She Married a Monster

She Married a Monster

Written By Matt McMillen

Years ago, my grandma had an angel appear to her as she swept the kitchen floor, late at night, praying.

Let me give you some background on my grandma: she is a saint, who married a monster. Nobody caused this sweet lady more unnecessary pain than my grandfather. Grandpa was an alcoholic, an abuser, a philanderer, and just about the exact opposite of Grandma.

Grandma said she married him because he said if she didn’t, he would kill himself. In her loving innocence, she actually believed him. The terror that my grandfather caused, not just my grandma, but also my dad, uncle, and aunts, was something out of a horror movie–but, they still had Grandma. Just like Grandma stepped up in my own personal childhood, to make a nightmare better, she did the same for her own kids as well. She never gave up.

Grandpa didn’t want anything to do with God, and he didn’t want Grandma going to church because he said she would “find another man” or “blow money.” Fact of the matter was, that’s what he thought about all the time, not Grandma. Grandma couldn’t care less about the attention of other men, or money. She cared about Jesus, and what He wanted from her.

She told me a story about how one Sunday morning as she was getting ready for church, Grandpa said, “I’ll kill you before you go to church!” He went in the other room, got a gun, came back and pointed it at her. She told me that she prayed to God, “I’m ready if you want me to come home. I don’t want to go, but I’m ready.” Grandpa lowered the gun, and said, “I’m not gonna kill you today, but I’m gonna kill you tomorrow.” Grandma said she didn’t come home that day, instead she stayed at a friend’s house.

IF YOU ONLY KNEW THE NIGHTMARE THAT MY GRANDPA WAS, AND WHAT MY GRANDMA PUT UP WITH, IT WOULD BAFFLE YOUR MIND! HER COMMITMENT TO HER WEDDING VOWS, TO GOD, AND TO HIM, IS MIND-BLOWING!

I’ve asked her many times, “Why didn’t you just leave him?” She said she planned on it quite often, and then one night, she had a dream that Grandpa died and went to hell. After that, she completely removed the word “divorce” from her mind. She said she knew that God wanted her to stay, and that He had a greater purpose for her pain.

Had she left, you would not be reading this right now.

Instead of leaving, she used his hate for good. She committed herself to loving someone who was unlovable, just like Jesus does. Grandpa’s loathing of my grandma made her know God better, and deeper. And now, that’s been passed on to later generations. She didn’t run from the devil, she fought him head on, and she has a legacy for it.

So as Grandma swept the kitchen floor, late that night in the 1960’s, praying for Grandpa (no telling what he was out doing, probably at a bar), and her kids, an angel appeared before her.

The story I’ve heard a hundred times is, “I looked up–it was the brightest thing I’ve ever seen! It was transparent and it covered the entire wall! It was beautiful!” Frightened, Grandma gasped out loud, “No Lord, not now!” thinking, in her own words, “The angel had come to take me home”—and just like that—it disappeared.

Now if you ask her about this event, she’ll tell you that she knows the angel had a message for her. She’ll say that she wishes she didn’t respond how she did, because she wanted to know what it had to say…she’ll find out when she gets to heaven. I’m very curious as well.

So today, my friends, know this: Jesus said, “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God” (Matthew 5:8). My grandma has a pure heart, as do all believers in Christ, but because of just how deep her dependency on Him ran, she got to see an actual angel. I don’t know anyone who has a deeper relationship with God, than Granny Mac. She never gave up on what He wanted her to do–she loved Him and her family too much. She allowed Christ to live through her on such a grand scale, that her pain was rewarded with a view of heaven while still here on earth. She is an inspiration to me. I want to see angels too, don’t you?

I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.
Galatians 2:20

***I wrote Matt and asked him if his grandfather eventually believed in Jesus Christ as His Savior and he told me that he did!

Are Wives Raising Their Husbands?

Are Wives Raising Their Husbands?

Dale Partridge wrote this on his Facebook page a few days ago. “The deeper Veronica and I get into the ministry of marriage, the more we’re realizing that wives are basically raising their husbands. They’ve become the mother to an aged male. A boy masquerading in boots with a mortgage and a video game addiction. Instead of having a marriage with a man who orders his life to serve, equip, and instruct his family how to follow God, they’ve got a husband and a father who needs to be weaned off fantasy football, guy nights, and lazy days on the couch.”

I have a few thoughts about this. I believe women are reaping what they have been sowing since the 60s. Feminism has caused so much destruction in it’s path, including the breakup of homes and boys being raised without fathers. Even if fathers are around, the mothers interfere with the fathers trying to toughen up their sons by saying their husbands are being too hard on their sons. None of these situations are conducive to raising good, responsible men.

I tried “raising” Ken when we were first married. I wanted him to help with the housework, not watch so much TV, not eat so much junk food, etc. I had a laundry list that I was trying to train him up with. All of these were NOT my responsibility and I’m afraid when women see a comment like the one above, they will wholeheartedly agree and continue to try to raise their husbands in these areas.

Yes, there are some husbands who haven’t grown up and still act irresponsibly and not as men, as the men Dale was referring to in his post. The only way a wife can TRY to raise a husband up like this is to speak the truth in love to him, set boundaries if need be (especially if his actions are dangerous or destructive), and seek wise counsel about the situation. Wives don’t have a great capacity to raise up their husbands unless the Lord uses their “chaste conversation” to win them “without the word” which is God’s prescription in 1 Peter 3:1-6.

We must be so careful about defining “being raised” since most women are using the term to simply say they are trying to change the behavior or habits of their husbands that they don’t like or agree with. This isn’t our job to do. It’s women’s innate desire to change (raise up) their husbands to their standards and it’s not a good desire. The more we learn to be satisfied with the man we married, the more content we will be. Besides, as we treat them with kindness, respect, love, and gentleness, we will most likely reap what we are sowing.

…and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
Ephesians 5:33

Would Free Healthcare Prevent Abortions?

Would Free Healthcare Prevent Abortions?

Amy wrote this comment concerning abortions: “I am from the UK and so only know what we see of Trump from the mainstream media, so my knowledge is limited and I wonder if you would be able to answer a question about him being pro-life? As I see it, the way to reduce abortions is to support women who find themselves in the position of having to make that terrible decision. I can’t speak for people who make the decision but I am sure in some cases the lack of support after a child is born may be one of the reasons, for example, in the US healthcare is not free and government support is less. What am I trying to get at is being pro-life to me is so different than saying abortions are bad, if he truly believes that why not introduce measures that would help support those babies once they are born? For example, free healthcare, subsidies for childcare, etc.?

“I am not sure if you saw recently that Ireland voted to legalize abortion. One of the quotes floating around at that time that made sense to me was that you cannot ban abortion, only make legal abortions, and I feel that is so true. Rather than concentrate on banning abortions and speaking out against abortions would it not be more effective to focus on making it easier for women to keep their children?”

Trey responded to Amy,

“First of all NOTHING THAT COMES FROM THE GOVERNMENT IS FREE! It all comes out of the taxpayers’ pockets from the sweat of their hard work. Every dollar that is taken from me (at the barrel of a gun, but I might add) and given to people who make poor decisions, is a dollar that I do not have to support and provide for MY family.

“Should not my hard work go to support my family and the things that benefit my family and then allow me to freely give from my excess to help whom I choose to help? It should but it doesn’t because as far as taxes that support subsidies go, there is too much of that here already and all it does is cause the people who live off of it to pop out more babies into the system so they can get more money for themselves and their children but still suffer in poverty! This kind of system actually puts MORE children into poverty situations. History has proven that fact over and over again. It is common sense that you don’t get rid of bad behavior by rewarding it! If you feed something, it will grow. You must starve it to minimize it or get rid of it completely.

“Responsible, hard working people should not be punished by government stealing their money and giving it to freeloaders. This system just creates more freeloaders. As far as society goes, once there are more people eating at the public trough than there are to put food into it, it becomes an unsustainable situation and everything collapses. We (and all of western civilization) are on the verge of collapse right now.

“I understand your feelings on this matter. It is part of how God made you (as a woman) to be sensitive to these issues but it is the soft spot for things like this that make women incapable of being effective leaders. I don’t want to see children suffer any more than anyone else but I can see the big picture and have the understanding that there will always be suffering in the world and the best we can do is try to minimize it.

“The most effective way to do that is to outlaw sin (abortion) and not reward irresponsible behavior. It is my observation that most women can’t see the big picture and make the hard decisions. It is a fact that since women can vote and have a say in how things are managed, it is playing a big part in the decline and ultimate coming failure of our civilization. Europe has almost fallen due in much part to the women leading over there and the USA is not far behind. I understand your soft heart in these matters but I hope you can open you eyes to see that more ‘free healthcare, subsidies for childcare, etc.’ are not the answer. They just make the problem worse.”

For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat.
2 Thessalonians 3:10

The Baby Boom Generation Started the Depravity

The Baby Boom Generation Started the Depravity

“Baby boomers are the generation that inherited a prosperous country and leave behind a country bankrupted and drowning in debt. They inherited strong nuclear families and leave behind a long, sad trail of divorce and broken homes. They inherited relatively strong churches and leave behind decaying and empty ones. They decimated our political and social institutions, and now, in their final act, will try to place the blame on the generation they failed to raise.” (Matt Walsh)

I am from the baby boom generation. My parents were the last decent generation. Most of them grew up in intact families, the majority of people worked hard (they had to or they would starve) and only bought what they could afford, mothers were full-time homemakers, and everyone knew what was right and what was wrong.

Then came the sexual revolution in the 60s. Monogamy was boring, women needed to become like men and get away from their homes and children, government “owed” them free stuff, and if one wasn’t happy in the marriage, then divorce and sadly, all of these things have infiltrated the churches. It was a poison (sin) that has continued to grow stronger, more evil, and more pervasive.

My parents had no clue what the “parties” were like when I was in high school. The kids were sleeping around, smoking pot, and getting drunk. Sure there were people in my parent’s generation that did these things but not on a massive scale like in my generation and every generation since then and everyone in my parent’s generation knew these things were wrong.

So our country is now like Sodom and Gomorrah. Many of us are like Lot: “For that righteous man dwelling among them, in seeing and hearing, vexed (tormented) his righteous soul from day to day with their unlawful deeds” (2 Peter 2:8). I was watching the playoff basketball game the other night for a few minutes and saw two wicked commercials during the game. One promoted gay marriage and had two women kissing and the other one promoted the women’s basketball league by showing pictures of the Women’s March, gay pride, and sponsored by Planned Parenthood. This torments my righteous soul (and yes, I am righteous because I am clothed in Jesus Christ).

I am grieved when I see a show (This is Us) that many Christians “love” that began with a scene of a man’s naked behind, a threesome going on in a bed, and some women standing around in bras and underwear. I quickly decided it was not the show for me since we are to dwell on the pure and lovely and “abstain from all appearance of evil” (1 Thessalonians 5:22). Do you abstain from ALL appearance of evil or are you entertained by it?

How bad is it going to get before Christians get rid of their televisions? How bad are public schools going to have to get before Christians pull their children out? If your children are in public schools, they are being influenced by the children around them and what these children are seeing on screens. Men kissing men will be completely normal behavior for them and so will men wanting to be women and vice versa.

We are called to be set apart and holy even if we live in Sodom and Gomorrah. As we see churches grow lukewarm (become more like cruise ships instead of battleships) and give up truth for something more palatable to the masses, we must not allow the same thing to happen to us.

Stay strong in the Lord, women. Be in the Bible daily and allow God speak to you from it. Pray fervently for the saints to be faithful. (Have you ever noticed how often the Apostle Paul encourages us to pray for the saints?) Dwell on the good and the lovely in the land and don’t allow the pollution of the world into your home. Continually speak truth to your children and marinate them in Jesus. Let them see the joy of Him in your life!

We were never promised a “godly” nation and we are far from one now but we must never lose hope since King Jesus is still on His throne and He promises to never leave nor forsake us.

The Lord knoweth how to deliver the godly out of temptations, and to reserve the unjust unto the day of judgment to be punished.
2 Peter 2:9

Wisdom About Our President From Mychal Massie

Wisdom About Our President From Mychal Massie

Official portrait of President Donald J. Trump, Friday, October 6, 2017. (Official White House photo by Shealah Craighead)

Politics isn’t something I am very involved in anymore. It’s become too ugly for me but I do pray for our president often since I know he needs it and we are commanded to do so. I had originally thought this article was written by Charles Krauthammer but was told it was not. It was written by Mychal Massie from his blog “All Daily Rants.” “Mychal S. Massie is an ordained minister who spent 13 years in full-time Christian Ministry. Today he serves as founder and Chairman of the Racial Policy Center (RPC), a think tank he officially founded in September 2015. RPC advocates for a colorblind society.” He is a born again Christian.

A different take on Donald Trump: (a non-political agenda)

Trump Is Not A Liberal or Conservative, He’s a “Pragmatist.” (Definition: A pragmatist is someone who is practical and focused on reaching a goal. A pragmatist usually has a straightforward, matter-of-fact approach and doesn’t let emotion distract him or her.)

We recently enjoyed a belated holiday dinner with friends at the home of other friends. The dinner conversation varied from discussions about antique glass and china to theology and politics. At one point, reference was made to Donald Trump being a conservative, to which I responded that Trump is not a conservative. I said that I neither view nor do I believe Trump views himself as a conservative. I stated it was my opinion that Trump is a pragmatist. He sees a problem and understands it must be fixed. He doesn’t see the problem as liberal or conservative, he sees it only as a problem. That is a quality that should be admired and applauded, not condemned. But I get ahead of myself.

Viewing problems from a Liberal perspective has resulted in the creation of more problems, more entitlement programs, more victims, more government, more political correctness, and more attacks on the working class in all economic strata.

Viewing things according to the so-called Republican conservative perspective has brought continued spending and globalism to the detriment of American interests and well being, denial of what the real problems are, weak, ineffective, milquetoast, leadership that amounts to Barney Fife Deputy Sheriff, appeasement oriented and afraid of its own shadow. In brief, it has brought liberal ideology with a pachyderm as a mascot juxtaposed to the a** of the Democrat Party.

Immigration isn’t a Republican problem, it isn’t a Liberal problem, it is a problem that threatens the very fabric and infrastructure of America. It demands a pragmatic approach not an approach that is intended to appease one group or another.

The impending collapse of the economy wasn’t a Liberal or Conservative problem, it is an American problem. That said, until it is viewed as a problem that demands a common sense approach to resolution, it will never be fixed because the Democrats and Republicans know only one way to fix things and the longevity of their impracticality has proven to have no lasting effect. Successful businessmen like Donald Trump find ways to make things work, they do not promise to accommodate.

Trump uniquely understands that China’s manipulation of currency is not a Republican problem or a Democrat problem. It is a problem that threatens our financial stability and he understands the proper balance needed to fix it. Here again, successful businessmen, like Trump, who have weathered the changing tides of economic reality understand what is necessary to make business work, and they, unlike both sides of the political aisle, know that if something doesn’t work, you don’t continue trying to make it work hoping that at some point it will.

As a pragmatist, Donald Trump hasn’t made wild pie-in-the-sky promises of a cell phone in every pocket, free college tuition, and a $15 hour minimum wage for working the drive-through at Carl’s Hamburgers.

I argue that America needs pragmatists because pragmatists see a problem and find ways to fix them. They do not see a problem and compound it by creating more problems.

You may not like Donald Trump, but I suspect that the reason some people do not like him is because:

(1) he is antithetical to the “good old boy” method of brokering backroom deals that fatten the coffers of politicians;

(2) they are unaccustomed to hearing a president speak who is unencumbered by the financial shackles of those who he owes vis-a-vis donations;

(3) he is someone who is free of idiomatic political ideology;

(4) he says what he is thinking, is unapologetic for his outspoken thoughts, speaks very straightforward using everyday language that can be understood by all (and is offensive to some who dislike him anyway) making him a great communicator, for the most part, does what he says he will do and;

(5) he is someone who understands that it takes more than hollow promises and political correctness to make America great again.

Listening to Hillary Clinton and Bernie Sanders talk about fixing America is like listening to two lunatics trying to “out crazy” one another. Jeb Bush, John Kasich and Marco Rubio are owned lock, stock, and barrel by the bankers, corporations, and big dollar donors funding their campaigns. Bush can deny it, but common sense tells anyone willing to face facts is that people don’t give tens of millions without expecting something in return.

We have had Democrats and Republican ideologues and what has it brought us? Are we better off today or worse off? Has it happened overnight or has it been a steady decline brought on by both parties?

I submit that a pragmatist is just what America needs right now. People are quick to confuse and despise confidence as arrogance, but that is common among those who have never accomplished anything in their lives (or politicians who never really solved a problem, because it’s better to still have an “issue(s) to be solved,” so re-elect me to solve it, (which never happens) and those who have always played it safe (again, all politicians) not willing to risk failure, to try and achieve success).

Donald Trump put his total financial empire at risk in running for president and certainly did not need or possibly even want the job; that says it all. He wants success for the U.S. and her citizens because he loves his country.

I exhort therefore, that, first of all, supplications, prayers, intercessions, and giving of thanks, be made for all men; For kings, and for all that are in authority; that we may lead a quiet and peaceable life in all godliness and honesty.
1 Timothy 2:1, 2

No Problem with Beth Moore Being the President of the SBC?

No Problem with Beth Moore Being the President of the SBC?

This is from this article from Christianity Today and Pastor Dwight McKissic sees zero problem with putting Beth Moore as president over the Southern Baptist Convention. “To elect Beth Moore  would do more to heal our Convention, seal women within our convention who have lost hope and right historic patterns of wrong toward women, without compromising qualifications, integrity, competency, or Scripture. The questions are, ‘Are we there yet?’ or do we have to wait 100 more years and experience more of God’s judgment?”

I guess he has never read this verse: “As for my people, children are their oppressors, and women rule over them. O my people, they which lead thee cause thee to err, and destroy the way of thy paths.” (Is. 3:12) How about this verse? “But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence” (1 Timothy 2:12)

Lindsay Harold had a great response to this article:

“Quite apart from her sex, she’s a terrible Bible teacher. You would think doctrinal soundness would be an important qualification for church leadership, even if you ignore the fact that she’s a woman. She’s a blatant false teacher who values emotion more than sound doctrine. She says virtually nothing of any substance. It’s all mindless emotional gibberish with her.

“Of course, she should have been disqualified without even consideration based on the fact that she’s a woman and the Bible is clear that church leadership are to be male (among other qualifications) and that women are not to hold spiritual authority over men.

“My family left the Nazarene church several years ago when they elected a woman to General Superintendent over the entire denomination (one of just five leaders for the denomination as a whole). They had allowed female ministers for awhile, but we always had a male pastor because my dad was the pastor. However, when they put a woman in charge such that every minister and layperson in the denomination was now under her leadership, we left. We could not go along with that or remain under the spiritual authority of a woman. This was no easy matter since my dad was a 3rd generation Nazarene and was ordained in that denomination.

“This same pattern is continuing all over the place, with churches and denomination outright ignoring the Biblical standards in favor of doing what seems right in their own eyes. Church after church falls to the tyranny of women and political correctness. And after throwing out the Biblical commands about church leadership, they almost inevitably accept homosexuality as well within a few years. Once you set man’s rules over God’s, it’s downhill from there. It’s a great falling away. The Bible warned us that the way that leads to life is narrow and few find it. Some think they can widen the path by doing away with God’s laws so they’re not so restrictive. This only creates a false path that leads many astray.”

I believe we are in these times of the great falling away. As culture progressively becomes darker, the Church follows right along. Let this not be said of any of us. Stay in the Word. Match everything you read and hear to God’s Word and obey it with His Spirit working mightily within you. We must not lose our salt, women. We only keep our salt by abiding in Jesus and doing as He tells us to do.

Let no man deceive you by any means: for that day shall not come, except there come a falling away first, and that man of sin be revealed, the son of perdition.
2 Thessalonians 2:3

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Should Christian Women Wear Leggings?

Should Christian Women Wear Leggings?

Recently, I asked the women in the chat room this question: “Would your husband say that leggings or yoga pants that don’t cover up the back and front side are immodest and if so, why?”

Hannah:  “He’s okay with me wearing yoga pants as long as they are worn at home, but he wouldn’t allow me to wear them in public, long shirt or not. As far as leggings, he’s okay with me wearing leggings in public so long as there’s a long, baggy-style dress or shirt over them. He’s not a fan of the yoga pants.”

Amanda: “Mine thinks they are trashy in public. At home, when worn for him, he likes them quite a bit. Lol.”

Kelli: “Mine too!! He likes them at home but not for others to see 😉 If I wear them, I wear a long top. I have always been a modest dresser so I wouldn’t dare wear them any other way.”

Bethany: “Yes, mine loves them for his eyes only.”

Sarah: “Absolutely. Anytime I wear anything above the knee, or too tight pants/leggings, etc. hubby always lets me know and asks me to change. I’m very thankful he does this because sometimes I don’t even realize and he is helping me protect my modesty and my body so other men aren’t staring at it! And I don’t want them staring; it’s only for my husbands eyes. He also says we need to set an example and not look like the world.”

Heather: “I live with my husband and two single men. We just discussed leggings/yoga pants and they were all in agreement that they are immodest and decision making in the presence of a woman wearing them is difficult.”

Kayla: “Yes, my husband only ever complains about women wearing yoga pants and leggings and says you can see everything and it’s ridiculous.”

Verna: “Yes, he thinks they’re immodest because they show pretty much everything.”

Sarah: “My husband prefers me in skirts and dresses.”

Crystal: “My husband despises those pants. Our daughter has to wear shorts or a skirt over them.”

Diane: “A few years ago when women started wearing them my husband couldn’t believe it. He told me he doesn’t know where to look.”

Amy: “I’ve never owned either kind. Our daughter wears leggings maybe a few times a year under an above the knee dress or very long top. He doesn’t mind. She does occasionally wear leggings with a T-shirt to bed, and of course no one sees that outside our house, so again, that’s fine. We don’t really talk much about how other women dress, so I don’t know what he’d say if I asked him. And in our area, yoga pants have been so out of fashion for YEARS, so he wouldn’t have a clue what they are.”

Heather: “His answer: I’m old school. I absolutely think it’s immodest. Why? Well for one, it leaves zero to the imagination. You can see everything if you look. I look away. But like I said I’m old school.”

Jennifer: “My husband never said anything to me about leggings. (I only wear them around the house) but when our daughters hit puberty he banned them outside the home. Unless under a dress or skirt.”

Robin: “Yes, mine would. He says they show too much and are immodest. He also said he doesn’t need to know what kind of undies women are or aren’t wearing under them and also says some ladies just shouldn’t even be wearing them. He does allow them in the winter under our skirts for warmth.”

Rachel: “My husband also thinks leggings are immodest. Similar to a woman rolling out of bed and walking down the street in her pajamas, a little strange. I wear them at home in the privacy of our home, as I’m pregnant and they’re the most comfortable thing to wear.”

Bethany: “Yes, because you can see every detail. If I’m around the house in just leggings he enjoys it so he wouldn’t want other guys seeing that.”

Tiffany: “My husband LOVES me to wear them at home but I don’t think he would approve of anyone else seeing me in them. As is I only wear them to A-work out or B-sleep in.”

Terry: “My husband thinks that not only are immodest but also inappropriate without a long top or skirt or dress. They reveal every crease and crevice of a women’s private parts. I would never disrespect myself or my husband by wearing them in public unless they are under a knee length loose dress. My husband also thinks that dresses with spaghetti straps without something to cover the shoulders is immodest as well as low cut clothing with the breast falling out all over the place. He said he is uncomfortable talking to a lady that is barely clothed. 😳”

Paulina: “Absolutely. It was always a major turn on for him.”

Sarah: “He says leggings and skinny jeans are immodest unless the shirt/dress covers the butt. I wear leggings in public occasionally but only with dresses or very oversized shirts.”

Tammy: “Yes, my husband hates them. He says it’s no different than being naked with spray paint covering you. I don’t wear them or allow our daughter to wear them either.”

Markie: “Our rule is the shirt must cover our buns and front.”

In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array.
1 Timothy 2:9

Modesty Matters to Our Holy Lord

Modesty Matters to Our Holy Lord

Written By David C. Cook

MODESTY MATTERS TO OUR HOLY LORD! I HOPE YOU WILL READ AND SHARE THIS. Clothes were created by God to “cover and conceal” the body and not to “allure and reveal” the body. Modesty involves dressing in such a way as not to draw attention to the body. Immodesty is dressing in a way that is indecent and sensual and reveals pride of appearance above being humble and pleasing the Lord in dressing in a way that does not cause others to look at our bodies.

Worldliness when it comes to how we dress is a ‘silent issue’ in most churches, while clothing is a ‘big deal’ in peoples lives. A lot of time and money is invested in buying clothes, but is MODESTY a big priority in your mind when you buy your clothes? Are you seeking to please God or to ‘look good’ in the eyes of people?

MODESTY- ‘Is dressing appropriately and living with self-control and avoiding wrong and indecent conduct. IMMODESTY-‘draws attention to yourself and your body while modesty focuses on inner beauty, which is reflected in outward appearance and behavior.’

THE WAY WE DRESS AND OUR MOTIVES MATTER TO GOD AND THEY SHOULD MATTER TO US WHO CLAIM TO KNOW GOD!!

As followers of Jesus, we are called to set an example in all areas of life including what we say, what we do, and how we dress. Godly modesty will maintain a proper standard of dress that will not cause others to lust and to stumble! Modesty frees you from focusing excessive time and attention on yourself while immodesty puts all the focus on you and your body.

The most attractive aspect of a woman’s life must be her godly character not her clothes. This applies to men also. We must be humble and modest.

This is a message not of legalism but of obedience! Is Jesus really Lord in this area of your life? These are basic principles about modesty and immodesty. Godliness and modesty go together whereas godliness and immodesty are opposites. Modesty matters to God and should matter to us. Paul was writing to pastor Timothy and giving biblical and basic guidelines in how women should dress and that modesty would honor God and reflect reverence and godliness in 1st Timothy 2:9 when he says women should wear modest clothing. And do not expect the ungodly fashion industry to produce modest clothing.

Modesty is the outward expression of inward holiness of heart. Dressing immodestly can cause others to have impure lustful thoughts which would make both people guilty. It is wrong to have lustful thoughts but its also wrong to wear clothes that draw attention to one’s body and stir up lustful thoughts.

OUR CLOTHING SENDS A MESSAGE ABOUT OUR HEARTS. IF WE PURSUE GODLINESS IT WILL SHOW UP IN THE WAY WE DRESS AND PRESENT OURSELVES.

These days many who confess to know the Lord dress very immodest and do not care what others think. Jesus is not Lord in how they dress and attending church can be quite shocking to many whose holiness that is in their heart has inspired them to dress modestly.

Skin tight clothes, very short skirts, and plunging necklines that reveal so much of the body never can please the Lord. Clothes are meant to cover and conceal not to lure and reveal. Men also are to dress modest and set a godly example for others to follow. You cannot mix godliness with immodesty. (1st Tim.2:9-10,1st Peter 3:1-6) The way you dress should be a reflection of a woman who is living godly and is full of good works. Carefully read these two passages.

The source of modesty is one’s inner character. Modesty is the outward expression of inward purity. Dressing in a way as to stimulate impure thoughts is wrong. Many clothes are designed on purpose to make you look sensual and make you look like a sexual object looking to attract the wrong kind of attention. Friends examine your heart before the Lord and see if you may be guilty of causing others to stumble because of your immodest dress.

Peter says that a ‘meek and quiet spirit, which in the sight of God is of great price,’ meaning God highly values godly character while many value good looks and looking sexy. Think about the amount of money spent on immodest clothes and think how little time is spent of growing in godliness?

Proverbs 31:30 ‘Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain:but a woman that fears the Lord, she shall be praised.”

THE WAY YOU DRESS IS MAKING A STATEMENT AND SENDING A MESSAGE. BUT WHAT KIND OF MESSAGE ARE YOU SENDING?

*Photo By Daniel Gerhartz

Higher Paying Careers Make it Harder for Women to Be Home Full Time

Higher Paying Careers Make it Harder for Women to Be Home Full Time

Are there ways that younger wives can help prevent their husbands from asking them to leave their homes and children in the care of others to make money? Fran wrote a great comment on my post asking the questions if wives can disobey their husbands if they ask them to work outside of the home:

“I’d say that at most, a wife whose husband demands she work could seek out creative ways to supplement income from home, and then work to save money by keeping a very tight budget. Then go to her husband and make a rational case that what she saves by producing a small income from home and not having to spend money for gas, daycare, a second car, meals out, etc., is more than worth it. I think this would be extra challenging for a woman with a larger income (doctor, lawyer, engineer) to make the same case, but even then, there are creative ways to work remotely, part-time, do consulting, etc. I think you are right that cultivating the home as a sanctuary is key.”

Throughout my years, I have known women who were doctors or had other professions that required a lot of schooling, time, money, debt, and energy to achieve. Once they had children, they wanted to be home full time with their children but they couldn’t because either they were still paying off the debt and/or they couldn’t justify all of the time spent in pursuing their careers to give it all up to be home with their children.

This is why I will NEVER advise that a young woman whose desire is to be a wife and mother pursue a career such as these. These careers actually are the only reason one needs a college education since most other women graduate with a degree that they will never use. Yes, teaching doesn’t take nearly as many years but the cost to get a credential these days can be too high for the amount of debt one will accumulate from it.

Another thing that happens with women in high money-making careers is that their husbands don’t want their wives to give up their lucrative careers, thus the women are forced to stay in them and miss raising their own children which is a shame. I don’t care how many women tell me they want female doctors, these doctors’ children need them a lot more than these women do. Besides, many women will continue to pursue higher education and these types of jobs so there will always be female doctors but for godly women who want to raise their own children, this isn’t a career they should pursue.

Women pursuing these careers are also taking these jobs away from men who need them! In talking to one man who is in medical school, more than 50% of the students are women and all but one of the top ten students in the class are women. This is awful, in my opinion. I know this from reading that women are much less reliable in these positions since they want to be home when their children are sick and they miss more work time because of pregnancy, birth, and recovery, whereas men don’t have any of these issues.

Lastly, women feel much more comfortable divorcing their husbands when they make good money. Contrary to popular opinion, it’s good for women to depend upon men for their protection and provision. It’s the way the Lord created them to be. Women are the nurturers and homemakers and men are the providers and protectors in God’s perfect plan.

Unless a woman is a doctor or some other profession that makes a lot of money, it makes little sense for her to leave home for work. It’s much better for her to learn to live simply and carefully within her husband’s income. Therefore, warn young women who want to go into these high earning professions of this fact. If they want to be home full time with their children, it’s best for them to not pursue this career direction.

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1 Timothy 5:14

Women Become Easily Discontented

Women Become Easily Discontented

Elizabeth Prata wrote an incredible article called Discontented Women. Women are much more discontent with the role that God has given them than men are with the role God gave them. This is why feminism has spread so easily, even within the church. Women have been made to falsely believe that they need MORE of what God has called them to do. They want to be men and do what they do!

Discontent women believe they should be able to have careers and allow others to raise their children. They can teach men and even be leaders in the churches. They don’t need to be submissive to their husbands because they are “equal.” Housework is beneath them. Making a name for themselves and accomplishing something “out there” is so much more important than being a wife and mother.

“Discontent! Feminism, First Wave, Second Wave, Third Wave, wave upon wave of secular assault has taken its toll. It has infected women. Gangrenously killing the healthy flesh even while it races about the body calling for more, ever more yearnings that suck the blood from healthy tissue and turns it dead as it stands.

“Discontent is a killer.

“Satan whispers to women that being a wife and mother isn’t enough. That unless you are a leader, out there, in front, you’re behind. That staying at home means you are missing all the opportunities, all of them! … for what, he doesn’t say. He just stirs up discontent with where women are, with what they have.”

This is why women are divorcing their husbands at a rate of 75 to 80 percent! They wish their husbands were more spiritual. They wish their husbands were like their friend’s husband: more romantic, listened carefully when they spoke, read their mind, didn’t like TV so much, and on and on the list goes. (You will never have a good marriage if you don’t accept your husband just the way he is and allow God to be the one to convict and change him in areas he needs changing. You are called to love him.) There are multiple things that women can struggle with discontentment (appearance, financial and living situation, to name a few) .

We must do everything we can to guard ourselves from the lies that are being told to women today. We must seek our calling that is clearly spelled out in Scripture rather than twisting it to make it say what we want it to say. God doesn’t care about us making a name for us, making our own money, and having the admiration of others. He cares that we are obedient to what He has called us to do.

You bring glory to the Lord when you live in submission to your husband as his help meet, bear and raise children for Him, keep your home clean and tidy, and stay silent in the churches. This is His calling for women. Don’t allow anyone to take away your contentment in God’s perfect calling on your life!

For those who never get married, be content in your singleness. For those who never have children, find contentment in your barrenness. For those who can’t be home full time, be content where you are until you may come home. Find contentment wherever you are. It is something we must learn, as the Apostle Paul told us, so learn to be content in all situations. Satan has had a field day with discontentment in women. Don’t allow him to have one with you.

Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.
Philippians 4:11

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