Feminists are Weak Women

Feminists are Weak Women

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Feminists are not strong women as they suppose. They are weak. Strong women don’t get offended at every little thing that disagrees with what they believe. “Modern feminists are afraid of life. They are afraid of differences of opinion, and especially afraid of men.”* Feminists women don’t have the strength to be submissive to their husband. It takes strength to obey our husbands and give up our desires for our husbands and allow them to be the leader of our home. Feminine, godly women have this strength from the Lord and they build up their home instead of tear it down as many are doing today.

Dennis Prager wrote a brilliant piece in the National Review called Feminism Make Women Weak. My favorite part of the entire article was the last paragraph. “You want to know what women are strong? Here’s an example: Any young woman who announced in a college class that as much as she may want a career, she is more interested in finding a good man to marry. In other words, any young woman who announced that she isn’t a feminist.” I wanted to stand up and shout, “YES!” God clearly states what godly young women will most likely want in life besides bringing glory to Him: to marry, bear children, and guide the home.

I wasn’t the least bit ashamed to tell people that I wanted to marry and have children when I was young. I had no interest in a career. “Well, what if you never meet a man who wants to marry you?” I was asked. I will pray and pray that the Lord will give me my heart’s desire. If He does not, I will glorify Him some other way, however, the majority of women do get married and this is a good thing since God created men to need a help meet. “Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man” (1 Corinthians 11:9) Women have forgotten what their purpose in marriage is supposed to be. They forget they are their husband’s help meet and instead, expect their husbands to make them happy.

“Most feminists have conflated equality and sameness. And that’s a huge mistake; the sexes are equal, but they are different.”*  I don’t want to be the same as men. I want to be a woman, just the way the Lord has made me.

Feminine women should understand the differences between the sexes. Men struggle with their sexual nature and this doesn’t make women better and men perverts. No, this is just the way they are. “The male desire to touch the bodies of just about every woman they are attracted to is — trigger warning here — normal. It has nothing to do with hatred of women or viewing women as unequal.”* Strong women can handle this knowledge and instead of being offended by it, we sympathize with men in their struggle knowing that our struggle is with our desire to control our husbands and with our emotional nature. Yes, we are different and we have different struggles. It shouldn’t offend us when we find out that men love women’s bodies. Good, mature men control their sexual nature just as good, mature women control their need to control their husbands and their emotional nature.

As feminine women, our strength isn’t in who we are or the fact that we are feminine, it comes from knowing who we are in Christ and loving the way He created us to be and the role He has given us to do. True strength isn’t fighting this but welcoming it and becoming women with gentle and quiet spirits who dress modestly, love and obey our husband, love our children, are good, chaste, discreet, sober, and keepers at home. Now, this right here is a definition of a strong woman. Her strength comes from the Lord because she could never do all of this on her own.

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

Proverbs 31:10, 11

*Dennis Prager quotes from article

A Brawling (Quarreling), Scolding Woman

A Brawling (Quarreling), Scolding Woman

From Matthew Henry Commentary

See here, What a great affliction it is to a man to have a brawling scolding woman for his wife, who upon every occasion, and often upon no occasion, breaks out into a passion, and chides either him or those about her, is fretful to herself and furious to her children, and, in both, vexatious to her husband. If a man has a wide house, spacious and pompous, this will embitter the comfort of it to him–a house of society (so the word is), in which a man may be sociable, and entertain his friends; this will make both him and his house unsociable, and unfit for enjoyments of true friendship. It makes a man ashamed of his choice and his management, and disturbs his company.

What many a man is forced to do under such an affliction. He cannot keep up his authority. He finds it to no purpose to contradict the most unreasonable passion, for it is unruly and rages so much the more; and his wisdom and grace will not suffer him to render railing for railing, nor his conjugal affection to use any severity, and therefore he finds it his best way to retire into a corner of the house-top,and sit alone there, out of the hearing of her clamour; and if he employ himself well there, as he may do, it is the wisest course he can take. Better do so than quit the house, and go into bad company, for diversion, as many, who, like Adam, make their wife’s sin the excuse of their own.

 It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop,
than with a brawling woman in a wide house.
Proverbs 21:8

Mutual Annoyances and Daily Pinpricks

Mutual Annoyances and Daily Pinpricks

Since my grandchildren left The Screwtape Letters on my coffee table, I have decided to write a post on all the chapters that seem applicable to what I love to teach, namely anything concerning women. From chapter three, this man that the Devil and his helper are working on has become a believer so they are trying to find ways to make him fall away from the faith, namely, hoping he has shallow roots when any type of hard times come. In this chapter, the man is living with his mother but for the sake of this post I am going to change it to a wife living with her husband.

“The Enemy (God) will be working from the center outwards, gradually bringing more and more of the patient’s conduct under the new standard (obedience), and may reach her behavior to her husband at any moment.” You know, that whole winning him without a word thing by being in subjection to him with godly behavior that God comforts wives with in 1 Peter 3:1? Yes, this is God’s perfect prescription for winning a disobedient husband to Jesus, if he is not a believer or claims to be but is living in unrepentant sin.

“Build up between you in that house a good settled habit of mutual annoyance; daily pinpricks.” I am sure every single one of you can relate to this. How many things does your husband do that irritates you? Have you learned to stop allowing it to bother you or do you nag him to death about it? The first way builds your home up and the second one tears it down. As soon as you feel the slightest of irritation towards him, begin singing in your thoughts or out loud, “Turn your eyes upon Jesus. Look full in His wonderful face and the things of earth will grow strangely dim in the light of His glory and grace” and remind yourself that love is longsuffering and kind.

“You must bring her to a condition in which she can practice self-examination for an hour without discovering any of those facts about herself which are perfectly clear to anyone who has ever lived in the same house with her or worked in the same office.” We all have faults. Instead of pointing fingers at others, we must concentrate on the three pointing back at us. Listen to the criticisms of those who know you best: your parents, your siblings, your spouse, and close friends. Work on these and have someone hold you accountable to get rid of them. Examine yourselves, whether ye be in the faith; prove your own selves (2 Corinthians 13:5).

“Make sure that they are always very ‘spiritual’, that she is always concerned with the state of his soul and never with his rheumatism…I have had patients of my own so well in hand that they could be turned at a moment’s notice from impassioned prayer for a husband’s son or son’s soul to beating or insulting the real husband or son without a qualm.” If we are concentrated on praying for God to take away all of our husband’s sins and to walk in obedience to the Lord and His ways while ignoring our own sin and the way we treat others, we are lacking in grace and character. If your husband has aches and pains, pray for him and have compassion on him as well as his eternal soul. As you begin to have compassion on him and praying for everything concerning him, you will find yourself actually caring for and loving him more deeply.

“When two humans have lived together for many years it usually happens that each has tones of voice and expressions of face which are almost unendurably irritating to each other. Work on that…And, of course, never let her suspect that her tones and looks which similarly annoy him. As she cannot see or hear herself, this is easily managed.” If your husband says you are too harsh, loud, or disrespectful, instead of responding, “Well, you’re…”, believe him and go about stopping this behavior. Tell him you are sorry and you won’t do it again. “Go and sin no more.”

“In civilized life domestic hatred usually expresses itself by saying things which would appear quite harmless on paper (the words are not offensive) but in such a voice, or at such a moment, that they are not far short of a blow in the face. To keep this game up you and Glubose (another demon) must see to it that each of these two fools has a sort of double standard. Your patient must demand that all of her own utterances are to be taken at their face value and judged simply on the actual words, while at the same time judging all her husband’s utterances with the fullest and most over-sensitive interpretation of the tone and the context and suspected intention. He must be encouraged to do the same to her. Hence from every quarrel they can both go away convinced, or very nearly convinced, that they are quite innocent.”

One of the worst things a wife can do is over analyze her husband’s words and behaviors. Instead, learn to not get offended easily for getting offended easily is another word for self-pity and self-pity is satanic. When you find yourself becoming critical towards your husband and falling into a pit of self-pity, quickly take these thoughts captives to the Lord Jesus Christ. “I don’t think this way anymore. I am a new creature in Christ and choose to believe the best about my husband!” Make sure your words, actions, and facial expressions towards him are respectful as well, since this honors the Lord.

Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord; Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled.
Hebrews 12:14, 15

Love is NOT a Random Force

Love is NOT a Random Force

Voddie Baucham preached a GREAT sermon on Biblical Womanhood that, as far as I could tell, was 100% biblically accurate, so I encourage all of you to listen to it. It’s amazing to hear from a godly man preach these truths that most preachers run from. I am going to summarize a few points that stood out to me, in case you don’t have time to listen.

Love is not a random force and it is not sensual as our culture makes it out to be. Love is active with the matter of the will (making the decision to love someone), accompanied by the emotions (not allowing emotions to dictate but the will then the emotions follow), and these lead to action on the part of its object. Many women have said that they can’t comprehend loving any more children like they love the one they have, as if love has a limit. God is the source of love so love is limitless. God commands older women to teach younger women to LOVE their husbands and children because love doesn’t begin with emotions. Being dictated to by our emotions is a bad way to live our lives.

When you commit your life to your husband, you make a decision with your will to love him until death do you part. From there, you decide to treat him with kindness, respect, patience, and love. When you have children (no matter how many the Lord blesses you with), you make the decision to love each one by training, disciplining, showing affection, and raising them in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord. It has nothing to do with emotions to begin with. Once you make the decision to actively love your husband and children, your emotions will follow. You have become the boss of your emotions and not the other way around.

It’s a choice that we chose to love so choose this day to love the Lord (believe in Him and do as He has told you to do), love your husband, and love your children actively.

Another thing Pastor Baucham taught about was the manifestation of the Spirit in a believer’s life from Ephesians 5. We are told to NOT get drunk with wine but be filled with the Spirit  (Ephesians 5:18). Then the Apostle Paul goes on to show us what this should look like in the life of a believer.

First, “speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord” (Ephesians 5:19). In my handwritten post that I will be publishing on Facebook tomorrow is a song that I sang in my childhood. I recently remembered it and I can’t help but be joyful while I am singing it and at times, I just belt it out; I love it so much! Put on praise music and make melody in your heart to the Lord and you will be joyful.

Secondly, “giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ” (Ephesians 5:20). We must be people of thanksgiving. We see all around us people who are not filled with thanks but are filled with hate. They are rioting, protesting, and arguing constantly. Politics is their life and they falsely believe that in politics are the answers. They are not. They are found only in the Lord. He is the solid Rock upon which we stand. Give thanks to Him while you are eating, exercising, cleaning, playing with your children, rocking a sick baby, etc. Make sure your family sees you as a thankful person for this pleases the Lord. Remember, the JOY of the LORD is your strength.

This is the final way the Spirit is manifested in our lives; “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God” (Ephesian 5:21). It is by living in submission to those over us that we show we are walking in the Spirit. The next verses elaborate; “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.” As we are living in submission to our husbands, we are displaying the Spirit’s work in our lives. Children are to live in submission to their parents and servants to their masters. This brings glory to the Lord.

Remember, your husband isn’t called to follow your dreams and aspirations, you are called to follow and help fulfill his dreams and aspirations for his family.

For Women Who are Lonely and Bored at Home

For Women Who are Lonely and Bored at Home

Some women were asking me what they should do with their time because they are lonely and get bored being at home all day long. They also wanted to know if it were okay to go to Women’s Bible Studies. Trey, a man who comments on my blog once in a while, wrote the following comment that is worthy of its own post. Thank you, Trey.

First of all, have you asked your husbands if they are pleased with your efforts in the home? Have you asked them if there is anything additional that they would like to see done, done better, or done differently? Have you asked them if they have a preference on how you spend your free time? Have you expressed your concerns to them and asked them to help you come up with constructive ways to use that time? This should be your first step and then comply fully with their wishes.

If they do not have a preference and leave it up to you, then ask yourself this: What did the Proverbs 31 woman do with her free time? How did she handle her loneliness? Trick question? Yea, she didn’t really have any free time to be lonely did she? Her time, that started early in the morning before the rest of her household and ended late at night, was spent doing constructive, beneficial and profitable WORK that benefited her household and brought good and honor to her husband. It also brought honor, praise, value and blessing upon herself.

I think one of the tragedies of this modern era where women have so many modern machines, conveniences, and stores to shop in, is that they have way too much free time and way too many of them sit around idle and waste the time they are given (being lonely), or try and use it up in useless (socializing) and other (playing games on phones or computers) wasteful ways. Far too many women also use the time they have so inefficiently that it brings shame to their hard working husbands.

Instead of growing their own food for their family, they use the money that their husbands earn to purchase it. Many women purchase food that is as processed and already made up as possible to further reduce their time spent working in the kitchen.

Instead of growing the flax and cotton that is needed to make the fabric and then making the clothes that their family needs and possibly selling some to others, they use the money that their husbands earn to purchase their clothes and instead of mending something when it gets a hole, they just toss it and buy new replacements.

Whereas in decades and centuries past where the woman worked hard all day long at doing these types of beneficial household activities and ended up contributing so much more to the overall support of the household, nowadays, especially for the stay at home wife/mom, EVERYTHING is left to the husband to earn and provide for while the wives sit at home idle, suffering with loneliness and complaining that their husbands work too many hours. Is this really Gods plan for a Christian wife that she has so little to do in her home that her biggest problem in life is dealing with loneliness while her husband carries the load virtually all by himself and his reward is a nagging and complaining wife because he works too much?

Please don’t misunderstand me, I am not in any way suggesting that women go and work outside the home (unless that is what their husband instructs them to do). The Bible clearly teaches that a woman’s place is IN the home but ladies, those verses in Proverbs 31 weren’t put there for no reason!

Just because you can go (drive) to the local grocery store and purchase an already put together lasagna in a box ready to slide into your electric oven to cook for your family, does not mean that is what you should be doing. You should purchase (or grow) the raw ingredients of a quality that is the best value (quality vs cost) and make as much of the food your family eats as possible from scratch. Women, you need to learn to cook and do it well and teach your daughters these skills also as part of their home school curriculum. Done right, this will take some time but it is time well spent.

Do you have room for a vegetable garden in your back yard? Flower beds? Pots on your porch? Then as long as your husband is okay with it, grow as many of the vegetables that your family eats as you are able. Learn to can and put extras up if possible. Include these skills for your daughters in your home school curriculum. Time well spent.

Do you still have extra time? Can you make clothes for yourself, your kids, to sell to others? Forget the flax and cotton as that would not be an inefficient use of your time but purchase fabric from the store and make some clothes or bed sheets. If you don’t know how then use the internet for something useful and learn. Then you can teach your daughters this skill too (as part of your home school curriculum) and prepare them to be a Proverbs 31 wife to their future husbands. Time well spent.

Still have extra time or unable to garden or sew? Then, figure out what small part-time business that you can open out of your home (with your husbands approval) to bring in some extra money. That is what the Proverbs 31 woman did and it was… time well spent.

Here is the bottom line regarding your free time; prioritize your efforts (allowing your husband the final say) and continue to focus on these types of beneficial activities until your free time is all being constructively and beneficially used up. Spend time with the Lord in song and worship while you work. Your fellowship with the Lord and the sense of accomplishment that you will get from the constructive work will drive loneliness far from you and there will be other rewards for… time well spent.

Let’s face it ladies, 90% (or more) of the activities for women at the church INCLUDING women’s bible studies are just social events and are really just a WASTE of time. Do you want to spend one to two hours a week cleaning the bathrooms or vacuuming the floors at your local church? This would be time well spent but going up there to socialize and gossip with other women? Not so much. I am not saying that you should NEVER attend a function like this to socialize or never have lunch with another Christian woman, etc… but time spent this way should be considered a luxury and kept to a reasonable minimum. The Bible has given you a model in Proverbs 31 of what a Godly, virtuous wife should be and that is the scripture you should be meditating on when you are trying to figure out how to spend the free time given to you by your husband and the Lord.

A word of caution; be very careful going out on the internet and/or talking to other women to see how they have interpreted Proverbs 31 and what they are doing because there is a LOT more wrong out there than what is right. Read Proverbs 31 in the Bible for yourself. Read it over and over until you have it memorized and then meditate on it for as many hours, days or weeks as it takes while praying to God and asking Him to show you what He wants you to do with the time that you have been given. Then, when you think you have an answer, run it by your husband for his final approval and blessing.

She looks well to the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.

Proverbs 31:27

Discerning Error and Truth

Discerning Error and Truth

There are famous women preachers/teachers that other women love to share these preachers’ words excitedly and pronounce them good and inspiring. I look at these women’s words and read them over and over again trying to make sense of them. They may sound good but they aren’t biblical. They make up words that aren’t in the Bible and point women to ways that aren’t of God. They “hear” from God, write it down on paper, and act if these words they supposedly heard from God are for all women. No, they are not!

I sat under and learned from some of these women. They were just alright with me. I’d try to get all excited about them but for some reason I never could and I couldn’t put my finger on it but now I know. I have grown in my faith and know the Bible better so I can easily distinguish between false, made up teachings and solid, Bible teachings. The only way to do this is to chew on the meat of the Word ourselves and learn from godly men who have spent years studying the Word, not “hearing” from God.

I was reading 2 Timothy yesterday. When I get to these smaller books of the Bible, I usually read the entire book in one sitting but it doesn’t take long because they’re short. The Apostle Paul is teaching Timothy how the church should run. In 2 Timothy 1:12, Paul exhorts Timothy: “HOLD FAST the form of sound words, which thou has heard of me, in faith and love which is in Christ.” Know the Word of God, women, so when something that doesn’t line up with scripture is being said or written, you will be able to quickly discern if it is truth or not.

In 2 Timothy 2:14, Paul wrote: “Study to show thyself approved unto God a workman that needs not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.” My children went to AWANA their entire childhood and this verse is AWANA’s motto. The Bible was hidden deeply into their hearts so they weren’t and aren’t easily led astray by false teachings. They know the truth and I’ve never seen my daughter become excited about one of these female preachers/teachers, thankfully. Ground your children in the Word.

“Shun profane and vain babblings; for they will increase unto more ungodliness” (2 Timothy 2:16). One of these types of female teachers, I wrote about years ago and warned about her. Now, she has left her husband and is in a lesbian relationship. Another one has endorsed gay marriage. It’s never my intent to destroy other women’s ministries but it is my intent to warn all of you about the false teaching that is going on. Don’t listen to someone who claims, “I heard from God and this is what He said…” Shun this type of teaching and go to the Word and learn from the Lord. Leaving the clear teachings of the Word and making up one’s own bible is a very dangerous place to go.

Here is a post that went around that women loved:

Now, this isn’t from a Christian source as I am sure you can tell right away but women love these kind of things. I decided to take this post and change each sentence into truth so a woman in the chat room made a poster for me with my words.

If you see a tweet, poster, or statement written by someone that everyone else is swooning over, make sure it’s truth and not just tickling your ears. If it’s hard to understand and it takes a while to try and figure out, it’s probably not truth. Stick to the Word of God and to those who teach it clearly and unashamedly; those who don’t try to water it down. Learn from those who point clearly to Jesus and His ways. If you have a godly male teacher/ preacher that you love learning the meat of the Word from, put his name in the comment section for others to learn from. If you know other godly female teachers who teach godly womanhood, put their names there, too. It’s good for all of us to know those who love the truth and aren’t afraid to teach it!

God, after He spoke long ago to the fathers in the prophets in many portions and in many ways,
in these last days has spoken to us in His Son,
whom He appointed heir of all things, through whom also He made the world.
Hebrews 1:1, 2

Why Does Not Being a Keeper at Home Blaspheme God’s Word?

Why Does Not Being a Keeper at Home Blaspheme God’s Word?

Younger women are commanded to be “keepers at home” in Titus 2:5 so they won’t “blaspheme the Word of God.” Many times when I am writing a post such as this one, I will go to biblehub.com and read all of the commentaries of old on the verse that I am studying. I love to learn from these godly, old men who weren’t swayed by feminism and the age in which we live. So I am going to pull out some of their words of wisdom for this important post since if you love Jesus Christ, you don’t want to do anything to blaspheme (speak evil against) His Word. We want to live lives that bring glory to the Lord and will draw others towards Him by the way we live our lives instead of away because of our hypocrisy (not obeying the Word.

“As ‘guardians of the house,’ as the Greek expresses. The oldest manuscripts read, ‘Workers at home’: active in household duties.” The opposite of this (blaspheme the Word) would be to not be home often due to having a job outside of the home or running here and there so a woman is not guarding what is coming into her home, what her children are reading, seeing, and hearing, and what influences are affecting them. This is our God-ordained role, women. We are to guard our homes from evil influences and work hard in the home, not allowing it to become a pigsty.

“House-wives, not spending their time in gadding abroad, but in looking to the affairs of their own families.” Women today can be described clearly as blaspheming the Word of God by the discontent they show when being home so they get involved in women’s Bible studies, retreats, shopping, etc. and don’t look over the affairs of their home and families. Few have time to fix nourishing and healthy foods for their families, spend time training their children towards godliness, and making sure the home is clean and tidy. Learn to enjoy being home and content where the Lord wants you to be.

“This is said in opposition to what women are prone unto. It is reckoned among the properties of women, by the Jews, that they are ‘gadders abroad’.” It breaks my heart when I hear of women not “feeling fulfilled” at home training, caring, and disciplining their children so they go out and get a job then others raise their children. Yes, getting a job outside of the home away from the children is gadding abroad. It is blaspheming the Word of God. How can a woman expect to raise godly offspring if she is not around to raise and teach her children the ways of the Lord? We are called to continually speak to and train our children which way they are supposed to go.

“For there is nothing more beautiful for a woman, than to abide in the corner of her house; for so it is written, Psalm 45:13 ‘the king’s daughter is all glorious within’.” Feminism has taken the feminine out of women. A woman at home cooking, cleaning, and caring for her children is feminine and beautiful. There’s nothing with more feminine beauty than a mother with her children in contrast to a woman in a business suit with a briefcase. Feminism blasphemes God’s Word and femininity brings glory to Him.

“And this they say is what is meant by the woman’s being an helpmeet for man, that while he is abroad about his business, she is , ‘sitting at home’, and keeping his house; and this they observe is the glory and honour of the woman.” When you are out and about and not caring for your home and family, you are not bringing glory to your husband because the state of your home and the behavior of your children are a reflection not only of the Lord but of your husband. Raising children is time consuming and requires a full-time mother at home. Be this woman.

“The mistress of the house is to add to her thrift, energy, and strict discipline, benign, gracious, heartily kind demeanor.” A woman blasphemes the Word by spending too much money, being lazy in her home and seeking her pleasures instead of the Lord’s, being selfish, and giving into her emotions and feelings. Be wise with the money your husband makes. Live contentedly within his income. Discipline yourself for the purposes of godliness remembering that His Spirit works mightily within you. Be generous with your time and money and be kind. Stop yelling at your children and train them instead; for this is good.

“Stayers at home.” Be a stayer at home. Home is where God has placed you. Home is where you are a help meet to your precious husband and children. Make your home a sanctuary for your family. Put a lot less miles on your car and more miles on your feet and hands. Work hard at home and bring the Lord glory as well as your husband. Make their lives as good as you can by disciplining your flesh and learning to be a living sacrifice; for this pleases the Lord.

What will it profit you if you gain name recognition, a career, make a lot of money, own a big home, but lose your children’s souls?

For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?
Mark 8:36

Relieve Your Mind of Worry!

Relieve Your Mind of Worry!

Written By Charles Spurgeon

“The lot is cast into the lap, but the whole disposing thereof is of the Lord” (Proverbs 16:33).

If the disposal of the lot is the Lord’s whose is the arrangement of our whole life? If the simple casting of a lot is guided by him, how much more the events of our entire life–especially when we are told by our blessed Saviour: “The very hairs of your head are all numbered: not a sparrow falleth to the ground without your Father.”

It would bring a holy calm over your mind, dear friend, if you were always to remember this. It would so relieve your mind from anxiety, that you would be the better able to walk in patience, quiet, and cheerfulness as a Christian should.

When a man is anxious he cannot pray with faith; when he is troubled about the world, he cannot serve his Master, his thoughts are serving himself. If you would “seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness,” all things would then be added unto you. You are meddling with Christ’s business, and neglecting your own when you fret about your lot and circumstances. You have been trying “providing” work and forgetting that it is yours to obey.

Be wise and attend to the obeying, and let Christ manage the providing. Come and survey your Father’s storehouse, and ask whether he will let you starve while he has laid up so great an abundance in his garner? Look at his heart of mercy; see if that can ever prove unkind! Look at his inscrutable wisdom; see if that will ever be at fault. Above all, look up to Jesus Christ your Intercessor, and ask yourself, while he pleads, can your Father deal ungraciously with you? If he remembers even sparrows, will he forget one of the least of his poor children?

Cast thy burden upon the Lord, and he will sustain thee.
He will never suffer the righteous to be moved.

Psalm 55:22

My Six Year Blogging Anniversary

My Six Year Blogging Anniversary

About twelve years ago, I led several groups of women through Created to Be His Help Meet. After this, I began mentoring women one-on-one. I became involved in our large church’s mentoring program and they sent me the women in the most difficult marriage situations. Ken and I then began mentoring couples who were engaged or planning on becoming engaged through the same church. I mentored women by phone, email, and in person. I love mentoring women!

One young woman lived with a neighbor friend and began coming to church with us every week. She was rebellious to the ways of the Lord but she loved coming to church with us every week and then coming to our home afterwards where my entire family would gather for Sunday dinner and have fun conversation. She would sit there watching and listening. A week before she left to go back home across the country, she believed in Jesus Christ as her Savior. I didn’t want to lose contact with her because I knew she needed more mentoring in the ways of the Lord.

Right after she left, which was six years ago today, I came downstairs early the next morning and decided I would begin a blog so I could mentor her through this blog. I thought a second for a name and I came up with Always Learning and began writing. This was my first post:

I had a light bulb moment the other day.  I HATE it when Ken “criticizes” me…Other people can do it, but when he does my feathers get ruffled.  I was listening to a program the other day and the man was saying his wife had to realize that when he was correcting her, it was just that…correction, not criticism.  I thought, “WOW! I need to take Ken’s criticism as correction and learn from it!” 

I have such a need to be perfect that I needed to realize I’m far from perfect and listen to his correction and learn…My pride and ego get in the way.  Proverbs says a wise man listens to rebuke.  Iron sharpens iron.  Always learning…

 Reprove not a scorner, lest he hate thee: rebuke a wise man, and he will love thee.
Proverbs 9:8

I wrote every day even though I knew writing wasn’t my gift until a writer friend of mine told me to stop writing that I was not a good writer. She informed me that I am a great writer with a strong voice. “When I read your blog, it is like you are sitting across the table from me.” I was so encouraged by her words of praise so I continued on and enjoyed it.

Ken gave me the goal of trying to reach one hundred women who read my blog on a consistent basis but I thought that was impossible. The first time I was blasted by critical and mean comments, it frightened me but now I know this happens to all who speak the truth because they hate the Truth (God). I also get a lot of encouragement and praise. I love what Dennis Prager said about this: “I won’t let the compliments go to my head and I won’t let the criticisms go to my heart.” I know the compliments are only because I teach the Word of God and what He has to say to women so I give Him the glory. Not allowing the criticisms to go to my heart is more difficult at times but most of it is so mean and nasty that I understand clearly who the real Enemy (Satan) is behind it. This keeps it all in perspective!

God has blessed my small seeds planted and today I have a new blog, make YouTubes, published a book (which we have lowered to $9.95 for good), and am in the process of maybe writing another one. I have never been interested in doing all of this as a way to make money. Thankfully, Ken works very hard and is a good provider. I didn’t want to be beholden to advertisers. I want to speak Truth plainly and not be afraid of losing those who I advertise.

I continue to mentor women daily on my blog, in the chat room, by email, text, or however they find me. I always want to be available to any women who seek out my advice. I had seen these small blogs become enormous and if you tried to get a hold of the author of the blog, you’d receive a short note back saying she’s too busy to respond. I never wanted to be like that. How could I be a true mentor if I wasn’t willing to interact with the women I mentor?

God is good. I thank Him frequently for the ministry He has given me. My pituitary is in fact dying. I am starting on replacement hormones now but my tumor hasn’t begun to grow again so that’s great news. In spite of my fragile health, God has given me a way to continue mentoring women, which I love. Thank you for many of your emails, letters, and texts encouraging me, supporting me, sharing your stories of your transformed marriages that always cause me to tear up and will never get old, and especially praying for me. It continually amazes me to see how great the Lord’s ways are and how transforming they are on all who believe and are renewed by studying His truth.

O give thanks unto the LORD, for he is good: for his mercy endureth for ever.
Psalm 107:1

Nourishing and Healing Your Family with Food

Nourishing and Healing Your Family with Food

You have been given an important role, women, in the health or lack of health in your children and husband. A large part of your ministry to your family should be fixing them nourishing food for their bodies to keep them healthy and free from illness. Please, don’t say you can’t cook or don’t know how. If you can read, you can learn!

My sister had malignant melanoma a few years ago. While she was raising children, she didn’t enjoy cooking for her family but after her health scare she took an intensive nine month study on nutrition. It basically taught her to go back to eating food just the way God intended for us to eat it and now her entire perspective on eating is different. She works hard in the kitchen and loves it! Her entire attitude about it has changed and she knows it is the ministry the Lord has given to her to nourish and heal her family and friends’ bodies by what they eat. Her kitchen is filled with jars of kombucha, all types of vegetables fermenting for healthy gut bacteria, bread that is fermenting and rising, bottles of homemade beef and chicken stock for nourishing soups, and finding recipes and ways of creating new and delicious foods for her family and friends.

The father of medicine, Hippocrates, wrote:

“Let food be thy medicine and medicine be thy food.”

God has given me many health issues so I could help all of you! Just kidding. I have no idea why I have had so many physical problems but I do know that God has used them for my good. A few years ago, I began getting horrible muscle pain in my knees, legs, and elbows. I couldn’t get down on the floor without a lot of pain. I was even thinking I was going to have to give up blogging because I thought it was hurting the muscles in my forearm. I spent hours every day doing trigger point therapy and icing but nothing seemed to help. I even had to miss my niece’s wedding because my legs hurt so much. I could hardly sleep due to the pain.

When I saw my doctor, I told her about my muscle pain and she told me it was due to getting older. “It’s just part of life.” I suspected that it was due to my pituitary dying. (I did make a YouTube health update, if you’re interested. One woman commented on it and told me that I have been healed by the whipping post that Christ bore for me. Poor deceived woman. Christ healed me from sin and damnation, but not suffering and eventually death. Yes, God can heal but He doesn’t always chose to do so; take the Apostle Paul as an example.)

I don’t like “It’s just part of life” answers so I search and research for answers. One day a few months ago, I decided to see if any food could cause muscle pain. I eat a fairly low inflammation diet (hardly any sugar, white flour, or dairy) so I didn’t even suspect this for a few years. The first thing listed was EGGS! I had been eating two eggs every day for years! I quickly gave them up and within a few weeks all of my pain disappeared. I can go down on the floor easily now. Who would have thought it was eggs? It sure wasn’t me. I even ate the organic, cage-free ones.

Just around this time, my sister told me about grass-fed, 100% organic, whole yogurt at Trader Joes. I bought some at my health food store and began having this for breakfast with frozen organic blueberries from Costso, properly prepared walnuts, some organic raw honey, a bit of cinnamon and vanilla. It is fantastic! I love having something other than eggs! I don’t want to develop an allergy to this so I rotate this with oatmeal. I take a half cup of oats and put it into a cup of water, then put it in the refrigerator to soak all night. In the morning, I cook it up and in a few minutes, when it is done, I chop up two dates, add some ghee, organic raw honey, vanilla, and cinnamon and thank Jesus the entire time I’m eating it because it tastes so good!

Healing rarely is one thing we do. It took my mom years to heal from colitis and it’s taken me a while to feel better after all I’ve been through. Even though my health will always be fragile, it’s fun to have some good days and being able to eat more food. Any ways, I thought this might be able to help someone with muscle pain and any who may need some new healthy breakfast ideas, along with encouraging you to learn to enjoy fixing nourishing and healing food for your family!

Every good thing given and every perfect gift is from above,
coming down from the Father of lights,
with whom there is no variation or shifting shadow.

James 1:17

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