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Men Need Gentle Women in Their Lives

Men Need Gentle Women in Their Lives

Many women who want to be home full time with their children have a problem with their husbands wanting the same things. Most of these husbands had mothers who weren’t home full time to nurture and give them emotional support, therefore, they don’t understand what they missed but it does affect them deeply. They usually have a hard time being emotionally close to their wives because of the lack of motherly care and affection.

Dr. Brenda Hunter in Home By Choice explains how important it is for full-time mothers to have husbands who are supportive of their roles at home. If your husband is not, give it to the Lord daily in prayer and ask Him to convict and change your husband’s mind. Also, your appeal to him to stay home will be more accepted if you are living as a godly, kind, and submissive wife to him.

Then the author goes on to explain the horrible effect feminism has had on men. “American males are not only angry and confused, but they are exhausted from trying to live up to performance standards they feel women impose. Modern men must be sensitive, but not wimps; they should exhibit ‘tempered macho,’ and be super successful in their careers.”

Men are not supposed to open a woman’s door or help her out of a chair. If he says anything to her when she is immodestly dressed, he may be considered for sexual harassment. In short, men are not supposed to act like men, according to feminism. They want men to act like women and women to act like men! They don’t know what they want because the further one wanders from the truth, the more difficult it is to figure life out. What’s right is wrong and what’s wrong is right.

The author’s solution for men these days – a gentle woman! “A gentle woman can teach a man to be gentle, respectful, and reverent of her womanhood as complementary to his own manhood.” You know, that winning them without a word by godly, chaste behavior and having a meek and quiet spirit. God knew exactly what men needed when He provided a mother to raise them and a wife to be a help meet to them when they married.

Studies have proven that boys suffer more than girls if their mom returns to work. Boys all the way up to men were created to need women in their lives to care for and encourage them. “The point of this brief examination of male vulnerability (from the book Home By Choice) is to assert that sons and husbands need the women in their lives to nurture them, appreciate them, and express interest in their lives. As little boys or as high-powered executives, males suffer from female neglect…all men need sensitive women in their lives.” Sadly, few of them are receiving this these days.

Then she shares about the “father hunger” that so many men suffer with today. “Many men suffer from father hunger, not only from fathers who were absent, but also from fathers who were passive or uninvolved.” This is so common. In fact, she stated that there are few people today who were deeply loved and nurtured by both mother and father. Are you one of the few who were loved by both parents? If so, you are very blessed!

If a man is denied his father’s affirmation and blessing, he will search for it all his life. The absence of a father’s acceptance and unconditional love can cause a man to become an overachiever or a convict. I have never met an inmate who loves his dad.” This, my friends, is why you do everything in your power to keep your marriage to your children’s father strong and intact. Your children need their fathers in their lives. Fathers are not expendable as our culture tries to make them out to be.

If your husband has left you, begin memorizing and learning 1 Peter 3:1-6 and become attractive to your husband by your sweet, gentle, and feminine ways as I have written about many times before. If you are married, never take your husband for granted. Stop being critical and fault-finding of him. This will never make a good marriage. Once you love him just the way that he is and allow the Lord to be the one to convict and change him, you will find peace beyond comprehension and joy unspeakable!

And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient.
2 Timothy 2:24

The Destructive Nature of Peaceful Parenting

The Destructive Nature of Peaceful Parenting

No one would say that children are better behaved than they were generations ago when parents weren’t afraid to discipline their children and say “no” to them. Now, there are a bunch of entitled adults running around acting as if the world revolves around them and feeling entitled to having anything they want when they want.

A man who believes that “peaceful parenting” is the best way to raise his son wrote this on Facebook:

“I have no interest in raising my son to be obedient or compliant with my demands.

What I am interested in is his well-being.

Therefore, the questions I ask myself are things like: Is he happy? Is he feeling connected with me? Is he satisfied with life?

The questions I don’t ask are: How do I get him to behave? Why doesn’t he listen to me? How can I stop his whining or, how do I just make him leave me alone?

And when that kind of contentious attitude comes up in myself, I don’t try to fix him or change his behavior as the solution.

Instead, I look within myself to see where it is that I need the attitude adjustment.

It’s always that way.

Peaceful parenting is all about a change in our own attitude and behavior, not trying to change our children’s attitude and behavior.

When we adults learn to change our attitude first, is when everything else works out with our children. As simplistic as that may sound, it is the way it works.

What we are really after is our own inner peace, our own inner wisdom and our own well being, and from that place of wholeness, we are then better able to take care of our children, lovingly, peacefully, joyously.”

He has decided to be a friend to his child instead of parent him, sadly. Here are responses to him from the wise women in the chat room:

Verna: “It sounds like he will be raising a selfish person who expects everyone to cater to them. Which is not how I want my children to behave. Furthermore, this child will likely have problems obeying and surrendering his will to God, since it wasn’t a concept available to him as a child. I would be very concerned for his soul.”

Sarah: “Honestly, I feel teaching your children how to mind and be obedient/compliant IS in their best interest and for their well-being.”

Lindsay: “It is in the best interest of children to obey their parents. Children don’t know what is best for them. That’s why God gave them parents to make decisions for them and to train them in what is right.

There are certainly times that we parents need to change our own behavior and attitudes. We are imperfect, after all. But if we approach every conflict with our child as if we are the ones who need to change, we are simply incorrect. Children are not born perfect. We shouldn’t treat them as if they are. They need parents to train and guide them, not to worship them as if they are little gods.

Treating children as if they are correct and we are the ones who are wrong is basically worship of the children and is not only misguided, but not good for the child either. A child who grows up worshiped by his parents will have no respect for others and will be dependent on others to stroke his ego. This makes for very unhappy children who also are not inclined to obey or worship God because they think they are the ones worthy of worship.

If you want your children to grow up to be happy, healthy, well-balanced, and properly understand their relationship to the world and to God, you must train them and discipline them, not treat yourself as the problem that needs to be fixed.”

Samantha: “This kind of parenting leads to spoiled rotten brats that have no respect for anyone or anything in my opinion. I am appalled at some of the behavior some parents allow their children. When my husband and I were waiting on a table at the Olive garden there were four boys with their parents and all four were just yelling at the top of their lungs and the mother just gave them a pouty face and never once told them to be quiet. I get complimented quite a bit by how well behaved my kids are when eating out. I would of pulled my hair out years ago if I had allowed my kids to act like that.”

Brooke: “I feel like a lot of this parenting is a direct result of the first generation of real daycare kids now becoming parents. So many people in my generation have been left with gaping holes in their heart and development because they were raised by daycare while both parents worked full time. They KNOW something was missing from their life, and they often don’t want to blame their parents, so they think if they do something different than how they were raised, their children won’t have this emptiness they feel.

This happens at the same time as my generation was raised during the evolutionary boom of technology. Instead of searching within themselves and identifying the problem, it’s easy to go online and find ‘studies’ to prove how things should be done differently. You can support any side of an argument off the Internet, but that doesn’t mean any of them are correct.

A generation of parents were dropped off at six weeks old to be raised by the industry. Then sent to school and overwhelmed with extra curricular activities so they weren’t considered ‘latch key’ and those whose mothers were too busy working the feminist agenda to care for them. Now feeling sad, hurt, neglected and empty and trying to raise their own children without the same hurt they experienced.”

Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.
Proverbs 19:18

Does Your Church Encourage Child Bearing?

Does Your Church Encourage Child Bearing?

Churches today seem to have lost their desire for children and no longer encourage their members to have children which is sad since God tells us that children are blessings from Him. One woman asked the women in the chat room if any of our churches encourage child bearing.

Lindsay Harold responded, “Our church has a lot of families with several kids, but rarely have I heard a pastor encourage families to have more children and I certainly never heard them say that having more children is a way to spread the gospel (except for my dad). It’s so sad that this important aspect of winning the world to Christ is so neglected. We aren’t told only to make converts, but to make disciples. This involves both making converts who become disciples and literally making disciples by having children. The church should be growing biologically, too.”

In my 58 years of attending church, I have never heard a pastor from the pulpit encourage couples to have children. Bearing children isn’t easy. It’s not gratifying to our fleshly pleasures. No, most of us are sick when we are pregnant. We are also very uncomfortable most of the time. Childbirth is extremely painful and scary, then comes the hard part of raising them by training, disciplining, and teaching them. Yes, it takes a lot of time, energy, money, and sacrifice to have children, but it is what God calls us to do.

In his book Adopted for Life, Russell Moore says that “Satan hates children and always has. History would say the same. In Scripture alone, we see the slaughter of the infants in Pharaoh’s Egypt and Herod’s Bethlehem. Every time the demonic powers forcefully oppose Jesus, ‘babies are caught in the crossfire.'” Who do you believe is the author of abortion, birth control, and all of the other harm that comes to children? Surely, not the Lord Most High.

There is a war on children, and we are all, in one way or another, playing some role in it. Every time we move forward as faithful parents (or care for kids in any capacity, including advocating for the voiceless not-yet-born, and volunteering for nursery duty on Sundays), we are wrestling demons — because there is little the demons hate more than little children.”

Then there is this view from Jessica Loewen Mason:

“A concerning new and popular trend in the Christian community. ‘Put off having children so you can focus all your efforts on spreading the gospel.’ Which family depiction below will have more influence in the world for Christ!? Parents of big families shoot their Godly arrows into society at multiple levels and impact the world for generations.”

Thankfully, we, as believers, can take heart because Christ has overcome the demons and their master that Russel Moore wrote about! We can bear and raise children for the Lord but we must be finding our strength and wisdom from His Word. If you’re afraid of bringing children them into this depraved culture, remember that Jesus called the generation He was walking among a “wicked and adulterous generation” (Matthew 16:4) and the Apostle Paul called it a “crooked and perverse nation” (Philippians 2:15) so nothing has changed!

Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the LORD thy God, he it is that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.
Deuteronomy 31:6

Denmark’s Children are Not So Happy

Denmark’s Children are Not So Happy

Danish people are supposedly the most happy people on earth or so “they” say. Demark is a socialist country so the taxes are high and the government is large.  Here is what Helen Russell who loves living there wrote in her article called What Living Danishly Taught Me About Happiness. (You must sign up to get the first magazine with the article in it for free.)

“Most Danes don’t mind paying taxes of 50 percent or more, because there’s a trust that the government will spend the money wisely and that everyone else will also contribute their fair share…(This couple had a baby) and then we both went back to work, since kids are guaranteed a place in high-quality state-run day care from six months of age in Denmark, the cost 75 percent subsidized via taxes. All this at a time when friends back home (UK) have had to give up their jobs as they can’t afford child care. Because it’s totally doable to have a family and a career, 85 percent of Danish mothers return to work, and domestic chores are shared more equally between the sexes. It’s as if Danes recognize that caregiving is just as important as breadwinning—and it doesn’t matter who’s doing what.”

“Most Danes don’t mind paying taxes of 50 percent or more, because there’s a trust that the government will spend the money wisely and that everyone else will also contribute their fair share…” Many in our country are trying to turn it into a socialist country like Denmark (which it already is in many ways) but Denmark is only one-third the size of New York State so it would be an entirely different ballgame. It’s interesting that she believes that the people in Denmark trust their government to spend their money wisely. Most governments are known for their waste hence the large amounts of debt (trillions of dollars in ours). The Danish falsely believe that some impersonal bureaucracy will make better decisions on how to spend their money than those who actually work hard to make it. Governments are created to protect its people, not provide cradle to grave care, since this lays heavy burdens upon those who are hard working and encourages others to be lazy.

 The downside in Denmark is that it’s very expensive to live there, the educational system isn’t that good, depression, anxiety, and alcoholism are common, and personal debt is high. Socialism has never worked long term in any country and it never will. Anything that takes away people’s motivation to work hard (high taxes) doesn’t work for long since God created us to work. For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat (2 Thessalonians 3:10).

“…we both went back to work, since kids are guaranteed a place in high-quality state-run day care from six months of age in Denmark, the cost 75 percent subsidized via taxes.”  This sounds like a horrific nightmare to me! I can’t imagine they are “high-quality” because there are still strangers raising the children from the time they are babies. These strangers don’t love the children like their own mothers do. They don’t discipline and train those children as the mothers are supposed to do. These babies don’t have a mother to bond full-time with which will end up causing a lot of mental and emotional problems in the children when they grow up.

“All this at a time when friends back home (UK) have had to give up their jobs as they can’t afford child care.” As if mothers having to stay home with their children is the worse thing that can happen because the mothers’ jobs are much more important than raising their own children! No, it’s much healthier for children if their mothers can’t afford child care and they must parent their own children. No one can replace a full-time mother in a child’s life.

“Because it’s totally doable to have a family and a career, 85 percent of Danish mothers return to work, and domestic chores are shared more equally between the sexes.” Therefore, most of the children in Denmark aren’t being raised by their mothers. This is sure to have long-term terrible consequences for this small country as I have stated. Couples sharing domestic chores is supposedly the ideal situation according to feminists but Denmark sees record number of divorces. I guess sharing chores doesn’t ensure strong marriages.

In her article, she states that there are no “terrible twos” because two-year old children throwing temper tantrums are just normal behavior! “The idea of the “terrible twos” and “threenagers” are alien to Danes, who class toddlerdom as trodsalder, or “the boundary age,” when it’s accepted that pushing the limits is normal rather than naughty.” Of course it’s normal behavior when parents aren’t around to stop them from throwing tantrums. Those women in the “high-quality state-run day care” aren’t going to take the time with each child to discipline and train them to know that temper tantrums are unacceptable behavior.

“It’s as if Danes recognize that caregiving is just as important as breadwinning—and it doesn’t matter who’s doing what.” Do you see what she is saying in this sentence? She’s actually downplaying what God has to say about the different roles He’s given men and women. Caregiving has been given to women and breadwinning has been given to men. Feminists have caused women to believe that breadwinning is more important than caregiving so this is why many women work outside of their homes, but this isn’t true. They are both important to the survival of families

Denmark is a great place for those who don’t want to keep most of their hard-earned money, love large government intrusions, and want to have strangers raise their children, but I can tell you one thing, it sure isn’t a happy place for the children. I didn’t want the government and strangers raising my children. I wanted to do this and so should you.

And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.  You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes.  You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.
Deuteronomy 6:6-9

Your Kids Should Not Be the Most Important

Your Kids Should Not Be the Most Important

Written By John Rosemond in Naples Daily News

I recently asked a married couple who have three kids, none of whom are yet teens, “Who are the most important people in your family?”

Like all good moms and dads of this brave new millennium, they answered, “Our kids!”

“Why?” I then asked. “What is it about your kids that gives them that status?” And like all good moms and dads of this brave new millennium, they couldn’t answer the question other than to fumble with appeals to emotion.

So, I answered the question for them? “There is no reasonable thing that gives our children that status.”

I went on to point out that many if not most of the problems they’re having with their kids – typical stuff, these days – are the result of treating their children as if they, their marriage, and their family exist because of the kids when it is, in fact, the other way around. Their kids exist because of them and their marriage and thrive because they have created a stable family.

Furthermore, without them, their kids wouldn’t eat well, have the nice clothing they wear, live in the nice home in which they live, enjoy the great vacations they enjoy, and so on. Instead of lives that are relatively carefree (despite the drama to the contrary that they occasionally manufacture), their children would be living lives full of worry and want.

This issue is really the heart of the matter. People my age know it’s the heart of the matter because when we were kids it was clear to us that our parents were the most important people in our families. And that, right there, is why we respected our parents and that, right there is why we looked up to adults in general. Yes, Virginia, once upon a time the United States of America, children were second class citizens, to their advantage.

It was also clear to us – I speak, of course, in general terms, albeit accurate – that our parents’ marriages were more important to them than the relationships with us. Therefore, we did not sleep in their beds or interrupt their conversations. The family meal, at home, was regarded as more important than after-school activities. Mom and Dad talked more – a lot more – with one another than they talk with you. For lack of pedestals, we emancipated earlier and much more successfully than have children since.

The most important person in an army is the general. The most important person in a corporation is the CEO. The most important person in a classroom is the teacher. And the most important person in a family are the parents.

The most important thing about children is the need to prepare them properly for responsible citizenship. The primary objective should not be raising a straight-A student who excels at three sports, earns a spot on the Olympic swim team, goes to an a-list university and becomes a prominent brain surgeon. The primary objective is to raise a child such that community and culture are strengthened.

“Our child is the most important person in our family” is the first step toward raising a child who feels entitled.

You don’t want that. Unbeknownst to your child, he doesn’t need that. And neither does America.

Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise.
Ephesians 6:2

Anything That Attacks the Family is Bad For Society

Anything That Attacks the Family is Bad For Society

The family is under attack today (as I have written repeatedly about) and no nation can last for long if the institution of the family is destroyed.  Dale Ahlquist wrote about this destruction and some prophetic sayings of G.K. Chesterton, who was a theologian in the early 1900s. (I enjoy these men’s teachings from long ago!)

“Chesterton was so consistently right in his pronouncements and prophecies because he understood that anything that attacked the family was bad for society. That is why he spoke out against eugenics and contraception, against divorce and ‘free love’ (another term he disliked because of its dishonesty), but also against…compulsory state-sponsored education and mothers hiring other people to do what mothers were designed to do themselves. It is safe to say that Chesterton stood up against every trend and fad that plagues us today because every one of those trends and fads undermines the family.”

He is right on! Sadly, our culture promotes birth control, divorce, free love, public schooling, and day cares. The Church remains relatively silent on all of these issues, unfortunately. Birth control prevents the life of human beings and most of it has dangerous side effects. Divorce is destructive to all involved. Free love isn’t free and it isn’t love. Public schooling (run by a godless government) takes children away from their parents all day long for most of their growing up years and teaches them anything they deem important, like it’s fine and dandy for children to have two daddies and sex education which has no biblical admonitions in it (like purity and abstinence until marriage). Day cares take mothers away from their babies. None of these destructive forces are promoted in God’s Word because they all attack the family.

“In 1926, he warned, ‘The next great heresy will be an attack on morality, especially sexual morality.’ His warning has gone unheeded, and sexual morality has decayed progressively. But let us remember that it began with birth control, which is an attempt to create sex for sex’s sake, changing the act of love into an act of selfishness. The promotion and acceptance of lifeless, barren, selfish sex has logically progressed to homosexuality.”

God created sex for a husband and wife to enjoy each other but also to be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth (Genesis 1:28). However, most Christian couples use birth control for a few years after getting married and then again once they have a couple of children. They have taken away one of God’s primary reasons for marriage and sex, for their own pleasures thus attacking the family.

If they don’t think they’re financially ready, they fail to trust God’s provision. If they have a lot of student debt, they were unwise in their youth to build up this debt unless it was for the husband to have a good career which will enable him to pay it off quickly, but there’s nothing shameful about living simply after marriage to have children.

“The world has made a mockery of marriage that has now culminated with homosexual unions. But it was heterosexual men and women who paved the way to this decay. Divorce, which is an abnormal thing, is now treated as normal. Contraception, another abnormal thing, is now treated as normal. Abortion is still not normal, but it is legal. Making homosexual ‘marriage’ legal will not make it normal, but it will add to the confusion of the times. And it will add to the downward spiral of our civilization. But Chesterton’s prophecy remains: We will not be able to destroy the family. We will merely destroy ourselves by disregarding the family.”

It saddens me to hear about so many “Christian” women who have gotten divorced. It’s definitely epidemic even in the Church. Thankfully, there are women in the chat room who are “standers.” They are standing strong in the Lord and winning their husbands back without a word (1 Peter 3:1-6). Some of their husbands are adulterers, others are addicts, some are worse than “infidels” by not providing (1 Timothy 5:8), and others are unkind. They understand what is at stake in their lives, in their husband’s lives, and in their children’s lives. They wait patiently while growing in godliness and resting in the Lord, even though there is a lot of suffering. They are willing to do this because they understand the value of family and God’s love for it. Today’s culture hates suffering but God uses it for good. (Study 1 Peter thoroughly.)

Contraception is abnormal. Married couples should want children. It’s culture who has warped their thinking. Our children are our greatest blessings. Abortion and homosexuality destroy families but thankfully as Chesterton said, “We will not be able to destroy the family.” As long as God is on His throne, which is forever, there will be a remnant who believes in family and will do all they can to make it strong and influence society for good. God created the family and no one can permanently thwart His will.

Build ye houses, and dwell in them; and plant gardens, and eat the fruit of them; Take ye wives, and beget sons and daughters; and take wives for your sons, and give your daughters to husbands, that they may bear sons and daughters; that ye may be increased there, and not diminished.
Jeremiah 29:5, 6

Her Sixteen Year Old Wants to Begin Having Sex

Her Sixteen Year Old Wants to Begin Having Sex

For years, I listened to the Dr. Laura radio program. She had a lot of good things to say. Yesterday, on her Facebook page, she shared a conversation she had with a mother whose sixteen year old daughter wants to begin having sex since everyone else is doing it. Here is Dr. Laura’s response.

If she says everyone is having sex, then say:

“I want you to be the only non-slut in the group. I want you to be the only girl who can get to 25, meet a nice man and not say she’s had 15 humps with 82 guys so that he’s disgusted with you.

I’d like you to be the only one in your group who doesn’t get an STD and genital wars on your vagina and can give you cancer later on or HIV and can kill you.

I’d like you to be the only one in your group who thinks that sex and love should be holding each other with tenderness.

I’d like you to be the only one in your group who isn’t a pig.

I want you to be the only one who hasn’t killed a baby by having it sucked into a sink in a million pieces.

I want you to be the only one in your group not to think you can be a mother without an intact family around a child.

I want you to be the only one who doesn’t screw up a kid.”

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
1 Corinthians 6:18

Authoritative Parenting is Best

Authoritative Parenting is Best

Ken and I were authoritative parents. Our children knew we ran the home and they obeyed us. (I made a YouTube about how we raised them to obey us.) Many told us we were too strict but we didn’t think so. We didn’t want to raise spoiled brats so we were intentional about training, disciplining, and teaching them to obey us and clearly knowing right from wrong. We worked hard to break their stubborn rebellious will and direct it towards God’s perfect will. Now, studies have come out to prove we were right in this permissive day and age in which we live. Actually, it’s God’s Word that is right because He is clear about disciplining our children.

“Decades of research have documented that teenagers raised by authoritative parents are the ones most likely to do well at school, enjoy abundant psychological health and stay out of trouble. In contrast, adolescents with authoritarian parents (high on structure, low on warmth), indulgent parents (low on structure, high on warmth) or neglectful parents (low on both) don’t fare nearly so well.” Our children did great in school, none of them have struggled with psychological health, and none of them have ever gotten in trouble with those in authority. What does this prove? It doesn’t prove that we were perfect parents because we weren’t. It proves that God’s ways work!

God is an authoritative parent towards us. He has given us many principles that He expects for us to follow. He disciplines us for our good but He is a loving and kind Father, too. He is our greatest example of how we should parent our children since He is our Creator and is perfect in everything!

For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.  If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons. Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh which corrected us, and we gave them reverence: shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live? For they verily for a few days chastened us after their own pleasure; but he for our profit, that we might be partakers of his holiness.  Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby. (Hebrews 12:6-11)

“Chasten thy son while there is hope of guiding and keeping him in the right way, as long as corrections are or can be hoped to be of use; while in a state of infancy, childhood, and youth; while under parental government; and before habits in sin are grown strong, and the case become desperate, and he is hardened, and proof against all instruction and discipline” (Gill’s Exposition).

Spankings not done in anger and on the bottom are not abusive. Never pull your children’s hair, punch or slap them, call them names, or yell at them. We didn’t ever have to ground or have time outs with our children. No, they knew when we asked them to do something, they did it and when they were disobedient, they knew they would be punished for it. Boundaries and discipline protect children and help them to grow up into mature adults.

Too many parents seem to be afraid of their children and have fallen for the “gentle parenting” movement which should be labeled the “permissive parenting” movement from what I have seen. “Unfortunately, many children today don’t receive the benefits of the balanced, authoritative approach to parenting because society has convinced parents that such an approach is abusive and damaging to a child’s self-esteem. Instead, parents have been told to reason with their child, get the child’s opinion in every matter, and above all, be their child’s friend.” 

We didn’t worry about building self-esteem into our children. We wanted them to know who they were in Christ and how much He valued them. This is what builds security and worth into children because it doesn’t come from what they do, what they look like, or who they are but who God is and what He has done for them.

Remember, the wisdom of this world is foolishness to God. Stop listening to the latest professional’s advice on child rearing. I just saw a study by the “professionals” of this world that said that spankings and authoritative parenting causes mental harm! This is utter nonsense because we must trust God’s opinions over man’s. Go back to the Word of God and do as He has commanded you to do. Love your children deeply enough to discipline and train them in the ways of godliness.

Folly is bound up in the heart of a child,
but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.

Proverbs 22:15

Her Parents Taught Her Truth

Her Parents Taught Her Truth

Most younger people today are lost because they are not being taught truth; they are in emotional turmoil and trying to fill the void with drugs, alcohol, sex, and all types of destructive habits. It’s vital, mothers, to raise your children with truth. My friend, Carol, was raised by parents that clearly taught her truth.

She didn’t have to go searching for truth. Her parents taught her the Word consistently. They wanted their children to hide His Word deep in their hearts.

She wasn’t confused about what was right and wrong. Her parents were mature in their faith and they easily understood good from evil and taught their children these things so they too could easily discern truth from error.

She didn’t feel the need to fit in or be popular if it went against the truth. She knew that the path she was on was narrow and few choose to walk on it but it was the only path that leads to abundant life.

She didn’t have to search for the meaning in life. She knew her meaning was in Christ. Instead of searching for meaning within herself or in her culture, she looked to Christ; what He had done for her, and she knew, without a doubt, that she was deeply loved by Him.

She didn’t fear death. She knew where she was going. Her parents taught her all about the new earth where Jesus will be King and all of her tears, pain, and fears will be gone.

She didn’t need to let other people set her boundaries. Her parents set boundaries for her and they were from the Word of God. She knew about dwelling on the good and the lovely. She knew all about sexual purity and what the Lord expected from her. Those boundaries were for her protection and not to keep her from fun. She understood this clearly and was thankful for the boundaries from the Lord and not from the culture around her.

She didn’t need to try drugs to hide pain or find monetary joy. She knew the truth that Jesus was her source of joy.

Her parents modeled a godly, strong marriage. Her parents deeply loved each other. Her mother was home full time raising her siblings and her. Her dad was the spiritual leader of the family. Her parents set biblical boundaries for her and she didn’t have to guess what was right and wrong because her parents were consistently teaching them to her when she grew up. Her roots were deeply planted in the Word of God.

You shall teach them to your sons, talking of them when you sit in your house and when you walk along the road and when you lie down and when you rise up. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates, so that your days and the days of your sons may be multiplied on the land which the LORD swore to your fathers to give them, as long as the heavens remain above the earth.
Deuteronomy 11:19-21

Pornography in the Schools

Pornography in the Schools

Yet, another reason God wants mothers at home full time with their children and parents to be the ones to raise their children in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord – pornography. My children went to the public schools in Encinitas, CA during elementary school in the 90s. Years later in 2012, iPads were introduced to these schools. Now, they have found out that many of the children are being exposed to hard-core pornography. I am thankful there were no iPads in schools when my children went there. They didn’t use Internet back then but our culture has taken a nose dive into debauchery since then.

There is now a petition being spread around by parents at this school my children attended to try and prevent this from happening among their children.

“Nonetheless, this year my third grader was exposed to pornography (a sex act) when he and another third grade student used the Google search engine to search for pictures of Pokemon to draw. In a second instance, an article describing the best sex positions popped up on the feed of my son’s computer in class. Both of my sons have now been exposed to pornography and harmful content on multiple occasions at their elementary school.

What can you do?”

What can she do? Parents need to be the ones who homeschool their children. Children can learn without computers while they are young. They need their parents to love them enough to protect them from the modern day Sodom and Gomorrah that our culture is becoming. No matter how hard they try to safeguard their children from porn in the public schools, they will be unable to since it’s almost impossible to do, especially since there are about thirty children in each class and the teacher can’t be behind the shoulder of every child who gets on the Internet or what students are showing each other on their iPhones.

Please read this important post about teaching and training your children to FLEE from porn. Love your children enough to be home full time with them teaching them the precepts of the Word, protecting them, disciplining them, and training them. Being exposed to porn is incredibly destructive to children and as parents, we should want to do everything we can to keep their innocence from this insidious evil for as long as possible and hopefully forever as they learn to FLEE from it themselves.

One woman was trying to convince me that “God called her” to send her children to public schooling. This was Thomas’ response to her:

Exodus Mandate has a lot of good information on the need for Christian parents to give their children a Christian education. Our time on this earth is short. Our children are precious in the sight of God and He has commanded us to raise them in the nurture and the admonition of the LORD, not the culture. I was asked to make a YouTube about protecting sons from pornography because it is a real threat today, women, but always remind yourself that greater is He who is in you, than he who is in the world.

He that walks with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.
Proverbs 13:20