Her Sixteen Year Old Wants to Begin Having Sex

Her Sixteen Year Old Wants to Begin Having Sex

For years, I listened to the Dr. Laura radio program. She had a lot of good things to say. Yesterday, on her Facebook page, she shared a conversation she had with a mother whose sixteen year old daughter wants to begin having sex since everyone else is doing it. Here is Dr. Laura’s response.

If she says everyone is having sex, then say:

“I want you to be the only non-slut in the group. I want you to be the only girl who can get to 25, meet a nice man and not say she’s had 15 humps with 82 guys so that he’s disgusted with you.

I’d like you to be the only one in your group who doesn’t get an STD and genital wars on your vagina and can give you cancer later on or HIV and can kill you.

I’d like you to be the only one in your group who thinks that sex and love should be holding each other with tenderness.

I’d like you to be the only one in your group who isn’t a pig.

I want you to be the only one who hasn’t killed a baby by having it sucked into a sink in a million pieces.

I want you to be the only one in your group not to think you can be a mother without an intact family around a child.

I want you to be the only one who doesn’t screw up a kid.”

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
1 Corinthians 6:18

Woman is the Glory of Man

Woman is the Glory of Man

For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man (1 Corinthians 11:7). Does this verse mean that women are not made in the image of God but men are? Elliot’s Commentary states this, “Man was made in the image of God, and is the glory of God; but woman is the glory of the man (for woman was made out of man, and also man was not created for woman, but woman for—i.e., as a help-meet for—man). Therefore man, as a created being, according to the accepted order of creation, is the direct representative of God, and woman the direct representative of man (and only indirectly and through him of God).”

Here are the verses following 1 Corinthians 11:7: “For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.” Women were made to be their husband’s help meet, if they are married. It doesn’t mean we are any less valuable but that we are different.

John Rice wrote this about this topic. “A man is like God in a sense that a woman is not like God…God is always in the Bible, called He, never Her. He is called Father, not Mother, Christ is called the man Christ Jesus, not the woman…I do not mean that Christ is not the Saviour every woman needs, not that He does not know her every longing, feel her every sorrow, meet her every need. But God would not have had the Bible so full of it if He did not want us to notice that Christ was a Man, not a woman, and that man is therefore made in the image of God in a sense that cannot be true of women. So, in the home, man is deputy of God, and should lead the home for God.”

I love the fact that Christ was a man since men are our protectors. They are bigger and stronger. They are not led by their emotions and feelings as easily. They are more steady. I am happy that I am not the protector and provider of my family. Men have a much bigger responsibility than women have been given and a man’s nature is created for this and woman’s is not. Most men wouldn’t want to worship a female god. They want a strong and masculine God like the One we have been blessed with. He is perfect in every way!

Barnes’ Notes states this, “The phrase ‘the image of God’ refers to the fact that man was made in the likeness of his Maker Genesis 1:27; and proves that, though fallen, there is a sense in which he is still the image of God. It is not because man is truly or pure, and thus resembles his Creator; but it evidently is because he was invested by his Maker with authority and dominion; he was superior to all other creatures; Genesis 1:28. This is still retained; and this the apostle evidently refers to in the passage before us, and this he says should be recognized and regarded.”

The only reason women have so much “power” today is because men have given it to them. They could have never gotten it if men didn’t allow it because men are mightier in strength than women. God originally created man to have power and dominion over the earth. He never has given this responsibility to women. He made men the Kings, Prophets, Priests, Disciples, Apostles, and Elders for a good reason and His purpose. This is His plan.

Barnes’ goes on to write: “She was made for him; she was made after he was; she was taken from him, and was ‘bone of his bone, and flesh of his flesh.’ All her comeliness, loveliness, and purity are therefore an expression of his honor and dignity, since all that comeliness and loveliness were made of him and for him.”

Most women today would despise this teaching. It doesn’t bother me in the least because I love being a woman and I love God’s ways. God created men to be the leaders and women the followers, just our body makeup proves this point. We are the weaker and softer sex so we should be the more gentler one. Women are the more lovely of the sexes, especially when we wear some make up, fix our hair, and wear prettier and more colorful clothing. Men are highly attracted to women. Godly, good women bring a lot of beauty to this earth. We make our homes places of loveliness. We bear and raise godly offspring. As we do all of this, we bring honor and dignity to our husbands and to the Lord.

But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
1 Corinthians 11:3

Am I Teaching Men Through Blogging?

Am I Teaching Men Through Blogging?

Women have asked me if I am violating 1 Timothy 2:12 because men read my blog and I teach what the Bible has to say about this issue. Women are not to teach nor to usurp authority over men and I desire more than anything to be obedient to the Word of God. It’s not a legalistic “rule-follower” thing for me but a love for the Lord.

I believe that anyone who reads my blog for long at all will know that I teach women. In fact, women get angry with me because I don’t teach “the other side” about men loving their wives. It’s not my place to teach men their role. In fact, by teaching men their roles hurts my purpose of helping women become better wives because their focus is on their husband’s behavior instead of their own. Plus, I would be disobeying the Lord if I set out to purposely teach men.

Yes, some men do read my blog and comment on it. I am aware of this but their comments that I allow on my blog are usually teaching comments from godly men who add to what I have taught. I appreciate their input. Ken writes for my blog once in a while for a male perspective. There’s nothing wrong with us learning from men. I won’t publish a comment I disagree with unless I have Ken respond because I don’t want to be teaching men. This blog is for women and teaching them what the Lord instructs older women to teach younger women.

If a man writes me privately for advice, I always forward it to Ken. He has received numerous emails from men wanting marriage advice and has developed some strong friendships with some of these men. I refuse to give men advice about these things since I know it’s not my place to do so.

I have stopped teaching the major doctrines of the Word for this reason. It’s best to learn these from godly male preachers/teachers, in my opinion. All of the Prophets, Priests, Disciples, and Authors of the Bible were men and all elders and deacons (leaders of the church) are to be men so I am convicted to allow men to teach the main parts of the Word and let the woman learn in silence with all subjection (1 Timothy 2:11). And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church (1 Corinthians 14:35).

Women need to be in the Word for themselves, however, by studying, meditating, memorizing, and reading it daily since it is what transforms them. There are great commentaries for further research. I use a highlighter, pen, and notebook as I am studying along with my KJV Bible which I love the most, the 1828 Webster’s Dictionary (I have an app on my phone) and biblehub.com for commentaries.

There’s nothing that can replace personal study of God’s Word and it will shield women from falling for false teachers. I recommend reading a gospel (Matthew through John), then Romans through Revelation, Psalms, and Proverbs over and over again since these are the most relevant for us today. Even if it’s only a chapter a day, women, commit to knowing the Word for yourself.

I am in no way a preacher. I have no desire to stand in front of a body of believers comprised of men and women and speak. I just wouldn’t be comfortable in doing this. I do love to teach and I love to teach women. I try hard to stay focused upon women’s issues and roles and anything to do with the home and health. Of course, I use a lot of Bible to support what I teach but if women are looking for some good Bible teaching, I point them to some great male Bible teachers to learn from.

I realize that this is not a popular position and there are many women teaching the Bible. I am not standing in judgment of them because these are my convictions from studying the Word. If perfect sinless Eve who walked in the garden with God could be deceived and one of the reasons given for women not teaching nor being in authority over men was due to being deceived, I don’t want to be responsible for deceiving the women who read my blog when it comes to the deep truths of the Word.

What is ironic is that when I used to teach doctrine, they were my most unpopular posts. It was always my posts on submission, being keepers at home, modesty, etc. that were the most popular. I believe women are hungry to know their God-given roles in life and I love to teach them. Why should I teach the meat of God’s Word when there are so many godly men who teach it and so very few older women* teaching younger women what God wants them to know?

That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:4, 5

*I qualify as an older woman since I am almost 59 years old, have been married for over 36 years, raised four children, and am blessed with five grandchildren! The LORD is good.

Being Chaste Before Marriage

Being Chaste Before Marriage

Godly women are to be chaste (Titus 2:4) before marriage and during marriage. Older woman are commanded to teach younger women to be chaste (Titus 2:5). According to the 1828 Webster’s Dictionary, chaste means:

“Applied to persons before marriage, it signifies pure from all sexual commerce, undefiled; applied to married persons, true to the marriage bed.” I am reading a book written in 1946 by John R. Rice called The Home: Courtship, Marriage, and Children. He wrote an entire chapter about sexual purity before marriage and I sure wish I had read this when I was a teenager since I had a desire to please the Lord in everything.

Chapter Two is titled “Courtship and the Dangers of Petting.” Now, I realize a lot of you who are younger have no idea what “petting” means! We all knew what it meant when I was in high school. It means touching each other inappropriately and getting the “motors” of passion running which is only to be saved for the marriage bed. Because I was only taught to not have sex before marriage, I had no idea what the boundaries were up until intercourse. Most young couples keep pushing those boundaries and in the heat of passion, it’s very easy to go too far and have regrets and feel deep guilt.

“One of the dangers of petting is that it shuts off serious talk and preoccupies young people with the physical so they do not put their comradeship on the mental and spiritual plane…The movies, the dance, the fad for nudity, and the shameless uncovering of the bodies of women and girls lead to necking (kissing) and petting which are the last step before adultery…It is obviously intended that intimate love-making and petting are to lead to sex relations. And that means that such intimate petting and fondling are for married people.

When people trifle with the human body, then sometimes bodily passions take control and are stronger than the will, stronger than character…So petting stimulates the body to prepare for the sex act. Blood vessels are enlarge near the sex organs and they are filled with blood, become larger and more sensitive, increasing sex desire.” He goes on to write that this is especially so in the male and he needs release somehow.

If you thought it was “fun” to make out with guys, did you know that you were doing this to them? It makes sense why some parents set some strong boundaries with their children when it comes to being with members of the opposite sex before marriage. Boundaries are protection and these parents know the sexual pull that their children will have for those they are attracted to and will want to prevent their children from falling into something that is only for the marriage bed. Many times when couples go too far, the sense of guilt destroys the relationship.

“If you are not married, then do not act as if you were married…The Christian young person has a special reason to be careful about misuse of bodily passions. His body is the temple of the Holy Spirit of God who dwells within…See that there is such reverence, each for the other’s body, that marriage will be all the sweeter because of your present loving restraint…Is there a single man who reads this who does not want his bride to come to him virgin pure in her thoughts and passions as well as in the actual matter of mating? I have asked this question to hundreds of young men. I have never yet met a young man who preferred that his wife had been handled by other men, petted, fondled, embraced, aroused by other men…Do not do with someone else’s future husband what you would not want them to do with your future husband.”

Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart (2 Timothy 2:22).

The Apostle Paul told Timothy how to treat young women: “the younger as sisters, with all purity” (1 Timothy 5:2). Until marriage, teach your sons to teach young women as a sister, with all purity, even those they date, court, and/or are attracted to and teach your daughters to respect their bodies and future husbands enough to insist on purity in all relationships.

Bad Mouthing Women Preachers

Bad Mouthing Women Preachers

There are many popular women preachers today. This isn’t biblical. God gave men the mandate to preach and teach the Word. Many twist Scripture and believe it is okay since these women are winning people to the Lord. One man, I will call Ben, wrote this comment on a post I wrote about a female preacher: “I became a born again Christian man after being ministered to by a woman. She baptized me shortly afterwards. This woman was clearly sent by God to reach a lost man. How many thousands of men have Joyce Meyer and Beth Moore led to the Lord and here they are bad mouthed because of it. I believe at that time it was just a custom for woman not to minister just like it was a custom not for a man to have long hair. Be careful not to become legalistic at the expense of loosing souls. Let Christ be preached by men, women, boys, and girls.”

Lisa Bevere, a very popular teacher/preacher, wrote this on her Facebook page the other day: “I remember I used to hear all of these as reasons why women shouldn’t be allowed to preach; my friend never limit yourself to a man-made label. Find freedom in the identity and life Jesus purchased for you. He restores that which was lost at the fall. Whatever it is you have need of, go to the Word of God and get it.” It was under a poster of hers that read, “Never resign yourself to a designation of unfit, gullible, and easy to deceive.”

God is the one who said that woman are easily deceived and He is the One who created us. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression (1 Timothy 2:14). This is one of the reasons He gave for women to not teach nor be in authority over men but be silent in the church. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence (1 Timothy 2:12). For this reason, I will never listen or learn from Lisa. I encourage you not to either since she mocks the clear teaching of the Word of God as many popular women teachers/preachers do today.

These women may be “winning” people to the Lord but they are disobeying God’s clear commands in the mean time. We should never believe that it is okay to disregard and disobey God just because our ministry is successful. Everything must be measured by the Word of God.

Another man wrote this comment in response to Ben’s comment: “I hope you are well. Your argument about if Beth Moore’s works were not blessed by God it would of dried up a long time ago is incorrect. Mormons, Islam, Jehovah’s Witnesses, to name a few, are still here and increasing in numbers. Why haven’t their works dried up? You can’t understand God fully. Praise be to God that He gave us His love letter, His Word and ONLY His Word is our standard. To be for God and follow Jesus is to check everything with God’s Word.

Sorry to say Beth Moore does not measure up. Reading your comment, I honestly don’t think you grasped exactly what Josh (another man’s comment) was saying. He was saying that God has laid out the pattern for who is to teach and who is not, and Beth Moore violates that pattern. Even without all of her heresy, let alone her association with known false teachers, that alone is enough to call her out. This is ‘pointing fingers,’ it’s simply speaking the truth. If that is judging then I guess Jesus, the apostle Paul, Peter, James, and any one else who pointed false teachers are judging as well.”

Why do I name these women who are unashamedly disobeying or adding things to the the clear teachings of the Word? In order to warn all of you women who are learning from them. Compromising on parts of the Word that one doesn’t like is a slippery slope and is not a slope you want to be on. I have seen too many abandon their faith due to believing untruths and I don’t want this to happen to you.

For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables.
2 Timothy 4:3, 4

***If you love the truth of God’s Word and are tired of all the watering down of Scripture, feel free to join the chat room to have fellowship with like-minded sisters in Christ, but you must fill out the application in order to be accepted. We want all women to know what we believe and are in agreement. Thank you!

Temperate in All Things

Temperate in All Things

We live in a time of excess. We eat too much. We are entertained too much. We own too much. We sleep too much. We work too much. We spend too much money. We eat too much junk food. We shop too much. We spend too much time on Facebook. We seek pleasure too much. We are idle too much. The Apostle Paul is a good role model for us since he disciplined his body so that he would be temperate in ALL things.

And every man that striveth for the mastery is temperate in all things. Now they do it to obtain a corruptible crown; but we an incorruptible; I therefore so run, not as uncertainly; so fight I, not as one that beateth the air: But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway (1 Corinthians 9:25-27).

Temperate means “moderate in the indulgence of the appetites and passions; as temperate in eating and drinking; temperate in pleasure; temperate in speech.” It is practicing self-denial and doing what is good and right.

Do you say “no” to yourself when it comes to eating and food? Do you have to eat something before you feel a hunger pain? Do you continue to eat even after you are full? Can you ever go between meals and not snack? Do you consistently show self-control when it comes to eating? Does food have control over you instead of you controlling your appetite?

Feed me with the food that is my portion (Prov. 30:8) Every time before you eat ask the Lord to help you to only eat your portion and no more.

How about drinking? Are you controlled by that cup or four cups of coffee in the morning? Has this become an addiction? If  you drink alcohol, can you still remain sober and only have a “little bit” or “not much” as we are told to do concerning alcohol? What about sodas? Knowing that they are full of sugar or fake sugar and are health destroying, can you give them up completely or only have them once in a while? Does your coffee, alcohol, and sodas control you?

What about stuff? Do you go shopping and buy things even though you don’t need anything? Are there a lot of clothes hanging in your closet that you don’t wear? How many pairs of shoes do you own? Do you waste money on things of this world instead of investing in things eternal? Have you learned that godliness with contentment is great gain and have learned self-control in consuming things, knowing that they will all burn one day?

Are you moderate in your passions or do they control you? Do you dwell on the lovely and the pure instead of on some other man who isn’t your husband? Do you flirt, dress immodestly, or act unbecomingly when men who are not your husband are around? Do you watch shows or read books that cause you to be discontent with your marriage? Or do you concentrate on all of the good qualities in your husband and dwell on them instead?

As John Piper preached, “One of your selves will tell you until the day you die — I speak as a 71-year-old warrior with this old self — ‘Come on! If we can just accumulate more of this world, more possessions, more protections, more insurance policies, more symbols of power, more possibilities of bodily pleasure then we will have real life — the only life there is.’ He is a liar. You won’t save your life that way. You will lose it. Even if you gain the whole world.

In the next sixty years of your life scarcely a day will go by when the message: having things is having life. To which Jesus says, no, having things is not life; having me is life. ‘Whoever loses his life for my sake and the gospel’s will save it.'”

If you are a Christian, you are filled with the Holy Spirit and one of the fruits of the Spirit is temperance. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law (Galatians 5:22, 23) We should be known for our self-control and moderation in all of our appetites and passions.

If you struggle in any of these areas and feel like a failure, remind yourself that Christ’s power works in and through you. You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you! You aren’t left alone to do it by yourself. The Apostle Paul told us that God’s Spirit worked mightily within him.

Begin memorizing verses about self-control, for we are transformed by renewing our minds with truth. He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls (Proverbs 25:28). For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7). Do you keep your body under and bring it in subjection or do you allow your appetites and passions to boss you around and control you?

Authoritative Parenting is Best

Authoritative Parenting is Best

Ken and I were authoritative parents. Our children knew we ran the home and they obeyed us. (I made a YouTube about how we raised them to obey us.) Many told us we were too strict but we didn’t think so. We didn’t want to raise spoiled brats so we were intentional about training, disciplining, and teaching them to obey us and clearly knowing right from wrong. We worked hard to break their stubborn rebellious will and direct it towards God’s perfect will. Now, studies have come out to prove we were right in this permissive day and age in which we live. Actually, it’s God’s Word that is right because He is clear about disciplining our children.

“Decades of research have documented that teenagers raised by authoritative parents are the ones most likely to do well at school, enjoy abundant psychological health and stay out of trouble. In contrast, adolescents with authoritarian parents (high on structure, low on warmth), indulgent parents (low on structure, high on warmth) or neglectful parents (low on both) don’t fare nearly so well.” Our children did great in school, none of them have struggled with psychological health, and none of them have ever gotten in trouble with those in authority. What does this prove? It doesn’t prove that we were perfect parents because we weren’t. It proves that God’s ways work!

God is an authoritative parent towards us. He has given us many principles that He expects for us to follow. He disciplines us for our good but He is a loving and kind Father, too. He is our greatest example of how we should parent our children since He is our Creator and is perfect in everything!

For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.  If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons. Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh which corrected us, and we gave them reverence: shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live? For they verily for a few days chastened us after their own pleasure; but he for our profit, that we might be partakers of his holiness.  Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby. (Hebrews 12:6-11)

“Chasten thy son while there is hope of guiding and keeping him in the right way, as long as corrections are or can be hoped to be of use; while in a state of infancy, childhood, and youth; while under parental government; and before habits in sin are grown strong, and the case become desperate, and he is hardened, and proof against all instruction and discipline” (Gill’s Exposition).

Spankings not done in anger and on the bottom are not abusive. Never pull your children’s hair, punch or slap them, call them names, or yell at them. We didn’t ever have to ground or have time outs with our children. No, they knew when we asked them to do something, they did it and when they were disobedient, they knew they would be punished for it. Boundaries and discipline protect children and help them to grow up into mature adults.

Too many parents seem to be afraid of their children and have fallen for the “gentle parenting” movement which should be labeled the “permissive parenting” movement from what I have seen. “Unfortunately, many children today don’t receive the benefits of the balanced, authoritative approach to parenting because society has convinced parents that such an approach is abusive and damaging to a child’s self-esteem. Instead, parents have been told to reason with their child, get the child’s opinion in every matter, and above all, be their child’s friend.” 

We didn’t worry about building self-esteem into our children. We wanted them to know who they were in Christ and how much He valued them. This is what builds security and worth into children because it doesn’t come from what they do, what they look like, or who they are but who God is and what He has done for them.

Remember, the wisdom of this world is foolishness to God. Stop listening to the latest professional’s advice on child rearing. I just saw a study by the “professionals” of this world that said that spankings and authoritative parenting causes mental harm! This is utter nonsense because we must trust God’s opinions over man’s. Go back to the Word of God and do as He has commanded you to do. Love your children deeply enough to discipline and train them in the ways of godliness.

Folly is bound up in the heart of a child,
but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.

Proverbs 22:15

Falling For a Sick and Perverted Lie

Falling For a Sick and Perverted Lie

In December 2014, I heard of a popular “Christian” mommy blogger so I went to her blog to see what she had to say. The first post I read was about being unsubmissive to her husband and being proud of it. I wrote a blog post about it without naming her called Baby Needs to Be Put in a Corner! (I even used this post in my book.)

After listening to a great sermon from her pastor, she did this: After he finished, I stood up in my pew and clapped and cheered and WOOT WOOTED and pumped my fists and well, my church is not that kind of church. And so Craig {her husband} said, “SIT DOWN HONEY. HONEY, sit down.” So then I stayed standing even longer than I WOULD have because Craig is not the boss of me and nobody puts baby in a corner and submitting to your spouse is not really something we focus on much in the UCC.”

A few days ago, this “Christian” woman married another woman after divorcing her husband. This is tragic for her husband, but mostly her children. Women, you must be so careful who you are learning from. There are too many popular female preachers/teachers/bloggers that are leading women astray with their witty and fun-loving writings but they are false teachers in disguise. They tickle women’s ears instead of speaking truth.

On the male/female hour of the Dennis Prager radio program yesterday, Dennis said that when a man marries a warm, kind, and affectionate wife, he wants her to stay that way and not change but most of them do change for the worse, unfortunately. One man called and said his wife became a “Christian” after they got married and their marriage got worse. She got so involved in Bible Studies and was reading her Bible every night so she no longer talked to him. Dennis Prager responded by telling him that the Bible Studies should have taught her to love her husband more not less. The man said they didn’t because she’s divorcing him.

If churches and all Women’s Bible Studies were teaching women to love their husbands, there would be few to no Christian divorces but they don’t. They fail to teach women what God commands they teach – to love their husband and all this includes (being submissive, kind, reverencing, serving, and pleasing). When churches fail to teach truth, false teaching abounds and the Church grows weak.

Marriage is the most ancient of institutions on earth. It was created by God in the garden. “Marriage as an institution has endured from the first man and the first woman until now. It will endure until mankind in this flesh lives no more on the planet…mankind was made for marriage, and marriage was made for mankind, by the plan of an infinitely loving and wise God” (John Rice).

This woman who divorced her husband to marry a woman and the other woman who became too “religious” for her husband will never find true joy nor peace because these only come from the Lord. They falsely believe that they are finally being “true to themselves” and finding the happiness they seek but they have fallen for a sick and perverted lie from the enemy of their soul. “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked” (Jeremiah 17:9) without Christ and living in obedience to Him. These women have both caused great damage to their children and to the name of Christ.

Stay in the Word. Listen to solid Bible teaching. Attend and support a church who teaches truth so you will be grounded upon the Rock of Jesus Christ and not on the shifting sands of false teachers.

Take heed unto thyself and unto the doctrine. Continue in them, for in doing this thou shalt both save thyself and those who hear thee.
Ephesians 4:16

Happy to Say “I am a Wife and Mother!”

Happy to Say “I am a Wife and Mother!”

Once in a while, I listen to Dennis Prager on the radio. I enjoy him because his values are the same as mine and he is kind. Yesterday, he shared that he asked one woman what she does for a living and she pondered for a minute and answered, “I am a domestic engineer.” He went on to say how badly he felt that women today can no longer simply answer, “A wife and mother” but needs to make up some fancy description to describe the most important job in the world – raising children into adults.

Anyone can take the place of an astronaut, an engineer, a doctor, or name any other career out there, but no one can take the place of a mother in a child’s life. If you are married and have children, no one can take your place and your time and energy should be going to caring for these important people in your life, not given to strangers who could replace you in a blink of an eye.

Dennis also brought up something that happened in the Australian Parliament. A senator nursed her baby while the Parliament was in session. She has no problem showing her breasts to men while she is nursing her baby. Why not? Men can go shirtless and there’s no problem with it. Since men and women are now equal in every way, according to feminism, this shouldn’t be a problem, right? Wrong. They fail to realize that men will always have an attraction for women’s breasts. God made them this way: “Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love” (Proverbs 5:19).

Then I hear of Ivanka Trump trying to convince her father, our President, to create another enormous government program to pay for childcare for mothers so they can have careers and not worry about the financial situation. All of these are lies that our culture keeps screaming at us and trying to pull us away from the life that God has planned for us!

God made you a woman for a reason. He gave you a womb to bear children. He gave you breasts to nourish your baby and satisfy your husband. He made you soft for your baby to cuddle with you and your husband to enjoy. He made you the weaker vessel and your husband stronger to provide and protect you. He made you love beauty so you could use your desire for beauty to make your homes places of beauty for your families and all who enter. It’s all a part of His wonderful and perfect plan for you.

The job the Lord has given you at home is holy, women. Since God has created you to be keepers at home, being a keeper at home is set apart and as you clean, cook, and care for your family, you are doing it in service to the Lord and as an act of worship to Him. This culture is trying to tell you that these things don’t matter and you were called to more “important” things but it’s not true. It’s all a lie from the enemy of our soul who tries to continually encourage women to blaspheme the Word of God (Titus 2:5).

Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God (1 Corinthians 10:31). Raise your children to the glory of God. Clean your home to the glory of God. Cook nourishing food for your family to the glory of God. Dress modestly for the glory of God. Make love to your husband to the glory of God. All of this pleases Him and this is all that matters.

“God sanctifies our work. Feed the hungry. Give drink to the thirsty. Clothe the naked. Hey! I do that everyday! Who knew that I could be completing the corporal works of mercy right in my own home?” (from the article “Asking for a drink,” Soul Gardening, A Mother’s Journal).

Why do people today call us radical for following God’s plans for us? It’s not. They are the ones who have radically veered from the ancient paths set for them from the beginning. We are on the right path – the narrow path that leads to life! Never be ashamed to say that you are a wife and mother for this pleases the Lord and know that all of your work, if done for the Lord, in your home and for your family is not in vain.

Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye stedfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, forasmuch as ye know that your labour is not in vain in the Lord.
1 Corinthians 15:58

Is God Raising Up Women to Preach?

Is God Raising Up Women to Preach?

“Could it be that the state of American Christianity is that men have been neglecting their God-given responsibility for generations and now there are not many truly worthy men of God available so the Lord Almighty is raising up women who are seeking after His own heart just like He did in the days of Deborah?..I know without a doubt that there is now no longer male nor female, Jew nor Greek, because we all have full access to the Almighty God because not everyone is willing to enter through the narrow gate of Christ and living out his humility, love and sacrifice…Written scripture is a gift and very valuable tool to point to Christ, but it is simply that. We can’t have a relationship with a thing although many people in church are dedicated solely to the pursuit of knowledge…However, the bible is truly not necessary as evidenced by the growth of the Body of Christ in parts of the world where bibles are either illegal or simply not available…One of the greatest three word sermons was given to and delivered by a woman. ‘He is risen’. That’s in the bible too.”

This was a comment I received from a woman. I have heard all these arguments why women should be able to preach and teach the Word of God and why the words written my Paul are no longer applicable for today. There’s nothing new under the sun!

Are men “neglecting their God-given responsibility” so God has to raise women up? No, I know of many good and godly men who are preaching and teaching the Word of God. Even if there weren’t, this is not an excuse for women to disobey the clear commands of the Word.

What about Deborah? She was a judge over Israel who lived during Old Testament times. The Church wasn’t even formed then since Christ had not been crucified and risen. The Church age began after this and the Apostle Paul and other writers of the New Testament explained to us how the Church is to function. They were clear that women are not to teach nor usurp authority over men and be silent in the church. They wrote that the elders and deacons are to be “the husband of one wife.” They couldn’t have been any clearer and they spoke by the inspiration of the Holy Spirit.

She is correct that there is no longer male or female when it comes to Christ’s finished work on the cross. What this means is that all who believe, no matter what sex, race, or nationality, will be saved from eternal damnation. It doesn’t diminish the roles that are clearly defined in the Word and for the Church, however. We still have different roles and they are good.

Then she discounts the authority of the Scriptures by calling it a “thing” and has decided to make up her own bible. God told us that His Word (the Bible) is living and active and sharper than a two-edged sword (Hebrews 4:12)! It is the same today as it was when it was written. Reading and studying the Word isn’t only solely a pursuit of knowledge as she claimed, but a pursuit of wisdom as well. Then she further tries to discount it by saying that since some in the world don’t have access to it, it must not be that necessary. Then why are so many trying to smuggle Bibles into these countries that have forbidden the Bible? Because they know that the Bible is God’s unchanging Word and life-changing.

Finally, Mary Magdalene and the other Mary did not preach a sermon to the disciples, as many claim today. They were told by the angel to go and tell the disciples that Christ had risen. When we see something amazing and go tell other people about it, we are not preaching. We are sharing what we have seen. Many women use this as a justification that women should be able to preach. I have heard Joyce Meyer use this one! Women can share what they have seen but they are not allowed to stand in front of a church service and preach nor have authority over men.

 Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.
1 Timothy 2:11-14

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