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Leading Captive Silly Women

Leading Captive Silly Women

In the last days, we are told that “perilous” times will come because of the increase of sin. We are seeing this in our own nation, sadly. People have become “lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God.” Then we are given a warning about what these sinful people will do:

For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth. (2 Timothy 3:6, 7)

And lead captive silly women; the coming of antichrist is after the working of Satan; as Satan attacked the woman, and not the man, and beguiled Eve and not Adam, so these his instruments and emissaries, work themselves into the affections of the weaker vessel, and into the weaker sort of women, as the diminutive word here used signifies; and gain upon them, instill their principles into them, attach them to their interests, captivate them to them, and lead them as they please:”

Yes, we are the weaker vessel and are more easily deceived. Most women who call themselves Christians are not sound in doctrine. They don’t know the Word of God. They don’t “study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth” (2 Timothy 2:15). Instead of listening to biblically accurate male preachers/teachers/writers, they listen and learn from other women who teach them things that aren’t scriptural.

These silly women also watch godless shows on the television and bring evil into their homes. They don’t believe that “bad company corrupts good morals” as their good morals become corrupted by the ways of the world. Silly women, they hate those who teach truth and mock and bully them, instead of listening and learning the ways of the Lord.

“…laden with sins; covered with them, full of them, and so ready to receive any set of principles that would encourage them to continue in them; or else were pressed down with a sense of them, their consciences being awakened, and they under some concern on account of them, and so fit persons for such deceivers to gain upon, by pretending to great sanctity and religion, and by providing them with pardons and indulgences, and putting them upon penance, &c. though the former sense seems most agreeable, and is confirmed by what follows,”

What was once known as sinful, they now openly celebrate and try to force others to believe the same, thus leading them astray. They are foolish women who are tearing their homes down with their own hands. They fail to stand as guards in their homes from the attacks of the enemy but allow him full access into their homes instead. Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof (2 Timothy 3:5). There is no fruit of the Spirit in their lives even though they speak about how spiritual they are to others.

“…led away with divers lusts. The Alexandrian copy adds, ‘and pleasures’; that is, sinful ones; though this may be understood, not of unclean lusts, but of the itch and desire after new teachers, and new doctrines, and practices, which prevail in weak women, and by which they are governed and led away.” (Gill’s Exposition)

And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables (2 Timothy 4:4).

Don’t be a silly, women. Don’t follow “new” teachers with “new” doctrines because they heard a “new and improved” word from the Lord. Be a like a Berean who searches the living and active Word to make sure that what you are learning and who you are learning from lines up with the pure wisdom of the Bible. Hide God’s Word deeply in your heart so that you won’t sin against Him and be easily led astray.

But continue thou in the things which thou hast learned and hast been assured of, knowing of whom thou hast learned them;

And that from a child thou hast known the holy scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus.

All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:

 That the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works.
2 Timothy 3:14-17

Be Ye Angry and Sin Not

Be Ye Angry and Sin Not

How can we be angry and not sin? The Bible commands that we do not sin in our anger: Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath (Ephesians 4:26). A few verses later it tells us NOT to be angry: Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice (Ephesians 4:31). There are so many other verses about being at peace with all men and not arguing and fighting with each other so what could this mean?

Out of all the old commentaries, Gill’s Exposition of the Entire Bible has become my favorite. About this verse, he wrote:

Be ye angry, and sin not,…. There is anger which is not sinful; for anger is fouled in God himself, in Jesus Christ, in the holy angels, and in God’s people; and a man may be said to be angry and not sin, when his anger arises from a true zeal for God and religion; when it is kindled not against persons, but sins; when a man is displeased with his own sins, and with the sins of others: with vice and immorality of every kind; with idolatry and idolatrous worship, and with all false doctrine; and also when it is carried on to answer good ends, as the good of those with whom we are angry, the glory of God, and the promoting of the interest of Christ: and there is an anger which is sinful; as when it is without a cause; when it exceeds due bounds; when it is not directed to a good end; when it is productive of bad effects, either in words or actions; and when it is soon raised, or long continues.

Let not the sun go down upon your wrath; there is an allusion to Deuteronomy 24:10 it seems to be a proverbial expression; and the design of it is to show, that anger should not be continued; that it should not last at furthest more than a day; that when the heat of the day is over, the heat of anger should be over likewise; and that we should not sleep with it, lest it should be cherished and increased upon our pillows; and besides, the time of the going down of the sun, is the time of evening prayer, which may be greatly interrupted and hindered by anger.”

Be angry at sin and Satan but don’ t allow it to turn into bitterness towards others for bitterness defiles many, including you, your children, and everyone around you. Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled (Hebrews 12:15).

When you are angry at the sin a person committed, put on the full armor of the Lord because you are fighting a spiritual battle being waged in the heavenlies, not the person. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places (Ephesians 6:12).

If you find out that your husband is involved in pornography, be angry at his sin. Let him know that you are angry but before the sun goes down, find a place to get alone and hand it all over to the Lord, for this is His battle. Live out 1 Peter 3:1-6. Don’t keep bringing it up but instead, keep giving it to the Lord and leaving it there.

If you find out your child stole something, be angry at his sin. Let him know that what he did was wrong and have him return what he stole. Then have a good talk with him about why it was wrong, discipline him, then let him know how much you love him.

If your best friend gossiped behind your back, be angry at her sin. Go over and talk to her about what she has done and let her know that it was wrong. If she asks for forgiveness, give it to her but if she responds angrily to you, go home and give it to the Lord. Refuse to hold any bitterness towards her. Remind yourself that love covers offenses and don’t hold it against her.

If your MIL is consistently telling you how to raise your children and has a negative, critical spirit, be angry at her sin. Let her know in a kind way that these are your children and you will raise them how you and your husband feel is best. Carefully let her know that you don’t appreciate her negative, critical spirit but do it in love. Then, no matter how she responds, give it to the Lord and love your MIL. For love is always the right response to others. Heap burning coals upon her head! (This means to kill her with kindness, not burn her.)

As we watch our culture deteriorate further into depravity and evil, be angry at the sin that is destroying people, families, and nations but don’t allow it to consume you and don’t focus upon it. Instead, pray about our leaders and our nation daily and give it to the Lord. It’s not our burden to carry for it’s way too heavy for us. We are called to be lights in this depraved culture without murmuring and complaining so find your joy in the Lord and rejoice always!

Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time: Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.
1 Peter 5:6, 7

Are You Living Like a Bag Lady?

Are You Living Like a Bag Lady?

Written By Ray Ortlund

Recently the New York City Police Department investigated a tragic death. Sprawled in a filthy back alley lay an old “bag lady” who had finally lost her battle with life. For years, she’d kept her body going by stealing the leftovers off plates in restaurants – but the more efficient the restaurants became, the more those food scraps were denied her. At last her frail, dirty shell gave up.

Then the newspapers revealed the news: Investigations showed she’d had many bank accounts, each holding hundreds of thousands of dollars! This old woman’s standing was the wealthy of the city, but her state was that of a miserable pauper.

Christian, do you ever live spiritually as if you were poor? Do you get discouraged, do you worry, as if you had no resources – when God has given you everything in Christ? The world is full of spiritual “bag ladies” whose states are tragically inconsistent with their standings.

Oh, that you would take comfort in Hebrews 10:14: “For by one offering he hath perfected for ever them that are sanctified.”

There! Do you see it?

“He hath perfected.” You’re already perfect: That’s your standing.

“That are sanctified.” You are sanctified (made holy): That’s your state.

And both are simultaneously true.

Hold up your head, Christian; take a deep breath and let God encourage you!

Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ.
Philippians 1:6

Make Sure Your Heart is Happy in God!

Make Sure Your Heart is Happy in God!

Written By Anne Ortlund

If any depression, any sadness, is longer than brief, it starts to become your very dangerous enemy.

Many people don’t realize what a threat sadness it – and any danger which is unrecognized as a danger is all the more dangerous. There is no stigma against sadness. There is no embarrassment, no alarm, no rushing to the Lord to eliminate it.

But God’s Word says,

The joy of the Lord is your strength. (Nehemiah 8:10)

And when a Christian is sad – whether she realizes it or not, her power is diminished and she’s vulnerable.

A country that has internal unrest is the least able to resist any threatening foreign power. And a believer with sadness inside is the least able to resist any attack of Satan.

Depression is a sinister “fifth column” at work within the Christian community.

You watch a rejected congregation after a church split. As long as they’re sad, there will be little true worship, little evangelism; the people can’t focus away from themselves.

You watch an individual Christian who’s sad: She’s necessarily self-centered. As long as she’s sad she makes a poor marriage partner.

When we’re sad, we’re sick. We don’t function well. We don’t lift and encourage other believers, and we don’t appeal to unbelievers. Our spiritual strength and effectiveness are cut down.

No wonder the great George Mueller used to say, “It is my first business every morning to make sure that my heart is happy in God!”

Being happy is a choice and if you are a believer in Jesus Christ, you have all the reason in the world to choose to be happy.

A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones.
Proverbs 17:22

Am I Teaching Men Through Blogging?

Am I Teaching Men Through Blogging?

Women have asked me if I am violating 1 Timothy 2:12 because men read my blog and I teach what the Bible has to say about this issue. Women are not to teach nor to usurp authority over men and I desire more than anything to be obedient to the Word of God. It’s not a legalistic “rule-follower” thing for me but a love for the Lord.

I believe that anyone who reads my blog for long at all will know that I teach women. In fact, women get angry with me because I don’t teach “the other side” about men loving their wives. It’s not my place to teach men their role. In fact, by teaching men their roles hurts my purpose of helping women become better wives because their focus is on their husband’s behavior instead of their own. Plus, I would be disobeying the Lord if I set out to purposely teach men.

Yes, some men do read my blog and comment on it. I am aware of this but their comments that I allow on my blog are usually teaching comments from godly men who add to what I have taught. I appreciate their input. Ken writes for my blog once in a while for a male perspective. There’s nothing wrong with us learning from men. I won’t publish a comment I disagree with unless I have Ken respond because I don’t want to be teaching men. This blog is for women and teaching them what the Lord instructs older women to teach younger women.

If a man writes me privately for advice, I always forward it to Ken. He has received numerous emails from men wanting marriage advice and has developed some strong friendships with some of these men. I refuse to give men advice about these things since I know it’s not my place to do so.

I have stopped teaching the major doctrines of the Word for this reason. It’s best to learn these from godly male preachers/teachers, in my opinion. All of the Prophets, Priests, Disciples, and Authors of the Bible were men and all elders and deacons (leaders of the church) are to be men so I am convicted to allow men to teach the main parts of the Word and let the woman learn in silence with all subjection (1 Timothy 2:11). And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church (1 Corinthians 14:35).

Women need to be in the Word for themselves, however, by studying, meditating, memorizing, and reading it daily since it is what transforms them. There are great commentaries for further research. I use a highlighter, pen, and notebook as I am studying along with my KJV Bible which I love the most, the 1828 Webster’s Dictionary (I have an app on my phone) and for commentaries.

There’s nothing that can replace personal study of God’s Word and it will shield women from falling for false teachers. I recommend reading a gospel (Matthew through John), then Romans through Revelation, Psalms, and Proverbs over and over again since these are the most relevant for us today. Even if it’s only a chapter a day, women, commit to knowing the Word for yourself.

I am in no way a preacher. I have no desire to stand in front of a body of believers comprised of men and women and speak. I just wouldn’t be comfortable in doing this. I do love to teach and I love to teach women. I try hard to stay focused upon women’s issues and roles and anything to do with the home and health. Of course, I use a lot of Bible to support what I teach but if women are looking for some good Bible teaching, I point them to some great male Bible teachers to learn from.

I realize that this is not a popular position and there are many women teaching the Bible. I am not standing in judgment of them because these are my convictions from studying the Word. If perfect sinless Eve who walked in the garden with God could be deceived and one of the reasons given for women not teaching nor being in authority over men was due to being deceived, I don’t want to be responsible for deceiving the women who read my blog when it comes to the deep truths of the Word.

What is ironic is that when I used to teach doctrine, they were my most unpopular posts. It was always my posts on submission, being keepers at home, modesty, etc. that were the most popular. I believe women are hungry to know their God-given roles in life and I love to teach them. Why should I teach the meat of God’s Word when there are so many godly men who teach it and so very few older women* teaching younger women what God wants them to know?

That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:4, 5

*I qualify as an older woman since I am almost 59 years old, have been married for over 36 years, raised four children, and am blessed with five grandchildren! The LORD is good.

Temperate in All Things

Temperate in All Things

We live in a time of excess. We eat too much. We are entertained too much. We own too much. We sleep too much. We work too much. We spend too much money. We eat too much junk food. We shop too much. We spend too much time on Facebook. We seek pleasure too much. We are idle too much. The Apostle Paul is a good role model for us since he disciplined his body so that he would be temperate in ALL things.

And every man that striveth for the mastery is temperate in all things. Now they do it to obtain a corruptible crown; but we an incorruptible; I therefore so run, not as uncertainly; so fight I, not as one that beateth the air: But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway (1 Corinthians 9:25-27).

Temperate means “moderate in the indulgence of the appetites and passions; as temperate in eating and drinking; temperate in pleasure; temperate in speech.” It is practicing self-denial and doing what is good and right.

Do you say “no” to yourself when it comes to eating and food? Do you have to eat something before you feel a hunger pain? Do you continue to eat even after you are full? Can you ever go between meals and not snack? Do you consistently show self-control when it comes to eating? Does food have control over you instead of you controlling your appetite?

Feed me with the food that is my portion (Prov. 30:8) Every time before you eat ask the Lord to help you to only eat your portion and no more.

How about drinking? Are you controlled by that cup or four cups of coffee in the morning? Has this become an addiction? If  you drink alcohol, can you still remain sober and only have a “little bit” or “not much” as we are told to do concerning alcohol? What about sodas? Knowing that they are full of sugar or fake sugar and are health destroying, can you give them up completely or only have them once in a while? Does your coffee, alcohol, and sodas control you?

What about stuff? Do you go shopping and buy things even though you don’t need anything? Are there a lot of clothes hanging in your closet that you don’t wear? How many pairs of shoes do you own? Do you waste money on things of this world instead of investing in things eternal? Have you learned that godliness with contentment is great gain and have learned self-control in consuming things, knowing that they will all burn one day?

Are you moderate in your passions or do they control you? Do you dwell on the lovely and the pure instead of on some other man who isn’t your husband? Do you flirt, dress immodestly, or act unbecomingly when men who are not your husband are around? Do you watch shows or read books that cause you to be discontent with your marriage? Or do you concentrate on all of the good qualities in your husband and dwell on them instead?

As John Piper preached, “One of your selves will tell you until the day you die — I speak as a 71-year-old warrior with this old self — ‘Come on! If we can just accumulate more of this world, more possessions, more protections, more insurance policies, more symbols of power, more possibilities of bodily pleasure then we will have real life — the only life there is.’ He is a liar. You won’t save your life that way. You will lose it. Even if you gain the whole world.

In the next sixty years of your life scarcely a day will go by when the message: having things is having life. To which Jesus says, no, having things is not life; having me is life. ‘Whoever loses his life for my sake and the gospel’s will save it.'”

If you are a Christian, you are filled with the Holy Spirit and one of the fruits of the Spirit is temperance. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law (Galatians 5:22, 23) We should be known for our self-control and moderation in all of our appetites and passions.

If you struggle in any of these areas and feel like a failure, remind yourself that Christ’s power works in and through you. You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you! You aren’t left alone to do it by yourself. The Apostle Paul told us that God’s Spirit worked mightily within him.

Begin memorizing verses about self-control, for we are transformed by renewing our minds with truth. He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls (Proverbs 25:28). For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7). Do you keep your body under and bring it in subjection or do you allow your appetites and passions to boss you around and control you?

Who and What are Women to Teach

Who and What are Women to Teach

What and who exactly are women to teach according to the Word? There are women teaching other women the Word but failing to teach what God has instructed them to teach. Many women didn’t like yesterday’s post about being silent in the Church. This is offensive to them and they tried to convince me by using Hebrew and Greek that I am wrong, as if the translators of the KJV Bible made mistakes and they know better than these men of old.

In further researching what women being “silent” in the church meant, I found some very interesting things in the commentaries of old about this topic. One thing I did not find is that woman are allowed to speak in the church. It seems to me that silence means silence. (This doesn’t mean they can’t sing. They are not to do anything that is teaching men or being in authority over them when they sing. The Apostle Paul is clear about this.)

Elliot’s Commentary: But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.—The whole purpose of these weighty admonitions of the great founder of the Gentile Churches relegates Christian women to their own legitimate sphere of action and influence—the quiet of their own homes.

Wow! Most Christian women wouldn’t like what Elliot had to say about a woman’s sphere – “the quiet of their own homes.” This is what feminism has rebelled against and unfortunately, many Christian women fell in lock step with them. Do you, women, not understand the importance of your home? Don’t ever let anyone try to convince you that it is not. We have the privilege of bearing and raising an army for the LORD in our homes. We are our husband’s help meet and have the privilege of making our homes a peaceful and beautiful place for our family in the midst of a loud and ugly world.

Matthew Henry’s Commentary: According to St. Paul, women are not allowed to be public teachers in the church; for teaching is an office of authority. But good women may and ought to teach their children at home the principles of true religion…St. Paul shows what is the only proper sphere in which woman should work, and in which she should exercise her influence and power; while man’s work and duties lay in the busy world without, woman’s work was exclusively confined to the quiet stillness of home.

Matthew Henry again reiterates “the quiet stillness of home” as the place where women work. Is your home peaceful? You, as the woman of the home, have a big responsibility of whether or not your home is peaceful by your attitude and behavior. Are you gentle and kind with your husband and children? Do you control your emotions and feelings so you are led by Truth and the Spirit instead? Do you find that the JOY of the LORD is your strength? In order to have a peaceful home, you must hide God’s Word deeply in your heart so that you won’t sin against Him. As you are doing this, make sure you are teaching your children godliness as well.

Matthew Poole’s Commentary: Nevertheless women may, and it is their duty to instruct their children and families at home, especially in the absence of their husbands.

It is fathers who are given the command to raise their children in the nurture and the admonition of the LORD in Ephesians 6:4 but as the husband is head over the wife and the wife is home full time, she will be the one who is teaching them the ways of the LORD throughout the day. Make sure you are reading them the Bible, even more so than Bible story books, since it is His Word that is living and active and sharper than a two edged sword. Use every opportunity to teach your children truth.

We are blessed with five grandchildren. One of my sons and his wife told me that every night when they put their nine month old baby to bed they sing a hymn and pray over her. The other day, I watched my one and a half year old granddaughter and as we put her to bed, we sang and prayed over her. It was such a sweet time! Find any way you can to speak and teach truth to your children just as Timothy’s mother and grandmother shared their faith with him (2 Timothy 1:5).

Gill’s Exposition: But I suffer not a woman to teach, They may teach in private, in their own houses and families; they are to be teachers of good things, Titus 2:3. They are to bring up their children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord; nor is the law or doctrine of a mother to be forsaken, any more than the instruction of a father;…(but in church) but to be in silence; to sit and hear quietly and silently, and learn, and not teach.

Women are to teach the Word to their children and Titus 2:4, 5 to women. Even the Proverbs 31 wasn’t running around to different Women’s Bible Studies, teaching women the Bible, or attending conferences. She worked hard in and around her home. She was full of good works and deeds. What does it say about her words and what she teaches? “She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness” (Proverbs 31:26). In order to have wisdom, she had to know the Word of God for all wisdom comes from Him. When she spoke, she spoke words of wisdom and taught her children wisdom. Her words were also those of kindness. I am sure all that are around a woman like this clearly knows that she has been with the LORD.

“Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised” (Proverbs 31:30). She fears the LORD. If you fear the LORD, you don’t fear man and this is why she can “rejoice in the time to come.” She doesn’t fear the future because her trust is in the LORD. She respects and honors her husband as head over her and has no desire to teach men or speak in church. She knows her place is in the home and she finds her joy there.

Expositor’s Greek Testament: 1 Timothy 2:12. This refers of course only to public teaching, or to a wife’s teaching her husband. In Titus 2:3 St. Paul indicates the natural sphere for woman’s teaching.

In this commentary, we are told what women are to teach women, namely to love and obey their husbands, to love their children, to be sober, good, discreet, chaste, and keepers at home, namely godly womanhood. Few women want to teach this today. They would rather teach through books of the Bible or Old Testament figures or the end times, anything but Titus 2:4, 5. The thing is that woman are more easily deceived, therefore, it is best to stick to what the LORD has commanded for us to teach and let men preachers and teachers teach the whole of God’s amazing Word.

That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:4, 5

Reverencing Our Husbands

Reverencing Our Husbands

Most women today do NOT reverence their husbands. Most Christian women don’t even know what it means. I need to learn what it means. I do these words studies not only to teach those who want to learn but for me too. I have seen a few wives who reverence their husbands but it doesn’t come easy for most of us.

I made a YouTube about reverencing our husbands but I know some didn’t like it because they know that their husbands aren’t Christ. In the video, I said to treat your husbands as if they were Christ and then you will know what reverence looks like! I am not sure why I would even have to remind these women that their husbands aren’t Christ. Of course they are not but we are still commanded to reverence our husbands so I am going to try to explain what this means by using by trusty 1828 Webster’s Dictionary.

“Fear mingled with respect and esteem; veneration.” Veneration means “the highest degree of respect and reverence; respect mingled with some degree of awe; a feeling or sentiment excited by the dignity and superiority of a person, or by the sacredness of his character, and with regard to place, by its consecration to sacred services.”

Look at Sarah and how she reverenced her husband. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement” (1 Peter 3:5, 6).

The holy women trusted in God. This is foundational to our obedience to Him. “And hereby we do know that we know Him, if we keep His commandments” (1 John 2:3). What are those “commandments” we are to keep. The footnote to the word “commandments” in my Bible tells us: “John uses ‘commandments’ in the general sense of the divine will, however, revealed, ‘his word’ (v. 5) and especially of the law of Christ.” It’s NOT talking about the Old Testament Law, thankfully!

If we trust in Him, we will have no problem reverencing our husbands since He has commanded for us to do this. If our husbands make bad decisions, we will trust in God to make it right. If we are fearful over our husband’s job or income, we trust in God to be our Provider for when we are reverencing our husbands, bottom line – we are trusting in God.

From Barnes Notes on the Bible concerning these verses: “It was probably inferred from this instance, by the apostle, and not without reason, that Sarah habitually used this respectful appellation, acknowledging by it that he was her superior, and that he had a right to rule in his own house. The word lord has the elementary idea of ruling, and this is the sense here – that she acknowledged that he had a right to direct the affairs of his household, and that it was her duty to be in subjection to him as the head of the family.”

The easiest way for me to understand what reverence looks like in my relation to my husband is to treat him as if he were Christ and how I would treat Christ if He were living in my home. I haven’t found any other example or illustration that helps me to better understand this concept than this that was given by Denny Kenaston in The Hidden Woman, especially since I was never modeled it and having a servant’s heart doesn’t come naturally to me although I am a lot better than I used to be.

Our culture doesn’t reverence anything. They don’t even know what it means, therefore, most of us don’t either, but wives are commanded to reverence their husbands in Ephesians 5:33. If you love the Lord and want to obey Him in everything, then learn to reverence your husband. Reverence from a wife is a powerful thing in a husband’s life.

The wife see that she reverence her husband.
Ephesians 5:33

She is Loud and Stubborn

She is Loud and Stubborn

Many women today are loud and stubborn, exactly the opposite of what God wants us to be. She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house (Proverbs 7:11).

Elliot’s Commentary on this verse: “Here the wise man draws her character. She is clamorous and obstinate, or refractory. She is full of talk, self-willed, disobedient to her husband, rebellious against God, and incorrigible by any admonitions of ministers or friends. Her feet abide not in her house — She minds not her business, which lies in her own house, but gives herself wholly up to idleness and pleasure, which she seeks in gadding abroad, and in changing her place and company.”

Can you imagine a commentary today writing about a wife being “disobedient to her husband” or that her business “lies in her own house”? This is why I go to the commentaries of old. They understood the Word of God and that His ways are perfect for all generations. They didn’t need to water it down to make it more politically correct! These two issues (submission and keepers at home) are what make women most angry at me when they are truly angry at God.

Unfortunately, many men are married to women like this definition of loud and stubborn women. Married women today have no problem flirting with other men. They find old boyfriends on Facebook and begin an emotional affair that can easily turn into something more sordid without any thought for their husband and children. They are foolish women who are tearing their homes down with their own hands. They have no wisdom. They are “ever learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth” (2 Timothy 3:7) or like young widows who leave the faith and rebel against God’s will for them which is to marry, bear children, and guide the home: “And withal they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not” (1 Timothy 5:13.

From the 1828 Webster Dictionary, clamorous means “speaking and repeating loud words; noisy; turbulent.” I’m sure most of you remember the images from the Women’s March the day after President Trump’s inauguration. Yes, those women fit the definition of clamorous to a tee.

Obstinate means “stubborn; pertinaciously adhering to an opinion or purpose; fixed  firmly in resolution; not yielding to reason, arguments or other means.” An obstinate woman doesn’t have a teachable heart. Being right is more important to her than having a strong, healthy relationship with her husband. She is deceived easily and follows women preachers and teachers with no discernment. She refuses to change her rebellious ways yet insists that everyone else is in the wrong except for her.

Refractory means “disobedient; obstinate in non-compliance; unmanageable.” Ken mentors men with wives like this. We pray for these couples because there’s not much a husband can do with a wife like this except to plead with the Lord. They refuse to listen or submit to their husbands and continually make life miserable for everyone in their family. It’s tragic and ugly.

Incorrigible means “cannot be corrected or amended; bad beyond correction; too depraved to be corrected or reformed.” It’s almost as if they have been given over to reprobate minds (a person abandoned to sin; one lost to virtue and religion – Romans 1:28) because they continually practice sin. They refuse to take any rebuke, exhortation, or advice. They have become their own god and falsely believe that what is right is wrong and what is wrong is right.

What is the opposite of being loud and stubborn and never at home? It is having a meek and quiet spirit, living in obedience to our husbands, and being a keeper at home (working hard in the home). Instead of being “self-willed” we need to go hard after God’s will and conform our will to His. This is what pleases the Lord and what He calls women to do. His ways are perfect!

But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
1 Peter 3:4

Called to Moderation in a Culture of Excess

Called to Moderation in a Culture of Excess

We are a culture that seeks pleasure of the eyes and of the flesh. We eat too much. We buy too much. We seek too much pleasure. We are not known for our moderation and yet, God calls us to moderation. “Let your moderation be known unto all men” (Philippians 4:5). Moderation should define us! What does moderation even look like since it’s hard to find this quality in a nation that is overweight, gluttons, seekers of pleasure rather than seekers of God, spendthrifts, and entertainment seekers?

How did I study this word, moderation? I went to my 1828 Webster Dictionary, of course! “Restraint of violent passions or indulgence of appetite. Eat and drink with moderation, indulge with moderation in  pleasure and exercise.” Wow! The last word stood out to me. Many in our culture are addicted to exercise and spend countless hours and money to get in shape. Alcohol use is high, even among Christian women. It’s common for them to be having a glass of wine at 2:00 in the afternoon. It’s easier than ever to indulge in being entertained instead of keeping a clean and tidy home and training our children. Many women today are given to violent passions because they are being led by their emotions and feelings instead of by wisdom and moderation.

We must not allow our culture to define our lives. We must be the ones to take control and make wise choices by taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ and reminding ourselves that we are dead and freed from sin (Romans 6). If you are tempted to overeat, remind yourself that you are going to be the master over your flesh from now on and it is going to be your slave. You aren’t going to allow it to bully you around anymore. Yes, you can take a couple bites of a rich, chocolate, gooey birthday cake. The cake doesn’t have to have mastery over you since Christ lives within you and you have everything you need for life and godliness. You can choose to have some cut up veggies for a snack instead of chips every time you are hungry. You. can. control. your. appetite!!!

We don’t need to exercise for hours every day. We don’t have to have a perfectly toned body like they show on all of the magazine covers and television shows. Our tummies don’t have to be flat and our arms perfectly toned. It’s okay to grow older and spend more time on things that have eternal value. Let’s become more like Jesus and learn to have a meek and quiet spirit instead, because true beauty comes from within and not our dead and dying flesh.

We also don’t need to be entertained every second of every day. We don’t have to check Facebook every few minutes and see how many “likes” we have received. Let’s care a whole lot more about pleasing our LORD, instead of gaining the approval of man. We are commanded to work hard and move. Our homes shouldn’t be a dirty mess. We have the discipline to keep them clean and tidy because we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us.

Concerning alcohol, it is made very clear in His Word that we are to be “sober” so judge every sip you take of alcohol with the word sober. We are also commanded to “not drink much” and “just a little” so keep those phrases in your mind if you do drink alcohol. It can easily enslave people and as believers, we only want to be enslaved to Christ and His will.

Another definition of moderation given is “calmness of mind; equanimity; as, to bear prosperity or adversity with moderation.” I had no clue what equanimity meant so I looked this word up: “evenness of mind; not easily elated or depressed, which sustains prosperity without excessive joy, and adversity without violent agitation of the passions and depressions of spirit.” In other words, we don’t allow our emotions and feelings to control our lives. Our lives must be built upon the Word of God and His truth, therefore, we can keep everything in perspective.

This life on earth is a speck of eternity. We live for eternity and store our treasures there. We know that everything on this earth is going to burn so we hold on to the things of this earth loosely. We invest our lives into people because they are eternal; either eternally with the LORD or in hell. This guides our life in how we treat others and the words we say to them. We want ALL to come to the knowledge of Him so we value them way over the stuff of this world.

Finally, the last definition of moderation given is “frugality in expenses.” We don’t spend a ton of money on ourselves. We adorn ourselves with modest apparel, meaning we don’t spend a lot of money on clothes. In the chat room, a number of us are not buying any new clothes for a year because we all have more than enough. My neighbors are moving and she showed me her home right before it went on the market. Her closet was practically empty! I asked her about it and she said, “Why would I need any more clothes?” Why do women need 20 pairs of shoes, ten purses, drawers full of makeup and hair stuff? We don’t! It’s wasted money that could be used for better and eternal things.

We are to be wise with our money, our time, our appetite, and our entertainment, women. Let us strive to be known for our moderation, as the LORD has commanded us to be, and we can because He works mightily within us.

Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.
1 John 2:15-17