A Response to Tucker Carlson’s “Men are Failing in Body, Mind, and Spirit”
Tucker Carlson had a very tragic monologue on his TV program the other night about how men are failing in body, mind, and spirit. Are we just going to stand by and watch men continue to go down the path to destruction? No! We, as mothers, need to do what we can to raise up masculine men and it is possible; for with God ALL things are possible!
For one thing, the public school system is set up for girls and this is why girls far exceed boys in getting good grades and going to universities. Boys weren’t created to sit still in chairs for hours every day. Because many cannot do this, they are given drugs to calm them down. This is devastating for them! There’s nothing positive about public schools. As one woman wrote to me, “God’s ways are always against the current of the culture!” Homeschooling (parents raising their own children full time) is against the current of the culture.
Make sure you discipline your sons. Teach them to obey you the first time you ask them to do something so they will grow up to obey and respect the authority in their lives. Disciplining them also trains them to be disciplined adults and will benefit them for life.
Boys need to run, jump, climb, build, create, and play. Yes, they need to be taught to work hard, too. This is why country and/or farm life is great for boys. They need room to roam. I homeschooled my sons through junior high and I am so thankful that I did. I bought them great books from Sonlight Curriculum and they read these for two hours a day.
There were autobiographies and biographies of missionaries. There were historical fiction books. All of these books gave my sons a love for reading. Then they would do math for an hour every day. They were good at math and never had any problem with this. There are many great homeschool curriculums online now for all parents who are interested in protecting their children from “a wicked and adulterous generation” (Matthew 16:4).
After they were done with this, I would take them to the beach to surf or they would play ball with each other, then later with their team. We don’t live in the country or on a farm so we kept them active in sports. Ken played with them frequently, too. We didn’t allow them to sit around watching TV for hours every day. We greatly limited the time they could do this.
Concerning the low rates of testosterone, diet has a big play in this. Read this article titled The Decline in Testosterone is Destroying the Basis of Masculinity. Men are drinking water that is contaminated with birth control pills for starters. Plastics are detrimental to sperm count. “Endocrine disrupting agents are mostly found in plastic products and cleaning chemicals. Considering that your home is essentially bathed in these agents, and that most of your food is prepared on them, you can see how pernicious this problem is, affecting both boys and men.”
This is a major reason to only clean with non-toxic products in your home. Eat meat and dairy from cows that were grass-fed and organic so they’re not full of drugs and fed GMO corn. Eat organic foods that were grown without toxic chemicals. Store your food in glass containers. Get a good water filtration system in your home. Get back to eating food the way God created us to eat it!
One of the greatest things you can do for your sons is to stay married to their father until death do you part. Sons NEED a father. They need a father to toughen them up. Don’t interfere with this, women. I have seen too many women scold and stop their husbands from toughening up their sons. Dads want to make their sons tough since this world is tough. They need fathers as role models in their lives. Love and submit to your husband. Smile at him often and stop arguing. Working on having a strong marriage is the most valuable thing you can do for your sons.
Make sure your sons know the Word of God. Read it to them often and have them memorize verses. Encourage them to have daily devotions and hide His Word deeply in their hearts. “I have written to you, young men, because you are strong, God’s word remains in you, and you have conquered the evil one” (1 John 2:14). Raise up strong and healthy men of God, women. This culture is tearing down masculinity but masculinity was created by our Creator and is good and needed for a healthy civilization. Homeschool them, feed them nutritious food, love your husband, and raise them up in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord and then you will have raised masculine, God-fearing men who will be a benefit to our culture.
And now, little children, abide in him; that, when he shall appear, we may have confidence, and not be ashamed before him at his coming.
2 John 2:28
16 thoughts on “A Response to Tucker Carlson’s “Men are Failing in Body, Mind, and Spirit””
I read your blog everyday and I’m so thankful for the truth inspiring us to live as Godly women/mothers. I am struggling with the homeschooling idea as I was raised by an independent mother and my husband by the same type of mother- both career moms. They really criticize us for even mentioning homeschool.
I read an article this morning on Desiring God by Scarlett Clay titled ‘Homeschool Will Not Save Them’ where her daughter turned agnostic after being homeschooled and raised by memorizing scripture, etc. I am really torn between the 2 and am praying about the issue diligently.
This scenario happens way too often after pouring years into your children’s lives, education. It has happened with 1 of my sisters’ children, now out on his own as well as children of leaders in our church. I guess I’m questioning the effects of homeschool based on the outcomes of families around us.
Lori,
Dave and I watched this piece on Tucker’s show the other night and while the stats shocked us, they all came as no surprise. The infamous male-dumbing-down of our nation. God is sorely displeased, thus we should be, too.
Great advice to mothers of sons!
*hugs*
Kelley~
I would trust what God’s Word has to say to us, Leslie, over what you are seeing. You have no idea what is going on behind closed doors of other people’s homes. Did they read the Bible to the children on a regular basis? Was the the joy of the Lord in the home? Did the parents diligently discipline and train them in the ways they should go? Did they protect them from bad company?
Look instead to people like the Pearls and the Campbells who have raised God-fearing children! Learn from them and study the Word. It is clear that the Lord wants you to raise your children in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord, not some government, anti-God institution where large numbers of children who were raised in “Christian” homes are walking away from the faith.
Thank you, Kelley. Yes, when God is thrown out of everything, we shouldn’t expect good results. Our nation is reaping what it has sown – godlessness.
Another great post Lori,
My sister is having problems with her eldest son at the moment. He’s constantly being disrespectful at school and often times refuses to listen to her and has to be told more than once to do something. But it’s not his fault; he comes from a broken home and I know how difficult it is for him. They have shared custody but it’s still difficult to split your life in two. However in the last couple years his parents have started to get along quite well and communicate better so I hope and pray that one day soon they will reconcile and become a family again.
Amen!! I believe also raising our daughters to be women and feminine and to appreciate the masculinity in men will help as well. Great words! That was a very sad article and I hope people will wake up!
I’m so sorry about your friends and loved ones becoming agnostic. These are hard times. Not to “pile on” but worth noting is that children (public school especially) are leaving the church in droves. Sadly homeschooling children doesn’t guarantee that they will stay in the church, nothing does, but to be honest, homeschooling has better statistics.
I understand about your mother. Mine is like that. In fact she was very successful in the public schools and has no problem telling anyone who asks why she doesn’t like homeschooling. Yet my husband and I chose to anyway. She supports me, not homeschooling. But she loves being able to see her grandparents more often and has told me I’m doing a really good job.
Actually for me the skepticism has motivated me to do a better job. I’m very type B and if everyone around me thought homeschooling was the best choice anyway I might not have had the drive to go the extra mile. Now even as a type B I take them on a ton of field trips (Monday we will actually be at my parents home to stay a couple of days just because of the trip so the grandparents are happy). My kids are years ahead in their subjects and involved with lots of activities that they would not have time for if they were in public school.
I have my 18 month old grandson with me during the week. All he wants to do is jump and climb. He doesn’t sit still and is happy exploring. My question is how old were your boys when you started their homeschooling and how and when did they learn to read. Thank you in advance.
As an addendum I find it kind of humorous that my mother always told us kids that we better not put her in a nursing home when she got old (and we won’t) but yet she is fine with me putting my children in an institution most of their childhood waking hours.
I am not a fan of institutions and unless something is terribly flawed believe the love of family trumps institutions any day of the week.
Amen!
Yes, Monique, divorce is devastating on children. Hopefully they will one day reconcile.
Agreed, Verna!
We started homeschooling our youngest for fifth grade. We didn’t hear much about homeschooling back then. When he began kindergarten, the kids would go to school all day but I would pick him up at lunchtime since he didn’t like being there all day long.
Both boys loved being home when I finally began homeschooling them. My oldest son definitely benefited from homeschooling. They began to read around five years old. I never forced learning upon them at a young age.
One educator that I know told me that children who don’t have any schooling until seven years old but instead jump, run, play, climb, and aren’t constrained in chairs all day, catch up to their peers in one year. Large muscle movement is very beneficial for being good learners later on in life. Sitting in chairs from the time they are five years old is not beneficial.
I couldn’t agree more Lori!! 🙂 We’ve been homeschooling for 10 years and although not always an easy task….it is a blessing! 🙂
Thank you, Lori, for these encouraging words on rearing godly sons!
Homeschooling and being a stay-at-home mom lends itself more easily to being able to ‘read’ your children. What we have all observed, I think, in some of the children that are public schooled is when asked how school was, they answer with one or two word answers. (good, I don’t know, etc.) The children’s friends know more about those kids then their own parents do. We need to keep open lines of communication with our children. Draw them out when needed, but also give them space. For example, boys tend to communicate less than girls do, but to a one my sons have sought out time with me individually. Sometimes it’s while I’m cooking meals, doing dishes or late at night while I’m ironing and the rest of their siblings have gone to bed. This is when they’ve shared what’s on their minds with me. My husband is very protective of his women folk, so we don’t go anywhere unescorted. You’d think that grocery shopping would be the worst kind of torture in the world for our young men, but one will volunteer. The best open conversations happen during these times, especially for the quiet ones. This also builds up boys protecting their moms and sisters.
My husband came from a hunting family, but I didn’t. I’ve completely changed my mind on this subject. It is male bonding time. It really doesn’t matter the father/son activity (so long as it isn’t sinful), but it is so very important that dads and sons have that quality time together. Another leadership building quality that we’ve tried to instill is letting our boys do the praying. I don’t pray aloud at meal time or devotions anymore. I taught them about Jesus when they were small, but dad took over the reins in their teen years. He answers their questions now about the meat of the Word, and encourages them to be like the Bereans and search for themselves. I still enjoy talking with my family about spiritual things, but in any decision (spiritual or non), I’ll state my opinion but also say, ”Let’s check with dad on what he had to say.”
These are just a few of the things we’ve implemented in our home, which may our may not work in yours. Just thought I’d share!
I’m thankful for the strong leader that my husband is, and the strong leadership qualities he’s been instilling in our sons. (The Lord knew I needed a strong leader too, to iron out my rough edges 😉
Men are ’failing’ because of Gen 3:16: their Sanctity of Command has been stripped by Illicit Authority given women, including men’s own doing in Gen 3:17 ‘hearkening to the voice of the woman,’ both endorsed by the church.
This has led to the detachments of the hearts of children from their fathers noted in Mal 4:6, and the rebellion of males in a school system and life in general — that is effectively against them, and that now rabidly glorifies females.
This is the war that is ahead of us, and it will be the biggest war yet seen to mankind, for it is now spread by the ‘Christian’ Western culture into every nation, at once.