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The Waste of a College Education

The Waste of a College Education

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Our culture idolizes education. Having a degree from a university makes you somebody in most people’s mind. I know it doesn’t matter to the Lord, that is for sure since the “the wisdom of this world is foolishness with God” (1 Corinthians 3:19). “A recent article in The New York Times about the mountain of education debt owed by college graduates — an average of $27,600 — reports that “fewer students than ever say taking out loans to attend college was worth it.”Dave wrote this about universities in the comment section on my blog.

“I’ve often said that college was a joke, overall, and simply a meal ticket that was a waste of time and money, having said that my business degree from a major university was a 95% waste of time. And that was 40 years ago. After a career in commercial banking I have not changed my mind.

Now I see college not as simply a substantial waste* but as a death mill with: 1) ridiculous costs; the burden on families and government, 2) as an anti-biblical bastion pushing a PC cram-down without freedom of thought, 3) teaching young adults to waste time and become a burden, disengaging them from the real work-a-day world, 4) it delays marriage and the seriousness of family, 5) it is an incubator of immoral sexual behavior, 6) it trains all to get used to women leaving the care for the household. Phrased another [and frank] way: it trains up lazy, self-serving, sexually immoral, thoughtless, non-contributory, a-biblical leaches on life that have just left everyone [parents, students, government] in big debt.

While colleges started with proper motives, it all started to unravel when it originated women’s colleges in the mid 1800s, taking women from the home, selling all that they should be ‘in the gates of the city’ conducting business alongside men. It helped make a mockery of marriage.

There are a handful of disciplines where college is helpful/ necessary [maybe for 20% who attend college] but ’on the job’ education is the way, and much less costly.”

I posted this on Facebook the other day and as you can imagine, I received many angry comments.

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Dennis Prager, my favorite radio personality, agrees with Dave. He believe universities along with the Hollywood and the media are what have caused our nation to become so evil. He thinks only those who want to become doctors or something along this line should go to college since they actually need an education and can pay back the debt. Dennis wrote, “Suffice it to say, therefore, that vast numbers of college students outside of the sciences learn too little, rarely have their minds opened and rarely learn to love learning. If you major in English, for example, you are far less likely to immerse yourself in studying Shakespeare than in deconstructing him and others dismissed as Dead White European Males. Our colleges are dominated by ‘post-moderns’ and other nihilists for whom seeking truth is regarded as a reactionary fraud, not an academic ideal. For these professors, deans and presidents, the primary purpose of the university is to mold students in their images — people alienated from America and from God.”

It was mostly educated university students who voted for Bernie Sanders. Mr. Sanders wants to tax people up to 90% of their income, thus taking away all incentive to work. Yes, I do agree that for some men a college university is important, especially for men who need to support their families and are going into the medical field but I will never believe that a university education is important for the masses since it accomplishes exactly the opposite of goodness or godliness.

“I am as sure as I am of Christ’s reign that a comprehensive and centralized system of national education, separated from religion, as is now commonly proposed, will prove the most appalling enginery for the propagation of anti-Christian and atheistic unbelief, and of anti-social nihilistic ethics, individual, social and political, which this sin-rent world has ever seen.”  – A.A. Hodge (Yes, I understand this quote concerns sending children to public schools but universities are giving the same results.)

“He that is not with me is against me.” -Jesus
Matthew 12:30

Only One Job For Mothers Lasts for Eternity

Only One Job For Mothers Lasts for Eternity

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A mother who is a doctor or nurse can help people get better but they will all die eventually.

A mother who is a lawyer can win some cases but only those who love Jesus win in the end.

A mother who is a teacher can have an influence in her students’ lives for one year but what they learn in this life is very temporary.

A mother who is an actress or singer entertains a lot of strangers for a while.

A mother who is a salesperson sells things that will all burn one day.

A mother who is in the military, police or fire department may save lives temporarily but only very temporarily since life is short compared to eternity.

A mother who spends her child-bearing years raising, training, and teaching children full time have the opportunity to build God’s kingdom here on earth and for eternity.

Which job do you think is the most important one for mothers?

Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.
Psalm 127:3

Not one of the other jobs does God call a heritage of the LORD and a reward. Even Mother Theresa spent her life helping children. “How can there be too many children? That is like saying their are too many flowers.” Our children and grandchildren are our greatest treasures. Nothing in this world even comes close. It grieves me to hear young married couples who are not interested in having children or postponing having them because of the wife’s career.

When He Comes Home After the Affair

When He Comes Home After the Affair

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Her husband had an affair but she fought for her marriage using 1 Peter 3:1-6 because she cared more about her husband’s eternal soul and her children’s future than her own happiness. She was willing to do what God told her to do to win her disobedient husband in spite of the pain and suffering he was causing her. She won her husband back but would still have times of grief thinking about her husband with another woman and the pain of it all. During these times of crying, her husband would hold her. One of these times, she felt his tears flowing down her face as he told her how sorry he was for the pain he caused her. He finally showed true repentance from his affair. Here are words of encouragement from her to a woman in the chat room whose husband is having an affair and any of you who are reading this and are in the same difficult situation.

That was one of the most beautiful moments in my marriage; to watch true repentance happen is wonderful! It was almost two years after my husband confessed his affair that I saw true repentance. Of course, he apologized to me before that and wanted our marriage to work, but there wasn’t true godly repentance and sorrow about it until almost two years later. Until that point, it was still lots of daily work on his part and especially mine. Now, we still work at our marriage, but it isn’t a struggle. It’s soooo much more joyous and wonderful!

 I want to tell you that when your husband comes home, that’s when the real battle takes place with you especially. It’s already starting with comparison. You have to KILL. THAT. NOW! Don’t allow that to happen. Anytime the thoughts come, you must renew your mind with God’s word and stay continually in prayer.

I will be honest, I was overjoyed when my husband and I decided to begin working on our marriage after the affair but I wasn’t prepared for how hard it would be with the battle of my mind. That’s where our flesh is the weakest and Satan attacks the hardest. I went into a depression because I turned to my husband, now that he was home, to fix things that he messed up. He couldn’t then and he still can’t now. But I expected it. And it dragged me down to the lowest point. I turned my husband into Jesus into my mind and it crippled me and almost made our marriage fall apart again because I became so obsessed with him and was living in fear of it happening again..

So here me now and learn from my mistakes: Keep your eyes on Christ. I’m gonna repeat that again because it’s sooooo important…KEEP YOUR EYES ON CHRIST!!! Don’t let your mind dwell on what happened or what your husband might be thinking or doing. Don’t. Focus on God and His blessings instead. Keep being the wife that drew him to want to come back home. But don’t make him your idol or your Jesus. It will destroy the marriage you have worked so hard to maintain.

When it gets hard…pray. When your mind wants to wander…pray. When thoughts try to come and invade your mind…pray!!!! Get in the Word, more so now than you ever have. Renew your mind!

Trying to bring your husband back home was tough…but now the real battle against your mind will begin. As you see, it already is. Stay strong. And forgive your husband. Truly and deeply forgive him. Come in here and let us help you when it gets tough. God is on your side and with him on your side you have heaven’s armies on your side too! I am soooo glad he is coming back! Prayers are being answered!!! Keep winning him without a word. God will bless this. He already is!! Many hugs!!

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word,
they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives.

1 Peter 3:1

Sin Hardens Hearts

Sin Hardens Hearts

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“Take heed, brethren, lest there be in any of you an evil heart of unbelief, in departing from the living God. But exhort one another daily, while it is called To day; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin. For we are made partakers of Christ, if we hold the beginning of our confidence steadfast unto the end; While it is said, To day if ye will hear his voice, harden not your hearts, as in the provocation” (Hebrews 3:12-15).

From Matthew Henry’s Commentary about these verses: “But sin, long persisted in, will make God’s wrath discover itself in destroying the impenitent; there is no resting under the wrath of God. Take heed: all who would get safe to heaven must look about them; if once we allow ourselves to distrust God, we may soon desert him. Let those that think they stand, take heed lest they fall. Since to-morrow is not ours, we must make the best improvement of this day. And there are none, even the strongest of the flock, who do not need help of other Christians. Neither are there any so low and despised, but the care of their standing in the faith, and of their safety, belongs to all. Sin has so many ways and colours, that we need more eyes than ours own. Sin appears fair, but is vile; it appears pleasant, but is destructive; it promises much, but performs nothing. The deceitfulness of sin hardens the soul; one sin allowed makes way for another; and every act of sin confirms the habit. Let every one beware of sin.

More from Matthew Henry: The saints’ privilege is, they are made partakers of Christ, that is, of the Spirit, the nature, graces, righteousness, and life of Christ; they are interested in all Christ is, in all he has done, or will do. The same spirit with which Christians set out in the ways of God, they should maintain unto the end. Perseverance in faith is the best evidence of the sincerity of our faith. Hearing the word often is a means of salvation, yet, if not hearkened to, it will expose more to the Divine wrath. The happiness of being partakers of Christ and his complete salvation, and the fear of God’s wrath and eternal misery, should stir us up to persevere in the life of obedient faith. Let us beware of trusting to outward privileges or professions, and pray to be numbered with the true believers who enter heaven, when all others fail because of unbelief. As our obedience follows according to the power of our faith, so our sins and want of care are according to the prevailing of unbelief in us.”

And what is the unpardonable sin? “And to whom sware he that they should not enter into his rest, but to them that believed not? So we see that they could not enter in because of unbelief.” Unbelief.

Seeing then that we have a great high priest, that is passed into the heavens,
Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast our profession.

Hebrews 4:14

Black Friday Sale!

Black Friday Sale!

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This is the day which the Lord hath made;
we will rejoice and be glad in it.

Psalm 118:24

Our Favorite Pumpkin Pie

Our Favorite Pumpkin Pie

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Ken loves pumpkin pie so whenever he asks me to make him one, I try to make one. The other night I made one and we both agreed it was the best I’ve ever made so I will give you the recipe. I do like pumpkin pies because they are the healthier one of all pies.

Preheat oven to 400 degrees.

Put everything into a blender.

2 eggs

1 3/4 cup pumpkin pulp (Libby’s Unsweetened Pumpkin)

3/4 cup honey (Costco’s organic honey)

1/2 teaspoon sea salt

1 teaspoon cinnamon

1/2 teaspoon ground ginger

1/8 teaspoon ground cloves

1 cup organic coconut milk from a can

Blend until smooth and pour into whole wheat pie crust. (I bought mine at our health food store.)

Bake at 400 degrees for 15 minutes, then lower oven to 350 degrees and bake for an hour or more, until the knife comes out clean from the center.

Happy Thanksgiving!

How great is Your goodness, Which You have stored up for those who fear You, Which You have wrought for those who take refuge in You, Before the sons of men! You hide them in the secret place of Your presence from the conspiracies of man; You keep them secretly in a shelter from the strife of tongues.
Psalm 31:19, 20

The Perfect Recipe for a Great Marriage

The Perfect Recipe for a Great Marriage

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God has a perfect recipe for a great marriage and it’s in Colossians 3. “Seeing that ye have put off the old man with his deeds; And have put on the new man, which is renewed in knowledge after the image of Him that created Him” (Colossians 3:9, 10). The moment we believe, we have put off the old man and put on the new man. We are a brand new creature in Christ. Therefore, since we are a new man, what should our behavior be?

“Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye. And above all these things put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness.” (Colossians 3:12 -14). This right here is the perfect recipe to a great marriage and perfectly describe what it means to love our husbands. These commands are just before we are told, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as is fit in the Lord” (Colossians 3:18) which brings order in the home.  Theses commands from Colossians 3:12-14 aren’t just for how we treat those outside the home but should be for everyone, especially our husbands. What we are with others, we should even be more so with those who we have bound ourselves together for life.

Loving our husband has nothing to do with our feelings but an intentional walking in the Spirit with the one you are called to love the most! How can we consistently walk in the Spirit? “And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful.” (Colossians 3:15) Everyone today is looking for peace. The peace they need is peace with the Lord. We have this peace and now we must let it rule in our hearts and be thankful. By being thankful for all of your blessings and knowing that Jesus tore down that curtain that separated us from God, we now can walk in the Spirit!

“Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord” (Colossians 3:16). You must know the Word. It’s not a maybe proposition but a necessity. The Word is God’s Word speaking to us. Every single day allow God to speak to you personally through His Word. It is living and active and will convict and change you into His image. If your husband has a wife (you) who is “singing with grace” in her heart to the Lord, he will be a blessed man.

“And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him” (Colossians 3:17). By living this way, you will be a crown to your husband. You won’t be able to be this if you are trying to do it in your own power. You need the Word and His Spirit working mightily within you to do the seemingly impossible but with the Lord all things are possible.

Should Young Women Teach Titus 2:4, 5?

Should Young Women Teach Titus 2:4, 5?

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As many of you have noticed, there are a lot of younger women teaching other women the precepts of Titus 2:4, 5. It is most likely due to the void left by older women who are not obeying the Lord in this area. But are they the ones that should be teaching these things according to the Word? We know that younger women should love and obey their husbands, love their children by raising them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, be sober, good, discreet, chaste, and keepers at home. There is nothing in this list about them teaching other women. The Lord has given older women this responsibility.

Older women in the Bible are described in 1 Timothy 5:10, “Well reported of for good works; if she have brought up children, if she have lodged strangers, if she have washed the saints’ feet, if she have relieved the afflicted, if she have diligently followed every good work.” Then younger women who have lost their husbands are told to “bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully” (1 Timothy 5:14). I don’t see that the younger women are to teach other women in this verse either.

Why is God’s perfect plan to have the older women teaching the younger women? (I have heard many say that “older” means older “spiritually” in Titus 2:3 but this isn’t what God meant. In the KJV, He calls them the “aged” women; those who have aged – older in age.) He wants the older women who have the time, wisdom, and experience to teach the younger women who are busy at home taking care of their families. Older women have raised children to adulthood. They know what works and doesn’t work in teaching children how to be obedient, hard workers, and mother children through the teenage years. They know what it is like to be married to the same man for many years. They have many years of being a keeper at home. They have learned to be modest, discreet, sober, and good since they have most likely walked with the Lord for a long time.

Many of these younger women who blog, even those who aren’t teaching Titus 2:4, 5, write books and leave their homes for book signings and conferences. I just finished writing a book. This book took hours, days, and many months to finish, plus a lot of money. I couldn’t imagine trying to do this and write for a blog while raising children let alone travel, do conferences, and all that they do. I am sure it is the husband who is neglected in all of this. The older women, who have time on their hands now that their children are raised, need to fill in the gap. This is why I was drawn to Debi Pearl and Nancy Campbell years ago. They are older, time-tested women of God. They have walked with Him for many years, raised godly children, and are still in love with the husbands of their youths. I wanted to be like them, so I read everything they write. I learned from older, godly women with a lot of experience.

If you are a younger woman with a yearning to blog and teach other women, I encourage you to wait until your children are grown up and out of the home. It takes a lot of time and mental thought to write and blog, then moderate your comments, and mentor those who email you. If you have a friend that you see struggling in her marriage, of course, meet with her for coffee and share the truths of what you know. Be a light to all those around you, but spend the precious little time you have with your children to do what the Lord has called you to do. Love your family and care for them.

The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:3-5

***People have asked me if my book is the same as my blog. No, it’s not. All of my chapters are brand new but the theme of my book is Titus 2:3-5 as is my blog. At the end of some chapters are some of my most favorite posts. I had amazing editors help me so you get some of their insights too. I have given this book to women who are not Christians and even they like it. It is not offensive in any way except to those who despise the Lord and His ways. Yes, it speaks Truth but in a way that even may convict and challenge unbelievers without causing them to dislike Christianity but be drawn to it instead because doing life God’s way is SO good. I am selling 2 books for $20 right now. If interested, send the money to laalex2@aol.com at PayPal with your address in the note section. Thank you! (It’s my Black Friday sale. 🙂 )

I sent a copy to Debi Pearl and she wrote me this about it. “I got your book this afternoon and thumbed through it reading a chapter here and there. I will take it with me to China next week to finish reading on the plane. What I did read made my afternoon a most pleasant and rejoicing time. You have opened your heart to others so they can learn from your mistakes and victories. After 3 or 4 chapters I skipped to the last chapter and read your husband’s words and his poem. My soul was moved with thanksgiving that after years of struggle you and your husband found real joy and love. What your book gives best is HOPE.”

Avoid Foolish Questions

Avoid Foolish Questions

light-bulb-1002783Written By Charles Spurgeon

Our days are few, and are far better spent in doing good, than in disputing over matters which are, at best, of minor importance. The old schoolmen did a world of mischief by their incessant discussion of subjects of no practical importance; and our Churches suffer much from petty wars over abstruse points and unimportant questions. After everything has been said that can be said, neither party is any the wiser, and therefore the discussion no more promotes knowledge than love, and it is foolish to sow in so barren a field.

Questions upon points wherein Scripture is silent; upon mysteries which belong to God alone; upon prophecies of doubtful interpretation; and upon mere modes of observing human ceremonials, are all foolish, and wise men avoid them. Our business is neither to ask nor answer foolish questions, but to avoid them altogether; and if we observe the apostle’s precept (Titus 3:8) to be careful to maintain good works, we shall find ourselves far too much occupied with profitable business to take much interest in unworthy, contentious, and needless strivings.

There are, however, some questions which are the reverse of foolish, which we must not avoid, but fairly and honestly meet, such as these: Do I believe in the Lord Jesus Christ? Am I renewed in the spirit of my mind? Am I walking not after the flesh, but after the Spirit? Am I growing in grace? Does my conversation adorn the doctrine of God my Saviour? Am I looking for the coming of the Lord, and watching as a servant should do who expects his master? What more can I do for Jesus?

Such enquiries as these urgently demand our attention; and if we have been at all given to cavilling, let us now turn our critical abilities to a service so much more profitable. Let us be peace-makers, and endeavour to lead others both by our precept and example, to “avoid foolish questions.”

“Avoid foolish questions.”
Titus 3:9