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Trying to Stay Visible as Keepers at Home

Trying to Stay Visible as Keepers at Home

The feminists movement of the 1960s began because women felt worthless and invisible. Feminists came along and urged mothers to leave their homes, find careers, make money and a name for themselves. An article written by Leslie Loftus attempts to explain the perplexities of trying to be a stay-at-home mom since feminism. “‘Stay-at-home mom’ became the preferred term for opt-out mothers everywhere precisely because it focused on the children. ‘Housewife’ was too focused on homes and husbands. We were defensive enough rationalizing wasting our education for our children—we weren’t even going to attempt rationalizing that for our marriages. We are women. We’ve got this not only without men, but in spite of them.”

Did you follow that? Feminism hasn’t made women’s life easier; it’s made it more complicated. Women have become ashamed to say they are focused on their homes and husbands but God commands they focus upon them. Focusing solely on the children, as many have done today, is destructive in so many ways, especially for the children and if it ruins marriages from neglect. Then there’s the issue of all the years gaining higher education and most likely careers, yet trying to justify all of this time and money spent when staying home full time with the children. Finally, there’s a dig against men as if men aren’t valuable asset to societies and women don’t need them.

Then when the children are all grown up and gone, the mothers feel invisible and have no idea what to do with themselves. (It happens that I just made a YouTube the other day called Spending My Days as an Older Woman without having a career.) I was one who went to higher education – five and a half years after graduating from high school. I also had a career as a school teacher for three and a half years after that until I was able to come home full time. I never thought to find my identity in my higher education or career. All I ever wanted to do in life was to be married and have children, even though I was steeped in the feminist movement. Schooling and careers never held any sway on me.

Our identities shouldn’t be found in what we decide to do any ways. They are found in Christ, who He says we are, and what He tells us to do. He made it easy for us, women, because He carefully spelled it out in His Word. We don’t need to get involved in “mommy wars” or try to find some false sense of “fulfillment” outside of the home that many women are chasing today.

Leslie also wrote,  “An associate dean of Stanford writes a book on how herding our kids in a higher education rat race stunts their growth, and yet we still persist.” I may have to read this book because I agree. Whether people know or love God or not, they are made in His image and He gave us an instruction manual. He has this to say about worldly wisdom: “For the wisdom of this world is foolishness with God” (1 Corinthians 3:19).  Not every child, male or female, has to go for higher education! There are way more negatives to it these days than positives.

“I think much of the problem is that we bought into the Second Wave idea that the only valued work is paid work.” She’s right. God doesn’t say that making money is the be all and end all. In fact, He warns against the love of money. No, He commands we be Kingdom investors and what greater thing can there be than investing our lives into our husbands, children, and homes?

Her conclusion: “The narrative is this: if you don’t earn a paycheck—complete with Social Security and federal income tax withholding—then what you do is worthless. We secretly believe we are wasting our educations, and that we will be invisible in motherhood.” This right here summarizes the lies women have been fed for far too long. God created you and He created you to marry, bear children and guide the home. You are not invisible to Him and this is all that matters. You are doing Kingdom work.

Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal.
Matthew 6:19, 20

Who Do You Want to Live For and Please?

Who Do You Want to Live For and Please?

No one has to guess what God’s will is for them. It is all clearly spelled out in His Word. We can usually figure out God’s will for us by looking at our culture and doing the exact opposite since Satan is the prince of the power of the air and the Word of God is our instruction manual straight from the mouth of God. Therefore, we must all ponder who we want to live for and please. Do we want to go with the flow of our wicked culture (which is being exposed more every day for who they worship and what is important to them) or do we live sacrificial lives for the Lord in obedience to Him?

What is God’s prescription for children? “…bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:4). An important part of God’s design for marriage is to bring up godly offspring (Malachi 2:15) because He wants a family, a remnant, who love and obey Him. Do the public schools do this in any way, shape, or form? No, yet we hand our precious children over to a godless institution for hours every day and most of their growing up years. They are taken away from their godly mothers and taught by strangers things that do not help them grow in godliness. God has given parents the responsibility to bring their children up in Him, not strangers who know nothing about the ways of the Lord.

What about single women? What is God’s will for them? I love what Nancy Wolgemuth said about this: “But the priority that God places on the home—this passage assumes that young women will be wives and mothers. It’s not saying if they’re wives and mothers or if they decide they want to get married or if they decide they want to have children, then teach them these things. There’s an assumption that young women will get married and will have children. At the risk of being truly politically incorrect, could I say this is God’s norm? The implication is, as I look at not only this passage but the whole of Scripture, that as a rule young people are to be purposeful about getting married and about having children.”

So what is God’s prescription for women? That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed” (Titus 2:4, 5) and “I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully” (1 Timothy 5:14). Do the universities and colleges teach any of this? Yet, parents are using their hard-earned cash or are causing their children to go deep into debt by sending their daughters off to godless institutions where most of the students are anything but sober on weekend nights.

Instead of being taught to love and obey their husbands, they are being taught to be like men in every way and that men are jerks, marriage is bondage, submission is slavery and children thwart their goals. They are taught to be indiscreet, impure, and not good by the things they are being taught and being exposed to in the curriculum and students around them. There is nothing decent or beneficial about universities for women that help lead them in the ways of godly womanhood. Nothing. Most campuses aren’t even physically safe for young women anymore.

What is God’s prescription for older women? “The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things” (Titus 2:3) and “Well reported of for good works; if she have brought up children, if she have lodged strangers, if she have washed the saints’ feet, if she have relieved the afflicted, if she have diligently followed every good work” (1 Timothy 5:10). Are the godly women you know known for these things? Are they busy teaching the younger women, helping those in need, and serving others? It seems most older women have continued on in their careers, found jobs, retired to vacation, or anything but what the Word has commanded them to do.

The Church is weak in our culture for a reason. If we don’t stand against the downwards flow of our culture and go in the opposite direction, we aren’t helping anyone. We are called to be salt and light and if we lose our saltiness, nothing will be good. Many women are in rebellion to God’s plan for them. People are looking for Christians who walk the talk; who live lives that are contrary to popular opinion, who are raising godly offspring, mothers who love their children more than their free time or careers and are sacrificially giving their time and energy to their families, and older women who are pouring their lives out for the  younger generation by helping and being an example to them of godly womanhood.

FLEE Beauty and the Beast

FLEE Beauty and the Beast

You’re probably sick of hearing about the movie coming out this weekend called Beauty and the Beast and the homosexual talk concerning it but I thought I would throw my thoughts out there for anyone who is interested. The director who MADE the movie had this to say about it: “It may have been a long time coming but this is a watershed moment for Disney. … By representing same-sex attraction in this short but explicitly gay scene, the studio is sending out a message that this is normal and natural – and this is a message that will be heard in every country of the world, even countries where it’s still socially unacceptable or even illegal to be gay.”

Due to this statement, there was outrage, of course, since this movie is marketed to children. In order to soften it Disney has told us there is no “in-your-face-gay-moment” and it has “all been overblown” and “To not make a big deal of it. Why is it a big deal?” Right here, mothers, is why you don’t want to take your children. Homosexuality is NOT normal and natural.

Satan is very subtle. He roars around like a lion looking whom he may devour. We should be doing everything we can to protect our children from debauchery and not being entertained by it, even if it is very subtle. The women in the chat room were talking about it and I will share a few of their comments:

“How are we impacting culture with the gospel if we continue to support Hollywood’s agenda of normalizing sin with our attendance and money?”

“I try to always error on the side of caution instead of the side of being entertained for I want to be a seeker of the Lord more than a seeker of pleasure.”

“No – you don’t win the world by doing everything the world does. We need to be above reproach (to the best of our ability). My two cents. I am tired of being told I’m overreacting or being a hypocrite. I am doing my best to filter out what I can.”

“Many things started very small like this, like women showing their ankles or their shoulders in the early 1900s. To us it seems like nothing but back then it was a subtle step towards women wearing practically nothing in public. Christians allowed this to happen, they accepted it and it slowly got worse and worse. TV and movies used to not allow more than a kiss, closed mouth, no unmarried sex, no adultery, but little things crept in that were looked over and now there are movies and TV shows glorifying sin. They bask in it.  We should be convicted of this. As we allow sin, and give place to it we give the devil an inch and he takes a mile. (This reminds me of the illustration of the frog in a pot slowly getting boiled but not realizing it because the heat goes up so slowly.)

Our God calls us to be separate in every aspect. Anything in our lives that doesn’t live up to God’s standards should be thrown out. It’s time for us to rise up as the bride of Christ, spotless and unblemished. We have to be the example and as we step closer to Jesus we won’t desire to partake in this kind of stuff.”

Homosexuality is a sin, women. It’s clear in the Bible. It’s progression is clearly stated in Romans 1 and this chapter explains where those who know the truth yet “hold it in unrighteousness” end up. They end up with reprobate minds and this chapter ends with “Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them” (Romans 1:32).  We are to be seekers of God and NOT seekers of pleasure.

Our culture is trying to normalize homosexuality. This is why they changed the word to “gay.” It’s not normal and it is a big deal to God so it should be to us too. We need to stop caring about being entertained and care a whole lot more about being godly and holy. If all Christians refused to see this movie, it will most likely lose money. We are called to prove all things; hold fast that which is good. Abstain from all appearance of evil (1 Thessalonians 5:21, 22) . Dwell on the good and the lovely. FLEE sexual immorality; it’s the one sin God commands we FLEE. Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate (2 Corinthians 6:17). I am not sure how much clearer the Lord could have been with us in His will for us.

Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world; Looking for that blessed hope, and the glorious appearing of the great God and our Saviour Jesus Christ.
Titus 2:12, 13

Teaching Children About Pornography

Teaching Children About Pornography

Parents must teach and warn their children about pornography. All children will be exposed to it so it is imperative for the parents to know how to go about it. In No Greater Joy’s latest magazine, Michael’s daughter Rebekah Anast shared how her dad taught this to his children. It’s so important so I thought I would post it here.

One day when I was 8 years old, I went down to the mailbox to get the mail. Lying in the grass near the mailbox was a magazine with a solid white cover. I assumed some of our mail had escaped the mailman and I went over to pick it up. The magazine fell open in the middle, and for about three seconds I stared in amazed horror at the hard porn in front of me. A dozen conversations and statements that my dad had made about such things came rushing to my mind.

Once during a trip to Memphis with our family, I recalled seeing on a downtown street a half-dressed woman being jerked around and slapped by a man in a pink suit.

“She’s a prostitute,” Dad told us. “He’s a pimp. She works for him, selling her body to lascivious men who will burn in hell so that she can continue to buy drugs to satisfy her addiction. God hates prostitution and pornography, kids. It destroys lives and families.” We kids stared in horror at the man and woman who were now stumbling into a building with neon signs and blacked-out windows.

“Do you know what pornography is?” Dad persisted. We stared at him, still shaken by what we had just seen. “It is photographs of naked men and women… and other things I won’t even tell you about.”

“Why do those women let people take pictures of them when they are naked?” we asked.
“Most of those women were molested when they were kids, by their uncles, their brothers, by friends, or even by complete strangers. They have no self-value. They feel worthless, and so they don’t guard their bodies. Instead, they sell their bodies for money to worthless men who are molesting other women and girls.” We all swallowed hard and shuddered.

“God hates this kind of sin so much that when the children of Israel went into Canaan, he told Joshua to kill every man, woman, and child because they had all been involved in sexual sins. God says it is better for a man to have a big grinding stone tied around his neck and be thrown into the sea to drown than to face the wrath of God that will come on him if he messes with little kids that way.” We all nodded. It would be a just retribution for such an evil person.

“Whenever you see pornography, kids, I want you to turn away from it—don’t look at it, because it will stay in your mind and bother you for years. Wad it up and burn it, or throw it away so no one else will ever see it. And don’t trust anybody. If an uncle or cousin wants to talk to you about this kind of stuff—or touch you—I want you to scream at the top of your voice and run away and tell on them. Don’t be polite or wait to see if he’s really a bad guy or not. The first minute you feel as though something is wrong, run away from that person.” Dad went on to give us detailed instructions about protecting ourselves and our minds. All of this came to my memory the moment that pornographic magazine fell open in my 8-year-old hands. Even though I had never seen pornography before, I instantly knew what it was. A righteous indignation swelled up inside of me, and I crumpled the magazine up as small as I could get it and carried it home. I took it straight to Dad and told him about it. We set it on fire, and I felt a grim satisfaction for having destroyed one small piece of evil in my world.
When my brothers were 10 and 12 years old, they found pornography stapled to the trees in the woods where some filthy hunter had left it for the Amish kids to find. My brothers reacted the same way I had. They approached each tree with their back to it, pulled down the pages and wadded them up into tight balls, stuffed them in their backpacks, and brought them home to burn.

I have often wondered what our reaction to pornography would have been if Dad had never told us about it. What if we hadn’t known what kind of people create it and use it and what God thinks about it? He even told us what to do WHEN we ran into it—not IF! Dad knew the world was so corrupt that there was no way he could shield us entirely. So he equipped us to handle the corruption ourselves. If I had never heard of pornography that day when I picked up the magazine, I think my own shocked curiosity would have led me to turn the pages and begin the searing of my conscience. Then my sense of guilt would have kept me from telling my parents what I had found. And what would I have done with the magazine? Hidden it? I don’t know. But the truth and knowledge I held that day assured my freedom and safety. I thank God so much for what Dad did for us!

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When I was 14, we (my brothers and I) were swimming in the creek with our neighbors—three boys the same ages we were: 14, 12, and 10. A perverted-looking local drove by our swimming hole repeatedly, leering out the window at us. My brother Gabe made a comment about him probably being a queer. Our 14-year-old friend looked curious and asked, “What’s a queer?”

My brother replied, “You know—a faggot.” The boy shook his head in confusion. Gabe said, “A homosexual.” Still not understanding, the 14-year-old, homeschooled neighbor boy just shook his head. Gabe laughed, sure that his friend was playing dumb.

“Come on! You’ve got to know what a queer is. You know, guys that mess with other guys or boys. Perverts!”

To this day, I can remember the look on the other boy’s face. It was NOT a look of surprise and curiosity. It was a look that said, “There’s a word for it? You know about that? Do other people know about it? Do you know . . . ?” I felt sorry for our friend that day. I wondered what experiences he had run into—unprepared and unwarned.

Many times as a child I remember standing at Dad’s side when he would go into a gas station to prepay for fuel. If the station carried pornography, Dad would scrape his money back off the counter and tell the cashier that he could not buy gas there because he just noticed they promoted rape and child molestation. The cashier would look shocked, and Dad would point at the porn magazines behind him. The cashier ALWAYS looked guilty and ashamed. He would glance at us kids; we would all be looking at him with suspicious shock (are you a child molester???) before we turned and walked out. These incidents burned a sure reaction into us. Dad’s reaction and openness about sin and God’s hatred of sin all gave us assurance in dealing with the world when Dad wasn’t around.

Knowing Good and Evil—from God’s Perspective of Good is wise

Our parents also made sure we understood the difference between righteous sexuality and evil sexuality. There was a clear distinction in our minds. When we were very small, Dad candidly explained that God created all beings, male and female, for pleasure and reproduction. God created sex to be pure and holy between one man and one woman, who would eventually be Mommy and Daddy to a whole passel of kids. There wasn’t supposed to be any confusion or shame in that relationship. It was intended by God to be whole, functional, and happy.

When our dogs were mating, Dad called us outside to see what they were doing, then told us to go back inside and give them some privacy. Inside at the kitchen table, he sat down with a paper and pen and drew a picture for us of sperm swimming up a canal to an egg. He gave us a thorough, practical explanation of reproduction. We were 8, 6, 4, and 2 years old.

Knowledge can bring wisdom

Our parents gave us a happy understanding of marriage by letting us see them hug, kiss, and enjoy each other’s company. They never gave us the specifics of sex, but often assured us that marriage was great and God had someone wonderful in store for each of us if we stayed pure and walked in righteousness until it was time to get married. This great example, contrasted with occasional glimpses of the ugliness of sin, made it easy for me to make up my mind to wait for the best.

Many parents write to us saying that they are trying to protect their children’s innocence. They don’t want them to know about the evil in the world. I understand their concern. It is a sad thing that we live in a world where evil has such free reign, where child porn is an accepted part of society. It is sickening. I hope the Lord returns for us soon and breaks the teeth of the ungodly before he casts them into the lake of fire, where they will be in torment for eternity. But the truth is that children are going to come across the reality of our corrupt society one way or another. They will either hear it from a twisted pervert, another clueless kid who is making poor guesses and choices, Hollywood, a book, the Internet… or from you. Which source do you want them to get it from first? Dad made sure he was the first to tell us life’s secrets; he made sure his information was the most thorough and complete; and he made sure we knew everything from the standpoint of good rather than evil.

Dad, Are You Keeping the World Out?

The most amazing thing about the rise of pornography on the Internet is not how many children have gotten involved, but how many “mature, responsible people” have gone off the deep end. People who thought they were safe in their own righteousness have fallen into immorality. No Greater Joy receives letters from pastors, elders, and fathers who have professed Christianity for years but are now in the tangle of pornography. They were unprepared for temptation in their own home. They never learned to stand and fight and resist the devil.

Shutting evil out of your life is not really an act of righteousness. Just about the time believers learn to deal with pornography on the web, some greater and more insidious evil will be introduced by the world at large. The answer is something more aggressive—and more fundamental! The answer is to believe the gospel, the reality of your sanctification—that you are dead to sin and alive unto God. In this stand of faith, you will worship God in the Spirit and have no confidence in the flesh. You will walk after the Spirit and thus not fulfill the lust of the flesh. You will be free from sin right down to the most secret and fundamental part of your being. When Paul wrote Romans and told the believers that they should “through the Spirit… mortify the deeds of the body,” he wasn’t talking about some Sunday-school rules that they should abide by. Half-baked “churchianity” is never enough to overcome the world. If you are not overcoming sin, you need to listen to Mike’s audio series called Sin No More. Mike’s series on Romans Chapters 1–8 is available for free on YouTube. Another powerful resource is the video Science of Addiction and the Brain.

Even the most secluded and conservative families will be assaulted. Shutting out as much evil as you can is your God-given duty to your children, but you will never be able to shut it all out. On top of that, you cannot make your children pure by insulating and isolating their circumstances. You must train, teach, and prepare their minds to respond to the Spirit of God. Read our Yell and Tell books to your little ones; read the books at least once a week and give the child an opportunity to talk about what you have read. All experts on the subject agree that those prepared are usually spared.

Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good.
Romans 12:9

Training Children to Not Be Gluttons

Training Children to Not Be Gluttons

The first and most important choices are made by Mother. Is your 22-month-old baby fat? Up until the age of twenty, fat cells multiply in number according to the need to store more fat. After twenty, the fixed number of fat cells either swell larger with overindulgence or shrink with healthy eating. The number of fat cells generated in your youth stays with you the rest of your life, and the more you have, the more you tend toward obesity.

To say it plainly, we steal our children’s health by how much food and what kinds of food we provide. Mother lays the foundation for vibrant health or for a lifetime of sickliness and early death. Gluttony is a deadly sin against our own body and those entrusted to us. It saddens me greatly to see a fat child, knowing the suffering ahead and knowing Mother could have prevented it.” (Michael Pearl)

“And put a knife to your throat if you are given to appetite.” (Proverbs 23:2)

One third of children in the US are overweight or obese, and this number is continuing to rise…overweight children are at high risk of becoming overweight adolescents and adults, placing them at risk of developing chronic diseases such as heart disease and diabetes later in life. They are also more prone to develop stress, sadness, and low self-esteem.”

“For the drunkard and the glutton will come to poverty, and slumber will clothe them with rags.” (Proverbs 23:21)

When we were raising our children, we didn’t allow them to be gluttons. It pains me to see overweight children since it is setting them up for a life-long struggle with it. Life is more difficult when a person is obese and mothers have complete control what and how much their children eat when they are young.; another reason mothers should be keepers at home. They can make nutritious food from scratch and teach their children how to cook.

“Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you? If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy him. For God’s temple is holy, and you are that temple.” (1 Corinthians 3:16, 17)

If we had dessert, our children were given only one serving and I rarely had it for them. It sure wasn’t a nightly occurrence. I fed them healthy food from the time they were babies. Way too many children are obese today from eating junk food, eating too much, and not exercising enough. Don’t have junk food in your home. If they want a snack, give them a piece of fruit or some nuts. Keep sweets to a minimum. Don’t let them watch a lot of television or computer time. My children played mostly when they were children. We would have never allowed them to sit around all day and let them watch TV or play video games.

“So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” (! Corinthians 10:31)

Raising children is a 24/7 job or ministry since you are raising godly offspring. It’s all about training your children continually about what is right and what is wrong.

But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires.
Romans 13:14

Raising Sons in This Feminist, Anti-Male Culture

Raising Sons in This Feminist, Anti-Male Culture

It grieves me when I see young Christian women calling themselves feminist when we look at all of the destruction they have caused and are causing. Why not call ourselves feminine women who love the Lord Jesus instead! The Federalist wrote an article about Kellyanne Conway, Counselor to the President, whether or not she would call herself a feminist.

She answered: “I don’t consider myself a feminist. I think my generation isn’t a big fan of labels. My favorite label is mommy. I feel like the feminist movement has been hijacked by the pro-abortion movement or the anti-male sentiments that you read in some of their propaganda and writings. I’m not anti-male. One does not need to be pro-female and call yourself a feminist, when with it comes that whole anti-male culture where we want young boys to sit down and shut up in the classroom. And we have all of these commercials that show what a feckless boob the man in the house is. That’s not the way I see the men in my life, most especially my 12-year-old son. I consider myself a postfeminist. I consider myself one of those women who is a product of her choices, not a victim of her circumstances.”

The author of this post, Leslie Loftis, goes on to say how horrible feminism has been for men which many men would agree. “In elementary school, when we drug little boys (and active girls) so that they all conform to our notions of the good little student — that is, the eager-to-learn little girl — the drugs seem to help, for a while.”

We didn’t drug our sons. We knew they were boys and weren’t made to sit in a classroom chair all day long. I finally wised up and began homeschooling them from fifth grade through ninth. They loved those years! They didn’t have to be around all of the JUNK that goes on in the public junior high school. They played, ate, read, played, ate, did math, played, and ate, and went to their sports’ team practices and games. It was a perfect life for boys but it takes a mother home full time with them in order to acccomplish this.

Leslie went on to write, “…boys grow up feeling entitled to women’s bodies and thinking that they can go for it whenever the urge strikes.” My sons did not grow up like this because we consistently taught them the truth of God’s Word, plus (and this is a BIG plus) we didn’t and wouldn’t send them to public high schools and universities from the ages of 15-21 years old where these schools are more like Sodom and Gomorrah than anything else. My sons learned to “bounce” their eyes and run from sexual immorality from a young age and knew that women are to be valued and respected. Both of their wives can attest to this fact today!

Leslie’s conclusion: “It doesn’t matter how we raise our sons. Cultural assumptions run against them, and eventually most of us learn this truth, sometimes the hard way.” Not true. Raise them in the church. Stay married. Hide God’s Word deeply in their hearts. Talk to them openly about everything. Set boundaries of protection. Discipline and train them from the time they are young. Teach them to work hard and they will most likely grow up to be strong, godly men; just what this country needs! Then they will be a product of wise choices, not a victim of any circumstances since Christ in them is stronger than anything that may be thrown their way.

 I have written unto you, fathers, because ye have known him that is from the beginning. I have written unto you, young men, because ye are strong, and the word of God abideth in you, and ye have overcome the wicked one.
1 John 2:14

Standing with the March For Life

Standing with the March For Life

Today we will see a March for Life instead of a “Women’s March” that was more like a March for Death of the unborn and everything that is good and godly. There have been over 60 million unborn babies murdered in their mother’s womb since Rove v. Wade was instituted. I am thankful that we finally have a president who cares about the life of the unborn and is willing to speak out for life. And as Ted Cruz wrote, “This week, there will be another march on Washington. This one is to celebrate life, and all are welcome, including the unborn and those who love them.” (Praise the Lord for godly Senators like him in the leadership positions of our country who stand up for life as well!)

“On his very first day of work in the White House, Trump signed an executive order reinstating the ‘Mexico City Policy’ which banned government funding of foreign pro-abortion groups like the International Planned Parenthood Federation. 

The following day, the Republican-controlled U.S. House of Representatives voted in large majority to permanently ban taxpayer funding of abortion on U.S. soil. That same day Trump’s press secretary promised a ‘heavy Administration presence’ at the March for Life. Today, news broke that Vice President Mike Pence will speak at the March, the first time a vice president will do so in the event’s 44 year history.” (source)

This is great news after eight years of having a president who believed that even babies who were born alive from botched abortions should die: President Obama voted against the Born Alive Infant Protection Act four times, horrifyingly voting against protecting babies who survived abortion and voting in favor of leaving them to die. A vote against this legislation was a vote for infanticide. [Source]”

“Planned Parenthood’s funding jumped from 33% to nearly 50% – over $487 million in taxpayer funding now goes to the abortion giant (under Obama and his administration). This is almost half a billion dollars that American families are forced to pay in tax dollars to the nation’s largest abortion provider, Planned Parenthood. [Source]”

How anyone can believe that abortion is okay when they know that it isn’t a blob of tissue growing in the mother’s womb with the advent of the sonogram but a human being is beyond comprehension. What about the argument that if we make abortions a criminal act that women would go to back alley abortions and possibly die from them. Kymberlie from my Facebook page answered this perfectly:

“Every one needs help but not with murdering their babies. By that logic because I don’t like someone I should have the right to murder any one and the government should pay for a hit man to do so because I need help. I can’t pay for it my self and then it’s just between God and me. No, that’s not how the real world works. If you want abortion, pay for it your self because it’s murder plain and simple. If it wasn’t for my dad picking my mom up and then never letting her leave his side I wouldn’t be here. My mom was minutes from having an abortion with me. These babies have no voices and someone needs to be their voice.”

Amen.

For You formed my inward parts;
You wove me in my mother’s womb.

Psalm 139:13

Is Your Church Like This One?

Is Your Church Like This One?

The Church (believers), Christ’s bride, should be the “light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden” (Matthew 5:14). Is your church this way? Just think how powerful the Church would be today if all Women’s Bible Studies were older, godly women teaching younger, godly women:

what loving their husbands is supposed to look like and how to go about loving, respecting, and obeying them,

how to go about disciplining, training, and loving their children in the ways of godliness,

to be sober-minded and able to clearly discern between their emotions, feelings, and truth,

about dressing modestly and how men view immodest women,

to be sexually pure before being married and after they get married in all areas of their lives,

to look and act like a feminine, godly woman,

encouraging them to have children and being the ones to raise them at home,

to work hard in the home and teach them to cook, clean, sew, can, etc.

and helping them learn the ways of goodness and kindness in all areas of their lives.

These older women were actually involved in these women’s lives and were there to help them when there was a need and the younger women were eager with teachable hearts to learn from the older, wiser women who had raised children and been married a long time. Yes, what if the Church actually obeyed Titus 2:3-5? Marriages would be stronger. Divorces would be few. Peace and unity would more than likely reign in the most of the homes. Many more children would grow up to be godly offspring, as the Lord wants.

Also, just think if all the elder, deacons, pastors, and teachers in the church were strong, godly men and all the women were happy about this. They silently listened and learned when these men powerfully taught the Word of God clearly and without watering it down at all. They were far from being politically correct and nothing in God’s Word was off-limits. They weren’t afraid to teach the women to respect and obey their husbands, to be keepers at home, and to dress modestly. They would tell the older women to work hard with the younger women teaching them all the ways of godly womanhood.

These men made sure their congregations knew who they were in Christ, all the promises that come from Him, to live in obedience to the Word with the Holy Spirit working mightily within them, and encouraged their congregations to be in the Word and in prayer daily. They wanted to make sure their people went way past the milk and learned the meat of the Word so they would be mature Christians and could easily distinguish between good and evil (Hebrews 5:14). What a powerful Church this would be! Do you go to a church like this? If so, please publish it in the comments so others who live near you can attend. Thank you!

And He gave some as apostles, and some as prophets, and some as evangelists, and some as pastors and teachers,  for the equipping of the saints for the work of service, to the building up of the body of Christ; until we all attain to the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to a mature man, to the measure of the stature which belongs to the fullness of Christ. As a result, we are no longer to be children, tossed here and there by waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, by craftiness in deceitful scheming; but speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspects into Him who is the head, even Christ, from whom the whole body, being fitted and held together by what every joint supplies, according to the proper working of each individual part, causes the growth of the body for the building up of itself in love.
Ephesians 4:11-16

Godless Societies Don’t Reproduce

Godless Societies Don’t Reproduce

God commands young women to “marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully” (1 Timothy 5:14) therefore, if you are a young woman who loves the Lord, you should be obeying this command to the best of your ability. Too many Christians have been swayed by the culture they are living in instead of reading and obeying the Word of God. This world needs children and no, it is NOT overpopulated as the left wants you to believe. They have left out God so they believe they know better than Him but they don’t. “Godless societies don’t reproduce. The death of God is the death of reproduction.” (Dennis Prager)

The New York Times has an article titled Where Have All the Children Gone? “The share of children in San Francisco fell to 13 percent, low compared with another expensive city New York, with 21 percent. In Chicago, 23 percent of the population is under 18 years old which is the overall average across the United States.” California has the lowest birth rate since the Great Depression. San Francisco has as many dogs as children, the article states, but I bet it has more dogs than children since people value pets more than they value people. In 1970s, a quarter of the people in San Francisco were children. The city is doing what it can to bring back children but to no avail because godless societies don’t reproduce. They are more into their pleasures than into sacrificially raising children. “Mr. Florida, the expert in urban demographics, said a lack of children made a city ‘a little bit more of a colder or harder place.’..the city seems detached from the life cycle.”

I don’t know about you but I wept when I read this article. (Yes, I weep more in my older age.) Our children have brought so much joy into our lives and if I hadn’t gotten so sick, we would have gladly welcomed more into our family. Now, we are enjoying our precious grandchildren who make us laugh and fill us with joy just as our own children did when they were young. My oldest granddaughter calls me “Mommy” once in a while but the last time she caught herself and said, “Ooppss, I called you Mommy!” I told her it was okay since I am her Mommy, her Grandmommy! I just have a grand in front of it! 🙂

Christian women, you need to begin having children and raising them in the wisdom and the knowledge of the Lord. You saw the depravity of the so called Women’s March and it’s the product of children being raised by a godless government run school system that has taken God completely out of the schools and replaced it with securalism. They worship the creature instead of the Creator and it has caused havoc. Take your children out and you be the one to train them in the ways of righteousness. The Lord has given you this job, not an unrighteous institution. Have children, lots of them and enjoy them. Love your time at home. Sure, there will be difficult days. I raised four children while being sick as a dog but God gave me strength all along the way and now I am blessed with four great children who married precious spouses and are having children.

There is nothing in life better than loving the Lord and living for Him by obeying what He has commanded us to do. His ways are perfect for us because He is our wonderful Creator. If you think you don’t have enough money to have more children, the Lord owns everything and He is our provider. If you have a hard-working husband, the Lord will provide for you. All He asks of us is that we step out in faith, obey what He has told us to do, and He will provide and give strength to accomplish His perfect will. If godless societies don’t reproduce, godly people cheerfully reproduce if they are able because God’s command to be fruitful and multiply has never been rescinded!

Behold, children are a gift of the Lord,
The fruit of the womb is a reward.
 Like arrows in the hand of a warrior,
So are the children of one’s youth.
How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them.
Psalm 127:3-5

Train, Train, Train Your Children

Train, Train, Train Your Children

Were any of your children high strung as kids? Our youngest daughter has been like that since she was born. She’s highly intelligent, perceptive, and fun-loving, but she’s got this extremely finicky, high-strung, dramatic and overly sensitiveness about her that is really a struggle for me to figure out how best to handle. If she spills a tiny bit of water on herself, you’d think it’s the end of the world and she absolutely has to change her clothes or she’s miserable. She is very picky about what she likes and doesn’t like (especially food), even though we require her to eat what’s in front of her.

She’s very dramatic and I was just not like that at all so I have a hard time figuring out where she’s coming from mentally. She is definitely my most affectionate child, but she also can get easily irritated when people touch her when she doesn’t want them to. What do you think? Is this something you think she will outgrow or do you think there’s something more here? Would love your advice! She just turned three a few weeks ago.”

Ken’s advice to her is to train, train, train. You see the flaw, go after it by talking, reasoning, and taking the appropriate action to help them to get over it. For instance, if she has water on her clothes, I would make her to continue to wear the clothes and behave properly. After a few minutes, take a hair dryer to dry it and talk to her about how that wasn’t so hard. “Why do have to overreact when there is a simple solution?”

Don’t let her make a big deal about anything that isn’t a big deal without a strong, level-headed response of working through it and speaking truth to her. But most importantly, I would follow up with her three times that day, the next day, and the day after to talk to her about that incident and how it really wasn’t something to get upset about, was it? “So what are you going to do next time you spill water on yourself?” Maybe, even tell her she will receive a reward if she deals with it properly next time. Catch her doing it the right way and praise her for it.

If you have a child who refuses to acknowledge an adult/friend that is with you when they say “Hi” to your child (because the child thinks she is shy), teach your child to say “Hi” right back in a warm and friendly way and answer any questions the adult asks them. Anything you see in your child that is a bad habit, bad behavior, or anything that is not good, train them consistently until they behave kindly and properly. In doing this, you will make their life as an adult much better and this is what parents are called to do with their children.

Train up a child in the way he should go:
and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

Proverbs 22:6