Husbands Love Cheerful Wives
Cheerfulness is what draws a man to a woman more than anything else according to studies that have asked men all over the world. Life is too short to make anyone’s life miserable, especially your husband’s! “A merry heart doeth good like a medicine” (Proverbs 17:22). God has commanded that we be thankful and joyful. How do we learn to become joyful? Become transformed by renewing your mind with the Truth of God’s Word.
“Rejoice in the Lord alway: and again I say, Rejoice” (Philippians 4:4). If you are rejoicing in the Lord, being reminded of all His blessings, and all He has done for you, you will have no time to be grouchy and unhappy. Put on praise music and dance around the home with your children. Sing while you do the dishes. The minute your feet hit the floor in the morning, say to yourself, “This is the day that the LORD hath made. Let us rejoice and be glad in it.” Most of life is a mindset and if you set your mind to being joyful, you probably will be joyful!
“Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God” (Philippians 4:6). Don’t worry but instead, cast your cares upon the Lord for He cares for you. He owns everything, loves you, and is trustworthy. If in need, pray and ask Him for what you need. Every time you start to worry, begin being thankful for what you do have instead. A thankful person doesn’t have time to worry.
Guess what the result is when you don’t worry about things but are thankful instead? “And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:7). Peace is a wonderful thing. Everyone is looking for it but it can only be found in Christ. He tells us to be thankful so let’s be thankful. Everyone will enjoy being around you if you are a thankful and peaceful person knowing that the joy of the Lord is your strength.
“Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things” (Philippians 4:8) A lot of hateful things are going on in our world and women have been telling me about the horrible things being said on Facebook after the election. Don’t watch it or read about it. Unfollow those on Facebook who are only negative and complain. Instead, only watch and read wholesome and uplifting shows and books. Dwell upon the good things in life!
“Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you” (Philippians 4:9). Do you notice the word “do” in this sentence? Paul wants us to DO these things that he has just taught. He doesn’t want us to learn them, then walk away and forget about them but practice them on a daily basis until they become automatic. DO what the Lord through His Word has told you to do if you want to have the God of peace with you.
“Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content” (Philippians 4:11). Learn to be content. Whenever you catch yourself grumbling and complaining, remind yourself what God did to the children of Israel when they grumbled in the desert. He hates it because unthankfulness leads to having foolish hearts darkened (Romans 1:21). Your family will not want to live with an unthankful woman in their home. Godliness with contentment is great gain!
“I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me” (Philippians 4:13). God gave us His Holy Spirit and He works powerfully in and through us! We can walk in the Spirit and obey the Lord because of this. This fact alone should make you the most cheerful woman around!
“But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:19). Do you trust this promise the Lord has made to you? If so, there is no reason to not be cheerful!
21 thoughts on “Husbands Love Cheerful Wives”
Too many times today we and find reasons to be miserable. 99% of the time there is good in everything but we aren’t looking for the good. Example, as a husband I do some housework but never do it good enough. If I do the dishes she will say I missed a spot. Or if I do laundry and something gets folded inside out by mistake I get called lazy. Instead of just saying thank you. But I continue to do those things because I enjoy serving my family and helping when I can. The funniest one but very truthful – This really happened last year I finished cutting the grass on a very hot summer day and was told I missed a spot 🙂
This blog post today is 100% bang on. Men love cheerful wives; men love knowing in our hearts we feel appreciated for all our hard work. But in saying that I am sure the wives want to feel the same way. Appreciated!!!!! When wives are moody and grumbling it completely shuts us down and sends our minds to other places ie watching the game, out with the boys etc. The best way to connect and re connect with your husband is just to show him you appreciate what he is doing and what he is doing for your family. And hopefully husbands don’t take for granted and show the same for you.
Singing has always been my go to stress reliever. My children remember this most about me! I do not have the greatest voice but it brings me joy. Certain hymns, like In Christ Alone, can stay in my mind and on my lips for a week after Sunday services. I would rather my husband and kids remember my off key singing than yelling and bickering.
Thank you so much for such an uplifting post!! I needed this today…yes after such awful comments about our decision for the president,it is nice to know that God is still on the throne,and he is working out everything,we just need to be patient and wait on his timing Have a great weekend!
I echo Rob’s words. However, I would say “x10.”
I am personally convinced that no woman [sorry Lori, and many other amazingly fine women] – no woman understands the depths of the rot they inject in their man by shaming him. One of the most under-rated scriptures is “A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness IN his bones– Prov 12:4. That is: she “shames” him; no matter how small, it is shame. It may take a few hundred or a few thousand of these shames before the rot shows, even taking down the mightiest of men.
And that rottenness IN his bones, in his marrow ….is actually HER. Eve came from the bone of Adam and she is killing off the very living part of that bone that became her. Strong’s for ‘rottenness’ is 7538H, 4716H, 4743H = “decay, worm eating, rot, melting, putridity, stink, flow, dwindle, vanish, consume, corrupt, dissolve.”
Think of a huge hardwood tree that is 50 years old and looks wonderful on the outside, but then blows down in a windstorm and you wonder ‘why’ all of a sudden; then you see on the inside this worm had been eating it from the inside out.
Using Prov 12:4 and Strongs: Women corrupt their man, using shame. Women consume their man, using shame. Women dissolve their man away.
My closing thought to ladies is that shaming is far worse than you think or can ever imagine, so take it very seriously.” Thank you.
You are right! Women are too powerful to be careless. The foolish woman tears down her house with her hands.
Lori, you seem to have some men that regularly read your posts and comment (not talking about your husband, but other men). I’m wondering what you think about this? What purpose do they have in constantly coming to a woman’s blog? It looks strange because, as you rightfully point out all the time, women should not be teaching men.
And a follow-up to my previous comment: Think of the 2 parts of this verse:
“A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones”– Prov 12:4;
A wife either brings a crown or she brings death to her husband. She either bestows glory [1Cor11:7] or shame. She is either for her husband or against him. There is no neutral middle ground. Just like in the church’s marriage to Christ [which we are to model]: we are either for Him or against Him; we either give him glory – the crown – or we destroy his name and shame him. We don’t have the option of staying neutral toward Jesus, that is shaming Him.
I am not in authority over these men and they aren’t learning from me since they know that I am not teaching men. These men are usually married to difficult wives so they are trying to encourage the rest of the women who read their comments to not be like their wives. Other men enjoy reading my blog since they know I am one of the very few who teach what older women are supposed to be teaching women according them to Titus 2:3-5. Then there are other unmarried men who have asked me, “Where do I find women like the ones you teach?” 🙂
This is so encouraging!
I don’t sing much, because I can’t carry a tune in a jug (although I play the flute so it’s weird that I can’t sing) but you’re so right – it is much better for our husband and kids to remember singing (albeit bad singing) than fighting.
Thank you 🙂
I love this post, Lori! It is so true that cheerfulness draws your husband (and anyone really) to you, and you actually have more advantage to influence them for good thanks to that.
It’s been like Christmas morning everyday for us after Trump was elected. So many positive things have already been occurring thanks to his decisions and how people react to him. But there are some serious negative reactions (all the riots and continued police murders, black people beating and killing whites) we could focus on that would really bring us down.
At the very least, the Left’s reaction to Trump’s win just proves why so many Americans wanted him to win. Praying for him and the people around him fervently every night – that is something positive 🙂
Thank-you for the post! I can start to get down about all kinds of things and have been repeating to myself the mantra ” things may be bad, but they are also good” and because of the Lord, the good is really good! Reminds me of when the 12 spies went into the promised land to scout it out and they all saw the same thing, but only Joshua and Caleb saw what God could do. Not seeing the good is faithless. I am trying to form the habit of seeing the good, but it is sometimes hard to turn my thinking around. I appreciate the reminder of what this does to our husbands! (eek!)
Some advice on how to be cheerful in an emergency, and prayers, would be really helpful right now.
Here in New Zealand we have had a massive earthquake, with more than 400 aftershocks since. Our roads are ruined – it is no longer possible to drive the length of the country. Our main road between north and south is broken. This means no trucks can get through to carry supplies, so our supermarkets will soon run out of food. Farmers have no power, dairy sheds are damaged – they can’t milk their cows – it will be the end of the season for them and they will struggle financially for years. Our infrastructure will cost billions to repair. People are still stranded, unable to get home. Houses and buildings are badly damaged.
Yes, being cheerful is important. But how do we remain cheerful when our whole life is falling apart around us and we’re powerless to change it?
I am so sorry, KK. I briefly read there was an earthquake there and that there was a tsunami warning. I will pray for your country. How devastating. Oh Jesus, have mercy upon this country right now and in the weeks to follow.
In the midst of this pain and suffering, however, you can know that the JOY of the LORD is your strength, even during hard times since this is what He promised us. You may not be able to be cheerful but a deep, abiding joy in the knowledge of the Lord and His sovereign will can still give you HOPE, for without hope, life is meaningless, especially in a tragedy you are going through right now.
Truer words have never been spoken.
This is a great post! I can see the difference in his attitude when he comes home based on how I’ve talked to him throughout the day while he is at work.
Curious about those studies you mentioned that polled men. Do you have a link to those studies?
I learned this many years ago from a magazine named Ladies Home Journal. It was a world wide study and this is what they found and it wasn’t even a godly magazine! I looked for it but I can no longer find it since it was probably 20 or more years ago. I have found studies that say the same but they are on websites that I don’t want to share on my blog because there are dirty pictures of advertisements on the side. This is why I didn’t publish where I found it but if you ask men if they want a cheerful wife just as they were when they were dating them, they will all say YES. 🙂
Thanks, Lori!
when i first started dating my boyfriend i was recovering from a traumatic brain injury (which I still have side effects from). I know i was anything but cheerful all the time.
i have struggled throughout childhood and adulthood with anxiety and bouts of depression.
thankfully, this has dissipated with constant self care and awareness, but i still have bad days where all i want to do is curl up and cry.
i’m so thankful that my boyfriend knows this is an issue and not a direct reflection of how he cares for me or how much he loves me.
he brings me ice cream and tissues and then takes my dogs out for a walk.
now he will be “playing” nurse (he is a paramedic so pretty much a nurse!) for a couple of weeks because i’m having surgery and will be in bed for 2 weeks.
this is where i need helpful hints. i’ll be in pain and miserable and don’t want to be crying to him all day long. need suggestions on books, songs, anything to get me through.
In the past 30 years, I have been infested with parasites, had 2 brain surgeries for a pesky brain tumor that won’t go away, traumatic Cyber Knife, neck fusion, and a ton of pain. However, I decided 30 years ago that I wasn’t going to complain because I didn’t want to make others lives miserable just because I was. My husband and children are thankful for this. This is how you remain “cheerful” in hard times. I continually reminded myself that the JOY of the LORD is my strength.
and sometimes women don’t know until its too late…… my husband left me without saying anything and now I don’t know how to win him back.
Thank you so much for such s convicting yet encouraging post. This was what I needed to read today. I’ve only been married less than two years but yet this has become a constant struggle for me. My husband is very honest when I ask and says exactly what you and others are saying about how hard it is to come home when I’m so unhappy and grumpy everyday.
Thank you for pulling out theses scriptures to remind me!