Our culture mocks marriage. The Church hasn’t helped any in upholding the sanctity of marriage. In a large church near us, the couple who ran the premarital counseling for over 35 years, told us that when they began this ministry, none of the young couples in the church that they mentored were fornicating (living) together. Now, almost all of them are. The few who aren’t are a breath of fresh air.
Living together is nothing like marriage. It’s not “test driving” to see if the couple is compatible. I have a secret for these couples. No couple is compatible. We’re all far from perfect. One is male, and the other one is female. This alone shows how different we are, contrary to popular opinion.
The foundation of marriage is commitment. Without commitment, marriages fail. Before we married, we made the commitment to never use the word divorce. We never have, and we’re going on 41 years together. We both knew that marriage was until death do us part. We didn’t take our marriage vows lightly. It was a scary day for me, because I knew this. It wasn’t easy to commit my life to another until death! Most couples probably now go into marriage thinking they can get out if they want. We never thought this. We knew marriage and love were about commitment.
Marriage is the picture of Christ and His Church. Christ is fully committed to His Church. As you are committed to your husband for life, you are being an example to a watching world what marriage is actually about. There are too many divorces in the Christian community. The commitment isn’t there, and this has led young people to be lost and floundering. It’s also led to marriage being redefined by culture which leads to destruction.
Your children need you and your husband to make a commitment until death. You are their security in this world. Do everything in your power to hold your marriage together. Be the wife that God has called you to be. No longer dwell upon the negative traits of your husband. “She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness” (Proverbs 31:26). “Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt” (Colossians 4:6). Take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. Dwell on the good and the lovely. Don’t tear your husband down in your thoughts, deeds, or words. Build him up instead.
Marriage is good. It was created by God. We, as believers in Jesus Christ, need to keep obeying God because His ways are perfect. The world’s ways only lead to chaos and destruction.
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.