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Accepting Mediocrity in Motherhood, Marriage, and Faith

Accepting Mediocrity in Motherhood, Marriage, and Faith

Written By Hayden Ritchie From Hippie Hayden

This post is very atypical of my usual kind. But, it is something that has been weighing very heavily in my mind for the past two months or so, that I’ve decided it’s worth sharing with the internet.

There’s a trend in society right now, especially all over social media, to accept mediocrity. Specifically, mediocrity in motherhood, marriage, and faith.

As a younger woman, I’m very troubled by the lack of Titus Two mentorship exhibited or offered by older women, but also by younger women who foolishly brush off seeking wise council or who easily fall prey to ungodly council. I see younger women who DO want to strive for righteousness but are often mocked by seasoned mothers/married women who have accepted mediocrity that “your expectations are too high” or “the higher you place yourself, the harder you will fall” or “just wait till you have kids, then you’ll understand.” There’s a myriad of ungodly excuses I’ve personally heard that are all the more distressing. Yes, there are probably cases where expectations are too high, but better striving for excellence than just okay. After all, the Bible has things to say about striving for excellence.

We’ve got an onslaught of ungodly ideologies and advice hurling itself at us via social media all day. Things like….

• You need booze/wine at the end of every day to tolerate your family/children, when the Bible specifically admonishes older women to instruct the younger to be sober minded.

• It’s perfectly fine if we haven’t done much all day; we’re a mess, the house is a wreck, and the children are running amuck, so long as they’re fed (dry cereal).

• Anything the world offers takes priority over your family.

• Women are incapable of lying, so believe all of them regardless always.

• Gossiping is fine.

• You need all these shiny things to make your life easier and happier or make your kid’s lives easier and happier.

• Being financially irresponsible is cute or funny. Max out those credit cards, girl!

There are many more bullet points I could make but those hit the big ones.

With all that garbage fed to us regularly, we are in desperate need of stable, firm-footed, godly women who are more than willing to point out sin and ungodliness, but also who will encourage those who are striving for excellence and raising a higher bar for themselves and their families. If many older women are falling prey to these wicked ideas, will those of us who are younger fleeing these things have to fend for ourselves?

I’ve watched women I once admired accept and defend ungodly ideologies, practices, and political propaganda only to justify their newfound beliefs without scripture. I’ve watched them fall prey to ungodly “teachers” who preached a false god and now publicly accept these heretics. I’ve watched them slowly morph into something I don’t want to become myself and as a result had to distance myself as necessary. After all, show me your friends’ character and I’ll show you your future.

I recognize without a doubt that people are fallen and will make mistakes. I’m not talking about that. I’m talking about women who have turned their back, seemingly so, to everything they once held dear, their first love.

I have a rubric of sorts that helps me identify if an older women is one I want counseling me or someone I want to keep close company with. I also use this to identify whether or not just about any female is sound company. *not in any specific order of importance*

1. Do her (older) children rise and call her blessed? If so, great! If not, why?

2. Does her husband also rise and called her blessed and praise her publicly? Does his heart trust in her? If so, great! If not why?

3. Do her (older) children follow the path in the way they should go and do not seek to depart from it? A sign that they’ve been well-trained and admonished in the Lord? If so, great! If not, why?

4. Does she worry and exude anxiousness? Or is she steady in the sovereignty of the Lord trusting him for the future? If so, great! If not, why?

5. Is she wise financially? Or does she frivolously spend her families hard earned money? Is she materialistic? If no, great! If yes, why?

6. Does she do her family good and not harm? If yes, great! If not, why?

7. Does she manage her home and family affairs well? Or are things in disarray and chaotic? If managed well, great! If not, why?

8. Does she fear the Lord? If yes, great! If not, run.

9. Is her husband sober-minded, dignified, self-controlled, sound in faith, in love, and in steadfastness? If so, great! If not, why?

10. Does her husband teach what accords with sound doctrine and does she affirm this? If so, great! If not, why?

11. Is she prone to slander, gossip, and drinking too much wine or other alcohol? If no, great! If yes, run.

12. Does she posses a teachable spirit herself? Does she receive instruction/correction with a contrite spirit and quickly ask for forgiveness when necessary?

13. Does she affirm Titus 2:4, 5? If so, great! If not, RUN!

“For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people, training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives in the present age, waiting for our blessed hope, the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ, who gave himself for us to redeem us from all lawlessness and to purify for himself a people for his own possession who are zealous for good works. Declare these things; exhort and rebuke with all authority. Let no one disregard you.”
‭‭Titus‬ ‭2:11-15‬ ‭

We as women, desperately need Godly fellowship and desperately need older women willing to speak boldly over the lies culture speaks, even though they are so far from popular truths.

To those of you who already do this, thank you! Thank you for being steadfast ♥️

The Devil Lives in Our Phones and is Wreaking Havoc on Our Children

The Devil Lives in Our Phones and is Wreaking Havoc on Our Children

Parents are wondering how to handle screen time with their children. We all know that screens, whether they be computers, smart phones, iPads, or televisions are highly addictive. We know they are taking us away from real live interaction with others. Who knows what the long term impact of them will be?

From an article in The New York Times entitled A Dark Consensus About Screens:

“Athena Chavarria, who worked as an executive assistant at Facebook and is now at Mark Zuckerberg’s philanthropic arm, the Chan Zuckerberg Initiative, said: ‘I am convinced the devil lives in our phones and is wreaking havoc on our children.’ Ms. Chavarria did not let her children have cellphones until high school, and even now bans phone use in the car and severely limits it at home…’On the scale between candy and crack cocaine, it’s closer to crack cocaine,’ Mr. Anderson (the former editor of Wired and now the chief executive of a robotics and drone company) said of screens.

“Tim Cook, the C.E.O. of Apple, said earlier this year that he would not let his nephew join social networks. Bill Gates banned cellphones until his children were teenagers, and Melinda Gates wrote that she wished they had waited even longer. Steve Jobs would not let his young children near iPads. But in the last year, a fleet of high-profile Silicon Valley defectors have been sounding alarms in increasingly dire terms about what these gadgets do to the human brain. Suddenly rank-and-file Silicon Valley workers are obsessed. No-tech homes are cropping up across the region. Nannies are being asked to sign no-phone contracts.”

What is all of this technology doing to our brains? These are questions that need to be answered. There were no smart phones when my children were in high school and I am thankful. They came out the year after my youngest graduated high school. My sister said that her two oldest children, who were close in age to my children, would come to her home with their friends and would sit around laughing and talking for hours. By the time her youngest was a senior in high school, almost all of the kids had smart phones. When his friends would come to her home, they would all sit around looking at their phones.

Do you know how much easier it is for your children to be exposed to porn and all types of evil with smart phones? If they go to school, any child with a smart phone can easily show your children this perversion. Many parents aren’t putting Covenant Eyes or some other filter on their phones and computers. This makes another important reason to homeschool your children, mothers. They need your protection from this wicked and adulterous generation which is only growing darker. Satan’s goal is to kill, steal, and destroy and he can easily use the smart phone to accomplish his goals.

Recently, I watched a YouTube of a mother who has eleven children. She is a wise woman and many of you would love learning from her. They don’t have a television nor do her children get to watch any type of screens. They play, learn, and work! My children mostly played, read, and worked. Yes, we had a television but I didn’t let them watch it much. I didn’t like how mesmerized they would become while watching it. I knew it couldn’t be good for them!

Mothers ask me how they can entertain their children without a television. Mothers, you don’t need to be responsible for entertaining your children! Let them use their imaginations and creativity. My children were often making up plays, dances, played with balls, puzzles, games, and always found something to do. Teach them to work along with you as soon as they are able. Let them play outside as much as possible. I go outside in the front yard with my grandchildren often and soon many of the neighborhood children come outside and play, too. They have a great time riding bikes, playing with balls, and making up games. Let your children color, read to them, and play with blocks. Teach them to make their bed after they wake up, clean up after themselves, and work hard. Make sure they develop a love for reading by reading good books to them.

Think twice about allowing your children to have screen time. Don’t let it be a convenient way for you to have your children babysat by a screen. Don’t model to them an addiction to it. It’s heartbreaking to see teenagers and younger children walking around the park near us in a group with other children and all of their heads are buried in their phones.

Is the Devil in your phone? Does it keep you away from real life with your children, your husband, and others? Does it control you? Does it show you inappropriate and even evil images? Can you walk away from it and enjoy life without thinking about it? Is it stealing time away from the LORD and His Word, prayer, and from keeping your home clean and tidy?

Don’t allow Satan to be in your phone or anywhere else in your home. Discipline yourself for the purposes of godliness and you can because God’s Holy Spirit lives and works mightily within you if you are a believer in Jesus Christ. You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you! Don’t allow it to control you and keep you from real life. Raise your children without the addiction of screen time. It will not only benefit their mind, but it will benefit their overall health and relationships. There is an all out war for the souls of your children, women. Put on the full armor of God every day and stand steadfast in the faith.

All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any…But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway.
1 Corinthians 6:12 and 9:27

Warnings Against the Feminization of America

Warnings Against the Feminization of America

People all over America will go to the polls in a week from tomorrow and vote. I have heard women proclaim that people had to fight and die for women to have the right to vote as if this were a God-ordained right. This isn’t true. There was never any civil war over this issue nor is it a God-ordained right. Women “fought” (meaning they left their homes, raised their voices, and shouted for their “rights”) for the right to vote since they felt they knew better than men. They didn’t trust men to lead them in the right way. They wanted to be leaders and run things.

In 1920, this poster was made by the Southern’s Women’s League For Rejection of the Susan B. Anthony Amendment against the Women’s Suffrage Movement. Remember, this poster was being spread around by women who opposed the right for women to vote and they sure did have wise insight into the catastrophe that would ensue.

 “A vote for federal suffrage is a vote for organized female nagging forever. American pep, which was the result of a masculine dominated country, will soon be a thing of the past. With the collapse of the male ascendancy in this country, we can look forward to a nation of degeneration…The effect of the social revolution on American character will be to make ‘sissies’ of American men – a process already under way. Women Suffrage denatures both men and women; it masculinizes women and feminizes men. The history of ancient civilization has proven that a weakening of the man power of nations has been but a pre-runner of decadence in civilization.”

Elaine Weiss, author of The Woman’s Hour: The Great Fight to Win The Vote, wrote, “‘But it also goes deeper than that, because these anti-suffrage women are saying the vote is going to disturb the American home. It’s going to alter gender roles in a way that is disruptive and unhealthy,’ Weiss explains. ‘It’s going to make women compete with men—the anti-suffragists argue there will be more divorces because husbands and wives will argue about which candidates to vote for—but even deeper, it unsettles the idea of what the family is.'”

This is exactly what has happened. The family is no longer clearly defined as roles have become blurred. Ask yourself, have women stopped nagging and wanting their way since they achieved the right to vote? NO! In fact, I saw a poster recently that Iceland has complete gender equality but I am sure it hasn’t made women any happier and less complaining. Women are louder and more demanding (example: the Women’s March) than ever before even though they have more rights than ever. It’s a deep pit that is never satisfied. The further women go away from God’s calling on their lives, the unhappier and more discontent they become. God is their Creator yet they outright reject His will for them.

Let’s look back at the beginning of time and see who God created to be the leaders. The first human begin He created was Adam, a man, and he was to be the leader. He named all of the animals. Then God created Eve to be Adam’s help meet to support Adam in his work, not to usurp it.

Then God chose men to be the leaders as priests, kings, prophets, patriarchs, apostles, elders, deacons, and husbands. It seems clear to me that God made men to be the leaders. Jesus could have easily chosen a female disciple but He did not.

What are my thoughts on women voting? I have been asked this frequently. I am not a fan at all. Women overwhelmingly vote Democrat. They vote for big government to take care of them which means higher taxes and more laws and regulations which means less freedoms. They vote for free health care and abortions. They vote for leftist policies which are highly destructive to the family and culture. Socialism hasn’t worked any where that it has been tried.

Do I vote? Yes, I vote to support my husband’s vote and try to overturn a vote that is against all I believe in. I encourage conservative, Christian women to vote for life-affirming principles, smaller government, and more freedoms. I know that voting or not voting is not a sin in any way and each vote is not that meaningful. I am saddened by what our country has become. The Southern Women’s League was right in trying to prevent the Women’s Suffrage Movement. Men are becoming more feminine and women are becoming more masculine. What good can possibly come from this? Men were created to lead. Women were not.

As for my people, children are their oppressors, and women rule over them. O my people, they which lead thee cause thee to err, and destroy the way of thy paths.
Isaiah 3:12

A Wife’s Submission to Her Husband is NOT Oppression

A Wife’s Submission to Her Husband is NOT Oppression

Written By Gabriel Hughes

The Proverbs 31 woman I rarely see in a feminist. Okay, I’ve never seen the Proverbs 31 woman in a feminist. The feminist is far too full of herself. But a woman who fears the Lord, “Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and she does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her” (Proverbs 31:25-28).

The Proverbs 31 woman is a wife and a mother who loves her husband and children, works at home, and is submissive to her husband, “that the word of God may not be reviled” (Titus 2:5). If that sounds awful and oppressive to you, you have no joy in Christ. A wife’s submission to her husband is not oppression — it is the delight of her heart, a willful obedience to God as a picture of the way the whole church is to submit to Christ (Ephesians 5:22-24).

Likewise, it is a joy for a woman in the church to humble herself before God, heeding the roles God has designated for men and those He has designated for women. Whether a wife, mother, or single, it is a woman’s pleasure to follow in quiet submission and not rebel against what God has ordained.

Furthermore, I cannot emphasize enough how important it is that women grow in godliness and holiness. Listen to the preaching of the word, and do what it says. Your selfish frustration in reading “quietly with all submissiveness” will cause you to miss the instruction “let a woman learn!” A strong woman of God is supposed to be a woman educated in the ways of God. Feminists hate this. They don’t want women to be strong in the faith. They want them to be weak (2 Timothy 3:6). Strong women aren’t easily manipulated by their lies — the same lies of that ancient serpent who hissed at Eve, “Did God really say…?”

Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.
1 Timothy 2:11

*You can read the rest of this article “Bad Examples of Women Pastors” HERE. It is excellent!

Housework – The Bane of Most Marriages

Housework – The Bane of Most Marriages

When couples don’t understand God’s roles for them in marriage, chaos ensues. Take the article called Housework Woes: Simply Having a Husband Creates Seven Hours of Chores. “Do you take this man to be your lawfully wedded husband, to have and to hold, to pick up after, to arrange appointments for, and to remind to turn on the dishwasher on the evening? ‘I do!’

“If marriage vows sounded like this, would women still get married? A recent study suggests that, whether they expected it or not, a lot of married women find themselves doing more than their fair share of housework. In fact, researchers say that husbands are actually creating additional work for their partners, whether they realize it or not!”

Long gone are the vows from a wife on her wedding day to love, honor, and obey her husband. No, it’s more about what can he do for her instead of what can she do to make his life better. Arguing about housework should never be part of a Christian marriage since we know from God’s Word that the wife was created to be her husband’s help meet and be the keeper of the home. She’s the one who looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness while her husband works hard to provide a living for his family. He is the one in the authority position so she isn’t telling him what to do. Yes, she can kindly ask for help but she should not tell him what to do. Feminism and their quest to get women out of their homes and take on the men’s jobs has created havoc in marriages.

The goal of this article: “Let’s all hope that soon modern marriages will be truly equal. Stafford conducted a follow-up study presented in 2018 that also explored trends among children – in 2002, boys did about 21.4 minutes of housework a day compared to 40.5 minutes for girls. But, by 2014, those numbers started to equalize with boys doing about 26.8 minutes compared to 30 minutes for girls. So the next generation is on the right track.”

Do you know how hard it is trying to be “truly equal” and how much strife it causes? Their definition of “equal” for feminists is “the same.” Men and women will never be “equal” in the way they want them to be. We were created differently for good reasons. Our bodies aren’t equal! Our strength isn’t equal. Yes, we’re equal in value and worth to God but we aren’t equal in the way feminists want us to be and neither are our roles. Men and women are different. The sooner we understand and accept this, the faster our marriages will improve. We are to be the ones taking care of the homes, yes, even clean up and serve our husbands. Our husbands serve us by going to work each day. Be thankful!

When each spouse knows their God-ordained role, there is peace in the home. There’s no tit-for-tat going on and keeping score. “For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace” (1 Corinthians 14:33). The husband does his role and the wife does hers. The greatest of all is the servant of all. Both husband and wife have important roles to fulfill. Take joy in the role that the Lord has given you, women. I have been so very thankful that it wasn’t me who had to provide for my family. I am thankful to have a husband who has done this for many, many years. I love God’s will and role for women. It’s good, and acceptable, and perfect (Romans 12:2)!

And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men.
Colossians 3:23

Marry a Christian Man Who Provides and Protects

Marry a Christian Man Who Provides and Protects

The two main qualifications I taught my daughters to look for in future husbands was that they loved the Lord and were hard workers. It’s easier for a woman to be a keeper of the home as God commands if she marries a Christian man who provides for his family. This is something young women must discuss with future potential husbands before marrying them. My husband was well aware that I wanted to be home full time to raise our children. He was prepared to work hard to make this happen.

Recently, we were out to breakfast with my dad. I was born on September 1, 1958 and that same month, my dad began his third year of medical school. I asked him how he was able to support my mom being home full time with me while in school. He said that for three months solid during the summer before I was born, he worked 80 hour weeks going door-to-door selling sets of Bible Story books. He sold one a day and for each one he sold, his medical school (which was Seventh Day Adventist – no, we’re not Seventh Day Adventist) would deduct $78 from his tuition. He didn’t have to pay any tuition for the last two years of medical school!

He also was paid $14 per night by being an on-call pathologist. He would get more money if he was called in. They lived in student housing until my dad was in residency, then they bought a little home and continued to live simply. He never wanted my mom to work. He knew that she was the best one to raise us. This is how most men were back then. They knew it was their responsibility to provide and protect their families.

Yes, there’s a problem that godly men have in trying to find women who aren’t career-oriented feminists these days. Even most young Christian women are this way since they’ve been raised to go to college and seek a career. There’s also a problem for godly women to find men to marry who don’t want career-oriented feminists. Many men want their wives to work since they are thinking more about the financial benefit instead of the benefit for their marriage, children, and home BUT there will always be a remnant, dear women, who love the Lord and His ways!

Don’t marry a man who wants you to work once you have children. Marry a man who will value your work in your home with your children. Marry a man who isn’t afraid to work hard to provide and wants to protect you. Be a woman who appreciates men like this that haven’t been deeply influenced by the feminism that permeates everything today. Yes, they are still out there. I hear from them often.

Until you find this man, work on becoming a godly woman. Learn all the beautiful ways of biblical womanhood and having a meek and quiet spirit. These qualities will draw a godly man to you. Find the strongest Bible-believing and teaching church around (one that doesn’t have women in leadership positions) and go consistently. Be kind and friendly to the young men who go to this church. Ask God to bring a godly husband into your life.

But if anyone does not provide for his own family, especially for his own household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
1 Timothy 5:8

It Must Be Okay To Be Promiscuous, Have Debt, and Be Covered with Tattoos?

It Must Be Okay To Be Promiscuous, Have Debt, and Be Covered with Tattoos?

For some reason, I was pondering the swift and negative reaction from the Christian community to my viral post “Men Prefer Debt Free Virgins Without Tattoos” yesterday (because it continues to receive a lot of traffic and comments) and a thought occurred to me. I wondered about all of the young women who were debt-free virgins without tattoos and their thoughts after seeing the reaction from the Christian community to this post. What was going through their minds? “Oh, I guess it’s not that important to be a debt-free virgin without tattoos. God will forgive me for all of these things if I decide to be promiscuous, rake up a lot of debt, and cover my body with tattoos. His grace and mercy covers all!” Yes, this is what young women most likely thought from the many Christians’ reactions.

This morning, I received this comment on that exact post and I thought it was perfect!

“Wow! Truth! It’s kind of shocking to read but unfortunately true. I am so glad Lori wrote this post as feminism is truly harmful to everyone involved. I know first-hand. At 17, I was very mature, quiet, shy, and ready to settle down. I wanted to get married, stay home, and have children. I was encouraged by everyone around me to go ‘live my life’. I needed to go to work to support myself, study, and have fun just to fit in.

“Very long story short, I ended up going down a very bad path that I deeply regret. I only got out of the destruction through meeting Christ and accepting Him as my Lord and Savior. At 25, I met my now husband and read the Bible only to find that there was indeed nothing wrong with the original me who naturally wanted to be at home, serve my family, and have a gentle, quiet spirit.

“Sadly after years of sin and pain, there was a lot of undoing to be the woman that God created me to be and there are some things that well, you just can’t undo. I don’t feel sorry for myself but I do see that feminism, especially in the Church, is seriously damaging and undermining God’s original created order that does not change. Women fight for all these rights that they think they want, however, the proof is in the pudding so to speak.

“The Christian friends and family I know who have a feminist worldly mindset are absolutely miserable! I would never want my daughter to live the life I did before getting saved and following the Word. I see young couples in Church who are ready to commit and be married only to be told to wait another few years  which usually means giving into temptation and living in sin which seems to be perfectly acceptable. Seriously, why would women want to be used up by passers by instead of having the love and security of a good husband? Women have abortions so that they can further their careers then later go through expensive fertility treatments because they left it too late. Seriously where is the wisdom in all of this!? God’s ways are perfect!”

Yes, God does forgive those who live promiscuous, debt-ridden lives. His grace and mercy cover all of our sins past, present, and future the moment we believe in Him BUT this doesn’t mean that older women shouldn’t teach the young women to be chaste, discreet, and not go into debt. It doesn’t mean that older women shouldn’t teach young women to not follow the ways of our culture but follow the ways of the Lord instead. It will spare them a lot of pain and scars.

Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.
2 Timothy 2:22

We Leech Off of Our Husbands?

We Leech Off of Our Husbands?

Many women try to convince me that feminism is all about allowing women to have a “choice” in what they want to do with their lives. If they want to be keepers at home full time, then great! If they want to be career women, then great! BUT I don’t believe them. If this were the case, then young girls, when asked what they wanted to do when they grew up, would be able to freely and easily respond, “Be wives and mothers!” but they are not!

No, this response is frowned upon. “Oh, but what if you never get married? What if your husband dies? What is your back up plan? Surely you want to do more with your life than this!” No, feminism has made women who willingly choose to stay at home feel guilty and unworthy. Making money, having a career, and being independent from a man is the be all and end all for the feminists’ agenda.

There’s a Democrat woman from Arizona, Kyrsten Sinema, who is running for senator. This is a quote from her: “These women who act like staying at home, leeching off their husbands or boyfriends, and just cashing the checks is some sort of feminism because they’re choosing to live that life. That’s b*****t. I mean, what the f*** are we really talking about here?” No, feminism has NEVER encouraged women to be home full time, be dependent upon their husbands, and raise their own children. This is disgusting to many of them, especially the radical feminists. They despise God’s plan for women.

When I read that comment to my husband, I asked him if he’s ever felt like I leeched off of him. He laughingly answered, “Of course! This is the way God designed it to be!” He has always worked hard to provide and I bore and raised our children while caring for the home while he traveled many weeks of the years. I shopped, cooked, cleaned, and decorated the home; making a house into a home. I ran the children to their sports’ and ballet practices and once a week, took them to AWANA. I made sure the children were well-nourished with good food and clean. I washed, folded, and put away laundry. I disciplined our children and taught them the ways of the Lord. I paid the bills and made sure the cars had oil changes, smog checks, and were kept in shape. No, I was no leech! I worked hard in our home. My children were always secure in the knowledge knowing where their mama was and it was mostly in the home.

This is God’s perfect prescription for us! God’s truth is external. It is NOT based on subjective feelings, personal opinions, or experiences. This is why you need to know and study God’s Word, dear woman! Many women today are basing their truth upon their feelings, personal opinions, experiences, or upon what culture is telling them and these all end in disaster.

God’s truth is the anchor for our soul (Hebrews 6:19). We are safe and secure when we live our lives by His truth and NOT by our feelings, personal opinions, experiences, or by culture as most are today. He calls women to be keepers at home and live in submission to their husbands so we don’t blaspheme the word of God. He calls husbands to provide for their families. This is the safest and most secure way for women to live.

I can hear all of the women crying, “But we can’t live on one income these days!” Do you believe God’s character? Do you believe that He owns the cattle on a thousand hills? Do you believe that what He commands He provides? Have you ever thought about stepping out in faith and obeying God then watching Him provide? Have you asked God for wisdom in making a way for you to come home? Have you sought out different options to be able to make money from home? If not, take a step of faith, trust in God’s character, and believe that His commands are for our best!

Do not be conformed to this world any longer. Any woman who is a keeper at home, looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness is NOT a leech. She’s doing exactly what God has called her to do and this is the good, and acceptable, and perfect will of God!

And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
Romans 12:2

Anti-Masculinity Propaganda on Full Display

Anti-Masculinity Propaganda on Full Display

Last week, I published a handwritten post on Facebook encouraging mothers to not interfere with their husband’s discipline and training of their sons. Most dads want their sons to grow up tough and masculine. This world is tough and they don’t want their sons to be wimps. Of course, the feminists’ cry was loud against this post. Here is an example of one of their comments:

“This is the toxic masculinity that causes fear in young women. It’s okay to be a wimp. You aren’t automatically expected to find a wife and provide for a family simply because you’re a man. You don’t have to be tough. You can be sensitive, and weak, and feminine, and you still matter. Your existence and your place in this world isn’t defined by societal standards or your genitalia.”

What I wrote had nothing to do with “toxic” masculinity and causing fear in young women. There’s nothing in my post about raising mean and dangerous sons. It’s about raising sons who aren’t afraid to take on the responsibility of a family, work hard, and provide for their families but many women don’t seem to like this anymore. They want sensitive, weak, and feminine men who don’t want to work hard and provide for their families. They want wimps! No, thank you.

Who are these women actually fighting? God and His will for men and women. God’s will is for men to be tough and masculine. Look what He asked men to do throughout the Bible! Lead hordes of people through the wilderness. Go fight wars against the enemies of God. Be thrown into the lion’s den or into a fiery furnace for not bowing their knees to a false god. Meet with God on the mountain to have the Law written on tablets of stone. Look at the life of Joseph and all of the sufferings he went through to become a strong, godly leader of Egypt. What about the twelve disciples who preached the Gospel even when it meant persecutions, beatings, and their deaths. Finally, look at Jesus Christ who willingly was crucified on the cross to bear the sins of the whole world so that all who believe in Him will be saved. Jesus is the ultimate picture of a tough, masculine man! Yes, God wants men to be tough and masculine.

God calls women the weaker vessel. We are the ones that are sensitive, weaker than men, and feminine. We are the ones God calls to marry, bear children, and guide the home. This is the job that He created for us. We don’t have the testosterone flowing through our bodies like men do. He created us with different hormones to bear and raise children. Yes, we are more emotional and sensitive than men because of this and it’s a good thing!

“Your existence and your place in this world isn’t defined by societal standards or your genitalia.” She’s right about not being defined by societal standards but dead wrong about the genitalia. Our existence and place in this world is defined by God, our Creator, and He is clear about our existence and place in this world. Strong nations are built upon strong family units. Feminism has done all it can to destroy the family unit. Let’s not allow this to happen to us, dear women. Go back to the Word. Go back to the role that God created you for and become a feminine woman of God while appreciating the strong, masculine men in your life.

Be on the alert, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.
1 Corinthians 16:13

Has Feminism Made Women Better or Happier?

Has Feminism Made Women Better or Happier?

Has feminism made women better or happier? “The feminist movement taught women to see themselves as victims of an oppressive patriarchy…Self-imposed victimhood is not a recipe for happiness” (Phyllis Schlafly). Feminists have made men the enemy and see men as the oppressors who are keeping them from their full potential and ultimate happiness. After all, men used to be the ones who had most of the jobs, made the money and were in positions of authority. This looked so much better to women: to leave their family each day to seek the happiness that was eluding them. “Oppressive patriarchy” became the battle cry to convince women of their self-imposed victimhood and a search to settle the score, even if it meant walking into a harder, stress-filled life that most husbands were trying to protect their wives from.

 In a recent article written by a female retired college professor, Victoria Brown tells of a time when she was screaming at her husband over all of the evils men bring into this world: “In the centuries of feminist movements that have washed up and away, good men have not once organized their own mass movement to change themselves and their sons or to attack the mean-spirited, teasing, punching thing that passes for male culture. Not once. B****. Don’t listen to me. Listen to each other. Talk to each other. Earn your power for once.”

So “good men have not once organized their own mass movement to change themselves…”? Judaism, Christianity, and many of the world’s religions were started by men and carried forward by men to help civilize the world. The Magna Carta, Democracy, and Bill of Rights are just a few of the most recent accomplishments of men making men and women better. Many wars were fought by organized men wanting righteousness: the Civil War to free the slaves and two World Wars to save the world from evil, tyrannical men. Modern day management has been organized by men to improve leaders and employees as team players. Christian colleges, as the seat of learning almost all developed by men for the benefit of men and women but now turned into costly, liberal bastions. Police forces, regulators, FBI – all organized by men to help men and women be fair and civilized towards one another.

One really has to ask, “Dr. Brown, is there really anything that women have organized to make women better as we see what an utter failure feminism is as it streaks towards greater extremes? Are women more gentle, more civil, more committed to faithfulness, and family? Has the free sex of feminism really achieved anything good for women but for a few moments of pleasure and massive heartaches and STD’s?” I have never seen women as mean-spirited as they are today, especially with those with whom they disagree.

No, Dr. Brown, feminism isn’t a women’s mass movement that has changed women for good or made them better and certainly no happier. Yes, women can now vote, have any job they want, get equal pay, and the insanity to abort their child at almost any stage of their unborn baby’s life. But take a look at the women’s marches, mean-spirited speeches, screaming, and dressing up in vagina costumes,then tell me if feminism has not set women back thousands of years in civilization. Feminism has made women far worse as it pushes selfishness while devaluing women’s bodies with immodesty, promiscuity, easy sex, and murdering or neglecting the lives of their own children. Mothers of old would be flabbergasted to see the modern feminist woman.

Women are leaving their children in the care of strangers so they can go off and “pursue their dreams and goals.” Marriages are falling apart at alarming rates and children’s lives are often shortchanged, all the while women are starting to display the very traits in men Dr. Brown so greatly despises. In many cases, instead of having more to offer society, women are leaving their role of mother and wife that only they can adequately fill, to replace a man who can do what they do in the workforce. They come home too tired to adequately care for themselves or family, but somehow this is seen as progress and self-betterment?

If Dr. Brown thinks there is no mass movement that has changed men, she has not been around Christians.  I know many men who are none of those things she claims them to be. My dad, my husband, my sons, my brothers-in-law, my many friend’s husbands and sons, my cousins and their sons, the men in my neighborhood, and most men are not “mean-spirited, teasing, punching things.” Many of these men were raised in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord and were taught His ways: to love God, love others, and treat others better than themselves. A majority of these men she hates are out busting their tails so that their families are well cared for, yet even then many of their wives are not happy. Like Victoria, many women are angry with “men” yet they have forgotten and neglected the one man who loves them enough to stick with their antics and thoughtless screaming. These women are angry because someone has planted a lie in their heads that says, “But what about me?” when everyone of us should be saying, “Life is not about me but what I can do for others.”

No, feminists and their rage aren’t going to accomplish anything good. Screaming at your good husband isn’t going to accomplish this either, Victoria. Is this not the exact behavior you are accusing men of doing? Temper tantrums need to be stopped in children so they don’t continue happening in adulthood as we are seeing in many today. The more women excuse their rage by blaming men, the more they become exactly what they claim they want to change. After all, sin and evil has no gender. It just depends on which sins one wants to count as being most evil. Talk to the manosphere and you will discover this same rage against women because of the evils women have done to husbands by leaving them hurt and broken all in the name of their own selfish freedoms and new found virtue called feminism where a woman’s power to choose trumps common goodness and faithfulness to family.

There is a better way that has held true throughout the centuries, and men under God’s direction have well organized the family unit to be that method of bettering mankind. In the family, we are to train our boys and girls to value each person as God does, and teach God’s ways of love, joy, peace, goodness, and faith. Teach the children to treat others the way they want to be treated without blaming an entire gender for all the problems in the world. It is only individual responsibility based on a minimum standard of common human decency that can keep our society together and help it progress. This is not going to happen, Dr. Brown, by everyone screaming at each other, but instead by seeing that goodness and evil are choices each person makes, so train the foolishness out of your children (Proverbs 22:15), dear women.

Dr.  Brown’s idea of an improved society is to get men to organize themselves for betterment, yet feminism has all but destroyed the greatest betterment program ever called the family. Mom and dad getting along and showing by way of example to the children how they should unselfishly live in a selfish and immoral world. We should be training children in the way they should go and continually teaching them the wonderful precepts of the Lord and who they are in Christ. If you want to create a mass movement that ends in making men and women better, stop destroying the one place where common human decency and love can be best trained, the family. A whole, healthy family with dad at the helm and mom closely following as each lives sacrificially is what betters our culture.

I love the men in my life and I know many others who feel the same way. Without men in this world it would be sorry place, and if they were not filled with testosterone we would not have the bridges, buildings, trains, planes, computers, and cell phones, and many more things that we have today. Let’s stop trying to turn our men into something they are not. And let’s stop turning women into something they are not designed to be either. Stop the stream of screaming and hate towards the other gender and start talking about the reality that we need both sexes to be just the way God created them to be within His roles for each gender. Our culture is desperate for husbands and wives who love each other and are committed to raising well-behaved, mature children who grow up to lead unselfish lives. This is the best betterment movement for all cultures.

Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord.
Hebrews 12:14