“And that ye study to be quiet…” (1 Thessalonians 4:11).

This verse has convicted me along with the verse about having a meek and quiet spirit which God wants us to adorn ourselves with. I have been pondering these verses a lot recently with all of the controversy swirling around social media. Many young women seem to have no problem calling out and going after pastors (men) on social media. Some respond with cruel accusations. It’s an ugly sight to behold among true believers in Jesus Christ.

When I call someone out, I don’t attack them personally, and I am not cruel. I try to speak truth to issues with which I disagree with. This often has many attacking me personally. This is to be expected, but it should not be true among believers in Jesus Christ. We should be able to have discussions and even disagreements without becoming angry and cruel, as some are even calling brothers and sisters in Christ “false teachers” and “dangerous.”

I never want to falsely accuse anyone. I do call out female preachers since they are false teachers. They are in rebellion to God, and we are commanded to mark and avoid them (Romans 16:17). They lead many astray. Even still, I don’t attack their character in any way, just their disobedience to God. I have also called out one woman who called a godly man who speaks sound doctrine a “false teacher.” Many Christians were upset with him for teaching on the issue of what women (older women) should teach other women, namely biblical women per Titus 2:3-5. This has caused a firestorm on social media. Many female Bible teachers now call us false teachers since I teach the same.

In the midst of all of this, the verse about studying to be quiet and having meek and quiet spirits convicted me and will always convict and challenge me, since it’s not in most of our natures to be quiet along with having meek and quiet spirits, but we must. This is what God commands of us, and it’s for our good. What does the world see when they see Christian women being loud and accusing each other falsely? We certainly aren’t being salt and light.

Women weren’t created for the battle. God choose only men to go to war. God also warns men about quarreling and contentious wives. We weren’t created for the workforce either. Women in the workforce have twice the amount of stress-related diseases than men. Our bodies aren’t created to handle stress like men. We internalize it, and it causes health problems. This is a fact. When we attended our last church, it was dark and loud. The stress of the loud music actually hurt my body. The stress of the infighting on social media hurts me physically and emotionally. My body doesn’t created cortisol like most people. My brain tumor damaged my pituitary so I must take hydrocortisone. My body doesn’t handle stress well so I am bowing out of the fight as I should have a long time ago.

No, I am not getting off social media and I won’t stop writing, but I am no longer going to be responding to many comments anymore. I am going to dwell on the good, as God commands. It’s okay if you don’t agree with me! I will continue to teach my convictions from my study of God’s Word, listening to godly men preach, and from my own experience. Measure everything I teach to the Word of God. Be a Berean. Don’t believe everything you read or hear. This is why it’s so important to know and understand God’s Word.

But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
1 Peter 3:4-6

***Brian Suave wrote an incredible blog that sums up my thoughts on many of these issues facing women to day. Please, go read it!