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Preaching a Sermon Without Words

Preaching a Sermon Without Words

“There are so few older, wiser women online and even fewer to be found where I live. I grew up in a very 50s like small town in Alabama where everyone knew everyone. The wives and mothers stayed home while their husbands worked. My own mother worked outside of the home so my sister and I were mostly raised by my grandmother. I watched that dear lady all throughout my childhood. She would wake up ‘in the dark’, as we would say, fix breakfast for me, my sister, my two cousins and my grandfather every morning. She would take us to school, pick us up from school, take care of us all afternoon, and then cooked supper for my whole family: my parents, my aunt, my two cousins (and whoever they would bring home), my grandfather, my sister, and me.

She cooked and cleaned all morning and crocheted in the afternoons. I would sit next to her in her chair as she crocheted blankets for all of us. I learned more about Christianity from her than any sermon I’ve heard and the thing is, she never said a word about it. She didn’t even speak that often, she just did. Her life was a giving life. She gave herself to us every day. I am so blessed to have had her set the example for me to follow. And I do follow. I am a stay at home wife and mother. I homeschool my children. I cook and clean and do laundry. It is wonderful.”

This is a comment by a young woman named Emily who wrote me. Other women have asked her to begin a blog and teach women what she knows since she is a wise young woman but she is only thirty seven and doesn’t believe younger women should be mentoring other women since the Lord has given this ministry to older women who have raised children and been married a long time, plus they have the time to do it. Unfortunately, there aren’t many godly, older women who are willing to take on this role. Thankfully, Emily’s grandmother took her mother’s place and trained her in godly womanhood by the way she lived her life but few are blessed with a role model in their lives like this and this is the reason for Titus 2:4, 5.

If you had a mother or grandmother in your life who was an example to you of godly womanhood, you are blessed! It’s not common in today’s feminist culture but I doubt it has ever been common since Eve decided to go over her head (Adam) and choose her own way believing that her way is better than God’s ways.

 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:4, 5

How are Women the “Weaker Vessel”?

How are Women the “Weaker Vessel”?

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
1 Peter 3:7

“I heard a sermon by this pastor in which he discusses the original Greek text found in 1 Peter 3:7. He explains that the concept of female ‘weakness’ that Peter talks of is not some innate, biological lack of strength. Rather, it is a role of gentle submission that Christian women choose to adopt because they recognize that there cannot be two alpha leaders in a successful partnership. The ability to embrace this kind of ‘weakness’ demonstrates great strength of mind and spirit and speaks volumes about Christian women’s insight and character,” wrote a woman on Matt Walsh’s post about marriage.

 This sounds like a beautiful description of what a weaker vessel means but is it true? Do most Christian women “choose to adopt” the role of gentle submission? Do they readily recognize that there can’t be two alpha leaders in a marriage? (Is marriage ever referred to as a “successful partnership” in the Word?) Yes, choosing to live in submission demonstrates great strength of mind and spirit but does this have anything to do with women being a weaker vessel and not to “some innate, biological lack of strength” as this woman claims? I believe women being the “weaker vessel” is exactly what it states. Women are absolutely weaker physically than men.

Let’s check out what the commentaries of old have to say. Did they believe the “weaker vessel” means that women desire to have a gentle, submissive spirit naturally or does it mean something else?

 “The thing which the husband is specially to understand and take into account is that he is dealing with a thing less strong than himself. The whole of chivalry is in these words, and St. Peter (next after Christ) may be considered the founder of it…The weakness here ascribed to the female sex is primarily that of the body, as we shall see when we consider the word ‘vessel,’ though it may, perhaps, indicate frailty in other respects as well. If the word ‘vessel’ is to be here a description of a ‘wife,’ as some contend on 1 Thessalonians 4:4, in a sense in which it does not equally describe a husband, it is difficult to see with what the vessel is compared and pronounced weaker. ‘Dwell with the female as with a more delicate vessel or instrument’ than what? If we answer ‘than yourselves,’ it becomes clear that the husbands are, by implication, less delicate vessels.” (Ellicot’s Commentary)

Yes, men are absolutely less delicate vessels than women. Men are taller and bigger than women in general. This is why there are separate male and female sports. This is why men are the ones who build everything like skyscrapers, freeways, bridges, and houses and are the electricians, plumbers, and mechanics. For people to not admit this is being ignorant of what is plainly obvious.

“Here ‘the weaker’; being so for the most part, both as to strength of body, and endowments of mind; and therefore to be used gently and tenderly, and not be treated with neglect and contempt, or with inhumanity and severity; but as, in every state and condition, the strong are to bear the infirmities of the weak; so a man should bear with, and accommodate himself to the infirmities of his wife, and hide them as much as he can, and not expose them, nor despise her on account of them.” (Gill’s Exposition)

Here again, we have a commentary explaining that the “weaker vessel” does indeed refer to her “innate, biological lack of strength.” In past generations, I am sure everyone knew that this meant that women were weaker physically than men. It’s easily seen all over the place, yet in today’s feminized culture, they have changed it to mean something that it is not. NO, most Christian women do not adopt the role of the gentle submission to their husbands willingly. This is foreign and repulsive to them since most desire to control their husbands!

“By this it is not necessarily meant that she is of feebler capacity, or inferior mental endowments, but that she is more tender and delicate; more subject to infirmities and weaknesses; less capable of enduring fatigue and toil; less adapted to the rough and stormy scenes of life. As such, she should be regarded and treated with special kindness and attention. This is a reason, the force of which all can see and appreciate. So we feel toward a sister; so we feel toward a beloved child, if he is of feeble frame and delicate constitution; and so every man should feel in relation to his wife. She may have mental endowments equal to his own; she may have moral qualities in every way superior to his; but the God of nature has made her with a more delicate frame, a more fragile structure, and with a body subject to many infirmities to which the more hardy frame of man is a stranger.” (Barnes’ Notes on the Bible)

In the Bible, only those men who were 21 years and older were sent off to war. Men are the ones who were created by God to be the protectors of society, not women. Women in general tire much more easily than men and they are simply not as tough physically as men due to muscle mass and women are not as tough emotionally. Here is a secular article that lists all of the ways men differ from women. Some of them are:

Men and women don’t see in the same way (their retinas are different),

Female babies like faces, male babies like moving objects (there’s a difference in babies!),

Females can verbally express their emotions better than males (duh),

Boys naturally use movement to think (this is why sitting in chairs all day long in school is HORRIBLE for boys),

Boys are more likely to take risks (this is why they were specifically created to be the protectors of societies),

Females are easier to startle (yep!),

Males are more likely to die from an accident than females (yes, because they are the risk takers),

Males are more likely to exhibit aggression physically while females are more likely to exhibit aggression verbally (completely correct!),

Men are easier to sexually arouse than women (really?),

Men are more motivated by sex than women (this is why women withhold sex against men in punishment), and

Men pursue, women are pursued (just the way it’s supposed to be).

Even in the animal kingdom, males are bigger and stronger than the females. God made men with ten times the testosterone for a reason and He made women with progesterone and estrogen to have and nurture children. We are different. No, we’re not equal (in value and worth, yes, but not in anything else) and it’s perfect since God’s ways are perfect. Let the men fight the wars, fires, and bad guys. I liked it a lot more when it was only men in these roles because it is their God-ordained roles, not women’s.

So all the numbered men of the sons of Israel by their fathers’ households, from twenty years old and upward, whoever was able to go out to war in Israel.
Numbers 1:45

What is a Feminine Woman?

What is a Feminine Woman?

Written By Henry Makow Ph.D.

A feminine woman is motivated by love of husband and children. She is the heart of the family, devoted to her husband and children’s well being. This is her career. A woman who is preoccupied with another demanding career cannot pay attention to her family. Love is mainly paying attention. There is a New Yorker cartoon where a child is wearing a welder’s mask and using a blowtorch to write, “I need love” on the living room wall. His mother says to her friend: “He’s just doing that to get attention.”

Career is a feminist lie. Since when are careers the source of human fulfillment? What is so great about being an Assistant Loan Manager at a bank? Is society expected to provide legions of eager feminists with “fulfilling” careers to compensate for their loveless lives?

Feminists are teaching women to be “strong and independent.” This is not feminine. Men respond to a woman’s need. We want to rescue the damsel in distress and to win her favors. This archetype is also innate in women. She wants to be enlisted by a man.

A feminine woman DEPENDS on a man. This doesn’t mean she is an emotional waif. She is competent but she doesn’t pretend to be independent. Men and women need each other to be whole. As long as I have my wife, I am self-sufficient. So is she.

Just as the woman is the heart of the family, the man is the head and shoulders. A feminine woman is her husband’s partner (I would change it to “help meet”). They make decisions together but he has the last word (I would add that the wife lives in submission to her husband’s leadership). Men must be the visionaries, captains and navigators. A woman’s most important decision is the man she chooses to love and marry.

A feminine woman is modest. She wants a man to pay attention to “her” so she doesn’t flaunt her sexuality. A woman wants to be loved more than anything in the world. She wants to be “known” in all her divinity. This happens when she is truly loved. Is it a coincidence the Bible uses the word “know” as in Abraham “knew” Sarah, to speak of sexual intercourse? All women are beautiful when they are loved. Women’s liberation has taught women to pursue sex for its own sake, as though they were men. This is not feminine. If a man prefers a new car, why would he marry a “used” woman? He doesn’t want a car that’s been driven by a lot of men. He doesn’t know where it’s been, what damage has been done. He will choose a brand new car. In my wife’s words: “A man wants to be a woman’s first lover; a woman wants to be his last.”

If men chose wives with the same attention as cars, more marriages would succeed. Women are the vehicles to the future, in terms of emotional fulfillment and family. If men knew where they wanted to go, they would choose women who would get them there. They would not be blinded by sex.

A feminine woman tries to please the man she loves. No, this has not been outlawed, it just seems that way. A feminine woman generates love by giving love. She empowers her man by believing in him. Love is expressed in actions and effort. Baking a pie is an act of love. So is making the home beautiful. Are we so blind, impoverished and demoralized that we cannot appreciate this? Why have we allowed feminists to stigmatize homemaking? Women would be more than happy to be homemakers if it received the recognition and appreciation that it deserves.

A feminine woman has grace, beauty and wisdom. These all come from staying in touch with her spirit and not pursuing an exhausting career that requires masculine qualities.

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
Proverbs 31:10-12

*picture by Daniel Gerhartz

**I don’t know anything about this author, if he is a Christian or not, and I did add and delete a few things that I disagreed with but overall, I believe he wrote a lot of truth that we can learn from!

Do God’s Roles for Women Offend You?

Do God’s Roles for Women Offend You?

Why are so many women offended by the Lord’s will for them? Why are they offended with the concept of submission and the husband being the head over the wife? Why are they offended because women must be silent in the church and not teach nor be in authority over men? Why are they offended that God calls younger women to be keepers at home and doesn’t call them to careers and fulfilling their dream? Why is there so much hatred directed towards those who teach these truths to women?

These women must see that most marriages are not good today. Seventy five percent of divorces are initiated by women. They must see this as a bad thing. They see the children of divorce suffering from not living under the same roof with their mother and father but being shuffled from house to house. They see wives who are manipulative and controlling towards their husbands and must think it looks ugly. They see women who are exhausted from trying to hold down a career along with a family and keeping a home. They have to see the ugly fruit from doing things opposed to God’s plan for women, yet they don’t seem to be able to connect the dots.

I asked the women in the chat room if they have ever been offended by any of God’s instructions to women because I know I never have. He created us and knows what’s best for us. No, I didn’t always live them out perfectly, but I know they are perfect. Most of the women in the chat room have never been offended by them either. They also love the Lord and His ways. Some of them didn’t know or understand godly womanhood but since they’ve come to understand and apply it to their lives, they see a huge difference in their marriage and in their lives!

Terri answered, “No, not offended at all. It made (makes) me feel protected and some sort of relief that all the pressure of leadership is put on the man, not woman.”

Nakkitta wrote, “Nope! It’s completely aligned with how I wanted to be anyway! It’s a hard transition, because I was raised with women who were ALWAYS in charge and the men who were submissive, quiet, and didn’t get in the way.”

Morgan replied, “No, it was life and freedom from what I had thought and seen life as a woman was supposed to be. I’m so grateful. People often think this way (God’s way) of life is bondage and I’ve had ladies ‘reach out to me’ to try to ‘help me’ see cultural truths that they assume, as I once did, to be biblical.”

Kareena wrote, “I felt relief. Being surrounded by feminist, I always felt something didn’t sit right. When I discovered the Word and my true role I felt at ease, protected, and grateful. I am now happier and my marriage is better. At the start, I did get questioned with ‘You’re a strong confident women; how can you put up with that?’ I am stronger, more confident and more at ease in my role now.”

Judy answered, “Not really. I am very thankful to have the honor and privilege to carry, birth, nurse, nurture full-time, and be the one that our children are the most attached to. I figure that my husband should get a few benefits as well, even though they don’t compare to mine!”

Deb responded, “Oh yeah! lol but it didn’t take long for God to touch my heart and show me His way is the only way! I was raised by a feminist and my dad raised me more like a boy than a girl….. It was hard to grasp at first. I had to ‘learn’ how to be more feminine, as sad as it sounds it was embarrassing at first to act or feel like a lady. I make sure to raise my daughters to be very feminine and embrace being a female!”

How about you? If you are a believer in Jesus Christ, do His ways offend you? If so, you need to examine yourself to make sure you are in the faith.

And blessed is he, whosoever shall not be offended in me.
Matthew 11:6

*picture by Daniel Gerhartz

Younger Women Need More Than Sermons

Younger Women Need More Than Sermons

Younger women are listening to a lot of sermons by women preachers/teachers these days. Unfortunately, most of these women preachers/teachers aren’t teaching younger women what they need to learn. God is clear in His Word what older women are to teach younger women. They desperately need to be learning to submit to their husbands, how to properly discipline their children, to be sober, discreet, modest, chaste, good, and keepers at home since many younger women who claim to be Christians don’t look or act any differently than worldly women.

What does “teach” mean in this verse Titus 2:2, “that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,…”? How involved in the younger women’s lives should the older women be?

Elliott’s Commentary stated that the word teach called not only for more practical and homely, but also for more individual exhortations. So here this special work was left for the elder women among the faithful to carry out. Such a reformation, not only in the discipline of the Church, but also in the individual life and conversation, as St. Paul desired to see in Crete, would never be brought about by a sermon, or even by many sermons, however eloquent and earnest, from Titus. It would be a matter requiring long time and patience, and would, as observed above, rather follow as the result of patient individual effort and holy example.”

Do you notice the word exhortations? Exhort means to “to advise, to warn, and to caution.” Most young women don’t want to be advised about anything unless they ask but this isn’t biblical. As godly young women, they should want to learn and be exhorted by the older women who have wisdom and experience.

The Apostle Paul didn’t believe that sermons about this topic would be enough for the young women just as sermons to children about being godly children aren’t enough. It would make it a lot easier for us older women if the younger women were hearing a few sermons from the pulpits (male preachers) about their role in life, however! As children need to be trained consistently in the ways of godliness, so do younger women by older women. They need to see older women in action loving and serving their husbands and children, and working hard at home since most are not given any example of this as they are growing up with so many being raised by strangers as their mothers go off to work each day.

I write a post almost every day. My aim is to exhort younger women daily in the ways of godly womanhood. I do what I can to answer emails and private messages to me about individual circumstances and give individual instruction. I encourage women to keep their homes clean and tidy, fix nourishing meals for their families, discipline and train their children, and be submissive and godly help meets to their husbands but it’s far better if the older women of all  the churches around the world took up the task of teaching the younger women. Nothing can compare to a real-life example. Once in a while, I am blessed to watch a godly, submissive woman with her husband and it teaches and encourages me to be likewise. I am always learning and watching because I desire to obey the Lord in everything.

Jamieson-Fausset Brown Commentary wrote this about the word ‘teach’: “It was judicious that Titus, a young man, should admonish the young women, not directly, but through the older women.” Admonish means to “to warn or notify of a fault; to counsel against wrong practices.” Do you know how difficult this is to carry out these day? Most young women don’t want to be warned about anything or counseled against wrong practices. Thankfully, I have my blog in which I do admonish women against various destructive habits and things they are learning from our culture.

I admonish them against peaceful parenting when parents don’t say “no” to their children or set any type of boundaries with them or discipline them in a biblical fashion. I admonish them about being angry and upset with their husbands. I spend a lot of time warning women about the destructiveness of feminism on their marriage and home life. I encourage women to be submissive to their husbands and keepers at home since I know that no one can take the place of a mother in a child’s life or a wife in a husband’s life.

As Annie McGuire wrote so beautifully on my Facebook page yesterday: “The Christian life is one of surrender, sacrifice, and submission; following in the footsteps of our Savior. Submission needs to be taught and modeled for women so they can see it in action. They also need to bathe it in prayer; asking for a humble heart and the grace they need to be a submissive wife regardless of their husband’s behavior. Abigail is a fantastic example of this in 1 Samuel 25! There’s blessings of peace, joy, and security in submission. We have to lay down our will and way, not as a doormat but as a partner in ministry, keeping rank, and following our husband’s lead.”

Then Candis P. wrote right underneath her comment, “Yes, yes, yes…wish I was around more like minded woman like you ladies. I need help. I need role models.”

Yes, older women need to step up to the plate and model and teach the younger women around them. Then the younger women need to be open to learning from the older women

Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be yet wiser: teach a just man, and he will increase in learning.
Proverbs 9:9

Saved in Childbearing

Saved in Childbearing

Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.
1 Timothy 2:15

Does this verse mean that only women who have children will be saved or does it mean that all women will be saved because of the Christ’s birth or does it mean something different? Let’s see how the commentaries of old interpreted this verse which follows the verses that command women to “learn in silence with all subjection…not to teach nor usurp authority over the man but to be in silence for Adam was first formed…and Adam was not deceived…”

St. Paul, now anxious lest he had wounded with his severe words and stern precepts his Ephesian sisters in Christ, closes his charge to women with a few touching words, bright with the glorious promise they contained. Though their life duties must be different from those of men—yet for them, too, as for men, there was one glorious goal; but for them—the women of Christ—the only road to the goal was the faithful, true carrying out of the quiet home duties he had just sketched out for them. In other words, women will win the great salvation; but if they would win it, they must fulfill their destiny; they must acquiesce in all the conditions of a woman’s life—in the forefront of which St. Paul places the all-important functions and duties of a mother” (Ellicot’s Commentary).

Yes, women, our “life duties must be different from those of men” contrary to popular opinion today.  The “quiet home duties” is exactly where the Lord wants our work to be done. This is the “destiny” the Lord has called us to and it’s a good one! Of course, we know that salvation only comes by believing in Jesus Christ and not in anything we do but once we believe, He does require us to walk in obedience to what He has called us to do. This is where we will be the most effective for His Kingdom!

 No, it doesn’t mean that we will ever be perfect but we no longer live lifestyles of sin and rebellion. When we are convicted of something, we do everything we can with Christ’s power working mightily within us to repent (turn from) the sin. Awake to righteousness, and sin not (1 Corinthians 15:34).

“The apostle means to show this – that in all her pain and sorrow; amidst all the evidence of apostasy, and all that reminds her that she was ‘first’ in the transgression, she may look up to God as her Friend and strength, and may hope for acceptance and salvation… The object of the apostle evidently is, to show that woman must continue in the faithful service of God if she would be saved – a doctrine everywhere insisted on in the New Testament in reference to all persons. She must not imitate the example of the mother of mankind, but she must faithfully yield obedience to the laws of God until death” (Barnes’ Notes).

The “mother of mankind” rebelled against her role as help meet and being under the authority of the Lord. We are instructed to not do the same but instead, obey what God has commanded for us to do. In Hebrews, we are warned that we must believe until the end. Take heed, brethren, lest there be in any of you an evil heart of unbelief, in departing from the living God (Hebrews 3:12). In 1 John, we are commanded to obey the Lord. And he that keepeth His commandments dwelleth in Him and He in him (1 John 3:24).

“Moreover, I think it is implied indirectly that the very curse will be turned into a condition favorable to her salvation, by her faithfully performing her part in doing and suffering what God has assigned to her, namely, child-bearing and home duties, her sphere, as distinguished from public teaching, which is not hers, but man’s (1 Timothy 2:11, 12). In this home sphere, not ordinarily in one of active duty for advancing the kingdom of God, which contradicts the position assigned to her by God, she will be saved on the same terms as all others, namely, by living faith” (Jamieson-Fausset-Brown).

The way we live our lives prove our faith. “Child-bearing and home duties” are the sphere of women’s work. As C.S. Lewis wrote, “The homemaker has the ultimate career. All other careers exist for one purpose only – and that is to support the ultimate career.” Yes, by far the majority of Christian women will marry and bear children but then women naturally ask about those who don’t marry or can’t have children.

Does this give them the green light to go to college and get a career? I don’t know. Most colleges and universities are godless institutions that teach worldly wisdom which is something we are warned to avoid in the Bible; for bad company corrupts good morals. This is going to have to be something they prayerfully consider, especially since they may get married some day. They don’t want their career and debt to interfere with their potential future marriage, bearing children, and home duties.

Now, remember, these verses and mandates are for Christian women, not secular ones. Women who don’t love the Lord can do whatever they want because they aren’t living to please the God who created them.

In the Bible, there were some women who worked from their homes. Lydia made purple material. The Proverbs 31 woman made sashes and girdles in her home. Priscilla was a tentmaker with her husband and most likely made them in their home. Rachel was a “shepherd” but I’m sure she was close to her home since she was still living with her father. There’s no mention of this being a “job” for Rachel but something she did to help the family until she got married but not ONE of them was submissive to a man that wasn’t their husband (a boss) nor did they leave their children in the care of strangers for hours every day.

I enjoy watching the Duggar show Counting On. The oldest daughter, Jana, is 27 years old and still living at home. I see her doing home and decorating projects, helping around the home and with the children, enjoying time with her siblings, going on missions trips, and all kinds of various things. I also watch Hallmark movies. All the women are career women and there is never a woman in the home with babies and caring for them. Jana’s life seems a lot closer to what the Lord would have single women doing rather than pursuing careers, in my opinion. She is waiting on the Lord’s timing to bring a man into her life. All of the older Duggar daughters stayed busy around the home before marriage, then married, and began having children, if they were blessed with them.

Some of Nancy Campbell’s and Debi Pearl’s daughters have businesses out of their homes. I know women who sell makeup, nutritional products, cleaning products, hair accessories, clothing, and other things from their homes so they can still be home with their children and husbands. If women in the Bible could do it, so can you, if you need the extra income.

Being in the home and attending to it and to children is so much more feminine and what godly women were created to do! Even married women without children can find many things to do in and around the home to keep themselves busy instead of going to a job all day and working in submission to a boss. The Duggar women were never pushed to get higher education and find careers. Home is what God created women for physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

He maketh the barren woman to keep house, and to be a joyful mother of children. Praise ye the LORD.
Psalm 113:9

*Painting by Daniel Gerhartz

Bashing Men is Fine and Dandy?

Bashing Men is Fine and Dandy?

Yesterday morning, a woman shared this picture in the chat room that was going around Facebook.

Can you imagine what the outcry from women would be if it read: “Women are Like Fine Wine; they start out as grapes and it’s up to men to stomp the c*** out of them until they turn into something acceptable to have dinner with”? Of course, no one would put up with that but neither should we put up with the way men are continually being bashed in our culture. The reason women get away with bashing men and men can’t is because most women are ruled by their emotions and feelings and most men are not. Women would be screaming bloody murder if men wrote the same things about women.

There is an article called When making a sandwich is a crime against feminism. A woman wanted suggestions for what to make her husband for lunch and the outcry was fierce against doing any such thing. They called her a “slave” and a “1950s housewife” along with many other cruel things. “Any woman who would dare make a sandwich for her husband is not fit to be a feminist,” they cry!

These reasons are why my viral posts keeps going viral. Women today HATE the thought of serving their husbands. They believe it’s their duty to set the men in their lives straight and their desire shall be to rule their husbands (Genesis 3:16) just as God said from the beginning. They hearken to the voice of the Serpent of old and eat the forbidden fruit of selfishness and control, thus losing their femininity and what God has called them to be and do.

As long as women are angry and bitter, they will not be attractive to men. Feminism makes women angry and bitter because life has become all about them and what they want. Tim Keller wrote, “Seek to serve one another rather than to be happy, and you will find a new and deeper happiness” (Tim Keller). Christ came to serve and set us from from sin and selfishness. He has told us that the greatest of all is the servant of all. Women will never be happy if they continue down the path that they are on. Marriages will continue to fall apart, divorces will be rampant, and children’s childhood will be broken and stolen.

Learn to have meek and quiet spirits, women, and live in submission to your husbands; for this is how the women of old adorned themselves (1 Peter 3:5). This is what makes us beautiful and brings joy into our lives and those around us. It is the narrow path that leads to life.

Make your husband his meals and give thanks for the food you have been blessed with. Do all of the housework and be thankful that you have a home to clean and a hard-working husband, if you have one. Don’t stomp the c*** out of your husband if he is disobedient to the Word but win him without the word by living in subjection to him with godly behavior. Never be ashamed of being a homemaker and serving your husband. Seek to be feminine, kind, gentle, and a woman who only seeks to please her Savior; for in this there is great reward.

 The fear of the Lord is clean, enduring for ever: the judgments of the Lord are true and righteous altogether. More to be desired are they than gold, yea, than much fine gold: sweeter also than honey and the honeycomb. Moreover by them is thy servant warned: and in keeping of them there is great reward.
Psalm 19:9-11

God’s Calling For Women

God’s Calling For Women

Many women today make up what they want God’s calling on their lives to be. “God has called me to be a doctor.” “God has called me to get a divorce.” “God has called me to start a women’s movement.” For some reason, many “Christian” women today find their “calling” by what they want to do instead of by seeking the answers in God’s Word.

This is another one of my posts that has gone viral recently. People usually find the most controversial one that I have written and share it a lot. It’s been seen by over a million people and most of them hate it.

I don’t know where this new movement came from that decided that women can “hear” from God and find out their calling. It’s not that difficult to find out what God calls us to do! Concerning a husband, God “calls” us to marry a believer. That’s it! Beyond that, He’s given us free will to marry a man who is a believer.

Concerning what kind of a wife He has called us to be, He has made this very clear in His Word: submissive to our own husbands and having meek and quiet spirits. Concerning children, He wants us to be fruitful and multiply since children are a blessing from Him. Concerning finances, He doesn’t want us to go into debt, He wants us to be generous and to work hard. Concerning raising our children, He wants us to raise them in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord.

He has given us His Word which imparts wisdom to us and His Holy Spirit to help guide us. Then He promises to us that we have everything we need for life and godliness (2 Peter 1:3). He calls those who look for a sign “wicked and adulterous” (Matthew 16:4). He wants His Word to dwell in us richly so that we won’t sin against Him. We will clearly know His calling upon our lives as we seek it in His Word.

If you’re going to listen to women teachers, listen to those who teach what God has instructed them to teach. He’s clear in His Word about this, too. If they never mention loving and obeying your husband, being discreet, chaste, sober, good, and keepers at home, find other women teachers who do teach what God has “called” them to teach. Learn the doctrines of the faith from godly men preachers/teachers of the Word. God has “called” men to preach/teach the Word of God and it’s all very, very good.

And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. Romans 12:2

Men are God’s Protection Over Women

Men are God’s Protection Over Women

Written By Ryan Liberty

Women were not made to be leaders in marriage or in the church. They are not lesser than men; they just have different roles.

God is actually protecting women. There is a reason that women live longer than men. They have to go through less stress and pressure because of their God-given role.

Subjection is a blessing for women. Women need a protector. Even though many women desire to be preachers they are not called to be. To do otherwise is to be in sin and to usurp the authority of man.

Many false teachers try to twist the Scriptures and say things like, “That is your interpretation.” No! That is what God clearly says! No woman should teach in the public worship and service of the church.

But I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet.
1 Timothy 2:12

Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.
1 Peter 3:7

It all goes back to creation and order. Man was created first, then woman was created for man.

Not only that, it was Eve who was deceived by Satan, but sin entered through Adam and not Eve and we were saved by the second Adam, Jesus Christ.

The husband is the leader and the protector. Instead of questioning Eve, the one who sinned first, God questioned Adam, the leader. Adam was the head of mankind and Eve was Adam’s responsibility. Eve tried to be the leader. She tried to do her own thing. She usurped Adam’s responsibility in leadership and she was deceived and Adam subjected himself to her deception. We should also note that Satan tempted Eve over Adam.

 For it was Adam who was first created, and then Eve. And it was not Adam who was deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression.
1 Timothy 1:13, 14

For indeed man was not created for the woman’s sake, but woman for the man’s sake.
1 Corinthians 11:9

But I am afraid that, as the serpent deceived Eve by his craftiness, your minds will be led astray from the simplicity and purity of devotion to Christ.
2 Corinthians 11:3

Women have an essential role that they should never run from. The role of a woman in the church and in marriage is so great that Satan seeks to attack it with the feminist movement and rebellious women who infiltrate Christianity. Women will find true fulfillment through childbearing.

Women are given the responsibility of raising up godly children, which is essentially leading the human race to godliness. This is why Satan hates this so much! The godliness of a mother has the greatest impact on a child. There is a relationship between a mother and a child that is unlike any other. Why do you think this generation is getting worse?

Many women don’t want to pursue their godly role, but would rather throw their kids in daycare. Why would a woman want any other role when their role not only has a huge impact on their children, but also the whole generation? Praise the Lord for your responsibility that will bring a blessing to this world.

But women will be saved through childbearing–if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety.
1 Timothy 2:15

So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander.
1 Timothy 5:14

Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.
Proverbs 31:28

Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.
Titus 2:3-5

Elders (the leaders of the churches) are always men in Scripture. 1 Timothy 3 lets us know that it is not culturally based like some may say.

Deacons likewise must be men of dignity, not double-tongued, or addicted to much wine or fond of sordid gain.
1 Timothy 3:8

An elder must be blameless, faithful to his wife, a man whose children believe and are not open to the charge of being wild and disobedient.
Titus 1:6

Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach.
1 Timothy 3:2

A deacon must be faithful to his wife and must manage his children and his household well.
1 Timothy 3:12

Learning to Discipline Yourself

Learning to Discipline Yourself

Sermon given by John MacArthur

One is to begin with small things…to begin with small things. Learn to discipline yourself in the little things of life because it is the little things of life that make for the big successes. You must begin with the small things. Every little issue of life has to carry weight and importance, not because, listen carefully to this, not because in itself it’s important, but your integrity, your credibility, your word is important even in little things. And learning to train yourself in those little things is absolutely essential.

Another principle, and I’m not elucidating these but just kind of suggesting them as food for thought, another one is clean your environment. What do I mean by that? Get rid of all that stuff, clean your desk, your room, your house, your garage, there’s a thought. Just become discontent with a mess in general. Get yourself to the place where orderliness matters. Some people need a lot of help in this area. But learn how to get rid of the excess, learn how to trim down, learn how to keep your environment clean and clear so that you can function without a myriad of distractions and so that you’ve made decisions and selections about what matters, what doesn’t, what’s important, what isn’t.

Make a schedule, that’s a third one. I’m not necessarily suggesting that you have a daytimer book and you write down every breath you’re going to take through the day, or that you put up some big calendar in your house. But I am saying make a schedule and learn to conform to it, whether it’s an absolute hard and fast schedule which appeals to the engineer type sort of accountant type folks, or whether it’s a little more fluid, but nonetheless you can anticipate things and you can establish time frames in which they need to be done and learn to train yourself to keep that schedule.

Another principle of developing self-discipline is to wean yourself off of being entertained so that entertainment becomes for you really something that’s arbitrary…you can take it or leave it. Get yourself to the place where you if you have excess time do things that are productive rather than sit and be entertained. Entertainment, makes a very, very small contribution to your well being and to your success. Wean yourself off of being entertained. Another alternative, how about this, read or take a walk with somebody, or have a conversation, or plant flowers or something.

Another principle that I learned long ago and is very important to me is to be on time…be on time. That means you can order your little universe so you can get where you need to get when you’re supposed to be there, clothed and in your right mind. Learn to be on time. Even in small things, even in insignificant things because it says an awful lot about how your life is ordered and how you’ve preplanned all the stops between here and where you need to be at that moment. It’s very important, and it says volumes to the people are supposed to meet you there about how important it is for you to be with them.

Keep your word, that’s another one, even in the littlest things…keep your word. If you say you’re going to do it, do it and do it when you’re going to do it and do it the way you said you’d do it because your word is so important. Don’t make promises you don’t keep. Make commitments and see them through. That calls for discipline. That calls for discipline before you make the commitment because you have to look and evaluate the time, your talent and the capability that you have circumstantially to pull it off. Once you’ve made your commitment, keep your word in the littlest thing. It might be the smallest thing, learn to keep your word and you’ll begin to keep your word in big things.

Another thing that has really helped me through the years is to do the hardest task first. Always do the hardest task first. Whatever is most difficult, that’s what you want to begin with. And save the very easiest thing for last. Most people work on the reverse. And when they run out of time, and they’ve run out of energy, then they have an excuse not to do what they should have done first because it was most difficult and probably most important.

Another principle of self-discipline is to finish what you start…finish what you start. Some people’s lives are just a long litany of unfinished stuff. If you start it, finish it. That is a tremendously important principle of self-discipline, finish what you start.

Here’s another one. Practice self-denial…practice self-denial just for the sake of self-denial. Just say no so you can say to yourself, “Self, you can say no when you want to.” I mean, it might be something you would like to do, might be something that’s fine to do, just say no so you can remind yourself you’re still in charge and you’re not completely at the whim of your impulse. I’ve suggested even that next time you have the opportunity to eat a triple decker, super-big banana split, topped with chocolate and all of that, you might just say no, just so you can say to your stomach, “See, I’m still in charge.” It’s good to practice self-denial.

And then another thing that I think is really good for self-discipline is to volunteer, is to just volunteer for tasks. That means you’ve got to leave a little space in your life, you’ve got to have your life ordered well enough to say, “Hey, I’d like to try that, I’d like to step into that, I want to help over there.” And to subject yourself to something that really isn’t a part of your own agenda, but it’s necessary and it calls for some order in your life.

But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway.
1 Corinthians 9:27