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She Does Him Good and Not Evil – Proverbs 31:12

She Does Him Good and Not Evil – Proverbs 31:12


Proverbs 31:12 tells us that a godly wife does her husband good and not evil. Some synonyms for good are excellent, favorable, marvelous, positive, superb, valuable, and wonderful. Some antonyms for good (bad = what a godly wife doesn’t want to be known for) are disagreeable, unacceptable, unhelpful, worthless, mean, noxious, rotten, unreliable, vicious, vile, and unvirtuous. Do you do your husband good or evil?

She builds up his home, instead of tearing it down.

She speaks respectfully to him, instead of being disrespectful towards him through her actions and words.

She is joyful, instead of complaining.

She takes good care of her children, instead of scrolling through Facebook, playing on her iPhone, and watching TV, thus neglecting her children.

She speaks highly of him to others, instead of tearing him down.

She is a student of God’s Word, instead of her Bible gathering dust.

She submits to her husband’s leadership, instead of lording it over him.

She speaks words of kindness to him, instead of being cruel towards him.

She is cheerful and laughs with him, instead of at him.

She does not deprive him sexually, instead of doing it when she feels like it.

She is modest in her clothing, instead of being sensual and turning on other women’s husbands.

She has a gentle and quiet spirit, instead of being harsh and loud.

She loves to stay home and keep it clean and tidy, instead of running here and there and neglecting her home duties.

She dwells on the lovely and the good, instead of having no discretion with what she thinks about and watches.

She loves and sacrifices for him, instead of being selfish and only caring for herself.

I can tell you from personal experience, you will be much happier when you are doing your husband good instead of evil.

She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
Proverbs 31:12

His Heart Trusts Her – Proverbs 31:11

His Heart Trusts Her – Proverbs 31:11


A virtuous woman’s husband trusts her. He trusts her with his finances. She carefully lives within his income and does what she can to never shame him about how much money he makes or puts him into debt. She will go without all that she wants (not needs) in order to please him. If finances are tight, she makes her food from scratch, gardens, then cans her produce or whatever she can to make ends meet. She takes care of her clothing so it will last and teaches her children to do the same. She doesn’t care about the latest styles but is content with what she is able to afford.  She is careful to buy just the right amount of food that her family will eat so there isn’t anything to throw away that is wasted. She doesn’t waste her money on a bunch of expensive junk food with no nutritional value, unless he loves junk food.

He trusts her faithfulness to him. She dresses modestly and never does anything to attract other men’s attention.  She doesn’t flirt with men on Facebook or other places. Her heart is her husband’s alone. She is careful to guard her affections and does not even give a hint of inappropriate behavior. She is faithful to him in her thoughts and actions, thus he has no reason to be concerned. She is available to meet her husband’s sexual needs and loves doing this for him.

He trusts her in his home to keep it clean and tidy. She looks well to the ways of her household. She makes sure that the children are learning to help around the home and do their part in keeping it clean. They learn to put their clothes away or in a hamper when they are dirty, not on the floor. She isn’t lazy but works hard in her home. She keeps up on the laundry so he has clean clothes to wear. He loves to bring company in his home knowing that his wife will make him proud.

He trusts her to raise his children to respect him as their father, to discipline and train them properly, and to make sure they know the Word of God. Since he has to work hard to provide for the family and she is home with the children all day, he trusts she will do what is best for the children, take good care of them, and obey him when he asks them to do something.

He trusts that when he asks her to do something, she will follow through on his requests. She does it as soon as she can instead of continually putting it off and then eventually forgetting. Doing what he asks of her is her priority since she is his help meet and she understands the importance of this role.

He trusts her to fix meals for his family and feed them well. She doesn’t forget about dinner and then has to go buy fast food at the last minute. She makes sure she has the ingredients to make the foods he loves best. If he needs a lunch to take to work, she makes a good one for him. The other men wish their wives would care about them enough to make lunch for them and have dinner ready for them when they get home. His wife makes sure to care for his needs and he is a blessed man.

Does the heart of your husband trust you?

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her,
so that he shall have no need of spoil.

Proverbs 31:11

Rubies Are Difficult to Find – Proverbs 31:10

Rubies Are Difficult to Find – Proverbs 31:10


Virtuous women are hard to find and their price is far above rubies. Did you know that rubies are one of the most difficult gems to find? They are one of the hardest gems as well, so they don’t break easily as do the lesser gems. Virtuous women don’t break easily either. Their hope is in the LORD and in His strength. They are steadfast in their faith and in their commitment to their husband. They don’t allow their emotions and feelings to control their lives. They hide God’s Word deep in their hearts so they know Truth and aren’t swayed by the false teachings of their day.

Rubies are also known for their durability. Virtuous women withstand hard times because they are grounded upon the Rock of their salvation. When the storms of life come, their faith grows stronger. They don’t grumble and complain through the storms, because they understand that storms come into everyone’s life and God uses the storms to mold them into His image.

Rubies are known for their luster. Virtuous women shine the light of Jesus and are full of joy because the joy of the LORD is their strength. They choose to be cheerful and make their family’s life better by building up their home and not tearing it down. They stand out in a crowd because of their smile, warmth, and friendliness. People are drawn to them because of their kindness and generosity.

Rubies are known for their rarity. They are hard to find and are therefore more valuable than even diamonds which sets them apart from other gems. Virtuous women are rare. They don’t care about the ways of the world. They only want to please the Lord and do what He has commanded them to do. They learn to please their husbands and love to serve them. They sacrifice their goals and dreams to spend their lives raising godly offspring because they know this is what has eternal value.

Yes, rubies and virtuous women are hard to find. Are you one?

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
Proverbs 31:10