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Mama, Carefully Keep Them By Your Side

Mama, Carefully Keep Them By Your Side

From The Old Schoolhouse Magazine

Hey Mama,

Right now it’s a frenzy. Feed them, house them, school them, disciple them. Clean, cook, answer calls, pay bills, show up, be available, clean up the crises. And there are plenty of those these days.

Fast forward 10-20 years: You’re not young. But you have grandkids. Your children are still your life. But those grands are your joy. Sometimes your kids help you with big stuff. The projects they complete on your behalf, you never thought you’d see the day. Him? He’s a hyper monkey. All he understands is Legos. Or…he used to be that way. Her? She used to be glued to the mirror; now she’s glued to her family.

Yet…fast forward a couple two or three more decades: Your pretty new kitchen counters – your son did those. That meal you had last night – your daughter-in-law lovingly made and served it. The shawl about your shoulders – your beloved daughter keeps it on you nice and comfy. The countless drawings plastered on your fridge – yeah, you have a lot of grandkids. But hey, Mama, that’s partly your doing. You led a life with a very high value placed on family. You invested. Unabashedly you served. Carefully, you kept them by your side, lovingly training them up as God instructs. Children were your life; your family came first. Didn’t you think those values would get passed along? Didn’t you think your kids were watching?

Well, they were. And you are going to look around one day and see the fruit, in full bloom, all around you. They were watching. They’re watching now.

Today – Mama, keep cooking. Your kids love your food. And they love your smile. They love your hands. They don’t always recognize it, but they even love your correction and instruction towards them. Someday they’ll tell you. Someday you’ll see it more clearly. Eyes on Christ. Keep walking, keep doing. May they rise up and call you blessed.

You ARE blessed. And His hand is on your head today.

Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
Proverbs 31:28

Do Your Children Rule Your Home?

Do Your Children Rule Your Home?

People considered us strict parents. Our children did not rule our home. We did. They weren’t allowed to do whatever they wanted. They ate what I gave them: nourishing food. If they were “hungry” as children are continually saying, they could only have something simple like a piece of fruit or nothing at all until meal time. Allowing them to eat whenever they want isn’t teaching them any self-control.

If you don’t teach them self-control, they will struggle with it when they grow up and will want to eat every single time they feel a hunger pain. It is not good to snack all the time since it’s a difficult habit to break when they get older. Many children are obese today because of this. Mothers are the ones who should keep an eye on this and feed their children healthy and develop taste buds for this; another good reason for mothers to be keepers at home. If they are taught to grab for something nutritious when they are hungry, it will be beneficial for them when they grow up. Mothers should be the ones who train their children’s taste buds, not the children.

My children would have loved watching a lot of TV, but I didn’t allow them to waste much time doing this. I wanted them to play outside as much as possible and be creative in their play. We didn’t have a lot of toys or things to keep them entertained but they always found ways to have fun. Parents need to be very vigilant about this with all of the technology there is today that are big time wasters and are not good for them.

Don’t allow your children to tell you they are bored. If they tell you this, give them chores to do. They will quickly learn to never say this again. Children don’t need to be entertained constantly. Being “busy” is not a badge of honor as our culture has defined the word, especially since most of the busyness is spent on things that are not beneficial to spiritual, mental, or physical development.

Teach your children to be hard workers. They must have chores and help around the home and/or yard. Work is good for them and something that will benefit them for life. It is good for their mind and body. Too many children have been not taught to be hard workers, probably because their mothers were not home full time with them to teach them.

After you tell them to do something, check it to make sure they did it correctly. This is called training them. Train them to do something correctly the first time and be proud of work well done. Don’t allow them to be lazy and do things in a half-hearted way. No boss will appreciate this when your sons grow up and no husband will appreciate this when your daughters grow up.

John Piper taught, “Parents who do not teach their children to obey God’s appointed authorities prepare them for a life out of step with God’s word — a life out of step with the very gospel they desire to emphasize.” Our job as parents is to break our children’s stubborn, rebellious, and sinful will and replace it with a will that first wants to please and obey their parents and when they grow older with a will that wants to please and obey the Lord.

You are teaching your children to control their fleshly desires so that when they grow up and are walking in Truth, they will easily be able to walk in Spirit, not giving into the desires of the flesh. We are commanded to “cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God” (2 Corinthians 7:1). It is a whole lot easier for people to be able to do this is if they were taught as a child to hate what is evil and not of the Lord but instead cling to what is good and walk in obedience to the Lord.

One purpose of marriage is to raise up godly offspring (Malachi 2:15). Your job, mothers, is to raise up godly offspring. Do everything you can to make this easier for your children. Never neglect teaching them about the Lord all throughout the day. Your children will rise up and call you blessed if you do this.

You shall teach them diligently to your children,
and shall talk of them when you sit in your house,
and when you walk by the way,
and when you lie down, and when you rise.

Deuteronomy 6:7

Do Kids NEED a College Experience?

Do Kids NEED a College Experience?

Jana Duggar just turned 28 years old. There was a post on the Duggar Facebook page wishing her Happy Birthday. Of course, there were many critical comments directed towards the Duggars under this post. Here is one that stood out to me:

“I would really like to see at least one of the Duggar girls go out on their own, without needing a man. Go away to college, or university and experience life in the outside world! You don’t need to wait for a man!!! These girls rush into marriage, because they’ve been in the Duggar compound their whole lives, without experiencing the outside world, without the Duggar clan. Spread your wings and be an independent woman and find love the normal way.”

Our culture acts like going to college is a rite of passage for young adults and needing a man is deeply frowned upon as if its a bad thing. Do young adults need to go away to colleges or universities to “experience the outside world?” Is this an “experience” that we should all want for our children even if they don’t know what they want to do with their lives and our daughters only desire to be wives and mothers?

This is what Matt Walsh had to say about it:

“You can’t spend $70,000 for an experience!…What is the experience in most colleges these days? …Moral degradation, casual sex, STDs, and maybe some liver damage.” He mentioned the humanistic teaching that they will receive in most colleges, too. So is Jana missing out on life since she isn’t going to college but staying home with her family which is the way that its been for all women since time began up until a few generations ago?

There’s nothing biblical about young women going away to college. I am not calling it sin but the women learn nothing about godly womanhood unless they go to a strong Christian college, which there are very few. They will not learn how to have a strong marriage. They will not be taught how to raise children. They will not be taught to be modest, discreet, good, chaste, sober, or a keeper at home. They are taught the complete opposite!

They will be taught to be strong apart from the Lord and independent of Him and in no need of a man. In fact, they will be taught that there’s no differences between men and women and be encouraged to be a man and take on his role. They will be taught about birth control, overpopulation, and the inconvenience of  having children. They will be taught to pursue careers so they can make a name for themselves and have money of their own. They will be taught nothing about God’s ordained role for them but instead, spend a lot of money for their college education and gain a mountain of debt. In my day, college was affordable and not so humanistic but it is not this way anymore.

The Duggar young women want to be married and have children. This is all they want to do. It’s all I ever wanted to do. It’s a God-given desire and it is good. I don’t mind saying that I need a man. I need my husband. He gave me children and worked hard so I could stay home with them. He helped me raise them. I am protected by him. Our children have been our greatest blessing and they are gifts that keep on giving!

When women of the world are encouraging the Duggars to get out of the “Duggar compound” you can know that they don’t have the Lord’s interests in mind at all. No, they just have their selfish, culturally-correct ambitions in mind instead that can’t compare to God’s role for women. Yes, there are a few who are called to singleness but they are to use their singleness for the work of the Lord, not their selfish ambitions.

What can be more important than being a help meet to a godly man who provides for and protects his family and raise godly offspring for the next generation? Nothing and everything good and I, for one, am thankful for the Duggar women wanting to marry, bear, and raise godly offspring just as the Apostle Paul instructed women to do in 1 Timothy 5:14. This is what our culture needs more than career women. The Duggars have been a wonderful example to many.

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1 Timothy 5:14

When a Widow Wants to Homeschool

When a Widow Wants to Homeschool

“Hi Lori, Long time follower of your blog. I feel called to homeschool my two children, but don’t feel that I can at this time, and was hoping you would have some sage advice for my situation. My husband passed away when the kids were quite young and we need to live with my mom to help with the childcare since I have to work to bring some money into our home for food, utilities, and mounting healthcare bill since my mom is ailing and my health insurance doesn’t cover her. I know that often you advocate for a church to provide for a widow, but our church doesn’t have that kind of money to allow me to homeschool the kids and not work – our pastor is only paid part-time as it is! What would you recommend in our situation to avoid the public schools? My kids’ faith are challenged daily by being in that environment and I don’t want them to be educated in sin, but I can’t figure out a way out of our situation.”

I asked the women in the chat room what there advice to you would be and here is what some of them said:

“Is there a way for her to make money from home? Is her mom in a position to care for the children all day and she can work on formal lessons when she is not working? Homeschooling does not need to duplicate school at home. A couple hours a day of ‘lessons’ is really all that is needed for formal education. They learn what they need to learn through every day life. If this is not an option due to her mother’s failing health I would suggest seeking out a scholarship at her local Christian school. Most religious schools have scholarships.”

“No one is called to homeschool. We ARE all called to bring up and instruct our children in our faith daily and fully in all that we do. To me personally this seems impossible to do when children attend a public school. I know there are exceptions (like very small towns) but for the most part so much being taught in public schools directly counters the Bible. We can’t tell our children that the Bible is infallible and then send them somewhere that teaches them evolution, the Big Bang and wrong, scientifically incorrect and biblically abominable alternative biological ‘facts’. At some point that child is going to question which of these voices is right and let me tell you… a child in PS will absolutely choose wrong because they’re in school longer than they’re at home and awake. I believe wholeheartedly that parents will be held accountable for allowing their children to be led astray. It’s unfortunate that churches don’t support widows, especially in a situation where you’re clearly living frugally. However, you can’t let their failure or your circumstances keep you from doing the right thing.”

“I’d pull those kids like yesterday, then would find a good self taught curriculum. ACE is what we use, and though I am able to be proactive, the whole pretense of it was self-teaching to accommodate the children of missionaries. It’s about $30 a subject. We do Math, English, Word Building and Literature with them. I use for science and YouTube and Netflix/Hulu for history because we can’t afford the $60 more per child to do these subjects with ACE. This is absolutely something a kid who can read and write could execute themselves, leaving you able to work (which is its own issue, but I’m addressing homeschooling specifically).”

“See if they have a web academy/charter school where she lives. If her kids are a bit older they can be pretty independent and it’s free.”

“There are numerous programs online that she could look into it for actually being home is not an option. The curriculum BJU Press has a distance-learning program. Abeka has an online Academy, as does Liberty University. Also, Alpha and Omega mega has an online Academy as well. That would allow the children, if they’re home with grandma, to maybe get some of their schoolwork done before mom comes home in the evening. I know with BJU press, you can do distance-learning for some subjects and parent lead with others. Another thing to consider is that homeschooling generally does not take as many hours per day as going to a public school does. I can get through all of the normal subjects plus Bible with my kids in about 2 1/2 – 3 hours on a good day (and the curriculum I’m using is ahead of my state’s public schools).”

“I have known women who homeschooled their children even when working full time. That may be something she can do, but it is difficult. The children can be given assignments to complete when she is gone, with instruction and assessment being given when she is home. This works better for older children who can work independently. So if she wants to homeschool, it can be done this way as long as there is someone to supervise the children while she is away or if they are old enough to stay home without supervision.”

“If homeschooling is just not an option, Christian school is an option to explore. It can be very expensive, but not always. Many Christian schools have sponsorships for children from needy families or perhaps the mother could work at the school to offset tuition and perhaps even take money home as well.”

“When my children were school age I worked in the kitchen at the local Christian school for free tuition. You might want to look into that.”

The Home School Foundation offers all sorts of grants to help homeschoolers, including one for widows.”

“Do what she has to do for now and pray for a godly man to marry her!”

“I homeschooled as a single mom (admittedly a younger child, though I imagine older ones would be even easier). I worked 50 hours a week and had a 2 hour a day commute for most the time.”

“School doesn’t need to take 8+ hours. As far as I’m concerned that is one of the many benefits of homeschooling. At his age I used bits and pieces of different curriculums and supplemented with ABCmouse. He did some stuff with my mom and other things on my days off. Since he thought it was fun we got to do some stuff together before/after work, too.”

“Pull your kids out of school and determine you are going to figure it out. If it takes you a year to ‘get it right’ – so be it. It’s still better than public school. Let them read books and play math games online for a while (coolmathgames is a good site if you pay the yearly $25 to block the ads). You CAN do it!”

“I would remind her of Luke 6:33: ‘Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things will be added unto you.’ Although we are to owe no man anything, it can be easy to make paying bills our top priority over training our children. We can prioritize going into financial debt or spiritual debt in poor/ inadequate training of our children’s souls. Our Lord is Jehovah Jireh- which means the Lord will provide. I would tell this mother to determine to homeschool her children, however that schedule looks like. Cry out to the Lord for specific wisdom on how to do this. Then, watch the Lord come through. He is an amazing provider! Sometimes, He requires us to lay our ‘Isaac’ on the altar of sacrifice. Then, and only then, we will discover a ‘ram in the bush.’ This will show your children what is really important to you; that God’s Word and His ways come first, and the faithfulness of the Lord!”

…with God all things are possible.
Matthew 19:26

All the Benefits for Children Being Home Full Time with Their Mothers

All the Benefits for Children Being Home Full Time with Their Mothers

Children desperately need their mothers home full time with them. I asked the women in the chat room to name all of the benefits there are for children who have mothers home full time with them and here are their responses.

Carlee: “This is somewhat specific to babies but getting to experience all the milestones firsthand, getting to rest when they rest if they’re keeping you up all night, knowing all the little things they like and don’t like, forming a bond with them (I have heard of some babies getting attached to their babysitter and not wanting their mom), knowing and controlling their schedule, and getting to breastfeed if possible.”

Nancy: “Closer families and more respectful, well-behaved kids. Healthier habits and choices!”

Sarah: “I think its easier to form a bond with them when their mom is at home. Children generally seem happier and more adjusted. It’s not only better for children, but it’s better for finances, too (not having to pay for day care/child care). I know where my children are at all times. They are nurtured and feel safe (our oldest has even said to me he is/feels so safe and cozy in his home). Their development is guided with such care because there is more chance for one on one attention. They learn life skills (cleaning, preparing meals, etc).”

Jessica B: “No one loves our children like we do, knows them like we do, and wants what’s best for them like we do. We can ground them in the Bible, protect them physically and emotionally, and be there for them 24/7. Our home, husband, and self are all less stressed.”

Megan: “Someone trustworthy and available when advice or guidance is needed. Too many children find school teachers or peers more available and get questionable or terrible advice.”

Michelle: “For their salvation and the fear of the Lord to be implemented.”

Samantha: “I’ve heard plenty of women complaining about all the bad behaviors their young children pick up after they start school. We can’t protect our children from what they hear and see at school. The first time I saw pornography was at school; a boy brought it up on the computer (because the network wasn’t protected) and showed me. I think homeschooling promotes a love of learning where regular schooling promotes a distaste for learning.”

Another Jessica: “The bonding: it sets them up for life. Nothing is stronger then a mother’s love. This is how they learn what unconditional love it. Strangers can not teach this. No matter how much you pay them.”

Dianne: “They will be more attached to their parents and the values they espouse.”

Cassie: “Homeschooled children learn better social skills and do not have the drama of cliques and peer pressure. They are more secure and have stronger family relations than schooled children. Children raised with a mom who is at home don’t deal with the ‘home alone’ syndrome.”

Laressa: “At a wedding we attended this weekend, we noticed a marked difference between children who attend Christian schools and homeschooled children. All have sincere, loving, Christian parents. All the mothers stay at home. The homeschooled children were able to interact with all ages of people well and less foolishness. One family just switched to homeschool this school year and those children were more secure and happy than I’ve seen them before.”

Brook: “A child who is homeschooled can often live a (physically) healthier life. The schedule is set around the children’s natural body cycles. My children wake up when their body tells them to wake up. They are not rushed or hurried. We eat homemade meals and take our time eating which is better for you. Our elementary school allots 15 minutes for lunch. Can you imagine being the last child in the lunch line? When a child is not feeling well or is just having an ‘off’ day, you can adjust the lesson plans to allow for some extra rest. Our kids don’t realize what they are missing when it comes to electronics and toys, so we save money by not having to keep up with other kids’ fun stuff. Evenings are relaxing and peaceful. Dinner is ready when daddy gets home and we have a nice meal. Then, there are no chores or homework to be done, so we spend time playing games, watching movies, etc. before bedtime. There isn’t that evening rush. We can be more involved in church because we don’t have to worry about getting up ‘early’ for school.”

Celina: “Children get sick less! Daycare is a cesspool of illness year round.”

Rebekah: “Children whose mothers are home full time seem much more confident to me! Confident of their parent’s constant love, confident in their abilities, and also, more confident exploring and learning new things.” (This is probably because there isn’t the constant competition with the other children and there’s no bullying either.)

Nicole: “Character development. Having a close relationship with their parents and siblings. The parents knowing their hearts. Not being unduly influenced by their peers. Their mothers get to grow in godliness as they walk in the spirit and die to selfish, worldly desires by being with their children every day. Father is more likely to be involved/interested in the child’s education since it’s happening under his own roof and sometimes even in his presence. Better quality sleep and nutrition.”

Molly: “Stability – mother is able to help children with their goals and education (whether they are in school or homeschool) and someone has to run the home. That is the part that boggles my mind. A real live person has to raise the children and keep the household running. There are no elves waiting in the wings. A long time ago I taught high school and when I had girls who said they wanted to be a mom and stay home I always made a point of listening sincerely to their goals and emphasizing that someone has to raise the children. It does not magically happen. I always said if that’s what you want to do (be a mom) then you need to do it! (And these were smart, good girls who should be having children and raising them!)”

He maketh the barren woman to keep house, and to be a joyful mother of children. Praise ye the LORD.
Psalm 113:9

***If you are interested in joining the chat room, you must first ask to join, then fill out an application. After this, you must wait patiently while one of the moderators goes through the applications and may even try to “friend” you to see your Facebook page. Yes, we’re particular about who we let in because we want like-minded women who aren’t afraid to speak the truth in love and encourage one another towards biblical womanhood.

Conforming to the Spirit of the Age

Conforming to the Spirit of the Age

The older I get, the stronger my opinions against public schooling become. I don’t see how sending our children away for hours every day, five days a week for most of their growing up years can be beneficial in any way. They are forced to be away from their home and their mothers for most of their childhood! How were we ever convinced that this was good? Did mothers fall for the idea so easily because it would take away the responsibility of training their children and handing it over to strangers so they could have “free time”?

There is an excellent article in The Federalist about this topic. “But the role of parents was valued less and less in the post-war economy, and capitalists and feminists pressured women to discard what remained of the home economy in favor of fuller participation in the marketplace. The home was no longer a place where things were made or children could be educated by unlicensed amateurs. Because no man is an island, the families willing to sacrifice extra income to have a parent at home were also isolated. The rest were punished by the subsequent rising cost of living so staying home was rendered economically impossible.

Thus millions of children and teenagers received their catechesis from television, magazines, peers, and institutional workers who, good as they may be, have neither the time nor means to develop the deep relationships a child requires. Generations of youth were deprived of the chance to learn responsibility by caring for younger children, while their elders were pushed out or pressured to conform to the spirit of the age.”

Many of us fell for this hook, line, and sinker and by the way the public school system is going, we can easily see that it is not a godly decision to send our children to the wolves. (Teaching our children that something that is an abomination to God is good?) Women left their homes, children were placed in government-run child raising institutions, and the home stood empty all day which is exactly the opposite of what God has called women to do: love their children, be keepers at home, and raise their children in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord.

We see the devastation that has been caused by leaving God’s ordained place for us. “This is the rotten fruit of a demographic where bullying runs rampant: we all become emotional bullies. Social media has revealed this toxic core of youth-peer culture, acting as an acid to dissolve illusions. Middle school suicide rates are horrifying, teen suicide rates are rising, and those who should be personally invested in the child are too busy, burdened, or isolated themselves.”

Let’s get back to raising our own children, as the Lord has commanded. Let’s believe him when he tells us that “bad company corrupts good morals.” Our children are our most precious treasures so let’s begin denying ourselves and sacrificing for their best welfare. This takes a lot of time, patience, and energy but what can be more important than raising godly offspring and the next generation?

Thus says the LORD, “Stand by the ways and see and ask for the ancient paths, Where the good way is, and walk in it; And you will find rest for your souls. 
Jeremiah 6:16

Was Jesus The Gentle Parent?

Was Jesus The Gentle Parent?

There is a parenting movement called “Jesus The Gentle Parent.” Was Jesus The Gentle Parent? First of all, He was never a parent and didn’t raise children. His purpose was to point people to their need for a Savior. He wanted people to clearly see their sin and that the wrath of God was upon them because of it. If their eye caused them to sin, He told them to pluck it out. If their hand caused them to sin, He told them to cut it off. He took sin seriously. He even told the lame man, “Behold, thou art made whole: sin no more, lest a worse thing come unto thee” (John 5:14).

The people living under the Law were fully aware of their sin since they were incapable of keeping the Law. But Jesus even took it farther by explaining to them that they could sin by their thought life. Oh, how desperately they (and we) needed a Savior. Christ came to pay the penalty for all of our sin (the sacrificial Lamb) so that all who believe in Him will have eternal life. Therefore, He isn’t the model for how to parent children. No, He had a much more important role to fill: saving souls from a Holy and Just God’s wrath.

God is our example of how to parent since we are His children, plus we are given instructions from Him about parenting children. How does God discipline His children (us)? He tells us in Hebrews 11. “My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him. For whom the Lord loves he chastens and scourges every son whom he receives…Now no chastening for the present seems to be joyous, but grievous; nevertheless afterwards it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness…” (Hebrews 12:5, 6, 11).

Let’s examine some of the words in these verses. Chasten means to “correct by punishment; to inflict pain for the purpose of reclaiming an offender.” Scourge means “to afflict for sins or faults, and with the purpose of correction.” Grievous means “afflictive, painful, hard to bear.” You see, God understands the selfish nature of the flesh and that it needs to be trained and disciplined with pain. In Proverbs, we are given numerous verses about the power of the rod to correct the flesh. “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child, but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him” (Proverbs 22:15).

Who are we to argue with God or make up a make-believe Jesus? Yes, Jesus was gentle but He also stood strong against sin and He is God. All throughout the Old Testament, we saw how God dealt with His disobedient and rebellious children and it wasn’t gently. Yes, He’s the same God (read Revelation) and He wants children who don’t wallow in sin since it’s destructive and leads them away from Him. “But exhort one another daily, while it is called To day; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin” (Hebrews 3:13). “But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death” (James 1:14, 15).

Ultimately, all who don’t repent and believe will experience God’s wrath which is eternal damnation. If He takes sin seriously, so should we. If He uses pain to deal with our sin, so should we with our children. We have a flesh that is bent towards sin as we see in our children from a young age and we battle within ourselves. Pain is a great teacher.

All throughout the Word, we are told about the benefit of pain and suffering and how it refines us and make us more like Christ. When we spank our children on their bottoms for rebellion or slap their hands when they are young, we are teaching them self-discipline and are training their flesh to not sin. Yes, it hurts but it doesn’t harm them in any way. This has absolutely nothing to do with physical abuse. It’s not done in anger but in deep love for the children’s welfare, future, and eternal soul.

…bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
Ephesians 6:4

She Doesn’t Feel Led to Homeschool

She Doesn’t Feel Led to Homeschool

We were discussing public schools in the chat room last week because one woman told me that the high school her son attends is the “darkest place” she’s ever stepped foot on. I drove past that school the other day and I saw young teenage girls with their stomachs and breasts half uncovered, tight jeans, and short shorts. I grieved for them along with the guys who were exposed to this all day long.

One woman asked what she should do since she doesn’t feel led to homeschool. Lindsay Harold responded to her this way:

“What do you mean by ‘feel led?’ Were you expecting God to tell you through your feelings what He wants you to do? Because that’s not usually the case. God doesn’t speak to us by our feelings. He spoke to us through His word. And His word commands parents to teach their children about Him and His word all throughout their day, wherever they go, and whatever they do.

“Deuteronomy 6:6-7 ‘These words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up.’

“Ephesians 6:4 ‘Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.’

“The teaching of the scripture to our children is so important. The public schools will not do it. And not only do they need the teaching of the scripture, but they need to be taught to apply it to every area of their lives so that they develop a complete and rigorous Biblical worldview. Not only do public schools not do this, they actively undermine a Biblical worldview by teaching a humanistic, godless view of the world.

“These factors – the Biblical commands about how we are to teach our children and the reality of the public schools – compel me to homeschool, not because I feel like that’s what God wants me to do or what I want to do, but because God has already told me in His word what I am to do as a parent.”

Nothing a believer does in their life should be decided by what they feel led to do. No, we are not led by our feelings but by the Word of God. God makes it clear that bad company corrupts good morals and that we are to raise our children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. He would not have wanted the Jewish people to allow the Philistines to raise their children so why should we allow a godless institution raise ours?

We wonder why the Church is so weak today and this is one explanation. Children are influenced by what they are around. I believe this is one important reason that God calls women to be keepers at home. He wants THEM to raise their own children, not others. How have we so easily fallen into what culture finds acceptable instead of searching Scripture for how we are to live?

Unthankful and Vain in Their Imaginations

Unthankful and Vain in Their Imaginations

In Romans 1, the Apostle Paul teaches the progression of sin away from godliness and towards a reprobate mind (a person abandoned to sin; one lost to virtue and religion).  Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened (Romans 1:21). In the previous verse, we are told that everyone knows there’s a God because creation “screams” (my version) His name! “For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even his eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without excuse” (Romans 1:20).

If you notice the first step away from God and to a reprobate mine is “they glorified him not as God.” Every single person knows without a doubt that there is a God but they decide to become their own god because they want to live as they please so they refuse to give glory to God as their Creator.

The second step towards a reprobate mine is not being thankful. “We have never heard of any psalm or hymn composed by any heathen poet or philosopher in honour of the true God. It is observable, that thankfulness to God for his mercies, is here represented as a principal branch of religion, and undoubtedly no principle can be nobler, nor can any have a greater or more extensive influence” (Benson Commentary).

Did you notice that last phrase? “…nor can any have a greater or more extensive influence.” Are you thankful, women? Do you wake up and thank the Lord each day for His many blessings? Do you thank Him that He promises to work out ALL things for our good? Do you thank Him for delivering you from the wrath to come that we all deserve? If you want to have a powerful influence with your family and others, be thankful. Don’t allow the news of the day to frighten you. Go back to the Good News of the Gospel that never changes and gives abounding blessings! Thank God every single day for His great mercies and love towards you and live in thankfulness. Teach your children to be thankful.

So much of what is wrong with our nation is unthankfulness. Many people want what others have. They expect to get things for free and without working hard. An entitlement attitude is the opposite of being thankful and on the way to having a reprobate mind. Even having a victim mentality is a dangerous way to live. We are to love and forgive freely no matter what has happened to us since victimhood keeps us in bondage to what happened to us but thankfulness sets us free. How can a wife win her lost husband if she wallows in victimhood instead of being thankful? Thankfulness is what will draw him to her, not bitterness or unthankfulness.

The third step towards a reprobate mind is becoming “vain in their imaginations.” “Absurd, stupid, and ridiculous in their reasonings, concerning God’s nature and worship; entangling themselves with a thousand unprofitable subtleties, which only tended to alienate their minds more and more from every truly religious sentiment and disposition” (Benson Commentary). Where do you evolution, humanism, socialism, Marxism, and all the other foolish -isms come from? In their vain imaginations and this is why God commands that we take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ and renew our minds with truth.

The educational system of our day is teaching students to become “vain in their imaginations” and it is getting worse by the day. “Refusing to surrender our children to an inept, unbiblical, anti-Christian educational system is not ‘running and hiding;’ it is obedience to God. There are bars, abortion clinics, and strip clubs that need to see the ‘light of Christ,” too. However, I’m not sending my children there. The state has no biblical or constitutional right to educate my children (or anyone else’s for that matter). Moreover, the educational system is corrupt. My job is to oppose it, not surrender to it. There is ZERO biblical support for Christian parents sending their children to an anti-Christian government institution for 14,000 hours of indoctrination… ZERO! On the other hand, there is plenty of scripture that makes it clear that the training of the mind is to take place under the Christ’s lordship.” (Voddie Bauchaum)

“Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ” (Colossians 2:8)

“O Timothy, keep that which is committed to thy trust, avoiding profane andvain babblings, and oppositions of science falsely so called: Which some professing have erred concerning the faith. Grace be with thee. Amen” (1 Timothy 6:20, 21).

Please, mothers, don’t allow your children to grumble and complain but to be thankful instead and don’t allow a government-run institution steal your children’s joy and give them vain imaginations about foolish things. Raise them up in the wisdom and the knowledge of the Lord, hating what is evil and clinging to what is good, and hiding God’s Word deeply in their hearts so they won’t sin against Him.

***If you want to study Romans deeply and learn all about your new life in Christ, I encourage you to slowly listen to Michael Pearl teach through this amazing book of the Bible!

Mothers are the Central Nervous System to Babies

Mothers are the Central Nervous System to Babies

It’s surprising to many when science backs what God has commanded. It’s not to me. Why would it be? He’s our Creator and knows what is best for us. He knows that mothers home full time with their children is best for all involved. Ms. Komisar, a Jewish psychoanalyst and liberal Democrat, discovered the importance of mothers being home with their children and wrote a book about it. James Tarnato wrote about her findings in the article The Politicization of Motherhood.

“The premise of Ms. Komisar’s book—backed by research in psychology, neuroscience and epigenetics—is that ‘mothers are biologically necessary for babies,’ and not only for the obvious reasons of pregnancy and birth. ‘Babies are much more neurologically fragile than we’ve ever understood,’ Ms. Komisar says. She cites the view of one neuroscientist, Nim Tottenham of Columbia University, ‘that babies are born without a central nervous system’ and ‘mothers are the central nervous system to babies,’ especially for the first nine months after birth.”

Isn’t God amazing! He created women with wombs, ovaries, and breasts in order to bear and nourish their babies and now we find that mothers are the central nervous system to their babies! This is His perfect and awesome design. His will is that mothers be the ones to raise their own babies and be there for them continually since they are perfectly created to do this.

“Women produce more oxytocin than men do, which answers the obvious question of why fathers aren’t as well-suited as mothers for this sort of ‘sensitive, empathetic nurturing.’ People ‘want to feel that men and women are fungible,’ observes Ms. Komisar—but they aren’t, at least not when it comes to parental roles. Fathers produce a ‘different nurturing hormone’ known as vasopressin, ‘what we call the protective, aggressive hormone.'”

People have gotten angry with me for suggesting that God wants mothers home with their children full time, not fathers. God is the One who commanded women be keepers at home, not fathers, and now there’s proof to why mothers are better than fathers with their children full time. God created women more emotional and sensitive than fathers for a very good reason. Who are we to question His perfect will?

“As Ms. Komisar ‘started to put the pieces together,’ she found that ‘the absence of mothers in children’s lives on a daily basis was what I saw to be one of the triggers for these mental disorders.’ She began to devour the scientific literature and found that it reinforced her intuition.”

This is exactly what the author of the book Home By Choice found. Those children who are raised by their mothers full time are much more secure and emotionally stable than those children who were not raised by their mothers full time. It makes perfect sense when we understand the mother’s effect on her baby’s central nervous system and the oxytocin that comes from her towards her baby.

“When she was shopping for a literary agent, she tells me, ‘a number of the agents said, ‘No, we couldn’t touch that. That would make women feel guilty.’  Another time she was rejected for a speaking gig at a health conference. She quotes the head of the host institution as telling her: ‘You are going to make women feel badly. How dare you?'”

I was told the same thing many years ago when I wanted to teach about women being keepers at home to a group of women at my church. I was told it would make working women feel guilty, thus I was not supposed to teach them what God had instructed me to teach them. Sadly, few older, Christian women are teaching the younger women to love their children and be keepers at home and the women and children are suffering.

“You can see why tradition-minded conservatives welcome Ms. Komisar so warmly. Think about how they are stereotyped—as backward, superstitious, hostile to science. She shows that science validates what they know as common sense.”

Unfortunately, it’s not common sense anymore, even among Christians, or else so many wouldn’t fight against what I teach. Yes, women are commanded to be keepers at home and raise their own children. Their children desperately need and want their mothers. No one can take the place of a mother in a child’s life. These teachings aren’t backwards and superstitious. They are what is best for the children. Children, the most innocent among us, are suffering so terribly in our country right now.

I don’t agree with Ms. Komisar’s conclusion that the solution to this problem is more government funding for maternity benefits which simply increases the tax burden on everyone, especially upon the men who are the sole providers of their families. Mothers need to stay home with their children as long as their children are under their roofs. Children need their mother’s protection, their care, their guidance, training, and love. No one can replace a mother in a home or in a child’s life.

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1 Timothy 5:14