It is in a young woman’s nature to want to attract the opposite sex. It happens around thirteen years old or so when puberty hits. I believe it’s God’s plan since He created woman for man (1 Corinthians 11:7-9) and most woman want to be loved, protected, and provided for by a man. God also created marriage and said that it is good.
The problem is that many women go about trying to attract the opposite sex the wrong way. They dress sexually and act provocatively. They are willing sexual partners. They become loud, aggressive, and flirty. Yes, this will attract men who want easy sex but it won’t attract men who want to marry them, especially godly men.
As believers in Jesus Christ, God calls women to be feminine with meek and quiet spirits. Not only does this please the Lord (remember, all of His commands to us are for our good), but it will attract godly men and, most likely, all men. I’m not sure any man enjoys loud and aggressive women, especially being married to one since the Bible tells us it’s better to live on the corner of a roof than with a contentious wife (Proverbs 25:24).
Young women desperately need to be taught to be chaste, discreet, and good. They need to be taught to act like godly women, control their emotions (not be led by them), and be kind and loving. The most beautiful women I know are feminine women with meek and quiet spirits and it has NOTHING whatsoever to do with their looks (besides, looks fade quickly). It has to do with their calm and gentle spirit. Their husbands adore them!
Women, God knows what He is talking about. He created us and He wants us to act like feminine women the way He describes them with meek and quiet spirits. Sarah was known for adorning herself with this and her submission to Abraham. Not many women want to adorn themselves this way but this is what makes a woman beautiful to her husband. No, it’s not being a doormat but choosing to lovingly serve and submit to her husband, as Christ asks us to do. When we do this, we are lovingly serving and submitting to the Lord.
Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
1 Peter 3:3, 4
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