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Women are NOT to Be Deacons

Women are NOT to Be Deacons

Many churches today accept having female deacons when the Bible is clear that deacons are to be the “husband of one wife.” Yes, women can clearly serve in the churches but they are not to have any leadership positions. God has ordained the men to be the leaders in the churches, yes, even overseeing what Bible studies the women are learning from. I believe many Christian women are becoming biblically illiterate from learning the Bible from women who are not qualified to teach the Bible. From all of Scripture, it seems that God has ordained men to teach the meat of the Word, yes, even to women.

Here are two excellent articles about the topic of women deacons and they are worth your study. They counter all the arguments people give for having women deacons and why they aren’t biblical. Any woman who is a deacon is in rebellion to God’s clearly stated word. The bottom line is that women no longer want to love and serve others yet God tells us that the greatest of all is the servant of all. Instead, women want to lead and be head over men which is not God’s design at all.

Here are portions from an article written by David and Tim Bayly:

We’ve all seen a rebellious teen-ager or wife. Wise pastors and elders have learned to pick up the non-verbal cues that show this rebellion. Usually you can see it in the eyes or the expression on the lips. God made us this way and it is only through a cultivated ignorance that officers of the church are unaware of the obvious signs. I wish I could pick up the cues as easily as my African students do.

Vast sections of our denomination are in rebellion against what our Book of Church Order says about the ordination of women as deacons.

The trails of our “winsome” rebellion are various and devious. We show this deviousness by contriving ways to have women function as deacons while still holding to the language of the BCO. This allows us to cop a posture of submission to our “fathers and brothers” while we defy them. Sometimes we refuse to ordain anyone as a deacon, and then have a board of men and women who do everything a deacon should; it’s just that they’re not ordained to that office and we don’t call them “deacons.” We call them “deeks.” Sometimes our rebellion finds other trails to make us look good, while in fact we are undermining the government of our church.

Meanwhile, liberal sessions and presbyteries overture our General Assembly time and again asking, “Can’t we please change the BCO’s ban against woman officers? We want deeks! Can’t we please have them?”

This kind of rebellion needs to be dealt with just like any other persistent sin. Warnings need to be given and given and given. If these are unheeded (no matter the outward displays), then charges need to be brought and men need to be put under discipline. This is the only gracious way to deal with your rebellion and mine. Yes, this will mean that we won’t “guard each man’s dignity and save each man’s pride,” but it is the Bible way and it’s good.

It doesn’t matter who is guilty of this sin. Even if he is a man known for his expert grasp of justification by grace alone, through Christ alone, received by faith alone, then he needs to be disciplined if he has women serving and functioning as deacons (no matter what he calls them).

From an exegetical treatment about women elders:

Tabitha, Mary, Lydia (this is an especially silly example, since the passage in question refers to her conversion and to her immediately subsequent desire to help the apostles: not a word about an official deacon position! In fact, it is an excellent counter-example), the daughters of Phillip, Euodia and Syntyche, Priscilla, Nympha, and Chloe are not examples of deacons. They are wonderful examples of women who love to serve the church. They are hardly proof that women exercised the office of deacon.

I would put the WIC in my church up against any church of any denomination for the amount of work and service they contribute to the church, and not a single woman is a deacon. They work in hospitality, nursery, education, evangelism, and missions. They serve on all the committees of the church, and they keep PLENTY busy, I can assure you, yet they are not officers in the church.

For now, it should be clear that there is no biblical basis for proving that the New Testament approves of women deacons. I might add that there are strong negative considerations that must come into play here as well: the office of deacon is one of authority. Otherwise, why would they need to be men (!) of the Holy Spirit, as Acts 6 specifically spells out? There is no treatment of Acts 6 in the whole of Wheatley’s paper, and it is not difficult to find out the reasons why. Firstly, the first deacons were all men. Secondly, they had to be men of authority, because they had to be men full of the Holy Spirit. If there is authority wielded by deacons, then the strictures of 1 Timothy 2:9-13 come into play. The office of deacon is one of authority, and such authority cannot be wielded by women over men in the church. Incidentally, Acts 6 also puts the axe to the argument that women were needed, in the early church, to serve the diaconal needs of other women. Here in Acts 6, it is quite plain that men were seeing to the food needs of women.

Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.
1 Timothy 3:12

Are We Careful to Not Cross Dress?

Are We Careful to Not Cross Dress?

Dalrock wrote about cross dressing on his blog and it is definitely food for thought. God definitely wants women to dress and act like women and he wants men to dress and act like men but it has become acceptable in our culture for women to dress and act like men, even in the Christian culture, sadly. Yes, our wicked culture has now decided that men can act and dress like women but we clearly know this is wrong. How did we fail to recognize that the opposite is just as wrong? 

The problem is, for decades we have been taught that there is nothing shameful about a woman dressing like and acting like a man. This is so much the case that it is really difficult to conceive of what would be considered cross-dressing for a woman in our culture, including modern conservative Christian culture. Which of the following would cause a modern woman to be shamed for being a cross dresser?

Wearing jeans instead of dresses and skirts?  Nope.
Wearing boxer shorts?  Nope.
Joining the army and driving a tank, eating field rations, and wearing combat boots?  Nope.
Dressing up like a lumberjack?  Nope.
Wearing a man’s haircut?  Nope.

A woman today who dresses like a man might be chided for her questionable  fashion sense, but she wouldn’t seen as cross dressing. For a woman to be considered a cross dresser, she would have to go to the greatest extremes. Not only would she have to make herself look like a man in every way, she would have to actually claim to be a man for us to consider her a cross dresser.

Contrast this with a man who does any of the below.  Is he seen as a cross dresser?

Wears women’s underwear?  Yes.
Wears women’s dresses or skirts (excluding kilts)?  Yes.
Wears women’s shoes?  Yes.

We have in our culture two kinds of clothing/styles:

Clothing and styles everyone can wear.
Clothing and styles men must not wear.

From a practical perspective, it is all but impossible for a woman to cross dress in our culture. We have great difficulty even conceiving of the idea. Cross dressing in our culture is something that almost exclusively pertains to men, because a woman cross dressing is simply normal. From this perspective, we were already half way to accepting cross dressing as far back as the 1980s. We’ve lived for decades rejecting the idea that something God detests is even possible. Even worse, we have denied that our perspective on the issue has changed. We forgot it, and then we forgot that we forgot it.

Let’s begin today to dress and act like godly women who love being feminine with meek and quiet spirits.

The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God.
Deuteronomy 22:5

She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
Proverbs 31:22

Contempt Kills a Marriage

Contempt Kills a Marriage

Many wives have contempt towards their husbands. I know since I used to have it towards my husband and I see many women having contempt towards their husbands by the way they treat them and talk about them. Contempt kills a marriage.

What is contempt? According to the dictionary, it means “the feeling that a person or a thing is beneath consideration, worthless, or deserving scorn.” For some reason, it’s easy for us wives to feel that we are better than our husbands so we treat them badly. How pathetic and ungodly is this? The very definition of love is being patient and kind. Contempt also means “lack of respect or reverence for something.” God specifically commands wives to reverence their husbands since He knows how easy it is for us and our selfish pride to feel superior towards them. This is in direct rebellion to God’s will for us.

The Pearls wrote an article for their 45 wedding anniversary and one of the things they have witnessed over their many years of mentoring couples is the destructive nature of contempt.

“Contempt (the act of despising) toward your spouse is deadly. It takes the form of silence—withdrawal, bitterness, or negative remarks. It is what the Bible calls ‘constant drippings.’ Wives are more likely to be guilty of expressing contempt, although some husbands develop and even perfect the art to their own unhappy demise. No marriage can undergo a regular dose of contempt and survive. Contempt is like arsenic: it is toxic and guaranteed to bring death. The constant drippings might take years, but they drain a relationship of all joy and peace.

“Resentment breeds contempt, whether the resentment springs from hurtful words, deeds undone, acts of selfishness, gross indiscretion, or any number of human failures. The key to remember is this: human failures are found in every marriage every single day. Even those who deem themselves the most perfect spouse are still given to human failures.

“But human failures are not the poison that brings slow death to marriages; it is resentment leading to contempt that is the ultimate destroyer. Often it is the ‘good’ spouse that kills the marriage with cool, reserved contempt. This is a truth that SCREAMS out to every counselor and therapist who deals with troubled marriages. It is the hardest thing to convey to the ‘goodly wife.’ As a young unmarried person, if you see any of this in your attitude toward your parents or others in authority, you will be bringing disease to your marriage. Get it straight while still single, or simply don’t ever marry. As parents, when you speak of others in authority with contempt, whether it be a spouse or the preacher (constant drippings), you are instilling in your children a spirit that will be more destructive to their happiness than arsenic would be to their bodies.”

How do we rid ourselves of showing contempt towards our husbands? We begin by actively choosing to love them by the way we treat them and the words we say to them. We immediately kick out any negative thoughts we have towards them. We show them kindness and grace. We are forgiving and merciful to them as our Heavenly Father is towards us. We confess our contempt towards them and ask for their forgiveness. We even ask them to hold us accountable if they ever sense we are disrespecting them in any way. This means we become vulnerable towards them which strengthens our marriages. Don’t allow contempt to destroy your marriage any longer.

Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant,  does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Was Jesus The Gentle Parent?

Was Jesus The Gentle Parent?

There is a parenting movement called “Jesus The Gentle Parent.” Was Jesus The Gentle Parent? First of all, He was never a parent and didn’t raise children. His purpose was to point people to their need for a Savior. He wanted people to clearly see their sin and that the wrath of God was upon them because of it. If their eye caused them to sin, He told them to pluck it out. If their hand caused them to sin, He told them to cut it off. He took sin seriously. He even told the lame man, “Behold, thou art made whole: sin no more, lest a worse thing come unto thee” (John 5:14).

The people living under the Law were fully aware of their sin since they were incapable of keeping the Law. But Jesus even took it farther by explaining to them that they could sin by their thought life. Oh, how desperately they (and we) needed a Savior. Christ came to pay the penalty for all of our sin (the sacrificial Lamb) so that all who believe in Him will have eternal life. Therefore, He isn’t the model for how to parent children. No, He had a much more important role to fill: saving souls from a Holy and Just God’s wrath.

God is our example of how to parent since we are His children, plus we are given instructions from Him about parenting children. How does God discipline His children (us)? He tells us in Hebrews 11. “My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him. For whom the Lord loves he chastens and scourges every son whom he receives…Now no chastening for the present seems to be joyous, but grievous; nevertheless afterwards it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness…” (Hebrews 12:5, 6, 11).

Let’s examine some of the words in these verses. Chasten means to “correct by punishment; to inflict pain for the purpose of reclaiming an offender.” Scourge means “to afflict for sins or faults, and with the purpose of correction.” Grievous means “afflictive, painful, hard to bear.” You see, God understands the selfish nature of the flesh and that it needs to be trained and disciplined with pain. In Proverbs, we are given numerous verses about the power of the rod to correct the flesh. “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child, but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him” (Proverbs 22:15).

Who are we to argue with God or make up a make-believe Jesus? Yes, Jesus was gentle but He also stood strong against sin and He is God. All throughout the Old Testament, we saw how God dealt with His disobedient and rebellious children and it wasn’t gently. Yes, He’s the same God (read Revelation) and He wants children who don’t wallow in sin since it’s destructive and leads them away from Him. “But exhort one another daily, while it is called To day; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin” (Hebrews 3:13). “But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death” (James 1:14, 15).

Ultimately, all who don’t repent and believe will experience God’s wrath which is eternal damnation. If He takes sin seriously, so should we. If He uses pain to deal with our sin, so should we with our children. We have a flesh that is bent towards sin as we see in our children from a young age and we battle within ourselves. Pain is a great teacher.

All throughout the Word, we are told about the benefit of pain and suffering and how it refines us and make us more like Christ. When we spank our children on their bottoms for rebellion or slap their hands when they are young, we are teaching them self-discipline and are training their flesh to not sin. Yes, it hurts but it doesn’t harm them in any way. This has absolutely nothing to do with physical abuse. It’s not done in anger but in deep love for the children’s welfare, future, and eternal soul.

…bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
Ephesians 6:4

My One and Only for 37 Years!

My One and Only for 37 Years!

Thirty seven years ago, we said “I do” in a little Baptist Church right next door to Master’s College in Newhall, CA. We were both 22 years old at the time. When I was getting ready in my bedroom at my parent’s home, one of my bridesmaids came in and warned me that I shouldn’t go through with the wedding. She had been married just a short while and was terribly angry at her husband that day so she let me know! I shared it with Ken and he encouraged me by telling me we were “molded for each other.”

Well, we did go through with it and here we are right after the wedding was over and ready to leave for our honeymoon:

We had no gray hair or wrinkles back then. There was no such thing as iPhones or cell phones, Facebook, Instagram, Internet, remote controls for televisions, video recorders, and computers were just starting to be used. We were young, fairly innocent, and had a lot to learn about love and life.

Now, our cup is overflowing with many blessings, mainly the blessings of staying married for so many years and the best fruit that comes from it. We have five grandchildren with two on the way.

What began as just Ken and me has resulted in a large family. What greater treasure can there be!

Yes, God is good and we are very thankful for His many blessings to us. His ways are perfect and His gifts are the best.

 Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it:  Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them.
Psalm 127:1, 3-5

The House Sits Empty All Week Long

The House Sits Empty All Week Long

Written by Kate Singh (with some of my additions which I believe are biblical in italics)

The house is empty all week. It just sits there. A $1,700 to $3,000 mortgage (oh yes, in Northern California, yes). No one uses it really. Everyone works 60 hour weeks to pay for a home they don’t use. They have a yard that has grass, nothing really living and producing. Just water wasting grass that is another thing to deal with on the weekends. They have dogs that don’t get walked and live in the empty house all day staring out the slider at the grass. They have children they never have time for. When? Between shoving toast in their hands and pushing them out of the car to the school or daycare where God knows what they go through all day because when the parents get home there is so much to do to get ready for the next day of hell they don’t have time to talk or even tune into the child and see that they may be struggling or suffering at school or the daycare. On the weekends there are too many chores and then the child is forced into a packed schedule of classes then too. Ballet, music, soccer, softball.

Schedules are packed, parents are both in careers, kids live in schools and after school programs. Homes are empty; dogs and cats are lonely. People are depressed. Addictions and alcoholism are high. The big Pharma are pushing a new depression pill weekly. I’ve seen them on TV. I find it ironic that the medication that is specifically for depression have a disclaimer that it “may cause suicidal thoughts or actions.” Hummmm. I don’t think that happy pills are supposed to give you the overwhelming desire to off yourself.

Our country is a mess. We have built all the towns for cars. We are slaves to the car. Look at suburbia and the strip malls. We drive everywhere. We go to dirty, crowded box stores to find a deal. We work jobs we detest…jobs that make us drink a lot on the weekends to forget the misery waiting for us on Monday. Our children hate us by puberty. They have been trying to get our attention for years. Now they are just done with us.

Ask yourself if it is all worth it? Are you happy? Is that house, those cars, the expensive vacation, the classes, the over scheduling, the technology, the Ivy League degree…is it worth it? Are you thriving and living in the present?

What if you could work a job (keeper at home) you really believed in? A job that meant something. What if you had hours in the day to be with your family and weekends were spent going to the beach or forest? What if one of the parents stayed home (the mothers since they are the ones that God calls to be keepers at home) and cooked from scratch, baked weekly, was there when the kids got off school (or better yet, homeschooled them and was home with them all day) and walked the dog daily? What if the yard was filled with vegetable gardens and fruit trees? What if you could be with your children all day (that might not be dreamy for some) – (even if it’s not “dreamy,” it’s what God calls them to do)?

I’ve done the 3 jobs, the office manager, the 3-hour commutes, the city life, the night school. It never amounted to much for me except stress and misery.

My mother was a feminist, well-educated, attorney. She was miserable. She wanted nothing more than to stay home and garden, cook, and write. She would be disgusted with me at being a proud housewife…and she would be extremely envious. (The confused nature of feminism because it’s contrary to our God created DNA.)

Nothing is more important than family happiness and well being. (God’s ways are the only thing that bring true and lasting happiness.) I feel strongly that if you have chosen to have a family then you have chosen your career (YES!). Period. You can not work two careers and succeed at both. One or the other. This is not a call for us to go back to oppressive times or forget our fight for equal rights and voting (yes, it is since you can forget everything feminism accomplished because all it did was drive a wedge between men and women). Goodness, the man can stay home for all I care. (No, he can’t since it’s women that God has called to be keepers at home. Men are called to be the providers and protectors regardless of how we “feel” about it.) But if you choose a family (which you should if God blesses you with children), you must make a choice of work or home (home is the only choice)…one of you (the woman who has the womb, breasts, and bore the children) that is.

People that both work and have families don’t have true peace and happiness. They can’t really enjoy the children and their homes aren’t truly clean and tidy or run efficiently. And who can cook from scratch after work?

Women that complain about staying home need to just stop. (Amen!) It is a blessing that some mothers don’t have (sadly, but with God all things are possible). Some women are single parents and don’t have this luxury (I know some who do – keep asking the Lord to make a way). They would give their right arm to not have that painful task of dumping their child off at a daycare and have their heartache all day wondering if the baby is being treated well. (They may not have to give their right arm if they seek the Lord and pursue options to be able to stay home.)

She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Proverbs 31:27

She Doesn’t Feel Led to Homeschool

She Doesn’t Feel Led to Homeschool

We were discussing public schools in the chat room last week because one woman told me that the high school her son attends is the “darkest place” she’s ever stepped foot on. I drove past that school the other day and I saw young teenage girls with their stomachs and breasts half uncovered, tight jeans, and short shorts. I grieved for them along with the guys who were exposed to this all day long.

One woman asked what she should do since she doesn’t feel led to homeschool. Lindsay Harold responded to her this way:

“What do you mean by ‘feel led?’ Were you expecting God to tell you through your feelings what He wants you to do? Because that’s not usually the case. God doesn’t speak to us by our feelings. He spoke to us through His word. And His word commands parents to teach their children about Him and His word all throughout their day, wherever they go, and whatever they do.

“Deuteronomy 6:6-7 ‘These words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up.’

“Ephesians 6:4 ‘Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.’

“The teaching of the scripture to our children is so important. The public schools will not do it. And not only do they need the teaching of the scripture, but they need to be taught to apply it to every area of their lives so that they develop a complete and rigorous Biblical worldview. Not only do public schools not do this, they actively undermine a Biblical worldview by teaching a humanistic, godless view of the world.

“These factors – the Biblical commands about how we are to teach our children and the reality of the public schools – compel me to homeschool, not because I feel like that’s what God wants me to do or what I want to do, but because God has already told me in His word what I am to do as a parent.”

Nothing a believer does in their life should be decided by what they feel led to do. No, we are not led by our feelings but by the Word of God. God makes it clear that bad company corrupts good morals and that we are to raise our children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. He would not have wanted the Jewish people to allow the Philistines to raise their children so why should we allow a godless institution raise ours?

We wonder why the Church is so weak today and this is one explanation. Children are influenced by what they are around. I believe this is one important reason that God calls women to be keepers at home. He wants THEM to raise their own children, not others. How have we so easily fallen into what culture finds acceptable instead of searching Scripture for how we are to live?

MacArthur, Piper, and Baucham on Keepers at Home

MacArthur, Piper, and Baucham on Keepers at Home

“She is to the home keeper, to take care of her husband, to provide for him and for the children, all that they need as they live in that home. Materially, she is to take the resources the husband brings home and translate them into a comfortable and blessed life for her children. She is to take the spiritual things that she knows and learns and to pass them on to her children. She is a keeper at home. God’s standard is for the wife and mother to work inside the home and not outside. For a mother to get a job outside the home in order to send her children even to a Christian school is to misunderstand her husband’s role as a provider, as well as her own duty to the family.

“Godly women are to be content at home, and to be content to love their children and love their husbands and serve their families in their homes and serve the Lord. One of the most wonderful things that the church has ever experienced is the ministry of women. All of the tests and the studies and surveys indicate that about 60 percent of all church life is cared for by women. Evangelical churches are populated by women. They say about 37 percent of evangelical churches are men. The church has always benefited by godly women who work in the home, and when they have time they minister on behalf of the church. And as women abandon the home for the world, they also abandon the church.” (John MacArthur)

“What children need at age one, five, six, fourteen, eighteen is simply amazing, and so is what those needs call forth from a woman’s creativity and heart and mind, personally for each one of these little ones that are coming along.

“And, just being able to focus on the home where ministry can happen—not being enslaved by anybody’s clock—you can say, ‘I want to work my tail off for King Jesus, but I don’t want anybody to pay me for it. I’m going to do it right here in this neighborhood with my husband’s connections and my connections. We’re going to lavish grace on people’s lives.’

“So, I’m calling for ministry full-time when I say ‘don’t work full-time if you have a family.’ Turn your family into ministry. Turn your family into a global dream for what this family might become, or what this man might be, or what we might be together as we are home” (John Piper)

Finally, in 2008, Voddie Baucham appeared on CNN when Sarah Palin was running as a Vice President and was asked about women not even being able to preach yet Sarah was running for the second top position in our land. Pastor Baucham brought up the passage in Isaiah about the evil of women ruling and this was when Deborah ruled, during an evil time in Israel’s history. He also boldly proclaimed that Mrs. Palin should be a keeper at home. He is very strong on obeying the clear teachings of God’s Word along with John MacArthur and John Piper which I appreciate very much!

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1 Timothy 5:14

Misuse of Patriarchy and Misogyny

Misuse of Patriarchy and Misogyny

As I wrote on Sunday, there’s an all-out war on men. Some women think they’re better than men so they need to begin taking control over everything. Matt Damon said in an interview with ABC New that men are being lumped into “one big bucket” when in reality there is a “spectrum of behavior. You know, there’s a difference between, you know, patting someone on the butt and rape or child molestation, right?…Both of those behaviors need to be confronted and eradicated without question, but they shouldn’t be conflated, right?”

As can be expected, some women were in an uproar over these comments. Alyssa Milano “rejected attempts to categorize various forms of sexual misconduct. ‘They all hurt. And they are all connected to a patriarchy intertwined with normalized, accepted – even welcomed – misogyny.'” Many people would not even understand what she meant by this!

She believes that all forms of sexual misconduct are wrong and I agree but patting a woman on the butt is an entirely different thing than rape or child molestation and you would have to lack ALL wisdom to not understand this concept. Being patted on the butt isn’t something that would cause long-term pain as the other two would. No, men shouldn’t go around patting women on the butt but men are attracted to women’s bodies. It’s a fact of life and has nothing whatsoever to do with patriarchy and misogyny. It’s the way men are built and women won’t be able to change this no matter how hard they try. Men will never be women.

All patriarchy means is “the father and ruler of a family” as described in the 1828 Webster’s Dictionary which is biblical. The husband is the head over his wife, thus the leader of his immediate family. Now, Wikipedia defines it this way. “In sociology, patriarchy is a social system in which males hold primary power and predominate in roles of political leadership and moral authority. In the domain of the family, fathers or father-figures hold authority over women and children.” Even with the newer definition, this definition is not necessarily wrong since men are naturally created to lead and be in authority.

Men are created to take on the stress of working outside of the home, providing for their families, and being leaders. This is why God gave them ten times more testosterone than He gave women. Men tend to think more logically and less emotionally than women which is a good thing for being leaders. Their bodies are more rugged, stronger, and built for the stress of leadership positions and women’s are not. Women are built more emotional and sensitive in order to be home raising children. Women were never created emotionally or physically to take on the responsibility that men have been given.

But men being in leadership positions isn’t what causes sexual harassment, rape, and child molestation. No, what causes these things is sin. Yes, men have strong sexual natures which God gave them but just like everything, when they are kept under control and in marriage, it is good since this is needed to carry on the generations and bond men with their wives but when it is not kept in control, bad things happen just as with all sin. But there have been many men in leadership positions from fathers all the way up to presidents who have not sexually abused women in any way.

Misogyny means “hatred of the female sex.” Is this what causes men to pat women on the butt? No, it’s their desire for the opposite sex and it’s a normal desire. Are rape and child molestation a hatred of the female sex? Some men who do these things may hate women (we can’t know their motive for sure) but mostly, they come from those who have not taken control of their sexual desire but instead allowed it to run rampant and into evil.

All of this blame going on by some women towards all men and throwing out names like patriarchy and misogyny is simply another way for them to gain control since they falsely believe they should be in control of everything. I pray it never happens. Support and praise the good men around you, women. They need it.

Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall beto thy husband, and he shall rule over thee. To Adam he said,…In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground.
Genesis 3:16-19

***A woman on Facebook asked if I have ever written a post for the women who have been sexual harassed or abused. Yes, I have. God can heal and transform anyone no matter how deep the pain.

Let Her Own Works Praise Her

Let Her Own Works Praise Her

Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
Proverbs 31:31

Recently, Joy told me that she loves to make her husband hearty and delicious lunches to take to work. All the other men that work with her husband, Jim, see his lunches and Jim tells them what an amazing wife that he has been blessed with. This man is praising his wife “in the gates.” A wife who serves and pleases her husband will most likely have a husband who praises her in the gates!

The remnant who understand the godly role of a wife and mother appreciate women who are kind and sacrifices their pleasures to serve their family. This is not that common in these days in which we live. Most women want to selfishly live for themselves and do their own things. They weren’t taught to live lives sacrificially serving others. No, they were taught to get as much as they can and as often as they can in this dog-eat-dog culture.

We are commanded to work with our hands (1 Thessalonians 4:11). Almost all of our work in the home is with our hands as wives and mothers. Are your hands producing good fruit? Do they work diligently in your home to provide good food and a clean home for your family? Do you keep your hands busy doing profitable things that benefit others? This is what we are called to do.

If you are doing all of these good works which you were ordained to do, you will be praised by your husband and children. No, you may not hear much from them when the children are young and life is a lot of hard work with so much to do but as they grow older and look back on their childhood, they will deeply appreciate the sacrifices you made to take good care of them and their home.

They will love and deeply appreciate the way you loved their daddy and gave them the security this provides. They will love having a clean and tidy home that they could bring their friends home to without being embarrassed. They will appreciate the time you spent to fix them great tasting food. It’s all good works, women, and it’s God perfect will for you and by doing so you are storing treasures in heaven.

We have a large orange tree in our backyard. It didn’t produce fruit for many years because the neighbor’s tree kept our tree from ever receiving any sunlight. Finally, two years ago the neighbors cut down their tree and now our tree receives a ton of sunlight. It is producing an abundance of fruit now! It’s the same with us. We can’t produce good fruit when we live in darkness. This can be the darkness from not believing in Christ as our Savior or from sin that we are walking in. In order to produce abundant fruit in our lives, we must be continually walking in the Sonlight and in the Spirit. The Light exposes the darkness and gives life to that which was dead. Make sure you are basking in the light of God’s Word daily so that you can continually walk in the Spirit and produce the fruit that you were ordained to produce.

“…and let her own words praise her in the gates; where her husband is known, in public assemblies; before angels and men, in the great day; when her works will follow her, and speak for her, and she will be publicly praised by Christ, as all the faithful and righteous will.” (Gill’s Exposition)

For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them.
Ephesians 2:10