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Freedom From Depression

Freedom From Depression

Women are twice as likely as men to get depressed and studies have shown that not only are women more hormonal but we are much more relationship oriented. Women suffer depression over loss more easily than men as well. If they move to a new place and lose old friendships, they can easily get depressed. Those who were not close to their mothers, rejected by their mothers, had distant mothers growing up or lost their mother by the age of eleven years old have a much greater risk at being depressed than those who had a mothers who were kind, cheerful, affectionate, and engaged according to Dr. Brenda Hunter in her book Home By Choice.

“Depression is feeling inside, ‘I am unloved; no one will ever truly love me. Nothing will ever be good. These feelings are persuasive and powerful…Aaron Beck, one of the world’s foremost authorities on mood disorders wrote this: We feel the way we think, and when we are depressed, we think in illogical, self-defeating ways.”

Depressed women have a tendency to always be looking in their past which gives them a sense of hopelessness and their thoughts become distorted. “Burns believes that as we become aware that our thoughts precede – and determine- our feelings, and as we learn to control our thoughts, we can banish depression.”

Whenever a woman tells me she struggles with depression, I encourage her to be in the Word and renew her mind with truth. Learn about her identity in Christ and that her past is forgiven and forgotten. She is a brand new creature because of Christ’s work on the cross. Her past no longer has to define her. God tells us that He gives us a sound mind. He instructs us to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. He commands that we dwell on the lovely and the good. We can trust that the God who made us knows what is best for us!

“We remain in the darkness at our own peril. If we allow the darkness to engulf us, we may not be able to combat the inertia that sets in. We must learn to catch ourselves at the beginning of our downhill slide. As we monitor our self-talk, we fight back.”

Dr. Hunter encourages mothers to also find support groups. In our chat room, there are many women who don’t have any godly, support outside of our group so it’s good to be encouraged and supported by other women. “Women need other women. We wither in isolation; we blossom with nourishing friendships. We need our female friends in the good times of life, and we especially need them when we are grappling with the loss of a spouse, parent, or friend.”

Find a solid Bible teaching church with godly women to get together with when you can. Build friendships since women do need friends. Become best friends with your husband as far as it depends upon you. Learn to smile and laugh with him. Work hard at home. God created us to work and work is good for us! Discipline yourself to eat healthy and stop eating sugar and junk food. Get outside and exercise. Don’t allow your thoughts to define your life but take control of your thoughts and allow truth to define them instead.

For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
2 Timothy 1:17

Is Your Home Full of Strife or Peace?

Is Your Home Full of Strife or Peace?

How does a woman tear down her own home? For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work (James 3:16). This woman is not content with what she has and does not live within her husband’s income but is constantly lusting for more when she sees what others have on Instagram, Facebook, and the fixer up shows on television. She has not learned godliness with contentment but is always searching for ways to spend more money than she has but this still is not enough for her.

She is full of strife. She quarrels and argues about many things because she is selfish and wants her own way. She is not fun to live with but makes everyone’s life miserable with her unhappiness, moodiness, and discontent. She is critical and finds fault with almost everything and everyone.

How does a wise woman build up her home? But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy (James 3:17). She is pure. She dwells upon the lovely and the good. She doesn’t watch filthy shows or movies. She is careful what she puts before her eyes and what she listens to since she loves the Lord and His ways.

She is peaceable. She isn’t argumentative and contentious. She doesn’t quarrel and fight for her own way. She is content in life and believes every day is a blessing and a gift to be enjoyed while she lovingly serves her family.

She is easy to be entreated. If someone needs help, they have no problem asking her since they know she will readily listen and help whenever, whoever, and wherever there is a need. She is servant-hearted and loves to make others lives as good and pleasant as she can.

She is full of mercy. She overlooks injuries and treats offenders better than they deserve. She understands that as Christ has forgiven her, she forgives them.

She is full of good fruits without partiality. She is patient and kind to all. She works hard in her home with willing hands and is consistently looking for things that need to be done. She will do good to any and all.

She is not a hypocrite. She lives what she believes. She doesn’t help others to be rewarded on this earth because the only one she aims to please is the Lord so she stores her treasures in heaven where they belong. Her actions, words, and behavior come from a deep and abiding faith in her Heavenly Father.

She builds her home up with all of these and her family rise up and call her blessed.

And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace.
James 3:18

Teaching Younger Women to Be Good

Teaching Younger Women to Be Good

God instructs older women to teach younger women to be good in Titus 2:5. To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, GOOD, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. Women have scolded me for saying we can be good. They say that only God is good because of this verse: And Jesus said unto him, Why call me good? there is none good but one, that is, God (Mark 10:18). But the reason Jesus said this according to Gill’s Exposition was that He was “not as denying that he was good, or as being angry with him for calling him so, but in order to lead this young man to a true knowledge of him, and his goodness, and even of his proper deity.” Of course, Jesus was good because He was perfect and now He lives inside of us! 

 God expects His children to be good just as we expect our children to be good. I love how all of the old commentaries used the KJV since it’s my favorite version of the Bible, so they all have the word “good” in them!

Ellicot’s Commentary on the word “good” in Titus 2:5: Gracious, kind, thoughtful to others, especially to inferiors.

Barnes’ Notes: In all respects, and in all relations. To a wife, a mother, a sister, there can be no higher characteristic ascribed, than to say that she is good. What other trait of mind will enable her better to perform her appropriate duties of life? What other will make her more like her Saviour?

Jamieson-Fausset: kind, beneficent. Not churlish and niggardly, but thrifty as housewives.

The book of Ephesians has a lot to say what God expects from us and what would be classified as being good, too.

These are all from Ephesians 4 and 5: Lowliness, meekness, longsuffering, forbearing one another in love, speaking the truth in love, be ye angry and sin not, working with our hands to give to those in need, no corrupt communication coming from our mouths but only which is good and edifying, kind, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, redeeming the time because the days are evil, filled with the Spirit, singing and making melody in your heart, and being thankful.

In these two chapters, we are told several times how we are to walk: walk worthy of the vocation (God’s calling for your life) wherewith ye are called (4:1), walk in love (5:2), walk as children of light (5:8), and walk circumspectly (5:15).

As godly women, our goal in life should be going around doing good and the most important people we should be doing good for is our own family. Learn to be a servant and do what you can to make their lives as happy as you can. Never forget that being a help meet to your husband is your priority. Fix your family good, nourishing food. Keep your home clean and tidy for them. Make sure their clothes are clean and put away. Be in the Word so you can be a cheerful presence in your home. Don’t be ruled by your emotions but be ruled by truth. Build your homes up by finding ways to bless your family and making your home a place of peace and rest.

How are we supposed to be good and accomplish all of these things? By putting on the whole armor of God and believing God’s promises to us; for it is His Spirit that works mightily within you!

With good will doing service, as to the Lord, and not to men: Knowing that whatsoever good thing any man doeth, the same shall he receive of the Lord, whether he be bond or free.
Ephesians 6:7, 8

Despising the Apostle Paul’s Teachings

Despising the Apostle Paul’s Teachings

Many today have a great disdain for the Apostle Paul’s teachings. He commands us to not deprive our spouses of intimacy and it’s not based upon our feelings but living in obedience to the Lord. He commands women to submit to and obey their husbands and be keepers at home. He tells us that women are to be silent in the churches and not teach nor be in authority over men (1 Timothy 2:12). (No, women are not to be preachers and teachers of the Word. I found another verse that supports this: “And the things that thou hast heard of me among many witnesses, the same commit thou to faithful men, who shall be able to teach others also” – 2 Timothy 2:2. Do you notice the word “men”?) He explains that women are more easily deceived, thus many women today despise his teachings and say that he was just a woman-hater.

Paul also commands that women dress modestly. (Yes, I do believe women can cause men to lust. I realize many women don’t want to think that they are responsible for causing others to sin but we can and this is why we are commanded to not be a stumbling block for others.) He teaches us to be shamefaced and not draw attention to ourselves. He tells us to have meek and quiet spirits. God knew we needed to be taught this because it’s completely opposite of our normal tendencies. We like to rule the roost, draw men’s attention by the way we dress, and speak our minds, but we will never find true joy when we are living apart from the Lord’s ways.

Paul was inspired by the Holy Spirit so all of his teachings are straight from the mouth of God. Many fail to understand that we wouldn’t have the Church if Paul didn’t write what he wrote. There would be no elders or deacons who were called to be men of integrity and the husbands of one wife. If it weren’t for Galatians, we wouldn’t understand that we are no longer under the Law but under the law of grace and mercy. If it weren’t for Romans, we wouldn’t know that we are dead and freed from sin and now walk in newness of life. There’s also a good likelihood that he wrote the book of Hebrews in which we learn the superiority of Christ over the priests and the Judaic system and that we must continue to believe until the end. We wouldn’t have the joyful book of Philippians and knowing we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us and so on.

Yet, many women would love to do away with his teachings because of his instructions to women. Since the Holy Spirit spoke through him and God is the one who created male and female, Paul was given direct information about the differences between men and women and the perfect role for both of them. Being at home with our children, submitting to our husbands, and being silent in the churches are not oppressive. They are perfect for us! They make for order, decency, well-raised children, and strong marriages.

All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness.
2 Timothy 3:16

Empowerment By Doing as They Please?

Empowerment By Doing as They Please?

In response to yesterday’s post about modesty, I received a comment that I want to write about since many women today have views about life that I don’t understand at all. Recently, there was a march in Cincinnati, Ohio where women took off their tops and walked around topless. In the big March on Washington DC, right after President Trump was inaugurated, the women wore vagina hats and bloody menstrual pads. All of this is beyond comprehension to me since I have never had any desire to do any of this. In fact, these things should cause shame and embarrassment in women.

Here is the comment in question: “Yes, that is exactly what some women believe (that they aren’t in any way responsible for men lusting at them no matter what they wear) because women don’t exist solely for men’s eyes. This is not strange. This is progress and empowerment. If you find empowerment in dressing modestly, please do so. I find empowerment in being able to choose to wear shorts when it’s hot outside (not that it’s anyone’s business but mine). I refuse to take responsibility for your or anyone’s husband or wife’s eyes.”

Therefore, all those women walking around topless and wearing vagina hats are doing this because they “feel” empowered and think this is progress. What is actually happening is that they are finding empowerment in their selfishness and pride. In the last days, the Bible states that people will be lovers of themselves and they will despise those who are good. They are doing the will of their father, the Devil, and are caught in his trap. They falsely believe they are “empowered” but they are actually in bondage to their sin and selfishness.

We, as godly women, don’t live our lives like this. We don’t care about being empowered by anything except for Christ and His strength. We don’t want to bring shame upon Him and blaspheme His name by doing things that are wicked and against what He requires of us. These women won’t find joy in what they are doing. They will keep wanting more and more and never be satisfied. True joy and satisfaction only comes from Christ.

Yes, we dress modestly to protect our brothers in Christ. Yes, we don’t deprive our husbands of intimacy so they won’t be tempted to wander elsewhere. Yes, we know that God has given us the responsibility to build up our homes instead of tearing them down with our own hands. Yes, we teach our children God’s Word so they will hide it deeply in their hearts and won’t sin against Him. We love obeying the Lord because His commands are not burdensome; they are freedom. Our influence and responsibility are important, women, so take it seriously and honor God with your lives in all areas.

This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.
2 Timothy 3:1-5

Their God is Their Belly

Their God is Their Belly

We are told in Philippians 3:18 that “many walk…that they are the enemies of the cross of Christ.” What describes these enemies of Christ is a warning to all of us who claim the name of Christ. Whose end is destruction, whose God is their belly, and whose glory is in their shame, who mind earthly things (Philippians 3:19).

Matthew Poole’s Commentary had this to say about this verse:

Whose end is destruction: “their condition will at last be miserable, as he had limited above, Philippians 1:28, of their being under the dismal token of perdition; their end will be according to their works, 2 Corinthians 11:15. However they may live delicately at present, in gratifying their sensual appetites, be free from persecution, admired and respected by many, and please themselves in their present course, yet their fruit and wages at the last cast will be dreadful, Romans 6:21,23 Ga 6:8 Revelation 18:8 19:20,21.”

We all know many that live like this. They celebrate everything evil and hate those who oppose evil. They are given awards for being evil and interviews that are shown all over the world. They call good evil and evil good. The world praises them and falsely believes they are marvelous for being “true to themselves” when in actuality they are walking in the flesh which is the pathway to hell.

Whose God is their belly: “the great business of these is, their sensuality, their good eating and drinking; they mind the pleasing of their carnal appetite, as if it were their God, 2 Peter 2:13,18 3:3; instead of our Lord Jesus Christ, really they serve their own belly, Romans 16:18, love their pleasures indeed more than God, 2 Timothy 3:4.”

They believe that this life on earth is all there is so why not eat, drink, and be merry as they become gluttons, alcoholics, and seekers of pleasure rather than seekers of God. They mock the God who created them and worship the creature rather than the Creator, thus despising anything that is good or from God.

Whose glory is in their shame: “yea, they boast of those things whereof they ought to be ashamed, thinking it reputation they have got many to imitate thein, John 5:44 12:43 they are puffed up with that which should rather make them to blush, 1 Corinthians 5:2, as being attended at last with confusion.”

They dress immodestly and have no shame about showing their nakedness. They make a mockery of marriage by twisting it to mean something that God calls an abomination. Sex scenes, pornography, and nudity entertain them since they have become so desensitized to what is pure and holy and actually hate that which is good and love that which is evil.

Who mind earthly things: “however under the colour of Christianity, they at present are taken up in the pursuit of their sensual and earthly enjoyments. The Greek word comprehends the actions and operations of the mind, will, and affections, importing they did inordinately mind, favour, and relish sublunary accommodations, Romans 8:5, the profits, ease, bounty, pleasure, and glory of this world, preferring them in their hearts to the things of Christ.”

Please, let all of these things not be said of you, dear sisters in Christ. We are not to love this world nor the things in this world which refers to the lust of the flesh and eyes and the boastful pride of life. Stop indulging your flesh and become pleasers of the Lord in everything, instead. Dwell on the good and the lovely in the land and refuse to have any part of those who are enemies of the cross, “for our conversation is in heaven” and we are called to “stand fast in the Lord, rejoice in the Lord always, let your moderation be know unto all men, be careful for nothing, dwell on the true, the honest, the just, the pure, and the lovely” (Philippians 4).

“To love God and to please Him is worth everything, everything. Your sexual immorality must go, your evil desires and greed must go, your anger must go, your malice must go, your slander must go. All of them must go – forever! Be ruthless. Whatever the sins are that right now make you feel guilty and uneasy – hate them! Murder them! Get them once and for all out of your life” (Anne Ortlund).

I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 3:14

Should Women Be in the Military, Police Force, or Firefighters?

Should Women Be in the Military, Police Force, or Firefighters?

Should godly women be in the military, police force, or firefighters? No, godly women should not be in any of these and I will try to explain why I believe this. In the Bible, only men were the ones to go to war and they had to be 20 years old or older. “Take ye the sum of all the congregation of the children of Israel, after their families, by the house of their fathers, with the number of their names, every male by their polls; From twenty years old and upward, all that are able to go forth to war in Israel: thou and Aaron shall number them by their armies” (Numbers 1:2, 3).

Women are the weaker vessel. “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel” (1 Peter 3:7). “The thing which the husband is specially to understand and take into account is that he is dealing with a thing less strong than himself…The weakness here ascribed to the female sex is primarily that of the body, as we shall see when we consider the word ‘vessel,’ though it may, perhaps, indicate frailty in other respects as well.” (Elliot’s Commentary) And I am sure the feminists will love Matthew Poole’s definition of this verse; “weaker than the husbands, and that both in body and mind, as women usually are.”

In past generations, EVERY ONE knew that men are stronger physically and emotionally than women. Men have ten times the testosterone than women do. Yes, men’s struggle is with their sexual nature but women’s struggle is with their emotional nature. Men and women are different. We are not the same. (It’s sad that I even have to write these words.)

As Mark Paghi wrote on my Facebook page the other day: “I don’t see the point of claiming equality with men. It shouldn’t even be talked about. If I have a basketball team, there is a point guard and a center. Do you hear anyone trying to give pep talks about equality? No. Does a point guard try to take the position of a center? No. They each have their position and know they are part of a team. Saying they are equal in human value or something of that nature is common sense. It doesn’t need to be explained nor brought up. Men and women aren’t equal. They are DIFFERENT. You can’t say equal but different. That’s a contradiction.”

“If there is a sound downstairs during the night and it might be a burglar, you don’t say to her: ‘This is an egalitarian marriage, so it’s your turn to go check it out. I went last time.’ And I mean that even if your wife has a black belt in karate. After you’ve tried, she may finish off the burglar with one good kick to the solar plexus. But you better be unconscious on the floor, or you’re no man. That’s written on your soul, brother, by God Almighty. Big or little, strong or weak, night or day, you go up against the enemy first. Woe to the husband–and woe to the nation–that send their women to fight their battles.” (John Piper)

 “Protect your wife physically. As we have seen, a godly husband uses his strength to protect his wife from any physical harm. He puts himself in harm’s way rather than risking her harm. He does not allow himself to feel that he needs to turn his cheek to any kind of abuse of his wife, but reacts with strength even at the risk of his own harm. He will face his own harm, he will face his own death, to keep his wife from suffering at the hand of others.” (Tim Challies)

The Lord instructs husbands to be the head of their wives. “For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body” (Ephesians 5:23). They are over them to protect and provide for them. This is God’s perfect plan in marriage and in society; it is the men who are to be the protectors. Being in the military, a firefighter, or policeman takes strength. Unfortunately, feminists have bullied men into women being able fulfill these positions. We are called to be feminine with gentle and quiet spirits. These jobs are all masculine.

Can you even imagine what women in the military who are captured by the enemy must endure? I am sure it is horrible! Women are much more vulnerable and defenseless than men. Women are the ones who are raped. (Yes, some men are being raped today, too, in today’s perverted society but it normally takes several men to do this whereas it only takes one man against one woman to rape a woman.) How about a female police officer caught in the middle of a gang? What if a female firefighter had to drag a 200 pound man down from a second story on a ladder to save his life? Women cannot do this. It is all nonsense.

But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.
Mark 10:6

Leading Captive Silly Women

Leading Captive Silly Women

In the last days, we are told that “perilous” times will come because of the increase of sin. We are seeing this in our own nation, sadly. People have become “lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God.” Then we are given a warning about what these sinful people will do:

For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth. (2 Timothy 3:6, 7)

And lead captive silly women; the coming of antichrist is after the working of Satan; as Satan attacked the woman, and not the man, and beguiled Eve and not Adam, so these his instruments and emissaries, work themselves into the affections of the weaker vessel, and into the weaker sort of women, as the diminutive word here used signifies; and gain upon them, instill their principles into them, attach them to their interests, captivate them to them, and lead them as they please:”

Yes, we are the weaker vessel and are more easily deceived. Most women who call themselves Christians are not sound in doctrine. They don’t know the Word of God. They don’t “study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth” (2 Timothy 2:15). Instead of listening to biblically accurate male preachers/teachers/writers, they listen and learn from other women who teach them things that aren’t scriptural.

These silly women also watch godless shows on the television and bring evil into their homes. They don’t believe that “bad company corrupts good morals” as their good morals become corrupted by the ways of the world. Silly women, they hate those who teach truth and mock and bully them, instead of listening and learning the ways of the Lord.

“…laden with sins; covered with them, full of them, and so ready to receive any set of principles that would encourage them to continue in them; or else were pressed down with a sense of them, their consciences being awakened, and they under some concern on account of them, and so fit persons for such deceivers to gain upon, by pretending to great sanctity and religion, and by providing them with pardons and indulgences, and putting them upon penance, &c. though the former sense seems most agreeable, and is confirmed by what follows,”

What was once known as sinful, they now openly celebrate and try to force others to believe the same, thus leading them astray. They are foolish women who are tearing their homes down with their own hands. They fail to stand as guards in their homes from the attacks of the enemy but allow him full access into their homes instead. Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof (2 Timothy 3:5). There is no fruit of the Spirit in their lives even though they speak about how spiritual they are to others.

“…led away with divers lusts. The Alexandrian copy adds, ‘and pleasures’; that is, sinful ones; though this may be understood, not of unclean lusts, but of the itch and desire after new teachers, and new doctrines, and practices, which prevail in weak women, and by which they are governed and led away.” (Gill’s Exposition)

And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables (2 Timothy 4:4).

Don’t be a silly, women. Don’t follow “new” teachers with “new” doctrines because they heard a “new and improved” word from the Lord. Be a like a Berean who searches the living and active Word to make sure that what you are learning and who you are learning from lines up with the pure wisdom of the Bible. Hide God’s Word deeply in your heart so that you won’t sin against Him and be easily led astray.

But continue thou in the things which thou hast learned and hast been assured of, knowing of whom thou hast learned them;

And that from a child thou hast known the holy scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus.

All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:

 That the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works.
2 Timothy 3:14-17

Be Ye Angry and Sin Not

Be Ye Angry and Sin Not

How can we be angry and not sin? The Bible commands that we do not sin in our anger: Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath (Ephesians 4:26). A few verses later it tells us NOT to be angry: Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice (Ephesians 4:31). There are so many other verses about being at peace with all men and not arguing and fighting with each other so what could this mean?

Out of all the old commentaries, Gill’s Exposition of the Entire Bible has become my favorite. About this verse, he wrote:

Be ye angry, and sin not,…. There is anger which is not sinful; for anger is fouled in God himself, in Jesus Christ, in the holy angels, and in God’s people; and a man may be said to be angry and not sin, when his anger arises from a true zeal for God and religion; when it is kindled not against persons, but sins; when a man is displeased with his own sins, and with the sins of others: with vice and immorality of every kind; with idolatry and idolatrous worship, and with all false doctrine; and also when it is carried on to answer good ends, as the good of those with whom we are angry, the glory of God, and the promoting of the interest of Christ: and there is an anger which is sinful; as when it is without a cause; when it exceeds due bounds; when it is not directed to a good end; when it is productive of bad effects, either in words or actions; and when it is soon raised, or long continues.

Let not the sun go down upon your wrath; there is an allusion to Deuteronomy 24:10 it seems to be a proverbial expression; and the design of it is to show, that anger should not be continued; that it should not last at furthest more than a day; that when the heat of the day is over, the heat of anger should be over likewise; and that we should not sleep with it, lest it should be cherished and increased upon our pillows; and besides, the time of the going down of the sun, is the time of evening prayer, which may be greatly interrupted and hindered by anger.”

Be angry at sin and Satan but don’ t allow it to turn into bitterness towards others for bitterness defiles many, including you, your children, and everyone around you. Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled (Hebrews 12:15).

When you are angry at the sin a person committed, put on the full armor of the Lord because you are fighting a spiritual battle being waged in the heavenlies, not the person. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places (Ephesians 6:12).

If you find out that your husband is involved in pornography, be angry at his sin. Let him know that you are angry but before the sun goes down, find a place to get alone and hand it all over to the Lord, for this is His battle. Live out 1 Peter 3:1-6. Don’t keep bringing it up but instead, keep giving it to the Lord and leaving it there.

If you find out your child stole something, be angry at his sin. Let him know that what he did was wrong and have him return what he stole. Then have a good talk with him about why it was wrong, discipline him, then let him know how much you love him.

If your best friend gossiped behind your back, be angry at her sin. Go over and talk to her about what she has done and let her know that it was wrong. If she asks for forgiveness, give it to her but if she responds angrily to you, go home and give it to the Lord. Refuse to hold any bitterness towards her. Remind yourself that love covers offenses and don’t hold it against her.

If your MIL is consistently telling you how to raise your children and has a negative, critical spirit, be angry at her sin. Let her know in a kind way that these are your children and you will raise them how you and your husband feel is best. Carefully let her know that you don’t appreciate her negative, critical spirit but do it in love. Then, no matter how she responds, give it to the Lord and love your MIL. For love is always the right response to others. Heap burning coals upon her head! (This means to kill her with kindness, not burn her.)

As we watch our culture deteriorate further into depravity and evil, be angry at the sin that is destroying people, families, and nations but don’t allow it to consume you and don’t focus upon it. Instead, pray about our leaders and our nation daily and give it to the Lord. It’s not our burden to carry for it’s way too heavy for us. We are called to be lights in this depraved culture without murmuring and complaining so find your joy in the Lord and rejoice always!

Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time: Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.
1 Peter 5:6, 7

Are You Living Like a Bag Lady?

Are You Living Like a Bag Lady?

Written By Ray Ortlund

Recently the New York City Police Department investigated a tragic death. Sprawled in a filthy back alley lay an old “bag lady” who had finally lost her battle with life. For years, she’d kept her body going by stealing the leftovers off plates in restaurants – but the more efficient the restaurants became, the more those food scraps were denied her. At last her frail, dirty shell gave up.

Then the newspapers revealed the news: Investigations showed she’d had many bank accounts, each holding hundreds of thousands of dollars! This old woman’s standing was the wealthy of the city, but her state was that of a miserable pauper.

Christian, do you ever live spiritually as if you were poor? Do you get discouraged, do you worry, as if you had no resources – when God has given you everything in Christ? The world is full of spiritual “bag ladies” whose states are tragically inconsistent with their standings.

Oh, that you would take comfort in Hebrews 10:14: “For by one offering he hath perfected for ever them that are sanctified.”

There! Do you see it?

“He hath perfected.” You’re already perfect: That’s your standing.

“That are sanctified.” You are sanctified (made holy): That’s your state.

And both are simultaneously true.

Hold up your head, Christian; take a deep breath and let God encourage you!

Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ.
Philippians 1:6