How God’s Ways Nurture Godliness in Women
“Lori Alexander, In a future post, please speak in detail to how much love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, righteousness, and self-control you have because you are following the Lord verses wives that want to do things that God called men to do which leads the women to depression, anxiety, etc. Thank you!” (A comment on my Gab account.)
This person listed the fruits of the Spirit. All believers in Jesus Christ have the Holy Spirit living within them, so they should all be exhibiting these qualities in their lives more and more as they grow in the wisdom and knowledge of the Lord. But, is it easier to do when you’re walking in obedience to the Lord? Yes!
Another person asked my why so many Christian conservatives seem to be so against me. I believe it’s because I want to take the Bible more literally than they do and teach exactly what God commands instead of give all of the exceptions and my own interpretation of God’s Word.
Being a “keeper at home” means women are to be keepers at home. This is where women are to work. This is their ministry. Yes, they can leave their homes to be with friends, shop, help others with any needs they may have, and things of this nature, but in order to be a keeper at home, they must be at home. This is their domain. They are responsible for running it smoothly and efficiently. They can’t do this if they aren’t home most of the time.
Many conservative Christians don’t like my teaching on this, BUT when women are keepers at home as God commands, they don’t have the stress that women in the workforce have. They have more time to cultivate a strong relationship with the Lord, meditate upon His Word, listen to good sermons, dwell on the pure and the good, read solid biblical books to their children, hide God’s Word in their hearts, learn to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ, and speak about Him often during the day. In this way, women have a far higher chance of being transformed and exhibiting the fruit of the Spirit than in the workforce. Women weren’t built for the workforce.
Another thing I teach that many female Bible teachers don’t like is that women should learn theology from the biblically qualified elders and pastors (men) in the churches and from their husbands at home, as God’s Word commands. They shouldn’t go to Women’s Bible studies to learn theology since the women teaching aren’t biblically qualified to teach theology. The only women who are biblically qualified to teach women anything are older women who meet Titus 2:3 qualifications and teach Titus 2:4,5 to younger women. Women need to be taught to be sober and sober minded (think right), love and obey their husbands, love their children, be discreet, chaste, good, and quiet in the churches with meek and quiet spirits. Women need to learn these things but few are teaching them. There’s SO much joy when walking in obedience to the Lord, women. You won’t find peace and joy anywhere in the world. You only find these in Christ and obeying Him.
Yes, this has all been a journey for me but a journey well worth taking. I am thankful. I have suffered physically for 35 years, and God has absolutely refined me through these trials. I have a clear understanding of what is important and what is not. I love the Lord and His ways and Word. I’ve been married for over 43 years with four children and 18 grandchildren. These are my greatest blessings in life! Stop walking on the broad path that leads to destruction and begin walking on the narrow path that leads to life instead. This is where you will find what you’re looking for. Also, stop watching and worrying about the bad news of the day and begin dwelling on Christ and His goodness and many promises instead. Memorize Colossians 3:1-4.
Thus saith the LORD, Stand ye in the ways, and see, and ask for the old paths, where is the good way, and walk therein, and ye shall find rest for your souls. But they said, We will not walk therein.
Jeremiah 6:16
6 thoughts on “How God’s Ways Nurture Godliness in Women”
Thank you, Lori! I feel such a fear-based desire to go outside of the home for a ministry. It’s because this culture says that me loving my husband and being diligent at home ISNT ENOUGH. It’s been so harmful for me! I feel like since I am not a evangelist, I don’t volunteer 5 days of the week, I don’t have children yet (trying for them soon!), I am not in God’s grace because I stay home.
I was forced to come home bc of a sick baby. God used this experience to save me from myself. I was on the path to excellence in what the world says is good but had a heart full of vanity, pride and idolized education, success and beauty. I had to “quit” my old life to gain my “real life.” I remember the day I quit my old life. I went for a walk with my baby around my neighborhood and felt such intense peace and joy. I remember looking at the clouds and trees and breathing in the fresh air and feeling free for the first time in my life. I was 22 then and I’ve never looked back at my old life and missed any of it. I have four beautiful children and a beautiful foster care and adoption journey that would have never been possible with my old life. Starting my ninth year homeschooling too. I adore my husband and am able to make the home he’s given us a place where he can retreat to after a hectic and stressful day of stocks and all that comes with being in the finance world. We’ve been together 16 years and I am so beyond thankful he supported my desire and need to come home. I tell working moms now who are questioning whether or not to work less that they’ll never regret spending more time with their children. You blink and their childhood seems to go by without even realizing it. <3
Hi Lori! I’m sorry this is so random, but I was scrolling through Facebook and came upon an ad for your website, and the picture displayed was of you and your family. I took a double take, because I recognized one of your kids, Cassi! It’s strange, because I know her face and her name, but I cannot place her! I used to live in Southern California (over 10 years ago) and went to CSUSM and can’t recall if we went to school together or worked together? I’m almost thinking we possibly both majored in math? I’m trying to figure it out! Would you please see if she remembers me? My name was Suzanne Cornwell, and is now Suzanne Jakes, and I ran cross country and track for the college there. I just think it’s crazy what a small world we live in that I would recognize her face all these years later! I’d love to hear back from you and see if we can figure it out. :).
Lori: She does remember you, Suzanne. She remembers you as being “nice and happy!”
Lori, would you share what Bible version you use? When first saved I used an NIV, then went to NASB, then KJV only….then started learning about King James and how he was a murderer. Actually requested a visit from an Irish man to convert him ( can’t recall his name) with the intent to kill him and ended up hanging him from Big Ben for all to see. There were many more murders as well.
We then learned about the Geneva and this is the Bible we have used for 16 years. I tried the ESV…but then discovered it had missing verses. I’m not trying to walk into the hornets nest here, but I would love to know your choice!
Thank you and God bless. Your teachings have been invaluable to me and in turn , my family.
Lori here: Here is Michael Pearl’s reasons for using the KJV. I LOVE the KJV but I don’t make it an issue of division among believers.
https://youtu.be/mJ1mAFHpRkg?si=_dBwi7RMyOj9pEsL
Thank you for your response. I fully agree it is NOT an issue between believers.
*Woops. Meant to say it should not be an issue of division among believers!