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Buying Modest Clothing

Buying Modest Clothing

As you can see from my blog, I don’t have any advertisements. I never wanted to be beholden to advertisers and my goal in writing was never to make money. Yes, I have made a bit of money on my book but not nearly as much as I spent to make it! But I didn’t write a book to make money. I did it to continue the ministry of biblical womanhood to women.

Sometimes I will be asked to advertise or told ways I could make money from my blog but I always decline. It annoys me to go to blogs and have to click through a bunch of advertisements to read the post. Yes, I know some people must try to make money from blogging and I have no problems with that, but it wasn’t something I ever started out to do or want to do. Thankfully, my husband has a good job and I don’t have to make money.

Recently, a woman from ModLi contacted me since this company’s website was receiving hits from my blog and asked me if she could send me a bathing suit and in return, I would write about it on my blog. I told her that it sounded great! I found a bathing suit I liked and it promptly arrived at my home. I quickly tried it on and loved it! It is high quality and very comfortable. (She wanted me to send a picture of me in it but at almost 60 years old, there’s no way I would want to do that!) They have very pretty modest dresses, too.

Modesty in bathing suits isn’t common today. For some reason, women disconnect modesty at the beach with modesty at church. Sure, I wouldn’t ever wear my modest bathing suit from ModLi to church but I still want to be modest whether I am at church or at the beach.

I have noticed a troubling trend at the beaches around us. More and more women are wearing thong bathing suits. When they lay on a towel, they look naked. There is no shame with nakedness anymore but we, as women of God, need to be diligent about covering up our nakedness. The more flesh we show, the harder it is for guys to not look and we want to do all we can to not cause men to stumble. Most men enjoy the female body but that enjoyment of your body belongs to your husband alone if you are married and to your husband-to-be if you want to be married some day.

“A godly woman guards her sexuality with a modest attitude and modest apparel that does not draw lustful attention. She seeks to glorify God and not herself. Her life shows the worship of God and not the flesh” (Ryan Liberty).

In 1 Timothy 2:9, women are to “adorn themselves in modest apparel…” This means two things. One, it means we are to be shamefaced, not dress to draw attention to ourselves. Secondly, we should not spend a lot of money on our clothing since it states “not with…costly array.”

According to the 1828 Webster Dictionary, modest meant “not bold or forward; not loose or lewd; not excessive or extreme; not extravagant.” It’s clear what God requires of us as godly women. He wants us to cover our nakedness, not show off our bodies, and not spend a lot of money on our clothing which is contrary to the times we live in with fashions changing constantly. We live in a consumer driven society.

Don’t get caught up in the fashions of this world, women! Dress to please the Lord. We don’t need stuffed closets with clothes we seldom wear. I believe it’s good to buy fewer clothing items but make them high quality so they last. This bathing suit is high quality so I know it will last a long time. (Make sure you never put your bathing suits in the dryer!) The jean skirts I buy are high quality and will last. I try very hard to be wise with my purchases since we should be wise in all of our ways.

In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with braided hair, or god, or pearls, or costly array; but which becomes women professing godliness with good works.
1 Timothy 2:10, 11

*I don’t receive any money from ModLi if you buy from this post!

Stop Enticing Men!

Stop Enticing Men!

Written By Britt Williams

God hates unlawful nakedness. Practically speaking, this is why God gave us clothes: to cover our nakedness. Hence, God was the first tailor, clothes were His idea.

Modesty is especially important for women. Men and women are different. They think differently and are tempted differently in regards to the opposite sex. Generally speaking, men are more enticed by what they see, whereas, women are more moved by how they are treated.

And it came to pass in an eveningtide, that David arose from off his bed, and walked upon the roof of the king’s house: and from the roof he saw a woman washing herself; and the woman was very beautiful to look upon” (2 Samuel 11:2).

But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart” (Matthew 5:28).

This is why Job said…

I made a covenant with mine eyes; why then should I think upon a maid?” (Job 31:11).

For example, the pornography industry is infinitely more successful selling its filth to men than to women. Many women fail to take this in account when they consider how they dress. They don’t see it as a problem because they have no experience in the difficulties it can cause.

This, I believe is why women were addressed specifically in the New Testament concerning dress. All of the apostolic admonitions concerning apparel are directed toward women. This is not because Paul was a chauvinist, as the liberated women would have us to believe. Nor is it because men are free from the obligation to dress modestly, because they most assuredly are not. It is rather because immodesty in attire is more ingrained in the female carnal nature than in that of men.

Without a doubt, the minds of women are more taken up with fashions of dress than any other pleasure. This is clearly manifested by the billions of dollars spent every year on fashions and cosmetics. Dress designers make fabulous sums dreaming up new and exotic ways to reveal the female form in order to attract and stimulate the male passions. How else can one account for the absurd and even grotesque outfits that women gladly wear?

The strongest carnal drive in the man is the desire for power. The spirit of physical and mental competition begins very early in boys. That is why they push and shove and fight from their very childhood. However, as a result of the curse, a woman’s greatest carnal desire is to be desired by men. Thus, apart from grace, the moment that a girl enters puberty the opposite sex dominates her thoughts.

From that point on almost everything she does is, in some way, directed to entice men. Although there are exceptions, this is the general rule. And women instinctively know that men are easily lured by sex. Thus, Paul seems to be saying that all Christian women should be possessed of a certain sense of shame with respect to their bodies and that this shame should, in turn, produce a bashful and modest attitude toward attire. The woman who truly possesses this “shamefacedness” will be conscious that normal men can easily be tempted and that her body, if exposed will possibly be the instrument of eternal perdition to them.

…the attire of an harlot” (Proverbs 7:10)

Remember, harlots dress in a specific manner for the sole purpose of drawing attention to their bodies. Ladies, you should seek not just to be adequately covered but should also avoid clothing that accentuates the shape of your body.

In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array.
1 Timothy 2:9

You can read the rest of the article HERE.

No Discretion When It Comes to Breastfeeding

No Discretion When It Comes to Breastfeeding

We were having a discussion in the chat room recently about breastfeeding. It’s amazing how many Christian women think it’s fine and dandy to openly breastfeed their babies and show their breasts to men who aren’t their husbands. It riles women up when I teach them to be modest and discreet even while breastfeeding. They falsely believe that breasts aren’t sexual and it’s men’s fault if they like to see breasts while nursing because they are “perverts.”

Women have told me that Jesus’ mother Mary breastfed openly in the temple and Catholics have shown me pictures of Mary’s breast hanging out in preparation to nurse her baby. There isn’t one single Bible verse that tells us that she breastfed openly! Not one. I am sure she was known as a godly, discreet, and modest woman since God chose her to bear His Son.

I am all for breastfeeding! I believe it is far superior for babies to have milk from the mothers. I loved breastfeeding my four children for a year but I never breastfed openly for other men to see my breasts. I would have felt shame in doing so.

Here is a comment from one wise women on this topic:

It’s like people don’t read the scriptures anymore and do word studies. It annoys me. Men are visual or there wouldn’t be so many verses about the body in Song of Solomon alone! But since this is about breasts here are just a few verses on them.

Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love. – Proverbs 5:19

This verse is implying that the breasts are satisfying and here we are seeing the encouragement for them to always make a man filled with delight. The King James uses the word satisfy which implies that they are satisfying to a man. They aren’t drawn to things that are not satisfying.

Both satisfy and delight mean to be filled, take pleasure in. It is the same delight that is used when it says God delights in His people. The way God delights in His people is the way a man is to be about his wife’s breasts only. But like everything that is beautiful in God’s Holy Word and ways, it gets perverted by the world we live in and you have men delighting in other women’s breasts and you have women practicing zero discretion. Zero.

If that wasn’t enough to show that men like breasts here is another verse..

Your two breasts are like two fawns, twins of a gazelle, that graze among the lilies. – Song of Solomon 4:5

Your stature is like a palm tree, and your breasts are like its clusters. I say I will climb the palm tree and lay hold of its fruit. Oh may your breasts be like clusters of the vine, and the scent of your breath like apples- Song of Solomon 7:7-8

How beautiful are your feet in sandals, O noble daughter! Your rounded thighs are like jewels, the work of a master hand. Your navel is a rounded bowl that never lacks mixed wine. Your belly is a heap of wheat, encircled with lilies. Your two breasts are like two fawns, twins of a gazelle.- Song of Solomon 7:1-13

The man in Song Of Solomon was clearly attracted to this woman’s breasts. Why did God allow that to be in His word for everyone to read? Because men love breasts and in the context of marriage it is a beautiful thing! But again the perverted world we live in would like to believe this isn’t true or simply don’t care like they do with homosexuality. They believe it simply isn’t true that God hates it or they don’t care.

I wish people would just dig into scripture and read.

And furthermore, do we really have to be so dense to think that if it’s isn’t in scripture it must not be a real thing! I mean it doesn’t say in scripture that smoking marijuana or taking heroin will make you high as a kite but we know we would be fools to think it doesn’t. There is just a place for common sense and this is one of them.

Sorry for ranting. It annoys me when women make excuses for their ignorance.

In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety.
1 Timothy 2:9

Should Christian Women Wear Leggings?

Should Christian Women Wear Leggings?

Recently, I asked the women in the chat room this question: “Would your husband say that leggings or yoga pants that don’t cover up the back and front side are immodest and if so, why?”

Hannah:  “He’s okay with me wearing yoga pants as long as they are worn at home, but he wouldn’t allow me to wear them in public, long shirt or not. As far as leggings, he’s okay with me wearing leggings in public so long as there’s a long, baggy-style dress or shirt over them. He’s not a fan of the yoga pants.”

Amanda: “Mine thinks they are trashy in public. At home, when worn for him, he likes them quite a bit. Lol.”

Kelli: “Mine too!! He likes them at home but not for others to see 😉 If I wear them, I wear a long top. I have always been a modest dresser so I wouldn’t dare wear them any other way.”

Bethany: “Yes, mine loves them for his eyes only.”

Sarah: “Absolutely. Anytime I wear anything above the knee, or too tight pants/leggings, etc. hubby always lets me know and asks me to change. I’m very thankful he does this because sometimes I don’t even realize and he is helping me protect my modesty and my body so other men aren’t staring at it! And I don’t want them staring; it’s only for my husbands eyes. He also says we need to set an example and not look like the world.”

Heather: “I live with my husband and two single men. We just discussed leggings/yoga pants and they were all in agreement that they are immodest and decision making in the presence of a woman wearing them is difficult.”

Kayla: “Yes, my husband only ever complains about women wearing yoga pants and leggings and says you can see everything and it’s ridiculous.”

Verna: “Yes, he thinks they’re immodest because they show pretty much everything.”

Sarah: “My husband prefers me in skirts and dresses.”

Crystal: “My husband despises those pants. Our daughter has to wear shorts or a skirt over them.”

Diane: “A few years ago when women started wearing them my husband couldn’t believe it. He told me he doesn’t know where to look.”

Amy: “I’ve never owned either kind. Our daughter wears leggings maybe a few times a year under an above the knee dress or very long top. He doesn’t mind. She does occasionally wear leggings with a T-shirt to bed, and of course no one sees that outside our house, so again, that’s fine. We don’t really talk much about how other women dress, so I don’t know what he’d say if I asked him. And in our area, yoga pants have been so out of fashion for YEARS, so he wouldn’t have a clue what they are.”

Heather: “His answer: I’m old school. I absolutely think it’s immodest. Why? Well for one, it leaves zero to the imagination. You can see everything if you look. I look away. But like I said I’m old school.”

Jennifer: “My husband never said anything to me about leggings. (I only wear them around the house) but when our daughters hit puberty he banned them outside the home. Unless under a dress or skirt.”

Robin: “Yes, mine would. He says they show too much and are immodest. He also said he doesn’t need to know what kind of undies women are or aren’t wearing under them and also says some ladies just shouldn’t even be wearing them. He does allow them in the winter under our skirts for warmth.”

Rachel: “My husband also thinks leggings are immodest. Similar to a woman rolling out of bed and walking down the street in her pajamas, a little strange. I wear them at home in the privacy of our home, as I’m pregnant and they’re the most comfortable thing to wear.”

Bethany: “Yes, because you can see every detail. If I’m around the house in just leggings he enjoys it so he wouldn’t want other guys seeing that.”

Tiffany: “My husband LOVES me to wear them at home but I don’t think he would approve of anyone else seeing me in them. As is I only wear them to A-work out or B-sleep in.”

Terry: “My husband thinks that not only are immodest but also inappropriate without a long top or skirt or dress. They reveal every crease and crevice of a women’s private parts. I would never disrespect myself or my husband by wearing them in public unless they are under a knee length loose dress. My husband also thinks that dresses with spaghetti straps without something to cover the shoulders is immodest as well as low cut clothing with the breast falling out all over the place. He said he is uncomfortable talking to a lady that is barely clothed. 😳”

Paulina: “Absolutely. It was always a major turn on for him.”

Sarah: “He says leggings and skinny jeans are immodest unless the shirt/dress covers the butt. I wear leggings in public occasionally but only with dresses or very oversized shirts.”

Tammy: “Yes, my husband hates them. He says it’s no different than being naked with spray paint covering you. I don’t wear them or allow our daughter to wear them either.”

Markie: “Our rule is the shirt must cover our buns and front.”

In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array.
1 Timothy 2:9

Modesty Matters to Our Holy Lord

Modesty Matters to Our Holy Lord

Written By David C. Cook

MODESTY MATTERS TO OUR HOLY LORD! I HOPE YOU WILL READ AND SHARE THIS. Clothes were created by God to “cover and conceal” the body and not to “allure and reveal” the body. Modesty involves dressing in such a way as not to draw attention to the body. Immodesty is dressing in a way that is indecent and sensual and reveals pride of appearance above being humble and pleasing the Lord in dressing in a way that does not cause others to look at our bodies.

Worldliness when it comes to how we dress is a ‘silent issue’ in most churches, while clothing is a ‘big deal’ in peoples lives. A lot of time and money is invested in buying clothes, but is MODESTY a big priority in your mind when you buy your clothes? Are you seeking to please God or to ‘look good’ in the eyes of people?

MODESTY- ‘Is dressing appropriately and living with self-control and avoiding wrong and indecent conduct. IMMODESTY-‘draws attention to yourself and your body while modesty focuses on inner beauty, which is reflected in outward appearance and behavior.’


As followers of Jesus, we are called to set an example in all areas of life including what we say, what we do, and how we dress. Godly modesty will maintain a proper standard of dress that will not cause others to lust and to stumble! Modesty frees you from focusing excessive time and attention on yourself while immodesty puts all the focus on you and your body.

The most attractive aspect of a woman’s life must be her godly character not her clothes. This applies to men also. We must be humble and modest.

This is a message not of legalism but of obedience! Is Jesus really Lord in this area of your life? These are basic principles about modesty and immodesty. Godliness and modesty go together whereas godliness and immodesty are opposites. Modesty matters to God and should matter to us. Paul was writing to pastor Timothy and giving biblical and basic guidelines in how women should dress and that modesty would honor God and reflect reverence and godliness in 1st Timothy 2:9 when he says women should wear modest clothing. And do not expect the ungodly fashion industry to produce modest clothing.

Modesty is the outward expression of inward holiness of heart. Dressing immodestly can cause others to have impure lustful thoughts which would make both people guilty. It is wrong to have lustful thoughts but its also wrong to wear clothes that draw attention to one’s body and stir up lustful thoughts.


These days many who confess to know the Lord dress very immodest and do not care what others think. Jesus is not Lord in how they dress and attending church can be quite shocking to many whose holiness that is in their heart has inspired them to dress modestly.

Skin tight clothes, very short skirts, and plunging necklines that reveal so much of the body never can please the Lord. Clothes are meant to cover and conceal not to lure and reveal. Men also are to dress modest and set a godly example for others to follow. You cannot mix godliness with immodesty. (1st Tim.2:9-10,1st Peter 3:1-6) The way you dress should be a reflection of a woman who is living godly and is full of good works. Carefully read these two passages.

The source of modesty is one’s inner character. Modesty is the outward expression of inward purity. Dressing in a way as to stimulate impure thoughts is wrong. Many clothes are designed on purpose to make you look sensual and make you look like a sexual object looking to attract the wrong kind of attention. Friends examine your heart before the Lord and see if you may be guilty of causing others to stumble because of your immodest dress.

Peter says that a ‘meek and quiet spirit, which in the sight of God is of great price,’ meaning God highly values godly character while many value good looks and looking sexy. Think about the amount of money spent on immodest clothes and think how little time is spent of growing in godliness?

Proverbs 31:30 ‘Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain:but a woman that fears the Lord, she shall be praised.”


*Photo By Daniel Gerhartz

Acting and Dressing Like a Harlot

Acting and Dressing Like a Harlot

Many women today dress and act like harlots. A harlot is a woman who prostitutes her body for hire and who forsakes the true God and worships idols. We must study how a harlot dresses and acts to make sure we don’t resemble one in any way.

“And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of a harlot, and subtil of heart” (Proverbs 7:10).

What is the attire of a harlot? It is “showy gaudy (extravagant and costly) garments (in contrast to modest apparel and not costly array – 1 Timothy 2:8-10), such as the Athenian whores wore, or short ones, as the Romans; the word signifies one fitted to her body, neat and well shaped, to recommend her: so the woman, the whore of Rome, is said to be arrayed in purple and scarlet colour, and decked with gold, and precious stones, and pearls; signifying the outward pomp and splendour of the Romish religion, designed to captivate weak and unwary minds;” and “some conspicuous garments, very different from the sober clothing of the pure and modest.”

Expensive, short, and tightly fitted defines the attire of the harlot, according to Gill’s Exposition which is a commentary that was written in the 1700s. I don’t believe the definition has changed any in the past 300 years! Is your clothing expensive, short, and/or tightly fitted? If so, you most likely are dressing like a harlot.

As godly women, we are to wear clothing that doesn’t cost a lot since we are to be moderate in everything. We need to be more concerned about our inner person than what we look like on the outside. Our culture caters to women’s appearance. You can’t even scroll through Facebook without getting many ads of women’s clothing to buy.

Our clothing shouldn’t be tightly fitting like most clothing is today and it shouldn’t be considered short. It should be pure and modest since we are called to be shamefaced which means not drawing attention to ourselves. Ask your husband what is and is not modest since he is head over you and dress to please him only.

What does subtil of heart mean and how can we make sure that we aren’t subtil of heart like a harlot? This refers to a “mistress of all artful and intriguing methods to seduce and ensnare; or, ‘reserved of heart’, cautious and wary what she said, told everything that was encouraging, but kept back what was discouraging; or she kept her own heart to herself, while she stole the hearts of others;… she hides her real feelings, feigning, perhaps, affection for a husband, or love for her paramour (lover), while she seeks only to satisfy her evil passions.”

In other words, she tries to seduce men with not only what she wears but by what she says and how she acts. She only seeks to satisfy her evil passions. She is deceitful. She doesn’t care about anyone but herself. She uses her body to manipulate men and get what she wants, not caring who she hurts in the process.

We are called to be completely opposite of this. We are careful how we dress, what we say, and how we act because our aim is to please our Lord and Savior, the lover of our soul; the only thing that we have that will last forever. Our eyes are on eternity and storing our treasures there instead of trying to get what we want on this earth. We love our own husband and children deeply and would never do anything to bring them harm like having an affair. We love working hard in our homes and caring for others. Everything that we do, we do with the aim of heavenly, not earthly, rewards. We love and live for Jesus.

But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
1 Peter 3:4

Immodesty Affects Men’s Brains

Immodesty Affects Men’s Brains

Many women today hate the idea of being modest. They think if men lust after them it’s all the men’s fault and they should be taught to control their lusts. Others argue that women are visual, also, so why shouldn’t men be taught to be modest. For one thing, the Bible is specific in commanding women to be modest. It never once tells men to be this way although nakedness and shame are written throughout the Bible.

 God knows how the sexes are different, however, since He created them. He knows that immodesty affects men way more than it does women. This is why God tells women to be shamefaced, discreet, chaste, and modest with meek and quiet spirits. He doesn’t tell men to be any of these things.

Shaunti Feldhahn wrote a great article about this titled But Women Are Visual Too – Right?. She explains the differences of what happens in a man’s mind when he sees an immodest woman and in a woman’s mind when she sees an immodest man. “When Office Guy watches Hot Girl running by, the same center in his brain is activated. There’s a biological desire to consume that image. Not a desire for the woman, exactly, but the image. There is zero thought involved; that first millisecond of stimulation is completely involuntary. And also in that first millisecond of stimulation, his brain wants to view it very sexually – for example, to fantasize about what she would look like without the spandex. In this first millisecond, all that temptation arises from the deep pleasure centers of the brain.”

This same thing doesn’t happen in the female brain. Hello! Men and women were created differently contrary to what our culture tries to tell us. God tells men not to lust and He tells women to dress modestly. When a man sees an immodestly dressed woman, he has an involuntary reaction to her and a temptation to lust. This is when he must decide to not give into this temptation and look away. Remember, temptations aren’t sin, but giving into the temptations are.

Knowing the differences between how a man’s mind works with ours should cause us to do all we can to dress modestly and be discreet giving nothing to our brothers in Christ to even have to decide to look away from the temptation to lust. Yes, there is a great divide the way a man lusts after a woman and the way a woman lusts after a man. “We as women have literally never experienced that back-of-the-brain, biological-pleasure temptation that men face every day. So we don’t understand that it even exists for them.” Cover up and dress modestly!

In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.
1 Timothy 2:9, 10

Women Showing Their Breasts While Breastfeeding

Women Showing Their Breasts While Breastfeeding

Many young women today believe that it’s fine to nurse a baby in public and have other men see their breasts because feeding a baby is much more important than what men think or being modest and this is why breasts were created. I disagree. In my grandmother’s generation, women were always careful to cover themselves when they nursed their babies. It was the same for my mother’s generation. They wouldn’t have dreamed of allowing other men besides their husbands to see their exposed breasts.

My generation was modest about this as well. My friends always covered themselves up when they nursed their babies. This generation is different. Nakedness no longer brings them shame and nursing a baby is “natural” and so are breasts, so no big deal, right? Wrong.

You can bet I sure wouldn’t want a woman coming into my home and openly showing her breasts to my husband while nursing her baby. I nursed four babies for over a year and no man besides my husband ever saw my breasts. God commands that older women teach the young women to be discreet and part of being discreet and shamefaced is not drawing attention to ourselves and covering up.

My family of women were together the other day. My niece has a 15 month old boy and she nursed him in front of us but I never even got a glimpse of her breasts and her big baby boy is fine with being covered. “But they hate being covered. How would you like to be covered when you ate?” women write me. Well, I’m an adult and I eat without having a naked breast at my face and you can train a child to accept anything. We train the children. They don’t train us. I sure trained mine to nurse while covered and it wasn’t difficult at all.

Nakedness and shame continually are linked together in the Bible. “…and that the shame of thy nakedness do not appear” (Revelation 3:18). We are not to show our nakedness just because we live in a culture that tells us it is acceptable. We are to be discreet in all of our behavior, yes, even when nursing our babies. If most of the generations before this generation could do it, so can you. Breasts are not to be displayed in public by godly women for any reason.

Yes, breasts are sexual for men or God wouldn’t have written this in His Word: “Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love” (Proverbs 5:19). Men are highly attracted to women’s breasts no matter how much women don’t want this to be true. I wouldn’t even nurse in front of my sons if they were older than five years old. No, breasts are to be covered and private. It’s what God has called us to do.

The following verse doesn’t give the exception for nursing. No, covering yourselves while nursing isn’t shameful. Not covering yourselves is shameful. Align your life with the perfect Word of God, NOT according to your feelings and what you feel is right, or what is most convenient for you, or what culture finds acceptable. It’s a narrow path we walk on and few want to walk on it.

In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array.
1 Timothy 2:9

Are We Careful to Not Cross Dress?

Are We Careful to Not Cross Dress?

Dalrock wrote about cross dressing on his blog and it is definitely food for thought. God definitely wants women to dress and act like women and he wants men to dress and act like men but it has become acceptable in our culture for women to dress and act like men, even in the Christian culture, sadly. Yes, our wicked culture has now decided that men can act and dress like women but we clearly know this is wrong. How did we fail to recognize that the opposite is just as wrong? 

The problem is, for decades we have been taught that there is nothing shameful about a woman dressing like and acting like a man. This is so much the case that it is really difficult to conceive of what would be considered cross-dressing for a woman in our culture, including modern conservative Christian culture. Which of the following would cause a modern woman to be shamed for being a cross dresser?

Wearing jeans instead of dresses and skirts?  Nope.
Wearing boxer shorts?  Nope.
Joining the army and driving a tank, eating field rations, and wearing combat boots?  Nope.
Dressing up like a lumberjack?  Nope.
Wearing a man’s haircut?  Nope.

A woman today who dresses like a man might be chided for her questionable  fashion sense, but she wouldn’t seen as cross dressing. For a woman to be considered a cross dresser, she would have to go to the greatest extremes. Not only would she have to make herself look like a man in every way, she would have to actually claim to be a man for us to consider her a cross dresser.

Contrast this with a man who does any of the below.  Is he seen as a cross dresser?

Wears women’s underwear?  Yes.
Wears women’s dresses or skirts (excluding kilts)?  Yes.
Wears women’s shoes?  Yes.

We have in our culture two kinds of clothing/styles:

Clothing and styles everyone can wear.
Clothing and styles men must not wear.

From a practical perspective, it is all but impossible for a woman to cross dress in our culture. We have great difficulty even conceiving of the idea. Cross dressing in our culture is something that almost exclusively pertains to men, because a woman cross dressing is simply normal. From this perspective, we were already half way to accepting cross dressing as far back as the 1980s. We’ve lived for decades rejecting the idea that something God detests is even possible. Even worse, we have denied that our perspective on the issue has changed. We forgot it, and then we forgot that we forgot it.

Let’s begin today to dress and act like godly women who love being feminine with meek and quiet spirits.

The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God.
Deuteronomy 22:5

She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
Proverbs 31:22

Modesty and Beauty Go Together

Modesty and Beauty Go Together

Written By Nancy Campbell

Modesty and beauty should go together. Both enhance one another. Modesty does not have to be old-fashioned and drab.

There are some dear Christian women who feel they must wear plain and drab clothes to be modest. But we don’t find this anywhere in the Bible. Far from the truth.

The Proverbs 31 woman was dressed beautifully in “fine linen and purple.” When Sarah went down to Egypt, the Pharaoh of Egypt noticed her and brought her to his harem (she would have been clothed in garments suited to royalty). When God designed the clothes for the high priest and his sons, He said, “Thou shalt make holy garments for Aaron thy brother for glory and for beauty” (Exodus 28:2).

God was the first clothes designer. And what is His plan? He wants us to dress HOLY. But he also wants us to dress for GLORY and for BEAUTY. God delights in beauty. “God has made everything beautiful in its time” (Ecclesiastes 3:11). He created us for His pleasure (Revelation 4:11) and I am sure He loves us to look glorious and beautiful. He clothes His animal creation with beauty and color. He creates the trees and flowers with glory and color. How much more His highest creation?

However, did you notice the other word God used about clothing? He said: “You are to make HOLY garments.” In other words, we must make sure we are covered. When Adam and Eve sinned in the Garden of Eden, they became aware they were naked and sewed fig leaves together to cover themselves. But they weren’t fully covered. Then God came, shed the blood of an animal, and made them “coats of skins, and CLOTHED them” (Genesis 3:21). The word “coats” means “to cover.”

In Mark 5:1-15 we read the story of how Jesus delivered the man who was possessed with a legion of devils. After Jesus delivered him the Bible says the people found him “sitting, and CLOTHED, and in his right mind.”

I am troubled by the immodesty among God’s women today. It’s nearly impossible to go into the doors of a church without confronting cleavage! I beg your pardon? Are we going to a secular function or the house of God? Didn’t Jesus die, shed His blood, and give His life for the church to SANCTIFY and CLEANSE her (Ephesians 5:25-27)? The word “sanctify” means “to make holy, to set apart from the world.”

I know that many do it ignorantly because they follow what everyone else is doing. And, because no one says anything about it!

Sometimes the cleavage is bold; in others it is borderline. Not too much, but just a little showing? God’s people should never be borderline! Never compromise! Never sit on the fence! We are either one thing or the other. James 4:4 clearly states that if we are friends with the world we are an enemy of God. We should always lift the standard high.

I am also saddened by many Christian women who publish pictures of themselves on social media, showing cleavage and dressed immodestly. And worse still. So many other Christian women LIKE it! Help! Do they love it? Do they love to see fellow saints showing themselves off? Or do they have no godly standard at all? Or are they so conditioned to immodesty that they don’t even notice it? When we LIKE something on Facebook, we affirm we agree with it.

I am also saddened by many Christian movies that bring a wonderful message of truth and the gospel of Jesus Christ, and yet some of the actors are often dressed immodestly. It makes a double standard.

Forgive me for my little rave, but we each have a responsibility to keep each other in line, don’t we? We are our “brother’s keeper.”

Can I end on a positive note? Let’s dress for GLORY and BEAUTY. I often fall down on this one, especially around home! This doesn’t mean we have to have expensive clothes. You can make anything beautiful. And you make anything beautiful from Goodwill.

***Photo by Daniel Gerhartz