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Mutual Annoyances and Daily Pinpricks

Mutual Annoyances and Daily Pinpricks

Since my grandchildren left The Screwtape Letters on my coffee table, I have decided to write a post on all the chapters that seem applicable to what I love to teach, namely anything concerning women. From chapter three, this man that the Devil and his helper are working on has become a believer so they are trying to find ways to make him fall away from the faith, namely, hoping he has shallow roots when any type of hard times come. In this chapter, the man is living with his mother but for the sake of this post I am going to change it to a wife living with her husband.

“The Enemy (God) will be working from the center outwards, gradually bringing more and more of the patient’s conduct under the new standard (obedience), and may reach her behavior to her husband at any moment.” You know, that whole winning him without a word thing by being in subjection to him with godly behavior that God comforts wives with in 1 Peter 3:1? Yes, this is God’s perfect prescription for winning a disobedient husband to Jesus, if he is not a believer or claims to be but is living in unrepentant sin.

“Build up between you in that house a good settled habit of mutual annoyance; daily pinpricks.” I am sure every single one of you can relate to this. How many things does your husband do that irritates you? Have you learned to stop allowing it to bother you or do you nag him to death about it? The first way builds your home up and the second one tears it down. As soon as you feel the slightest of irritation towards him, begin singing in your thoughts or out loud, “Turn your eyes upon Jesus. Look full in His wonderful face and the things of earth will grow strangely dim in the light of His glory and grace” and remind yourself that love is longsuffering and kind.

“You must bring her to a condition in which she can practice self-examination for an hour without discovering any of those facts about herself which are perfectly clear to anyone who has ever lived in the same house with her or worked in the same office.” We all have faults. Instead of pointing fingers at others, we must concentrate on the three pointing back at us. Listen to the criticisms of those who know you best: your parents, your siblings, your spouse, and close friends. Work on these and have someone hold you accountable to get rid of them. Examine yourselves, whether ye be in the faith; prove your own selves (2 Corinthians 13:5).

“Make sure that they are always very ‘spiritual’, that she is always concerned with the state of his soul and never with his rheumatism…I have had patients of my own so well in hand that they could be turned at a moment’s notice from impassioned prayer for a husband’s son or son’s soul to beating or insulting the real husband or son without a qualm.” If we are concentrated on praying for God to take away all of our husband’s sins and to walk in obedience to the Lord and His ways while ignoring our own sin and the way we treat others, we are lacking in grace and character. If your husband has aches and pains, pray for him and have compassion on him as well as his eternal soul. As you begin to have compassion on him and praying for everything concerning him, you will find yourself actually caring for and loving him more deeply.

“When two humans have lived together for many years it usually happens that each has tones of voice and expressions of face which are almost unendurably irritating to each other. Work on that…And, of course, never let her suspect that her tones and looks which similarly annoy him. As she cannot see or hear herself, this is easily managed.” If your husband says you are too harsh, loud, or disrespectful, instead of responding, “Well, you’re…”, believe him and go about stopping this behavior. Tell him you are sorry and you won’t do it again. “Go and sin no more.”

“In civilized life domestic hatred usually expresses itself by saying things which would appear quite harmless on paper (the words are not offensive) but in such a voice, or at such a moment, that they are not far short of a blow in the face. To keep this game up you and Glubose (another demon) must see to it that each of these two fools has a sort of double standard. Your patient must demand that all of her own utterances are to be taken at their face value and judged simply on the actual words, while at the same time judging all her husband’s utterances with the fullest and most over-sensitive interpretation of the tone and the context and suspected intention. He must be encouraged to do the same to her. Hence from every quarrel they can both go away convinced, or very nearly convinced, that they are quite innocent.”

One of the worst things a wife can do is over analyze her husband’s words and behaviors. Instead, learn to not get offended easily for getting offended easily is another word for self-pity and self-pity is satanic. When you find yourself becoming critical towards your husband and falling into a pit of self-pity, quickly take these thoughts captives to the Lord Jesus Christ. “I don’t think this way anymore. I am a new creature in Christ and choose to believe the best about my husband!” Make sure your words, actions, and facial expressions towards him are respectful as well, since this honors the Lord.

Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord; Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled.
Hebrews 12:14, 15

The. Same. Old. Thing.

The. Same. Old. Thing.

Stay-at-home mother. Faithful, submissive wife. Homemaker. It’s the Same. Old. Thing. for many of us. We wash dishes over and over again. We’ve changed hundreds of diapers, rocked sick babies, fixed another meal, vacuumed another carpet, shopped for healthy food, cleaned another toilet, and on and on the list goes. The. Same. Old. Thing.

My grandchildren were here this past weekend. Their parents needed a break so we had the three young ones for 24 hours. It was hard because Ken and I are not young anymore but we loved it! Hard isn’t bad. It’s just hard but worth it. Yes, I had to change diapers, feed them over and over again, teach them about Jesus, clean up, pick up, and scrub. The. Same. Old. Thing.

Do you know that the enemy of our soul has used the Same. Old. Thing. to take many women away from the path that the Lord wants them to be on? My grandchildren love books and they happened to leave out “The Screwtape Letters”* by C. S. Lewis (Satan talking to his helper on how to weaken Christianity) on my coffee table. (No, they can’t read this book yet. It’s way above their ability to read or understand!) I decided to pick it up and read some of it and I read about the Same. Old. Thing. and how Satan uses this in our lives to draw us away from God’s will.

“The horror of the Same Old Thing is one of the most valuable passions we have produced in the human heart – an endless source of heresies in religion, folly in counsel, infidelity in marriage, and inconstancy in friendship…To experience much of it, therefore, they must experience many different things; in other words, they must experience change…He (God) has contrived to gratify both tastes together in the very world He has made, by that union of change and permanence which we call Rhythm. He gives them the seasons, each season different yet every year the same, so that spring is always felt as a novelty yet always as the recurrence of an immemorial theme.”*

Man naturally wants and enjoys change and God has given us change in a godly and beautiful ways: seasons, morning, evening, the tide, the moon, food, the flowers, birth, childhood, adulthood, old age, death. We should be content with the change He brings in our lives and not be making up “new and improved” ways to worship, live, and love that God has established for us.

“Now just as we pick out and exaggerate the pleasure of eating to produce gluttony, so we pick out this natural pleasantness of change and twist it into a demand for absolute novelty.”* Feminism. Careers for women. Daycare. Affairs. Worsening of TV shows and movies. Public schooling.

“This demand is valuable in various ways. In the first place it diminishes pleasure while increasing desire.”* Feminism began to “help” women depending upon who you ask. They “helped” them to be able to own property, vote, and a few other things. These didn’t bring the pleasure they expected so they went after birth control, sex with whomever, abortion, divorce, no-fault divorce, child care, careers. These didn’t bring the pleasures they expected either, so they have a Women’s March and dress up in vaginas and post tampons on walls and have no idea what they are “fighting” so hard for anymore. Their pleasure is gone but they still have a rebellious desire for change because they are sick of the Same. Old. Thing.

“And continued novelty costs money, so that the desire for it spells avarice or unhappiness of both. And again, the more rapacious this desire, the sooner it must eat up all the innocent sources of pleasure and pass on to those the Enemy (God) forbids. Thus by inflaming the horror of the Same Old Thing we have recently made the Arts, for example. less dangerous to us than perhaps, they have ever been, ‘low-brow’ and ‘high-brow’ artists alike being now daily drawn into fresh, and still fresh, excesses of lasciviousness, unreason, cruelty, and PRIDE.”*

 For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who hold the truth in unrighteousness; Because that which may be known of God is manifest in them; for God hath shewed it unto them. For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even his eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without excuse: Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened. Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools, And changed the glory of the uncorruptible God into an image made like to corruptible man, and to birds, and fourfooted beasts, and creeping things. Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves: Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen. (Romans 1:18-25)

“But the greatest triumph of all is to elevate this horror of the Same Old Thing into a philosophy so that nonsense in the intellect may reinforce corruption in the will.”* Way too many women are swayed by the Ancient Serpent of old (feminism and pride which is fueled by the depraved universities; For the wisdom of this world is foolishness with God.): “I don’t feel validated, worth anything, or appreciated being at home all day stuck with my children doing the same old thing. I need to get out. Use my gifts, intellect, and talents the Lord gave me. Put my children in day care for others to raise, make my husband help me with household chores, and make my mark on the world!”

“The Enemy (God) loves platitudes. Of a proposed course of action He wants men, so far as I can see, to ask very simple questions; is it righteous? is it prudent? is it possible? Now if we can keep men asking, ‘Is it in accordance with the general movement of our time? is is progressive or reactionary? Is this the way that History is going?’ they will neglect the relevant questions. And the questions they do ask are, of course, unanswerable; for they do not know the future, and what the future will be depends very largely on just those choices which they now invoke the future to help them make.”* Christians should measure all their decisions by “is it righteous? is it prudent? is it possible?” reassured with the fact that we know what and where our future is and  that He (God) has the best prescription for our lives, even if our lives are the Same. Old. Thing. day after day and fraught with hardships. For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, worketh for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory; While we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen are temporal; but the things which are not seen are eternal (2 Corinthians 4:18).

“Once they knew that some changes were for the better, and others for the worse, and others again indifferent. We have largely removed this knowledge.”* They no longer can distinguish good from evil and get them all mixed up. Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter! (Isaiah 5:20)

The ironic thing is in the end, mothers who leave their homes to find fulfillment and satisfaction from careers and their instead of caring for their husbands, children, and homes, end up doing the Same. Old. Thing, day after day but not according to God’s will for them and everyone suffers. They fail to store their treasures in heaven where they belong.

*The Screwtape Letters

Social Justice and Immigration

Social Justice and Immigration

“Wait? Why are you writing on these political hot topics? You’re supposed to teach women to love their husbands and be homemakers, not delve into the political scene?” I try not to “delve” into it often (but I may if I feel something is important) but I have seen something disconcerting to me among many famous women bloggers and teachers/preachers. Instead of teaching women to love and obey their husbands, love their children, be modest, discreet, good, sober, keepers at home, with meek and quiet spirits, they have taken on the mantle of social justice.

It sounds great. Feed the hungry. Clothe the poor. Petition our government to do the same. What is a government’s role according to the Bible:

“Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God. Therefore whoever resists the authorities resists what God has appointed, and those who resist will incur judgment. For rulers are not a terror to good conduct, but to bad. Would you have no fear of the one who is in authority? Then do what is good, and you will receive his approval, for he is God’s servant for your good. But if you do wrong, be afraid, for he does not bear the sword in vain. For he is the servant of God, an avenger who carries out God’s wrath on the wrongdoer. Therefore one must be in subjection, not only to avoid God’s wrath but also for the sake of conscience” (Romans 13:1-7).

The government’s chief aim is to protect its people from harm from inside forces (police and firemen do this), set rules that govern the nation for protection (legislative branches), and protect from outside evil (military fights this). Period. Policemen, military, and firemen are the men who are called to protect our nation from harm. Yes, America has always welcomed those who are poor and this is good but its first priority is to protect the people “that we may lead a peaceful and quiet life, godly and dignified in every way. This is good, and it is pleasing in the sight of God our Savior” (1 Timothy 2:3).

God commands Christians to be the ones to help the poor and needy by giving them money and any help they are able to give, not governments. Big, intrusive governments hurt people. They don’t ever make people’s lives better by redistributing wealth because they are a cold, hard, and lifeless organism that wastes money and resources, unlike the Church is supposed to be.

Now, what about all these women teachers who have taken over social justice as their cause. Let’s go to C.S. Lewis’ The Screwtape Letters for some answers. The Devil speaking to one of his followers: “About the general connection between Christianity and politics, our position is more delicate. Certainly we do not want men to allow their Christianity to flow over into their political life, for the establishment of anything like a really JUST society would be a major disaster. On the other hand we do want, and want very much, to make men treat Christianity as a means; preferably, of course, as a means to their own advancement, but, failing that, as a meant to anything – even to social justice.” (I capitalized just.)

What is a just society in God’s eyes? Women are keepers at home, loving and obeying their husbands, loving their children, sober, good, discreet, and chaste with gentle and quiet spirits. They work quietly within their homes having hands that stay busy cooking, cleaning, training, loving, and serving. Single women are holy in body and in spirit (1 Corinthians 7:34). All just societies are built upon strong families. When families crumble, so do nations. As godly families, we are lights in a dark world, helping any one and in any way that we can but mostly that others come to know the Savior of their soul.

We aren’t continually leaving our families to go “preach” to large gatherings of women like the IF Gatherings that teach nothing about building strong marriages and families.

“IF’s leaders insist that biblical Christianity has failed as a viable work of God and that God and they are bringing forth a cure—New Christianity.

I fear that IF’s excellent adventure is advertisement for a mass departure from God’s Word. Rather than having their faith built up, participants are encouraged to question ‘traditional’ Christianity. And those who are giving the answers—the IF women—are unfortunately getting their information from emergents and mystics who present a different gospel and another Jesus.

It is addictive, this linguistic confection. The mind is overcome with giddiness. But is it of God? Or is it rather a ‘beautiful’ seduction? I believe the latter is true.”

These women remind me of last phrase: “Thus saith the LORD, Stand ye in the ways, and see, and ask for the old paths, where is the good way, and walk therein, and ye shall find rest for your souls. But they said, We will not walk therein” (Jeremiah 6:16). Let us, as godly women, walk in the old paths and the good way described perfectly in God’s Word!

When governments do what they are called to do, the Church is doing what it is supposed to do (including helping the widows and orphans), women are doing what they are supposed to be doing, and men what they are called to do, then we will have a JUST society and not until then.