The Bible tells us that a “virtuous woman is a crown to her husband.” What does virtuous mean? It is a woman with high moral standards, chaste, righteous, good, and pure. She loves the Lord deeply and tries to be obedient to His Word by walking in the Spirit. She is prudent with the money her husband makes by using it wisely and carefully. She works with willing hands and does it cheerfully. Her children can even hear her singing often, making melody in her heart. This gives her family a feeling of comfort and security. She makes sure the children behave and are trained in all the ways of godliness. She teaches them about Him throughout the day. Jesus is the center of her life and everyone knows it and can easily see it by the expressions on her face and the light in her eyes. She is kind to others, generous, and loves to be hospitable. She is a gracious mother and her children rise up and call her blessed.
She has compassion on those in need. She has wisdom from her time in the Word and listening to godly male preachers. She encourages and promotes the excellent things in life. She treats others with respect and honor. She is faithful to and honors her husband. When she and her husband are with company, she allows him to do most of the talking without interrupting or correcting him. Others easily know that she respects him and that he is her head. She dresses modestly and adapts her life to her husband. She accepts reproof from him, even though it is hard, and she doesn’t try to point out his errors in retaliation. She is continually asking the Lord to show her how to be a godly, gracious wife to her husband and mother to her children.
Some of these women are married to disobedient husbands and suffer under their leadership. We are told in 1 Corinthians 13 that “charity suffereth long.” Therefore, she is willing to suffer a long time living with him since she is a vow keeper and continues to be a crown to her husband, even though he doesn’t deserve it. She understands that life on this earth is short so she lives for heaven, storing her treasure there rather than here. Her faith, hope, and trust are steadfastly in the Lord. She knows He hears her prayers and is faithful to do what He has promised. She is joyful in the midst of suffering since she understands that everyone on this earth will suffer in one way or another. She suffers in hopes of her husband’s soul being in heaven is a worthy life to live. (If she is being physically abused, call the authorities immediately and seek help. If she is being verbally abused, seek the help of an older, godly women for guidance and support.)
A woman who makes her husband ashamed causes his life to be miserable and is rottenness to his bones. She has no self-control in areas that concern him such as finances, housework, or cooking. She spends her time on selfish pursuits and rarely thinks about her husband. She gives no effort to trying to make his life better in any way but takes him for granted and even uses him for what she wants. She nags, manipulates and quarrels with him. She is contentious and argumentative. There is rarely any peace in the home. She makes her husband’s life miserable. There is much division and disharmony. She has a long list of Honey-do lists and nags him until they are accomplished. She wastes her time on the trivial things in life, such as what Hollywood stars are divorcing, or what they are wearing and doing. Her husband is continually ashamed of her and regrets ever marrying her.
Are you a crown to your husband or rottenness to his bones?
A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband:
but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.
Many of you know of my health struggles the past 28 years. I have written about them on my blog, even having to go through brain surgery for the second time and Cyber Knife a few years ago which was traumatizing. I have detailed all of this in my book but I thought it was time for an update for all of you who would like to know.
We go to Door County, WI most summers but I have had to miss some due to my health. My neck is terrible from major car accidents and a fusion. My gut has been horrible since I had parasites many years and it flares up whenever my neck gets bad. It’s been a vicious cycle for me with a brain tumor and brain surgeries thrown into the mix. This past summer I almost didn’t go to Door County because my neck was so bad. We found prescription Lidocaine patches that I wore on the long trip to DC that made it bearable. A funny thing happened after a few days of being there, however. My neck hardly hurt at all and I remember this being the case last summer so I knew there was something I was doing at home that kept flaring up my neck.
I finally figured it out! At home, I was sitting in this big green recliner that I had to use my arms to pull me out of the chair. Then we got rid of this when we bought new recliner couches. Unfortunately, they are too big for me. Yes, I am tall for a woman but they are still too deep for me so I would have to use my upper body to push me out of it multiple times a day. I figured out that using my arms and upper body to get out of where I was sitting all day long was flaring up my neck because in Door County all of the chairs are small and I just use my legs to get out. I haven’t had to wear a patch on my neck since coming home from DC. It hasn’t been this good since I can’t even remember.
I went to a Naturopath last year and she gave me amazing stuff for my gut. When I have intense pain from my neck, my stomach still is very bad so it’s been hard to keep weight on me. Lately, however, with my neck not flaring up and the RepairVite healing my gut (best stuff ever for bad gut), I am able to eat things that I haven’t eaten for many years and have gained seven pounds in the last two months! I love it! Ken and I went to a wedding last Saturday night, hence the picture above, and I was able to eat the entire dinner which was delicious. Just the fact that I could go with Ken and have a great time seems like a miracle to both of us.
Concerning my brain tumor, I was supposed to go in for an MRI last June to make sure it isn’t growing but I didn’t. (I have had at least 30 of those on my head.) I also need to get my hormones checked since the Cyber Knife is supposed to kill my pituitary, the major hormone gland. I am waiting for January to do both in case I need more care since it’s the beginning of our health care year. My pituitary must still be working or I wouldn’t be alive. I have to be careful to only drink four cups of water a day with a teaspoon of salt in it due to my damaged pituitary. It’s the one thing I will always have to be careful about. I never want to end up in the ICU again with “death level” sodium of 115.
In the meantime, life sure is fun feeling good and being able to eat! My family can’t believe what I can eat and they love it. I don’t take any day for granted since I know I am still fragile and life is fragile period. God is good. I am blessed and there you have it. (Sorry, trolls, you are never going to be able to steal my joy because the JOY of the LORD is my strength!)
This is the day which the LORD hath made; we will rejoice and be glad in it.