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25 Way to Communicate Respect to Your Husband

25 Way to Communicate Respect to Your Husband

This was an article in Above Rubies Magazine from October 2012 and I kept it because it was so powerful. I decided to type it up for all of you to read so it can encourage you, too. It was written by Jennifer Flanders who had 12 children at the time!

Actions speak louder than words. You can say you respect your husband, but he’ll have a hard time believing that unless your behavior backs it up. What does respectful living look like? Here are 25 ways you can communicate respect to your spouse without uttering a word. If you’ll make it your habit to do these things, the next time you tell your husband how much you respect him, he won’t have to wonder if you really mean it.

Choose Joy. It’s true: A happy wife makes a happy life. Please don’t use moodiness as an attempt to manipulate your man, but in all things rejoice, because that’s the right thing to do (1 Thessalonians 5:16; Philippians 4:4).

Honor His Wishes. Give weight to what your husband thinks is important. Make those things a priority that matter most to him, whether it’s having dinner ready when he gets home from work or keeping the house tidy or limiting computer time. Don’t make him ask twice (Philippians 2:4).

Give Him Your Undivided Attention. Yes, I know that women are masters of multi-tasking, but when your husband is speaking to you, make a point to lay other tasks aside, look into his eyes, and listen to what he is saying with the goal of understanding and remembering his words.

Don’t Interrupt. Have you ever been around a person who won’t let you finish a sentence? That gets old fast. Even if you think you already know what your husband is going to say, allowing him to say it without cutting him off mid-sentence shows both respect and common courtesy.

Emphasize His Good Points. Sure, he has his faults (as do you), but dwelling on them will only make you (both) miserable. Choose instead to focus on those qualities in your husband that you most admire (Philippians 4:8).

Pray for him. Ruth Bell Graham advised wives to “tell your mate the positive, and tell God the negative.” Take your concerns to God. Faithfully lift up your husband in prayer every day, and you will likely notice a transformation not only in him, but in yourself, as well (Philippians 4:6, 7; 1 Thessalonians 5;17).

Don’t Nag. Your husband is a grown man, so don’t treat him like a two-year-old. Leave room for God to work. You are not the Holy Spirit, so do not try to do His job.

Be Thankful. Cultivate an attitude of gratitude. Don’t take your husband for granted. Be appreciative for everything he does for you, whether big or small. Always say thank you (1 Thessalonians 5:18; Ephesians 5:20).

Smile at Him. Smiles spread happiness. Smiles have even been shown to create happiness. Smiles are contagious. And a smile makes any woman more beautiful.

Respond Physically. Did you know that the way you respond (or don’t respond) to your husband’s romantic overtures has a profound effect on his self-confidence? Don’t slap him away when he tries to hug you or make excuses when he’s in the mood. Your enthusiastic cooperation and reciprocation will not only assure him of your love, but will make him feel well respected, too (1 Corinthians 7:3-5).

Eyes Only for Him. Don’t compare your husband unfavorably to other men, real or imaginary. It is neither fair nor respectful and will only breed trouble and discontent. Avoid watching movies or reading books that might cause you to stumble in this area, as well (Psalm 19:14; Proverbs 4:23).

Kiss Him Goodbye. I once read about a study done in Germany which found that men whose wives kissed them goodbye every morning were more successful than those who weren’t kissed. Success and respect often go hand-in-hand, so be sure to send him off right, and don’t forget to greet him with a kiss when he returns home for good measure.

Prepare His Favorite Foods. Although the rest of the family is not overly fond of spaghetti, my husband loves it, so I try to make it at least two or three times a month as a way to honor him. Next time you’re planning meals, give special consideration to your husband’s preferences (Proverbs 31:14, 15).

Cherish Togetherness. I love to sit near my husband, whether at home or away. Our church shares potluck dinners every Sunday afternoon, and although the men and women normally sit separately to visit, I like to position myself close enough to my husband that I can listen to the conversation, as I think everything he says is so interesting. At home, I’ll take my book or handwork to whatever room in the house he’s working in just to be close to him, because I enjoy his company even when neither of us is talking.

Don’t complain. Nobody wants to be around a whiner or complainer. It is grating on the nerves. Remember the serenity prayer: accept the things you can’t change, courageously change the things you can, seek wisdom to know the difference (Philippians 2:140).

Resist the Urge to Correct. I know one wife whose spouse can’t tell a story without her stopping him fifteen times to correct inconsequential details: “It wasn’t Monday evening, it was Monday afternoon…It wasn’t blue, it was turquoise…He didn’t ride the bus, he took a shuttle.” Please. Please. Please. Don’t ever do that to your husband – or to anyone else, for that matter (Proverbs 17:28).

Dress to Please Him. Take care of your appearance. Choose clothes your husband finds flattering, both in public and around the house.

Keep the House Tidy. To the best of your abilities, try to maintain a clean and orderly home. Seek to make it a haven of rest for your entire family (Proverbs 31:27).

Be Content. Do not pressure your husband to keep up with the Jones’. Take satisfaction in the lifestyle he is able to provide for you (1 Timothy 6:6-10; Hebrews 13:5).

Take His Advice. Do not dismiss his opinions lightly, especially when you’ve asked for his counsel in the first place. Make every effort to follow your husband’s advice.

Admire Him. Voiced compliments and heartfelt praise are always welcome, but you should also make it your habit to just look at your husband in a respectful, appreciative way. Think kind thoughts toward him. He’ll be able to see the admiration in your eyes (Luke 6:45).

Protect His Name. Honor your husband in the way you speak of him to family and friends. Guard his reputation and do not let minor disagreements at home cause you to speak ill of him in public. Live in such a way that it will be obvious to others why your husband married you in the first place (Proverbs 12:4; 22:1).

Forgive His Shortcomings. In the words of the late Ruth Bell Graham, “A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.” Please do not hold grudges against your husband. Do not allow a root of bitterness or resentment find a home in your heart. Forgive your husband freely, as Christ has forgiven you (Mark 11:25; Matthew 18:21-35).

Don’t Argue. You are not always right, and you do not always have to have the last word. Be the first to say, “I’m sorry.” Be willing to accept the blame. It takes two to argue, so “abandon a quarrel before it breaks out” (Proverbs 17:14; 21:19; 25:24).

Follow His Lead. If you want your husband to lead, you must be willing to follow. Neither a body nor a family can function well with two heads. Learn to defer to your husband’s wishes and let final decisions rest with him (Ephesians 5:22-24).

He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord (Proverbs 18:22).

Do these 25 things consistently, and your husband will never have trouble believing that fact.

Confusion Over Sexual Personhood is Epidemic and Devastating

Confusion Over Sexual Personhood is Epidemic and Devastating

When I was growing up, we were shown clearly defined gender roles in our home and in our church. My mom was a full-time homemaker and my dad worked hard to provide. When we went anywhere as a family, my dad drove and at restaurants, he was always the one to pay. He took care of the broken and heavy things in and around the home. He took us to church every Sunday and once in a while read Bible stories to us. He prayed at family meals. He was definitely the head of our home. In our church, I never remember a woman getting up on stage except to sing. No, they weren’t worship leaders who gave little mini-sermons between songs or pray, and they didn’t give announcements. They were quiet in the churches.

My children had the same upbringing. I was home full time and Ken worked to provide. He always drove, paid at restaurants, took care of the heavy and broken things in and around the home, and prayed over family meals. Our children were given clear examples of maleness and femaleness and their roles. They have all grown up to exhibit these same roles in their families, thankfully.

John Piper wrote, “The tendency today is to stress the equality of men and women by minimizing the unique significance of our maleness or femaleness. But this depreciation of male and female personhood is a great loss. It is taking a tremendous toll on generations of young men and women who do not know what it means to be a man or a woman. Confusion over the meaning of sexual personhood today is epidemic. The consequence of this confusion is not a free and happy harmony among gender-free persons relating on the basis of abstract competencies. The consequence rather is more divorce, more homosexuality, more sexual abuse, more promiscuity, more social awkwardness, and more emotional distress and suicide that come with the loss of God-given identity.”

God has given us clearly defined gender roles in the family and in the Church. There’s no confusion about this. No, mothers aren’t supposed to be the providers for their families. No, men aren’t supposed to be Mr. Mom. No, women aren’t supposed to give mini or long sermons in the churches or be in any type of leadership positions in the churches.

Women were deceived into believing that their lives at home with their children didn’t matter and they turned culture upside down. The solution to this tragedy? All of you who love the Lord Jesus Christ and want to please Him in all that you do, strive to live in obedience to His commands which aren’t burdensome because His Spirit works mightily within you. He calls you to be a keeper at home with your children. You are a help meet to your husband. This is God’s perfect role for you. Make sure your children are clearly taught and shown the beautiful differences between male and female.

Rebel against our feminist culture and love the role that God has specifically designed for you. Your family will be blessed and your children will most likely grow up to be emotionally stable and secure and be content with who God made them to be; for godliness with contentment is great gain.

Male and female created he them; and blessed them.
Genesis 5:2

Another Christian College Rejects Scripture for Feminism

Another Christian College Rejects Scripture for Feminism

My husband and I graduated from Westmont College in 1980. During our time as students, there were no female Bible professors. Robert Gundry was our Bible teacher at the time and was very well known. His position has just been filled by a woman named Sandra Richter. She wrote a post against what John Piper had to say concerning women professors at seminaries. Here is what she wrote. (Now, remember, she is going to be teaching the Bible at a Christian University.):

“I keep finding my name posted all over Facebook in response to John Piper’s latest presentation on why women are not allowed to pursue their gifting to teach and preach. I have a lot of respect for John Piper. He has accomplished some amazing things for the Kingdom. But his exegesis on this point has been shaped (and distorted) by his culture, not the cultures of the New or Old Testaments. Reality is, that the Holy Spirit is the head of the Church–not any organization designed by humanity. And according to 1 Corinthians 12 and Ephesians 4, it is the Lord Holy Spirit who gets to choose to gift whomever he pleases–Jew or Greek, slave or free, male or female. I am grateful for the accountability that ordination boards keep in our systems. I am grateful for John Piper’s high view of Scripture. And I thank God that there is gate keeping going on as regards who moves into the role of shepherd.”

First of all, women not speaking in the church has nothing to do with cultures. It comes from the beginning of time since the reasons for these commands were that Adam was created first and the woman was deceived. The Bible is clear concerning who shall teach men and be in authority over them in 1 Corinthians 14:34, 35 and 1 Timothy 2:11-14. The Holy Spirit would never act contrary to the principles in God’s Word nor override them. When Paul wrote about Jew, Greek, slave, male, and female, he was referring to the fact that ALL who believe on the Lord Jesus Christ shall be saved.

“But Brother Piper, I’ll take you on any day on this topic. Deborah was not a mistake. Huldah was Prophet. Junia was not a man. Romans 16 is not an anomaly. Priscilla was a preacher. And the women prophesying in 1 Corinthians 11 were exercising the most treasured and authoritative gift of their known covenant. This all in a culture where dowries and bride prices were the norm, women were still required to cover their heads, children belonged to their fathers, and the legal and economic systems rarely recognized a woman’s right to any voice or influence. If she is called and gifted, Church, it is your job to recognize that gift, develop that gift, and deploy that gift. This isn’t your Kingdom, it is His.”

Now, I’ve not attended any theological seminaries nor do I have a doctorate like Richter does but her assessments are wrong. Deborah was not teaching men the Word of God in a church since the Church wasn’t established yet. She was a woman in the Old Testament during a time when Israel was rebellious to the ways of the Lord. She’s not a prescription for the women in the Church age. Deborah was a description of a judge thousands of years ago.

Huldah was a prophetess in the Old Testament. She didn’t teach doctrine to men nor was she in authority over them. She gave King Josiah a special word from the Lord. We are never told in the New Testament to try to become a Deborah nor a Huldah.

Junia was a man according to my Bible. “Salute Andronicus and Junia, my kinsmen, and my fellow-prisoners, who are of note among the apostles, who also were in Christ before me” (Romans 16:7). I believe the word “kinsmen” means that Junia was indeed a man. Even if he was a woman, as Richter claims, he was “of note among the apostles” NOT an apostle. God didn’t choose any female apostles.

The Bible does not say that Priscilla was a preacher. This is such an unbelievable stretch of the Word of God. There’s nowhere that she is recorded as preaching a sermon, teaching men (except one man that was mentioned when she was with her husband who most likely did the teaching), nor being in authority over men. She was married to Aquila and their names are often mentioned together. They helped the Apostle Paul in his ministry.

The women in 1 Corinthians 11 are not instructed to preach or teach men nor be in authority over them. They aren’t to prophesy in the church since this is forbidden and just a few chapters after this, Paul wrote: “Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law. And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church” (1 Corinthians 14:34, 35). He would not have contradicted himself in such a way as Richter claims.

My husband, Ken, responded personally to Richter this way: I wish you would take Piper on in an in-depth discussion of this topic instead of appealing to a weak string of examples of women in ministry to overturn the clear precepts against women teaching in the church, as is clearly given in Scriptures. “I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet” (1 Timothy 2:12); and that an elder is to be “the husband of one wife,” etc. The actual mandates are many, yet you want to destroy them with a few crumbs of examples?

Is it possible that God wants Christian women in teaching ministry in the church? If so, you will not find this from anything written in the Word, but to the contrary, it is found in a new feminist culture. It is not Piper whose interpretation is lost in culture, but you are.

You and others have proposed a dangerous hypothesis that goes contrary to all of Church teaching and history until now, and goes against what the Word actually says. You postulate that because God can do anything He chooses He will go against His own Word on the matter. That the apostles’ instructions to the church were only cultural; a relic of the early NT times that God somehow thought best to keep in place in His church until now.

And where is your basis for knowledge and truth? A simple presupposition, an argument from silence, with zero proof, which goes against what God’s Word actually says.

What a coincidence that it comes just as feminism takes its roots in our culture. Is the Church to influence culture or is culture to influence the Church? I believe that question was settled long ago by Jesus himself when He said, “If you were of the world, the world would love you as its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you” (John 15:19). Hmm… given the accolades it seems the world is loving this now.

For I testify unto every man that heareth the words of the prophecy of this book, If any man shall add unto these things, God shall add unto him the plagues that are written in this book: And if any man shall take away from the words of the book of this prophecy, God shall take away his part out of the book of life, and out of the holy city, and fromthe things which are written in this book.
Revelation 22:18, 19

Following Our Heart and Feelings

Following Our Heart and Feelings

“It always gets me when people talk about ‘listening to your heart’ or ‘following your heart.’ Jesus didn’t say, ‘Lay down your life, take up your cross, and follow your heart.’ In fact, the Lord said quite the opposite. ‘The heart is more deceitful than all else and is desperately sick; who can understand it?’ Christians should not follow their hearts, but the Word. We live in a time where people are more concerned with living by their feelings than by the Truth, sadly.”

This was written by Kelly who just commented on Trying to Justify Christians Watching This is Us. She’s right. We should not follow our hearts but carefully follow God’s Word in everything we do, watch, and read. Charles Spurgeon wrote, “I believe that one reason why the church of God at this present moment has so little influence over the world is because the world has so much influence over the church.”

Are we being entertained by the same garbage that the world is being entertained by or do we make sure that our entertainment is good, lovely, and pure? Are we reading the same books that the world is reading or are we careful with what we fill our minds with? Are we careful to measure our lives and actions by the Word of God instead of our culture? Do we care more about being seekers of God rather than seekers of pleasure?

God is clear in His Word how we are to live our lives. There is no doubt. We are to be a people who are wholly set apart and not conformed to the world (Romans 12:2). We are repeatedly warned of false teachers so we need to avoid them. We are exhorted to be thankful because not being thankful is one of the first steps that leads to all types of sin in Romans 1. Every day is a gift, therefore, it’s important to be thankful to the Giver of life and for each day.

It’s popular today for Christian women to “hear” from God and try to get others to believe that God speaks to them personally. This appeals to their emotions. Does God tell us anywhere in His Word that He will personally speak to us outside of His Word? What the Holy Spirit has never promised to do is to deliver new revelation to non-apostles, no matter how sincerely they wait and listen. Generations of Christians have found that the Holy Spirit has faithfully fed them and led them in deep communion with the mind of Christ through the Scriptures as they have learned the discipline of reading, meditating on the Word, and acquired the tools to study it.”

This is how we are to live our lives, women. Not by following our hearts or our feelings or what we may hear God speak to us personally but by reading and knowing God’s perfect Word. It’s easy for us to be deceived since we tend to allow our emotions  and feelings to guide us instead of truth. We are warned of this in the Word (1 Timothy 2:14). Yes, living godly lives takes sacrifice and self-denial but this what God asks of us and it is the least we can do for all He’s done for us.

There is a great famine in our land of the knowledge of God’s Word, the Bible. This is why so many women are so easily led by false “Christian” authors and teachers. They make them feel good. They don’t know the Word. When they know the Word, they can easily detect a false teacher and flee as the Bible warns. Television shows, movies, and books that are ungodly and/or false teachings will no longer hold any appeal over them since they only want to please the Lord. They are more concerned with following and obeying truth rather than their heart, emotions, or feelings.

But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvellous light.
1 Peter 2:9

Learning to Disagree Without Being Harsh

Learning to Disagree Without Being Harsh

Sometimes, we have some fairly heated conversations in the chat room when it comes to controversial issues like vaccinations, celebrating Halloween or Christmas, healthy eating and living, and other topics that women have strong opinions about. I enjoy these conversations as long as they stay on track and don’t become personal attacks or harsh.

As sisters in Christ, we need to learn how to be able to disagree with each other without becoming harsh, mean, upset, angry, or offended so I asked the women in the chat room how we learn to do this since it’s an important quality to have as a believer in Jesus Christ. I received some great advice that I want to share with you.

Lindsay: “In any discussion, one of the main ways to prevent the discussion from degrading into a heated argument is keeping the focus on the topic itself rather than the people who take the opposite position. Ad hominem doesn’t foster productive discussion. Of course, we can’t control whether other people take offense, but we can avoid causing offense by not attacking them personally. If both sides do that, it rarely turns ugly.”

Dolly: “If both sides can’t respect the opinion of the other, it is something that is better not talked about with that particular company. Unless it is a salvation issue, there is something to be said about holding our tongues.”

Shelley: “I suppose sharing your opinion once and then dropping it. Not everyone is built emotionally for polite debate like Lindsay. When I disagree with something and I’ve already shared my opinion I just try to let it go. I used to feel like I needed to believe the same way as certain people if I looked up to them and respected them. And it made me very uncomfortable to disagree with them. But now I have peace about it!”

Susan: “I think the discussions on controversial subjects that I’ve seen go well, people have been calm, explained their position without attacking, name calling, etc., and keeping the discussion on the subject and what they have learned about it. Also, try to take the other people’s statements in the best possible way rather than assuming the worst. When people start attacking, or taking things personally, it tends to devolve quickly. I think you also have to go into the discussion with the understanding that you are not likely to change their mind, and they have the right to have a different opinion, even if you believe it is wrong.”

Verna: “Kindness. You you can speak about it kindly, even if you feel passionately about the subject, people would probably be more interested in hearing what we have to say.”

Katie: “I also try to find things in common with the other side and recognize it verbally. For example, in the vaccine debate when it was mentioned that it’s clear we all have the same goal: to keep our children safe and healthy.”

Judy: “Humility, Respect, and a Teachable spirit. If we are humble,we won’t get offended easily. When we show respect to others, conversations go much better. When we have a teachable spirit, we are continuously seeking wisdom and realize that our opinions may not always be right, and there is something that we can learn from each person that we meet.”

Lorraine: “I second the comments above! 💖 The only thing that I would add is to not assume that someone who holds the opposite opinion will act or judge like others who hold that same opinion, i.e. you can’t throw their actions in the same category even if their belief is in the same category.  It’s more difficult online rather than face to face, because you can’t read attitude or personality very well.”

Cassie: “I believe a place such as this chat room is the best place to discuss such things. There are many different life experiences that each opinion is based off of and some may be able to share insight that may not have otherwise been seen or heard. And what better place to learn such things than in a room full of like-minded ladies who are all striving to become more Christlike.”

Joy: “I try to remember that my opinions and actions and beliefs about a topic are just that – my opinions and that almost always, those are shaped and molded by experiences, choices, and environment that I was raised/lived in. I try to remind myself that others’ experiences, choices, and environments shaped who they are and why they do what they do. Just because someone doesn’t agree with me doesn’t mean they have an agenda or are against me. It means their experiences were/are different and almost everyone I’ve engaged in conversation with on numerous topics feel certain ways because of something they went through, survived, were raised in, or saw someone else they were close to go through.

“I remember when I was 12 I watched a documentary about the death penalty and how the man ended up being innocent but the call was too late and he was dead. I remember being horrified and crying and thinking how awful that was and thinking that the death penalty was a horrible idea because of the people who were innocent (ahhh, my innocence back then I now know this is a rare anomaly). Fast forward 20 years and my best friend’s two year old little boy was violently murdered and it was so heinous a crime we were devastated and wanted that man to pay – with his life. It didn’t seem fair for him to be alive when precious boy wasn’t. This is definitely a great example of why women as emotional beings shouldn’t make decisions in heightened states of emotions!”

Robin: “In any discussion, remain on topic without veering into accusatory statements towards others, and avoid stereotyping the people giving opposing perspective. Most of the enormous online debacles I’ve witnessed have started with a hot topic, and remained civil for awhile, until someone decided to use an accusatory tone towards a person, instead of addressing the actual topic in a civil way.”

Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.
Colossians 3:12, 13

Women Teaching in Seminary?

Women Teaching in Seminary?

A few days ago, I read an article by John Piper called Is There a Place for Female Professors at Seminary? My immediate response when I saw the title was NO! If women are to be silent in the churches and not to teach nor be in authority over men, they should NOT be teaching men in seminary who are preparing to be pastors and teachers of the Word.

John Piper wrote: “If it is unbiblical to have women as pastors, how can it be biblical to have women who function in formal teaching and mentoring capacities to train and fit pastors for the very calling from which the mentors themselves are excluded? I don’t think that works. The issue is always that inconsistency. If you strive to carve up teaching in such a way that it’s suitable for women, it ceases to be suitable as seminary teaching.” I agreed with him 100%.

The next morning, a woman shared this tweet by Melissa Moore. Melissa is the daughter of Beth Moore and I wouldn’t be surprised if her tweet was in direct response to John Piper’s article since it happened on the same day:

Yes, women, Melissa’s tweet is in direct disobedience to God’s clearly stated Word and instead, wanting to be in control just like Eve. I’m not even sure women should be attending seminary. They can easily learn the Word from reading their Bibles, listening to capable men of God who have gone to seminary, and asking their husbands at home as the Bible instructs.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being only “taught by men” since every single book of the Bible was written by men, and elders (those who are called to teach the Word) are to be the “husband of one wife.” Jesus was a man! Would she have trouble only learning from Him?

The Apostle Paul wrote to Timothy, “And the things that thou hast heard of me among many witnesses, the same commit thou to faithful men, who shall be able to teach others also (2 Timothy 2:2).” He could have easily added in there to “commit thou to faithful men and women” but he did not. The preaching and teaching of the Word of God was given to men.

The purpose of seminary is to train men to go into the ministry as John Piper clearly stated: “When a student with the pastoral call arrives at the level of seminary preparation, something is different from what was happening in college education and high school education (at least, usually it is). Not only has he moved beyond the adolescent years of transition from boyhood to manhood, but he is now submitting himself to a community of teachers who, by their precept and example, are called to shape his mind and his heart for vocational pastoral ministry.”

God does not call women to be involved in teaching doctrine in the churches or be involved in “women’s ministries” where women are taught the Bible from popular female preachers and teachers, as Robert Truelove wrote in his article Why Most Evangelical Women are Worthless:

“Jesus wants us to be faithful to our calling and humbly acknowledge that we are just doing what we are supposed to do. Herein is the problem that plagues the typical evangelical woman. She doesn’t know what her calling is, she is subsequently discouraged, and lives an unfulfilling life.

“To address this problem we have the never ending series of ‘women’s ministries’. Women flock to these ‘ministries’ in the hopes of gaining some sort of ‘breakthrough’. They are taught their purpose can be realized by either starting their own ‘women’s ministry’ or working within one already established.

“The entire paradigm of the ‘women’s ministry’ is broken. It’s a vicious cycle. Women are trapped in the lies of feminism and find their Christian lives to be unfulfilling. They seek answers from a ‘women’s ministry’ and are ultimately taught they will find fulfillment by involving themselves in ‘women’s ministry.’ This doesn’t address the calling of the Christian woman and further obscures it.”

As I have stated before, if God doesn’t want women teaching men because a) man was created first, therefore, the one that God placed in authority, and b) the woman was deceived, as perfect Eve was deceived by the serpent, why would He want women teaching other women more than what He has specifically called them to teach in Titus 2:3-5? Most of these female preachers/teachers of the word fail to teach any parts of Titus 2:3-5 since these things aren’t popular to teach and, most likely, these women are not keepers at home. But this is what God has “called” the older women to teach and He has never called the young women to be involved in “women’s ministries” or teach the Word to others.

I agree with Pastor Robert Truelove 100%. Yes, I may be in the minority but it’s what I see clearly from the Word of God.

“A Christian woman should be taught to find her calling first and foremost IN HER HOME. The domestic duties of the home are her sphere of Christian leadership, for she is to be a ‘keeper of the home.’ Her first ministry is to her husband and children as she loves and serves them as a Christian wife and mother. This is WHO the Christian woman ought to be!

“This is the comprehensive witness of the Scriptures. When a Christian woman seeks to ‘find herself’ outside of the home, it is not piety but rebellion. Such women make poor wives and mothers but it doesn’t have to be that way. Christian women who lay hold of their calling by faith, believing in God’s role for them, discover their purpose. Contentment and fulfillment will follow.”

The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:3-5

From Norman Rockwell’s America to Hugh Hefner’s America

From Norman Rockwell’s America to Hugh Hefner’s America

Yesterday, I watched Agenda: Grinding America Down. I encourage you to watch it, too, and pass it on to all you know. It’s a powerful movie!

Here are some insights and quotes that I took from it.

The goal of Communism is to detach our culture from any moral anchors whatsoever and turn Norman Rockwell’s America into a Hugh Hefner’s America. Socialism is the first and necessary step towards Communism.

Why is the left pushing their socialist agenda on us? They’re either ignorant or evil. America has an enemy that’s getting very close to accomplishing its plan of destroying the greatest country in all world history.

The man who spoke in the movie attended a USA Communist Meeting at Berkeley in 1992. These were their stated goals:

In order to destroy families, they wanted to promote cohabitation instead of marriage. They wanted to try to get children away into government programs at the earliest age possible. They wanted to get behind the feminist movement because they felt that it had been very successful in making women discontent with marriage and motherhood. They wanted to destroy our culture of religion and morality. They said that if they could get Americans to accept homosexuality, they thought it would begin to extinguish our traditional moral values that America held.

He also found a book that was written in 1958 called The Naked Communist. It was written by a former FBI agent. Here are some of its goals.

Eliminate prayer in schools. Discredit the family as an institution. Encourage promiscuity and easy divorce. Get control of the schools. Use them as transmission belts for socialism. Eliminate all laws governing obscenity. Break down cultural standards of morality by promoting pornography in books, magazines, motion pictures, and TV. Present homosexuality, degeneracy, and promiscuity as “normal, natural, healthy.” Infiltrate the press. Infiltrate churches and replace revealed religion with “social” religion and discredit the Bible. These people have been working behind the scenes for the past 50 years to destroy America.

What’s so bad about Communism? It’s evil, a completely tyrannical system, and leads to mass murders. (The ideals that lead to mass murders are still being taught in our schools; Darwinism being one of them. If we’re all from monkeys, life isn’t valuable.) They are doing more to remake our country by going into the schools than they could by throwing bombs.

“I believe the average patriotic American underestimates the importance and influence education has on their children…they’re capturing ours through the propaganda they teach them seven hours a day for 13 years, and even longer if they attend college. We are losing most of our children to the other side in the government schools…There is a battle going on for the hearts and minds of our children.”

“So when they’re teaching social justice in the schools, they’re not talking about free enterprise and capitalism and individual self-responsibility; all the things that made America great. They’re talking about the things that made Europe and the Soviet Union and China so bad.”

Communism is the final phase and goal of socialism and socialism is best described by two words: big government. History proves that this is evil and destroys everything in its path: law, morality, family, prosperity, productivity, education, incentives, and finally, life itself. It creates conditions for Stalin or Hitler to come into power. “My object in life is to dethrone God and destroy capitalism.” (Karl Marx)

A people cannot be given freedom without morality or they self-destruct. Freedom and free enterprise are simply fruit on the tree of morality. Our Founding Fathers clearly understood this principle. “Our Constitution was made only for a moral and religious people. It is wholly inadequate to the government of any other.” (John Adams, Second President of the United States)

“Feminism’s goal is to destroy a patriarchy society for a matriarchal society. In other words, remove the father as the loving provider, discipliner, discipler, leader of his home, where you instill virtues and integrity and modesty. That’s been broken down on purpose because they knew if they could destroy the family, they could destroy a nation and instead of having a father who leads and disciples, who protects the home, and provides for the family, the government steps in as a nanny state.”

We must remember who this all originates from so we will remember who our true enemy is and not fight the wrong one. “Lest we forget at least an over-the-shoulder acknowledgment to the very first radical – the first radical known to man who rebelled against the establishment and did so effectively that he at least won his own kingdom – Lucifer.”

For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
Ephesians 6:12

Democrats have gone so far left now that they are right along with the socialists’ and communists’ agenda. They are literally at war with God.

What can we do about this? Are we to live in fear and allow it to steal our joy? NO! Here is a post I wrote out last week for encouragement for you but I do encourage you to homeschool your children (“Give me four years to teach the children and the seed I have sown will never be uprooted.” Vladimir Lenin) and only send your children to universities if they want to be doctors or something that needs a college degree. We can’t support these institutions that are leading to the destruction of America and poisoning it; for we are the salt and light of the world!

Ye are the salt of the earth: but if the salt have lost his savour, wherewith shall it be salted? it is thenceforth good for nothing, but to be cast out, and to be trodden under foot of men. Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on an hill cannot be hid. Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.
Matthew 5:13-16

Pray daily for our country and our President and speak the truth in love. This is what we are called to do.

I exhort therefore, that, first of all, supplications, prayers, intercessions, and giving of thanks, be made for all men; For kings, and for all that are in authority; that we may lead a quiet and peaceable life in all godliness and honesty.
1 Timothy 2:1, 2

Women Bloggers, Point Women to Jesus!

Women Bloggers, Point Women to Jesus!

God spoke to Noah personally. God told him that He was going to destroy the earth by flood so Noah needed to build a big ark to survive. Can you imagine what kind of preaching this “preacher of righteousness” preached? I’m sure it was not tickling their ears type of preaching or “find your best life now” or some watered-down lukewarm kind of teaching. “There’s something terrible that’s going to happen one day but it’s okay. Spend your life as you please, pursue your goals, and make as much money as you can.”

No, he was preaching that the earth would be destroyed, urging them to turn from their wicked ways, and they would all be drowned if they didn’t get on the boat with him. I’m sure he was laughed at, slandered, ridiculed, and even threatened but this didn’t stop him. No, he knew that God would keep His promise and destroy the entire earth so I’m sure he used every opportunity he had to speak this hard truth to all around him.

There are many “Christian” women who have blogs, TV shows, and Instagram accounts. Some have very large followings and are very popular. There are decorating blogs which show women how to decorate their homes. Other women teach how to fix delicious and beautiful food. Others are into fashion and the latest trends. There are even some who teach woman all about nutrition and how to be healthy. Some motivate and encourage women to clean their homes and live more simply. I follow some of these women but it’s heartbreaking to me that they don’t use their platforms to point people to Jesus. No, they wouldn’t be as popular and would most likely lose a lot of “followers” but so what?

God has spoken to me personally through His Word. He has told me that He’s going to burn up, I mean totally destroy, this world one day soon (2 Peter 3:10). It’s going to be rolled up like a scroll (Revelation 6:14). Therefore, I want to take every opportunity I can to point people to Jesus. I’ve been at parties and “clicked” with other women but as soon as I begin to talk about Jesus, they leave but it doesn’t matter to me. I’m only responsible for planting seeds of truth and pointing others to Jesus.

Yes, I get laughed at, slandered, ridiculed, and even threatened but this doesn’t bother me because I know what’s at stake. All those beautiful homes those women are decorating and learning to keep clean and tidy are one day going to burn. All those delicious and healthy foods they’re preparing will one day be meaningless. The latest fashions and clothes will burn up, too. Jesus is coming again and it won’t be pretty for those who reject Him.

Did you know that only what you do for Christ will last? Your decorated homes won’t. Your delicious foods won’t. Your clothes and fashions won’t. Only what you’ve done for Christ.

What are you doing for Christ? If someone looked at your Facebook page, could they convict you of being a Christian? If you have a blog or Instagram account, can others easily see that you love the Lord and use it to point people to Jesus? If not, you better begin storing your treasures in heaven and begin to speak truth to people because Christ is returning and everything is definitely going to burn.

Only one life, twill soon be past,
Only what’s done for Christ will last. (C. T. Studd)

Use your life wisely, women.

See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise, Redeeming the time, because the days are evil.
Ephesians 5:15, 16

No Wide Open Door For Divorce

No Wide Open Door For Divorce

Written By Anne Ortlund

Is divorce ever allowable according to the Scriptures? When the Pharisees asked Jesus if it was lawful for a man to divorce his wife, He answered with great strength.

And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. (Matthew 19:4-6)

But when Jesus seemed so adamant against divorce, the Pharisees pressed him, as people are apt to do.

They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? (Matthew 19:7)

Jesus’ answer shows how loath He was to make divorce seem a logical solution:

He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. (Matthew 19:8)

But then His next sentence and another Scripture later on indicate two possible situations allowing divorce:

And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. (Matthew 19:9)

Opening the door a crack, “except for fornication,” is vastly different from throwing it open wide. He didn’t say, “Now, all of you who have been cheated on, please feel free to walk right on through here. There’s no problem. You’ve got your ticket to divorce right in your hand. Y’all come!”

The implication is, “If you insist, it’s permissible for this reason, but don’t feel you must. Forgiving, persevering, loving is better.”

Permanent desertion by a non-Christian partner from a Christian partner is the second possibility. Again, when the Bible brings this up, it presents it not as a free ticket to exit a marriage, but as a very last resort:

If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. (1 Corinthians 12b-14)

God is concerned about the welfare of children…Recently we heard a radio talk show psychologist spend a lengthy period of time interviewing only adults in their thirties and beyond whose parents had divorced many years before, when they were children. All of these adults interviewed had either never married or they had married and divorced several times, and the same reason came through repeatedly like a broken record: a whole generation later, these people could not successfully relate to adults in a close, trusting situation because of an unshakable fear that they might be abandoned.

This is not to discourage you if you’re the child of divorced parents; the power of the Holy Spirit can make glorious exceptions to every human tendency! This is a warning to couples considering divorce.

“What if the relationship gets actually violent, or if the marriage is just too miserable to stay intact?” Do we qualify to answer that – we who have never suffered in this way? In counseling others we have hurt when they hurt, but it’s not the same. We don’t want to sound flippant or give easy one-two-three answers to any who are going through very deep marital waters.

There are three needs. Repentance is always in order, and godly counseling from a qualified person who takes the Bible seriously, and loving, praying friends.

Beyond those, consider this suggestion: When a spouse or a child is in actual danger, perhaps the only thing to do is to separate, to stay out of the physical presence of the offender. Separation is not divorce.

This is comparable to the action of the father of the prodigal son. Ther father let him go and put physcial distance between them, but he didn’t disown his son. He didn’t cut him off. He was saying, “I haven’t changed. I’m still on the same old terms, ready to receive you again. When you repent and return, my love for you will have persevered through it all. I’ll be right there, welcoming you back, eagerly and forever.”

There are many marriages today of great triumph, in which one partner has remained patient and faithful and forgiving in spite of every legitimate reason for divorce, until the erring partner repents.

Elizabeth Achtemeier write of her own parents in her book The Committed Marriage,

To give a person witness, I grew up in a home which, for a period, was marked with violent differences, arguments, and the threat of divorce. Through all the turbulence and heartache, my Christian mother refused to agree to the separation because she thought it was wrong for a Christian to do so. Some outside of the family thought she was foolish, but personally I am deeply grateful for her. Contrary to the belief of some psychologists, she prevented psychic damage to her children far beyond what measure of it we suffered in a troubled home. She lived to enjoy a mellowed and loving relationship with Dad in their later years. He himself came to a simple but deep Christian faith, and the last words I heard Mother say to him before her death were, “You really do love me, don’t you?”

If Elizabeth’s mother hadn’t had staying power or that marriage, how would Elizabeth have turned out? Do you think that a generation later a wonderful book would ever have been written to the blessing of many?

Let us tell you about two real couples (their names are, of course, changed) among our friends.

1. Susie has been married to Kevin for fifteen years. She and Kevin are both attractive, prominent Christians, and they have five beauiful children. Many younger believers have looked to them as models, and they are pillars in their church.

Recently, Susie was shocked to discover that Kevin had been playing around with another woman. Susie is divorcing him.

2. Jane became a believer early in her marriage, and she faithfully loved and cared for her husband Carey through insult after insult as he flirted openly before her and had affair after affair. This behavior went on for thirty years!

But Jan had staying power: Her love simply outlasted Carey’s rebellion. And when at last he was broken and repentant and accepted Christ into his heart, he couldn’t appreciate and love her enough.

Look at these two marriages from the perspective of ten years from now. (Remember, keep your eyes ahead, and always live today in the light of tomorrow.)

1. Susie and Kevin will have bitter memories locked inside their hearts, and damaged children, and friends who never understood and so backed away. There could be awkward children’s weddings…They themselves may also have new marriages and the confusion of relationships between ex-spouses and current ones, “his” children and “hers,” and too many grandparents, uncles, and aunts, mostly also hurting and confused. They’ll have rethought whether they could remain in their church, and probably one will have left, feeling abandoned and resentful. Both will feel uncertain about their “ministries” (they’ve been Bible teachers) for the rest of their lives, in the church’s confusion over whether they still qualify for leadership and service.

2. Jane and Carey will be in their “golden years,” considered by their church as models – a lovely older couple who had earlier struggles but finally “made it.” And Carey, in great gratitude, will probably treat Jane as he does today – like the queen that she truly is.

Listen: In your marriage, as in every marriage, there will be, along the way, those little – enormous! – moments of decision when you take a stand, one way or the other:

“I will forgive” (Matt. 18:21-22), or –

“I will not forgive.”

Decide right now that your love will not be conditional; as often as the crises come, you will forgive and forgive and forgive. And do you know what? Chances are, you will also be forgiven.

They are Marching Against God

They are Marching Against God

Today, many women will be marching for their “rights” all over the country and their rights have absolutely nothing to do with godliness or God’s will for them. They want nothing to do with God’s ordained authority structure. They want their way and little do they know that they are participating in the destruction of our culture as they listen to their father, the Devil, who is the father of lies. 

Here are portions of a great sermon by Alistair Begg. He preached about the perfect roles that God has designed for men and women .

God has given the man the place and role of leadership. He has done this from the beginning. Read what Paul has to say in 1 Timothy 2 and 1 Corinthians 11…What Paul is arguing is from the doctrine of creation…What he makes clear is that God made Eve from Adam. He made Eve after Adam. He made Eve for Adam…He made them equal but He didn’t make them identical. You may have noticed that!…

He made them to go together. He made them to fit together anatomically. Things fit – you will notice one day if you haven’t noticed. And not only physically but psychologically. Their parts, Adam and Eve’s, man and woman’s parts and their roles, are not interchangeable according to the Bible. You may think you’re Mr. Mom but you’re not.

According to God, He has made you wonderfully, different, and purposefully so equal under creation, equal as the heirs of the grace of God, and He has done it this way for the good of humanity because He knows best. He’s the Creator…Marriage is not a human invention. Marriage is God’s plan and pattern for all of time. People know this!

What God has established from creation no culture has been able to destroy. I guarantee no culture has ever destroyed it; no culture will destroy it. The culture will destroy itself before it destroys God’s design. Hence the fall of Rome. Hence the fall of Greece. Hence the fall of so many of these empires because they said they will have no God to rule over us. We will do it our way…

A destroyed culture will eventually have to stand and acknowledge God is God because from the very beginning what is declared is not culturally contained or limited. It is timeless and it is universal…That’s why the challenges of our day are not about superficial things. They’re not about people’s preferences. They’re about the very central issues of the Godness of God and the humanity of humanity.

So the question is then inevitable. Someone will say in the course of conversation, “How did things get so upside down?”…How will you answer without your Bible? Because in terms of man and woman and in terms of human sexuality all of these elements have been badly soured by man’s rebellion and disobedience to God…Serpent comes and deceives Eve and she listens to the serpent rather than to Adam. Adam listens to Eve instead of fulfilling his responsibility to lead Even and neither of them listen to God and the result is disastrous.

Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.
John 8:44