pleasure in them. She is careful to fill up time, that none be lost. She rises early. She applies herself to the business proper for her, to women’s business. She does what she does, with all her power, and trifles not. She makes what she does turn to good account by prudent management. Many undo themselves by buying, without considering whether they can afford it. She provides well for her house. She lays up for hereafter.

She looks well to the ways of her household, that she may oblige all to do their duty to God and one another, as well as to her. She is intent upon giving as upon getting, and does it freely and cheerfully. She is discreet and obliging; every word she says, shows she governs herself by the rules of wisdom. She not only takes prudent measures herself, but gives prudent advice to others.

The law of love and kindness is written in the heart, and shows itself in the tongue. Her heart is full of another world, even when her hands are most busy about this world. Above all, she fears the Lord. Beauty recommends none to God, nor is it any proof of wisdom and goodness, but it has deceived many a man who made his choice of a wife by it. But the fear of God reigning in the heart, is the beauty of the soul; it lasts for ever.

She has firmness to bear up under crosses and disappointments. She shall reflect with comfort when she comes to be old, that she was not idle or useless when young. She shall rejoice in a world to come. She is a great blessing to her relations. If the fruit be good, the tree must have our good word. But she leaves it to her own works to praise her.

Every one ought to desire this honour that cometh from God; and according to this standard we all ought to regulate our judgments. This description let all women daily study, who desire to be truly beloved and respected, useful and honourable. This passage is to be applied to individuals, but may it not also be applied to the church of God, which is described as a virtuous spouse? God by his grace has formed from among sinful men a church of true believers, to possess all the excellences here described.

She looketh well to the ways of her household,
and eateth not the bread of idleness.

Proverbs 31:27

Why are so Many Women Divorcing Their Husbands?

Why are so Many Women Divorcing Their Husbands?

Yes, more women are divorcing their husbands today than men divorcing their wives. Statistics show that women are 70 – 80% more likely to divorce their husbands. I searched the Internet for reasons and was given many but I will focus upon one in particular called 6 Reasons Women Leave Their Marriages, According to Marriage Therapists. (When skimming through some articles written on this topic, there were numerous reasons given but this article seemed to sum them all up well. The points the article made are in bold and I give my thoughts for those who may have the same complaints about their husband.)

The wives feel taken for granted and overly responsible for the relationship. Many women come into marriages expecting their husbands to be Prince Charming to them who continues to romance them. They aren’t taught to accept their husbands just the way they are, take their eyes off of their supposed needs, learn to serve joyfully, and do whatever they can to make their marriages strong. They must remember that they are the ones who were created to be their husband’s help meets, not the other way around.

They keep having the same argument with their partner. This is an easy solution – stop arguing! The husband is the head over his wife and she is to live in submission to his leadership. The Bible compares a quarreling wife with a continual dripping, rottenness in his bones, foolish, and it’s better for a husband to live on a rooftop than with a quarreling wife. Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement (1 Peter 3:6). If we truly believe and love the Word of God, then we will treat our husbands as our “earthly lords” as God created them to be and would never dream of arguing with them!

They’re not satisfied with their sex lives. This isn’t a reason to divorce a husband! We must not look at Hollywood or Fifty Shades to measure sexual satisfaction. It’s way more important to the Lord that we please our husbands sexually, treat them with respect, and live in submission to them. When a wife is kind, loving, warm, and affectionate to her husband, most men will do anything they can to make a wife like this happy; for we are promised that we will reap what we sow. Besides, most of sexual pleasure comes from the mind and the good and loving thoughts that a woman sows in her mind towards her husband during the day, the better her sex life will most likely be.

They don’t talk and emotionally connect with their husbands like they used to. Men aren’t women. They aren’t emotionally connected as women. Most men don’t talk as much as women. If you’ve married a man, expect him to act like a man and not a woman. Besides, there’s nothing about “emotionally connecting” in the Bible that states this is a requirement for a good marriage.

They’ve outgrown their partners. What does this mean? They are better than their husbands? They know more than their husbands? This is an excuse to divorce the husband of their youth? They have fallen for the lie that there is something better “out there” wherever out there is. I can tell you from watching my parents being married for many years and Ken and me being married for almost 37 years, there’s nothing better than growing old with one man, the man of our youth.

They get to the point that divorce is the only way to put themselves first again. “Often, longstanding issues like addiction or uncontrolled anger will simply push women over the edge.”  Unfortunately, addictions and uncontrolled anger are common today in our culture and much of it is due to children not being raised and nurtured by their mothers full time and having a mother and father in the home. Many children today are coming from divorced families and divorce causes anger and emptiness in the children’s lives. Addictions are a way to escape reality and porn, drug, and alcohol addictions are rampant. Women have their addictions and anger problems, too, for all of the same reason. The answer isn’t giving the children the same broken life that the parents had. The answer is stopping the crazy cycle and remaining committed for life even during the bad times. You know, “for better or for worse.” Just because marriage gets hard doesn’t mean we are to bail out. This is pure selfishness. Women will never find happiness by putting themselves first since the greatest of all is the servant of all. The more we learn to forget about ourselves and care for others, the more fulfilled we will become. It’s the way God created us to be! (Read this if your husband is a very angry man.)

Love is a choice, women. Love isn’t a feeling or emotion. Love is a choice to be selfless, serving, forgiving, generous, sacrificing, and loving unconditionally. God commands two things from us: that we believe on the name of His Son Jesus Christ and love one another (1 John 3:23). We are commanded to love our husband and even reverence him. Our  love, submission, honor, and respect towards him will have a much better chance of changing our husband into the man that God wants him to be than anything else we can do.

What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
Mark 10:9

Children Being Taught By Feminists

Children Being Taught By Feminists

A man wrote me this the other day concerning female school teachers: “I started Kindergarten in 1957, and my teacher was an older woman, probably late 50’s or early 60’s. Same with first grade. When I started second grade at a brand new school, I had my first of many female teachers who were young, probably mid 20’s to 30’s. While there were a few male teachers at elementary schools in the 60’s, women were the norm. So here is my question to you: How do you feel about young boys being taught at school by young women some barely past the tender age of 21, especially in this feminist world in which we live?

I think we can both agree, teaching has always appealed to the feminist woman, probably since the early 60’s. In fourth grade I had my first feminist teacher, though I did not know of the term feminist then. What I did know and could easily see was she favored girls in the classroom like I’d never seen before and was quick to put down any boy who did not measure up to the girls, or at least it seemed that way. Recently, after re-connecting with an old classmate from that time, we were discussing this very teacher, so I did a little research. After not finding out anything I looked up obituaries and sure enough found her by her maiden name even though she was married. She had a hyphenated last name with her maiden name-husband’s name. So my early thoughts back in 1961 about her being different were definitely true. In fifth grade I had an older teacher again, whom I liked very much. Then in sixth, I had what I would classify female teacher who was a ‘subtle’ feminist. Favoring the girls with preferential treatment, things like that, but very subtle.

So back to my question. I know how you believe (as do I) women should not be teaching men, and that it should be the reverse. How does it fit in when the women doing the teaching are paid teachers and instilling their value system (usually feministic) in young impressionable boys and girls, too, for that matter? I see very few older female teachers nowadays, and this has concerned me for a long time.”

This, my friends, is another reason why Christian parents should be the ones teaching their children at home. I began kindergarten about six years after this man and I can recall that most of my teachers were feminists. Even in Christian schools nowadays most of the teachers are feminists! This should be very concerning to the majority of you. There’s no way that feminists should be raising the godly remnant.

I taught for about five years before being able to stay home. Almost all of the teachers I worked with were feminists. There’s only one that I can recall being a Christian. Most of them had children and weren’t the ones home raising them. One day sitting around the lunch table, about six of these women told me they regretted having children since their children turned out to be rebellious. Their careers were way more important to them than being home to raise their children. Do we really want these women raising our children?

“Raising children in today’s evil times is not for the lazy, indifferent, or casual parent who is swept along with the flow of society – even Christian society. Nor is it for the parent who is too busy to pay attention. We need to be willing to lay down our lives, to step up to being the person God wants us to be. We need to guard and sanctify our children’s environment.

Can we expect to win against this bombardment of evil? Absolutely! When your baby sees and feels joy and peace, he grows up addicted to it and adopts your lifestyle as a means to the continuation of that which brings pleasure. He loves the lovely, praises the worthy, and eschews the evil. It is automatic.” (Debi Pearl)

And ye shall teach them your children, speaking of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.
Deuteronomy 11:19

Christians’ Faithless Declarations

Christians’ Faithless Declarations

Written by Ronda Hinzman

We Christians hypocritically talk out of both sides of our mouth. We love to quote Philippians 4:19 and many other similar verses, then in the next breath say that even though we know what God’s Word tells us about His promises and how we are to raise our children, we just can’t afford to have very many (if any) children, nor can we afford for the wife to stay home and raise the children because it’s too costly. We say that in this day and time it’s too expensive to live (the way we are told we must live–the American dream) and we just cannot make it on one income.

Have you ever considered that in addition to other Christians hearing our faithless declarations, the unsaved also hear what we say and watch what we do? Christians are to be separate from the world, noticeably different, following God’s commands and not the world’s excuses! It takes faith and courage to step out and obey what God has commanded. If Christians make excuses and refuse to step out and obey God’s Word in faith do we really believe in the Supreme God that we say we do?

And my God will supply all your needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:19

But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.
Hebrews 11:6

For the LORD God is a sun and shield: the LORD will give grace and glory: no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly.
Psalm 84:11

But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Matthew 6:33

Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us.
Ephesians 3:20

Why Did Women Burn Their Bras?

Why Did Women Burn Their Bras?

Women supposedly burned their bras in the 1960s. This happened during the years when I was a young child since I was born in 1958 and I sure remember hearing about it. In discussing the topic of openly breastfeeding in public last week (women unashamedly showing their breasts while breastfeeding), it was shocking how many women, even Christian women, believe this is okay. In pondering this, I remembered the time when women burned their bras and wondered if there was any correlation so I looked it up.

“During the 1960’s, women started protesting for equal rights. Women before the 1960’s were known as housewives and mothers and nothing but those two things. This aggravated many women and made them feel the need to reform this stereotype. The 1960’s was the time to do this.

Women burned their bras because they felt that it proved a statement or made a stand for Women’s Rights. Another reason they burned their bras was because it was a symbol that showed independence of men at the time. The women that didn’t burn their bras often walked around wearing no bra at all. This was also meant to show independence of men.” (source)

The truth is that these women were not trying to show their independence from men by burning their bras and fighting against the concept of being housewives and mothers. They were fighting and rebelling against God’s will for them since He greatly values wives, mothers, homemakers, and modesty. He is the One who made women the weaker vessel, thus depending upon men for many things. Women were not created to be independent from men. They were created to be their husband’s help meet if they are married.

One woman in the chat room wrote about openly breastfeeding in public. “Covering up used to be the norm. No God-fearing woman would have ever even thought of revealing herself because she was exemplifying modesty, dignity and shamefacedness. I asked my grandmother some time back about women breastfeeding in public and she said no one would even do it in the presence of men; they would excuse themselves and go to a private place. That’s the respectful thing to do…for yourself, baby and others.”

Her grandmother was raised in America before the 60s when women were taught to be wives, mothers, homemakers, discreet, chaste, modest, and shamefaced (not drawing attention to themselves). I nursed four babies for a year each and never once did a man who wasn’t my husband see my breasts. I knew that would be wrong and embarrassing for both of us. Too many younger women today have no sense of shame and decency when it comes to nakedness.

Has our culture somehow “sexualized” breasts as some believe? No! God is the One who sexualized them. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love (Proverbs 5:19). No matter how much women falsely believe they should be able to openly show their breasts and not have men lust after them, it’s NOT going to happen just because they want it to happen. God created men to be attracted to the female body. “If a woman wants to understand male sexuality, the first thing she needs to understand is the power of the visual” (Dennis Prager).

One woman responded on one of my handwritten posts about thong bathing suits and breastfeeding openly, “You are equating breastfeeding with wearing thongs?” No, I am equating bare breasts with bare bottoms. The Women’s Rights Movement was and is against God and His will for women. It is against being godly wives, motherhood, modesty, and everything feminine that defines a woman. No, feminists weren’t and aren’t fighting men. They were and are fighting God. Try to remember this the next time you find yourself supporting something that feminists or our culture supports.

In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety.
1 Timothy 2:9

Looking Forward to the Future with Joyful Confidence

Looking Forward to the Future with Joyful Confidence

She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet…Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
Proverbs 31:21, 25

Many women today live in almost constant fear of the future for their children and themselves. The daily news paints a horrific picture of what is going on in our country and around the world. There are many things to fear but God continually tells us in His Word that we should not fear but put our trust in Him. Remember, He is still on His throne and He is in control. Yes, evil will continue until we are on the new earth but until then, there will be pain, heartache, and struggle but we can trust God and His perfect will for our lives.

Let’s look at the Proverbs 31 woman for encouragement; for she is given as an example of godly womanhood to us.

“She lives in constant tranquility of mind, and a confident and cheerful expectation of all future events, how calamitous soever, partly because she hath laid in provisions for a rainy day, and chiefly because she hath the comfortable remembrance of a well-spent life, and, which follows thereupon, a just confidence in God’s gracious providence and promises made to such persons.” (Matthew Poole’s)

God has given us many promises in His Word. Highlight them in yellow so when you open your Bible you can be reminded of them. We can do all things through Christ who strengthens us. The joy of the Lord is our strength. He will never leave nor forsake us. He is with us wherever we go. He makes all things new. We are forgiven and free from sin and condemnation. He will supply all of our needs according to His riches in Christ Jesus.

He shall cover thee with his feathers, and under his wings shalt thou trust: his truth shall be thy shield and buckler.
Psalm 91:4

“Strength, not of body, but of mind. The church is clothed with strength, as her Lord, head, and husband, is said to be, Psalm 93:1; and which she has from him; for though she is the weaker vessel, and weak in herself, yet is strong in him; and is able to bear and do all things, with a fortitude of mind to withstand every enemy, and persevere in well doing: and she is clothed with ‘honour’; with honourable garments, suitable to her rank and dignity; in cloth of gold, in raiment of needlework; with the garments of salvation, and the robe of righteousness.” (Gill’s Exposition)

God has promised that He has blessed us with every spiritual blessing (Ephesians 1:3) and we are complete in Him (Colossians 2:10). Instead of keeping your eyes on the news and the happenings around you, seek those things which are above! We are commanded to dwell on the lovely, pure, and good for a reason. God does not want us to live in a state of continual fear. This isn’t our home. He’s building a mansion for us. We can trust in Him.

“She shall rejoice in, rather: she laugheth at, i.e. so far from regarding it with apprehension, she can look forward to it with joyful confidence.” (Cambridge Bible)

She doesn’t allow the events around her steal her joy. She rejoices in the Lord and is thankful as He has commanded her to be. She reminds herself of the abundance that He has blessed her with and lives her life in continually gratitude and praise for what He has done for her.

“She is invested with a moral force and dignity which arm her against care and worry; the power of a righteous purpose and strong will reveals itself in her carriage and demeanour. She is not disquieted by any fear of what may happen, knowing in whom she trusts, and having done her duty to the utmost of her ability. The true servant of God is not afraid of any evil tidings, his heart being fixed, trusting in the Lord.” (Pulpit Commentary)

Many women today live their lives and make their choices based on the fear of “what if…?” This is NOT how we, who serve the Living God, are supposed to live. No, we live as He has commanded and trust Him with everything.

He shall not be afraid of evil tidings: his heart is fixed, trusting in the LORD.
Psalm 112:7