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Dream Small

Dream Small

My husband, Ken, wrote this about my dear mother’s passing into the arms of Jesus on Sunday night and I thought it would bless many of you.

What a wonderful person and life well lived.
A Mom, grandma and great grandma who was the perfect example of the song, Dream Small:

Dream small
Don’t bother like you’ve gotta do it all
Just let Jesus use you where you are
One day at a time

Live well
Loving God and others as yourself
Find little ways where only you can help
With His great love
A tiny rock can make a giant fall
Dream small

It is in the simple moments that Ellen gave to us all that changed our world for the better.

Ellen never had grand plans to be a professional or have a career, instead choosing to take her life and invest it in her family and grandchildren. With her ever lilting voice she showed her joy for life and the Lord in the moments each day.

If you could pick from the fruit of her life you would find a table overflowing of love, joy, peace, patience, gentleness, and kindness. Her faithfulness and servant’s heart never wavered. All who knew Ellen were very blessed by her joy and generosity.

We will miss you, Ellen Jean, as we loved you very much. We thank you for a life well lived and all the many fun times you gave us all. You sure knew how to live a joy-filled, fun-filled life while shining the Spirit of God to us all. We are better people because of who you are. From family to friends to church friends we loved you dearly.

We thank you that your small dreams became the foundation of our dreams with many more eternal blessings to come. Rest in your Lord and Savior Jesus as you have won the race that was set before you and have entered into His presence as a good a faithful servant. Job well done, Mom!

As for man, his days are as grass: as a flower of the field, so he flourisheth…But the mercy of the LORD is from everlasting to everlasting upon them that fear him, and his righteousness unto children’s children.
Psalm 103:14-17

She Doesn’t Want to Go to College

She Doesn’t Want to Go to College

“Let’s say an 18 year old woman came to you seeking out your advice. She loves the Lord. She doesn’t want to go to college as all of her friends are doing. The Christian colleges are way too expensive and the secular colleges are too godless, plus she has no interest in having a career. All she wants is to be a wife and mother, if the Lord blesses her with a husband. How would you advise her?”

Luba: “Use this time for the following:
* Hours of Bible reading and prayer
* Learning all you can about running a household
* Learning to cook healthy meals
* Be a blessing to parents
* Help an elderly lady at church with cleaning and errand running
* Learn all you can about being a godly wife
* Be content until God brings you a husband
* Pray about starting a business (being a nanny, cleaning – the possibilities are endless)”

Amanda: “This sounds like my 17 year old daughter! She was thinking she would go to university next year and study nursing. I didn’t try to talk her into or out of it, but just prayed she would follow God’s lead in her life. In the last few months, I have seen her change. She talked to my husband and me recently and explained she no longer felt university was for her. She wants to be a wife and mother first and foremost.

“I have advised her to stay home while she waits for God to bring her husband along and in the meantime, learn all she can in the way of managing a home and caring for a family. I have told her to make sure she spends a lot of time in God’s Word and covers her future in prayer and commits it to the Lord. She is also reading some really good Christian books on Godly Womanhood, like Preparing to be a Help Meet, Let Me Be A Woman, Godly Woman 101, Girl Defined, and Love Defined. And you know what, since she has decided not to go to university, she looks so much happier and at peace. She joyfully helps me with laundry (she says ironing is her ‘happy place’!), loves to bake, and clean. I have seen very positive changes in her, and it’s very encouraging.

“Note: she is still in school completing her last year (Christian School), and works casually on Saturdays and after school at (none other than?) McDonald’s. She has learned piano for many years and will be able to conduct piano lessons from home if she chooses.”

Julie: “I am a firm believer that college is NOT necessary. However, I do think it’s important to learn how to work and earn money. Developing a good work ethic and financial responsibility is never a bad thing, in my opinion. It doesn’t necessarily need to be like a waitress or a grocery store clerk, but maybe earn money babysitting/nannying, or maybe house-cleaning?”

Vickie: “When I first decided to stay home, we needed some extra money and I cleaned two houses a week. With only one child at the time, I brought him with me and made enough to pay for all of our groceries. My daughter is like this, too. I agree with all of what Luba said.

“In addition, we live on a small farm and raise animals. She is taking on some of that so she can sell some livestock and with our goat milk we have started a small business selling soap and other natural products. She can do most of it from home and is getting a website started. This way she has been able to make some money of her own and if it continues she could do this as a wife and mother if she chooses. Another thing she has talked about is being a hairdresser. You can go to technical school and that is something she could also do from home with a family.

“She has bought old furniture from yard sales and refinished it and resold for a good profit. There are many things out there like this and she really enjoys being helpful. She does not have a boyfriend but she is looking forward to it. She isn’t sitting around dwelling on it either. She keeps busy and feels when the timing is right, the Lord will let her know.”

Christina: “I’d tell her great. The only thing I would advise to do that if she does decide to go, watch where she goes and for what. There may be a day that she needs to have a degree to homeschool so that a teaching degree may be at use or a nursing degree which also could be useful to use at home, too. But if she doesn’t feel she should go, great! But be in God’s Word and in prayer. Make sure she is being the BEST godly woman she can humanly be.”

Dawn: “Much will depend on her parents and living situation. If coming from a girl whose parents are not on board with waiting, praying, and helping around the home until marriage, she will need to attend college and get a job. I would say chose a college degree/certificate that could be ultimately useful in the home or for her future children’s education. Even better, a certificate program rather than a typical four year liberal arts education which will avoid many of the less desirable teachings. Care-taking and administrative type jobs can also build skills for the home.”

Samantha: “Pray a lot, and I mean a lot. Save your heart for the man God wants to put in your life. Learn to cook well, how to manage finances, and how to keep a tidy home. Learn the basics of home keeping if she hasn’t already. Pray over any potential relationship with a man; do some soul searching and be sure he is the right man for you before ever getting engaged. Be friends first and foremost, because if there is no friendship to base the relationship on, then is he really the one God puts in your life and intends for you to marry? Don’t just go out in the world and date willy nilly; be friends first. Build your relationship with God and draw closer to him. Let God guide you and your natural instinct about situations and people in your life; your gut instinct is usually right.”

Paige: “I’d tell her to be open to what God calls her to do. There are many ways to prepare for motherhood: caring for children by babysitting, serving people in her church by helping them in their household, working with her own mother.”

Rebecca: “There are three ways of thinking about it: 1) becoming educated in case you don’t get married; 2) being educated so that you can teach your children at home; 3) not overeducating, thus providing your husband a temptation for you to work because your salary would be so significant. But if you don’t have access or finances to go to a Christian college, being educated isn’t all that good of a thing. There are many things to think about, that’s for sure.”

Tammy: “As with any career, it’s always possible to learn more. As a stay-at-home, homeschooling, mom I can think of some experiences and classes that would have benefited me or had been fun. Cooking classes or working in a nice restaurant would be a fun way to increase cooking skills. Taking some teaching courses online would increase her “qualifications“ to homeschool in some states. Working in a preschool or as a nanny would give her some more insight into caring for different personalities. Cleaning homes is a good way to learn techniques and make good money. Personally. I don’t think any of it is necessary but I do think it could be fun and increase confidence.”

Christine: “Love all the advice above. I want to add to it by saying, if she needs to work, retirement homes, daycares, someplace that she could learn about caring for others in a different way would be a good way to go. This will also help prepare her for the future as a homemaker, wife, and mother.”

Kim: “She might also look at volunteering. There are so many places where she can use her gifts. Many times, those that are in need of volunteers and would love to see younger faces. I have been volunteering at a local church run foodbank for 12 years and when I first started I was the youngest! I was still home schooling, so I brought my kids to help. It was a great way to get them involved and teach them empathy.”

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1 Timothy 5:14

Parents Regretting Having Children

Parents Regretting Having Children

The mums on the SAHM forum are not alone in sharing their feelings of regret. Over on Facebook, a community called I Regret Having Children boasts over 10,000 members. ‘This page is here to let all the mothers and fathers know that regretting having a kid(s) is not abnormal and shouldn’t be a taboo subject,’ it reads.”

When I was a teacher, most of the teachers I worked with felt the same way about having children; they regretted it. I suppose there’s a very important reason that God commands older women to teach younger women to love their children – love your children enough to have them and to raise them correctly. We are selfish by nature and bearing and raising children is an act of unselfishness and sacrifice.

We can understand clearly why unbelievers would feel regret over having children, as one woman clearly stated below, but this should never be said among us.

“‘For although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him, but they became futile in their thinking, and their foolish hearts were darkened. Claiming to be wise, they became fools..’ (Romans 1:21-22). When you reject God, He gives you over to a senseless, darkened mind and unnatural affections follow, which remove natural affections.”

As the Bible states, people will become lovers of themselves. They will only want to do what they want to do and take no thought about what is best for others or society but as believers in Jesus Christ, we are not this way. Our reasonable service to the Lord is to learn to be unselfish and live for Him instead.

Children are throw-aways in our culture as seen by the millions of abortions that are performed every year. In God’s eyes, children are blessings to be welcomed and loved with open arms. I want to encourage you in a few ways that will make it easier to love your children. It’s difficult to love and enjoy children that are not trained and disciplined properly.

First of all, be diligent in training and disciplining them when they are young. While you are raising your children, you will be continually teaching them to make right choices. Make sure they understand “no” and obey you. Let them know that they aren’t the boss of the family. Deal with disobedience quickly and consistently. A few good spankings usually deal with this the most effectively. The faster you teach them self-control, the more you will enjoy being around your children.

No, your children don’t need to be constantly entertained by you or technology. Let them learn to entertain themselves. It will develop their imaginations. Don’t let them whine and complain. Make them sit in the “whining and complaining” chair quietly for ten minutes every time they whine or complain. Do this consistently. It’s your responsibility to teach and train your children to be self-disciplined adults in all areas of their lives.

When they are young, insist they all have naps or “quiet times” for two hours a day, then put them to bed early at night. Every mother needs some time to herself and rest if needed. You must not let your child to dictate his/her schedule. You must dictate it.

No, raising children is not easy but it is good. The narrow path that we are called to take isn’t the easy path. It’s the path that leads to life! Raise your children to be godly – to know God’s Word and obey it. Then you will find that your children are the gifts that keep on giving! As you are raising them, you are storing your treasures in heaven; the best place for treasures to be stored and you will not have one moment of regret for bringing them into this world.

Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
Psalm 127:3

Buying Modest Clothing

Buying Modest Clothing

As you can see from my blog, I don’t have any advertisements. I never wanted to be beholden to advertisers and my goal in writing was never to make money. Yes, I have made a bit of money on my book but not nearly as much as I spent to make it! But I didn’t write a book to make money. I did it to continue the ministry of biblical womanhood to women.

Sometimes I will be asked to advertise or told ways I could make money from my blog but I always decline. It annoys me to go to blogs and have to click through a bunch of advertisements to read the post. Yes, I know some people must try to make money from blogging and I have no problems with that, but it wasn’t something I ever started out to do or want to do. Thankfully, my husband has a good job and I don’t have to make money.

Recently, a woman from ModLi contacted me since this company’s website was receiving hits from my blog and asked me if she could send me a bathing suit and in return, I would write about it on my blog. I told her that it sounded great! I found a bathing suit I liked and it promptly arrived at my home. I quickly tried it on and loved it! It is high quality and very comfortable. (She wanted me to send a picture of me in it but at almost 60 years old, there’s no way I would want to do that!) They have very pretty modest dresses, too.

Modesty in bathing suits isn’t common today. For some reason, women disconnect modesty at the beach with modesty at church. Sure, I wouldn’t ever wear my modest bathing suit from ModLi to church but I still want to be modest whether I am at church or at the beach.

I have noticed a troubling trend at the beaches around us. More and more women are wearing thong bathing suits. When they lay on a towel, they look naked. There is no shame with nakedness anymore but we, as women of God, need to be diligent about covering up our nakedness. The more flesh we show, the harder it is for guys to not look and we want to do all we can to not cause men to stumble. Most men enjoy the female body but that enjoyment of your body belongs to your husband alone if you are married and to your husband-to-be if you want to be married some day.

“A godly woman guards her sexuality with a modest attitude and modest apparel that does not draw lustful attention. She seeks to glorify God and not herself. Her life shows the worship of God and not the flesh” (Ryan Liberty).

In 1 Timothy 2:9, women are to “adorn themselves in modest apparel…” This means two things. One, it means we are to be shamefaced, not dress to draw attention to ourselves. Secondly, we should not spend a lot of money on our clothing since it states “not with…costly array.”

According to the 1828 Webster Dictionary, modest meant “not bold or forward; not loose or lewd; not excessive or extreme; not extravagant.” It’s clear what God requires of us as godly women. He wants us to cover our nakedness, not show off our bodies, and not spend a lot of money on our clothing which is contrary to the times we live in with fashions changing constantly. We live in a consumer driven society.

Don’t get caught up in the fashions of this world, women! Dress to please the Lord. We don’t need stuffed closets with clothes we seldom wear. I believe it’s good to buy fewer clothing items but make them high quality so they last. This bathing suit is high quality so I know it will last a long time. (Make sure you never put your bathing suits in the dryer!) The jean skirts I buy are high quality and will last. I try very hard to be wise with my purchases since we should be wise in all of our ways.

In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with braided hair, or god, or pearls, or costly array; but which becomes women professing godliness with good works.
1 Timothy 2:10, 11

*I don’t receive any money from ModLi if you buy from this post!

My Mom’s Last Days

My Mom’s Last Days

The other day, my mom told me that she didn’t recognize my dad for a few hours and it scared her. She felt so badly because she loves him so much. It was the moment that I knew her days on this earth would not be much longer. I shared it with my children, my college friends, and the chat room. My children were grieved. They love their grandmother. My college friends shared all of their wonderful memories they have about my mom. The chat room shared the pain of losing their own mothers. It matters not if you have had your mother for 60 years as I have had or lost her as a child. It’s always a difficult thing since death is the last enemy but thankfully, Jesus conquered the grave.

I’ve been writing my thoughts about her in my head since that day and decided I would do it now, when my dad could read it to her instead of waiting until she passes away into the arms of Jesus (which may be too late by the time I publish this since the hospice nurse said she only has a few days left to live).

As a child, she became my biggest supporter and encourager because I didn’t have good friends from kindergarten through high school. We’ve always been very close. I was bullied a lot as I am sure many of you were. I would have loved to be homeschooled by her since I loved being with her so much but it wasn’t heard of in our area back then. I know she would have gladly homsechooled me if she knew about it. She hated to see the pain I went through in the public schools.

She was a fun mother! She loved to entertain and feed people. She was extremely generous and gave whenever she saw a need. One of my college friends wrote, “She has been a lovely example of a joyful, peaceful Christian woman.” Another one wrote, “I remember your mom’s delicious carrot cake, her warm hospitality, her love for her daughters, and most of all her trust in God.”

After I had my babies, she would come and live with me for several weeks. When one of my babies was fussy and I was exhausted, I would go to her house and she would be walking and rocking the baby to give me a break. She loved babysitting and being with her grandchildren! My children love her to this day. They never have had a negative thing to say about her, only love and appreciation.

When I got so sick with parasites then a brain tumor and neck fusion, she was always there for me helping any way that she could. She was such a big blessing in my life! She would brush my hair often since she knew this is what I loved while my dad gave me foot massages. I know it was so hard for them to see how much I suffered but it sure made the suffering easier having them helping to bear the load. I wish everyone was blessed with a mother like my own.

She’s been wanting to go be with Jesus since she was 80 years old and has been continually dizzy from an inner ear infection that left permanent damage but she never complained about suddenly being quite immobile. Her favorite thing lately has been for us all to visit her throughout the week bringing her meals and simply sitting with her. She was one of seven children so she wasn’t a loner at all. In fact, for her the more the merrier! She hated to ever see anyone left out.

Last week, she wanted to make sure I was okay due to the contentious comments I had received from my viral post. I assured her that I was fine. Even on her deathbed, she wanted to make sure I was alright! She has fully supported me in my ministry. In fact, she was the one who bought me “Created to Be His Help Meet” many years ago. It even changed her marriage in her old age. It’s never too late to grow in Christ and become what He has called us to be.

Dear Mom, I love you so much and I’m so thankful for Christ’s death and resurrection so that we get to spend eternity with each other. I will miss you but am so blessed that the Lord chose you as my mother. You had a life well lived! Love, Your daughter.

And I heard a voice from heaven saying unto me, Write, Blessed are the dead which die in the Lord from henceforth: Yea, saith the Spirit, that they may rest from their labours; and their works do follow them.
Revelation 14:13

UPDATE: My sweet mama passed into the arms of Jesus on Sunday evening.

Never Fear Teaching Biblical Womanhood

Never Fear Teaching Biblical Womanhood

We don’t need more female Bible teachers. Most of them teach men which is a clear violation of God’s Word. We do need more older women who are not afraid to teach biblical womanhood since this is what most younger women need. God commissioned men (elders) to “labor in the word and doctrine” (1 Timothy 5:17). He never commissioned women to do this but to “learn in silence with all subjection” (1 Timothy 2:11). I can understand why God never commissioned women; they are easily deceived and begin to teach things that aren’t biblical. In order to teach men, they have to twist scripture to say something that it does not.

Trey wrote a great comment on my post on grace and why I teach what I teach even in the midst of many cruel and evil comments that are thrown at me. I know what is at stake. I don’t like seeing such a lukewarm Church that doesn’t look or act much different than the world. I’m tired of hearing of yet another “Christian” couple divorcing usually due to the wife divorcing her husband. I’m saddened by all of the mothers who choose to work and leave their children in the care of others. It pains me to hear of more “Christian” children walking away from the faith because their parents didn’t heed the warnings in God’s Word to “avoid profane and vain babblings, and oppositions of science falsely” (1 Timothy 6:20) and sent them to be educated in a godless school system.

Yes, if you teach biblical womanhood to women today, you will get slandered and scorned but this is to be expected. There are many false believers among us who twist the Word of God for their own benefit. Never veer from the narrow path, women. It is good and it’s the only path that you want to walk on.

Here is Trey’s comment:

“One of the reasons that we have so much sin (suffering, pain and death) in the church and soooo many immature Christians who are more focused on grace (whining about being judged) than they are on holiness is that there is not enough teaching and admonishing of the Word among us. Our goal as Christians is to become more and more like Jesus Christ every day. That is the sanctification process!

“Paul tells us in Colossians 1:28 KJV that: ‘Whom we preach, warning every man, and teaching every man in all wisdom; that we may present every man perfect in Christ Jesus.’

“The NASB says: ‘We proclaim Him, admonishing every man and teaching every man with all wisdom, so that we may present every man complete in Christ.’

“The goal is to become perfect and complete in Christ! The only way we are going to become complete in Jesus Christ is to learn and follow His instructions for us and the Bible tells us that we need to help each other by pointing out the sins in each other’s lives and warning each other of the danger of sin (which results in suffering, pain and death) and encouraging each other to repent and live according to Gods Word.

“Matthew 18:15-17 NASB says: (the words of Jesus Himself) ‘If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have won your brother. 16“But if he does not listen to you, take one or two more with you, so that BY THE MOUTH OF TWO OR THREE WITNESSES EVERY FACT MAY BE CONFIRMED. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.’

“Jesus tells us here how important is it to NOT tolerate sin in the Church body and that if those who call themselves Christians refuse to repent when their sin is brought to their attention that they are to be put out of the church and not even associated with! SIN IS SERIOUS BUSINESS and must be dealt with within the body of Christ!

“Titus 2:3-5 specifically tells the older women not only that they need to be teaching the younger women, but also exactly WHAT they need to be teaching the younger women and that is exactly what Lori is doing!

“The ladies who complain about Lori are so deceived and blind in their PRIDE they don’t even know what is good for them when they see and hear it. They do not understand the DANGER they are in and how Lori is just calling out to them; trying to warn them of the pain, suffering, and death they are bringing upon themselves and their husbands and their children; not to mention the fact that by calling themselves Christians, yet continuing to live their lives in willful ignorance (of God’s Word) and sin, their lives do nothing but blaspheme (bring reproach upon) the Word of God.

“Most women do not see the damage they are doing until it’s too late and even when their house (family) has been completely torn down (by their own hands), some still do not see what they have done because they are so blinded by their own selfishness, pride, and sin.

“Lori, thank you for continuing to be faithful to God’s Word and I continue to thank God for you and your faithful service to Him.”

You’re welcome, Trey. I love teaching women biblical womanhood because the fruit is so beautiful. It’s only God’s Word and His ways that convict and change people’s lives. Yes, there is a ton of backlash but it’s so very worth it, women. Learn to fear God instead of the many women who despise the ways of the Lord. Women NEED to hear the beauty of God’s ways. His Word never comes back void.

The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction.
Proverbs 1:7

Children are Kingdom Ammunition

Children are Kingdom Ammunition

Written By Rusty Thomas

Someone asked about the significance of our children being shot out from the bow of family and church meant based upon our interview with the Texas Homeschool Magazine. Here is my answer and hope that it blesses many.

“Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, The fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one’s youth. Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them; They shall not be ashamed, But shall speak with their enemies in the gate” (Psalm 127:3-5)

Psalm 127 compares children to arrows, kingdom ammunition to raise up in the fear and admonishment of the Lord. Eventually, we are to place them in the bow of the family and church and shoot them towards the gates of the land.

Gates in the Old Testament represented the three-fold seat of authority, political, judicial, and commerce. It was there that God would use our children to subdue the enemies at the gates to establish righteousness and justice in the land.

Once Christians understand this significance, the reference of Jesus building His church and the GATES of hell will not prevail takes on a whole new meaning.

This is also the main reason why Satan goes after the seed of man by promoting birth control, abortion, and the deathstyle of homosexuality. He knows what the church has either forgotten or has purposely rejected by adopting the same anti-child ethic of the world.

Far too many Christians believe that children are a burden, rather than a blessing. The same reason why the world marches into death camps to murder the preborn is the same reason why a lot of Christians prevent having children. They do not possess a Kingdom worldview nor understand the battle to fulfill the Great commission in our poor fallen world.

Malachi reveals, “Yet you say, “For what reason?” Because the Lord has been witness Between you and the wife of your youth, With whom you have dealt treacherously; Yet she is your companion And your wife by covenant. But did He not make them one, Having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring. Therefore take heed to your spirit, And let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth” (Malachi 2:14, 15).

Notice that His desire is for a godly seed to populate the earth. This helps to explain the battle between two seeds, the seed of the serpent vs. the seed of the woman (Genesis 3:15). The only question that remains is what seed are we? We must be born-again, another reference to seed if we will be translated from being the seed of the serpent to become the seed of the woman.

Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.
Psalm 127:5

*Rev. Thomas has a father’s mantle and spreads a patriarchal vision to reclaim the masculine identity that has been neutered by the feminization of America. He and his wife, Kendra Thomas, home schooled thirteen children at the Thomas Nation’s University of Righteousness.

Does God’s Grace Allow Us to Sin?

Does God’s Grace Allow Us to Sin?

Some women have told me that I don’t show enough grace in my posts. I focus too much on teaching women how they are to live their lives: be sober, love and obey (and submit to) their husbands, love their children, be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, and good so that “the word of God be not blasphemed” (Titus 2:4, 5). I teach women to not teach men nor be in authority over them and to be silent in the churches (1 Timothy 2:11, 12). If they have a question, ask their husbands at home since it is shameful for them to speak in the church (1 Corinthians 14:34, 35). I teach them to be modest, shamefaced, have meek and quiet spirits, and if they are married to husbands who don’t obey the word, then win them “without the word” (1 Peter 3:1) by their godly behavior.

Many women don’t like being taught these things and being told what to do, even Christian women. They cry, “Where is the grace?” and “You are judgmental!” Grace doesn’t give us the license to sin. “What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound? God forbid. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein?” (Romans 6:1,2).

God’s grace is what redeems us from our sins and gives us the ability to walk in the Spirit. It’s God’s favor and kindness poured down upon us when we were yet sinners. We deserved nothing from Him but eternal wrath and condemnation but once we confess His name and believe that God raised Christ from the dead, we are washed clean from ALL of our sins (past, present, and future) and His command to us is simple: “Go and sin no more.” He’s given us His Holy Spirit, the same Spirit that raised Jesus Christ from the dead, and tells us that His Spirit works mightily within us. He has clothed us with His righteousness and reconciled us to God! (Memorize Romans 6 and 8 to clearly understand your new life in Christ.)

Yes, we still sin and His grace covers our sin but we should never willfully sin or practice sin as believers in Christ Jesus (Read 1 John). We will fall into the mud but we need to jump quickly out, remind ourselves that we are dead and freed from sin (Romans 6), and begin again to walk in newness of life; for He has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and translated us into the kingdom of His dear Son.

What is our reasonable service for all He’s done for us? Is it to continue to live in sin and keep reminding ourselves that His grace covers us? NO! “I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God” (Romans 12:1, 2). What is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God for women? It’s clearly outlined in the first paragraph of this post! He wants our obedience to His commands since His commands are for our protection. They are boundaries and they are good.

We are commanded to exhort (to use words or arguments to incite to good deeds) one another daily (Hebrews 3:13), especially as we see the day approaching; for the deceitfulness of sin hardens hearts and sin must be warned against continually because we forget Truth so quickly.

Satan’s goal is to kill, steal, and destroy so I am going to continue to teach Christian women to be godly women who walk in newness of life and obey God in what He has asked them to do. It is our reasonable service. It’s the least we can do in return for what He has done for us and it’s for our protection. He is our Creator and He knows what is best for us.

But exhort one another daily, while it is called To day; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin.
Hebrews 3:13

Fornication is a Sin Against Your Own Body

Fornication is a Sin Against Your Own Body

We live in a highly sexualized culture. Not many young people are virgins when they marry, even those within the Church. Years ago, Ken and I mentored young couples who were engaged. The leaders of this program, who have been in charge of this ministry for 30 years, told us that when they began this ministry most of the engaged couples had not had sex before marriage but nowadays, it was difficult to find any young couples seeking premarital counseling who were still virgins.

What does God say about fornication? (Fornication is sex outside of marriage. It may be a man and woman before marriage or a married man with an unmarried women or vice versa.)

“Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators….shall inherit the kingdom of God” (1 Corinthians 6:9, 10)

“Flee fornication. Every sin that a man does is without the body; but he that commits fornication sins against his own body” (1 Corinthians 6:18).

“Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband” (1 Corinthians 7:2).

“Neither let us commit fornication, as some of them (the Israelites) committed, and fell in one day three and twenty thousand” (1 Corinthians 10:8).

There are many more verses related to fornication in the Bible. It is a serious offense in God’s eyes. He wants us to be chaste and pure before marriage and become one flesh with one man. God’s commands are for our good. The spread of sexually transmitted diseases is at an all time high. Yes, the sin of fornication has some serious ramifications. It breaks the covenant of the one flesh marriage (even prior to marriage) and it is a sin against one’s one body.

Is there hope for those who have committed fornication? Of course, but they will deal with the regret and possibly the scars (infertility and/or disease) from it all of their days but there is forgiveness in the Lord Jesus Christ. “And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of God” (1 Corinthians 6:11).

Teach your young daughters and sons to be chaste until marriage. Tell them that God’s ways are best and for their protection. Everything He commands is good. He is a good God and wants us to be holy and set apart. You will reap His blessings if you live your life for Him; for we are promised that we will reap what we sow.

Blessed is the man that walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of the scornful. But his delight is in the law of the Lord; and in his law does he meditate day and night. And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that brings forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he does shall prosper.
Psalm 1:1-3

Does College Make Better Mothers?

Does College Make Better Mothers?

There is nothing biblical about going to college so let’s just get that out of the way. There’s no command that tells women that they must get a job or even make money. Yes, there are examples of women who made money in the Bible but no commands from God that women are required to make money. Women going to college and making money are not biblical concepts so let’s not try to say that they are or are of any value to God.

Women have told me that college makes better mothers. Is this true? I don’t believe so at all. All that is required of a mother to be a good mother is for her to love her children deeply, sacrifice for them, and want to be the one who raises them full time. Yes, some want to raise them full time but are unable. I am not referring to them. The key word is “want.” Many mothers don’t want to be the ones raising their children and I believe college has made this much more common.

As I have stated in previous posts, most colleges are extremely expensive so mothers come into marriage with a lot of debt. This debt often prevents the couple from having children sooner rather than later and if they do have children, the mothers most likely have to keep working to pay off the debt. This doesn’t make a good mother.

Dennis Prager stated that people go into universities knowing the difference between male and female and come out not knowing the difference. So this is a big negative for secular universities. The Bible warns us to not be equally yoked with unbelievers (and no, this isn’t concerning marriage but that is true, too. Look at 1 Corinthians 6:14-18.) We are repeatedly warned against listening to false teachers and those who manipulate the Word of God which are both rampant in the universities.

The colleges teach women nothing about biblical womanhood (how to be a good wife and mother). In fact, even the Christian colleges teach women more about how to be a feminist: how to be independent, how to make money, and how women don’t need a man. This was true even many years ago when I attended a Christian college. As believers in Jesus Christ, this is not what we are commanded to learn. We are taught to depend on the Lord Jesus Christ and then if we get married, to depend upon our husband’s protection and provision.

Children are more insecure and emotionally unstable than they were in past generations and I believe it’s due to mothers not being home with their children full time. Dr. Brenda Hunter in her book “Home By Choice” proves this to be true. Of course God wants mothers raising their own children! I’m not sure why so many women are offended by this truth.

Colleges, debt, and careers have taken mothers from their children and this has been devastating. Marriages are crumbling and children are abandoned. It’s a very high price that our children have had to pay so women can go to college and have careers.

No, I’m not telling women to not go to college but warning them about the consequences. Many young people who were raised in Christian homes walk away from the faith in universities. This is the worse consequence of all but how can we expect anything different when we disobey the Word of God (1 Corinthians 6:14-18).

If you can get through college without any debt, get a career that you can quit immediately when you have your first baby, keep a solid foundation in Jesus Christ and a good godly support system around you, and don’t allow the filth in the universities (if you go to one) not affect you, then go for it but there are things women can do without going to college if they aren’t married.

Our nation idolizes college (as I could clearly see from the responses from my viral post) and, as believers, we should not. We need to carefully count the cost before making any decisions such as this. My mom never went to college and has been an excellent mother which is way more important than any college degree or career she could have had. No, women who go to college don’t automatically make better mothers. That is a myth that can be easily seen by looking at the sad state of our culture and children.

For the wisdom of this world is foolishness with God. For it is written, He taketh the wise in their own craftiness.
1 Corinthians 3:19