Written By Pastor Gabriel Hughes There are times where, as a pastor, I’ve been asked to interview a young man on behalf of a young woman in my congregation. These are among the questions I ask. They are the same questions I’ll ask any young man who wants to date, court, or marry one of my daughters: 1. What is the gospel? Defend the deity of Christ. 2. How often do you study your Bible? Pray? Attend church? 3. What…
This is a comment given by Trey on my post Living Like An Abigail: I hear so many Christian wives these days talking about how bad their husbands are. The problem even seems to exist with Christian husbands who are reading their “Bible steadily, listening to sermons, and praying.” The one actually causing the problem in the marriage never seems to be the wife though. It is always their husband’s fault. And then I hear statements like these, “This is…
Her husband is an angry, bitter, and unkind man. He isn’t a believer. She loves the Lord deeply and wants to live in obedience to Him. She’s worried about her husband’s eternal soul. He doesn’t physically abuse her in any way, is a good provider, and is faithful to her. He’s just incredibly difficult to live with, and she suffers because of it. She read what I wrote about obligatory sex. She knows it’s true and applies to her since…
Women have tried to convince me that “obligation sex” is unbiblical. Posts and articles have been written arguing that it is definitely not biblical. Well, let’s ponder this for a bit. What is the definition of obligation? “An act or course of action to which a person is morally or legally bound; a duty or commitment.” So, naysayers are telling me that wives don’t have a “duty or commitment” to be sexually available for their husbands? What does God have…
Recently, I made a video called Love is Not an Emotion. The following is my favorite comment underneath the video! “Oh wow! I’m not the only one! I also don’t cry over movies or books, and I also didn’t have butterflies when I accepted my husband’s proposal (the second one). Lack of butterflies caused me to panic the first time he proposed, and I needed more time to think things through. I knew I liked him. I knew in terms…
Our culture is highly repulsed by any type of suffering. If you explain to others that you use a rod on your child because you want them to equate sin with pain, they cry abuse. They also cry abuse if a husband isn’t treating his wife exactly like she wants him to treat her, not helping enough with the housework or children, doing things she doesn’t like, doesn’t meet her emotional needs, and definitely doesn’t make her happy. In their…
“I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully” (1 Timothy 5:14). Whenever I share this verse, undoubtedly someone will tell me that this verse refers to widows only. I have pondered this. Why would God command this of only young widows and not younger single women? Then, I thought of Titus 2:3-5 where God commands older women to teach younger women to love their husbands and…
For some reason, many Christian women don’t really trust God. They believe their ways are higher than God’s ways. Let’s take the matter of a husband who watches porn. If I give them the admonition to live out 1 Peter 3:1-6 as God commands women who are married to disobedient husbands to do, they don’t agree. They give all types of others things women should do, even divorcing their husbands. Ten years ago, I published a post about a friend…
Recently, my husband asked me to look for our car’s title. In the process, I found a file full of letters and cards my children had written to me and many other treasures. I shared one of these on social media and some asked me to make a post out of it, so this is it! May you be convicted and encouraged. It’s so easy to forget to do right. This is why we must be reminded often. I don’t…
This letter from Laine stood out to me in reading over her writings since finding out she is in hospice. It’s about her childhood and is a beautiful picture of a wife winning her husband back after being transformed by Jesus Christ. Read it and be blessed! Dear Sisters, “Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, ‘Never will I leave you, never will I forsake you.’” Hebrews…