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She Does Not Seek Her Own Way

She Does Not Seek Her Own Way

“Charity…does not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth” (1 Corinthians 13:5, 6). The KJV of the Bible uses the word “charity” instead of love. Charity means “in a general sense, love, benevolence, good will; that disposition of heart which inclines men to think favorably of their fellow men, and to do them good.” Charity helps define what love is more clearly. Love is an action not a feeling. It’s an action of good will and love towards others not evil.

“Charity dos not behave itself unseemly.” Gill’s Exposition of the Bible interprets the word “unseemly” to mean “by using either unbecoming words, or doing indecent actions.” We are to not let any unwholesome words come out of our mouths “but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers” (Ephesians 4:29). We don’t cuss, swear, or slander others. We aren’t loud and demanding to be heard. We speak the truth in love. We aren’t rude to people. We are discreet with our actions and how we treat other people. We show kindness to everyone. We pursue modesty, femininity, and gentleness in all of our ways. Learning to have a meek and quiet spirit is one of our greatest goals.

“Charity seeketh not her own.” Yes, she seeks what is best for her husband as his help meet. She seeks what is best for her precious children, not what she wants to do and not pursuing her goals and dreams. She knows that they need and want her with them full time. This is what is best for them. She seeks what is best for her home and makes it a place of refuge in the storms of life. She wants a lovely and peaceful home where her family will feel well loved and cared for. This means she must sacrifice her pleasures and what culture tells her to do for the good of her family which is to be a keeper at home as God requires (Titus 2:5).

“Charity is not easily provoked.” Provoke means “to make angry; to offend; to enrage.” Many women are easily provoked simply for not agreeing with others. They have no charity towards others. They allow their feelings and emotions to control their behavior instead of what is true and right, and we wonder why the divorce rate is so high. On the other hand, a woman who is not easily provoked shows charity to others by allowing them to have opinions contrary to her own without getting upset and angry. The only thing that provokes her is sin and Satan. She is patient and kind towards others as she is called to be. She loves others more than she loves herself.

“Charity thinketh no evil.” A woman who is full of charity tries to find the good in life instead of dwelling upon the evil and trying to find things to complain about. She finds the good in people, too, and dwells upon these instead. She doesn’t make up slander about others in order to tear them down. She doesn’t think evil of the president or any of the leaders but prays for them instead. If she is upset with someone, she gives it to the Lord instead of thinking evil about them. She doesn’t allow bitterness to grow in her heart since she knows that this defiles many (Hebrews 12:15).

A godly woman loves and cares for others deeply. She is available to help when there is a need. She loves being there for people and making their lives easier. Let’s be this kind of woman!

Charity…beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
1 Corinthians 13:7

Pursue a Spouse, Not a Career

Pursue a Spouse, Not a Career

Preached By John MacArthur

Now there are some people who have a gift for singleness that means a spiritual–unique spiritual capacity to remain single for the purpose of serving the Lord. Unless you have that gift and it’s clearly defined for you, then you need to be married. I don’t need to remind you that in biblical times people were married by the time they were fifteen or sixteen. Some of you are way overdue. Get married. Many of you are focused on pursuing a career, pursue a spouse. This is a very good place to find one because we have a huge number of single people who need to be married; they need to be married, for every reason that you can think of, but mostly for the reason that this is a gift of God called the grace of life.

I’m not sure why in this particular Christian culture in which we live that we are prone to follow the habits of the world and remain single for long periods of time, but that is a worldly kind of life, taking people who should be married and having them try to survive as single people when they are wired, hard wired and even given the opportunity by God to be married. Stop waiting for the Messiah, ladies. He came and went. Settle for somebody less. And, men, stop looking for the Proverbs 31 woman. That is an ideal to which women aspire. And the truth of the matter is, find another Holy Spirit-led, loving Christian, and get married.

Now on that basis, you can listen to what I’m going to say because if you’re not married, you’re going to be getting married. And if you’re married and you haven’t had children and the Lord enables you, you’re going to be having children, so this is all very urgent for you.

I’m asking you to do something very foundational and you laugh because it sounds humorous. But there’s so much truth that we have a society of people who way over exaggerate singleness, who way over extend singleness and make it very difficult on themselves and develop habits of singleness that make it harder to come together with another person because the groove keeps getting deeper and deeper out of which you have to get yourself out and walk together with someone in unity and love. Your singleness should be as short as possible. Marriage as quickly as possible. And once you’ve picked the right one, engagement as brief as possible.

And all of this, of course, is against the grain of our culture. I’ve been around long enough to know that people used to get married in their late teens and early twenties. That was the norm. And now the society perpetuates singleness out of its own selfish preoccupations and it’s fraught with all kinds of things, not the least of which is immoral behavior. And we are living in time when way too many people are single and single because they are selfish and because either no one can live with them in their selfishness or they’re not willing to give someone else the opportunity to intrude into their agenda.

We are watching the death of marriage. And you could say while we’re watching the death of marriage because of divorce and you would be right. Or you could say we’re watching the death of marriage because of homosexuality and you would be right. And we’re watching the death of true marriage because we’re watching the rise of homosexual marriage, and you would be right. You could say we’re watching the death of the family because of sterilization and abortion. But we’re also watching the death of the family because of an over-extended, preoccupation with selfish desires and personal agendas that push people into some perpetual singleness.

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1 Timothy 5:14

Why are Women SO Offended When Told Leggings are Immodest?

Why are Women SO Offended When Told Leggings are Immodest?

Yesterday, my post was about leggings being immodest and young teenage girls being told to wear a long shirt to cover them up. This caused an outcry among women and many were offended. Women are offended whenever I write about leggings being immodest so I asked the wise women in the chat room why they thought this was the case and here are some of their answers. (We must remember that whatever we do, we are to glorify the LORD and love others, even concerning what we wear.)

Lindsay: “Leggings can be modest as long as they aren’t worn as pants. Leggings are not pants. They’re just warmer pantyhose. They’re undergarments, not outer garments.” I agree. Most women that I see wearing leggings wear them as pants. Their entire front and back side are clearly seen. If we think of them as undergarments, then we will wear something over them, preferably to the knees since this is a good length to wear dresses in order to be modest.

Debbie: “Because they are wearing them and don’t have correctable spirits. They are rebellious. And I’m talking about ones that wear the butt shapely ones uncovered.” This is so true. Many women today don’t want to be told what to do, no, not even by the LORD. They want to wear what they want to wear regardless of how it affects the men around them. They idolize their comfort over the love they should be having for their brothers in the Lord around them.

Michelle: “I think there are two main reasons: 1) Pride; 2) They’re being asked to consider men’s feelings (and in our current society, it seems that men are expected to sit down, shut up, and let women do as they please).” Women in our culture are taught to despise men. This is the feminist agenda. They not only want to be like men, they want to be superior to men and dictate to men how they should be. The article I referenced yesterday has feminists saying that teenage boys need to be taught not to be “gross sexist pigs” but said nothing about teenage girls dressing like “harlots.” All the blame is placed on men and boys instead of placing any on women and girls.

Cathy: “I think it’s because leggings are in style, they’re cheap and comfortable, and so many women wear them. I also think most women do not feel a sense of personal responsibility (as in, not causing a brother to stumble) and generally, lack a sense of modesty.” This is where we need to be careful as godly women to not simply go along with the flow of our wicked culture but do everything to please the LORD and not ourselves. It’s loving the men around us more than we love ourselves when we dress modestly and appropriately.

Cheyenne: “Like the answers above, pride. And they want to do what they want with no regard for men. A wise women taught me in my teen years to dress the way I want other women to dress around my (then, future) husband. The problem I’m seeing with this is that apparently some women don’t care if another woman causes their husband to stumble, and don’t care if they cause another woman’s husband to do the same.” Women who don’t mind causing other husbands to stumble are being inconsiderate. Yes, some do it out of ignorance but others do it knowingly. They must see the way they are dressed catches other men’s eyes.

We must be wise as serpents and innocent as doves, women! Dress modestly and glorify the LORD with your clothing.

In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.
1 Timothy 2:9, 10

Telling Girls to Dress Modestly is Not Shaming Them

Telling Girls to Dress Modestly is Not Shaming Them

According to a “feminist flash mob,” telling junior high girls to NOT wear leggings is shaming them and promotes a rape culture. I can tell you that this makes zero sense to me and these women have no wisdom. They are foolish women. How does telling young girls to not dress immodestly shame them and promote a rape culture? I have no idea! In the article, a feminist tweeted, “#RapeCultures When we tell 13 year old girls they can’t wear leggings because it’s distracting to the boys.” Thirteen year old girls need to be taught that what they wear effects boys. It’s the difference in the way God created the sexes.

The feminist solution is asking why they should “make girls cover up instead of…teaching boys to not be gross sexist pigs.” And “boys need to respect women no matter what they’re wearing.” I am sorry but it’s NOT shaming women to tell them to dress modestly, to be virgins until marriage, and teach them to be feminine; all the things the Lord requires of women. It’s speaking the truth in love to them!

Leggings are immodest. They are tight and clingy and show every curve. Men and even teenage boys are attracted to women’s bodies, regardless of how much the feminists want to reinvent and tell men how they should act and what they should prefer. What right do they have to demand that men change yet they can act, dress, and do as they please? What about not causing a brother to stumble? What about women being commanded by God to dress modestly (1 Timothy 2:9)? Do you notice God did not give this command to be modest to men because He knows that it is men who are more visual and women are more apt to dress immodestly to attract men. He’s the One who created men to be attracted to the female body and He did it for a good reason – to bond them in marriage and be fruitful and multiply.

No, it’s not shaming women to tell them to cover up and be modest. It’s what God commands of us. Since when are God’s commands shaming women? I am accused often of shaming women because I teach them to be keepers at home, chaste, virgins before marriage, that they should not be teaching men or being leaders in the churches, and to dress and act modestly. No true Christian women should be shamed by any of the commands to them in God’s Word. If they are, they must check their hearts to make sure they are in the faith.

Those in authority at this junior high have every right to tell the girls to wear leggings with a long shirt over them so they won’t distract the boys. Boys and men should be able to go to school and church without having to see women who are dressed immodestly. No, men shouldn’t lust and you must teach your boys about quickly bouncing their eyes because there will always be immodestly dressed women, but we must train our daughters to dress modestly in obedience to God and to not cause a brother to stumble. Neither of these are shaming girls or women. It’s truth.

It is good neither to eat flesh, nor to drink wine, nor any thing whereby thy brother stumbleth, or is offended, or is made weak.
Romans 14:21

Has Women Going to College Made This a Better Nation?

Has Women Going to College Made This a Better Nation?

What are some of the effects of women going to college? Has women going to college made this a better nation or worse? Let’s see. Women going to college has caused more children to be raised by strangers in daycare rather than by their own mothers. It has caused many more mothers to not be keepers at home. Those women who are keepers at home feel discontentment because they think there is something better “out there” and they feel guilty for not bringing in an income since this is all that is important to this culture.

Women now compete with men in the workforce and take over their jobs. It has fueled the war between the sexes in culture and in marriages. It has blurred the lines between the sexes. Women have a lot more head knowledge but less wisdom. Many women are now in deep debt (student loan debt just hit $1.5 trillion dollars and women hold most of it), bear children later, and they cannot be home with their children full time when they do have them. It has taught women to be feminists, loud, and hateful towards men. College promotes sexual promiscuity, abortions, drunkenness, and drugs. It surrounds them with worldly friends, false teachings, and influences.

Most women who give me reasons why they think college for women is a good thing is because of what it did for them personally. Women are typically good at this. They tend to be short-sighted instead of seeing the long-term impact of something on culture as a whole. They focus upon what is best for them, the “what ifs…?”, and what they want instead. College for them has given them “this,” therefore, college for women must be good. They fail or don’t want to see the devastation women going to college has had on families, marriages, children, and this nation as a whole. Short-term gain for long-term pain.

The arguments for women going to college are similar to the arguments for feminism. Women are constantly trying to point out to me the “good” that feminism has accomplished but the destruction it has caused on the family, marriage, and children have convinced me to never support any of it. The same is true with women going to college. Nothing is worth the destruction of the family it has caused.

Finally, college hasn’t made women better in any way that really matters: kinder, more loving, more gentle, more giving, more meek and quiet spirited, more wise, more feminine, more modest, more chaste, better mothers, better wives, or better human beings. Dennis Prager said that universities are bastions of stupidity. They have abandoned God and the Bible. All wisdom comes from God and the Bible. The more highly educated women have become, the farther they have drifted from God’s will for them. No, I don’t believe college has made this a better nation in any way, shape, or form.

The saddest part of it all is that most Christian young women seem to be much more interested in higher education, debt, and careers instead of getting married, bearing children, and being home full time to raise their own children. God has told us that children are a blessing NOT higher education or careers. When did Christian women begin valuing what our culture values rather than what God values?

For the wisdom of this world is foolishness with God. For it is written, He taketh the wise in their own craftiness.
1 Corinthians 3:19

The Body Inside Your Body is Not Your Body

The Body Inside Your Body is Not Your Body

Writen by Joel Ohman, Executive Director of and author of the bestselling (and controversial) Other Bodies, a secular fiction book that presents the Christian pro-life viewpoint in compelling Young Adult thriller form.

Pregnancy is beautiful, powerful, amazing. Where there was one, now there is two. God creates, and in His astonishing generosity, He grants women the opportunity to share in this new, generative, life-forming process.

A new life begins.

A new body is formed.

But with this wonderful opportunity comes weighty responsibility, because beginning at conception, every pregnancy involves two or more bodies.

No matter how you spin it, women don’t have four arms and four legs when they’re pregnant. Those extra appendages belong to the tiny human being(s) living inside of them.

The slogan, “My Body, My Choice,” betrays a tragic misunderstanding of what is taking place inside the womb. At no point in pregnancy is the developing embryo or fetus simply a part of the mother’s body.

There are a number of clear biological facts, and all sorts of legal precedents, that easily refute the claim that the embryo or fetus is simply part of the mother’s body.

It’s a hard truth for many to hear though.

The body inside your body is not your body.

Sometimes the best way to communicate hard truths is to do so in story form. Aesop used fables. Jesus used parables. Even the nursery rhymes of “Mother Goose” contain deeper, sometimes darker meanings.

So, I wrote a book.

It wouldn’t be my first time. I’ve written the #1 bestselling YA dystopian trilogy, Meritropolis, so I was well aware of the process, and I love to write, so that wasn’t the issue, and yet…

I didn’t want to write this book. I fought it, but the idea kept growing inside of me, and it wouldn’t leave me alone. It was a crazy idea, really. But, when I tried to sleep, it whispered to me. When I tried to write something else, it tugged on the peripheries of my consciousness, daring me to look it in the eye. If I were to do so, I knew what it would mean though. Career suicide, most likely. Too controversial. Too ambitious. Delusional, really.

Let’s be honest; I’m a middle-aged, white guy writing a book about abortion, set in the inner city, and told from the POV of a young girl, all in a dystopian, futuristic America that’s eerily similar in many ways to the world we find ourselves in today. Not to mention, there are complicated issues of reproductive rights, teenage pregnancy, feminism, classism, assisted suicide. One could be forgiven for thinking I’m in way over my head.

And then there’s the hate mail. If I can be transparent, I like getting emails from my readers at 3 a.m., telling me they stayed up late, reading my books, and then, in all caps, WHEN IS THE NEXT BOOK COMING OUT? Those emails are nice. The emails (and reviews) that are not so nice are the ones where I’m accused of being a lunatic, fundamentalist, backward, woman-hating, white-privileged, out-of-touch cis-male Christian. And those are just the words that I can print. The other adjectives are … even less nice.

But the idea was still there, tempting me, taunting me to look it square in the eye and just describe it for what it was: a hard truth about a hard, broken world. I don’t claim to have all the answers, and what answers I might have are not easy. But I think we can do better; we have to do better. I’m a Christian, so the words in the Bible, the words Jesus says, they mean something to me, of course—because I know him. I know what he’s done for me, given his very body for me—he has made the ultimate sacrifice for all other bodies—and I have the simple joy just to say he knows me. And yet, the truth of this idea, it seemed to be so fundamentally basic that we can all agree on it, whether believer or unbeliever, atheist, agnostic, searcher, dreamer, or skeptic.

The hard truth is this: the body inside your body is not your body.

That’s it. When coupled with the truth implicit in all civilized society—we don’t harm other bodies—then even the most atheistic naturalist among us has to admit, when we look at the ultrasound—even a young child knows; we all know—there’s another body in there. Where there was one, now, there are two. So, to delude ourselves into thinking it’s just my body, my choice betrays a tragic misunderstanding of reality.

To intentionally harm either of the bodies, mother or child, is wrong. Point blank.

But what if the pregnancy might do harm to the mother’s body? Of course, when two lives are threatened and only one can be saved, doctors must always save that life. But, if it is merely an inconvenience and not life-threatening, then the right to not be killed supersedes the right to not be pregnant. It is reasonable for society to expect an adult to live temporarily with an inconvenience if the only alternative is doing permanent and fatal harm to another innocent human body.

But what about rape, incest, or disability? Since none of these circumstances are sufficient to justify harming another innocent human body after birth, they’re not sufficient to justify harming an innocent human body before birth.

The body inside your body is not your body.

We don’t harm other bodies.

And, if being a feminist means believing that we are all equal—different but no less equal—then how can one claim to stand for women everywhere while refusing to stand for the little one inside of her?

That’s the hard truth. I’ve done my part. I’ve told the story. I’ve told the truth. I can sleep at night now.

Can you?

Because love lets live.
Because everybody matters.
Because we don’t harm other bodies.
Because the body inside your body is not your body.
Because babies are babies whether they’re inside or out.
Because babies are babies whether they’re wanted or not…

I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.
Psalm 139:14