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Let Her Own Works Praise Her

Let Her Own Works Praise Her

Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
Proverbs 31:31

Recently, Joy told me that she loves to make her husband hearty and delicious lunches to take to work. All the other men that work with her husband, Jim, see his lunches and Jim tells them what an amazing wife that he has been blessed with. This man is praising his wife “in the gates.” A wife who serves and pleases her husband will most likely have a husband who praises her in the gates!

The remnant who understand the godly role of a wife and mother appreciate women who are kind and sacrifices their pleasures to serve their family. This is not that common in these days in which we live. Most women want to selfishly live for themselves and do their own things. They weren’t taught to live lives sacrificially serving others. No, they were taught to get as much as they can and as often as they can in this dog-eat-dog culture.

We are commanded to work with our hands (1 Thessalonians 4:11). Almost all of our work in the home is with our hands as wives and mothers. Are your hands producing good fruit? Do they work diligently in your home to provide good food and a clean home for your family? Do you keep your hands busy doing profitable things that benefit others? This is what we are called to do.

If you are doing all of these good works which you were ordained to do, you will be praised by your husband and children. No, you may not hear much from them when the children are young and life is a lot of hard work with so much to do but as they grow older and look back on their childhood, they will deeply appreciate the sacrifices you made to take good care of them and their home.

They will love and deeply appreciate the way you loved their daddy and gave them the security this provides. They will love having a clean and tidy home that they could bring their friends home to without being embarrassed. They will appreciate the time you spent to fix them great tasting food. It’s all good works, women, and it’s God perfect will for you and by doing so you are storing treasures in heaven.

We have a large orange tree in our backyard. It didn’t produce fruit for many years because the neighbor’s tree kept our tree from ever receiving any sunlight. Finally, two years ago the neighbors cut down their tree and now our tree receives a ton of sunlight. It is producing an abundance of fruit now! It’s the same with us. We can’t produce good fruit when we live in darkness. This can be the darkness from not believing in Christ as our Savior or from sin that we are walking in. In order to produce abundant fruit in our lives, we must be continually walking in the Sonlight and in the Spirit. The Light exposes the darkness and gives life to that which was dead. Make sure you are basking in the light of God’s Word daily so that you can continually walk in the Spirit and produce the fruit that you were ordained to produce.

“…and let her own words praise her in the gates; where her husband is known, in public assemblies; before angels and men, in the great day; when her works will follow her, and speak for her, and she will be publicly praised by Christ, as all the faithful and righteous will.” (Gill’s Exposition)

For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them.
Ephesians 2:10

A Woman Who Fears the Lord Shall Be Praised

A Woman Who Fears the Lord Shall Be Praised

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
Proverbs 31:30

Outward graces do not last; praise that will be real and enduring is for those only who fear the Lord, and, out of regard for Him, perform the duties of life as the “virtuous woman” here described. (Ellicott’s Commentary)

Our looks fade. This is a fact of life for everyone. When we’re young, we can’t imagine this happening but then slowly we see one gray hair and then another. Then some wrinkles begin to appear and we see that we are indeed aging. Looks only go so far. They don’t make us happier, wiser, or more godly. They are literally only skin deep and have nothing whatsoever to do with having a meaningful life.

Making wise choices is what matters. Do we live for ourselves or do we live for the Lord and what He has asked us to do? Do we make our looks an idol in our lives (because if we do, we will be devastated when we find that first gray hair) or do we make the Lord our God and know that His plan for our lives is perfect?

 A well favoured look, a graceful countenance, symmetry and proportion of parts, natural or artificial beauty, are vain and deceitful; oftentimes under them lies an ill natured, deformed, and depraved mind; nor is the pleasure and satisfaction enjoyed as is promised along with these; and particularly how do they fade (e) and consume away by a fit of illness, and through old age, and at last by death?

There are many beautiful women today. We see them on TV and advertisements all over the place. They show off their bodies and try to entice men but what happens to them as they lose their beauty? They have built their lives and security on their looks which fades over time and then what do they have? Have they built up their marriages and families and their relationship with Christ – the things that last or have they built their lives upon sand?

…but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. (Gill’s Exposition)

This is what it all comes down to, women. We are called to fear the Lord. This means that we live for only His approval. We do what He has commanded for us to do since we owe Him our lives. Our homes are built upon His Word. We train our children in His ways. We rejoice in Him always! Yes, we fail but we dust ourselves off and get right back up again and “do the next thing” as Elisabeth Elliot said. We never give up because we know that Christ works mightily within us.

It is the fear of the Lord that makes us beautiful on the inside and adorning ourselves with a meek and quiet spirit while living in submission to our husbands. The fear of the Lord urges us to grow in wisdom since we must be able to navigate clearly in this evil generation that tells us that what is right is wrong and what is wrong is right. The only way to grow in wisdom is to be in His Word and learn from the One where all wisdom comes from.

The days that we live in are very unstable but the Lord is not; for He is the same yesterday, today, and always. Measure everything you hear and read with His Word. He is our stability and knowing Him and living for Him is all that matters in the end.

And wisdom and knowledge shall be the stability of thy times, and strength of salvation: the fear of the Lord is his treasure.
Isaiah 33:6

***Picture By Daniel Gerhartz

She Excels Them All

She Excels Them All

Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
Proverbs 31:29

Why does this woman excel all of the other women who have lived virtuously? What makes her so amazingly special? I believe it is because she has given her life for others. She learned from an early age to deny herself and that the greatest of all is the servant of all. She most likely also knew that godliness with contentment is great gain. Her main ministry was to her family and those around her. She understood that by giving her life away, she would gain life. She didn’t worry about being appreciated or fighting for her rights, but only in living to please the Lord in all that she did.

“We may regard it as a representation of the truly Christian matron, who loves husband and children, guides the house, is discreet, chaste, good, a teacher of good things.” (Pulpit Commentary) Yes, Titus 2:4, 5 is a perfect description of what God wants from women. He wants them to be a husband lover of their husband, and a children lover of  their children, including willingly bearing and raising godly offspring for Him. He wants them to know that their home is their God-ordained workplace and they are to guard it from all evil influences. They are called to build their homes up in holiness, in godliness, and in purity. Everyone who enters their home should see Jesus in them.

They are to be discreet with meek and quiet spirits, not doing unfeminine things to draw attention to themselves but shamefaced instead. They lives lives that are chaste in language and in behavior. They are careful with what they fill their minds with because they know that their thoughts become their actions. They dwell on the true, lovely, and the honest. They love goodness and decency. They understand the ugliness and destructive nature of sin so they avoid it at all costs. They clearly understand that they can only be godly women because of Christ’s finished work on the cross for them and His Spirit working mightily within them; for they are complete in Him (Colossians 2:10) and no longer broken.

“But thou excellest them all; in real beauty, in true riches, in purity of doctrine, in simplicity of worship, in holiness of life and conversation, in undefiled religion, in doing good works, properly so called.” (Gill’s Exposition) Christ is who godly women worship. Christ is who they want to please above all. They don’t care if they don’t fit into their culture and its fashion or even in their church, because His Word has the final say in their life.  Truth never offends them because they have soft, teachable hearts. They allow truth to guide them and not their emotions and feelings. They carefully study the Word of God so they can easily discern false teachings and choose to walk in the path of righteousness. They teach these things diligently to their children.

These are the reason these women excel them all. They take God at His Word, believe Him, and obey Him.

Her Children Call Her Blessed

Her Children Call Her Blessed

Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
Proverbs 31:28

“Whose testimony is the more considerable, because they have been constant eye-witnesses of her whole conduct, and, therefore, must have seen her misdemeanours, if there had been any, as well as her virtues; and call her blessed — Both for her own excellences, and for many happy fruits which they have gathered from her wise and godly education of them.” (Benson Commentary)

Yes, there is great blessing in having our children call us blessed since they clearly know all of our faults and failures. Prayerfully, our virtues will far outweigh our faults as we lean upon the Lord for strength and gain wisdom from His Word. Being cheerful instead of grumpy and moody has a great influence for good upon children. This will draw them to the ways of the Lord instead of push them away. They should be able to easily see God’s transforming power in us. If they can’t, it means we aren’t spending enough time at the feet of Jesus.

“Her children arise up,…. As olive plants around her table; grow up to maturity of age, and ripeness of judgment, and so capable of observing things, and doing the work here ascribed to them: or they rise up in reverence of her, and respect to her, suitable to the relation they stand in to her:…for such a mother, and wish themselves as happy as she is; they pray for her blessedness, peace, and prosperity, as all Zion’s children should, Psalm 122:6; they pronounce her blessed, as well they may, since she is blessed with all spiritual blessings in Christ; and so are all in her family that truly belong to her, her children and her servants, her husband also, and he praiseth her; that is, he is ready also to rise up and speak in her praise and commendation…though she owes it all to him; for her comely parts and gracefulness, which he describes with wonder; for her dress, her garments, though they are his own; for her faith, love, humility, and other graces, though they are his gifts.” (Gill’s Exposition)

In order for a mother to have children that respects her, she must train them from an early age to respect the authority in their lives whether it be towards their parents, teachers as they get older, government, elders, bosses, and ultimately, God. If a mother fails to teach her children this important discipline, the child will suffer their entire lives since children don’t naturally obey, respect, and reverence authority, as we can see among many children today.

Children need to be disciplined and trained from a young age to obey their mother’s first request to them – immediate obedience but the mother also must show her children a lot of love, warmth, affection, and cheerfulness so obedience isn’t burdensome. She should want them to grow up to obey the Lord willingly and joyfully. Mothers are the training ground where children either learn to do this or not.

“Her children arise up, and call her blessed. She is a fruitful mother of children, who, seeing her sedulity (constant attention) and prudence, and experiencing her affectionate care, celebrate and praise her, and own that she has rightly won the blessing of the Lord. Her husband also, and he praiseth her; in the words given in the next verse. Having the approbation of her husband and children, who know her best, and have the best opportunities of judging her conduct, she is contented and happy. Septuagint, ‘Her mercy (ἐλεημοσύνη) raises up her children, and they grow rich, and her husband praises her.'” (Pulpit Commentary)

“She is contented and happy.” Would your husband and children describe you this way? This mother chooses to be joyful. She frequently has a smile on her face. She brings light into her home since Jesus is light and lives inside of her. She doesn’t grumble and complain, no, not even about the weather; for she has learned that godliness with contentment is great gain and she knows worry adds nothing to her life. She smiles at the future because she knows that God is in the future and has it all under control. All of her sins are forgiven and she’s been washed as clean as snow. She can now walk in newness of life because of Christ’s finished work in her.

You can choose to be joyful, women. You can choose to smile warmly at your husband and children. This will cause them to feel accepted and loved by you. It will also make your home a happy home! I believe one of the best ways to learn to have a quiet and meek spirit is to learn to be content and joyful.

Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content…I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.
Philippians 4:11, 13

She Looks Well to the Ways of Her Household

She Looks Well to the Ways of Her Household

She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Proverbs 31:27

“She diligently observes the management of her domestic business, and the whole carriage of her children and servants. Whereby he also intimates, that she spends not her time in gadding abroad to other people’s houses, and in idle discourses about the concerns of other persons, as the manner of many women is, but is wholly intent upon her own house and proper business” (Benson Commentary).

Taking care of our home and family are our greatest concern; for this is God’s ordained will for us – to be keepers at home. It’s not keepers of the home, but keepers AT home. “AT” means we are there AT home. This is where people will find us the majority of the time. This is where our work needs to be done. This is where we are to stay busy. There is a lot to taking care of a home and family. There’s always something that needs cleaning. Food needs to be fixed three times a day if you have children in the home. This isn’t supposed to be done with our left-over energy. No, it’s supposed to take all of our energy. Being a help meet to our husbands, a mother to our children, and a keeper at home is a full-time job and it’s perfect for us as designed by our Creator.

“The business of her house, her domestic affairs; that her children and servants have convenient food, and in due season; that they have proper clothing, and keep their garments close about them, and unspotted; that everyone does the business of his calling, her several officers, and private members; that a good decorum is kept, that all things are done decently and in order; that the rules of her lord and husband are observed; that the conversations of all in her house are according to the word of God, and becoming their character” (Gill’s Exposition).

As godly woman, our first priority is in pleasing our Lord and Savior. Whatever He instructs us to do, we do with His Spirit working mightily within us. Then we aim to please our husbands as our earthly lords. If they want the home to be kept a certain way, then we keep it that way. We learn to serve them cheerfully and willingly. Then we love and serve our children by disciplining, training, and teaching them all of the ways of the Lord and life. Since God is a God of order and beauty, let us strive to be women of order and beauty in our homes!

“As Almighty God, from His lofty watch-tower in heaven, observes all the minutest details of the manifold work that is going on in the busy hive of earth, so does she from her exalted position in which He has placed her, as mistress of the family, and as responsible to Him, observe ‘the ways of her household'” (Cambridge Bible).

A woman who works outside of her home cannot possible be over all of the “minutest details” of her home and family. This is imperative for mothers to do since it’s protection for their children. God has ordained mothers to watch carefully over their children and in order to do this, they must be the ones who are with their children continually. Children being sexually abused is rampant these days and it was probably not so common when mothers were home full time watching over their children. Mothers who are not keepers at home blaspheme the word of God (Titus 2:5). Yes, this offends many women today but I’m not the one who wrote this.

“She considers the ways of her house, because she accurately examines all the thoughts of her conscience. She eateth not her bread in idleness, because that which she learned out of Holy Scripture by her understanding, she places before the eyes of the Judge by exhibiting it in her works” (Pulpit Commentary).

She is not a different person outside of her home. No, the same person strangers see is the same person her family lives with. She is as patient and kind with her family as she is with others; for she lives to please her Savior and He sees everything! In order for her to live this way, she spends daily time at the feet of Jesus and learns His ways. She knows she has been given supernatural power (the Holy Spirit) to live this way so she trusts God to accomplish His work in and through her.

And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men.
Colossians 3:23

She Opens Her Mouth with Wisdom

She Opens Her Mouth with Wisdom

She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
Proverbs 31:26

 “She is not merely a good housewife, attending diligently to material interests; she guides her family with words of wisdom. When she speaks, it is not gossip, or slander, or idle talk, that she utters, but sentences of prudence and sound sense, such as may minister grace to the hearers…her language to those around her is animated and regulated by love. As mistress of a family, she has to teach and direct her dependents, and she performs this duty with gracious kindness and ready sympathy” (Pulpit Commentary).

The only way we will become this wise woman is by spending a lot of time in God’s Word and learning from Him. Wisdom only comes from God. We are transformed by renewing our minds with truth and if we are never reading and learning truth but instead watching TV shows, news shows, and things of this world, we can never expect to be women who are filled with wisdom and kindness. This is an act of the Holy Spirit in us and we can grieve Him by allowing sin in our lives and not filling our minds with truth.

“She openeth her mouth with wisdom,…. When she opens her mouth, for it is not always open, she expresses herself in a discreet and prudent manner; as well as speaks of things not foolish and trifling, but of moment and importance, and of usefulness to others:…and in her tongue is the law of kindness; or ‘the law of love’, grace and mercy; which is the law of Christ, Galatians 6:2 speaking kindly and tenderly to everyone, exhorting to acts of mercy and kindness, and doing them herself: or ‘the doctrine of grace is in her tongue'” (Gill’s Exposition).

It’s easy for us to talk just to talk and to say things without thinking. We need to learn that it’s OKAY to be quiet. Having a meek and quiet spirit means we are content and even aggressively pursue contentment. This means we enjoy being silent and not having to be the center of attention or just talking about nothing important. If we do talk, we need to learn to carefully measure our words and if we feel like we want to say something mean or critical, we shut it down very quickly and say nothing instead. We are “swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath” (James 1:19).

 “She openeth her mouth with wisdom — She is neither sullenly silent, nor full of impertinent talk, but speaks discreetly and piously, as occasion offers. In her tongue is the law of kindness — Her speeches are guided by wisdom and grace, and not by inordinate passions. And this practice is called a law in her tongue, because it is constant and customary, and proceeds from an inward and powerful principle of true wisdom” (Benson Commentary).

Wisdom comes from above. It is “first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy” (James 3:17). We use no swear words. We don’t tell dirty jokes. We seek peace with everyone as far as it depends upon us. We are “hard to provoke and easily pacified.” We don’t get angry easily and when in the few times that we do, we calm down quickly. 

We must learn to be joyful women of God. What flows out of our mouth begins with our thoughts so we must take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. We can control our thoughts! When we have negative thoughts, we quickly change them to thoughts of thanksgiving and praise to the Lord; for all He’s done for us, and the many blessings we have from Him. We dwell on the lovely and the good; “for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks” (Matthew 12:34).

Happy is the man that findeth wisdom, and the man that getteth understanding.
Proverbs 3:13

***Picture from Daniel Gerhartz

She Delivers Girdles to the Merchant – Proverbs 31:24

She Delivers Girdles to the Merchant – Proverbs 31:24

Women who are finding my blog for the first time try to convince me that women in the Bible had careers like they do and will use several of the verses about the Proverbs 31 woman. If the Proverbs 31 woman had a career, so should they, they claim. Let’s examine the old commentaries to see what they have to say about it in our continuing study of this godly woman. I don’t believe any woman in the entire Bible worked in submission to a boss, worked hours five days a week away from home, and left their children in the care of others, as I have repeatedly taught.

She makes fine linen, and sells it; and delivers girdles to the merchant.
Proverbs 31:24

She not only seeks wool and flax, and spins it, but makes it up into fine linen, which she disposes of to advantage to herself and family….and delivereth girdles unto the merchant; to dispose of them for her; either to sell to others, to the Egyptian priests which wore them; or for their own use, to put their money in, girdles being used for that purpose” (Gill’s Commentary).

There were no factories, malls, or online shopping stores for clothing as there are today so she had to make her own clothing for her family. She also sells the linen that she makes from wool and flax and spins it into linen and makes girdles (a band or belt; something drawn round the waist of a person “Such rich and elaborately worked girdles the mistress could readily barter with Phoenician merchants, who would give in exchange purple (verse 22) and other articles of use or luxury” – Pulpit Commentary), then gives these to merchants to sell for her.

All of her work is in her home, most likely with her daughters at her side helping her. Yes, she makes some money from home but since she looks well to the ways of her household, she doesn’t allow it to distract from her main responsibilities of family and home.

This verse adds as it were the finishing stroke to the picture. While all home duties in every relation, to her husband, her children, her servants, and to the poor around her, are fully and faithfully discharged, she is yet able to increase her store by the sale of what the industry of herself and her maidens has produced. At the same time it throws an interesting light upon the state of society, in which the mistress of a large household and the wife of one who took his place ‘among the elders of the land’ did not think it unworthy of her to engage in honest trade” (Cambridge Bible).

Priscilla made tents by her husband’s side and Lydia was a “seller of purple” so we know it’s not wrong for women to make money but their primary responsibilities are at home where they are to be keepers at home. There are many women who make some money from home if they need the extra income or their husbands want them to help provide but it is not their responsibility to provide for the family. There isn’t one verse in the Bible that instructs women to make money and provide. This was the man’s job given to him from the beginning and any man who doesn’t provide for his family is “worse than an infidel (unbeliever).”

The Church therefore made and sold this fine garment, because she inparted in words that faith which she had woven by belief; and received from unbelievers a life of upright conversation. And she delivered a girdle to the Canaanite, because by the might of the righteousness she displayed, she constrained the lax doings of the Gentile world, in order that that might be maintained in their doings which is commanded. ‘Let your loins be girded about’” (Pulpit Commentary).

As godly woman, our aim in life is not to be making money and having careers as our culture pushes upon us, but to share our faith with a lost world and especially to our children. They need this more than they need more stuff; for when we peer into eternity, this life on earth is short and only what we do for Christ will last. Unbelievers around us should be able to see the difference that Christ makes in us by our transformed lives and being salt and light that adds joy and flavor to life. Our loins need to be girded about with the truth of God’s Word so any extra time that we have needs to be used in studying His Word and letting it dwell deeply within us so we don’t blaspheme the Word of God by ungodly behavior. This is what our culture needs, women. They need to see women loving their husbands and children, dressing modestly, and being keepers at home; for this adorns the Gospel of Christ.

Her Husband is Known in the Gates

Her Husband is Known in the Gates

Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
Proverbs 31:23

As we know from God’s Word, God’s instructions in marriage are for the husband to be the provider and protector of the family and the wife is to be his help meet and keeper at home. This is the way God created marriage to be and is His perfect will for us.

“Instead of being a hindrance to her husband’s advancement, she furthers it. Her influence for good to him also. Having no domestic anxieties, he is set free to do his part in public life” (Ellicot’s Commentary). Unfortunately, many women demand that their husbands help around the home, even after the husbands have worked hard all day at work. A godly wife will do all she can to make sure that all of her home duties are taken care of and the children are well disciplined and trained so that when her husband comes home from work, he can relax and enjoy his time with his family.

“Known; observed and respected, not only for his own worth, but for his wife’s sake; not only for those rich ornaments which by her care and diligence she provides for him, which others of his brethren, by reason of their wives’ sloth or luxury, are not able to procure, but also for his wisdom in choosing, and his happiness in enjoying, so excellent a wife, by whose prudent care, in the management of his domestic concerns, he hath perfect freedom wholly to attend upon public affairs…Sitteth among the elders of the land, in counsel or judgment” (Matthew Poole’s).

Her husband’s career is as a leader and/or judge in the land. He is able to do his job well because he has no concerns or anxieties coming from his marriage or home life. He chose a godly, submissive help meet who takes pleasure in working hard in the home and with her children. He trusts her to take care of all her work in the home so he can take care of providing for his family. They each know their role and work at it to the best of their ability.

We know couples where the wives are slothful in the home. They don’t care for their home, nor do they discipline and train their children well. Their husbands don’t come home to a delicious smelling dinner, nor do they come home to a clean home or well-trained children. In the morning before work, their work clothes sit wet in the washing machine. Their wives bring them dishonor and shame. Let this never be said of any of you.

“Her husband is known in the gates,…. Of the city, where courts of justice were kept, and causes heard and tried by the judges, the elders of the land, later mentioned; among whom the husband of the virtuous woman was, where he was known, taken notice of, and celebrated; not so much for the beautiful garments she made him, as Jarchi; but rather for his wisdom, as Gersom, and for being the husband of such a woman; who, taking such care of his domestic affairs, he was more at leisure to attend public business, and transact it with reputation…when he sitteth among the elders of the land; when he sits in his house, at his table, circled by his saints, his ancient ones; or as King, head” (Gill’s Exposition).

Everyone admires this man for the wisdom and confidence that he shows in his work. His wife is definitely his crown. She has built him up and encouraged him, thus she has made him look good to all those around. She is his biggest cheerleader and confidant. He knows he can put all of his energy into his work because he can come home and enjoy the fruit of his wife’s labor. He is a blessed man indeed.

“Such a woman advances her husband’s interests, increases his influence, and, by attending to his domestic concerns, enables him to take his share in public matters, so that his name is in great repute in the popular assemblies at the city gates” (Pulpit Commentary).

May you all be this kind of wife who builds her husband up by respecting, reverencing, submitting to, and loving him. May you treat him with kindness and gentleness. May you work hard in your home and make it a place of order and beauty. May you raise your children in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord so that your husband can be thankful that he was blessed with such an incredible help meet; the perfect one for him.

Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.
Proverbs 18:22

*picture by Daniel Gerhartz

Looking Forward to the Future with Joyful Confidence

Looking Forward to the Future with Joyful Confidence

She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet…Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
Proverbs 31:21, 25

Many women today live in almost constant fear of the future for their children and themselves. The daily news paints a horrific picture of what is going on in our country and around the world. There are many things to fear but God continually tells us in His Word that we should not fear but put our trust in Him. Remember, He is still on His throne and He is in control. Yes, evil will continue until we are on the new earth but until then, there will be pain, heartache, and struggle but we can trust God and His perfect will for our lives.

Let’s look at the Proverbs 31 woman for encouragement; for she is given as an example of godly womanhood to us.

“She lives in constant tranquility of mind, and a confident and cheerful expectation of all future events, how calamitous soever, partly because she hath laid in provisions for a rainy day, and chiefly because she hath the comfortable remembrance of a well-spent life, and, which follows thereupon, a just confidence in God’s gracious providence and promises made to such persons.” (Matthew Poole’s)

God has given us many promises in His Word. Highlight them in yellow so when you open your Bible you can be reminded of them. We can do all things through Christ who strengthens us. The joy of the Lord is our strength. He will never leave nor forsake us. He is with us wherever we go. He makes all things new. We are forgiven and free from sin and condemnation. He will supply all of our needs according to His riches in Christ Jesus.

He shall cover thee with his feathers, and under his wings shalt thou trust: his truth shall be thy shield and buckler.
Psalm 91:4

“Strength, not of body, but of mind. The church is clothed with strength, as her Lord, head, and husband, is said to be, Psalm 93:1; and which she has from him; for though she is the weaker vessel, and weak in herself, yet is strong in him; and is able to bear and do all things, with a fortitude of mind to withstand every enemy, and persevere in well doing: and she is clothed with ‘honour’; with honourable garments, suitable to her rank and dignity; in cloth of gold, in raiment of needlework; with the garments of salvation, and the robe of righteousness.” (Gill’s Exposition)

God has promised that He has blessed us with every spiritual blessing (Ephesians 1:3) and we are complete in Him (Colossians 2:10). Instead of keeping your eyes on the news and the happenings around you, seek those things which are above! We are commanded to dwell on the lovely, pure, and good for a reason. God does not want us to live in a state of continual fear. This isn’t our home. He’s building a mansion for us. We can trust in Him.

“She shall rejoice in, rather: she laugheth at, i.e. so far from regarding it with apprehension, she can look forward to it with joyful confidence.” (Cambridge Bible)

She doesn’t allow the events around her steal her joy. She rejoices in the Lord and is thankful as He has commanded her to be. She reminds herself of the abundance that He has blessed her with and lives her life in continually gratitude and praise for what He has done for her.

“She is invested with a moral force and dignity which arm her against care and worry; the power of a righteous purpose and strong will reveals itself in her carriage and demeanour. She is not disquieted by any fear of what may happen, knowing in whom she trusts, and having done her duty to the utmost of her ability. The true servant of God is not afraid of any evil tidings, his heart being fixed, trusting in the Lord.” (Pulpit Commentary)

Many women today live their lives and make their choices based on the fear of “what if…?” This is NOT how we, who serve the Living God, are supposed to live. No, we live as He has commanded and trust Him with everything.

He shall not be afraid of evil tidings: his heart is fixed, trusting in the LORD.
Psalm 112:7

The Easy, Satisfied Life of a Nominal Christian

The Easy, Satisfied Life of a Nominal Christian

We live in the richest country that has ever existed in the history of the world. Even our poor are richer than the many kings of old. We know this is true by looking at their waistlines. Our country has more of a spiritual depravity problem than financial but you would never know it by the way people act today. Our big and bloated government gives handouts to many, thus taking away too many people’s desire to help those who are truly in need or incentives for many to find jobs and work hard.

She stretches out her hand to the poor; yes, she reaches forth her hands to the needy.
Proverbs 31:20

As I was pondering how to write this post, I began reading a book called In His Steps written in 1984 by Charles M. Sheldon. It was a convicting and challenging book. It is a fictional account of a minister who was challenged to live as Jesus lived. This town was full of saloons that were destroying the lives of many in the city. The minister was leader of a church that had many wealthy and influential people in it and by exhorting his people to live as Jesus lived, the entire city and even nearby ones were transformed by the power of the Holy Spirit.

How much is the Christianity of the age suffering for Him? Is it denying itself at the cost of ease, comfort, luxury, elegance of living? Is it true that the Christian disciples today in most of our church are living, soft, easy, selfish lives, very far from any sacrifice that can be called sacrifice? There is a great quantity of nominal Christianity today. There is need of more of the real kind. We need revival of the Christianity of Christ. We have unconsciously lazily, selfishly, formally grown into a discipleship that Jesus himself would not acknowledge.”

And no, this isn’t petitioning the government to raise taxes and “spread the wealth.” It’s not working towards a socialistic society. It’s believers, such as you and me, who are willing to live our lives in generosity and service to those around us and who need help. It’s giving financially to those who are struggling. It’s offering services like meals and help to those who are sick and in need. It’s offering an encouraging ear and comforting words to whomever comes across our path. It’s reaching out to those who are in need of help in any way and accepting strangers into our homes to shower love upon while never forgetting to speak the truth in love.

As wives and mothers, it’s sacrificing our bodies to receive the gift of as many children the Lord blesses us even if it means personal and financial sacrifice and suffering to us; for those children can grow up to be great disciples for Jesus. It’s laboring to teach your children the ways and truths of the Lord and to be generous to the poor and needy. It’s willing to live a simpler, more self-denying lifestyle.

Living like Jesus lived means we welcome interruptions in our lives as God’s interventions. We stop spending wasteful money on ourselves to look more fashionable and younger but learn to be content with what we have and learning to make do. It’s learning to store our treasures in heaven instead of here on this earth.

If our definition of being a Christian is simply to enjoy the privileges of worship, be generous at no expense to ourselves, have a good, easy time surrounded by pleasant friends and by comfortable things, live respectably and at the same time avoid the world’s great stress of sin and trouble because it is too much pain to bear it – if this is our definition of Christianity, surely we are a long way from following the steps of Him who trod the way with groans and tears and sobs of anguish for a lost humanity; who sweat, as it were, great drops of blood…

Are we ready to make and live a new discipleship? Are we ready to reconsider our definition of a Christian? What is it to be a Christian? It is to imitate Jesus. It is to do as He would do. It is to walk in His steps.”

But whoso hath this world’s good, and seeth his brother have need, and shutteth up his bowels of compassion from him, how dwelleth the love of God in him?
1 John 3:17