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Bringing Clarity to Women in Ministry

Bringing Clarity to Women in Ministry

One man tried to convince me that women should be able to preach and teach men from an article written by David Scholer at Fuller Seminar called Women in Ministry. I handed this over to Ken to answer!

Lori asked me to take your comment. I was accepted at both Fuller and Talbot back in in 1979 and chose Talbot over Fuller precisely because Fuller, was in my opinion, and that of many other Christians, joining the Slippery Slope warned of by Howard Lindsell in his book, Battle for the Bible. Once the authority of the Word is undermined, it leads to what we find in the church today conveniently picking and choosing what it wants to believe.

 If one accepts what Scholer is saying in his article that forms the basis of Fuller’s doctrinal position on women in ministry, God in His infinite wisdom did not see fit to give us a clear understanding of what role women were to have in the church, and furthermore, the church missed God’s real message for 2,000 years. But this professor and others finally got God’s message, which comes ironically at exactly the time feminism is taking our culture by storm. What a coincidence!

It is not that I disagree with everything Scholer is writing as the Kingdom of God is wide open to all for ministry, young or old, male or female, single or married, and there is indeed no distinction in God’s kingdom between the value of genders.  All believers are called to evangelism, apologetics, serving others, and all the gifts are open to both genders.

Our position is not against women in ministry, but rather that any woman in ministry simply must heed the apostle’s clear and direct prohibition,

“I do not permit a woman to teach nor to exercise authority over a man” (I Timothy 2:12).

I would assume it is easy to understand why we hold this position, and I am baffled by those who are upset with us over it when it is the position of the church for almost 2,000 years. We are told by some to pray that God might show us “the hidden meaning” in the Word to see that the plain teaching of the Word on this matter and church history are no longer to be followed.

Space does not permit me to take on all of Scholar’s article, and again, we agree with much of it concerning women in ministry, but we must protest his fundamental conclusions as dishonest. I know his intent was biblical scholarship, but the result was nothing more than we see from many others who try make A + B = 23 when A and B are not even numbers. Inference and supposition can never wipe out a clear message from God on a matter, especially not one that is this important. Here are four of his main arguments that are invalid, especially when trying to eliminate something so clearly stated in God’s Word and defended by the whole of Church history.

Scholar takes on Paul’s appeal to the creation story as the first leg of his attack. Essentially, Scholer wants us to believe that Paul was simply wrong when he wrote, “For Adam was formed first, and then Eve. And it was not Adam who was deceived, but the woman who was deceived and fell into transgression” (I Timothy 2:13-14). I wonder how many other things the apostle was simply wrong about in God’s inspired Word?

Many do not realize this, but it is vital for Scholer and others to try and wipe out what Paul says here, because if what Paul is saying is true, then the whole argument that Paul’s admonition is cultural gets wiped out by Paul’s own explanation right there in the context. Paul’s defense of his admonition is not to appeal to anything in the culture of the day but goes to the very first culture ever, creation. Paul says that women are not to teach men or lead them; First, because it is God’s order of things; and second, because Eve was deceived and Adam was not. This may reflect that women can be more easily deceived, or is a result of the curse of the fall, but either way, by Paul defending his admonition with the creation story it wipes out any argument that what he is saying is “cultural.”

Scholer writes:

“The word ‘helper,’ then, is not to be understood as an expression of submission and service to man; rather, the woman as helper serves God with man.”

So to Scholer, Eve was not to be Adam’s helper but was to be God’s helper. He argues that God is called our Helper in 29 places in scripture so Eve’s position as helper should not be seen as service to her husband.  Of course the whole church for 2,000 years missed this important point.

Scholar goes on and says,

“The statements of judgment for disobedience (Genesis 3:14–19) are descriptive ones of future realities, which involved a supremacy/subjection relationship between man and woman. These statements are not creation mandates; rather, the relationship of  mutuality, partnership, and equality portrayed in Genesis 1:1–3:7 is now sadly marred by sin.”

Okay, let’s assume that God’s original design of mutuality, partnership, and equality is sadly marred by sin, why didn’t Jesus and the apostles, or God in His Word, address that this should change in the church and tell us directly that women may teach and lead men? Just a few examples might have done it, but certainly a direct command would have changed Church history forever. Instead, God’s Word says the exact opposite of what Scholer is advocating.

The third leg of Scholer’s argument we have no issue with on its surface:

 “Jesus’s inclusion of and ministry to and through women within his own life and teaching were a powerful witness to the early church of the partnership of women and men within its membership and ministry.”

Jesus certainly did raise the status of women in His day and treated them with respect. Christ and Christianity has done more for women than any other religion or manner of thought. Women are indeed, as person, equal with men yet created different for different roles. God also outlined an order of things, not because He favors man, but because it is what is His best for the church and society.

The fact that women gave the first news of the resurrection or that the Samaritan woman evangelized her whole town, is not preaching or teaching.  Just because the church desperately needs women in ministry, and God greatly uses women in ministry, does not invalidate what God’s Word clearly teaches about woman not to teach men or exercise authority over a man.

Unfortunately, Scholer is being intellectually dishonest here to try to get things the way he wants them to be and not what the Word teaches. How do we know this? If God intended for female leadership home and church He had every opportunity to set the record straight throughout history by elevating women into leadership, as Kings and priests in Judaism, as disciples of Jesus, as elders in the early church, as pastors, priests and church leaders throughout history. The “many” examples Scholer and others refer to throughout history could all be named on less than half a page.

One may be able to, as Scholar does, go grasping for straws on this question and find a Deborah and Priscilla, even a Phoebe, Junas, add them all up and assume they were ministers, you will not find one who is said to be a leader of a church, in a church, or teaching a man. Not one. And among these “few” women in ministries, not one can be shown to teach a man or exercise authority over him in the church. No not one of the six to ten women that can be named.

Now we have the apostle Paul, God’s top theologian, writing authoritatively, “Let wives submit to their own husbands in everything” and “I do not permit a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man.” It’s not like this important correction Scholer is arguing for could not have been made when Paul taught us about the home and church leadership. Yet instead of being inclusive of women as elders, Paul wrote an elder is to be, The husband of one wife!”

On all counts, and every turn of history, Scholer wants us to believe that God in his infinite wisdom allowed a mistake in understanding the Christian woman’s role in the church … until now of course, in the age of liberation and feminism. This is in direct contradiction to what the apostle Paul writes, but Scholer has discovered by “many inferences” the truth, long hidden from the church. Truth that is setting countless women free to teach men and lead churches, all the while rarely, if ever teaching what God’s Word commands them to teach to the younger women. Because if they followed it, it would wipe out most of their ministries as God commands the older women to:

 “teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed” (Titus 2:4-5).

 In conclusion, God has always been quite clear and the church has been clear. Scholar and all the others who want to define women’s equality as not having to accept male leadership in their home or church are being dishonest with the Word, history and themselves. The best one can do on this subject from the view Scholar is taking is to be honest enough to accept that God’s intent was indeed male leadership and yet, somehow in these latter days, God has poured out His Spirit and gifted women to do something that goes clearly contrary to His Word.

This is very dangerous ground, as what else is God no longer holding to in His Word? Is gay marriage and polygamy next? Will God adapt His will and desires as cultural mores change, or are we to be salt and light, fixed upon the narrow road given by His inspired and inerrant Word? Unfortunately, once started the church and parachurch organizations seem bent on sliding down the slippery slope of making modern culture authoritative over God’s Word.

If Jesus can go to a cross fulfilling each and every word God had spoken, we should be doing the same, even when it doesn’t fit with our desires and what we think of as potential in life. After all is said and done, Jesus and God’s Word are inseparable. Let’s not let the latest feminist outcry push us into “culturally” making God’s Word and church history all wrong on this important matter. Instead, let’s assume that ALL Christian women, especially those gifted in teaching, do indeed have a great place in God’s ministries, but it is not in teaching men or exercising authority over them in the church.

If women are to teach, they should make it a priority to teach that which God instructs them to teach other women how to be great wives. moms and keepers at home.  This is the message sorely lacking in our modern churches, not one more Biblical expositor, no matter how gifted or talented she may be in public speaking and motivation. These things are not the gifts of the Spirit, but human gifts, now mistakenly used to lead many women away from their primary roles, hence helping Satan achieve His ends as feminism wreaks havoc on our Christian families, and often their own family.

For what does it profit a woman pastor/teacher if she merits the whole church, but loses her family and the next generation of godly children?

For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?
Mark 8:36

Anything That Attacks the Family is Bad For Society

Anything That Attacks the Family is Bad For Society

The family is under attack today (as I have written repeatedly about) and no nation can last for long if the institution of the family is destroyed.  Dale Ahlquist wrote about this destruction and some prophetic sayings of G.K. Chesterton, who was a theologian in the early 1900s. (I enjoy these men’s teachings from long ago!)

“Chesterton was so consistently right in his pronouncements and prophecies because he understood that anything that attacked the family was bad for society. That is why he spoke out against eugenics and contraception, against divorce and ‘free love’ (another term he disliked because of its dishonesty), but also against…compulsory state-sponsored education and mothers hiring other people to do what mothers were designed to do themselves. It is safe to say that Chesterton stood up against every trend and fad that plagues us today because every one of those trends and fads undermines the family.”

He is right on! Sadly, our culture promotes birth control, divorce, free love, public schooling, and day cares. The Church remains relatively silent on all of these issues, unfortunately. Birth control prevents the life of human beings and most of it has dangerous side effects. Divorce is destructive to all involved. Free love isn’t free and it isn’t love. Public schooling (run by a godless government) takes children away from their parents all day long for most of their growing up years and teaches them anything they deem important, like it’s fine and dandy for children to have two daddies and sex education which has no biblical admonitions in it (like purity and abstinence until marriage). Day cares take mothers away from their babies. None of these destructive forces are promoted in God’s Word because they all attack the family.

“In 1926, he warned, ‘The next great heresy will be an attack on morality, especially sexual morality.’ His warning has gone unheeded, and sexual morality has decayed progressively. But let us remember that it began with birth control, which is an attempt to create sex for sex’s sake, changing the act of love into an act of selfishness. The promotion and acceptance of lifeless, barren, selfish sex has logically progressed to homosexuality.”

God created sex for a husband and wife to enjoy each other but also to be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth (Genesis 1:28). However, most Christian couples use birth control for a few years after getting married and then again once they have a couple of children. They have taken away one of God’s primary reasons for marriage and sex, for their own pleasures thus attacking the family.

If they don’t think they’re financially ready, they fail to trust God’s provision. If they have a lot of student debt, they were unwise in their youth to build up this debt unless it was for the husband to have a good career which will enable him to pay it off quickly, but there’s nothing shameful about living simply after marriage to have children.

“The world has made a mockery of marriage that has now culminated with homosexual unions. But it was heterosexual men and women who paved the way to this decay. Divorce, which is an abnormal thing, is now treated as normal. Contraception, another abnormal thing, is now treated as normal. Abortion is still not normal, but it is legal. Making homosexual ‘marriage’ legal will not make it normal, but it will add to the confusion of the times. And it will add to the downward spiral of our civilization. But Chesterton’s prophecy remains: We will not be able to destroy the family. We will merely destroy ourselves by disregarding the family.”

It saddens me to hear about so many “Christian” women who have gotten divorced. It’s definitely epidemic even in the Church. Thankfully, there are women in the chat room who are “standers.” They are standing strong in the Lord and winning their husbands back without a word (1 Peter 3:1-6). Some of their husbands are adulterers, others are addicts, some are worse than “infidels” by not providing (1 Timothy 5:8), and others are unkind. They understand what is at stake in their lives, in their husband’s lives, and in their children’s lives. They wait patiently while growing in godliness and resting in the Lord, even though there is a lot of suffering. They are willing to do this because they understand the value of family and God’s love for it. Today’s culture hates suffering but God uses it for good. (Study 1 Peter thoroughly.)

Contraception is abnormal. Married couples should want children. It’s culture who has warped their thinking. Our children are our greatest blessings. Abortion and homosexuality destroy families but thankfully as Chesterton said, “We will not be able to destroy the family.” As long as God is on His throne, which is forever, there will be a remnant who believes in family and will do all they can to make it strong and influence society for good. God created the family and no one can permanently thwart His will.

Build ye houses, and dwell in them; and plant gardens, and eat the fruit of them; Take ye wives, and beget sons and daughters; and take wives for your sons, and give your daughters to husbands, that they may bear sons and daughters; that ye may be increased there, and not diminished.
Jeremiah 29:5, 6

Feminism Leads to Barrenness and Infertility

Feminism Leads to Barrenness and Infertility

“Once upon a time, women wanted to get married and have kids. They wanted other things too, but marriage and motherhood was first on the list. As a result of this natural desire, women needed to find a ‘marriageable’ man, aka a good man who could also make a comfortable living. This arrangement allowed women to raise their children without the burden of earning an income. Men understood this arrangement, and, seeing as they aren’t the ones who bear children, it made sense. In fact, they took pride in being able to provide for their families. Then feminists came along to implode this entire arrangement…” (Suzanne Venker)

“The defining characteristics of feminism are not femininity and fertility, but barrenness and infertility.” A woman shared this tragic article with me last week called Will Europe’s childless leaders halt demographic decline? If you aren’t convinced of the evil of feminism, I pray this article will convince you and you will go back to the ancient paths the Lord has set for us.

The top European leaders are childless. How has women voting created this (You know, that “great” accomplishment of feminism)? “For example, many of French citizens who cast their vote for Emmanuel Macron in the recent French presidential election were women. Before the election, 62 percent of female voters said they would back Macron.” Women are now choosing our leaders which is NOT a good thing.

Here are some of the other sobering facts from this article:

“A recent survey conducted by the Pew Research Center shows that the number of young men in the US who want to marry has dropped to the lowest level ever recorded.” 

“Feminism was largely successful in severing sex from reproduction. This was considered progressive, a step forward that liberated women from caring for their children, so they could join the labor market and realize themselves.”

“The decline and fall of Rome has been explained by its decadent and ‘bachelor culture,’ much like what afflicts us in northern Europe. It is important that those who want to keep Western civilization alive do not amputate its roots and then think that it can still survive. Or should survive.”

Did you know that in past generations the Church was vehemently opposed to birth control? Now we can see why. The fruit of it has been evil. This was written in 1946 by Dr. John Rice: “Those who would encourage widespread use of contraceptives, and other artificial methods of birth control or prevention, are in the minority and have always been opposed by most of the Christian and moral leadership of the world.” Oh, how far the Church as fallen.

Mr. Rice goes on to tell of a wise Christian writer, Dr. B. H. Shadduck who facetiously suggested in his pamphlet, Stopping the Stork, that if people want to limit the size of their families they should wait until the child is two years old and then decide whether to kill it or not. Once babies are born, we love them and understand that they are a great blessing from God.

We are reaping the fruit of the leftist (Satan’s) agenda which is to kill, steal, and destroy. They have killed babies (abortion), stolen away the rights of many children to be born (birth control), and destroyed marriage, thus destroying nations. Let us not fall into lock step with this madness but seek the Lord and what He has plainly written in His Word. He created marriage and He created it for life. He creates children and calls them a blessing.

John Rice told a story of a man who had eight children and some of them were in college. The youngest was getting older when he found out his wife was pregnant. They weren’t too thrilled about it but that baby was the biggest blessing to this family. Even when the college age children came home, all they wanted to do was to play with that baby! Children bring joy and happiness to the home.

Mr. Rice had six children of his own. (Just because you don’t use birth control doesn’t mean you’ll have 18 children!) “In my own home there have been eight of us to eat around the same table, eight of us to have family worship together. There was always somebody to play tennis with, or somebody to sing with, or somebody to play checkers or dominoes with…Our children never wanted to go to other people’s homes to play or visit. Other people’s children came to our home where there were so many people and where there was always something doing! My children never needed expensive toys to play with. People are more fun to play with than toys.”

This world needs godly offspring more than it needs anything else. Gaining a college degree and a career can’t even compare to bearing and raising children who are eternal beings. If you are young, married, and fertile, go have babies and raise them for the Lord! Then train your sons to work hard and want families of their own and teach your daughters to want to marry, bear children, and guide the home. Most importantly, teach them all about the perfect ways of the Lord and the joy of living for Him!

Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.
Psalm 127:3-5

Make Sure Your Heart is Happy in God!

Make Sure Your Heart is Happy in God!

Written By Anne Ortlund

If any depression, any sadness, is longer than brief, it starts to become your very dangerous enemy.

Many people don’t realize what a threat sadness it – and any danger which is unrecognized as a danger is all the more dangerous. There is no stigma against sadness. There is no embarrassment, no alarm, no rushing to the Lord to eliminate it.

But God’s Word says,

The joy of the Lord is your strength. (Nehemiah 8:10)

And when a Christian is sad – whether she realizes it or not, her power is diminished and she’s vulnerable.

A country that has internal unrest is the least able to resist any threatening foreign power. And a believer with sadness inside is the least able to resist any attack of Satan.

Depression is a sinister “fifth column” at work within the Christian community.

You watch a rejected congregation after a church split. As long as they’re sad, there will be little true worship, little evangelism; the people can’t focus away from themselves.

You watch an individual Christian who’s sad: She’s necessarily self-centered. As long as she’s sad she makes a poor marriage partner.

When we’re sad, we’re sick. We don’t function well. We don’t lift and encourage other believers, and we don’t appeal to unbelievers. Our spiritual strength and effectiveness are cut down.

No wonder the great George Mueller used to say, “It is my first business every morning to make sure that my heart is happy in God!”

Being happy is a choice and if you are a believer in Jesus Christ, you have all the reason in the world to choose to be happy.

A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones.
Proverbs 17:22

Her Sixteen Year Old Wants to Begin Having Sex

Her Sixteen Year Old Wants to Begin Having Sex

For years, I listened to the Dr. Laura radio program. She had a lot of good things to say. Yesterday, on her Facebook page, she shared a conversation she had with a mother whose sixteen year old daughter wants to begin having sex since everyone else is doing it. Here is Dr. Laura’s response.

If she says everyone is having sex, then say:

“I want you to be the only non-slut in the group. I want you to be the only girl who can get to 25, meet a nice man and not say she’s had 15 humps with 82 guys so that he’s disgusted with you.

I’d like you to be the only one in your group who doesn’t get an STD and genital wars on your vagina and can give you cancer later on or HIV and can kill you.

I’d like you to be the only one in your group who thinks that sex and love should be holding each other with tenderness.

I’d like you to be the only one in your group who isn’t a pig.

I want you to be the only one who hasn’t killed a baby by having it sucked into a sink in a million pieces.

I want you to be the only one in your group not to think you can be a mother without an intact family around a child.

I want you to be the only one who doesn’t screw up a kid.”

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
1 Corinthians 6:18

Am I Teaching Men Through Blogging?

Am I Teaching Men Through Blogging?

Women have asked me if I am violating 1 Timothy 2:12 because men read my blog and I teach what the Bible has to say about this issue. Women are not to teach nor to usurp authority over men and I desire more than anything to be obedient to the Word of God. It’s not a legalistic “rule-follower” thing for me but a love for the Lord.

I believe that anyone who reads my blog for long at all will know that I teach women. In fact, women get angry with me because I don’t teach “the other side” about men loving their wives. It’s not my place to teach men their role. In fact, by teaching men their roles hurts my purpose of helping women become better wives because their focus is on their husband’s behavior instead of their own. Plus, I would be disobeying the Lord if I set out to purposely teach men.

Yes, some men do read my blog and comment on it. I am aware of this but their comments that I allow on my blog are usually teaching comments from godly men who add to what I have taught. I appreciate their input. Ken writes for my blog once in a while for a male perspective. There’s nothing wrong with us learning from men. I won’t publish a comment I disagree with unless I have Ken respond because I don’t want to be teaching men. This blog is for women and teaching them what the Lord instructs older women to teach younger women.

If a man writes me privately for advice, I always forward it to Ken. He has received numerous emails from men wanting marriage advice and has developed some strong friendships with some of these men. I refuse to give men advice about these things since I know it’s not my place to do so.

I have stopped teaching the major doctrines of the Word for this reason. It’s best to learn these from godly male preachers/teachers, in my opinion. All of the Prophets, Priests, Disciples, and Authors of the Bible were men and all elders and deacons (leaders of the church) are to be men so I am convicted to allow men to teach the main parts of the Word and let the woman learn in silence with all subjection (1 Timothy 2:11). And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church (1 Corinthians 14:35).

Women need to be in the Word for themselves, however, by studying, meditating, memorizing, and reading it daily since it is what transforms them. There are great commentaries for further research. I use a highlighter, pen, and notebook as I am studying along with my KJV Bible which I love the most, the 1828 Webster’s Dictionary (I have an app on my phone) and for commentaries.

There’s nothing that can replace personal study of God’s Word and it will shield women from falling for false teachers. I recommend reading a gospel (Matthew through John), then Romans through Revelation, Psalms, and Proverbs over and over again since these are the most relevant for us today. Even if it’s only a chapter a day, women, commit to knowing the Word for yourself.

I am in no way a preacher. I have no desire to stand in front of a body of believers comprised of men and women and speak. I just wouldn’t be comfortable in doing this. I do love to teach and I love to teach women. I try hard to stay focused upon women’s issues and roles and anything to do with the home and health. Of course, I use a lot of Bible to support what I teach but if women are looking for some good Bible teaching, I point them to some great male Bible teachers to learn from.

I realize that this is not a popular position and there are many women teaching the Bible. I am not standing in judgment of them because these are my convictions from studying the Word. If perfect sinless Eve who walked in the garden with God could be deceived and one of the reasons given for women not teaching nor being in authority over men was due to being deceived, I don’t want to be responsible for deceiving the women who read my blog when it comes to the deep truths of the Word.

What is ironic is that when I used to teach doctrine, they were my most unpopular posts. It was always my posts on submission, being keepers at home, modesty, etc. that were the most popular. I believe women are hungry to know their God-given roles in life and I love to teach them. Why should I teach the meat of God’s Word when there are so many godly men who teach it and so very few older women* teaching younger women what God wants them to know?

That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:4, 5

*I qualify as an older woman since I am almost 59 years old, have been married for over 36 years, raised four children, and am blessed with five grandchildren! The LORD is good.

Being Chaste Before Marriage

Being Chaste Before Marriage

Godly women are to be chaste (Titus 2:4) before marriage and during marriage. Older woman are commanded to teach younger women to be chaste (Titus 2:5). According to the 1828 Webster’s Dictionary, chaste means:

“Applied to persons before marriage, it signifies pure from all sexual commerce, undefiled; applied to married persons, true to the marriage bed.” I am reading a book written in 1946 by John R. Rice called The Home: Courtship, Marriage, and Children. He wrote an entire chapter about sexual purity before marriage and I sure wish I had read this when I was a teenager since I had a desire to please the Lord in everything.

Chapter Two is titled “Courtship and the Dangers of Petting.” Now, I realize a lot of you who are younger have no idea what “petting” means! We all knew what it meant when I was in high school. It means touching each other inappropriately and getting the “motors” of passion running which is only to be saved for the marriage bed. Because I was only taught to not have sex before marriage, I had no idea what the boundaries were up until intercourse. Most young couples keep pushing those boundaries and in the heat of passion, it’s very easy to go too far and have regrets and feel deep guilt.

“One of the dangers of petting is that it shuts off serious talk and preoccupies young people with the physical so they do not put their comradeship on the mental and spiritual plane…The movies, the dance, the fad for nudity, and the shameless uncovering of the bodies of women and girls lead to necking (kissing) and petting which are the last step before adultery…It is obviously intended that intimate love-making and petting are to lead to sex relations. And that means that such intimate petting and fondling are for married people.

When people trifle with the human body, then sometimes bodily passions take control and are stronger than the will, stronger than character…So petting stimulates the body to prepare for the sex act. Blood vessels are enlarge near the sex organs and they are filled with blood, become larger and more sensitive, increasing sex desire.” He goes on to write that this is especially so in the male and he needs release somehow.

If you thought it was “fun” to make out with guys, did you know that you were doing this to them? It makes sense why some parents set some strong boundaries with their children when it comes to being with members of the opposite sex before marriage. Boundaries are protection and these parents know the sexual pull that their children will have for those they are attracted to and will want to prevent their children from falling into something that is only for the marriage bed. Many times when couples go too far, the sense of guilt destroys the relationship.

“If you are not married, then do not act as if you were married…The Christian young person has a special reason to be careful about misuse of bodily passions. His body is the temple of the Holy Spirit of God who dwells within…See that there is such reverence, each for the other’s body, that marriage will be all the sweeter because of your present loving restraint…Is there a single man who reads this who does not want his bride to come to him virgin pure in her thoughts and passions as well as in the actual matter of mating? I have asked this question to hundreds of young men. I have never yet met a young man who preferred that his wife had been handled by other men, petted, fondled, embraced, aroused by other men…Do not do with someone else’s future husband what you would not want them to do with your future husband.”

Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart (2 Timothy 2:22).

The Apostle Paul told Timothy how to treat young women: “the younger as sisters, with all purity” (1 Timothy 5:2). Until marriage, teach your sons to teach young women as a sister, with all purity, even those they date, court, and/or are attracted to and teach your daughters to respect their bodies and future husbands enough to insist on purity in all relationships.

Bad Mouthing Women Preachers

Bad Mouthing Women Preachers

There are many popular women preachers today. This isn’t biblical. God gave men the mandate to preach and teach the Word. Many twist Scripture and believe it is okay since these women are winning people to the Lord. One man, I will call Ben, wrote this comment on a post I wrote about a female preacher: “I became a born again Christian man after being ministered to by a woman. She baptized me shortly afterwards. This woman was clearly sent by God to reach a lost man. How many thousands of men have Joyce Meyer and Beth Moore led to the Lord and here they are bad mouthed because of it. I believe at that time it was just a custom for woman not to minister just like it was a custom not for a man to have long hair. Be careful not to become legalistic at the expense of loosing souls. Let Christ be preached by men, women, boys, and girls.”

Lisa Bevere, a very popular teacher/preacher, wrote this on her Facebook page the other day: “I remember I used to hear all of these as reasons why women shouldn’t be allowed to preach; my friend never limit yourself to a man-made label. Find freedom in the identity and life Jesus purchased for you. He restores that which was lost at the fall. Whatever it is you have need of, go to the Word of God and get it.” It was under a poster of hers that read, “Never resign yourself to a designation of unfit, gullible, and easy to deceive.”

God is the one who said that woman are easily deceived and He is the One who created us. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression (1 Timothy 2:14). This is one of the reasons He gave for women to not teach nor be in authority over men but be silent in the church. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence (1 Timothy 2:12). For this reason, I will never listen or learn from Lisa. I encourage you not to either since she mocks the clear teaching of the Word of God as many popular women teachers/preachers do today.

These women may be “winning” people to the Lord but they are disobeying God’s clear commands in the mean time. We should never believe that it is okay to disregard and disobey God just because our ministry is successful. Everything must be measured by the Word of God.

Another man wrote this comment in response to Ben’s comment: “I hope you are well. Your argument about if Beth Moore’s works were not blessed by God it would of dried up a long time ago is incorrect. Mormons, Islam, Jehovah’s Witnesses, to name a few, are still here and increasing in numbers. Why haven’t their works dried up? You can’t understand God fully. Praise be to God that He gave us His love letter, His Word and ONLY His Word is our standard. To be for God and follow Jesus is to check everything with God’s Word.

Sorry to say Beth Moore does not measure up. Reading your comment, I honestly don’t think you grasped exactly what Josh (another man’s comment) was saying. He was saying that God has laid out the pattern for who is to teach and who is not, and Beth Moore violates that pattern. Even without all of her heresy, let alone her association with known false teachers, that alone is enough to call her out. This is ‘pointing fingers,’ it’s simply speaking the truth. If that is judging then I guess Jesus, the apostle Paul, Peter, James, and any one else who pointed false teachers are judging as well.”

Why do I name these women who are unashamedly disobeying or adding things to the the clear teachings of the Word? In order to warn all of you women who are learning from them. Compromising on parts of the Word that one doesn’t like is a slippery slope and is not a slope you want to be on. I have seen too many abandon their faith due to believing untruths and I don’t want this to happen to you.

For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables.
2 Timothy 4:3, 4

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Temperate in All Things

Temperate in All Things

We live in a time of excess. We eat too much. We are entertained too much. We own too much. We sleep too much. We work too much. We spend too much money. We eat too much junk food. We shop too much. We spend too much time on Facebook. We seek pleasure too much. We are idle too much. The Apostle Paul is a good role model for us since he disciplined his body so that he would be temperate in ALL things.

And every man that striveth for the mastery is temperate in all things. Now they do it to obtain a corruptible crown; but we an incorruptible; I therefore so run, not as uncertainly; so fight I, not as one that beateth the air: But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway (1 Corinthians 9:25-27).

Temperate means “moderate in the indulgence of the appetites and passions; as temperate in eating and drinking; temperate in pleasure; temperate in speech.” It is practicing self-denial and doing what is good and right.

Do you say “no” to yourself when it comes to eating and food? Do you have to eat something before you feel a hunger pain? Do you continue to eat even after you are full? Can you ever go between meals and not snack? Do you consistently show self-control when it comes to eating? Does food have control over you instead of you controlling your appetite?

Feed me with the food that is my portion (Prov. 30:8) Every time before you eat ask the Lord to help you to only eat your portion and no more.

How about drinking? Are you controlled by that cup or four cups of coffee in the morning? Has this become an addiction? If  you drink alcohol, can you still remain sober and only have a “little bit” or “not much” as we are told to do concerning alcohol? What about sodas? Knowing that they are full of sugar or fake sugar and are health destroying, can you give them up completely or only have them once in a while? Does your coffee, alcohol, and sodas control you?

What about stuff? Do you go shopping and buy things even though you don’t need anything? Are there a lot of clothes hanging in your closet that you don’t wear? How many pairs of shoes do you own? Do you waste money on things of this world instead of investing in things eternal? Have you learned that godliness with contentment is great gain and have learned self-control in consuming things, knowing that they will all burn one day?

Are you moderate in your passions or do they control you? Do you dwell on the lovely and the pure instead of on some other man who isn’t your husband? Do you flirt, dress immodestly, or act unbecomingly when men who are not your husband are around? Do you watch shows or read books that cause you to be discontent with your marriage? Or do you concentrate on all of the good qualities in your husband and dwell on them instead?

As John Piper preached, “One of your selves will tell you until the day you die — I speak as a 71-year-old warrior with this old self — ‘Come on! If we can just accumulate more of this world, more possessions, more protections, more insurance policies, more symbols of power, more possibilities of bodily pleasure then we will have real life — the only life there is.’ He is a liar. You won’t save your life that way. You will lose it. Even if you gain the whole world.

In the next sixty years of your life scarcely a day will go by when the message: having things is having life. To which Jesus says, no, having things is not life; having me is life. ‘Whoever loses his life for my sake and the gospel’s will save it.'”

If you are a Christian, you are filled with the Holy Spirit and one of the fruits of the Spirit is temperance. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law (Galatians 5:22, 23) We should be known for our self-control and moderation in all of our appetites and passions.

If you struggle in any of these areas and feel like a failure, remind yourself that Christ’s power works in and through you. You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you! You aren’t left alone to do it by yourself. The Apostle Paul told us that God’s Spirit worked mightily within him.

Begin memorizing verses about self-control, for we are transformed by renewing our minds with truth. He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls (Proverbs 25:28). For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7). Do you keep your body under and bring it in subjection or do you allow your appetites and passions to boss you around and control you?

Authoritative Parenting is Best

Authoritative Parenting is Best

Ken and I were authoritative parents. Our children knew we ran the home and they obeyed us. (I made a YouTube about how we raised them to obey us.) Many told us we were too strict but we didn’t think so. We didn’t want to raise spoiled brats so we were intentional about training, disciplining, and teaching them to obey us and clearly knowing right from wrong. We worked hard to break their stubborn rebellious will and direct it towards God’s perfect will. Now, studies have come out to prove we were right in this permissive day and age in which we live. Actually, it’s God’s Word that is right because He is clear about disciplining our children.

“Decades of research have documented that teenagers raised by authoritative parents are the ones most likely to do well at school, enjoy abundant psychological health and stay out of trouble. In contrast, adolescents with authoritarian parents (high on structure, low on warmth), indulgent parents (low on structure, high on warmth) or neglectful parents (low on both) don’t fare nearly so well.” Our children did great in school, none of them have struggled with psychological health, and none of them have ever gotten in trouble with those in authority. What does this prove? It doesn’t prove that we were perfect parents because we weren’t. It proves that God’s ways work!

God is an authoritative parent towards us. He has given us many principles that He expects for us to follow. He disciplines us for our good but He is a loving and kind Father, too. He is our greatest example of how we should parent our children since He is our Creator and is perfect in everything!

For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.  If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons. Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh which corrected us, and we gave them reverence: shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live? For they verily for a few days chastened us after their own pleasure; but he for our profit, that we might be partakers of his holiness.  Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby. (Hebrews 12:6-11)

“Chasten thy son while there is hope of guiding and keeping him in the right way, as long as corrections are or can be hoped to be of use; while in a state of infancy, childhood, and youth; while under parental government; and before habits in sin are grown strong, and the case become desperate, and he is hardened, and proof against all instruction and discipline” (Gill’s Exposition).

Spankings not done in anger and on the bottom are not abusive. Never pull your children’s hair, punch or slap them, call them names, or yell at them. We didn’t ever have to ground or have time outs with our children. No, they knew when we asked them to do something, they did it and when they were disobedient, they knew they would be punished for it. Boundaries and discipline protect children and help them to grow up into mature adults.

Too many parents seem to be afraid of their children and have fallen for the “gentle parenting” movement which should be labeled the “permissive parenting” movement from what I have seen. “Unfortunately, many children today don’t receive the benefits of the balanced, authoritative approach to parenting because society has convinced parents that such an approach is abusive and damaging to a child’s self-esteem. Instead, parents have been told to reason with their child, get the child’s opinion in every matter, and above all, be their child’s friend.” 

We didn’t worry about building self-esteem into our children. We wanted them to know who they were in Christ and how much He valued them. This is what builds security and worth into children because it doesn’t come from what they do, what they look like, or who they are but who God is and what He has done for them.

Remember, the wisdom of this world is foolishness to God. Stop listening to the latest professional’s advice on child rearing. I just saw a study by the “professionals” of this world that said that spankings and authoritative parenting causes mental harm! This is utter nonsense because we must trust God’s opinions over man’s. Go back to the Word of God and do as He has commanded you to do. Love your children deeply enough to discipline and train them in the ways of godliness.

Folly is bound up in the heart of a child,
but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.

Proverbs 22:15