She Opens Her Mouth with Wisdom

She Opens Her Mouth with Wisdom

She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
Proverbs 31:26

 “She is not merely a good housewife, attending diligently to material interests; she guides her family with words of wisdom. When she speaks, it is not gossip, or slander, or idle talk, that she utters, but sentences of prudence and sound sense, such as may minister grace to the hearers…her language to those around her is animated and regulated by love. As mistress of a family, she has to teach and direct her dependents, and she performs this duty with gracious kindness and ready sympathy” (Pulpit Commentary).

The only way we will become this wise woman is by spending a lot of time in God’s Word and learning from Him. Wisdom only comes from God. We are transformed by renewing our minds with truth and if we are never reading and learning truth but instead watching TV shows, news shows, and things of this world, we can never expect to be women who are filled with wisdom and kindness. This is an act of the Holy Spirit in us and we can grieve Him by allowing sin in our lives and not filling our minds with truth.

“She openeth her mouth with wisdom,…. When she opens her mouth, for it is not always open, she expresses herself in a discreet and prudent manner; as well as speaks of things not foolish and trifling, but of moment and importance, and of usefulness to others:…and in her tongue is the law of kindness; or ‘the law of love’, grace and mercy; which is the law of Christ, Galatians 6:2 speaking kindly and tenderly to everyone, exhorting to acts of mercy and kindness, and doing them herself: or ‘the doctrine of grace is in her tongue'” (Gill’s Exposition).

It’s easy for us to talk just to talk and to say things without thinking. We need to learn that it’s OKAY to be quiet. Having a meek and quiet spirit means we are content and even aggressively pursue contentment. This means we enjoy being silent and not having to be the center of attention or just talking about nothing important. If we do talk, we need to learn to carefully measure our words and if we feel like we want to say something mean or critical, we shut it down very quickly and say nothing instead. We are “swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath” (James 1:19).

 “She openeth her mouth with wisdom — She is neither sullenly silent, nor full of impertinent talk, but speaks discreetly and piously, as occasion offers. In her tongue is the law of kindness — Her speeches are guided by wisdom and grace, and not by inordinate passions. And this practice is called a law in her tongue, because it is constant and customary, and proceeds from an inward and powerful principle of true wisdom” (Benson Commentary).

Wisdom comes from above. It is “first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy” (James 3:17). We use no swear words. We don’t tell dirty jokes. We seek peace with everyone as far as it depends upon us. We are “hard to provoke and easily pacified.” We don’t get angry easily and when in the few times that we do, we calm down quickly. 

We must learn to be joyful women of God. What flows out of our mouth begins with our thoughts so we must take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. We can control our thoughts! When we have negative thoughts, we quickly change them to thoughts of thanksgiving and praise to the Lord; for all He’s done for us, and the many blessings we have from Him. We dwell on the lovely and the good; “for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks” (Matthew 12:34).

Happy is the man that findeth wisdom, and the man that getteth understanding.
Proverbs 3:13

***Picture from Daniel Gerhartz

Loving an Addict

Loving an Addict

Some women have extremely difficult marriages. Some of their husbands are drug addicts or addicted to some other harmful substance. Some waste their money on their addictions and keep their families from having all of their bills paid. Some are addicted to porn, alcohol, cigarettes, and any number of things they can get addicted to and it’s hard. Life is hard for these women and their children.

How does a wife in this situation respect her husband with these struggles, and remain submissive and not get resentful during this? Can she even do this or is it impossible? I know some of you have these struggles. I hear from you and I’m sorry. Some have reached out to me asking how they are supposed to be godly, submissive wives. I will try to encourage you the best that I can.

Everyone goes through trials and suffering. No one gets through life without them. God uses sufferings in our lives to refine us and cause us to depend upon Him more. There is no out (divorce) in the Bible for women married to men like this. If they are in danger of their lives for some reason or unable to get the basic necessities of life, then yes, separate as soon as possible and get the authorities, family, friends, and/or church involved, if need be. But know that as long as you are living under the same roof with him, he is being sanctified by your presence. He is seeing Jesus in you and you need to remind yourself that you are fighting for his eternal soul.

Prayer is your greatest tool. Every single morning lay your requests at Jesus’ feet and then leave them there. Be confident that He heard your prayer and is working on your behalf. Ask the Lord daily for wisdom, joy, and strength in this battle. You are going to need it; for you aren’t going to be able to handle it in your own power but with Christ working in and through you, you will.

You must also be consistently in the Word and find wisdom and encouragement there. Let the Word of God dwell in you richly. Grow your roots deeply into Jesus so that you can stand strong through the storms of life. Win your husband without the word by your subjection to him (which will most likely blow him away since he knows he doesn’t deserve it) and your godly behavior (which will come as you sit at the feet of Jesus and learn from Him). Read 1 Peter over and over again until you have practically memorized it.

In 1 Peter 2, servants are told how to deal with mean masters. They are to be subject to them will all fear; “not only to the good and gentle, but also to the froward (mean). For this is thankworthy, if a man for conscience toward God endure grief, suffering wrongfully…but if, when ye do well, and suffer for it, ye take it patiently, this is acceptable with God” (1 Peter 2:18-20).

Then we are told how Christ suffered for us. “For even hereunto were ye called: because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that ye should follow his steps” (1 Peter 2:21). We are actually called to suffer! The very next chapter begins with “likewise” and explains that some wives will suffer under the subjection to a husband who is disobedient to the Word. How is a wife to deal with this? “Who, when he was reviled, reviled not again; when he suffered, he threatened not; but committed himself to him that judgeth righteously” (1 Peter 2:23).

Know that Jesus sees your suffering, women. He is right there with you comforting and giving you strength. Trust Him to lead and guide you in all wisdom. Have compassion on your husband because he is in bondage to his sin. Don’t speak evil to or about him but do good instead; for this is heaping burning coals upon his head and you will reap what you sow.

But and if ye suffer for righteousness’ sake, happy are ye: and be not afraid of their terror, neither be troubled.
1 Peter 3:14

***Don’t give up on your husband. If you can, watch Connie Hultquist’s powerful and inspiring story of waiting for a wayward husband for many years through Christ’s power living in and through her. “Each evening when my husband was gone I’d fix supper for him and put his plate at the head of the table. No one was allowed to sit in his chair and no one was allowed to bad mouth him. I ran the house as if he were home.”
— Connie Hultquist

Cancer Rising Among Children

Cancer Rising Among Children

Did you know that cancer is the number two killer among children ages five to fourteen years old according to the CDC? Just recently, I heard of a mother who was pregnant with her third baby and they saw a mass in the baby’s abdomen so they took the baby when the mother was only eight months along. The mass was a cancerous tumor that had spread throughout the baby’s body. The baby died shortly afterwards. I grieve for this poor family. This ought not be. Children in the womb being diagnosed with cancer?

I just had lunch with my parents yesterday and they said they never heard of anyone having cancer back when they were young but now we all know someone who has had it or died from it. It’s rampant! It’s killing our children so something must be done. No, it’s not finding more treatments for it which all have deadly side effects (like chemo). It’s living to the best of our ability to prevent it!

Dr. Mendelsohn, a pediatrician for 30 years and the author of How to Raise a Healthy Child in Spite of Your Doctor, wrote in 1984, “There is a growing suspicion that immunization against relatively harmless childhood diseases may be responsible for the dramatic increase in autoimmune diseases since mass inoculations were introduced. These are fearful diseases such as cancer, leukemia, rheumatoid arthritis, multiple sclerosis, Lou Gehrig’s disease, lupus erythematosus, and the Guillain-Bare syndrome…Have we traded mumps and measles for cancer and leukemia?”

It has been commonly stated that people live much longer now due to our advanced medical care and vaccinations. Is this true? Our first president, George Washington, lived until he was 67 years old and died in 1799, Thomas Jefferson until 83 and died in 1826, John Adams until 90 and died in 1826, James Monroe until 73, and James Madison until 85. (You can see HERE that the ages of the deaths of our presidents haven’t changed much even with the advancements in medical care and vaccinations.) Every single drug and vaccination has many side effects. Type 2 Diabetes and the cost to treat it just may bankrupt our country and it is completely reversible with diet (More than 100 million Americans have diabetes or prediabetes).  Yet, Hippocrates, the father of modern medicine, said, “Let food be your medicine and medicine be your food!” 

I have been reading a book written by Dr. John R. Lee, as I mentioned the other day, and he wrote a lot about our toxic environment and how damaging it is to our health. He often mentioned the xenoestrogens that are in our food and environment that raise potent estrogen levels which cause havoc on our health. “Anyone who eats nonorganic meat and dairy products is eating these compounds and they are all potent estrogens. They can accumulate in our fatty tissues (breast, brain, and liver) and cause estrogen dominance, with all of its attendant symptoms.” They are found in detergents (including dishwashing detergents), cosmetics and other toiletries, perfumes, plastics, carpeting, computers, herbicides, spermicides,  and even condoms. (I quit using spermicide in my diaphragm when I was 23 years old and read on the label that it could cause cancer!) Nail polish and remover are “one of the most insidious routes of solvent exposure and toxicity.” He encourages people to shop ‘green’ and eat organic foods, if they want to stay healthy.

God created our food perfect for us and if we want to avoid cancer, we need to get back to His perfect ways. My sister has just taught me to make sourdough Einkorn bread and it’s how our ancestors used to make bread. It is the superior ancient grain that hasn’t been hybridized, made without yeast (which is bad for you if you have gut problems), and is easily digestible. Yes, it takes a lot more time to make but working hard in the kitchen is a good thing. (I’m going to be making a YouTube video making it soon and it’s definitely a labor of love! The fermentation process predigests the gluten so even those who are gluten intolerant can eat this bread with no problems.) She has also taught me how to make fermented vegetables which are very good for your gut. (Health begins and ends in the gut!) She taught me how to make sardine salad (like tuna salad but much better) that tastes amazing! (Sardines are full of omega 3s and other healthy things, anti-inflammatory, and they aren’t contaminated like the larger fish.)

On my Instagram, I have been using it to teach women how to eat healthy since it’s so important. We all need to eat so why not fix food that is nutritious and great tasting for our family! Let food be our medicine. Work on building a strong immune system since this is what fights off disease. We all have cancer cells in our body but a healthy body can fight them off. Stop eating sugar, processed oils, packaged food, and all of the other health destroying foods and get busy in the kitchen making food that will help your family stay healthier. We do what we can and leave the rest in the Lord’s hands.

What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?
1 Corinthians 6:19

***If you are interested in learning to  eat healthier and the way God intended, Weston A. Price is a great place to begin!

Help Your Husband Be Chaste

Help Your Husband Be Chaste

This post was written by two men who commented on my post Women Withholding Sex From Their Husbands. I believe it’s good to hear how some men struggle who are married to women who routinely deny them sexual intimacy. Please, don’t be one of these wives.

Being a man I will just say that I think this article is very well written AND I will add one big Caveat (especially for women like Brittany who are struggling with a husband who seems disconnected and/or not interested in sex).

CAVEAT:

It’s important to keep in mind that we live in a digital age when and where men can very easily (and literally) take matters into their own hands and turn to pornography and masturbation as a means of satisfying their need. Over time a man can become addicted to pornography and/or masturbation to the point that normal sexual relations with his wife no longer appeals to him the way it did in the beginning. Many men today experience erectile dysfunction (that is more mental than physical) because they have become accustomed to pornography and/or masturbation. I know because it happened to me.

It wasn’t until I quit looking at porn and masturbating that I got back my passion for my wife. Now that I have stopped looking at pornography and stopped masturbating (yes, I am serious) I am dealing with the very problem that this article addresses. I no longer resort to satisfying myself and instead only get relief OCCASIONALLY (sometimes only once a month) when my very distracted wife feels like having sex. That is what led me to this article. I was hoping to find an article that specifically addressed a Christian woman’s responsibility to care for her husband’s sexual drive (which can make it difficult for a man to live a chaste and holy life).

So if you are a Christian woman reading this and you sincerely care about your marriage, please try to help your husband to be chaste by actively seeking to keep him satisfied.

I can tell you from personal experience that it is VERY difficult to remain chaste and faithful when my need is only satisfied once or twice in a month. It was MUCH easier when I was satisfying myself regularly through porn and masturbation (yes, I know that is an oxymoron but at the time I didn’t view porn or masturbation as being unfaithful but now I do).

Now that I have chosen chastity over sin, it is so VERY difficult. I feel constantly in need. My wife has no idea just how difficult it is. How many wives wish they had a chaste husband who NEVER looks at porn or masturbates and just wants to have passionate sex with them every day and night?

I want to be with her constantly and VERY badly but she just isn’t interested. I hope this will be helpful to someone. If your husband isn’t showing an interest, it could simply be that at some point in the past he got tired of not having his sexual needs addressed and took matters into his own hands (literally). If you want to get him back, it will take time and patience and at some point you might even have to openly address whether or not he has turned to taking care of himself and possibly even looking at pornography.

For me, if I wasn’t a devout Catholic I know that I would be handling things for myself on a daily basis but I have come to believe that ANY sex outside of marriage (including sex with myself or my hand) is sinful; it is not what God created me (or my beautiful wife). The ONLY sex that is right before God is sex with my wife. One man and one woman.

I hope and pray that someday she sees an article like this and realizes what I am going through. Until then I will feel this intense need that nags at me constantly, every minute of every day. The enemy knows that I have chosen love for Jesus and my wife over satisfying my flesh and so many temptations come my way but I love Jesus and my wife and kids and will continue this struggle in faith. Hopefully this helps someone.

God Bless.

This comment is from Tiny Tim:

Thank you for this article. As a Christian man married to a Christian wife for whom sex is not important to her, I can speak from experience that you are 100% correct in how you express the effects of a sexless, Christian marriage on the husband. A “good year” for us is only two to three times a year, always at her convenience. I do a mountain of chores around the house and have tried to be a better husband to her in all ways I think of (including the many “list” articles on websites about all the ways men need to act differently), but to no avail.

To make matters worse, I have yet to hear any teaching in the church that puts any responsibility on the wife. We brow beat the husbands to death, with lessons and dire warnings on not straying, not looking at another woman, etc. And that’s great and Biblical, but that’s where it stops. No teaching for the wives on why abandoning the husband is not acceptable. What is a Christian husband to do when the only person that I can look at/enjoy without stepping outside God’s loving boundaries wants nothing to do with me in this regard? I’m starving, and suffering all of the emotional hardships you write about. To be fair, she shows her love in many other wonderful ways, and I appreciate them fully (and tell her so).

Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
1 Corinthians 7:5

Hormones Prove Women are to Be Keepers at Home

Hormones Prove Women are to Be Keepers at Home

Since my pituitary is low or non-functioning, I have had to go on hormone replacement therapy. I have been having good results using bioidentical hormone replacement therapy (like finally sleeping a lot better and not nearly as many hot flashes after fifteen years!), so I joined a couple of groups on Facebook that have women taking these types of hormones. The women kept recommending the book What Your Doctor May Not Tell You About Menopause by Dr. John Lee. (I highly recommend it to all of you no matter what age you are in order to learn how to bear and raise children in a healthy way that supports their hormones and keeps your hormones healthy throughout life.)

I don’t know anything about Dr. Lee but I know that he’s done a lot of research and helped a lot of people. In Chapter 12, I read something that so powerfully supports the notion that men and women are different, along with their roles, because of their hormones! Their physical makeup is designed for women to be AT home and men to work. Working outside of the home, whether married or not, is very unhealthy for women. Read these paragraphs from this chapter and see how marvelously God has created us perfectly for the roles He has called us to fulfill.

In its essence the female body is yin and the male body is yang. Each contains some of the other, but yin predominates for females and  yang predominates for males. Yin is dark and earthy. The yin personality would tend to be nurturing, passive, introverted, calm, intuitive, and soft.

Yang is light and abstract. The yang personality would tend to be active, outgoing, focused, aggressive, logical, and impatient.

Estrogens, the hormones responsible for female sexual development, and progesterone, the progestational, or mothering, hormone, tend to produce yin behavior. Testosterone and DHEA, two of the hormones responsible for male sexual development, tend to produce yang behavior. Although generalizations are always untrue by their very nature, women tend to “default” more on the side of yin behavior and men tend to “default” more on the side of yang behavior.

The environment of raising children naturally favors the yin or female attributes. The business world naturally favors the yang or male attributes. What happens when a woman finds herself spending her days in an environment that’s very yang, as so many working women do these days? To survive and thrive, she is going to minimize her yin aspects and maximize her yang aspects. Her body will pay attention to these signals and respond accordingly.

The stereotype successful woman executive is slim, trim, and muscular – yang. The stereotype mother figure is ample in breasts, hips, and thighs – yin. These differences in roles work fine when a woman’s life is balanced, when she has ample time and energy to develop both sides. But take a woman who is working full-time, has a couple of kids, and a husband who also works and we have a recipe for imbalance and stress. This woman is going to be pulling on her yang attributes at the expense of her yin attributes. She’s likely to be chronically exhausted, always “on,” never taking time for herself. She is constantly forced to push the limits of her endurance to keep up. She rarely has time to spend quiet, nurturing time with her children or herself, not to mention her husband. In an effort just to maintain her lifestyle, her adrenal glands are constantly pumping out hormones meant to be used sparingly for “fight or flight” situations and they eventually become tired, sluggish, and depleted. Her body gets the message that survival is at stake. Blood sugar becomes constantly unstable. Digestion goes awry so she isn’t absorbing nutrients properly. The ovaries respond by shutting down in favor of survival. When her ovaries shut down, progesterone production occurs only at the adrenals, but they aren’t working and she’s not getting enough progesterone because of her poor dietary habits, so she becomes progesterone deficient and estrogen dominant.

The estrogen dominance causes the all-too-familiar signs of fatigue, depression, little or no desire for sex, weight gain, water retention, headaches, and mood swings. By her late 30s and early 40s, she probably has fibrocystic breasts, uterine fibroids, or endometriosis. The estrogen dominance interferes with thyroid function, which increases her fatigue, so she’s cold all the time and she’s gaining more weight…Even without children, women who get on a career track and develop their yang attributes at the expense of their yin attributes are likely to suffer from hormone balance.

He maketh the barren woman to keep house, and to be a joyful mother of children. Praise ye the LORD.
Psalm 113:9

***I am not promoting yin and yang and where these roots come from since I am a believer in Jesus Christ and His ways. I am simply showing you how even the secular world and doctors who study the body and hormones, specifically, come to the same conclusions that the Bible does. The best place for women is in the home! They were not created physically to be out in the workforce.

How are Women the “Weaker Vessel”?

How are Women the “Weaker Vessel”?

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
1 Peter 3:7

“I heard a sermon by this pastor in which he discusses the original Greek text found in 1 Peter 3:7. He explains that the concept of female ‘weakness’ that Peter talks of is not some innate, biological lack of strength. Rather, it is a role of gentle submission that Christian women choose to adopt because they recognize that there cannot be two alpha leaders in a successful partnership. The ability to embrace this kind of ‘weakness’ demonstrates great strength of mind and spirit and speaks volumes about Christian women’s insight and character,” wrote a woman on Matt Walsh’s post about marriage.

 This sounds like a beautiful description of what a weaker vessel means but is it true? Do most Christian women “choose to adopt” the role of gentle submission? Do they readily recognize that there can’t be two alpha leaders in a marriage? (Is marriage ever referred to as a “successful partnership” in the Word?) Yes, choosing to live in submission demonstrates great strength of mind and spirit but does this have anything to do with women being a weaker vessel and not to “some innate, biological lack of strength” as this woman claims? I believe women being the “weaker vessel” is exactly what it states. Women are absolutely weaker physically than men.

Let’s check out what the commentaries of old have to say. Did they believe the “weaker vessel” means that women desire to have a gentle, submissive spirit naturally or does it mean something else?

 “The thing which the husband is specially to understand and take into account is that he is dealing with a thing less strong than himself. The whole of chivalry is in these words, and St. Peter (next after Christ) may be considered the founder of it…The weakness here ascribed to the female sex is primarily that of the body, as we shall see when we consider the word ‘vessel,’ though it may, perhaps, indicate frailty in other respects as well. If the word ‘vessel’ is to be here a description of a ‘wife,’ as some contend on 1 Thessalonians 4:4, in a sense in which it does not equally describe a husband, it is difficult to see with what the vessel is compared and pronounced weaker. ‘Dwell with the female as with a more delicate vessel or instrument’ than what? If we answer ‘than yourselves,’ it becomes clear that the husbands are, by implication, less delicate vessels.” (Ellicot’s Commentary)

Yes, men are absolutely less delicate vessels than women. Men are taller and bigger than women in general. This is why there are separate male and female sports. This is why men are the ones who build everything like skyscrapers, freeways, bridges, and houses and are the electricians, plumbers, and mechanics. For people to not admit this is being ignorant of what is plainly obvious.

“Here ‘the weaker’; being so for the most part, both as to strength of body, and endowments of mind; and therefore to be used gently and tenderly, and not be treated with neglect and contempt, or with inhumanity and severity; but as, in every state and condition, the strong are to bear the infirmities of the weak; so a man should bear with, and accommodate himself to the infirmities of his wife, and hide them as much as he can, and not expose them, nor despise her on account of them.” (Gill’s Exposition)

Here again, we have a commentary explaining that the “weaker vessel” does indeed refer to her “innate, biological lack of strength.” In past generations, I am sure everyone knew that this meant that women were weaker physically than men. It’s easily seen all over the place, yet in today’s feminized culture, they have changed it to mean something that it is not. NO, most Christian women do not adopt the role of the gentle submission to their husbands willingly. This is foreign and repulsive to them since most desire to control their husbands!

“By this it is not necessarily meant that she is of feebler capacity, or inferior mental endowments, but that she is more tender and delicate; more subject to infirmities and weaknesses; less capable of enduring fatigue and toil; less adapted to the rough and stormy scenes of life. As such, she should be regarded and treated with special kindness and attention. This is a reason, the force of which all can see and appreciate. So we feel toward a sister; so we feel toward a beloved child, if he is of feeble frame and delicate constitution; and so every man should feel in relation to his wife. She may have mental endowments equal to his own; she may have moral qualities in every way superior to his; but the God of nature has made her with a more delicate frame, a more fragile structure, and with a body subject to many infirmities to which the more hardy frame of man is a stranger.” (Barnes’ Notes on the Bible)

In the Bible, only those men who were 21 years and older were sent off to war. Men are the ones who were created by God to be the protectors of society, not women. Women in general tire much more easily than men and they are simply not as tough physically as men due to muscle mass and women are not as tough emotionally. Here is a secular article that lists all of the ways men differ from women. Some of them are:

Men and women don’t see in the same way (their retinas are different),

Female babies like faces, male babies like moving objects (there’s a difference in babies!),

Females can verbally express their emotions better than males (duh),

Boys naturally use movement to think (this is why sitting in chairs all day long in school is HORRIBLE for boys),

Boys are more likely to take risks (this is why they were specifically created to be the protectors of societies),

Females are easier to startle (yep!),

Males are more likely to die from an accident than females (yes, because they are the risk takers),

Males are more likely to exhibit aggression physically while females are more likely to exhibit aggression verbally (completely correct!),

Men are easier to sexually arouse than women (really?),

Men are more motivated by sex than women (this is why women withhold sex against men in punishment), and

Men pursue, women are pursued (just the way it’s supposed to be).

Even in the animal kingdom, males are bigger and stronger than the females. God made men with ten times the testosterone for a reason and He made women with progesterone and estrogen to have and nurture children. We are different. No, we’re not equal (in value and worth, yes, but not in anything else) and it’s perfect since God’s ways are perfect. Let the men fight the wars, fires, and bad guys. I liked it a lot more when it was only men in these roles because it is their God-ordained roles, not women’s.

So all the numbered men of the sons of Israel by their fathers’ households, from twenty years old and upward, whoever was able to go out to war in Israel.
Numbers 1:45

The Fear of Being Shot in Church

The Fear of Being Shot in Church

As believers in Jesus Christ, we are promised that we will suffer persecution. The evil in the world is controlled by the prince of the power of the air (Satan) so evil will continue until Christ’s return. We must remember that everything on this earth is a spiritual battle being waged in the heavenlies (Ephesians 6:12), as we hear of the tragedies that are going on around us. One woman in the chat room shared her experience with us of a time she easily could have been a victim of a mass shooting. Here is her story:

Friends, I know that with the church shooting, many are experiencing fear and apprehension that such a thing could happen. Mentally, we know God is sovereign and in control, but we still experience worry for our families and ourselves. Could this happen to us? I wanted to tell you my story, not to sensationalize, but to testify to God’s faithfulness to his promises. (Warning, it may be upsetting to some.)

During my senior year of nursing school, I was sitting in class taking mid-terms when a classmate came in and began shooting. This was fifteen years ago when the only school shooting had been Columbine. No one knew what was happening and it took a while for us to realize. He shot one professor immediately. Our second professor was very vocal about her Christian faith. (She would always end her lectures telling us that she couldn’t talk about it in class, but if we ever wanted someone to talk to about where she found hope or someone to pray for us,to call or visit her any time after class.)

My classmate then turned, pointed the gun at her and asked, “Where is your God now?” She answered boldly, “Whether I live or die, does not change that God is right here, right now.” He then killed her and turned the gun on the class.

Countless times in scripture God tells us, “Do not be afraid.” I want to tell you that He is faithful to His promises. Hiding under the table that morning I knew I was going to die, but the most amazing thing happened, I felt no fear. There was only peace. I remember being sad about how upset my parents would be, but also at peace that God would take care of them.

The most real and authentic prayer of my life was also going to be my last. It was: “Lord, here I come.” I had grown up in the church and youth group and up until that point had trouble believing if it was all real or just what my parents told me. In that moment, I knew without any doubt that God was real and He was present.

I believe the Sovereign hand of God then restrained the shooter, and he let the rest of us go. Just before the shooting he had sent his “manifesto” to the newspaper in which he told of his plans to kill the entire class. Police said that he had enough arms and ammunition to do it. It doesn’t matter what man may plan, nothing is outside of the Plan of God.

At the second professor’s funeral, the gospel was presented and many received Christ because of her faithfulness to her Savior. When seen from an eternal perspective, she lost what she could not keep, so that others might gain what they could not lose. As for me, that day proved the existence of God and His love.

We all know that when we accept Christ we are no longer our own and are to live for God. Since then, I must constantly evaluate, since God spared my life that day, what am I doing with it for Him and His Kingdom?

I write this to you, friends, to remind you that although the news and world is scary, we serve a God that is bigger than all this. And if the God we serve tells us, “Do not be afraid” and “I will never leave you or forsake you,” we can rest assured that He is faithful to His promises.

Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.
Psalm 23:4 

Marriage Keeps Families From Poverty

Marriage Keeps Families From Poverty

The joke is on feminism. We’ve been brainwashed to believe that women NEED higher education even if it means going deeply into debt. They NEED careers for all of the “what ifs…?” So now that many women have received higher education and careers, how is the state of our country? Is there far less poverty due to feminism’s influence upon women? NO! Everything feminism has taught is a big, fat lie!

In an article written by Glenn Stanton in The Federalist, Mr. Stanton wrote,

“Professor Bill Galston, President Clinton’s domestic policy advisor and now a senior fellow at Brookings, explained in the early 1990s that an American need only do three things to avoid living in poverty: graduate from high school, marry before having a child, and have that child after age twenty. Only 8 percent of people who do so, he reported, will be poor, while 79 percent who fail to do all three will. Sociologists have referred to keeping these things in proper order as the ‘success sequence.'”

Imagine that! The best chance people have of avoiding living in poverty is by graduating from high school, getting married, and having children, according to the latest research! Therefore, women don’t NEED to be taught to pursue debt-producing educations and careers, if it’s not what they want. Christian women need to learn to have meek and quiet spirits, be chaste, discreet, sober, good, and learn to be good homemakers. This will make their chances of getting married and having children much higher since most men are attracted to these types of women than they are to feminists. Women of godly character build up society, whereas feminism has degraded society.

“A consistent and irrefutable mountain of research has shown, reaching back to the 1970s and beyond, that marriage strongly boosts every important measure of well-being for children, women, and men. Pick any measure you can imagine: overall physical and mental health, income, savings, employment, educational success, general life contentment and happiness, sexual satisfaction, even recovery from serious disease, healthy diet and exercise. Married people rate markedly and consistently better in each of these, and so many more, compared to their single, divorced, and cohabiting peers. Thus, marriage is an essential active ingredient in improving one’s overall life prospects, regardless of class, race, or educational status.”

Should any of this surprise us? God created marriage and He called it good. He created Eve to be Adam’s help meet. Men need a help meet. They don’t want a competitor; they want a wife. The best wife is one who takes good care of her husband, children, and home. No, higher education degree or career makes women better at any of these. God’s recipe for younger women is to “I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully” (1 Timothy 5:14) so we shouldn’t be surprised that this is the healthiest way to live in every single aspect of life!

Marriage generates wealth largely because marriage molds men into producers, providers, and savers. Singleness and cohabiting don’t. Nobel-winning economist George Akerlof, in a prominent lecture more than a decade ago, explained the pro-social and market influence of marriage upon men and fathers: ‘Married men are more attached to the labor force, they have less substance abuse, they commit less crime, are less likely to become the victims of crime, have better health, and are less accident prone.’”

Dennis Prager has frequently said on his radio program that the quickest way to mature men is for them to get married and have children. If they are married to a godly, submissive wife, the chances for them to become great men is even much greater since women are huge influences on men for good or bad; Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands (Proverbs 14:1).

“Working for healthy, well-formed, enduring marriages is one of the most effective ways we can do the work of social justice. That the effort is not hip and trendy has no bearing on its ability to change lives for the better. Decades of research and the lives of real people make the case over and again every day, for good or for bad. Let’s resolve as a nation to choose and work for the good and halt the ever widening chasm of class.”

I have noticed that many Christians these days have a big concern for “social justice.” If social justice means how many define it, it is wrong since it leads to socialism and communism and is accomplished through the government’s redistribution of wealth. This has failed every place it has been tried since it discourages hard work but it’s being taught in the universities so the younger generations are falling for it hook, line, and sinker. There is no wisdom being taught there.

If social justice means individuals helping the poor and needy and speaking out against abortion and other evils, then it is good since this is what Christians are called to do but the greatest social problem our country currently is experiencing is from the breakdown of the family.

When families are healthy and intact, cultures are strong since families are the building blocks of cultures. Feminism has broken down these blocks and unless the family becomes healthier, our nations chance of recovery is slim. As they have thrown Christ and His ways out of everything, everything begins to crumble.

Feminism: Not One Biblical Accomplishment

Feminism: Not One Biblical Accomplishment

Feminism hasn’t accomplished one thing that is biblical, not one. The right for women to vote isn’t biblical. God created men to be the leaders and as soon as women began to vote, they began to promote the idea that women knew better than men and that they could lead better than men. Feminism began the worship of women and hatred of men.

Feminism promoted birth control and abortion. God calls children gifts and blessings. He wants us to be fruitful and multiply. Now, most Christians even have no problem using birth control and only having a few children. Since feminism, children have become a hindrance and inconvenience. Many women value their careers and “me time” over having precious children and being home full time to raise them in the Lord.

Feminism has promoted women speaking in the church. God commands that women be silent in the church and even states that it’s a shame for women to speak in the church (1 Corinthians 14:35). Now, we have all these women “preachers” who travel around and have no problem being shameful and speaking in the churches. There are now women song leaders who have no problem praying and having mini sermons between songs. Why do women have to give announcements when men could do it just as easily? Feminism. No, women are no longer silent in the churches.

Feminism has promoted divorce and attacked marriage and the traditional family. If a woman isn’t “happy” she can divorce her husband and try to find a man that will make her happy. Unfortunately, she takes herself with her. Happiness is a choice. It doesn’t come from someone else or our circumstances.  

Feminism has promoted broken families and broken children. Women insisted on leaving their homes and their children in the care of others so they could “pursue their passions” and have left insecure and emotionally unstable children in their path.

Feminism promoted immodesty and affairs. It turned women into sex objects as they burned their bras, fled their homes, and worked among men all day long in submission to men who were not their husbands.

Feminism has promoted ill-health and a fast food nation. Women are too busy pursuing what they want and have no desire to work hard in their kitchens making nutritious food for their families. Everything is for convenience sake now and not for what’s best. More children are overweight than ever before. They are getting diseases that used to be found only in adults.

Feminism has promoted women in high places. Women are now governors, mayors, senators, and CEOs and many of them are leaving their children in the care of strangers. God made men in all of the high places. He made them the kings, priests, prophets, patriarchs, disciples, elders, and deacons. God created men to be the leaders of nations, churches, and families, not women!

I am reading a book about menopause and hormone replacement and the author, Dr. John Lee, shares why he believed that hormone replacement became popular in the late 1950s. “The burgeoning awareness in American industry that the media could be easily manipulated to push their products took place in a cultural milieu that placed an emphasis on the nuclear family, with the father out earning a living and the mother at home with a baby on her hip and a batch of cookies in the oven…Women were thought to be at their best pleasing their husbands sexually and raising healthy, happy children.”

Yes, this is how life was for most women back then. If instead of being taught discontentment by feminism in this important role, do you not think most women would have stayed content at home if they were taught it was the best and healthiest place for them to be for their families and were not given feminist options that promised women “freedom” from the shackles of marriage, children, and the home? True freedom is only found in Christ and His ways.

Can you honestly say that women are more happy today divorced, single, raising children on their own, working for hours every day outside of their home, having abortions that cause mental anguish, taking birth control that messes up their bodies, eating fast food on the run, listening to lukewarm female preachers, and having more health problems and more depressed than ever before?

Thus saith the LORD, Stand ye in the ways, and see, and ask for the old paths, where is the good way, and walk therein, and ye shall find rest for your souls. But they said, We will not walk therein.
Jeremiah 6:16

Building Up or Tearing Down Our Homes

Building Up or Tearing Down Our Homes

Every wise woman builds her house: but the foolish plucks it down with her hands.
Proverbs 14:1

(Gill’s Exposition of the Entire Bible interpretation of this verse with my additions in parenthesis.)

Every wise woman buildeth her house,…. Not only by her fruitfulness, as Leah and Rachel built up the house of Israel (by bearing and raising children); but by her good housewifery (keeping their homes clean and tidy), prudent economy (spending their husband’s money carefully); looking well to the ways of her household (making sure everyone is well-fed, well-clothed, and well-loved); guiding the affairs of her house with discretion (she shows the love of Christ to all who live in and visit her home and she makes sure no evil enters into her home so it will not be defiled); keeping all things in a good decorum (taking good care of what her family owns so that it lasts a long time); and bringing up her children in virtue, and in the fear and admonition of the Lord (reading the Word to them, having them memorize scripture, and teaching them continually about the ways of the Lord).

…but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands; the Vulgate Latin version adds, “being built”; this she does by her idleness and laziness (entertaining herself instead of keeping a clean and tidy home); by her lavish and profuse way of living (spending more than her husband earns); by her negligence and want of economy (wasteful and not careful with what her family owns); by her frequenting playhouses, and attention to other diversions (constantly on her iPhone, the Internet, or watching TV); and so her family and the affairs of it go to wreck and ruin.

So likewise all false teachers do as this foolish woman does, by their impure lives and impious doctrines, defile the temple of God, subvert the faith of many; by means of whom the tabernacle of David, or house of God, is fallen down; the ruins and breaches of which Christ will repair in the latter day.

Examine yourselves, whether ye be in the faith; prove your own selves. Know ye not your own selves, how that Jesus Christ is in you, except ye be reprobates?
2 Corinthians 13:5

“The home is powerful. If it were not an important institution, the enemies of God and of man would leave it alone. The people who control the home control the future, parents are the first representatives of God on earth, within the home is the hope of morality”. (Fr. Daniel A. Lord)

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