How does a woman tear down her own home? For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work (James 3:16). This woman is not content with what she has and does not live within her husband’s income but is constantly lusting for more when she sees what others have on Instagram, Facebook, and the fixer up shows on television. She has not learned godliness with contentment but is always searching for ways to spend more money than she has but this still is not enough for her.

She is full of strife. She quarrels and argues about many things because she is selfish and wants her own way. She is not fun to live with but makes everyone’s life miserable with her unhappiness, moodiness, and discontent. She is critical and finds fault with almost everything and everyone.

How does a wise woman build up her home? But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy (James 3:17). She is pure. She dwells upon the lovely and the good. She doesn’t watch filthy shows or movies. She is careful what she puts before her eyes and what she listens to since she loves the Lord and His ways.

She is peaceable. She isn’t argumentative and contentious. She doesn’t quarrel and fight for her own way. She is content in life and believes every day is a blessing and a gift to be enjoyed while she lovingly serves her family.

She is easy to be entreated. If someone needs help, they have no problem asking her since they know she will readily listen and help whenever, whoever, and wherever there is a need. She is servant-hearted and loves to make others lives as good and pleasant as she can.

She is full of mercy. She overlooks injuries and treats offenders better than they deserve. She understands that as Christ has forgiven her, she forgives them.

She is full of good fruits without partiality. She is patient and kind to all. She works hard in her home with willing hands and is consistently looking for things that need to be done. She will do good to any and all.

She is not a hypocrite. She lives what she believes. She doesn’t help others to be rewarded on this earth because the only one she aims to please is the Lord so she stores her treasures in heaven where they belong. Her actions, words, and behavior come from a deep and abiding faith in her Heavenly Father.

She builds her home up with all of these and her family rise up and call her blessed.

And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace.
James 3:18