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Month: November 2017

Finding Emotional Freedom

Finding Emotional Freedom

Do you want to be free? Do you want to be in control of your emotions and not have them control you? Do you want them to be your friend and not be afraid of them? Do you, as a Christian, want your emotions to enhance your spiritual life rather than work against it? You can only do this if you rise up and take control of your thoughts. The ‘stream’ of your thoughts will be the most important factor in influencing how you feel. If you can keep firm control of your thoughts, you will not be subjected to extremes of emotional buffeting. If you watch, control, and alter your thoughts by patient practice and trace their effects upon you and others, you can move yourself to the place of emotional freedom” (Dr. Archibald Hart “Unlocking the Mystery of Your Emotions”).

Years ago, Ken and I went to our church to hear Archibald Hart give a conference about what he had learned in his many years of being the Dean of the Graduate School of Psychology and Professor of Psychology at Fuller Theological Seminary. The greatest battle the self must wage is against the emotions…” He believes that emotions are God’s gift to us if we use them properly and have control over them, but not so much control that we are void of emotions and not too little control that they control us. Even God agrees with this: “Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ” (2 Corinthians 10:5).

Yes, we can cry at sad movies, grieve with those who grieve, mourn with those who mourn, and laugh with those who laugh. These are all good emotions when held in control and not allowed to become excessive and/or destructive. Even being angry at sin and the Devil is good but we must not allow this anger to control us and become an idol in our lives. “Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath” (Ephesians 4:26).

How do we accomplish this? By taking every thought to the obedience of Christ and being transformed by the renewing of our minds with truth (Romans 12:2). If you have trouble with this, I encourage you to buy Dr. Hart’s book and learn from the many years of experience he has had in teaching and counseling others. I do remember him clearly saying that 40 years ago when he began his practice, it was usually around the age of 40 that people began experiencing depression, whereas nowadays, it’s teenagers! Something tragic is going on and we must be prepared for the fight.

Teach your children how to have right thinking. If you see that their thinking is bad (behavior and emotions come from thoughts), teach them how to make it good and right by renewing it with truth.

“Everyone hates me.” “No, we love you and so does the Lord.”

“I’m so ugly.” “No, God, the Creator of everything, created you unique and special for His purposes.”

“I’m having such a bad day.” “No, this is the day the Lord hath made, let us rejoice and be glad in it!”

Respond to every bad thought you or your children have with truth from God’s Word just as Jesus did with Satan when He was being tempted in the wilderness. You don’t have to be led my your emotions and feelings. Learn to be led by truth instead! It’s a much happier and enjoyable way to live. Find a godly, older women who you can go to when you know that you are having wrong thoughts so she can help renew your mind with truth during those times that you seem to be unable to do so.

 Attend to my words; incline thine ear unto my sayings. Let them not depart from thine eyes; keep them in the midst of thine heart. For they are life unto those that find them, and health to all their flesh.
Proverbs 4:20-22

Never Encourage Women to Divorce Their Husbands

Never Encourage Women to Divorce Their Husbands

There are women who are STANDING for their marriages. Yes, they are married to disobedient, unfaithful, and difficult husbands but they understand the cost and are willing to obey God instead of listening to those around them encouraging them to take the “easy” way out and get divorced. Several women in the chat room are standing strong in the gap for their husband’s soul and their marriages even though many have told them to divorce their husbands. It is a beautiful thing to witness. Here is one woman who is doing this and encouraging others who have also chosen to stand for their errant husbands.

“You’re keeping your faith and your testimony is strong, even now. People want to fix the situation; it’s human nature. Most people default to fixing marriage problems by shifting the power from the errant spouse to the hurting spouse, by recommending the hurting spouse use divorce to top from the bottom (regain power and authority over the situation).

“Human sympathy seems appropriate. I always ask people if they’re trying to be more sympathetic than God is merciful. Because that’s really what’s going on: people think that they care more than God does about the errant spouse AND the hurting spouse. ‘Fix this pain!’ cries the flesh. My friends often think I’m completely crazy, or that I must have zero respect for myself for remaining married with things the way they can be.

“What they don’t realize is that they’re not going to be the ones picking up the pieces: they won’t be the ones loading up four children every few days to switch homes and clearing the emotional fallout from that. They won’t be paying to support my children or driving to medical appointments with me alone to help. They won’t be paying the lawyers or therapists; they won’t be training up my children to believe in covenant when they can’t even see it. They won’t be in my home holding babies for me. They won’t be at Court hearings fighting for my children to have stability in the midst of chaos.

“So unless someone’s planning on getting some skin in the game, I just ignore them and smile. Because I’m standing. And I’m standing with YOU!” (Robin from the chat room)

Rick Thomas has some other good words for women who are married to disobedient husbands and their marriages seem hopeless:

“Mable is in a marriage that is not meeting her expectations. She longs, dreams, and prays for her husband, Biff, to change. Biff has not changed, and it does not appear that he will ever change.

“Mable is called to be obedient to her covenant relationship even in the face of not getting all she dreams from her marriage. Mable is called to follow Him who is invisible rather than pursuing her hopes and dreams that seem to be right in front of her (or sleeping beside her each night).

“Are you willing to follow God, in obedience to God, even if you are not sure of or in control of the outcome?

“Because Moses wanted Christ supremely, the temporary disappointments in his life did not control him. Moses had a long-sighted view into heaven, and it was that view that released him from the power that the things in his world could have held sway over him.

“He saw Him, who was invisible. His eye was on the treasure. The treasure was Christ. That wealth is what ruled his heart. If your eye is steadfastly on Christ, your heart will not be controlled by the pleasures of this life, whatever they may be.

“Key Elements – Faith to suffer rather than temporary pleasure because to follow Christ was a greater treasure.”

Read 1 Peter over and over again and remind yourself how much Christ has suffered for you. Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth. For ye are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in God (Colossians 3:2, 3).

For this is thankworthy, if a man for conscience toward God endure grief, suffering wrongfully…but if, when ye do well, and suffer for it, ye take it patiently, this is acceptable with God. For even hereunto were ye called: because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that ye should follow His steps.
1 Peter 2:19-21

Blessed are You When Others Hate You

Blessed are You When Others Hate You

Did you know we are considered “blessed” when others hate us? Yes, many hate God and His followers. They hate His ways and all those who teach them. As most of you know, I have many who hate me and hate what I teach. They tell me they hate me and write all types of swear words about and to me. They make up fake Instagram and Facebook accounts by stealing my picture, name, and moniker and pretend that I am writing horrible things. They have sites dedicated to slandering and gossiping about me.

Then I read this from Luke 6: Blessed are ye, when men shall hate you, and when they shall separate you from their company, and shall reproach you, and cast out your name as evil, for the Son of man’s sake. Rejoice ye in that day, and leap for joy: for, behold, your reward is great in heaven…” I am blessed and so are you if people hate you for being a follower of Jesus Christ! We are called to rejoice and leap for joy. Wait, there’s more!

“Woe unto you, when all men shall speak well of you! for so did their fathers to the false prophets.” Woe means “miserable are you.” So most of  Hollywood and all those very popular preachers and teachers of the Word who tickle people’s ears because they fail to teach the truth boldly are miserable in God’s eyes. We should not want all people to speak well of us and be popular in the world’s eyes since this world isn’t our home and the Devil is the prince of the power of the air who is working in the children of disobedience.

Now, how are we to respond to those who hate us, slander us, and say all types of evil against us. “Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you. Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you.”

Women, we are in a spiritual war that is being waged in the heavenlies. If you are a follower and lover of Jesus Christ, you will be slandered and hated by many. This is a guarantee. Whenever you get troubled about this, remember that this is cause for being blessed by God, rejoicing, and leaping for joy! We know how the story ends, who is King of all Kings, and whom we belong to so we have nothing to fear. If God be for us, who can stand against us!

Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.
Isaiah 41:10

Her Children Call Her Blessed

Her Children Call Her Blessed

Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
Proverbs 31:28

“Whose testimony is the more considerable, because they have been constant eye-witnesses of her whole conduct, and, therefore, must have seen her misdemeanours, if there had been any, as well as her virtues; and call her blessed — Both for her own excellences, and for many happy fruits which they have gathered from her wise and godly education of them.” (Benson Commentary)

Yes, there is great blessing in having our children call us blessed since they clearly know all of our faults and failures. Prayerfully, our virtues will far outweigh our faults as we lean upon the Lord for strength and gain wisdom from His Word. Being cheerful instead of grumpy and moody has a great influence for good upon children. This will draw them to the ways of the Lord instead of push them away. They should be able to easily see God’s transforming power in us. If they can’t, it means we aren’t spending enough time at the feet of Jesus.

“Her children arise up,…. As olive plants around her table; grow up to maturity of age, and ripeness of judgment, and so capable of observing things, and doing the work here ascribed to them: or they rise up in reverence of her, and respect to her, suitable to the relation they stand in to her:…for such a mother, and wish themselves as happy as she is; they pray for her blessedness, peace, and prosperity, as all Zion’s children should, Psalm 122:6; they pronounce her blessed, as well they may, since she is blessed with all spiritual blessings in Christ; and so are all in her family that truly belong to her, her children and her servants, her husband also, and he praiseth her; that is, he is ready also to rise up and speak in her praise and commendation…though she owes it all to him; for her comely parts and gracefulness, which he describes with wonder; for her dress, her garments, though they are his own; for her faith, love, humility, and other graces, though they are his gifts.” (Gill’s Exposition)

In order for a mother to have children that respects her, she must train them from an early age to respect the authority in their lives whether it be towards their parents, teachers as they get older, government, elders, bosses, and ultimately, God. If a mother fails to teach her children this important discipline, the child will suffer their entire lives since children don’t naturally obey, respect, and reverence authority, as we can see among many children today.

Children need to be disciplined and trained from a young age to obey their mother’s first request to them – immediate obedience but the mother also must show her children a lot of love, warmth, affection, and cheerfulness so obedience isn’t burdensome. She should want them to grow up to obey the Lord willingly and joyfully. Mothers are the training ground where children either learn to do this or not.

“Her children arise up, and call her blessed. She is a fruitful mother of children, who, seeing her sedulity (constant attention) and prudence, and experiencing her affectionate care, celebrate and praise her, and own that she has rightly won the blessing of the Lord. Her husband also, and he praiseth her; in the words given in the next verse. Having the approbation of her husband and children, who know her best, and have the best opportunities of judging her conduct, she is contented and happy. Septuagint, ‘Her mercy (ἐλεημοσύνη) raises up her children, and they grow rich, and her husband praises her.'” (Pulpit Commentary)

“She is contented and happy.” Would your husband and children describe you this way? This mother chooses to be joyful. She frequently has a smile on her face. She brings light into her home since Jesus is light and lives inside of her. She doesn’t grumble and complain, no, not even about the weather; for she has learned that godliness with contentment is great gain and she knows worry adds nothing to her life. She smiles at the future because she knows that God is in the future and has it all under control. All of her sins are forgiven and she’s been washed as clean as snow. She can now walk in newness of life because of Christ’s finished work in her.

You can choose to be joyful, women. You can choose to smile warmly at your husband and children. This will cause them to feel accepted and loved by you. It will also make your home a happy home! I believe one of the best ways to learn to have a quiet and meek spirit is to learn to be content and joyful.

Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content…I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.
Philippians 4:11, 13

If I Were the Devil

If I Were the Devil

Written by Paul Harvey in 1965

“If I were the devil … If I were the Prince of Darkness, I’d want to engulf the whole world in darkness. And I’d have a third of it’s real estate, and four-fifths of its population, but I wouldn’t be happy until I had seized the ripest apple on the tree — Thee. So I’d set about however necessary to take over the United States. I’d subvert the churches first — I’d begin with a campaign of whispers. With the wisdom of a serpent, I would whisper to you as I whispered to Eve: ‘Do as you please.’

“To the young, I would whisper that ‘The Bible is a myth.’ I would convince them that man created God instead of the other way around. I would confide that what’s bad is good, and what’s good is ‘square.’ And the old, I would teach to pray, after me, ‘Our Father, which art in Washington…’

“And then I’d get organized. I’d educate authors in how to make lurid literature exciting, so that anything else would appear dull and uninteresting. I’d threaten TV with dirtier movies and vice versa. I’d infiltrate unions and urge more loafing, less work. Idle hands usually work for me. I’d pedal narcotics to whom I could. I’d sell alcohol to ladies and gentlemen of distinction. I’d tranquilize the rest with pills.

“If I were the devil I’d soon have families that war with themselves, churches at war with themselves, and nations at war with themselves; until each in its turn was consumed. And with promises of higher ratings I’d have mesmerizing media fanning the flames.

“If I were the devil I would encourage schools to refine young intellects, but neglect to discipline emotions — just let those run wild, until before you knew it, you’d have to have drug sniffing dogs and metal detectors at every schoolhouse door. I’d designate an atheist to front for me before the highest courts and I’d get preachers to say, ‘She’s right.’

“Within a decade I’d have prisons overflowing, I’d have judges promoting pornography — soon I could evict God from the courthouse, then from the schoolhouse, and then from the houses of Congress. And in His own churches I would substitute psychology for religion, and deify science. I would lure priests and pastors into misusing boys and girls, and church money.

“If I were the devil I’d make the symbols of Easter an egg and the symbol of Christmas a bottle.

“If I were the devil I’d take from those who have, and give to those who wanted until I had killed the incentive of the ambitious. And then, my police state would force everybody back to work. Then, I could separate families, putting children in uniform, women in coal mines, and objectors in slave camps. And what do you bet? I could get whole states to promote gambling as the way to get rich?

“I would caution against extremes and hard work, in Patriotism, in moral conduct.

“I would convince the young that marriage is old-fashioned, that swinging is more fun, that what you see on the TV is the way to be. And thus I could undress you in public, and I could lure you into bed with diseases for which there is no cure.

“In other words, if I were the devil I’d just keep right on doing on what he’s doing.

Paul Harvey, good day.”

Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter!
Isaiah 5:20

Showering Grace and Forgiveness Upon Your Family

Showering Grace and Forgiveness Upon Your Family

Last Sunday, our pastor preached about Joseph. He’s my favorite Old Testament character. His faults are never shared and only his strengths. He went through many trials and suffering but we are never told of his complaining and God was with him. He was a wise man.

His brothers treated him horribly and sold him into slavery. Then he was put into prison for years for false accusations. His life was terrible! BUT God moved in miraculous ways to use Joseph mightily for His purposes. When there was a deep and lasting famine, his brothers came to him since Joseph had known that this famine was coming and had prepared Egypt for it so the people would not starve. He revealed himself to his brothers later on and instead of being angry and bitter, he said, “Now therefore be not grieved, not angry with yourselves, that ye sold me hither: for God did send me before you to preserve life…to save your lives by a great deliverance” (Genesis 45:5, 7).

Furthermore, he told them, ‘But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive. Now therefore fear ye not: I will nourish you, and your little ones. And he comforted them, and spake kindly unto them” (Genesis 50:20, 21). This is a great example to all of us of showing forgiveness and grace to those who have hurt us and not allowing bitterness to defile us as we are warned (Hebrews 12:15).

Many families and marriages are torn apart from bitterness and lack of forgiveness. If you think you’ve been treated unfairly or poorly, look at Joseph and model yourself after him. He trusted God and he showed grace and forgiveness to all who hurt him. Many of you will be spending the holidays with family members that you don’t enjoy, that have hurt you, and/or with husbands who are disobedient to the word. The Lord wants you to show grace upon them all, just as Joseph showered grace upon his disobedient brothers.

We are called to be peacemakers as far as it depends upon us. We are told to love even our enemies. Love is long-suffering. It is kind. Love doesn’t envy (“Oh, I wish my husband was like her husband!”). Love does not show off and act better than others. Love doesn’t seek its own but thinks more highly of others. Love doesn’t get offended or angry easily. Love doesn’t rejoice in evil (as many are doing today) but rejoices in the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. Love NEVER fails.

“We accept and thank God for what is given, not allowing what is not given to spoil it.” (Elizabeth Elliot)

God calls you to love your family, yes, even your rebellious and disobedient family members and/or husband. They need to see Jesus living in and through you. They need to see you acting differently than most in the world. They need to see your grace and forgiveness showered upon them as Joseph showered upon his brothers (heaping burning coals upon their heads). They, most likely, need Jesus. Show them Jesus.

O give thanks unto the LORD, for he is good: for his mercy endureth for ever.
Psalm 107:1

Happy Thanksgiving and may the Lord bless you richly!

Dangers of Nail Polish and Nail Polish Remover

Dangers of Nail Polish and Nail Polish Remover

My mom was raised during and right after the Great Depression. Foods weren’t sprayed with toxic chemicals back then and the meat and dairy were from animals that ate what God created them to eat and lived how God created them to live (not crammed into small places). She grew up with four sisters and two brothers and my mom was the one who was most health conscious. She mostly ate organic food and was basically healthy all of her life until she was 80 years old.

A few years ago, she was diagnosed with multiple myeloma. It is a cancer that forms in a type of white blood cell called a plasma cell. Plasma cells help you fight infections by making antibodies that recognize and attack germs. Multiple myeloma causes cancer cells to accumulate in the bone marrow, where they crowd out healthy blood cells.

We’ve been trying to figure out how she got cancer since she lived to prevent it. Yes, we know there are no guarantees in life but after reading and studying about the dangers of nail polish and nail polish remover, we think we figured it out. She had her fingers and toenails done for probably 30 years on a consistent basis. From everything I have read about it, it is something we should all avoid due to how toxic and dangerous it is. Having pretty nails isn’t worth getting cancer and cancer is usually in one’s body many years before it is diagnosed.

“One of the most insidious routes of solvent exposure and toxicity is through fingernail polish and fingernail polish remover. Young girls are especially susceptible to the toxic and xenohormonal effects of solvents, and yet they are the ones most likely to have a dozen different shades of fingernail polish in their bedroom…In addition, solvents can damage a developing fetus in very small amounts and should be studiously avoided in any amount by pregnant women. It should be required by law (and is in some states) that labels on nail polish contain warnings to pregnant women, and that beauty salons have warning sings in areas where nail polish is applied and removed,” wrote Dr. John R. Lee.

“Then they tested participants’ urine for levels of diphenyl phosphate, or DPHP, a chemical created when the body metabolizes TPP. They compared the results to urine samples participants had submitted before the experiment and found that while DPHP levels didn’t change very much in the participants who used gloves and fake nails, levels of DPHP increased sharply in the women who had received nail polish directly on their nails.” (source)

“‘Big job’ employees are veterans, experts at sculpting false nails out of acrylic dust. It is the most lucrative salon job, yet many young manicurists avoid it because of the specter of serious health issues, including miscarriage and cancer, associated with inhaling fumes and clouds of plastic particles.” (source)

Here is a list of all of the chemicals in nail polish and nail polish remover.

“Nail polish is likely the most toxic cosmetic there is. Polish includes poisonous substances such as formaldehyde, phthalates, acetone, toluene, and benzophenones. Phthalates, solvents for colors, are toxic to the nervous system; acetone and toluene, which keep the color in liquid form, evaporate quickly and fill the air with noxious fumes, putting your respiratory system at risk. The other substance we fingered, benzophenones, may cause cancer.” (source)

Here are some better choices of nail polish but even with them, the author of this article wrote, “I’ve shared our top picks below but it is important to note that even these safer options still have some chemicals in them and I wouldn’t use them all the time.” I have decided to never use nail polish again.

We all know how toxic it is just by how it smells. Whenever I did my nails, Ken would ask me to go to another room because of the toxic smell. It doesn’t take research to figure this out but too many of us care more about our nails being pretty rather than the long-term consequences of it. All those years my mom was getting her nails done, she never wore anything over her mouth and nose to protect her from the fumes. Even then, the toxic chemicals entered her blood stream through her nail bed. Do most men even care about or notice women’s painted fingernail and toenails??? It’s not worth the risk, women.

What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which isin you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.
1 Corinthians 6:20

***My mother doesn’t mind me using her as an example of what NOT to do. In fact, if it helps prevent others from making the same mistake, she is happy about it! She has had a good life and has many blessings. She gets teary-eyed just thinking about her family and all who love her. She is ready to go to heaven, though, and be with Jesus. In fact, she can’t wait!

Women Aren’t Wired to Be Providers

Women Aren’t Wired to Be Providers

Growing up, I always knew I wanted to just be a wife and mother. I never had any career goals even though we were “supposed” to have them. (Aren’t jobs or careers for men so they can provide for their families?) I had every intention of marrying a man who wanted me to have children and be the one home full time with them. I didn’t ever want to be the bread winner of my future family so I was careful about marrying a man who wanted the same things that I did. We absolutely talked about it before marriage and Ken was fully on board. He had every intention of being the provider for our family and thankfully, he has been for 37 years.

There are way too many women I hear about who are postponing marriage and having children for their careers. Then when they finally get married, their husbands want them to continue working since they make good money. Reality is proving that this isn’t good for marriage. Suzanne Venker wrote about this. “Nevertheless, the new reality of many women outpacing men educationally and sometimes financially has serious implications for marriage.” God created men to be the providers and women to be the keepers at home. This is His plan and nothing that men and women do today will every change this.

“In 2013 researchers from Washington University in St. Louis studied data from 200,000 married couples in Denmark. They found that when women earned more than their husbands, they were more likely to use anti-anxiety medications and more likely to suffer from insomnia. One might conclude from this study that women, as a rule, aren’t wired to be providers.”

No, God did NOT wire women to be men. He didn’t wire them to be the providers. Our hormones prove this. Our physical build proves this. Everything about us proves that this is not our role in society no matter how hard feminists have fought to say that it is. They will NEVER outsmart God and His plan for us. Never.

“Husbands, on the other hand, are emboldened when they take on this role. Men are made to provide and protect for their families. When they’re stripped of this power, it isn’t pretty. As just one example, a 2010 Cornell University study found that a man is more likely to cheat on his partner if he’s more financially dependent on her.”

Even though many men want their wives to continue working because they see dollar signs instead of a mother at home with her children, it harms the marriage since the husband is last on the totem pole for the wife’s attention. She only has so much energy and most of her energy must go to her work to keep it, then to her children, then her home, and nothing is left for her husband. It’s too steep of a price to pay for extra money. Way too steep of a price. Men have ten times the testosterone for a reason. They are the ones created by our Creator to go out and “slay the dragons,” as Dr. Laura always used to say. Many women who try to do this eventually suffer from burned out adrenals and ill-health.

“A record 25 percent of husbands are now marrying wives who have more education than the man of the house.”

Half of medical and dental school students are women these days. This is tragic for the women: for the men whose jobs they are taking away, for the lack of children they will be having, and for their future marriage. Stop the madness, women. Don’t pursue a high-powered career that makes a lot of money. Marry a godly husband who wants to work hard and be the provider.

“Hypergamy  (the preference of most women to marry ‘up’) doesn’t exist because women are greedy. (Well, some are, I suppose; but that’s a side issue.) It exists because pregnancy, childbirth and the needs of babies invariably make women vulnerable.” This is what God intended and there’s nothing wrong with it but everything right. Bearing and raising godly offspring while being keepers at home is what children, husbands, and this culture needs more than anything else.

Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall beto thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
Genesis 3:16

And unto Adam he said, Because thou hast hearkened unto the voice of thy wife, and hast eaten of the tree, of which I commanded thee, saying, Thou shalt not eat of it: cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life.
Genesis 3:17

She Looks Well to the Ways of Her Household

She Looks Well to the Ways of Her Household

She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Proverbs 31:27

“She diligently observes the management of her domestic business, and the whole carriage of her children and servants. Whereby he also intimates, that she spends not her time in gadding abroad to other people’s houses, and in idle discourses about the concerns of other persons, as the manner of many women is, but is wholly intent upon her own house and proper business” (Benson Commentary).

Taking care of our home and family are our greatest concern; for this is God’s ordained will for us – to be keepers at home. It’s not keepers of the home, but keepers AT home. “AT” means we are there AT home. This is where people will find us the majority of the time. This is where our work needs to be done. This is where we are to stay busy. There is a lot to taking care of a home and family. There’s always something that needs cleaning. Food needs to be fixed three times a day if you have children in the home. This isn’t supposed to be done with our left-over energy. No, it’s supposed to take all of our energy. Being a help meet to our husbands, a mother to our children, and a keeper at home is a full-time job and it’s perfect for us as designed by our Creator.

“The business of her house, her domestic affairs; that her children and servants have convenient food, and in due season; that they have proper clothing, and keep their garments close about them, and unspotted; that everyone does the business of his calling, her several officers, and private members; that a good decorum is kept, that all things are done decently and in order; that the rules of her lord and husband are observed; that the conversations of all in her house are according to the word of God, and becoming their character” (Gill’s Exposition).

As godly woman, our first priority is in pleasing our Lord and Savior. Whatever He instructs us to do, we do with His Spirit working mightily within us. Then we aim to please our husbands as our earthly lords. If they want the home to be kept a certain way, then we keep it that way. We learn to serve them cheerfully and willingly. Then we love and serve our children by disciplining, training, and teaching them all of the ways of the Lord and life. Since God is a God of order and beauty, let us strive to be women of order and beauty in our homes!

“As Almighty God, from His lofty watch-tower in heaven, observes all the minutest details of the manifold work that is going on in the busy hive of earth, so does she from her exalted position in which He has placed her, as mistress of the family, and as responsible to Him, observe ‘the ways of her household'” (Cambridge Bible).

A woman who works outside of her home cannot possible be over all of the “minutest details” of her home and family. This is imperative for mothers to do since it’s protection for their children. God has ordained mothers to watch carefully over their children and in order to do this, they must be the ones who are with their children continually. Children being sexually abused is rampant these days and it was probably not so common when mothers were home full time watching over their children. Mothers who are not keepers at home blaspheme the word of God (Titus 2:5). Yes, this offends many women today but I’m not the one who wrote this.

“She considers the ways of her house, because she accurately examines all the thoughts of her conscience. She eateth not her bread in idleness, because that which she learned out of Holy Scripture by her understanding, she places before the eyes of the Judge by exhibiting it in her works” (Pulpit Commentary).

She is not a different person outside of her home. No, the same person strangers see is the same person her family lives with. She is as patient and kind with her family as she is with others; for she lives to please her Savior and He sees everything! In order for her to live this way, she spends daily time at the feet of Jesus and learns His ways. She knows she has been given supernatural power (the Holy Spirit) to live this way so she trusts God to accomplish His work in and through her.

And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men.
Colossians 3:23

Are My Teachings Similar to The Handmaid’s Tale?

Are My Teachings Similar to The Handmaid’s Tale?

People who are blinded to the ways of the Lord have accused me of teaching things that are similar to those in The Handmaid’s Tale. I had never heard of this movie before so I read what it was about on Wikipedia and this is a portion of what it said:

“The authorities take Kate to a training facility with several other women, where she and her companions receive training to become Handmaids—concubines for one of the privileged but barren couples who run the country’s religious fundamentalist regime. Although she resists being indoctrinated into the cult of the Handmaids, which mixes Old Testament orthodoxy with 12-step scripted group chanting and ritualized violence.”

First of all, I am not a part of a “religious fundamentalist regime.” I am a born-again Christian who believes in the Bible which is the inspired Word of God. We are not forced to do anything and I do not force anyone to obey what I teach. We have freedom in Christ but our freedom is to be used to bring glory to the Lord in all that we do. The Bible is His Word and has everything in it that we need for life and godliness.

We are not a part of a cult. A cult is typically run by a man who abuses his power and makes people worship him and make him their idol. The only One we worship is the God of the universe. He demands nothing of us unless we claim to be His child. He has given us free will since He wants us to chose to love and obey Him. Love is not love if it is forced. Once we believe in Him, He adopts us into His family and we become His children, then we WANT to live in obedience to what He has commanded since His ways are good, right, holy, and pure.

We are living in the Church age so we are no longer under the Old Testament Law, thankfully. The Law was a cruel taskmaster since it exposed our sin, yet gave us no power to live righteous lives (Galatians 3:24, 25). This is why we needed a Savior, Jesus Christ, who fulfilled the Law perfectly for us, took the penalty for our guilt (for breaking the Law) as a sacrificial lamb, and was crucified for our transgressions. Now, all who believe in Him become new creatures in Christ and are given His Holy Spirit that lives in and through us. We will enjoy an eternity with Him where there will be no more pain, suffering, or sorrow. What a God we serve!

In Christianity, there is no “12-step scripted group chanting” or anything like this. We don’t need to do this since we have God’s Word that we can read, study, and be transformed by since it is living and active. It, along with His Spirit working mightily within us, makes us kinder, gentler, more loving, more sacrificial, and more like Christ. God doesn’t want us to have repetitive prayers (Matthew 6:7). He wants us to speak to Him in prayer as a Father who loves and cares about everything in our lives.

There is no “ritualized violence” in Christianity. The Handmaid’s Tale is a work of Satan, not God. The only ritualized violence I see is coming from those who are not Christians, like millions of babies being brutally murdered in the womb, other religions who believe they are rewarded in their false heaven for murdering people, and other horrible things like this. No, God condemns this kind of violence. Yes, He will have the last word on Satan and those who follow him but it will be in His timing and in His way. (Read the book of Revelation.) We are all promised that we will reap what we sow (Galatians 6:8).

I teach NOTHING even closely similar to The Handmaid’s Tale. Willingly choosing to NOT deprive our husbands of sex is not rape. Willingly choosing to submit to our husband’s leadership doesn’t cause abuse. Willingly choosing to be keepers at home instead of career women is a choice we are thankful to make since we love being home with our children and making our homes places of peace and beauty for our families. We much prefer this to fighting traffic, working in submission to a boss all day long, the stress of meeting deadlines, and being exhausted by the day’s end. No, thank you. We love what the Lord has called us to do. His ways are perfect.

For such are false apostles, deceitful workers, transforming themselves into the apostles of Christ. And no marvel; for Satan himself is transformed into an angel of light.
2 Corinthians 11:13, 14