Forcing One’s Convictions on Others
There’s something about women that needs to be addressed. I’ve noticed that women are far more likely to jump on a new “movement” than men are. I’ve done this, so I write from experience. These then become their strong convictions that they want to force upon others, especially their husbands. They want to be the leader in their families.
Now, these convictions aren’t called sin in the Bible, but they try to use the Bible to support their convictions. I will go through a list of some of them here:
Not celebrating Christmas and Easter. There is no command that tells us we cannot celebrate Christ’s birth and resurrection nor is there a command telling us to celebrate these things. These are a Christian’s liberty.
Celebrating the Old Testament Feasts. There’s no command for Christians to celebrate these feasts nor is there a command forbidding Christians from celebrating them. This is a Christian’s liberty to decide.
Going trick-or-treating. There’s no command telling children they can’t dress up in innocent costumes and go to neighbors’ door knocking and asking for candy nor is there a command to do these things. This is a Christian’s liberty.
Circumcision. God gave the command for the Israelites in the Old Testament to circumcise their sons. There is no command for Christians to do this now, and there’s no command forbidding us from this. This is a Christian’s liberty.
Sleep training. There’s no command against this nor for it. It’s our Christian liberty to decide.
Family bed. There’s no command to have one nor is there a command to not have one. It’s our Christian liberty.
I’m sure there are more, but these are the ones that I have seen women become so strong on that they make it a sin issue for all who don’t do it their way. Let your husband decide on these issues, women. He is the leader of the family and will give an account for how he leads his family. If you have a strong conviction about any of these, talk to your husband about it but don’t demand to be right because then you are wrong. You aren’t living in submission to your husband. Feel free to even share these types of convictions with others, but don’t make them into a sin issue.
One man esteemeth one day above another: another esteemeth every day alike. Let every man be fully persuaded in his own mind.
Romans 14:5
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7 thoughts on “Forcing One’s Convictions on Others”
The voice of reason. Thank you!!🙏🏾♥️🙏🏾
There are so many of these issues. There are things like dancing. For those against, there is usually no distinction made between what kind or the venue, it is all considered wrong. But yet the Bible doesn’t say the act of dancing is wrong and even King Davis is said to have danced before the Lord.
Thank you for this post. When I started having children the “Mommy Blogs” were just becoming popular. I’m so thankful that I found a couple that were Biblically based, older women training younger women through their blogs.
The most difficult conviction for us to navigate has been food – our family has made choices to eliminate processed foods because those made me very sick and we could see the effect it had on our kids, too. Some people have been very offended by our choices and others don’t mind at all.
I have been on both sides – easily offended and others being offended by my choices. I’m learning that it’s not worth ruining a relationship when it comes to these things. Some people are willing to discuss differences and others aren’t.
Thank you Lori. I appreciate your wisdom on these topics. BTW, were you able to secure your Google account so it doesn’t get hacked again and your videos don’t get tampered with?
I’ve been hearing about YouTube accounts getting tampered with more and more but now its been crochet channels. Anyway, please be careful and again, thank you for today’s post! Have a blessed day!
Hi Regina, My YouTube channel has never been hacked to my knowledge but thank you for the heads up!
I have seen many women divide their families over these issues. Regardless of which side of the fence you fall on, I think it is better for the woman to remain with a quiet, gentle spirit to influence her non-believing husband. If her husband is a believer, then she should follow him.
How funny that I have never had any issues with any of these! Lol Im glad I don’t have any friends who have ever felt compelled to force any of their opinions on any of these subjects if we differed in how we went about it! 😂 I can’t imagine insisting anyone to follow what I do just because it works for me (and I expect that same courtesy from others or I don’t continue to keep in contact with them). It just seems so silly to me for someone to feel so strongly (and therefore insecure) and entitled that they need to insist to someone how they need to conduct who goes into their bed or raise their kids?! I have a friend who was raised with a dad that was a pastor who was vehemently against celebrating Halloween. Needless to say, she’s not at all close with her father now and she very happily celebrates Halloween in the same innocent way we all do (giving out candy to kids). The more you try to force your own convictions, the more others will pull away.
What came to mind for me reading this all too familiar list are….
Skirts/ dresses only
Wearing make up
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I have been on both sides of those coins!
God bless you and I’m so glad you addressed this issue.
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