Feminists Flushed Femininity Down the Toilet
There’s a movie called Adam’s Rib that was made in 1946 with Spencer Tracy and Katherine Hepburn in which their two characters were married and competing lawyers. At one point, Spencer shouts at his wife, “I don’t want a competitor, a competitor. I want a wife!” It reminds me of a book that was just written by Suzanne Venker called The Alpha’s Female’s Guide to Men and Marriage: How Love Works. I have not read it but what I have read from Suzanne, she has a lot of wisdom when it comes to male/female relationships. I follow her on Facebook and here is one comment she received about her book.
“I’ve been in a marriage for 30 years, and I have raised three children. I am also a nurse and have moved in and out of the workforce during my marriage. Because of my profession, I’ve observed thousands of these male-female interactions at work. They are as you speak of: in a WAR.”
Sadly, male-female interactions are at war because women have taken over males’ roles in society. This is far from God’s plan and has caused destruction in its path. Most dental and doctor programs in universities have more females than males. Most universities have more females attending than males. Women are stealing jobs that should be men’s jobs and of course this would cause war between the sexes. Plus, women want to be in control and God didn’t create them to be, so this will most often cause strife too.
“The women have become men, and the poor men have no choice other than to become the feminine side of the relationship to make it work. Except it doesn’t work. Because men, even though they can try hard, are not women—and vice versa.”
Men are now required to do a lot of housework which isn’t their natural tendency. God has given women this role. Women will never make better men than men, and men will never make better women than women no matter how hard they try. The DNA we are born with will be the same DNA in our bones a hundred years from now. Feminists are fighting God and nature with what they are doing and it’s ugly.
“In the past 20 years, I have seen this more and more and more of this role reversal. You are so right that when men are looking for a mate, they don’t care that the woman has three Ph.Ds. A working man making enough is looking for a woman to be a woman who takes care of him, the kids and the complex life of running a home and family. Feminists flushed the values of that part of being a woman down the toilet and made more stress and more work for women because now they must work and do the their job at home as well.”
I am sure the happiest men are those who have married good, hard-working women who take good care of them, their children, and their homes so they can do what they have been called to do, namely provide. They can be singularly focused on this instead of having to help get the children ready in the morning, drop them off at preschool, and do other things that are home-oriented and should fall to the woman of the home. Their lives become so much more stressful than they already are and women don’t seem to mind at all. At least they think they don’t, unless they ponder their lives for a bit and see how much more stressful their own lives have become as well as their children’s.
“I’ve seen a lot of these high-powered women have affairs because the man at home becomes too soft. He changes for her, and then she has an affair with a man who is stronger than she is! I know of at least five marriages that ended in horrible divorces because of this.”
Suzanne believes that women are attracted to masculine, strong men. I tend to agree but feminists have done everything to destroy this type of man. My housework handwritten post that went viral proved this point because of the outrage from women that believe that men should help with housework because they WANT a career. They think they find more fulfillment and satisfaction away from the home, thus making everyone’s lives miserable so they can get out of doing what they are supposed to be doing.
God’s plans for us are good. I don’t know if Suzanne is a Christian or not. I have never seen her allude to it but from what I have read of hers, she has seen that the roles God has given men and women are for their best, societies best, and children’s best.
As for God, his way is perfect: the word of the LORD is tried:
he is a buckler to all those that trust in him.
Psalm 18:30
8 thoughts on “Feminists Flushed Femininity Down the Toilet”
I have to say, that my life is so much easier since I was taught ” by your most controversial posts” that my husband is not wired for housework. Wasted years full of false expectations and tension in the home. I honestly always thought the more spiritual a man is, the more he will help. And I was always longing for that kind of spirituality in him. (He simply refused…) Only now I see that he was all along a great provider and I didn’t appreciate it. I feel ashamed. Since I decided to not expect any help from him anymore the atmosphere at home changed and I can truly dive into being the help meet GOD called me to be.
Thank you, Lori, for spreading a message of peace for our homes!
You’re welcome, Daniela. Most men want peace and order in their homes almost more than anything else and a godly wife can give this to them.
You are so right! Men want peace and order!!
They want attention at times and for peace and quiet at times! Housework can be very fulfilling when we see how beautiful and lovely any home can be without the complaining and telling your husband to do his share…
Most men will do what they enjoy doing in their home!
Thank YOU!
You won’t publish this comment, and that’s fine. I just want you to read.
I have no shame in the fact that I am happy having a job. I’m happy I don’t have kids, and I’m happy I’m not a housewife. We’ve been the prissy little housewife sitting at home with nothing to do with her husband is our “working” and then coming home late. It’s not fun. Then when the guy screws you over, you have no money (because you have no job) and thus, nowhere to go. That’s reality, but you conservatives refuse to be honest of these roles. Having a soft man is amazing. Having a career is great. Being child free kicks butt and I’m not afraid to say it. Life is awesome! Sorry if that offends you, but my idea of a loving God is one that allows us to choose our destiny, and I would absolutely not have it any other way. I’ve been on your side of the fence, and I will never go back there.
Beautiful testimony!
This doesn’t offend me at all because my life is not about seeking my own happiness. It is obeying what the Lord has called women to do and in obeying the Lord is where true, lasting joy comes from, Ashley, and I hope you can find it one day too. You have made up in your own god instead of searching the Scriptures for God’s will for women and then obeying it.
“”If you love Me, you will keep My commandments.” (John 14:15)
I completely agree with your post Lori! I am just sad because I feel like we can never get back to how it is suppose to be! I *am* thankful, though, that I do know so many homemaking wives and mamas (who homeschool). :o)
Ashley, like Lori said, your comments don’t offend me either, because they are not how I feel. I can’t change how you feel, however your tone and the way you have presented this reminds me of how I feel about my SIL who HATES and I do mean HATES the fact that my husband is the head of our home. You see, she is so determined that her husband isn’t going to tell her what to do and she will never be in submission to him that you can see the hate and anger on her face most times. Which is really sad, because when she is not mad about feminist issues, she is a wonderful, caring and very fun person to be around.
It just makes me sad, as do your comments. But my question to you is this, why does it bother you so much that women choose to live in submission? Why are you even on a blog that teaches submission if you truly despised it as much as you say. As to the waiting for the husband to come home, my child is now in college, so I don’t have any children at home, but trust me I have enough to take care of around here that keeps me from getting bored and just waiting. And I do it joyfully.
You see, I worked during the first part of our marriage and I would not go back willingly, now I know if my husband feels like I should, I will obey (and do it joyfully as well), but he said the other day that he doesn’t want me to and I am happy with that. My JOB is my husband and our home and I LOVE MY JOB! I love taking care of our home and my husband. It is an honor to me! Oh, it used to not be, back when I was the one who was angry all the time because I didn’t think I should have to obey him.
But you see, funny thing happens when you obey God’s word, you get this peace and no job or money or anything material in this world is as good as the peace I have from following God’s role for my life as a helpmeet. And to be honest with you, you are taking offense with Lori and women who choose to be helpmeets, when in actuality you should be taking it up with God. God put it in his word, so really your problem is with God, not other women.
I used to feel the same way you do. Thankfully, I came across Debi Pearl’s book Created to be a Helpmeet and began searching the scriptures myself. Once I began submission, things started to change, but once I started JOYFULLY submitting, wow things began to be awesome. No, I’m not perfect and I know I am not always joyful, but thankfully like any other thing, the more you practice the better you get.