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Becoming Feminine Women

Becoming Feminine Women

One of the women in the chat room shared a site called A Lady’s Code. “A lady possesses a code of conduct which serves to guide her in the course of daily life. These are her non-negotiable golden rules … principles that dictate the best course of action in a given circumstance.” I am one that is always eager to learn and grow in godliness, femininity, and biblical womanhood so when I find sites like this, I love learning from them!

Many women today have forgotten how to act like women and have not had anyone model to them what ladylike looks like. It’s good to seek out feminine women that you know and can learn from. The Duchess of Cambridge just gave birth to a baby boy and from all that I have seen of her, she is a feminine woman. I believe our First Lady is a feminine woman. There isn’t anything masculine about either of them and I appreciate this. When I have heard them speak, they are soft spoken and kind. They walk and dress ladylike and treat their husbands with gentleness.

I love this picture of Kate seven hours after giving birth. I love that she loves her husband and having children. She is a wonderful example of femininity and being ladylike for women all around the world.

“A Lady’s Code” teaches women how to be ladylike by giving wise encouragement, including how to drive, not gossiping, how to sit and stand, how to speak and words to say, and in many other areas. It is good to be known as being feminine and ladylike since God made us women. Here are a few of her posts:

A lady possesses a sense of wonder and interest in the world around her, so that boredom is simply foreign to her. So keen is her sense of awe and reverence for the marvels of creation that, to her way of thinking, boredom would be an insult to her intellect and to her Creator. She does not need or expect to be entertained, but is capable of finding something interesting and useful to occupy her wherever she finds herself, even if it is nothing more than keenly observing her surroundings. She has a teachable spirit, ready and eager to take up a subject matter of which she knows little, and can find in it some wonderful thing to benefit her ready mind.

“There is not a blade of grass that springs uninteresting to me.”
Thomas Jefferson

A lady does not need an audience in order to shine. She is who she is, whether or not anyone else is watching.

She runs her life by principles (her code), not pretense. She is genuinely concerned with what she should be, not what others think her to be. She knows how to enjoy an experience without turning it into a photo opportunity…

… She can buy a new car without posting a picture of it on social media.
… She will keep a tidy house when no guests are expected.
… She can dine at a fancy restaurant without publicizing photos of what she ate.
… She does a good deed when no one will notice.

A lady of substance is more concerned with being rather than being seen.

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
Proverbs 31:30, 31

*Photo by Daniel Gerhartz

Study to Be Quiet

Study to Be Quiet

We are commanded in 1 Thessalonians 4:11 to “study to be quiet.” What does this mean? It apparently means that it’s not our nature to be quiet so we must study how to be quiet. Gill’s Exposition put it this way:

“And that ye study to be quiet,…. To live peaceably in their own families, and to give no disturbance to other families, by talebearing, whispering, and backbiting; to behave with quietness in the neighbourhood, town, or city, they dwell in, and to seek the peace thereof; and to lead a quiet and peaceable life, in all godliness and honesty, in the commonwealth, and under the government to which they belong; and not to create and encourage factions, divisions, animosities, and contentions, in their own church, or in any of the churches of Christ; and it becomes saints to make this their study, to be very solicitous for it, to strive for it, and pursue after it: the word used signifies to be ambitious of it, as what is a man’s glory and honour, to emulate and strive to outdo each other, as who shall have the honour of being the quietest person, and the most peaceable member in the community.”

In order to be quiet, we must seek to be at peace with all man as far as it depends upon us. We must first be at peace in our homes with our husband and our children. We love, serve, and sacrifice for them. We show them kindness and patience. We are careful with the words that we speak to them.

We seek peace with people outside of our family. We don’t speak negatively or critically about them. We don’t whisper things behind their back as a means of tearing them down. We don’t slander and gossip about others and find out all the things they are doing wrong so we can tell others. The only reason that people do this is to elevate themselves and make themselves look better than those they slander or they are trying to destroy the reputation of those they slander which should never be named among those who call themselves believers in Jesus Christ.

We abide by the rules of our government. We don’t “encourage factions, divisions, animosities, and contentions.” We pray for our leaders instead. Politics is NOT our life. The news of the day doesn’t consume us because we understand that this isn’t our home. We are strangers and aliens simply passing through to a bright eternity with our Savior so we go about His work instead of worrying about what’s going on in our culture. We store our treasures in heaven where they are safe and protected.

We love those in our churches and pray for them. We pray for our elders and deacons as they lead our church. We are quiet in our churches as we are commanded to do so; for it is shameful for women to speak in churches. If we have a question, we ask our husbands at home instead of marching up to the pastor and demanding an answer. If we disagree with something that is taught, we don’t make a big stink about it but pray that truth will always be taught in our church.

Let us all be known as the “quietest person, and the most peaceable member” in our community and the only way we can do this is by clothing ourselves with the righteousness of God – believing in Jesus Christ and being filled with His Spirit, then we can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens us!

 If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.
Romans 12:18

Which Proverbs Woman are You?

Which Proverbs Woman are You?

There are two types of women described all throughout the book of Proverbs. One is a godly woman and one is a foolish woman. I read through the entire book and noted all of the references made specifically to woman excluding Proverbs 31. First, I will give you the verses of foolish women to make sure none of these describe any of us!

“It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman” (Proverbs 21:19).

Contentious means given to angry debate and quarrelsome. It’s easy for us to want our own way and to be right but this isn’t what God calls us to do nor be. There are so many Christians books and articles about how to “fight fair” in marriage but according to the Word of God, we shouldn’t be fighting at all. “And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men” (2 Timothy 2:24). Strive means to struggle or fight vigorously. As women, we are called to have meek and quiet spirits, therefore, we must not quarrel or fight with our husbands.

“It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house” (Proverbs 21:9)

Brawling means the act of quarreling. Again, we are told to NOT quarrel. It should have no place in our lives. If you struggle with quarreling with your husband, ask him to call you out on it every time you begin to quarrel and immediately stop! It’s a hard habit to break (I know), but worth the effort. Peace in a marriage is a beautiful thing!

“It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house.” (Proverbs 25:24)

This verse is given twice (Proverbs 21:9)! Again, we are warned against quarreling.  It would be better for a man to be exposed to the harsh heat of the sun, wind, and winter on a roof rather than live with a quarreling wife in a big and beautiful home. It will drive a man crazy! God commands wives to submit to their husband and when wives do this, quarreling stops immediately since they understand his headship over them.

“The contentions of a wife are a continual dripping” (Proverbs 19:13)

“A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike” (Proverbs 27:15)

Twice we are told that a quarreling wife is like a “continual dripping.” I am sure you have heard a faucet that drips, drips, drips and it can drive you crazy because it is so constant and so annoying. This is what you sound like to your husband if you quarrel with him. Choose to bite your tongue rather than quarrel with your husband. Let him be right all the time if need be. Big deal!

“As a jewel of gold in a swine’s snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion” (Proverbs 11:22)

Discretion means being wise and having common sense and good judgement. A woman who has no discretion (isn’t wise and doesn’t have common sense or good judgement) is compared to a piece of jewelry in a pig’s nose. As godly woman, we are called to be discreet. We are to be wise in avoiding errors and evil and do what is right and good according to God’s Word.

“She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house” (Proverbs 7:11).

This is completely opposite of having meek and quiet spirits. We aren’t to be loud. We aren’t to be stubborn and insist on having our own way. Our feet are in our homes as keepers at home where the Lord has commanded that we be. We don’t go out marching for our “rights”  and demanding that we be heard. No, we work quietly and hard in our homes taking care of our families while giving all of our concerns to the Lord. He is mighty to save! We study to be quiet, do our own business, and work with our own hands (1 Thessalonians 4:11). We don’t have a sense of entitlement and wanting things for free but are content with our lot in life; for godliness with contentment is great gain.

“A foolish woman is clamorous: she is simple, and knoweth nothing” (Proverbs 9:13)

Clamorous means speaking and repeating loud words, being noisy and turbulent. Without Christ’s Spirit working mightily within us, we will not be meek and quiet spirited women. As our culture spirals downwards, women become more loud and turbulent. This is why we need to be in the Word and allow His Spirit to transform us into His image.

“Three things the earth is disquieted…an odious woman when she is married” (Proverbs 30:23)

Odious means hateful, offensive to the senses, and disgusting. There seems to be many women who are hateful and disgusting these days. You can see it all over Facebook, during the feminist marches, and watching them on TV with their immodesty, unfeminine behavior, and foul language. I can tell you one thing, it’s so very ugly! The poor, poor men who are married to odious women. What a pity.

“A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones” (Proverbs 12:4)

Virtuous means morally good, practicing the moral duties, and abstaining from vice. Are you good? Are you washed by the blood of the Lamb? Have you been cleansed from your sin and walk in newness of life? Do you love the Lord Jesus, His Word, and seek to obey Him in every area of your life?

“Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands” (Proverbs 14:1)

With wisdom we build up our homes. Where do we find wisdom? We find it in God’s Word. We must be in His Word daily, then we must apply it to our lives. We must continually renew our minds with truth and take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. We must seek counsel and learn from godly, older women who have walked the path before us. If we don’t do this and instead are led by our emotions and feelings, we will be foolish women who tear down our own homes.

“Whoso finds a wife finds a good thing, and favour of the Lord” (Proverbs 18:22)

Yes, marriage is ordained by God. It was not good for man to be alone so God created a help meet for him. Unfortunately, many women don’t understand their created purpose but for those who do, their husbands are blessed men indeed!

“A prudent wife is from the Lord” (Proverbs 19:14)

Prudent means cautious and practically wise. She has common sense, lives within her husband’s income, obeys biblical principles, and loves her husband deeply. She is a pleasure to live with.

“A gracious woman retains honor” (Proverbs 11:6)

Gracious means she is kind, friendly, and forgives easily (merciful). She is not easily offended, doesn’t hold onto grudges, and lives her life for eternity. She loves people more than things, is not envious of others and what they have, and has learned to be moderate in all things (1 Corinthians 9:25).

My question for you: Are you building your home up with wisdom and sound judgment or are you tearing it down with your emotions and feelings? Which Proverbs woman are you?

Dead While She Lives

Dead While She Lives

Are you dead while you live? We live in a culture that worships pleasure. We don’t like quiet lives but feel the need to be entertained at every moment with television, music, and/or the Internet thinking only about ourselves instead of serving others. We have become seekers of pleasure rather than seekers of God. Most of those who call themselves Christians spend little to no time in the Word of God and learning from Him. No, they would rather learn and be entertained by the ways of the world.

The Apostle Paul, in giving instructions to widows, wrote about two different types of widows. One type were those who seek God and “continue in supplications and prayers night and day” (1 Timothy 5:5). They love the Lord and seek to please Him in all that they do. In contrast, the other types of widows don’t trust and rely on the Lord “but [they] that live in pleasure are dead while [they] live” (1 Timothy 5:6).

We are told that in the end times, which we are presently living in, many will be “lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God” (2 Timothy 3:4). Even many Christians care more about seeking pleasure than seeking the Lord. If this is the case for you, then you are dead while you live. What does this mean?

“It properly means to live in luxury, voluptuously; to indulge freely in eating and drinking; to yield to the indulgence of the appetites. It does not indicate grossly criminal pleasures; but the kind of pleasure connected with luxurious living, and with pampering the appetites” (Barnes’ Notes).

Do you pamper and indulge your appetites? We are to be known for being temperate in everything. “And every man that striveth for the mastery is temperate in all things” (1 Corinthians 9:25). Temperate means that we are moderate and not given to excess. We practice self-denial and self-control. We say “no” to the flesh and constantly seeking pleasure and “yes” to righteousness and serving others. We hide His Word in our hearts and allow Him to transform us as we renew our minds with truth so that we can live lives that are pleasing unto the Lord and bring Him glory.

“But she that liveth in pleasure,…. Voluptuously, and deliciously; lives a wanton, loose, and licentious life, serving divers lusts and pleasures:, is dead while she liveth; is dead in trespasses and sins, while she lives in them; is dead morally or spiritually, while she lives a natural or corporeal life” (Gill’s Exposition).

Women who are dead while they live don’t search scriptures to see how they are to live: how they are to dress, act, and speak. No, they go along with what culture is doing. They dress immodestly. They act according to their emotions and feelings and do as they please. They speak negatively about others and have no problems using swear words.

As godly women, we are called to live lives that are pleasing to the Lord, not pleasing to ourselves. Many falsely believe that if they continually seek to be entertained that they will be happy but no, when we seek to serve others and deny ourselves is when we find true happiness. “Happy is that people, that is in such a case: yea, happy is that people, whose God is the Lord.” (Psalm 144:15). Joy comes from obeying and serving the Lord, not from serving ourselves and our pleasures.

“The widow-woman who could so forget her sorrow and her duty is spoken of as a living corpse, and sharply contrasted with her far happier sister, who, dead to the pleasures of the flesh, living a life of prayer and of self-denial, in the true sense of the word, may be spoken of as living” (Ellicott’s Commentary).

It is in living a life of prayer and self-denial that fills our lives with joy. May we all be like “happier” widows who live their lives for the Lord and in serving others since only in living for the Lord are we able to find lasting joy and satisfaction. We don’t find our strength in being busy and seeking pleasure. No, we find our strength in quietness and in trust. This is the truly abundant life!

No Ability to Be Good?

No Ability to Be Good?

In Titus 2:5, older women are commanded to teach young women to be “good.” Do young women have the ability to be good?

In Romans 7, the Apostle Paul admits that he has no ability to be good:

“For that which I do I allow not: for what I would, that do I not; but what I hate, that do I. If then I do that which I would not, I consent unto the law that it is good. Now then it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwells in me. For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh,) dwells no good thing: for to will is present with me; but how to perform that which is good I find not.”

He tells us that in him “dwells no good thing” so it must have been impossible for him to be good. Then why would God command older women to teach young women to be good? I believe Paul was writing about the time when he lived under the Law and was not filled with the Spirit. He knew what being good looked like because of the Law but he had no ability to keep the Law.

Does this describe Christians today, as many believe? Do we have no ability to be good? If you believe this, then you must believe that the same Spirit that raised Jesus from the dead has no power living within you. You must believe that the Christian has no ability to overcome sin in their lives. You must believe that the multiple times in Romans 6 that Paul told us that we are dead and freed from sin isn’t true. You must believe that greater is the sin in you than the Spirit that indwells within you.

Read Romans 7 in context. It is sandwiched between Romans 6 and 8 in which Paul explains to us who we are in Christ and all that happened at the cross and resurrection. Paul ends Romans 7 with these words:

“O wretched man that I am! who shall deliver me from the body of this death? I thank God through Jesus Christ our Lord. So then with the mind I myself serve the law of God; but with the flesh the law of sin.”

What does he mean that he serves the law of sin with his flesh? He just told us that Christ delivered him from the body of death. In Romans 8, he wrote these words:

“For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death. For what the law could not do, in that it was weak through the flesh, God sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh, and for sin, condemned sin in the flesh: That the righteousness of the law might be fulfilled in us, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.”

THE SPIRIT OF THE LIFE IN CHRIST JESUS HATH MADE ME FREE FROM THE LAW OF SIN AND DEATH. He tells us the Law couldn’t free us from sin and death but Christ, who came in the flesh, condemned sin in the flesh so that we are now righteous and able to WALK NOT AFTER THE FLESH BUT AFTER THE SPIRIT.

YES, you can be good because Jesus Christ dwells within you! Yes, you can say NO to the flesh and YES to righteousness. Yes, you can have victory over sin and walk in the Spirit. Can you be perfect? No! You will still stumble but sin should no longer define your life. Self-control is a fruit of the Spirit that lives within you so you can overcome sin. Listen to this sermon over and over again until you believe it!

God would not have commanded older women to teach young women to be “good” if young women had no ability to be good. We are filled with His Spirit. He has made us new creatures in Christ. We are the righteousness of God. NOW “Go and sin no more!”

Christian Women are Floundering

Christian Women are Floundering

This post was written by Trey from a comment on this post. Yes, there were women who were terribly angry and offended with Trey for writing this and wrote that it wasn’t biblical. I added scripture to everything he wrote to prove that what he wrote was scriptural. One woman asked him if his wife treated him this way. You can go to the post and see how he responded.

If anything Trey wrote upsets or offends you, research your Bible to see if what he said is true or not. As Christian women, nothing that is in the Word should offend us, even the hard truths because remember, God’s ways are not our ways; For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts (Isaiah 55:9).

“Christian women are floundering today. They have no idea what they are supposed to do with their lives.”

This is it in a nut shell. Women don’t understand the truth (what the Bible says) about why they were created and what their purpose is on this earth.

Women! Don’t be deceived by the lies of feminism! Women and men are not the same! They are not equal! Although equal in worth and value in the eyes of God and equal in the inheritance of the kingdom, they are not equally created and are not equal in their roles here on this earth. Women were created and equipped to serve a completely different role on the earth than man. The Bible lays out and defines the role of the woman very clearly for anyone who is willing to read. Pray right now and ask God to open your eyes to His truth!

Women were created as a companion and a helper FOR the man. Yes, she was actually created FOR the man. (Genesis 2:18; 1 Corinthians 11:9)

She was created to bring glory to the man. (1 Corinthians 11:7)

She is to get married, have children, and keep house. (1 Timothy 5:14)

A woman’s husband is her head. He is her highest authority on this earth, second only to Christ in his authority over her. (1 Corinthians 11:3)

She is to submit to, serve and obey her husband in everything, as long as he does not ask her to sin. She is to do this even if her husband is mean, unreasonable and cruel and it causes her unjust suffering. (Ephesians 5:22-24; 1 Peter 2:19-23; 1 Peter 3:1; 1 Peter 3:5, 6; Titus 2:5; Colossians 3:18) “For what glory is it, if, when  ye be buffeted for your faults, ye shall take it patiently? but if, when ye do well, and suffer for it, ye take it patiently, this is acceptable to God. For even hereunto were ye called: because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that ye should follow his steps…Who, when he was reviled, reviled not again; when he suffered, he threatened not; but committed himself to him that judgeth righteously” (1 Peter 2:20, 21, 23) If you’re marriage is in crisis, please read this post.

She is to submit to her husband just as she would submit to Jesus Himself if He were living in the house with her. (Ephesians 5:22)

She is not to teach or have authority over any man in the church. (1 Timothy 2:12)

She is to remain silent in the corporate gatherings of the church while the teaching is occurring. Literally during this time, she is not to speak but if she desires to learn anything, she is to ask her husband at home. (1 Timothy 2:11; 1 Corinthians 14:34, 35)

In and through all of this she is to reverence her husband, showing him the highest form of respect, mingled with fear. (1 Peter 3:5, 6;  Ephesians 5:33)

She is to understand that all of the service, submission, obedience, and reverence that she does for and to the glory of her husband, she is actually doing for and to the glory of the Lord. (Ephesians 5:22)

Ladies, if you are married you cannot say that you are serving the Lord unless you are obeying what He has commanded you regarding how you treat your husband.

How deep does this really go? In 1 Peter 3:6, it tells us that “Sarah obeyed Abraham and called him lord.” That word we translate into English as “lord” is the Greek word “kurios.” Kurios literally means an owner and master; a person who exercises absolute ownership rights. Sarah considered her husband to be her owner and her master and she is held up to you as an example to follow. Do you consider your husband to be your owner and your master? Does the way you treat him reflect this?

This is what woman was created for and what she is supposed to do with her life. This is where her life will find value, meaning, purpose, blessing and reward.

Just as Eve was deceived and led to the fall of mankind into sin, women today are being deceived and are leading to the fall the family, the church, and to all of Western Civilization.

Just as a wise woman can build her house up but the foolish woman can tear it down with her own hands, the same holds true for a civilization and we are seeing that unfold before our very eyes. The world is going to go the way it goes but as Christians, we are told to be in the world but NOT OF IT. As Christians our lives and marriages are supposed to look different. Does your life look different? Does your marriage look different? Are you really a Christian?

Are you living out the purpose for which you were created… serving, submitting to, obeying, and bringing glory to your husband, or are you tearing your house, your church, and all of civilization down with your own hands? Pray that God will open your eyes to His truth for when you know the truth, the truth will set you free.

Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.
1 Corinthians 11:9

Do You Have a Cheerful Home?

Do You Have a Cheerful Home?

The other night, my husband and I went for a walk on the beach and ate at a new “health” food restaurant. After I sat down, I noticed one woman in particular. She smiled warmly at me then I watched her on and off while we were eating. When her husband came to her table, she smiled warmly at him and often throughout the time they were there. She put her arm around him and kissed him a few times. She laughed with him. She had a merry heart and it was a pleasure to see.

I watched “Counting On” the other day. The Duggar children and their spouses are joyful. They laugh easily and aren’t bugged by others. The women seem to have meek and quiet spirits and respect their husbands. The husbands seem to deeply love their wives. It’s so opposite of most reality shows where most of the people are unhappy and bickering all of the time.

“Those who serve God with a sad countenance, because they do what is unpleasant to them, are not serving Him at all; they bring the form of homage, but the life is absent…Service coupled with cheerfulness is heart-service, and therefore true…Cheerfulness is the support of our strength; in the joy of the Lord are we strong” (Charles Spurgeon).

We are commanded to serve the Lord with gladness (Psalm 100:2). We are to do our work “heartily” as unto the Lord. Heartily means with zeal; actively, vigorously, eagerly; freely.

Do you serve your family with gladness? Would your children consider you a cheerful mother? Did you know that the joy of the Lord is your strength? If you are continually downcast and somber, you will lose your strength and not be a joy for anyone to be around. You will not attract others to your Savior. Christians should be the happiest people around because of what Christ has done for us and all of the promises He has given to us.

Joy attracts people. People enjoy being around cheerful people even if those cheerful people are doing mundane tasks like cleaning dishes or changing a diaper. When you are doing all of these things, including submitting to your husband and even obeying him with a cheerful attitude, you are doing them unto the Lord. You have the power to build your home up with your cheerfulness or tear it down with your moodiness. It’s your choice.

And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men.
Colossians 3:23

Are You Walking Forward or Backwards?

Are You Walking Forward or Backwards?

All throughout the Old Testament, God’s people were blessed when they lived in obedience to Him and were punished when they lived in disobedience to Him. Yes, He wants our obedience because He knows that His ways are best for us just as we know that we want our children to obey us because we know that our ways are best for them. Why would it be any different with our Heavenly Father?

I am reading through Jeremiah. All throughout it, God is trying to woo His people to return to Him and obey Him. You can see this common thread all throughout the Word of God. God wants His children back! He loves us and this is why He sent His Son to die for us. He wants a family. And they shall be my people and I will be their God (Jeremiah 32:38). He wants children who freely choose to love and obey Him. He fills us with His Holy Spirit and gives us the grace needed to obey.

When we obey Him, we are blessed; for we are promised that we will reap what we sow. “Thus saith the LORD, Stand ye in the ways, and see, and ask for the old paths, where is the good way, and walk therein, and ye shall find rest for your souls. But they said, We will not walk therein” (Jeremiah 6:16). What can be more valuable than rest for our souls? Everyone is seeking to fill that emptiness in their souls. God fills that emptiness with rest. There’s nothing better than this!

“But this thing commanded I them saying, Obey my voice, and I will be your God, and ye shall be my people: and walk ye in all the ways that I have commanded you, that it may be well unto  you” (Jeremiah 7:23). Do you want it to be well with you – well with your soul? Then obey God and walk in all of His ways!

Be a submissive wife to your husband. Obey him in everything. Dress modestly and don’t try to draw attention to yourself. Be content with the way that you are; for godliness with contentment is great gain! Be silent in church and listen with submissiveness. Learn to have a meek and quiet spirit. Be a keeper at home and take good care of your home, children, and husband with joy. Be discreet in all areas of your life. Learn to be feminine instead of a feminist. You will reap beautiful fruit if you obey God in these areas!

Many will choose to not walk in the old paths but will choose instead to walk in the “new, improved, and culturally relevant” path instead. “But they hearkened not, nor inclined their ear, but walked in the counsels and in the imagination of their evil heart, and went backward, and not forward” (Jeremiah 7:24). You see, the “new, improved, and culturally relevant” path is really going backwards and receives no blessings at all. There is no rest for their souls and it is not well with them.

“They have rejected the word of the Lord; and what wisdom is in them?” (Jeremiah 8:9). They have no wisdom because wisdom only comes from God. “For my people is foolish, they have not known me; they are sottish (foolish) children, and they have none understanding: they are wise to do evil, but to do good they have no knowledge” (Jeremiah 4:22).

“Your iniquities have turned away these things, and your sins have withholden good things from you” (Jeremiah 5:25). Do you want good things to be withheld from you? No! There are blessings that come from obeying God just as you want to bless your children when they obey you. No, it’s not always easy living in submission to your husband. No, it’s not always easy finding modest clothing and not dressing as culture dresses. No, it’s not easy being with your children 24/7 and raising them up in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord but there is great reward. You are storing your treasures in heaven when you walk in obedience to the Lord on the old paths He created for us. Keep eternity in your mind and you will never lose your joy while obeying the Lord!

Amend your ways and your doings, and I will cause you to dwell in this place.
Jeremiah 7:3

Desires and Passions Well Regulated

Desires and Passions Well Regulated

Young women’s desires and passions are not well regulated these days. Whatever they “feel” like doing, they do and they are  easily led by their emotions. I had one woman comment on Trey’s homemaking post and she wrote this, “I hate the man who wrote this. I do as I please.” I wrote back, “You act like a child. Were you not taught to not hate others you disagreed with? Were you not taught that the world doesn’t revolve around you and you can’t always do as you please?” She deleted her comment but this was her gut reaction to reading someone’s words she disagreed with.

Many places in the New Covenant, we are told to be sober which is the opposite of being ruled by our desires and passions as was this woman. It doesn’t just mean to be sober-minded (which I will come back to) but also to not be filled with alcohol. Older women are told to not be “given to much wine” and teach younger women to be “sober.”

Whether or not Christians should drink alcohol has been debated for hundreds of years so I am just going to give my opinion as I see from reading the Bible. Jesus was not against drinking wine since His first miracle was to change water into wine. Wine was also used to symbolize Christ’s blood during the Passover supper. However, we do have some guidelines in how we are to drink it.

Paul writes that we can drink A LITTLE for our stomach’s sake. Drink no longer water, but use a little wine for thy stomach’s sake and thine often infirmities (1 Timothy 5:23). Older women are told to NOT DRINK MUCH wine. The aged women likewise, that [they be] in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things (Titus 2:3).

In describing elders in the church, the Bible states they are NOT to be given to wine (I Timothy 3:3) while deacons are not to be given to much wine (1 Timothy 3:8). Older men are commanded to be sober (Titus 2:2). In 1 Timothy 3:11, Paul commands wives to be sober. God intends for His people who are called by His name to be sober in everything!

From Barnes’ Notes commentary, we learn that “sober” means “instruct them to have their desires and passions well regulated, or under proper control.” This includes all desires and passions. We should be known as women having self-control in word, deed, and actions, and doing what is according to godliness, not responding from our desires and passion.

The following question was asked to the women in the chat room and not one of them said they were offended by it since they are women who have soft, teachable hearts to the ways of the Lord and are sober-minded: “When I hear godly preachers/teacher exhort us to work hard, keep our home as neat as a pin, declutter, live simply within our means, be content, be thankful, obey our husband, don’t overeat, only drink a little or no alcohol, discipline our body towards godliness, spend time with our children, etc. it has always challenged and convicted me and I love it! So many women are offended by many of these things, however. Are you?”

Matthew Poole in his commentary wrote this about being sober: “Young women, especially conversing amongst heathens, are prone to be light and airy, and over frolicsome, following the heat of their youthful temper, and forming their converse after the manner of others; which is a behaviour, though it may suit their youth, yet if they be Christians it will not suit their profession, which calls to them for more gravity: speak to them that are aged to mind to be sober.”

Wow! We sure see this today, don’t we? Many women follow the heat of their youthful temper and have never learned to keep their passions and desires under control. The culture defines their behavior instead of godliness and the ways of the Lord. They have not left their childish ways behind. “When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things” (1 Corinthians 13:11).

 Mothers, do you know how much easier you make it for your children when you are careful and consistent in the discipline of your children? If you discipline and train them as children, they will most likely grow up to be disciplined adults who have control over their desires and passions and are sober in everything. This not only benefits their future family but culture, too.

That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children.
Titus 2:4

A Foolish, Clamorous Woman

A Foolish, Clamorous Woman

There are many foolish women today. A foolish woman is clamorous: she is simple, and knoweth nothing (Proverbs 9:13). Foolish means “void of understanding or sound judgment; weak in intellect; unwise; silly; vain; acting without regard to the divine law and glory.” Universities don’t make women wise. They make them foolish; for the wisdom of this world is foolishness with God (1 Corinthians 3:19). What they learn in these places of “higher learning” is that there is no difference between men and women and they are steeped in the feminist agenda which is anti-God and anti-family. They teach them nothing that is good, honorable, pure, holy, or worthy.

I agree completely with what Matt Walsh wrote about college campuses.

God commands that parents raise their children in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord. Too many parents are careful about doing this while their children are young and then spend a ton of money on secular colleges and universities for their children to attend. Many children who go into these institutions with their faith intact come out without faith in God because “bad company corrupts good morals” as the Bible clearly states. Universities do everything they can to turn young women into foolish, clamorous, and simple women.

Clamorous means “speaking and repeating loud words; noisy; vociferous; loud; turbulent.” Most of Proverbs describes foolishness (feminism) compared to wisdom (feminine). Many of the early chapters of Proverbs are about harlots or “strange women” as they are called and then the ending chapter is the well-known Proverbs 31 woman who embodies wisdom. Who are the harlots of today?

“The picture of the harlot as the representative of the sensual life, the Folly between which and Wisdom the young man has to make his choice. ‘Simple,’ in the worst sense, as open to all forms of evil. ‘Knoweth nothing,’ ignorant with the ignorance which is willful and reckless.” (Barnes’ Notes on the Bible).

We are to be wise in what is good and innocent to that which is evil. It seems the majority of women today are knowledgeable to all forms of evil and practice them: fornication, adultery, immodesty, indiscretion, drunkenness, and lewdness. They despise what is good and love what is evil. They are willful and reckless, refusing to see the long-term consequences of their sin and instead indulging their flesh in any way they please. They entice married men, break up families, and easily abort their babies. They are foolish through and through and are reaping the rotten fruit that they are sowing.

“She speaks loudly and over people. She demands her rights, gets easily angered, and demands to be heard. She does this in hopes that others will hear her and be ‘moved by her persuasions.'” (Matthew Poole’s Commentary) This reminds me of the Women’s March that many women attended last year and will again this year. They are demanding “their rights” as if they have none and the rights they are demanding are completely opposite of what God asks of them, namely to love and obey their husbands (until death do they part), love their children (by bearing and raising them), be discreet, sober, good, chaste, and keepers at home. No, most of those women marching hate God’s will for their lives.

God calls us to be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath (James 1:19) with meek and quiet spirits. If you call yourself a woman of God, learn the ways of godly womanhood and what the Lord requires of you. Stop being foolish, clamorous, and simple and know the Word. God is very clear what His role for women is and it’s very good.

“You can make your greatest contribution to your family as the heart of your home. From you, your children should learn to love others and to give of themselves unstintingly in the spirit of sacrifice. Never underestimate the importance of your role. For upon you depends the emotional growth of your children, and such growth will better prepare them to live happy and holy lives than any amount of intellectual training they may receive.” (George A. Kelly)