When I was in high school in the mid-1970s, most of my friends’ mothers were in the workforce. Homes were left empty during the day. One of my church friends (the only other girl that was my age in our church) would tell me about her fornication exploits. She and her boyfriend would go to her home during lunch and fornicate. She had a number of abortions. No one was home, since her mom worked outside of the home. It all seemed so unappealing to me, thankfully! This was not the life I ever wanted to live.
Yes, teenagers can have sex in cars, but it’s far more comfortable and easier for them to have it in their own homes and in their own beds. When mothers aren’t home, it’s too easy for them to fornicate. When a mother is home full time, it’s impossible for them to do this IF the mother is a godly woman who would never allow her teenagers to do this. My teenagers sure knew this!
Don’t ever fear putting boundaries on your teenagers. They are protection for them! We were considered the “strict” parents, but none of our children ever minded. They knew we had these boundaries for their good and for their protection. They appreciated them. If you have children who aren’t rebellious and well-loved, they will respect you and the boundaries that you set for them.
God wants mothers to be keepers at home, yes, even mothers of teenagers. They need their mothers’ protection even at their age. Their hormones are raging, and we live in a highly sexualized culture who is telling them to have sex often and with anyone. Of course, hopefully by the time they are teenagers, they have had an abundance of truth spoken to them, and they know God’s Word and will flee fornication.
Besides speaking truth to your children as they are growing up about this issue, keep them busy. Teach them to work hard. They need to have productive things to do in their lives rather than being on their cell phones all day long or playing video games. This is why living on a farm is a great thing especially for boys. They will have many things to keep them working hard and staying out of trouble.
Teach your daughters to help you around the home. Teach them all of the ways of homemaking. From the time they are young and able, have them working by your side. My little granddaughters love helping me around the home. They are always asking what they can do. It’s a great time to train them to be hard workers!
God commands that those who don’t work, don’t eat. He created us to work! It’s His ordained will for us. Laziness is destructive. It’s actually one of the reasons why Sodom and Gomorrah were destroyed. Laziness leads to many other types of destructive sins. When teenagers have too much free time on their hands is when they can get in trouble, especially if mom is out of the home for hours every day.
Behold this was the iniquity of thy sister Sodom, pride, fulness of bread, and abundance of idleness was in her and in her daughters, neither did she strengthen the hand of the poor and needy. And they were haughty, and committed abomination before me; therefore I took them away as I saw good.