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Month: March 2018

She’s a Hero for Not Wanting Children

She’s a Hero for Not Wanting Children

Yes, we have a new hero. It’s a woman who was offered a promotion where she worked but her boyfriend didn’t want her to take it because she would be making more than him (which should be a normal male response contrary to popular opinion). He explained that she wouldn’t need it since they would marry then she would be home taking care of the children.

“He then told her that she should instead focus on getting married and having kids because… well, because apparently he got stuck in a time machine and thinks this is the year 1954.” This is when she up and left him. Most women value money over children and relationships. They value their freedom over what’s lasting and important. They value what the Devil, their father, values. God values marriage and children. If God is our Father, then we will, too. He values women being home to bear and raise their children.

People clapped when she told him that she never wanted children. They clapped. How sad is this? They know not God. They don’t do the things of God. They are turning their backs on God’s ways. We must continually be turning towards them; for they are good.

Just this morning, I read this about the Devil. “Yes are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth because there is NO truth in him. When he speaks a lie, he speaks of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it” (John 8:44). Examine this verse with me. Devil = lusts = murderer = no truth in him = liar = father of lies. This is who many people, who refuse the truth of God’s Word, are following, therefore, nothing they do should surprise us.

But Jesus tells us, “And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free” (John 8:32). Free from what? “Whosoever commits sin is the servant of sin…If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed” (John 8:34, 36). We are free from sin but those who refuse Him are servants of sin. We can clearly see the Devil’s deceptions and God’s truth. We know the Lord and that His ways are perfect. We can see the lies many people are believing. They are following their father whose aim is to kill, steal, and destroy. We follow the Father of life who values life and created marriage.

Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
Psalm 127:3

The Beauty of Being Virgins on the Wedding Night

The Beauty of Being Virgins on the Wedding Night

God’s will for us is to only have sex within the bonds of marriage. My Mom taught us to wait for sex until we were married and I’m glad she did. I knew sex outside of marriage was wrong and would only give myself to the man who put a ring on my finger and vowed until death do us part. We taught our children the same thing. It’s safe boundaries for them. Children need and want boundaries, especially in this highly-sexualized culture we live in.

We are commanded in 3 John 11 to “follow not that which is evil, but that which is good.” So we follow the good, right, and holy in what we fill our minds with, what we see, and what we do. Before marriage, we follow sexual purity in all of our relationships. These are for our good! All of God’s commands to us are for our benefit.

I asked the women in the chat room, “If you were a virgin on your honeymoon, what benefit did you and have you found from being one?” Here are many of their responses:

 “I remember on my honeymoon night thinking, ‘I am so glad I am married to this man since it’s SO intimate and we have LOTS of time to practice.’ 🙂 I also loved and love knowing that neither of us have anyone else to compare with and there was no chance of sexual diseases.”

“Knowing that I kept myself pure for my husband! It’s a great feeling still when I think about it now.”

“It’s a special gift I gave my husband.”

“I remember waking up on my wedding morning so thankful that I was a virgin. I would say that since we have both only with each other we trust each other a lot more than some of of our friends who did not save sex for marriage.”

“I am thankful that I saved myself for marriage. My husband was the same way so we both were able to learn only about each other.”

“Starting my marriage and faith in Christ with no baggage of sexual immorality is a blessing. It’s a great feeling that I did not fail in this area before coming to Christ and that I was pure for my husband to be solely his.”

“I think just knowing that we are the only ones who have ever seen each other in this way and definitely having no one else to compare with. It just makes it so much more special knowing that we saved ourselves for each other.”

“It made me feel safe because it’s so vulnerable that I couldn’t imagine sharing that experience with someone who didn’t just vow in front of God and witnesses to love you forever. I must say I was so nervous about leaving our wedding because I suspected most people knew we waited, so it was so awkward. I know I shouldn’t have been, but it was, at least for me.”

“Knowing that we will never have to worry about comparisons to past partners is something that secures us. Having something you’ve shared with literally only ONE person in the entire world is pretty amazing!”

“I felt like it was a very special gift we have to each other. There was no comparison, no pressure, just pure love and marital passion. 🤗”

“You are all very blessed!!!! I pray my kids will be able to make comments like this one day!”

“I loved that we both waited for our wedding night. I remember the day after our wedding night and being so aware of that oneness. In a day and age where so many people don’t think twice about sex before marriage, I trusted God’s ways and waited. And I was blessed more than I thought I ever could be. I am the only one in my family who waited until marriage and I love the fact that when we have children and discuss this issue, we can tell them that regardless of what the world says, we obeyed God and His word.”

“It was wonderful to be able to tell our children that in this sexually saturated culture that we waited until marriage and all of our children waited, too! They knew it was possible!”

“Purity, honesty, and loyalty… The promise of a complete and whole marriage that was not contaminated by immorality but filled with a true and lasting friendship that only he and I would experience with each other.”

“I thought it was a special gift we saved for each other and was so excited and nervous at the same time; to learn and enjoy one another in the most possible closeness with God’s blessing and permission.”

“I love(d) that my only experience has been how he/we like it. I don’t have to worry about past experiences clouding my mind.”

“I love that my memory of my first time is one I can remember fondly with him, not one I have to feel ashamed of.”

“Well…. I wasn’t a virgin, but I’m going to do everything I can to teach my kids how important it is to wait. These stories are beautiful.”

“Yes, my husband and I both were. It’s nice to learn it together, with no expectations and nothing to compare to. It’s special to only share that with your spouse. As with other ladies here, I agree pornography addiction definitely feels like an invasion and betrayal of that pure, private experience though.”

“We both were virgins and I think that has helped me completely trust him with myself, body, soul, emotions, etc. We both had insecurities about our bodies which the other was able to love unconditionally. I love the fact that he has been the only one I’ve ever been with so intimately! I have no images or emotions to overcome from past relationships. I’m also glad I can tell our children mommy and daddy understand the struggle but waited and are so thankful we did and encourage them to do the same. I remember we were so ready that we didn’t even stay very long at our reception! Like only one and a half hours and we were out of there!”

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
Hebrews 13:4

Living Simply to Be Home Full Time

Living Simply to Be Home Full Time

Matt Walsh wrote a post yesterday about Americans being a nation of depressed people. I wrote this comment in response to it: “It’s because we have left our Creator’s design for us. Men were created to be the providers and protectors. Women were created to be keepers at home, help meets to their husbands, and bearing and raising children. Children need mothers who are home full time to raise, protect, train, and nurture them.” 

Of course, some agreed and some disagreed. Those who disagreed don’t like to discuss or acknowledge the facts. No, they have to attack and make false accusations against those to whom they disagree with because they despise the ways of the Lord. As an example, one guy wrote about another woman and me: “They don’t get it. Never will. They are blind to facts. They feel cause they can, everyone can. The holier than thou arrogance here is ridiculous.” So we are arrogant because we speak the truth of God’s Word?

But then a woman named Deborah wrote the following and is worthy of a post of its own:

Yes, it is more difficult today to make ends meet. The Socialist Left made the cost of living so high so that mothers would need to leave the home to help provide a living. They indoctrinated the women in the 60s to beat their chest and declare they are equal to men and they began to refuse to keep a home, raise their children, cook, or do any other domestic skill.

They (and men) began to demand the best of everything, clothes, homes, every shiny bauble known to man. They stopped having children in lieu of fancy cars and boats. I was raised by my grandparents the OLD way. We didn’t even have running water in the house, no plumbing, drew water from a hand dug well, GREW OUR OWN MEAT AND VEGETABLES, canned everything to get us through the winter, SEWED OUR CLOTHES, and lived on very little.

WE WERE NEVER HUNGRY. We did not have candy, chips, colas, beer, nor any of the other luxuries of frozen foods, delivery of food, etc. We had NO CAR. We walked to town and carried the bags back. I was quite old when we got our first phone and TV. We plowed the fields with a horse and hand hoed the vegetables. We raised chickens, hogs, etc. for eggs and meat. Poppy hunted for game.

My grandparents were in their late 50s when they took on five grandkids under the age of seven. They didn’t have two nickles to rub together. But we survived and LOVED IT. I wouldn’t trade that life for all the shiny baubles in the world.

What I’m trying to say is that you can do without a lot of things you think you have to have. You can supplement your food with a garden and animals. If your wife doesn’t work, you don’t need two vehicles. Yes, it is more difficult today because the Left wants to destroy everything “family” and everything Christian.

(Directed to men:) You need to get educated so that you don’t have to settle for minimum wage. There is a dire need for the “trades” in this country, such as welders, etc. Women need to get educated so that if something happens to their husband, they can make a living without depending on others for their needs. (I don’t agree with her on this one since getting an education today means accruing a large debt and putting off marriage and children, plus many husbands don’t want to give up their wives’ income when they marry. As believers, we don’t need to live in fear of the “What ifs…?” We need to obey what God has commanded and live in faith of the “But God…!”)

Everything in the right season. Courtship, marriage, THEN CHILDREN, and don’t forget education to support the family. Start your own business. Electrician, plumbers, or whatever you can do, do it and do it well. Minimum wage jobs were never intended to support a family. They were always intended for teenagers to start their work history and make money to support their young years and SUPPLEMENT their family. It was also a place for those who cannot rise higher in society, for whatever reason. My main point is that people don’t have to have the best of everything but you do have to get above minimum wage if you are to raise a family these days.

Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal: For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.
Matthew 6:19-21

Do Women Have to Compensate for Men’s Weakness?

Do Women Have to Compensate for Men’s Weakness?

A woman wrote the following comment to me trying to explain why she divorced her husband and why feminism is so badly needed.

“Let me say this though, I was married for 14 years and it ended in divorce in 2015. While we were married, he believed that all he had to do was provide and then his ‘obligations’ as a man were covered. Always obligations never with gratitude or recognition of his blessings. It seems to me a lot of men believe that providing is enough.

“Men put provision on such a scale and uplift in an attempt to guilt trip the women in their lives from complaining. I was holding down the home with three young kids. Cooking, cleaning, homeschooling, and completely exhausted by the end of the day. He wanted 30 minutes to unwind before being bothered with kids and family when he came home. Thirty minutes turned into hours in the garage tinkering with cars always with a promise to eventually join the family. When he finally joined us he was p**** off for having to do so and treated the kids with disdain.

“Every Sunday, I dragged his sorry self out of bed for church and got everybody ready by myself. He’d still be laying in bed and make us late for church week after week.

“Now I am a single mom with three kids and I have the added luxury of being a provider and student as well. The providing is the least of my difficulties, if all I had to do was get my self out of bed and go to work while my spouse did EVERYTHING else…it’d be an easy life. Now I do it all.

“Men today are such crybabies and that’s why the feminism we’re experiencing today is so extreme, the men are weaker so the women have to compensate.”

So let’s see, she divorced her husband because he wouldn’t do what she wanted him to do. Let me ask you a question: Is this woman’s life easier or harder since she divorced her husband? When she was married, she had to do everything concerning the home and children, but her husband provided the money for her to stay home full time. After she divorced him, she still had to take care of everything concerning the home and the children but now she had to do the providing. She tried to use her example to prove that her husband’s life was easier than her own, thus her husband was weak and this was a reason for divorce.

In reality, she had it made when she was married. She had the entire day to take care of her home and children. She didn’t need to worry about making money to pay the bills or the stress of working outside of the home. Did she ever show her husband appreciation? Did she ever ponder how she treated her husband and the words that she said to him? I seriously doubt it. If she had he may have been much more willing to help her and even want to be around her when he got home but if he came home to an angry and disappointed wife every day, it’s not much motivation for a husband to want to be around.

Has feminism become popular because men are so weak, as she claims, or have men become weaker because of feminism? I believe it’s the latter because feminism has confused the roles. They have caused women to not appreciate husbands who work hard to provide. Too many women now expect their husbands to come home and help with the children and housework and they are continually angry at their husbands when they don’t live up to their expectations.

I know there are many similar cases as this one because of my viral post. The fact that I would suggest that wives be content if their husbands don’t help around the home sparked outrage. I expected my husband to help around the home for the first few years of my marriage and was continually upset with him which tore down our marriage. This is what I was taught in culture and by others. These expectations only harmed our marriage.

Oh, and can I let you in on a secret, women. Most men like to have at least 30 minutes after a long day at work to rest and have peace. Let him have this time to himself if this is what he needs. Men are out there “slaying dragons” as Dr. Laura used to say and it’s not easy to carry the burden of providing for the family. Greet him with a hug and a kiss then let him rest. In this way, he will look forward to coming home and being with you!

Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.
Proverbs 14:1

Feminists Have Done Violence to Mothering

Feminists Have Done Violence to Mothering

In 2006, Dr. Brenda Hunter wrote her book Home By Choice and investigated the problems she was seeing with children. She found out that those who don’t have full-time mothers are much more insecure and mentally unstable. Children were meant to be raised by their mothers, contrary to popular opinion.

Now, there is a post going viral written by Victoria Prooday that states the silent tragedy affecting children:

“There is a silent tragedy developing right now, in our homes, and it concerns our most precious jewels – our children. Through my work with hundreds of children and families as an occupational therapist, I have witnessed this tragedy unfolding right in front of my eyes. Our children are in a devastating emotional state! Talk to teachers and professionals who have been working in the field for the last 15 years. You will hear concerns similar to mine. Moreover, in the past 15 years, researchers have been releasing alarming statistics on a sharp and steady increase in kids’ mental illness, which is now reaching epidemic proportions:

1 in 5 children has mental health problems
43% increase in ADHD
37% increase in teen depression
200% increase in suicide rate in kids 10-14 years old”

Here are the reasons Victoria Prooday gave for these problems:

Digitally distracted parents
Indulgent parents who let kids “Rule the world”
Sense of entitlement rather than responsibility
Inadequate sleep and unbalanced nutrition
Sedentary indoor lifestyle
Endless stimulation, technological babysitters, instant gratification, and absence of dull moments

The solutions she gives to these problems are great and useful but she somehow missed the most important ones: mothers being keepers at home and staying married to the father of their children until death do they part but, of course, this is not politically correct to say even among most Christians. Children need and want their mothers home full time to bond with them and they need their fathers’ love and stability. Their mothers and fathers are the ones called to teach, train, nurture, and discipline them.

Dr. Brenda Hunter wrote the following about the importance of a full-time mother in a child’s life:

If a man had a mother who was physically or emotionally absent for most of his childhood – if he was raised by babysitters or a succession of other caretakers – he will most likely not know what emotional closeness or intimacy feels like. So how can he possibly know what his child is missing? 

  “The point of this brief examination of male vulnerabilities is to assert that sons and husbands need the women in their lives to nurture them, appreciate them, and express interest in their lives. As little boys or as high-powered executives, males suffer from female neglect.

“Kids do not profit from parental absenteeism and the empty house can be a dangerous place…many find empty houses a convenient place to engage in self-destructive behavior.

“Moreover, as these insecure children grow up, the ramifications for society are disturbing. One psychologist has said that never before in American history have so many children been raised by strangers.

“While it is not my intention to heap guilt on single mothers who find they must work, they need to be aware of how their children are affected. You see, young children don’t understand that the mother doesn’t have a choice. I would challenge the single mother, if at all possible, to use her wits and ingenuity to turn her skills into profit at home.

“Feminists have largely controlled the public image of women. Mothers at home, who are impediments to the feminist agenda, have been largely ignored. In their thrust for subsidized child care, equal rights, and abortion rights, feminists have done violence to mothering with their constant proclamation that mothering is a ‘low status job.'”

Mothering is NOT a low status job. It is a job given to women by their Creator. Do you see how easily the enemy of our souls tries to deceive people into believing the opposite of what God has commanded? Stop listening to him and begin listening to the Lover of your soul.

When you come home full time, love your children deeply, speak words of life and Truth into their lives consistently, and teach them to work hard, be honest, love God, and be kind. Raising up godly children takes a lot of time and effort but it is well worth it. It is the most important ministry you will have in your life.

 For my thoughts are not your thoughts,
neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD.
Isaiah 55:8
Should We Rebuke the Devil?

Should We Rebuke the Devil?

In the movie The War Room, Priscilla Shrier plays a wife who at one point “rebukes the devil” by screaming at him and telling him that he is to leave their home and stop destroying their family. This seems to be a common practice today among women especially. They falsely believe that it is their job to speak to the Devil and tell him to flee. Is this biblical?

For one thing, demons don’t live in homes or inanimate objects. They live in fleshly things like people and animals. There’s not one instance where a demon lives in a home in the Bible. There’s no such thing as haunted houses, unless they have been created by people to appear that way. Therefore, we don’t need to rebuke the demons! If you are a believer in Jesus Christ, you are an overcomer and He has defeated the Devil.

James 4:7 states, Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. What does resist mean? Does it mean yelling at Satan? No, it means to “literally, to stand against.” So how do we stand against the Devil? Was he not already defeated at the cross? I remember Michael Pearl saying years ago that the only reason God allows Satan to roam the earth is to refine His saints.

Gill’s Exposition of the Bible interprets this verse this way: “Satan is to be looked upon as an enemy, and to be opposed as such, and to be watched and guarded against; the whole armour of God should be taken and made use of, particularly the weapon of prayer, the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God, and the shield of faith; and also the grace of humility, than which nothing is more opposite to him: he is a proud spirit, and he endeavours to swell men with pride of themselves; and when he has worked them up to such a pitch, he is then master of them, and can manage them as he pleases; but a poor humble believer, with whom God dwells, to whom he gives more grace, and who comes forth not in his own strength, but in the strength of the Lord God, as David against Goliath, and who owns his vileness and sinfulness, and flies to the grace of God, and blood of Christ, Satan knows not what to do with him, he is puzzled, baffled, and confounded; such he leaves, from such he flees; he does not like the power of prayer, nor the strength of faith, nor the sharpness of the two edged sword, the word of God, nor the humble believer’s staff, bag, scrip, and sling.”

 The way that we resist the devil is to put on the full armor of the Lord explained in Ephesians 6:10-18. We spend daily time in His Word and hide it deeply in our hearts so that we won’t sin against God. We pray to the Lord and ask that He be a hedge of protection around us from the Devil’s wiles. We walk in obedience to His commands. We seek daily to become more like Christ by disciplining ourselves for the purpose of godliness.

In 1 Peter 5:8, 9, we are told how to stand fast against Satan and his attacks. Be sober: calm, not controlled by passions or alcohol, serious, habitually temperate (moderate), and calm. Be vigilant: watchful, circumspect, attentive to avoid danger. Whom resist STEADFAST IN THE FAITH.

Our faith is made strong through our trials and tribulations because we depend upon the Lord’s strength to carry us safely through. This is, also, how we resist the Devil. We know his ending and its horrific. We are risen with Christ and are His children. Speak and pray to the Lord instead. We can rest in Him knowing that He is fighting our battles and He is always victorious.

Instead of rebuking the Devil and tell him to stop destroying your family, begin practicing having a meek and quiet spirit, live in joyful submission to your husband, be cheerful and kind, and obey the Lord in how He instructs you to live! He has laid out exactly how you are to live as a wife and He has given you everything you need for life and godliness. Satan was conquered at the cross and greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world. As you live with your husband as a godly wife, you are sanctifying him and he is being influenced by Jesus who lives inside of you. There’s zero need to yell at or rebuke the Devil. Sing praises to the Lord instead!

Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour;  Whom resist stedfast in the faith.
Peter 5:8, 9

Playing Russian Roulette With Your Children

Playing Russian Roulette With Your Children

Written By Ken

In today’s world of broken homes and broken children, it is hard to believe that our society cannot see that it is the result of the lies they were told and they believed just a few generations ago. Women were told they could do whatever they wanted with their lives with no thought of the damage it would do to their children over time and over many numbers of women working. What is a mother to a child but EVERYTHING to them?

Women were told that they did not have to stay in a relationship that did not fit their feelings, or they felt like they were not the sole focus of a husband’s life, so they divorced without thinking of the damage it would do their kids and now in turn all of society. Yes, women were taught to follow their feelings and desires because they were equal to men, while never realizing that most men were not following their feelings or desires but instead putting their hands to the plow and working hard to support a family that would stay together and create their legacy.

You see, women have been lied to and its the same lies told over and over again that began in the garden. “God did not really say that, did He?” and “You won’t really get into trouble as the apple in front of you looks so delicious…, just eat. Then worry about the long term consequences later.”

We all eat the apple. We all want to do things our ways, be our own little god of our puny little lives, and seek the immediate pleasures over ignoring the long term consequences. Well, the day has come when the consequences are coming home to shower bullets on our children and wreak havoc on our society.

Oh, you say, “But I work and there is no problem in my family and with my kids.” And I say “Congrats!” You played Russian roulette with the lives of your children and family and you are one of the maybe 50% that has not suffered divorce or children damaged because of it. Just keep in mind that the sins of a parent are visited even until the third and fourth generation. You may have escaped, but have your children’s children when now their mom goes off to try to follow the example set for her by her mother?

We live in a depressed, anxious, and often dangerous society because the family unit is broken. Moms and dads chasing their own apples of desires and pleasure all at the expense of their children. Of course, these women hate it when Lori speaks the truth to them and she tries to get them to think about the damage they are causing society.

And yet I hear them now, “Not me! I was able to avoid the gun going off in my family.” Okay, now look to your left and your right and see that only about 50% of families are escaping the dreaded consequences that come when we walk away from God’s Word and God’s values. And you have taught your sons and daughters to take the chance and eat the fruit as a two worker home that surely does provide far more security and pleasures than a family with one dad who works hard for his family.

Alas, if we want to look to why some of our kids are so messed up: eating Tide Pods, guzzling alcohol, doing drugs, catching life-long sexually transmitted diseases, turning gay, and worse yet cutting off body parts to try and feel whole, look not much further than a mom who was rarely at home when they needed her love, comfort, and correction. Look no further than the stupid experiment perpetuated on America by Dr. Spock of lax discipline. The experiment failed and now we have half a generation of unhappy and depressed kids and adults. For there are no more apples to eat. We are already eating them all and not a one of them is satisfying.

To get our society back on track will take a huge amount of energy and effort by those willing to look at the damage caused by moms leaving their children and lax parenting and get back in the home and do the work of training. Yes, just as God said from the beginning, “Train them in the way they should go and they will not depart from it.”

The God who wrote the instruction manual on human love and life has spoken, but will our society listen and allow His Word and values back into our homes, schools, and churches. Or are we in for the next generation who will not only walk away from God’s values, but will choose to rebel against Him and destroy those who love anything about God and His ways? I pray our society is reaching a turning point, but fear it will once again choose to no longer hearken to the words of the Lord. Just because you escaped your sins with no seemingly bad consequences doesn’t mean the woman you influenced will.

Whom shall he teach knowledge? and whom shall he make to understand doctrine? them that are weaned from the milk, and drawn from the breasts. For precept must be upon precept, precept upon precept; line upon line, line upon line; here a little, and there a little.
Isaiah 28:9, 10

Teaching “Black Pride” to Children

Teaching “Black Pride” to Children

“Can you maybe write a post, on your blog, regarding African-American mothers of young children and how we are the same as other women? You see, I am often cut-off from family and friends because my husband and I do NOT buy into the ‘you should teach your kids black pride’ narrative. When I tell even close family (siblings), that ‘diversity’ is NOT important to us, that only JESUS is important to us, they get angry with me…….

“I do NOT want my kids to grow up thinking that the world owes them something because they are African-American and because they are ‘victims’; they are NOT, but they are sinners just like everyone else and they need a SAVIOR. My hubby and I think that this narrative is TOXIC and one of the ways that Satan uses to keep people from truly knowing Jesus. Therefore, I MUST keep my kids, unfortunately, from being influenced by MOST of my family.

“That hurts me a lot, but I remind myself (and them) that my allegiance does not belong to them, only to my husband and children, and we want our children to grow in CHRIST, NOT based on RACE!

“It makes me so sad and angry! They NEVER want to look at themselves to see what they are doing wrong, they only want to push false narratives…..! Its SICKENING!

“Do you ever have anyone else ask you that question, Miss Lori? Have any African-American men ever asked Ken that question? Sometimes I am not sure how to deal with it, and I have lost many family members who have been offended because I will NOT let my children hang out with them.

“They also get mad because of where hubby and I have decided to live….as if we should live next to other African-Americans even if it means that our children will not see and be exposed to Jesus, which is the ONLY thing that matters to me!

“Lori, is there any chance that you can address this in one of your posts on your blog, specifically? Please forgive me if I am being too forward or if I m asking too much or if I am being long-winded—I am trying to find like-minded women but they seem to few and far…..”

I received this email from a woman and here is my post for her. First of all, this is what God states about pride: “Pride goes before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall” (Proverbs 16:18). The only thing that we should take pride in is knowing Jesus Christ as our Savior. “But God forbid that I should glory, save in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, by whom the world is crucified unto me, and I unto the world” (Galatians 6:14). 

When I was growing up, we sang a song that went, “Red and yellow, black and white, they are precious in His sight. Jesus loves the little children of the world.” This is how we should be raising our children. The color of one’s skin means nothing. We are all equal in value and worth. We are all sinners in need of a Savior as this woman stated and once we believe, God calls us saints no matter what the color of the skin.

God hates division among His children. He has called us to be a peace with ALL men as far as it depends upon us. “Black pride” and division should not be named among us; for we are all one in Christ. “Now I beseech you, brethren, mark them which cause divisions and offences contrary to the doctrine which ye have learned; and avoid them” (Romans 16:17).

Raising children with a victim mentality is one of the worse things you can do for them. Teach them, instead, who they are in Christ and that they can do all things through Christ who strengthens them. Teach them that life isn’t fair and they need to learn to work hard, love others, and treat them as they want to be treated. Teach them how destructive bitterness is and how we are to forgive each other 70 times seven times, yes, even the sins of past generations. Teach them to be full of grace and mercy towards others.

In this way, you will raise children who are a benefit to their culture. They will grow up to be productive citizens who hold nothing against others. They will be salt and light to a wicked and adulterous nation since they are not grumbling and complaining about their “lot” in life but thanking the Lord for all the good they have; for godliness with contentment is great gain!

Do all things without murmurings and disputings: That ye may be blameless and harmless, the sons of God, without rebuke, in the midst of a crooked and perverse nation, among whom ye shine as lights in the world.
Philippians 2:15

Working Mothers Raise Better Children?

Working Mothers Raise Better Children?

A woman sent me an article and told me that I am dead wrong about working mothers. She linked an article called Working Moms Raise Better Kids. How are these kids better than stay-at-home moms’ children? “They found that the daughters of working mothers are actually more likely to be successful. That means they’re more likely to have jobs, be in positions of authority, and make more money than girls raised by non-working mothers.” Yes, if you are looking to raise children who are successful in the eyes of the world, then yes, work outside of the home and let someone else raise your children.

Raising daughters who have careers, are in positions of authority, and make more money than others are not things that I wanted for my daughters at all. None of these things interested me in the least. I wanted daughters who loved the ways of the Lord, being married, bearing and raising children, and not caring about making a name for themselves in this world by ruling over others.

All of these things that this woman and many other women believe are important aren’t important to the Lord at all. There’s not one place in His Word that states that women are to have jobs outside of their homes. There’s not one place that tells them to be in positions of authority except for over their children. In fact, the Bible warns about women being in positions of authority. No, it’s not a good thing! “As for my people, children are their oppressors, and women rule over them. O my people, they which lead thee cause thee to err, and destroy the way of thy paths” (Isaiah 3:12).

There’s not one place that tells them that it’s important to make more money than others. In fact, the love of money is the root of all evil (1 Timothy 6:10)!

“Boys were found to be more caring: they’re more likely to spend more time taking care of family and taking care of the household than boys of non-working moms.” If you want to raise boys who are good homemakers, then yes, work outside of your home. I have no problem with men helping with housework but it shouldn’t be an expectation that women place upon their husbands since God calls women to be the keepers at home not men. But yes, our culture values men who take on women’s roles since women have taken on men’s roles, even though men never asked for this in the first place.

“Maybe a working mother is a good role model for their daughters, and it sticks with them until their working years.” If a good role model means leaving their home for hours every day five days a week, working for a boss, and their children are left with strangers, then yes, this is a good role model but nothing that I wanted for my children and nothing the Lord cares about.

“The numbers say that daughters of working moms are 4.5% more likely to be employed, compared to the daughters of stay-at-home mothers.” Big deal.

“When a mother goes to work, it shows her daughter that they have good opportunities to be successful.” So what. Successful to whom? To her husband and her children if she has been blessed by them? Successful because she makes money and is in authority over others? Was she around to see her children’s first steps, first words, raise them in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord, teach them about purity and modesty, read the Word to them daily and have them hide it deeply int their hearts, teach them to be kind and honest, discipline them when needed, and all of the other things that children need and want? No, she wasn’t. This is heartbreaking and a lie they are being told with tragic consequences for themselves and their children.

In a study of the impact of working mothers, the conclusions are sobering and the need for mothers home full time are essential for a healthy culture ~

As can be seen, the effect of women in the workforce are dreadful to the society and future generation. Women that have children should stay in the role of a mother to nurture the children in order to have a better future generation. When less mothers join the workforce, there would be higher birth rates as they would not have other intentions on postponing childbearing. The rate of latchkey children will be decreased, too, when there are less mothers working in order to spend more time with their children. This would help in lowering the crime rates and teen pregnancy. The future generation will be brighter for the country, and the society will be a better place and lesser burden on the welfare system. Lesser women in the workplace would help in lessening the cases of sexual assault in the workplace and lower discouraged workers. Society will have better employment rates and lower suicidal rates.

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1 Timothy 5:14

The Path to a Weak and Sinful Church

The Path to a Weak and Sinful Church

Most Christians are afraid to rebuke other Christians who are in sin. Most Christians hate being rebuked by others if they are in sin, therefore, there’s not much rebuking going on and many Christians who are in sin refuse to listen to rebukes. This is NOT how the Church of the Living God is supposed to operate.

Reprove not a scorner, lest he hate thee: rebuke a wise man, and he will love thee (Proverbs 9:8). A wise person takes rebuke because they know they aren’t perfect and they want to grow into Christ-likeness. Therefore, they welcome it and learn from it.

We are commanded to exhort one another daily because of the deceitfulness of sin. But exhort one another daily, while it is called Today; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin (Hebrews 3:13). ‘Exhort’ means to advise, warn, and caution. Sin hardens people’s hearts against the Lord so if you see a fellow believer going down the wrong path, it is your duty to go warn them about it. Sin grows in darkness and secrecy. Rebuking sin exposes it to the light of truth.

Women have told me that they don’t want to rebuke. They would rather just “love” others. This sounds warm and fuzzy but it’s not biblical. Speaking the truth in love is biblical and truth isn’t always easy to speak but imperative for the body of believers; for he who turns a brother or sister from his error covers over a multitude of sin. My brethren, if any among you strays from the truth and one turns him back, let him know that he who turns a sinner from the error of his way will save his soul from death and will cover a multitude of sins (James 5:19, 20).

Ken wrote a reply to a man who tried rebuking someone and lost the friendship over it. Yes, this often happens, unfortunately, since there aren’t many believers who are in sin who will receive rebuke without getting angry.

“I suggest that if you are prayerful about your questions and seek the help of the Spirit in what you say, you then must leave it to the Spirit to do his mighty work in the lives of those who are transgressing or moving towards sin. If this same person was too close to a cliff and about to fall, would you not try to stop them and move them away from the cliff even at the risk of your friendship? We are not responsible for how people respond to exhortation and we won’t always get it right, but when the body of Christ stops exhorting and rebuking is when we end up with a weak and sinful church.

I can tell you over the years that I have many who I have counseled, Christians and non-Christians, who have told me that they were upset with me when I talked to them about their faults, yet weeks and years later I get a kind thank you. Some have said I helped radically change their lives with my exhortation. So be patient and respond to the Spirit inside of you with care and yet not being shy to do as He prompts you to do. If not, we are not being a brother to the family of God.”

My favorite authors, preachers, bloggers, and teachers are those who convict and challenge me towards godliness since I know that I need it. I don’t care at all for those who make me comfortable and feel good about myself, except for who I am in Christ. The culture pulls us away from godliness and this is why we need godly brothers and sisters in Christ who are willing to rebuke, exhort, and encourage us in our daily living. We easily forget and need to remind each other continually.

Never be afraid to do what the Lord has called you to do. There’s an eternity in front of us and all that matters is where our loved ones spend it.