Founders of Feminism Had Reprobate Minds

Founders of Feminism Had Reprobate Minds

Christian women are floundering today. They have no idea what they are supposed to do with their lives? Should they work after having children or be home full time? But if they don’t work outside of the home, they will probably get bored and won’t make any money so they will feel useless. Oh, what should they do?

Mark Taspon did an interview with Mallory Millet who is the sister of Kate Millet. Kate is one of the founders of the second wave of feminism. Mallory admits that Kate was mentally ill and was a terror to live with. “I was with them at that table as they founded the Women’s Movement and NOW. The entire stated point of their activities was to destroy the American family and with that, Western Civilization. Is this not crazy? They were tooth-grittingly determined.

“They were driven by destruction and deeply violent impulses toward men and the patriarchy. Their goal? To establish a matriarchy in order to end all war because that’s what men do, wage war. They believed that if women ran everything there would be no more war. In their madness they have conspired to destroy masculinity, drugging our little boys while trying to remake them into little girls and thus, emboldening our enemies who now see us as easy pickings. No nation is easier to overwhelm than one which has feminized the men and put females at the head of the tribe. Matriarchies never survive – never have, never will!”

God tells us that those who “hold the truth in unrighteousness” (they know the truth but rebel against it) are given over to a reprobate mind (Romans 1). Reprobate means “a person abandoned to sin; one lost to virtue and religion.” This completely describes the founders of feminism since they were against all of God’s beautiful ways and they deceived women, even Christian women, into believing that leaving their homes all day and their children in the care of others is best.

“And for this cause God shall send them strong delusion, that they should believe a lie: That they all might be damned who believed not the truth, but had pleasure in unrighteousness” (2 Thessalonians 2:11, 12).

Instead of following culture and the lies of the mentally ill, young women should consider this when making life decisions:“If all mothers based their choices on whether to return to work by asking the questions, ‘What does the Bible say?’ and ‘What is best for my child spiritually?’ different choices would be made” (Judy Turner). What does the Bible say? It commands young women to love their children and be keepers at home. What is best for their children spiritually? To train them up in the ways of the Lord and hide God’s Word deeply in their hearts when they rise up, walk along the way, and go to bed.

Christian women need to wake up and understand that they need to stop following women who had and have reprobate minds and begin following Jesus and His ways instead. Our culture is a mess and it’s because women have left their God-ordained roles at home and pursued their own selfish gain at the expense of their children.

For those who want to give me all of the exceptions and “what ifs…,” gain some wisdom from Nancy Campbell: “Are we going to base our lives on what ‘might happen’ and be tortured by the ‘sound of fears,’ or are we going to trust in God, who is sure, steadfast, and able to deliver us in any situation?” He tells us that His commands are not burdensome and He is our provider.

From the article above (which I encourage you to read): “My thesis is this: when men ran the world and women ran society we had a chance to conduct our lives in some semblance of balance, but women have abdicated their running of society and thus, it has collapsed dramatically. Women forced their way into the running-the-world deal and now we have a world gone mad. And the beautiful society which we Western women built is in tatters. Moms decided they were the same as men so they deserted the home and babies to grab their briefcases and rush out to run the world.”

Let this not be said of us, women. Go back to the ancient paths, the perfect paths, that God created for you and find rest for your souls which many refuse to walk on.

Thus saith the LORD, Stand ye in the ways, and see, and ask for the old paths, where is the good way, and walk therein, and ye shall find rest for your souls. But they said, We will not walk therein.
Jeremiah 6:16

Grandmothers Need to Be Keepers at Home

Grandmothers Need to Be Keepers at Home

Older women are told to teach young women to be keepers at home but what about grandmothers? Are they to be keepers at home? Here is how God’s Word defines the role of older women:

The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women…(Titus 2:3, 4).

Well reported of for good works; if she have brought up children, if she have lodged strangers, if she have washed the saints’ feet, if she have relieved the afflicted, if she have diligently followed every good work (1 Timothy 5:10).

I don’t see anything about having careers or living as one pleases or for pleasure in these verses. Yet many older women go back to careers once their children are raised, go on vacations, and keep themselves doing things they want to do instead of what God has instructed them to do.

In the dim and distant past
When life’s tempo wasn’t fast
Grandma used to rock and knit
Crochet tat and baby-sit

When the kids were in a jam
They could always count on Gram
In the age of gracious living
Grandma was the gal for giving

Grandma now is in the gym
Exercising to keep slim
She’s out touring with the bunch
Taking clients out to lunch

Driving north to ski or curl
All her days are in a whirl
Nothing seems to stop or block her
Now that Grandma’s off her rocker

– Anonymous

Right after my children were born, my mother came and lived with us for two weeks. She did this for my sisters, too. When I was so sick all of those years, she was the first one at my home to help in any way she could. My first baby had colic so when I was overwhelmed, I would go to my mom’s home and she would take over walking and rocking the baby. She’s always been there for us and this is the way it should be. I have been blessed and am thankful for a mother like her.

My youngest daughter just had that cute baby in the picture. The day she was in labor, I was on a plane to go take care of her and her family. She has a toddler and a busy husband. I cooked, cleaned, rocked, shopped, babysat, and did whatever she needed from me. I wasn’t able to do this with her last one because I was so ill but it’s a huge blessing that I felt well enough to go this time. Her life would have been much more difficult if I wasn’t there to help.

My older son and his family live near us. We babysit their three children whenever they need us. They went on a week-long trip and we watched their children. When they are sick, I will cook them meals, help clean, or even bring the children to my home so my son and his wife can have time to get well.

This is God’s intended purpose for older women and many young women are suffering because their mothers and/or older women aren’t available to help them. Yes, grandmothers need to be keepers at home, too.

For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another.
Galatians 5:13

Desires and Passions Well Regulated

Desires and Passions Well Regulated

Young women’s desires and passions are not well regulated these days. Whatever they “feel” like doing, they do and they are  easily led by their emotions. I had one woman comment on Trey’s homemaking post and she wrote this, “I hate the man who wrote this. I do as I please.” I wrote back, “You act like a child. Were you not taught to not hate others you disagreed with? Were you not taught that the world doesn’t revolve around you and you can’t always do as you please?” She deleted her comment but this was her gut reaction to reading someone’s words she disagreed with.

Many places in the New Covenant, we are told to be sober which is the opposite of being ruled by our desires and passions as was this woman. It doesn’t just mean to be sober-minded (which I will come back to) but also to not be filled with alcohol. Older women are told to not be “given to much wine” and teach younger women to be “sober.”

Whether or not Christians should drink alcohol has been debated for hundreds of years so I am just going to give my opinion as I see from reading the Bible. Jesus was not against drinking wine since His first miracle was to change water into wine. Wine was also used to symbolize Christ’s blood during the Passover supper. However, we do have some guidelines in how we are to drink it.

Paul writes that we can drink A LITTLE for our stomach’s sake. Drink no longer water, but use a little wine for thy stomach’s sake and thine often infirmities (1 Timothy 5:23). Older women are told to NOT DRINK MUCH wine. The aged women likewise, that [they be] in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things (Titus 2:3).

In describing elders in the church, the Bible states they are NOT to be given to wine (I Timothy 3:3) while deacons are not to be given to much wine (1 Timothy 3:8). Older men are commanded to be sober (Titus 2:2). In 1 Timothy 3:11, Paul commands wives to be sober. God intends for His people who are called by His name to be sober in everything!

From Barnes’ Notes commentary, we learn that “sober” means “instruct them to have their desires and passions well regulated, or under proper control.” This includes all desires and passions. We should be known as women having self-control in word, deed, and actions, and doing what is according to godliness, not responding from our desires and passion.

The following question was asked to the women in the chat room and not one of them said they were offended by it since they are women who have soft, teachable hearts to the ways of the Lord and are sober-minded: “When I hear godly preachers/teacher exhort us to work hard, keep our home as neat as a pin, declutter, live simply within our means, be content, be thankful, obey our husband, don’t overeat, only drink a little or no alcohol, discipline our body towards godliness, spend time with our children, etc. it has always challenged and convicted me and I love it! So many women are offended by many of these things, however. Are you?”

Matthew Poole in his commentary wrote this about being sober: “Young women, especially conversing amongst heathens, are prone to be light and airy, and over frolicsome, following the heat of their youthful temper, and forming their converse after the manner of others; which is a behaviour, though it may suit their youth, yet if they be Christians it will not suit their profession, which calls to them for more gravity: speak to them that are aged to mind to be sober.”

Wow! We sure see this today, don’t we? Many women follow the heat of their youthful temper and have never learned to keep their passions and desires under control. The culture defines their behavior instead of godliness and the ways of the Lord. They have not left their childish ways behind. “When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things” (1 Corinthians 13:11).

 Mothers, do you know how much easier you make it for your children when you are careful and consistent in the discipline of your children? If you discipline and train them as children, they will most likely grow up to be disciplined adults who have control over their desires and passions and are sober in everything. This not only benefits their future family but culture, too.

That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children.
Titus 2:4

Destroying a Marriage Over Housework

Destroying a Marriage Over Housework

My post that has gone viral numerous times has been shocking to some of my friends and relatives considering some of the other more controversial things I have written. It’s on homemaking, for goodness sake! Women today have no clue that they were created to be their husband’s help meet and work hard serving them as keepers at home. No, the blurring of roles and the desire to be served instead of serve is as destructive upon marriage as anything else, in my opinion.

One woman shared an article with me that was written by a wife who made it clear that she was NOT going to pick or clean up after her husband. She admitted he was tired when he came home wearing scrubs so he probably was in the medical field and had a demanding job but this doesn’t matter to many women today. No, women are taught that men are supposed to help with the housework and if they don’t, they find another man. Since women have decided to take on men’s job of providing, they decided that men should take on their job of being keepers at home without men’s consent. This feminist mindset is terribly destructive since it causes discontentment and bitterness to settle in which defiles many, according to the Word of God.

The article I am referring to is called I Married a Man Whose Mother Did Everything For Him, And I Called It Out to Save Our Marriage. Yes, women, she believes that forcing your husband to clean up after himself is something you must do if you want to stay married. This is so far removed from what the Lord has called us to do if we are a believer in Jesus Christ; for the greatest of all is the servant of all.

If our Lord and Savior can get down on His knees and wash all twelve of His disciples dirty feet (yes, even the one who He knew would betray Him) and then be crucified to pay the penalty for our sin so that we can have eternal life with Him, we can certainly clean and pick up after our husband. You know, the man that you were specifically created by God to be his help meet. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man (1 Corinthians 11:9). There is no such thing as a wasted life for one who lives to serve others.

I used to be like this woman and I was unhappy. I allowed my husband’s behavior to control my mood. I was not servant-hearted but selfish and wanted my own way. It’s not a happy way to live. No, it’s a much better way to live serving others and making their lives as good as you can. It’s not thinking about ourselves more, but thinking about ourselves less. Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves (Philippians 2:3).

God created us to be the keepers at home (working hard at home) and the men to be the providers. When we follow these roles from the Lord, there is peace. If you have a husband who works hard to provide for you, take care of him at home as unto the Lord. We were created to work hard and do it unto the Lord. Pick and clean up after him heartily as unto the Lord. Don’t make him do housework unless he wants to do it. This is your responsibility and if you are physically able, take it seriously. Teach your daughters to delight in doing housework, cooking, and serving others as unto the Lord. Their future husbands will appreciate you!

She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Proverbs 31:27

Do Your Children Rule Your Home?

Do Your Children Rule Your Home?

People considered us strict parents. Our children did not rule our home. We did. They weren’t allowed to do whatever they wanted. They ate what I gave them: nourishing food. If they were “hungry” as children are continually saying, they could only have something simple like a piece of fruit or nothing at all until meal time. Allowing them to eat whenever they want isn’t teaching them any self-control.

If you don’t teach them self-control, they will struggle with it when they grow up and will want to eat every single time they feel a hunger pain. It is not good to snack all the time since it’s a difficult habit to break when they get older. Many children are obese today because of this. Mothers are the ones who should keep an eye on this and feed their children healthy and develop taste buds for this; another good reason for mothers to be keepers at home. If they are taught to grab for something nutritious when they are hungry, it will be beneficial for them when they grow up. Mothers should be the ones who train their children’s taste buds, not the children.

My children would have loved watching a lot of TV, but I didn’t allow them to waste much time doing this. I wanted them to play outside as much as possible and be creative in their play. We didn’t have a lot of toys or things to keep them entertained but they always found ways to have fun. Parents need to be very vigilant about this with all of the technology there is today that are big time wasters and are not good for them.

Don’t allow your children to tell you they are bored. If they tell you this, give them chores to do. They will quickly learn to never say this again. Children don’t need to be entertained constantly. Being “busy” is not a badge of honor as our culture has defined the word, especially since most of the busyness is spent on things that are not beneficial to spiritual, mental, or physical development.

Teach your children to be hard workers. They must have chores and help around the home and/or yard. Work is good for them and something that will benefit them for life. It is good for their mind and body. Too many children have been not taught to be hard workers, probably because their mothers were not home full time with them to teach them.

After you tell them to do something, check it to make sure they did it correctly. This is called training them. Train them to do something correctly the first time and be proud of work well done. Don’t allow them to be lazy and do things in a half-hearted way. No boss will appreciate this when your sons grow up and no husband will appreciate this when your daughters grow up.

John Piper taught, “Parents who do not teach their children to obey God’s appointed authorities prepare them for a life out of step with God’s word — a life out of step with the very gospel they desire to emphasize.” Our job as parents is to break our children’s stubborn, rebellious, and sinful will and replace it with a will that first wants to please and obey their parents and when they grow older with a will that wants to please and obey the Lord.

You are teaching your children to control their fleshly desires so that when they grow up and are walking in Truth, they will easily be able to walk in Spirit, not giving into the desires of the flesh. We are commanded to “cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God” (2 Corinthians 7:1). It is a whole lot easier for people to be able to do this is if they were taught as a child to hate what is evil and not of the Lord but instead cling to what is good and walk in obedience to the Lord.

One purpose of marriage is to raise up godly offspring (Malachi 2:15). Your job, mothers, is to raise up godly offspring. Do everything you can to make this easier for your children. Never neglect teaching them about the Lord all throughout the day. Your children will rise up and call you blessed if you do this.

You shall teach them diligently to your children,
and shall talk of them when you sit in your house,
and when you walk by the way,
and when you lie down, and when you rise.

Deuteronomy 6:7

Making a Name for Ourselves in Cyberspace

Making a Name for Ourselves in Cyberspace

There are many young “Christian” women bloggers these days who have huge followings. They write books and speak at conferences even though they are married and have children. Is this what God has called them to do? No, God has called them first and foremost to be a help meet to their husbands and then a mother to their children and finally, a keeper at home.

It’s heady stuff having a lot of people reading what you’re writing. Yes, I have a taste of it but I have to be so careful to not allow it to consume me, even though my children are all grown up and it’s only my husband and me at home now. I still need to make sure I am a help meet to my husband and a keeper at home along with being a grandmother who is available to my grandchildren and daughter to my aging parents. I am thankful that I didn’t have this cyberspace ministry opportunity when I had children in the home because it is very time consuming.

My husband often reads what I write, comments, takes any emails or comments from men, and has even written some posts. He, at any time, can tell me to take down a post or change comments and I will but he gives me the freedom to write what I write and study. He knows that I am instructed to teach young women biblical womanhood according to Titus 2:3-5 and is thankful for the ministry the Lord has blessed me with. Every morning during our devotions, he prays over me and my ministry. God has given this ministry to the “aged women” for a reason. Everything the Lord does is for a good reason.

Denise Sproul  in her book Tending Your Garden had some very good words for women who are finding ministries apart from their husbands.

It sort of helps to see the foolishness of wives seeking their own glory and identity when you imagine the church, as the bride of Christ, trying to do the same thing. How absurd! What identity would the church have on its own without the Bridegroom? Silly, isn’t it, when woman is already joined to a man and blessed because of it that she would seek to loose herself and try to do her own thing and be admired for it.

Our “glory” as women, like the church, is wrapped up not in making a name for ourselves, but making a name for our husbands under Christ. Our identity should be in him and Him…am I acting in such a way them my husband can trust me? Am I doing him good and not harm all the days of his life? Is my husband known in the gates and does he sit among the elders of the land?

Consider the temptation for women to seek their own identities and followings on the Internet. It seems that many women attempt to make a platform for themselves and their own teaching which is quite separate from assisting their husbands in their callings. Aside from the myriad problems of setting oneself up as a teacher of others, under no ecclesiastical authority to do so (which is certainly not something only grabbed by women), it boggles the mind to think of the time these women devote to their blogs, websites, and commenting on other sites.

It is necessary for women to fight the temptation to want to make a name for themselves, even if it is only in cyberspace. And women should be very careful not to justify the time and energy they spend in such pursuits by saying that they are just helping their husband and doing so under his authority. Those women who truly are doing that are out there, but they are few and far between.

Mothers, your work in the home with your husband and children is invaluable. You are doing a great work so don’t be tempted to leave (even emotionally and mentally through cyberspace) this God-ordained work in pursuit of name recognition, fame, and/or money even if you think it is your “calling.” Nothing is more important than the work you do within the home for your family.

And I sent messengers unto them, saying, I am doing a great work, so that I cannot come down: why should the work cease, whilst I leave it, and come down to you?
Nehemiah 6:3

Thanking God for Simple Pleasures

Thanking God for Simple Pleasures

I love my life.

I really do.

What I love most may seem boring to many, and possibly absurd to others. But still, I love everything the Lord has given me—especially the simple, daily pleasures many miss because we think we deserve any good we receive.

I love sunny days because they remind me of the warmth and awesomeness of God’s grace; His face that cannot be seen by any human lest we be destroyed. I love cloudy days because they remind me of the cool covering and gentle relief of God’s mercy.

I love that though my body is severely broken, weak, and in constant pain, my Father gives me the strength to get out of bed. And if that weren’t good enough (which it is), because my Father is so generous in His love toward me because of Christ, I get to do other “ordinary” tasks. I get to wash laundry for my household. I get to fold clothes and put them away. I get to hem tears and sew buttons. I get to be a diligent keeper of my home with weekly dusting, sanitizing, toilet bowl cleaning, and so much more. I get to seasonally plant beautiful and aromatic flowers in my front yard to display the beauty of God’s creation to all who pass by. And if the Lord provides opportunities, share the  Gospel with all who linger. I get to decorate my home, simply and comfortably so that all who enter, sense God’s peace abides here. I get to plan weekly menus, learn about different foods, herbs, and spices and their nutritious values so I can shop wisely to ensure my family is enjoying healthy and delicious food, while remaining a good steward of all that God has given us. I get to cook for my family and precious brothers and sisters in the Lord whom I deeply love and enjoy serving.

This may all seem dull and mundane to many, but I’m so enthralled with the awesome work of God that enables me to do all these things—they are quite exciting and joyous to my soul. Proverbs 27:7 and Matthew 6:33 are true. When you’re hungry for the holiness and goodness of God to be displayed in your life, you’re consumed with honoring and pleasing Him above all else. And this makes even the bitter things in this life…sweet. But when I have my moments (and I do); when selfishness creeps into every crevice of my heart and mind, because I’m full of myself, I loathe and complain about any kindness shown to me.

This is why I love that God grants me a multitude of opportunities daily, to demonstrate my immense gratitude to Him for giving me His Son, by serving and loving others in accordance with His Word. I love that I have this great freedom in Christ because I’ve been set free from the bondage of my sinful flesh. I no longer have to seek my own good, because I trust in His steadfast love and faithfulness to give me far better than I deserve. I trust my Father to discipline me when I stray, to rebuke me in my rebellion, and to grant me forgiveness and mercy in my repentance. I trust my Lord to bless me with His pleasure as I seek His face and to exalt His name rather seek and exalt my own. Oh what joy! Oh what incomprehensible bliss it is to know Christ and be known by Him!

Though it is nice when people are kind to me, thoughtful of my pitiful plight, and refresh my soul with altruistic fellowship; my daily joy and happiness does not depend them or my circumstances. The fullness of my contentment is solely dependent upon the Son of God who loved me and gave Himself for me.

As every man hath received the gift, even so minister the same one to another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God. If any man speak, let him speak as the oracles of God; if any man minister, let him do it as of the ability which God giveth: that God in all things may be glorified through Jesus Christ, to whom be praise and dominion for ever and ever. Amen.
1 Peter 4:10, 11

Frying Our Brains

Frying Our Brains

From David Murray on Revive Our Hearts Radio

Well, I’ll sum it up very briefly . . . it (technology) is killing us. I can expand on that if you want. I love technology—I’m a technophile—I just love it! But, and it’s not just Christians saying this, it’s a very broad range of secular opinion, from a sociological viewpoint, educational viewpoint, health viewpoint.

We’re seeing, increasingly, the digital revolution is changing us in detrimental ways. It’s damaging us, and I think even out of self-interest—never mind spiritual interest at the moment—but even out of self-interest, I truly believe that the young people, the millennials, that are able to get their technology under control and develop a disciplined life in that area, the competitive advantage they are going to have, over the long haul, is going to make them soar career-wise in whatever field they are in, because our brains were not made for this. Our brains need rest; they need quiet; they need peace; they need down time.

It’s like a muscle. When it’s continually being stimulated and exercised, it’s being worn down and worn down and worn down. We’re only ten to fifteen years into the real digital era, and so it’s been a while until we realize just what it’s doing to us. But the science is in, and it’s really bad! On a physical, emotional, mental, relational viewpoint, it’s really bad, but on a spiritual viewpoint it is devastating. We will not know God properly, I don’t believe, until we get it under control.

For thus saith the Lord GOD, the Holy One of Israel; In returning and rest shall ye be saved; in quietness and in confidence shall be your strength: and ye would not.
Isaiah 30:15

Women Showing Their Breasts While Breastfeeding

Women Showing Their Breasts While Breastfeeding

Many young women today believe that it’s fine to nurse a baby in public and have other men see their breasts because feeding a baby is much more important than what men think or being modest and this is why breasts were created. I disagree. In my grandmother’s generation, women were always careful to cover themselves when they nursed their babies. It was the same for my mother’s generation. They wouldn’t have dreamed of allowing other men besides their husbands to see their exposed breasts.

My generation was modest about this as well. My friends always covered themselves up when they nursed their babies. This generation is different. Nakedness no longer brings them shame and nursing a baby is “natural” and so are breasts, so no big deal, right? Wrong.

You can bet I sure wouldn’t want a woman coming into my home and openly showing her breasts to my husband while nursing her baby. I nursed four babies for over a year and no man besides my husband ever saw my breasts. God commands that older women teach the young women to be discreet and part of being discreet and shamefaced is not drawing attention to ourselves and covering up.

My family of women were together the other day. My niece has a 15 month old boy and she nursed him in front of us but I never even got a glimpse of her breasts and her big baby boy is fine with being covered. “But they hate being covered. How would you like to be covered when you ate?” women write me. Well, I’m an adult and I eat without having a naked breast at my face and you can train a child to accept anything. We train the children. They don’t train us. I sure trained mine to nurse while covered and it wasn’t difficult at all.

Nakedness and shame continually are linked together in the Bible. “…and that the shame of thy nakedness do not appear” (Revelation 3:18). We are not to show our nakedness just because we live in a culture that tells us it is acceptable. We are to be discreet in all of our behavior, yes, even when nursing our babies. If most of the generations before this generation could do it, so can you. Breasts are not to be displayed in public by godly women for any reason.

Yes, breasts are sexual for men or God wouldn’t have written this in His Word: “Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love” (Proverbs 5:19). Men are highly attracted to women’s breasts no matter how much women don’t want this to be true. I wouldn’t even nurse in front of my sons if they were older than five years old. No, breasts are to be covered and private. It’s what God has called us to do.

The following verse doesn’t give the exception for nursing. No, covering yourselves while nursing isn’t shameful. Not covering yourselves is shameful. Align your life with the perfect Word of God, NOT according to your feelings and what you feel is right, or what is most convenient for you, or what culture finds acceptable. It’s a narrow path we walk on and few want to walk on it.

In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array.
1 Timothy 2:9

Are We Good Enough?

Are We Good Enough?

There are a lot of women teaching other women that they are “good enough” and if their husbands cheat on them, it’s not their fault. It’s purely the husband’s fault. If a man breaks up with them, it’s not their fault for they are the “pearl of great price” and “worthy of more.” Yes, I have read these things being written by women lately. Are these women good enough and the pearl of great price? Is there never any fault of their own?

No, most of us aren’t good enough and usually it takes two to destroy a relationship. (The pearl of great price isn’t us by the way, but is Jesus and the salvation He offers. Whatever lady believes she is the “pearl of great price” needs to understand the Bible better.) There isn’t one woman that I have mentored who had a cheating husband who didn’t confess to the sins she was committing against her husband before the affair. When something bad happens to us in any relationship, it’s best to examine our own behavior and actions instead of trying to make us feel that we did nothing wrong and it was all the other person’s fault.

Yes, a man who cheats on his wife is wrong, but so is a wife who lives in rebellion to her husband’s leadership, disrespects him, and treats him with indifference. She began the tearing down of her home long before her husband had the affair. I have yet to mentor a woman who was a godly, submissive wife and was kind, respectful, and did what she could to be the best help meet to her husband that she could be yet have a husband who had an affair. Can it happen? Of course it can but generally, there is something that pushes a husband away from his wife to want to cheat on her. But there are some men who are simply evil and perverse. I am not writing about them.

When I mentor women who have been cheated on, I don’t tell them that they are “good enough.” No, I encourage them to get to work by winning their wayward husband without a word and becoming the godly woman that the Lord has called them to be. Telling them that they are good enough isn’t going to help anything. None of us are “good enough” without Christ and even when we are in Christ, it is Him who is good enough, not us. We should all want to grow in the wisdom and the knowledge of the Lord every single day. We will all have work to do on ourselves to become more like Christ until the day we die.

We need to be continually examining ourselves to make sure that we are in the faith and producing good fruit.

Examine yourselves, whether ye be in the faith; prove your own selves. Know ye not your own selves, how that Jesus Christ is in you, except ye be reprobates?
2 Corinthians 13:5

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