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The Mother is the One Supreme Asset of National Life

The Mother is the One Supreme Asset of National Life

You would think I was evil for teaching younger women to be keepers at home and that mothers should be home for their children full time. This topic makes many women angriest, by far, of all the things that I write. They must not believe children are better with their mothers. They must not trust God enough to provide for them if they come home.

Many believe they find satisfaction and fulfillment from a career. They think widows still should work full time even though their poor children have lost their father. Now, they must lose their mother to a full time job? They don’t understand that children who are raised with their mothers are emotionally more stable and secure in life. They believe a mother giving more time to a career is more important than giving more time to their own children. I don’t get it.

Is this cruel of me to have concern for the children? How about the marriages of these working women since the husbands usually are the ones that are neglected the most? Lastly, what about the mothers who are exhausted from trying to work full time, take care of their homes, and be with their children. Do I not care about them? Of course I do.

One woman wrote me and told me to stop teaching women to be keepers at home because no one is listening and no one cares. Another woman wrote an entire post on her blog about how far off I am for teaching this. Well, I will stand before God someday and He is the only one that I will have to give an answer for what I teach women.

Women write me and tell me they are home full time with their children now from reading my blog and they are thankful. Others have told me they are praying that their husbands will change their minds and allow them to come home full time. (I will never understand why some men want someone other than their wives, the mother of their children, to raise their children.) Some are asking the Lord for wisdom in finding a way to make some money from home. Yes, women are listening and some care. It makes sense compared to the nonsense they’ve been listening to their entire lives.

“I want my daughters to grow up to be doctors, lawyers, or whatever they want.” Yes, if this is what you want your daughters to grow up to be and have a stress-filled life with a lot of debt, go for it. After many years in school, then college, then medical school, and finally residency, they will be in their 30s most likely.

While you are having a daughter who is a doctor, I would much rather have a daughter who is having children and is home full time with them. Children are more valuable to me and to the Lord than any career can be. Any career can be filled with someone else but being a mother to a child can not be. Our values have been completely mixed up today.

As President Theodore Roosevelt said, “The mother is the one supreme asset of national life; she is more important by far than the successful statesman or businessman or artist or scientist.” Presidents of old felt this way, whereas President Obama said this while he was in office: “In a speech in Rhode Island in October, President Obama offered his views about child care in a society where many parents have to make difficult choices: ‘Sometimes, someone, usually mom, leaves the workplace to stay home with the kids, which then leaves her earning a lower wage for the rest of her life as a result. And that’s not a choice we want Americans to make'” as if her earning power is more important than being home with her children.

Go back to where the Bible calls mothers to be and realize your importance there.

She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Proverbs 31:26, 27

Choose Your Redeemer in Your Suffering

Choose Your Redeemer in Your Suffering

Bad things happen in this life. Evil things happen. Many question the goodness of God because of these things. Babies are diagnosed with leukemia. Women who want so badly to have children are infertile. A diagnosis of cancer shortens a life. Where is God in all of this and how should we respond in and through our sufferings?

In a book called The Made From Scratch Life by Melissa Norris, Melissa tells of a time when she lost a baby and her Fallopian tube because of an ectopic pregnancy. While she was mourning this loss, her pastor’s wife called to comfort her. She had delivered a stillborn baby years earlier.

“She could have chosen to wallow in her pain, to become bitter, or to blame God. Why would a loving God allow these things to happen? But she’d made a choice to love, to believe God had good things in store for her. I had the same choice. I could choose to hand all the pain to Him and see how He could redeem it, or I could let it continue to hurt me. I chose my Redeemer. In choosing him, I was transformed.”

All of us will go through suffering in this life. We will be the ones who choose how we handle our suffering. Will we curse God or understand that suffering is a part of His plan for us? Job said in the midst of his pain and suffering, “Though he slay me, yet will I trust in him” (Job 13:15). He lost everything yet continued to trust in God.

Then we look at the life of Joseph and how his brothers sold him into slavery. He went through many sufferings yet when he met up again with his brothers many years later, he was able to say, “But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good” (Genesis 50:20).

As many of you know, I have suffered through a lot of physical pain but through all of it, I never questioned God. Why not me? I know I don’t deserve anything, yet alone health, so I trusted that God had it all under control. When I felt desperate because the pain was so deep, I would quickly remind myself that the joy of the Lord is my strength and I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

I have always believed God at His Word. “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose” (Romans 8:28). I believe 100% that this verse is true for believers. It may not work out for good the way we consider good but it will work out for good the way God considers good and He is a much better discerner of good than we are.

I could have easily died when I was 45 years old when I was in the ER with a sodium level of 110 when normal sodium levels are 137 and 147. I was told that level of 110 are death levels but God spared me. Soon after this happened, I began mentoring young women in the ways of biblical womanhood. I know life is fragile and I want to use the rest of my days for Him and His glory. I choose to believe God. I chose my Redeemer and have been transformed. Yes, pain transforms you when you use that pain to seek the Lord and allow His Word to permeate your mind.

Read 1 Peter if you are suffering and in pain. Camp out in this book and memorize it. You will see how suffering is good and a part of God’s plan for us. No one grows from a easy and pain-free life. We grow in godliness through our suffering and it is good.

But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, stablish, strengthen, settle you.
1 Peter 5:10

Did Feminism Help Women Own Property?

Did Feminism Help Women Own Property?

We often hear the praises of all of the wonderful things that feminism has accomplished for women. This was being passed around Facebook recently:

The fight for women to vote is tragic to me because all the women who fought to be able to vote were doing so because they felt they knew better than men (even though God made men the leaders) thus led to the superiority attitude of women in our culture which has been devastating. (Most sitcoms today freely mock men.) It was rebellion against God’s ordained authority.

I detest birth control since it has led to the slaughter of millions of babies and millions of others babies from being born since many couples today don’t even want children. Instead of trusting God for our childbearing, we are the ones who “plan and decide the best time”  to even have children.

Did they really help women own property and work for a salary? NO! The rumblings of feminism didn’t begin until 1843 and the fiercest advocates of it, like Betty Friedan, weren’t even born until 1921. Here is what I found about the timing of women being able to own property and work for a salary:

According to this article, “Over several decades, beginning in 1839, statutes that enabled women to control real and personal property, participate in contracts and lawsuits, inherit independently of their husbands, work for a salary, and write wills were enacted. Usually, concerns for family integrity and protecting a household from economic crisis, rather than a liberal conception of the role of women in society, motivated these changes.”

Did you notice that last sentence? Feminism had nothing whatsoever to do with these things! From my study of feminism and women’s rights, their main goals were to get women out of their homes and into the workforce, destroy marriages, put children in daycare and government-run schools, make divorce easy, and literally tear down marriage and families. This was “freedom” in their minds!

I am one of the “most anti-feminist 21st century woman” and anything that comes from protest, social unrest, activism, and resistance by women has nothing whatsoever to do with biblical womanhood. God calls us to have meek and quiet spirits and reminds us that godliness with contentment is great gain. No, thank you, feminists. Life was much better for everyone before you fought for “women’s rights.” They sure weren’t mine.

But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
1 Peter 3:4

Mama, Carefully Keep Them By Your Side

Mama, Carefully Keep Them By Your Side

From The Old Schoolhouse Magazine

Hey Mama,

Right now it’s a frenzy. Feed them, house them, school them, disciple them. Clean, cook, answer calls, pay bills, show up, be available, clean up the crises. And there are plenty of those these days.

Fast forward 10-20 years: You’re not young. But you have grandkids. Your children are still your life. But those grands are your joy. Sometimes your kids help you with big stuff. The projects they complete on your behalf, you never thought you’d see the day. Him? He’s a hyper monkey. All he understands is Legos. Or…he used to be that way. Her? She used to be glued to the mirror; now she’s glued to her family.

Yet…fast forward a couple two or three more decades: Your pretty new kitchen counters – your son did those. That meal you had last night – your daughter-in-law lovingly made and served it. The shawl about your shoulders – your beloved daughter keeps it on you nice and comfy. The countless drawings plastered on your fridge – yeah, you have a lot of grandkids. But hey, Mama, that’s partly your doing. You led a life with a very high value placed on family. You invested. Unabashedly you served. Carefully, you kept them by your side, lovingly training them up as God instructs. Children were your life; your family came first. Didn’t you think those values would get passed along? Didn’t you think your kids were watching?

Well, they were. And you are going to look around one day and see the fruit, in full bloom, all around you. They were watching. They’re watching now.

Today – Mama, keep cooking. Your kids love your food. And they love your smile. They love your hands. They don’t always recognize it, but they even love your correction and instruction towards them. Someday they’ll tell you. Someday you’ll see it more clearly. Eyes on Christ. Keep walking, keep doing. May they rise up and call you blessed.

You ARE blessed. And His hand is on your head today.

Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
Proverbs 31:28

But Women Don’t Want to Be Silent!

But Women Don’t Want to Be Silent!

One brave woman on Facebook is continually speaking truth on her newsfeed. One day she wrote:


1 Corinthians 14:34-35 ~ 34 – Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience as also saith the law. And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.

Of course, more than a few feminists had a big problem with these verses.

“A scripture taken out of context too often! It does NOT mean that women are not to preach, there are many WOMEN who HAVE been called to preach!!!!”

This women was then provided with multiple verses showing her error in thinking but finally she responded without using any Scripture in any of her arguments this way: “Hmmm, looks like you women on here are the ones who should remain silent!!!! Look who started this post in the first place! Maybe you should study where it says to not touch the anointed or since you love to take scripture out of context, throw the judging scripture at me while you’re at it! You started this to start a debate!” Whatever that means. If they can’t back up what they believe, they shoot the messenger, as I am well aware of, since it happens to me often.

Then a wise woman named Amanda wrote the following and nailed it:

Let’s look at the qualifications of a pastor (bishop) as laid out in 1 Timothy 3…

This is a true saying, If a MAN desire the office of a bishop, HE desireth a good work.

A bishop then must be blameless, the HUSBAND OF ONE WIFE, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;

Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous;

One that ruleth well HIS own house, having HIS children in subjection with all gravity;

(For if a MAN know not how to RULE HIS OWN HOUSE, how shall HE take care of the church of God?)
Not a novice, lest being lifted up with pride HE fall into the condemnation of the devil.
‭‭1 Timothy‬ ‭3:1-6‬ (emphasis added).

Doesn’t seem a woman can fulfill all those requirements, can she?

Just because our lukewarm society has decided it’s okay to give women a “license” to preach (which, by the way, we don’t see in Scripture anyway), that doesn’t mean it’s okay by God’s standards.

Women saying they should be able to preach/lead over men reminds me of JEZEBEL, which calleth HERSELF a prophetess!

Notwithstanding I have a few things against thee, because thou sufferest that woman Jezebel, which calleth herself a prophetess, **to teach** and to seduce my servants to commit fornication, and to eat things sacrificed unto idols.
‭‭Revelation‬ ‭2:20‬

Are Women More Gullible Than Men?

Are Women More Gullible Than Men?

One of the reasons we are given that women are not to teach nor be in authority over men is that Eve was deceived. So does this just mean that Eve was deceived but it doesn’t mean that all women are more easily deceived as this one author wrote?

Got Questions is a very reliable source for most biblical questions. They answered a question concerning women pastors/preachers. I agreed almost 100% with their answer except for this paragraph: “The fact that Eve was deceived is also given in 1 Timothy 2:14 as a reason for women not serving as pastors or having spiritual authority over men. This does not mean that women are gullible or that they are all more easily deceived than men. If all women are more easily deceived, why would they be allowed to teach children (who are easily deceived) and other women (who are supposedly more easily deceived)? The text simply says that women are not to teach men or have spiritual authority over men because Eve was deceived. God has chosen to give men the primary teaching authority in the church.”

I asked the women in the chat room this question: “Do you believe in general from what you have seen and experienced that women are more easily deceived than men?” All but one of them that answered the question in the affirmative and some even gave personal experiences. Jessica B. summed it up fairly well, “Definitely. Both sin but just like in the garden men are more apt to choose to sin and women are more apt to be deceived. (It isn’t 100% but I do think it is an obvious majority.)” Jessica L. wrote, “Yes, and more emotional. I can get all worked up over something and discuss it with my husband and he can erase the drama with one sentence by putting things into perspective.” Maddy answered, “Women are primarily led by their emotions while men tend to be more logical, so yes.” It was quite unanimous in their opinions on this matter.

My question for you to ponder is that if Eve, the first woman who was perfect in every way, had never sinned, and walked with God, yet was deceived, do we really believe that we are any different than her? “The argument here is a singular one—Adam and Eve both sinned, but Adam was not deceived. He sinned, quite aware all the while of the magnitude of the sin he was voluntarily committing. Eve, on the other hand, was completely, thoroughly deceived (the preposition with which the Greek verb is compounded here conveying the idea of thoroughness)—she succumbed to the serpent’s deceit. Both were involved in the sin, but only one (Eve) allowed herself to be deluded” (Ellicott’s Commentary).

We can still see how women are deluded today. They have fallen hook, line, and sinker for the feminist agenda. They have left their homes in pursuit of careers while leaving their children in the cares of others. They are tearing their homes down with their own hands. Yes, women are as deluded today as Eve was and there’s no doubt about it. Just look how many “Christian” women have fallen for Jesus Calling which is an absolutely false and heretical teaching.

“Being more easily deceived, she more easily deceives. Last in being, she was first in sin—indeed, she alone was deceived. The subtle serpent knew that she was ‘the weaker vessel’ (1 Peter 3:7). He therefore tempted her, not Adam. She yielded to the temptations of sense and the deceits of Satan; he, to conjugal love. Hence, in the order of God’s judicial sentence, the serpent, the prime offender, stands first; the woman, who was deceived, next; and the man, persuaded by his wife, last (Genesis 3:14-19)” (Jamieson-Fausset Commentary).

This is a warning to us, women. “Being more easily deceived, she more easily deceives.” There are many women going around deceiving other women. I was deceived by other women when I was a young wife by the things they were criticizing my husband for and I listened. This caused dissension in our marriage and false expectations. This is why we need to be steeped in the Word of God so we don’t deceive other women and we need to make sure that whoever we are learning from is speaking truth.

“Adam never was deceived at all; neither by the serpent, with whom he never conversed; nor by his wife, he knew what he did, when he took the fruit of her, and ate; he ate it not under any deception, or vain imagination, that they should not die, but should be as gods, knowing good and evil. He took and ate out of love to his wife, from a fond affection to her, to bear her company, and that she might not die alone; he knew what he did, and he knew what would be the consequence of it, the death of them both; and inasmuch as he sinned willfully, and against light and knowledge, without any deception, his sin was the greater: and hereby death came in, and passed on all men, who sinned in him:

“…Now inasmuch as the serpent did not attack Adam, he being the stronger and more knowing person, and less capable of being managed and seduced; but made his attempt on Eve, in which he succeeded; and since not Adam, but Eve, was deceived, it appears that the man is the more proper person to bear rule and authority, as in civil and domestic, so in ecclesiastic affairs; and it is right for the woman to learn, and the man to teach: and seeing that Eve was the cause of transgression to Adam, and of punishment to him and his posterity, the subjection of the woman to the man was confirmed afresh” (Gill’s Exposition).

Women are emotional in nature and easily led by their feelings. This is why God created men to be the leaders. They are not as easily deceived nor led by their emotions. I am not sure how anyone with any wisdom at all cannot discern this to be as true today as it was with Eve. It’s the natural temperament and emotional makeup that the Lord gave women to be home with their children all day.

Here’s a commentary that agrees with me concerning the topic of women teaching other women since they are more easily deceived and from what I am seeing, a lot of  women Bible preachers/teachers are deceiving a lot of women. The thing that troubles me the most is how many of them hear special revelations from the Lord which isn’t biblical but a result of women’s supposedly “spiritual” sensibilities .

“‘But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.’ (1 Timothy 2:12) διδάσκειν: This refers of course only to public teaching, or to a wife’s teaching her husband. In Titus 2:3 St. Paul indicates the natural sphere for woman’s teaching. In 1 Cor. women are forbidden λαλεῖν in the Church. The choice of terms is appropriate in each case.” (Expositor’s Greek Commentary)

The woman’s natural sphere for women’s teaching is clearly spelled out for us in Titus 2:4, 5 which most female Bible teachers conveniently leave out of their teaching. Is it any wonder that this following verse is specifically directed to women?

For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.
2 Timothy 3:6, 7

She Never Tells Him What to Do

She Never Tells Him What to Do

For years I tried to tell my husband how to eat healthier and all it did was drive a deep wedge into our marriage. Trying to control others, especially our husbands, is a terrible way to live. It is counterproductive to a good marriage. We are called to be their help meet and to submit to them in everything, NOT try to control or change them. This is the Lord’s job.

I have been following a young woman on Facebook. She is close friends with one of my nieces. She loves eating healthy and living as toxic-free as she can since being diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes. She is a wise young woman. On her Facebook page, she had these words:

I am most frequently asked how I get my husband on board with healthy eating and non-toxic living.

Newsflash, the answer is quite simple. I never tell him what to do! <— yes, it’s really that simple!

So I went to her article and read this:

Honestly my best and most truthful advice is: never tell someone what to do. Show them a better way through your actions, discipline, and passion for healthy living. Let that spirit become so contagious so that they ask, “Hey, can I do that, too?”

I can say that I have honestly never once told my husband what to do. Rather he saw my discipline and how eating healthy and non-toxic products influence me so much that he wanted in. I vividly remember the day when he emailed me a long list of Primally Pure & Beautycounter products he wanted to try.

Her husband is a blessed man! Give your husband the gift of not telling him what to do and learning to please him instead. Yes, you can kindly ask him to do things but never tell or command him since you are his wife, not his mother or boss.

Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
1 Corinthians 13:24

Founders of Feminism Had Reprobate Minds

Founders of Feminism Had Reprobate Minds

Christian women are floundering today. They have no idea what they are supposed to do with their lives? Should they work after having children or be home full time? But if they don’t work outside of the home, they will probably get bored and won’t make any money so they will feel useless. Oh, what should they do?

Mark Taspon did an interview with Mallory Millet who is the sister of Kate Millet. Kate is one of the founders of the second wave of feminism. Mallory admits that Kate was mentally ill and was a terror to live with. “I was with them at that table as they founded the Women’s Movement and NOW. The entire stated point of their activities was to destroy the American family and with that, Western Civilization. Is this not crazy? They were tooth-grittingly determined.

“They were driven by destruction and deeply violent impulses toward men and the patriarchy. Their goal? To establish a matriarchy in order to end all war because that’s what men do, wage war. They believed that if women ran everything there would be no more war. In their madness they have conspired to destroy masculinity, drugging our little boys while trying to remake them into little girls and thus, emboldening our enemies who now see us as easy pickings. No nation is easier to overwhelm than one which has feminized the men and put females at the head of the tribe. Matriarchies never survive – never have, never will!”

God tells us that those who “hold the truth in unrighteousness” (they know the truth but rebel against it) are given over to a reprobate mind (Romans 1). Reprobate means “a person abandoned to sin; one lost to virtue and religion.” This completely describes the founders of feminism since they were against all of God’s beautiful ways and they deceived women, even Christian women, into believing that leaving their homes all day and their children in the care of others is best.

“And for this cause God shall send them strong delusion, that they should believe a lie: That they all might be damned who believed not the truth, but had pleasure in unrighteousness” (2 Thessalonians 2:11, 12).

Instead of following culture and the lies of the mentally ill, young women should consider this when making life decisions:“If all mothers based their choices on whether to return to work by asking the questions, ‘What does the Bible say?’ and ‘What is best for my child spiritually?’ different choices would be made” (Judy Turner). What does the Bible say? It commands young women to love their children and be keepers at home. What is best for their children spiritually? To train them up in the ways of the Lord and hide God’s Word deeply in their hearts when they rise up, walk along the way, and go to bed.

Christian women need to wake up and understand that they need to stop following women who had and have reprobate minds and begin following Jesus and His ways instead. Our culture is a mess and it’s because women have left their God-ordained roles at home and pursued their own selfish gain at the expense of their children.

For those who want to give me all of the exceptions and “what ifs…,” gain some wisdom from Nancy Campbell: “Are we going to base our lives on what ‘might happen’ and be tortured by the ‘sound of fears,’ or are we going to trust in God, who is sure, steadfast, and able to deliver us in any situation?” He tells us that His commands are not burdensome and He is our provider.

From the article above (which I encourage you to read): “My thesis is this: when men ran the world and women ran society we had a chance to conduct our lives in some semblance of balance, but women have abdicated their running of society and thus, it has collapsed dramatically. Women forced their way into the running-the-world deal and now we have a world gone mad. And the beautiful society which we Western women built is in tatters. Moms decided they were the same as men so they deserted the home and babies to grab their briefcases and rush out to run the world.”

Let this not be said of us, women. Go back to the ancient paths, the perfect paths, that God created for you and find rest for your souls which many refuse to walk on.

Thus saith the LORD, Stand ye in the ways, and see, and ask for the old paths, where is the good way, and walk therein, and ye shall find rest for your souls. But they said, We will not walk therein.
Jeremiah 6:16

Grandmothers Need to Be Keepers at Home

Grandmothers Need to Be Keepers at Home

Older women are told to teach young women to be keepers at home but what about grandmothers? Are they to be keepers at home? Here is how God’s Word defines the role of older women:

The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women…(Titus 2:3, 4).

Well reported of for good works; if she have brought up children, if she have lodged strangers, if she have washed the saints’ feet, if she have relieved the afflicted, if she have diligently followed every good work (1 Timothy 5:10).

I don’t see anything about having careers or living as one pleases or for pleasure in these verses. Yet many older women go back to careers once their children are raised, go on vacations, and keep themselves doing things they want to do instead of what God has instructed them to do.

In the dim and distant past
When life’s tempo wasn’t fast
Grandma used to rock and knit
Crochet tat and baby-sit

When the kids were in a jam
They could always count on Gram
In the age of gracious living
Grandma was the gal for giving

Grandma now is in the gym
Exercising to keep slim
She’s out touring with the bunch
Taking clients out to lunch

Driving north to ski or curl
All her days are in a whirl
Nothing seems to stop or block her
Now that Grandma’s off her rocker

– Anonymous

Right after my children were born, my mother came and lived with us for two weeks. She did this for my sisters, too. When I was so sick all of those years, she was the first one at my home to help in any way she could. My first baby had colic so when I was overwhelmed, I would go to my mom’s home and she would take over walking and rocking the baby. She’s always been there for us and this is the way it should be. I have been blessed and am thankful for a mother like her.

My youngest daughter just had that cute baby in the picture. The day she was in labor, I was on a plane to go take care of her and her family. She has a toddler and a busy husband. I cooked, cleaned, rocked, shopped, babysat, and did whatever she needed from me. I wasn’t able to do this with her last one because I was so ill but it’s a huge blessing that I felt well enough to go this time. Her life would have been much more difficult if I wasn’t there to help.

My older son and his family live near us. We babysit their three children whenever they need us. They went on a week-long trip and we watched their children. When they are sick, I will cook them meals, help clean, or even bring the children to my home so my son and his wife can have time to get well.

This is God’s intended purpose for older women and many young women are suffering because their mothers and/or older women aren’t available to help them. Yes, grandmothers need to be keepers at home, too.

For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another.
Galatians 5:13

Desires and Passions Well Regulated

Desires and Passions Well Regulated

Young women’s desires and passions are not well regulated these days. Whatever they “feel” like doing, they do and they are  easily led by their emotions. I had one woman comment on Trey’s homemaking post and she wrote this, “I hate the man who wrote this. I do as I please.” I wrote back, “You act like a child. Were you not taught to not hate others you disagreed with? Were you not taught that the world doesn’t revolve around you and you can’t always do as you please?” She deleted her comment but this was her gut reaction to reading someone’s words she disagreed with.

Many places in the New Covenant, we are told to be sober which is the opposite of being ruled by our desires and passions as was this woman. It doesn’t just mean to be sober-minded (which I will come back to) but also to not be filled with alcohol. Older women are told to not be “given to much wine” and teach younger women to be “sober.”

Whether or not Christians should drink alcohol has been debated for hundreds of years so I am just going to give my opinion as I see from reading the Bible. Jesus was not against drinking wine since His first miracle was to change water into wine. Wine was also used to symbolize Christ’s blood during the Passover supper. However, we do have some guidelines in how we are to drink it.

Paul writes that we can drink A LITTLE for our stomach’s sake. Drink no longer water, but use a little wine for thy stomach’s sake and thine often infirmities (1 Timothy 5:23). Older women are told to NOT DRINK MUCH wine. The aged women likewise, that [they be] in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things (Titus 2:3).

In describing elders in the church, the Bible states they are NOT to be given to wine (I Timothy 3:3) while deacons are not to be given to much wine (1 Timothy 3:8). Older men are commanded to be sober (Titus 2:2). In 1 Timothy 3:11, Paul commands wives to be sober. God intends for His people who are called by His name to be sober in everything!

From Barnes’ Notes commentary, we learn that “sober” means “instruct them to have their desires and passions well regulated, or under proper control.” This includes all desires and passions. We should be known as women having self-control in word, deed, and actions, and doing what is according to godliness, not responding from our desires and passion.

The following question was asked to the women in the chat room and not one of them said they were offended by it since they are women who have soft, teachable hearts to the ways of the Lord and are sober-minded: “When I hear godly preachers/teacher exhort us to work hard, keep our home as neat as a pin, declutter, live simply within our means, be content, be thankful, obey our husband, don’t overeat, only drink a little or no alcohol, discipline our body towards godliness, spend time with our children, etc. it has always challenged and convicted me and I love it! So many women are offended by many of these things, however. Are you?”

Matthew Poole in his commentary wrote this about being sober: “Young women, especially conversing amongst heathens, are prone to be light and airy, and over frolicsome, following the heat of their youthful temper, and forming their converse after the manner of others; which is a behaviour, though it may suit their youth, yet if they be Christians it will not suit their profession, which calls to them for more gravity: speak to them that are aged to mind to be sober.”

Wow! We sure see this today, don’t we? Many women follow the heat of their youthful temper and have never learned to keep their passions and desires under control. The culture defines their behavior instead of godliness and the ways of the Lord. They have not left their childish ways behind. “When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things” (1 Corinthians 13:11).

 Mothers, do you know how much easier you make it for your children when you are careful and consistent in the discipline of your children? If you discipline and train them as children, they will most likely grow up to be disciplined adults who have control over their desires and passions and are sober in everything. This not only benefits their future family but culture, too.

That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children.
Titus 2:4