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The Damage Done By Dr. Spock

The Damage Done By Dr. Spock

In 1946, Dr. Benjamin Spock wrote a child raising book that changed parenting styles everywhere. I am going to take some quotes of his and give a response and try to keep it biblical and from what I have seen as a result of his teachings. The majority of Americans still believe that spanking, NOT physical abuse, is still acceptable, thankfully, since they have seen how effective it is in dealing with children’s bad behavior. “In all 50 states and the District of Columbia, you are not forbidden by law to use corporal punishment on your child as long as the form of punishment is reasonable and does not cause injury.” (Here are each American state laws on it.)

“[Physical punishment] certainly plays a role in our acceptance of violence. If we are ever to turn toward a kindlier society and a safer world, a revulsion against the physical punishment of children would be a good place to start.” (p. 173) This is in direct contradiction to what God tells us in His Word. “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.” (Proverbs 22:15) “Oh, but the rod isn’t a physical instrument,” people will tell me. Really? Please study all of the verses that mention the rod and you will see that this isn’t true.

How does God discipline us? Is He only positive and encouraging? No! “For whom the Lord loves he chastens, and scourges every son whom he receives” (Hebrews 12:6). Chasten means “to correct by punishment; to punish; to inflict pain of reclaiming an offender; as, to chasten a son with a rod.” Scourge means “to afflict for sins or faults, and with the purpose of correction.”

Who are we to think we know better than God? No, God doesn’t mean that we should physically abuse our children in any way. We use the rod of correction as a tool to make them obey and this teaches them self-discipline which benefits them for life. Many things in God’s Word have been taken to extremes and have caused harm for people. This is not God’s way. His way ends in peace and goodness not in evil and harm.

“My other reasons for advising against physical punishment are, in brief, that it teaches children that might makes right, that it encourages some children to be bullies, and most fundamentally, that to the degree that it results in good behavior it’s because of the fear of pain. I have a strong belief that the best reason for behaving well is that you like people, want to get along with them, want them to like you.” (p. 173)

On the contrary, pain and fear are great motivators for good as I shared in the above verse about how God disciplines us. My children were all spanked when they sinned against us or others and none of them were bullies or got into physical fights with others. They were kind to others, respected authority, and were a joy to raise. A one year old can’t comprehend “liking people” as much as they can quickly comprehend a small amount of pain that is swiftly administered for disobedience.

“I don’t think physical punishment is necessary or particularly effective.” (p. 215) It sure has been for centuries before you wrote your book, Dr. Spock. Children were much better behaved than they are now. God’s ways will always trumps man’s ways.

“All schools should be friendly, creative places like the best I’ve seen. We should wean ourselves away from physical punishment.” (p. 33) When I went to elementary school, the principal had a wooden paddle in his office and he used it! Children were well-behaved for the most part. There was nothing going on like there is in the schools today. A swat on the back side is a quick, effective method against disobedience. (I just did read that 19 states still allow corporal punishment in schools.)

“Recently I visited a small private school . . . with the idea of asking children . . . what advice to parents they’d like me to incorporate in the forthcoming revision of Baby and Child Care. In a thoughtful mood, the class was unanimous that parents should not hit their children. . . One child added that if you’re crying and your parent tells you to stop and then hits you when you don’t stop, it only makes you cry more.” (p. 229-233)

And asking children how they should be disciplined is a wise thing? If he asked adults how they would like their government to run, I’m sure some immature adults would say that they shouldn’t be put in prison for abusing drugs, driving drunk, and getting tickets for speeding and running red lights. Children do NOT know best how they should be raised. Why not interview parents of adult children who are now upstanding citizens and ask how they raised their children instead?

“I hope American parents can outgrow the conviction . . . that physical punishment is necessary to bring up well-behaved children. . . [T]here are parts of the world where it has never occurred to any adult to strike a child. I have known personally or professionally dozens of families in which the parents never lifted a hand–or otherwise punished or humiliated their children–and yet the children were ideally cooperative and polite. Children are eager to be ever more grown up and responsible.” (p. 13)

Yes, I am sure parents can raise good children without ever spanking them but it takes a lot more time, energy, and effort and to tell you the truth, I haven’t seen many who are successful at it. In order for spankings to work, a parent must be consistent, firm, and loving. It doesn’t work without these three key ingredients.

“There are several reasons to avoid physical punishment. It teaches children that the larger, stronger person has the power to get his way, whether or not he is in the right. Some spanked children then feel quite justified in beating up on smaller ones. The American tradition of spanking may be one reason there is much more violence in our country than in any other comparable nation.”

No, it teaches children that they must obey and respect the authority in their lives, whether they be parents, teachers, coaches, bosses, and government which is a good thing. My children never beat up on the smaller ones. If they did, they would have been spanked and would have never done it again!

Since your book has been practiced, Dr. Spock, violence has sky-rocketed in our nation. No, thank you. I much prefer God’s ways to your ways since God is our Creator who made us and knows the right and perfect way to parent children.

Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.
Proverbs 19:18

Finding Joy in Motherhood

Finding Joy in Motherhood

If you are a mother, your job, career, and calling is motherhood. It doesn’t matter whether or not you like it or if it bores you, your life on this earth isn’t about doing what you want and liking it. It’s about believing on the Lord Jesus Christ and obeying Him. Therefore, you can choose to love and enjoy motherhood as God’s ordained calling on your life. You can learn to accept that godliness with contentment is great gain and you can live out motherhood heartily as unto the Lord.

Since women have so many choices today, it makes it easier to be discontent with God’s calling on our lives. Motherhood just doesn’t seem very glamorous but what job or career is truly glamorous? There are none! I remember reading about Carrie Underwood’s “glamorous” life traveling in a bus all around the country and away from her family. That doesn’t sound very glamorous to me!

If it’s fame and fortune a woman seeks over motherhood, we can label this pride since their life is only about themselves instead of what’s best for their children. If it’s so they can have more stuff than they actually need, we can label it greed since their life is not about doing what is right for their children’s spiritual lives.

Years ago, I read about Brother Lawrence and how he learned to find joy in peeling potatoes all day long. Learning to find joy and contentment in motherhood is attainable if women renew their mind with God’s will for them. God’s will is for them to raise their own children and find joy in it; for the joy of the Lord is their strength!

Yes, motherhood is hard and full of self-sacrifice but as my pastor taught: “Grace calls us to love. Love calls us to serve. Service calls us to sacrifice.” Loving your children is serving and sacrificing for them. In the end, there is a lot more joy and contentment one learns in serving and sacrificing for others instead of serving themselves. Motherhood is all about serving and sacrifice and this is what the Lord calls mothers to do. He did it for us. We can do it for Him!

Do your children know that you love motherhood? Do they know that you love being their mother? As you find joy in motherhood, you are teaching and training your daughters to find joy in motherhood, in the menial, in the every day messiness and sacrifice of life. This is what our Savior calls us to do and you can do it because He has given you His Holy Spirit that works mightily within you!

She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Proverbs 31:26, 27

Compromise Kept Increasing and Evil Slowly Became Good

Compromise Kept Increasing and Evil Slowly Became Good

Written By Jonas Sikes

Why is this generation of kids, out of touch with Jesus, more disrespectful than ever, not caring about anything what so ever?

Well, lets take a look back in time… not so long ago, there was a generation who started to ignore God’s Word, allow the devil into their homes, via cable TV, and in many cases, had two to three jobs so they weren’t really home doing the “Family Thing”

Compromise kept increasing and much evil slowly became good….

Now their children grew up in a compromised world and were brainwashed into thinking God is okay with sin, because Jesus loves… it did not matter much that God’s Word was continuing to be ignored, the love for the world became the way… the desire for the best of the best, from shoes, to clothes, to computers, to game consoles, to televisions and cell phones…. the Greed and Love for worldly treasures ruled the hearts of many!!

Now because of two generations of compromise, removing God out of the schools, there is now an incredible movement known as political correctness… everything has become acceptable.. everything is being condoned….. much sin is often getting defended….. by (Christians) (???) while the Holy Word of God has been put on the back burner! Kicked to the curb… pushed aside!

Our preachers don’t have the fire of the Holy Ghost because most of them are in much compromise as well… or they have been paid off and bought… meaning they can’t preach Repentance, Righteousness, & Holiness… and obedience… because “Church” has become a big time money making machine…..they are motivational speakers at best…… Church memberships are so important… Discipleship is a thing of the past (sad)……

So you ask me why are our children into more drugs than ever before, having more abortions than ever before, disrespecting everything more than ever before, getting pregnant more than ever before, committing suicide more than ever before?

Maybe because two generations ago, those parents FAILED to train their children up the Right way…..

Which caused a trickle down effect and now there is a counterfeit Christianity where people ACTUALLY think they are Christians just because they think they are… just because they say they are…. truth is… they don’t know God… nor do most of the parents…

When the Bible is no longer respected, and man’s opinions have taken over….. That is why this generation of kids are so far from God…..

I feel badly for the world that is awaiting their kids.. it will no doubt be a full blown Sodom and Gomorrah type of world with no God in it what so ever…..

What can you do?

Teach & preach Jesus!
Teach and preach the importance and the significance of repentance & Righteous living!!!
Be honest, no matter the cost
Stop compromising!
Obey the Lord!
Be the example by obeying the Word!
Quit listening to man’s opinions

God Bless!

Whom shall he teach knowledge? and whom shall he make to understand doctrine? them that are weaned from the milk, and drawn from the breasts. For precept must be upon precept, precept upon precept; line upon line, line upon line; here a little, and there a little.
Isaiah 28:9, 10

The World is Too Evil to Have Children?

The World is Too Evil to Have Children?

Many young couples don’t want to have children because they are fearful and see how evil the world is around them. Should they bring children into this world when there is so much turmoil? I was listening to Nancy Wolgemuth last week and she was sharing the idea that we are living on the dot. Time on this earth is short, very short compared to eternity. Eternity is the line after the dot. Are you living for the dot or for eternity?

God commanded that we be fruitful and multiply and He’s never taken back this command. He tells us that the man who has a quiverful is blessed and that children are a gift from Him. Recently, I have been watching three of my grandchildren a lot. I love it! They bring so much joy into our lives. We often laugh at and with them. I can’t imagine anyone not wanting to bring the joy of children into their lives if God blesses them with them!

Birth control and not wanting children are not from God. The mindset that we shouldn’t have children because of the evil culture we live in is not from God, either. Because we live for the line (eternity) instead of the dot (here and now), we don’t have to live in fear. We have freedom from fear! We don’t need to fear the future since we know what our future holds and that God controls the future.

When I asked the women in the chat room about this question, Lindsay Harold responded with the following:

“Having children and raising them to know the Lord and make a difference in their world is one of the best ways to make the world a better place. Plus, while our society is certainly in decline, we still have far more freedom, wealth, health, and knowledge of God than most of the people who have ever lived. Countless generations before us managed to bear and raise children in a truly terrible world. Most did not even know if their children would survive to adulthood. If they could raise children in poverty, in squalor, in a godless world, and hold out hope for a better tomorrow, who are we to complain or lose hope when we live in far more wealth and luxury than the kings of their time and we know that the King of Kings has come and given us new life?

“Every child in a Christian home is a tangible hope that life will go on, more people will be taught about God, and more people will be in heaven. That’s far more important than an idealized and impractical notion that children should only be born into the most perfect of situations. If our ancestors had taken that view, none of us would be here.”

We are choosing to either live on the dot of the here and now and have the attitude that Gina has towards not having children: “That’s a good thing! The world is overpopulated. We need less sperm count and less straight couples reproducing.” Or you can live on the line of eternity and have the attitude Amanda has about having children: “If every Christian couple that were able, had many children and raised them in God’s ways, there would be so many more Christians in the world – families raising up their small armies for the Lord – more of a majority to stand for the things of the Lord. Maybe so much wickedness wouldn’t be abounding.”

Let’s live for eternity, women. Every child that you bring into this world is an eternal soul and a blessing. Raise your children up in the Lord and in His wonderful ways. In this way, you are making  your spot on this dot a beautiful  and joy-filled place!

Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.
Psalm 127:5

“The Boy Crisis” Book’s Horrible Solution

“The Boy Crisis” Book’s Horrible Solution

God is a God of beauty and order. The roles He has ordained are for beauty and order. As the Church submits to Christ, wives are to submit to their husbands. This brings beauty and order to marriage. Husbands as providers and wives as keepers at home bring beauty and order. Nothing but chaos results when we leave God’s created order.

In the book “The Boy Crisis,” the authors clearly spell out the problems boys and men are having today. “The boy crisis cannot be solved, then, without addressing the most important single crisis in developed countries: dad-deprived children and especially dad-deprived boys. The boy crisis’ primary cause is dad-deprived boys. Depriving a child of his or her dad is depriving a child of part of her or his life. Dads – like moms, air, and water – are essential to our lives. Dad-enriched boys tend to fill the purpose void with constructive new senses of purpose; dad-deprived boys are more likely to either drown in their purpose void, or fill it with destructive senses of purpose.”

I have only read about a fourth of this book but a few of their solutions are unbiblical and are what have led to this boy crisis of fatherless boys. “Help our daughters and sons free themselves from the rigid roles of the past toward more flexible roles for their future” and “The good news is gender roles within your son’s lifetime have the potential for a greater liberation of rigid roles for our son as well as your daughter.”

No, Dr. Farrell and Dr. Gray, we can’t leave the “rigid roles of the past” and expect good results. God has created mothers with their sensitive and emotional nature to be the ones home full time with their children and He has created fathers with testosterone pumping through their bodies to be the ones to protect and provide for their families. These roles create beauty and order in families. Leaving these roles will continue to create chaos.

Yes, I do agree that boys desperately need fathers. I believe mothers need to stay married to their son’s fathers until death do they part. I believe fathers need to make time to be with their sons and model godly manhood to them. They need to teach their sons to work hard and be faithful but they don’t need their fathers to take their mother’s role in their lives and they don’t need their mothers to take their father’s role of providing. This isn’t how God created it to be.

God is perfect and His will is perfect for us. If we expect to get good results in raising children, we must follow His instruction manual. He created us and knows exactly what He created us for. Let’s not mess with His created order.

Thus saith the LORD, Stand ye in the ways, and see, and ask for the old paths, where is the good way, and walk therein, and ye shall find rest for your souls. But they said, We will not walk therein.
Jeremiah 6:16

*I do recommend this book even though the authors write highly of the Women’s Rights movement. They do tackle many of the problems boys and men are having today and give some great solutions so it’s worth reading, however, I wanted to make a huge disclaimer of why I can’t wholeheartedly endorse it.

Sending Children to School to Be Salt and Light

Sending Children to School to Be Salt and Light

One of the main arguments for sending Christian children to public schools is so that they can be salt and light. Is this a valid argument? Here is what Lindy Johnson had to say about it.

“If we are to go and be salt and light, why do parents never put their kids in Muslim schools? Those schools could certainly use some light. Why don’t they send their kids to the bars on the weekends to preach the Gospel?

“And how can a kindergartner who is not even saved yet be salt and light?

“And how can we teach our kids to be salt and light if they are not with us to see our example?

“Do we just ignore the Biblical commands to teach our kids throughout the day from Deuteronomy 6? What about to bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord? (The Greek word here used for “nurture” literally means to educate.)

“What about when Scripture tells us to not learn about other gods? (Greek mythology taught in schools).

“What about when Proverbs warns us against foolish companions and the NT tells us not to fellowship with unbelievers?

“And can children not be more effective at being salt and light when they are not bound to a building for seven hours a day where they are not allowed to boldly and clearly preach the Gospel but instead going to the park with their parents to tell others about Christ there?

“The people I have met who use the salt and light argument do not spend the couple of hours a day they have with their kids to teach them how to share the Gospel. They take them to even more activities in the world. The salt and light argument is an excuse to live the way they want to live. Otherwise, we would be having revival in our public schools.”

Then Simon Turpin wrote this about children being salt and light: “One of the objections Christians raise to taking their child out of government schools is that they need to be ‘salt and light’ in that school system (see Matthew 5:13–16). However, this argument is not based on a proper understanding of the text. In Matthew 5, Jesus is telling his followers (those who believe) that they are salt and light, not that they should be salt and light. It’s a statement of fact, not a command to go and do something. The purpose in educating our children is to train them with the intention of sending them into the world.” (Simon Turpin)

Mature Christians who have deep roots in the Word are salt and light. Children need to be raised up in the admonition and nurture of the Lord by their parents in order to be salt and light when they are mature and grounded in their faith.

And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you.
2 Corinthians 1:16, 17

She’s a Hero for Not Wanting Children

She’s a Hero for Not Wanting Children

Yes, we have a new hero. It’s a woman who was offered a promotion where she worked but her boyfriend didn’t want her to take it because she would be making more than him (which should be a normal male response contrary to popular opinion). He explained that she wouldn’t need it since they would marry then she would be home taking care of the children.

“He then told her that she should instead focus on getting married and having kids because… well, because apparently he got stuck in a time machine and thinks this is the year 1954.” This is when she up and left him. Most women value money over children and relationships. They value their freedom over what’s lasting and important. They value what the Devil, their father, values. God values marriage and children. If God is our Father, then we will, too. He values women being home to bear and raise their children.

People clapped when she told him that she never wanted children. They clapped. How sad is this? They know not God. They don’t do the things of God. They are turning their backs on God’s ways. We must continually be turning towards them; for they are good.

Just this morning, I read this about the Devil. “Yes are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth because there is NO truth in him. When he speaks a lie, he speaks of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it” (John 8:44). Examine this verse with me. Devil = lusts = murderer = no truth in him = liar = father of lies. This is who many people, who refuse the truth of God’s Word, are following, therefore, nothing they do should surprise us.

But Jesus tells us, “And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free” (John 8:32). Free from what? “Whosoever commits sin is the servant of sin…If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed” (John 8:34, 36). We are free from sin but those who refuse Him are servants of sin. We can clearly see the Devil’s deceptions and God’s truth. We know the Lord and that His ways are perfect. We can see the lies many people are believing. They are following their father whose aim is to kill, steal, and destroy. We follow the Father of life who values life and created marriage.

Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
Psalm 127:3

Feminists Have Done Violence to Mothering

Feminists Have Done Violence to Mothering

In 2006, Dr. Brenda Hunter wrote her book Home By Choice and investigated the problems she was seeing with children. She found out that those who don’t have full-time mothers are much more insecure and mentally unstable. Children were meant to be raised by their mothers, contrary to popular opinion.

Now, there is a post going viral written by Victoria Prooday that states the silent tragedy affecting children:

“There is a silent tragedy developing right now, in our homes, and it concerns our most precious jewels – our children. Through my work with hundreds of children and families as an occupational therapist, I have witnessed this tragedy unfolding right in front of my eyes. Our children are in a devastating emotional state! Talk to teachers and professionals who have been working in the field for the last 15 years. You will hear concerns similar to mine. Moreover, in the past 15 years, researchers have been releasing alarming statistics on a sharp and steady increase in kids’ mental illness, which is now reaching epidemic proportions:

1 in 5 children has mental health problems
43% increase in ADHD
37% increase in teen depression
200% increase in suicide rate in kids 10-14 years old”

Here are the reasons Victoria Prooday gave for these problems:

Digitally distracted parents
Indulgent parents who let kids “Rule the world”
Sense of entitlement rather than responsibility
Inadequate sleep and unbalanced nutrition
Sedentary indoor lifestyle
Endless stimulation, technological babysitters, instant gratification, and absence of dull moments

The solutions she gives to these problems are great and useful but she somehow missed the most important ones: mothers being keepers at home and staying married to the father of their children until death do they part but, of course, this is not politically correct to say even among most Christians. Children need and want their mothers home full time to bond with them and they need their fathers’ love and stability. Their mothers and fathers are the ones called to teach, train, nurture, and discipline them.

Dr. Brenda Hunter wrote the following about the importance of a full-time mother in a child’s life:

If a man had a mother who was physically or emotionally absent for most of his childhood – if he was raised by babysitters or a succession of other caretakers – he will most likely not know what emotional closeness or intimacy feels like. So how can he possibly know what his child is missing? 

  “The point of this brief examination of male vulnerabilities is to assert that sons and husbands need the women in their lives to nurture them, appreciate them, and express interest in their lives. As little boys or as high-powered executives, males suffer from female neglect.

“Kids do not profit from parental absenteeism and the empty house can be a dangerous place…many find empty houses a convenient place to engage in self-destructive behavior.

“Moreover, as these insecure children grow up, the ramifications for society are disturbing. One psychologist has said that never before in American history have so many children been raised by strangers.

“While it is not my intention to heap guilt on single mothers who find they must work, they need to be aware of how their children are affected. You see, young children don’t understand that the mother doesn’t have a choice. I would challenge the single mother, if at all possible, to use her wits and ingenuity to turn her skills into profit at home.

“Feminists have largely controlled the public image of women. Mothers at home, who are impediments to the feminist agenda, have been largely ignored. In their thrust for subsidized child care, equal rights, and abortion rights, feminists have done violence to mothering with their constant proclamation that mothering is a ‘low status job.'”

Mothering is NOT a low status job. It is a job given to women by their Creator. Do you see how easily the enemy of our souls tries to deceive people into believing the opposite of what God has commanded? Stop listening to him and begin listening to the Lover of your soul.

When you come home full time, love your children deeply, speak words of life and Truth into their lives consistently, and teach them to work hard, be honest, love God, and be kind. Raising up godly children takes a lot of time and effort but it is well worth it. It is the most important ministry you will have in your life.

 For my thoughts are not your thoughts,
neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD.
Isaiah 55:8
Playing Russian Roulette With Your Children

Playing Russian Roulette With Your Children

Written By Ken

In today’s world of broken homes and broken children, it is hard to believe that our society cannot see that it is the result of the lies they were told and they believed just a few generations ago. Women were told they could do whatever they wanted with their lives with no thought of the damage it would do to their children over time and over many numbers of women working. What is a mother to a child but EVERYTHING to them?

Women were told that they did not have to stay in a relationship that did not fit their feelings, or they felt like they were not the sole focus of a husband’s life, so they divorced without thinking of the damage it would do their kids and now in turn all of society. Yes, women were taught to follow their feelings and desires because they were equal to men, while never realizing that most men were not following their feelings or desires but instead putting their hands to the plow and working hard to support a family that would stay together and create their legacy.

You see, women have been lied to and its the same lies told over and over again that began in the garden. “God did not really say that, did He?” and “You won’t really get into trouble as the apple in front of you looks so delicious…, just eat. Then worry about the long term consequences later.”

We all eat the apple. We all want to do things our ways, be our own little god of our puny little lives, and seek the immediate pleasures over ignoring the long term consequences. Well, the day has come when the consequences are coming home to shower bullets on our children and wreak havoc on our society.

Oh, you say, “But I work and there is no problem in my family and with my kids.” And I say “Congrats!” You played Russian roulette with the lives of your children and family and you are one of the maybe 50% that has not suffered divorce or children damaged because of it. Just keep in mind that the sins of a parent are visited even until the third and fourth generation. You may have escaped, but have your children’s children when now their mom goes off to try to follow the example set for her by her mother?

We live in a depressed, anxious, and often dangerous society because the family unit is broken. Moms and dads chasing their own apples of desires and pleasure all at the expense of their children. Of course, these women hate it when Lori speaks the truth to them and she tries to get them to think about the damage they are causing society.

And yet I hear them now, “Not me! I was able to avoid the gun going off in my family.” Okay, now look to your left and your right and see that only about 50% of families are escaping the dreaded consequences that come when we walk away from God’s Word and God’s values. And you have taught your sons and daughters to take the chance and eat the fruit as a two worker home that surely does provide far more security and pleasures than a family with one dad who works hard for his family.

Alas, if we want to look to why some of our kids are so messed up: eating Tide Pods, guzzling alcohol, doing drugs, catching life-long sexually transmitted diseases, turning gay, and worse yet cutting off body parts to try and feel whole, look not much further than a mom who was rarely at home when they needed her love, comfort, and correction. Look no further than the stupid experiment perpetuated on America by Dr. Spock of lax discipline. The experiment failed and now we have half a generation of unhappy and depressed kids and adults. For there are no more apples to eat. We are already eating them all and not a one of them is satisfying.

To get our society back on track will take a huge amount of energy and effort by those willing to look at the damage caused by moms leaving their children and lax parenting and get back in the home and do the work of training. Yes, just as God said from the beginning, “Train them in the way they should go and they will not depart from it.”

The God who wrote the instruction manual on human love and life has spoken, but will our society listen and allow His Word and values back into our homes, schools, and churches. Or are we in for the next generation who will not only walk away from God’s values, but will choose to rebel against Him and destroy those who love anything about God and His ways? I pray our society is reaching a turning point, but fear it will once again choose to no longer hearken to the words of the Lord. Just because you escaped your sins with no seemingly bad consequences doesn’t mean the woman you influenced will.

Whom shall he teach knowledge? and whom shall he make to understand doctrine? them that are weaned from the milk, and drawn from the breasts. For precept must be upon precept, precept upon precept; line upon line, line upon line; here a little, and there a little.
Isaiah 28:9, 10

Teaching “Black Pride” to Children

Teaching “Black Pride” to Children

“Can you maybe write a post, on your blog, regarding African-American mothers of young children and how we are the same as other women? You see, I am often cut-off from family and friends because my husband and I do NOT buy into the ‘you should teach your kids black pride’ narrative. When I tell even close family (siblings), that ‘diversity’ is NOT important to us, that only JESUS is important to us, they get angry with me…….

“I do NOT want my kids to grow up thinking that the world owes them something because they are African-American and because they are ‘victims’; they are NOT, but they are sinners just like everyone else and they need a SAVIOR. My hubby and I think that this narrative is TOXIC and one of the ways that Satan uses to keep people from truly knowing Jesus. Therefore, I MUST keep my kids, unfortunately, from being influenced by MOST of my family.

“That hurts me a lot, but I remind myself (and them) that my allegiance does not belong to them, only to my husband and children, and we want our children to grow in CHRIST, NOT based on RACE!

“It makes me so sad and angry! They NEVER want to look at themselves to see what they are doing wrong, they only want to push false narratives…..! Its SICKENING!

“Do you ever have anyone else ask you that question, Miss Lori? Have any African-American men ever asked Ken that question? Sometimes I am not sure how to deal with it, and I have lost many family members who have been offended because I will NOT let my children hang out with them.

“They also get mad because of where hubby and I have decided to live….as if we should live next to other African-Americans even if it means that our children will not see and be exposed to Jesus, which is the ONLY thing that matters to me!

“Lori, is there any chance that you can address this in one of your posts on your blog, specifically? Please forgive me if I am being too forward or if I m asking too much or if I am being long-winded—I am trying to find like-minded women but they seem to few and far…..”

I received this email from a woman and here is my post for her. First of all, this is what God states about pride: “Pride goes before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall” (Proverbs 16:18). The only thing that we should take pride in is knowing Jesus Christ as our Savior. “But God forbid that I should glory, save in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, by whom the world is crucified unto me, and I unto the world” (Galatians 6:14). 

When I was growing up, we sang a song that went, “Red and yellow, black and white, they are precious in His sight. Jesus loves the little children of the world.” This is how we should be raising our children. The color of one’s skin means nothing. We are all equal in value and worth. We are all sinners in need of a Savior as this woman stated and once we believe, God calls us saints no matter what the color of the skin.

God hates division among His children. He has called us to be a peace with ALL men as far as it depends upon us. “Black pride” and division should not be named among us; for we are all one in Christ. “Now I beseech you, brethren, mark them which cause divisions and offences contrary to the doctrine which ye have learned; and avoid them” (Romans 16:17).

Raising children with a victim mentality is one of the worse things you can do for them. Teach them, instead, who they are in Christ and that they can do all things through Christ who strengthens them. Teach them that life isn’t fair and they need to learn to work hard, love others, and treat them as they want to be treated. Teach them how destructive bitterness is and how we are to forgive each other 70 times seven times, yes, even the sins of past generations. Teach them to be full of grace and mercy towards others.

In this way, you will raise children who are a benefit to their culture. They will grow up to be productive citizens who hold nothing against others. They will be salt and light to a wicked and adulterous nation since they are not grumbling and complaining about their “lot” in life but thanking the Lord for all the good they have; for godliness with contentment is great gain!

Do all things without murmurings and disputings: That ye may be blameless and harmless, the sons of God, without rebuke, in the midst of a crooked and perverse nation, among whom ye shine as lights in the world.
Philippians 2:15