Detestable Sexual Fantasy Movies

Detestable Sexual Fantasy Movies

Women can easily be deceived since it is easier for us to be led by our emotions and feelings. (It is good to be aware of this, women.) This is why women are not to teach nor be in authority over men. Then there’s this verse: “For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers (various) lusts, Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth” (2 Timothy 3:7). Ken and I read these verses yesterday why younger widows are commanded to get married quickly: “At the same time they also learn to be idle, as they go around from house to house; and not merely idle, but also gossips and busybodies, talking about things not proper to mention” (1 Timothy 5:13). Finally, we all know the verse about foolish women tearing their homes down with their own hands.

God has given women a lot of power for good or evil and unfortunately, many use it for evil. Let’s not be one of them. Let’s be godly women who know the Word, learn it from godly male preachers and teachers, and study the Word for ourselves. Let’s not be swayed by the new television shows, books, and movies that have lurid sexual scenes. Let’s keep our eyes on the good and the lovely in life!

The second movie to Fifty Shades is coming out on Friday, I just saw but I won’t be reading anything about it because I have no interest to do so. Just as I warned women to not watch Lady Gaga’s Super Bowl half time performance (based upon past behavior and God’s command to us to flee sexual immorality and immodesty), I am warning you to stay far from this movie along with all movies and television shows like it.

Nudity and sex are for marraige, period. I was just reading an article that “Millennials are 48% more likely to have sex before a first date than all other generations of singles.” Sex has become no big deal for them. Meet someone they are attracted to and have sex with each other. I can never even imagine doing this. I was raised knowing sex was for marriage and that it was sacred. God ordained it to be for the marriage bed only, not to participate in outside of marriage or watch others participate in it on the big screen.

The article goes on to say, “We have a real misunderstanding of Millennials, I think they are very career oriented, so sex before the first date could be a sex interview, where they want to know if they want to spend time with this person.” They have lost their way and are stumbling around in the darkness, thanks to their parents not teaching them to value themselves enough to not just give it all away for free. No matter how hard they try, there will always be an emotional and spiritual component to sex because God created us to be emotional and spiritual beings made in His image. The farther they run from Him, the worse their lives become for we reap what we sow.

If you have read the Bible for very long, you will notice that God usually puts nakedness and shame together concerning God’s judgment; “Your nakedness will be uncovered, Your shame also will be exposed; I will take vengeance and will not spare a man” (Isaiah 47:3). Once Adam and Eve sinned, they saw their nakedness and were ashamed. Nakedness should still cause shame for us, as well as immodestly. We are called to be shamefaced which is the opposite of immodest. We are to be modest and not draw attention to our bodies. The only person that should see our nakedness is our husband and this we give freely to him.

Besides covering our nakedness, we should not find pleasure in watching others participating in sexual immorality. In Romans 1, Paul has explained the progression of sin to us and how many will know the truth but “hold it in unrighteousness.” They will rebel against the truth and God will give them over to reprobate/depraved minds. At the end of the chapter is a list of sins that they will be given over to and the chapter ends with “Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.” Do not have pleasure in watching other people sin on a screen or read about it in a book! It will NOT make your sex life better.

Instead, take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. God tells us to flee sexual immorality for a reason. Sex within His boundaries (marriage) is good and healthy. Sex outside of those boundaries is wrong and evil with all types of serious consequences. “For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption” (Galatians 6:8) Also, when you are filling your mind with other people’s sexcapades, you are hurting your own sexual relationship with your husbands with “vain imaginations.”

Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled;
for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.

Hebrews 13:4

It is a terrifying thing to fall into the hands of the living God.
Hebrews 10:31

14 thoughts on “Detestable Sexual Fantasy Movies

  1. I wonder how the women who have read these books and watched/will watch the movie feel about their husband watching pornography? Do they realize it is the exact same thing? Many, many years ago, I was working at this boring job and since I always enjoyed reading, I picked up this romance novel that the owner had lying there. Sadly, I then started reading romance novels for a few years and one day I realized that romance novels are just porn for women. I couldn’t stand the thoughts of my husband watching those types of movies, yet here I was reading this stuff that played to my emotions and I realized that it was just a woman’s version of a dirty movie. I put them down and haven’t picked them back up. It took on a whole new perspective when I thought of it that way. I have read that many women who have husband’s addicted to pornography feel as if they are not enough for them. Would this not be the woman saying her husband isn’t enough for her? Anyway just my two cents!

  2. You are so right, HH. When I was younger and not too wise, I read a bunch of the “Christian” romance novels and now, if I pick up one to read, I do not enjoy it at all and stop quickly. I have grown to realize that they don’t benefit me in any way.

    Sure, I LOVE a good love story but it has to be decent with no sexual immorality or immodesty for me to be able to enjoy it. The Spirit inside of me is way too sensitive to sin now because I have trained myself to distinguish between good and evil by feasting on the meat of the Word.

  3. I love the fact that some of the most godless critics are saying the latest 50 shades of grey movie is just glorifying domestic violence and that the whole thing is dispicable. 🙂 I wont read romance anymore, my husband is not a fan of fiction. He wants me to read missionary stories and such. Which I dont mind. But I am amazed at the christian women who think he is being silly and try and ‘talk him out of such nonsense’. Even a pastors wife! So sad…
    I also used to work in the book department in a major retail store. And part of the job was putting mills and boon (seedy romance novels) books on the shelf. Sometimes id turn up at work and people were desperate for them they would break open the boxes and go thru them! A few times women had sent a friend or husband to get the books for them. So sad. I couldnt believe people were so desperate for such filth.

  4. We hosted a large Super bowl party. My husband found a quick online sermon about drinking from Gods water fountain instead of the worlds. He got everyone’s attention and we turned off the halftime show and watched that and talked about it instead. He said several husbands came up and thanked him afterwards. I’m sure we offended some friends that we are not sure where their faith walk is, but we have learned to not makes decisions based on fear of others, but instead from the fear of God. We desire to please Him and not men.

  5. I used to read secular romance novels and magazines. Unfortunately I was a teen when I started reading such trash. Then when I got saved I thought “Christian” romance novels were safe. Well they weren’t much better. They didn’t have sexual material but they still put unrealistic views of romance in young women’s minds. I eventually quit those but a few years ago I was reading Amish novels written by Beverly Lewis, Wanda Brunstetter and others like her. Those novels were really bad for me because I was comparing my husband to the husbands in the books. I also was seeing the Amish in a negative way until I met my born again Amish friend.
    All that to say, I won’t be seeing “Trashy Movie of the Week” in the theater this weekend. Thank you for the warning. By the way, I never saw the first “50 Shades” movie and never read the book. And this little lady “ain’t” gonna!

  6. They are addicted as all sin can become once we give in and allow it to control us. This is the enemy’s plan and it’s evil and destructive. This is why we are told to FLEE sexual immorality.

  7. This little lady “ain’t” gonna, either! I have never had the desire to even know what are in these filthy movies, Regina. They are not what the LORD wants His children to be entertained by because they are not lovely and good.

  8. “….Whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are PURE, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any VIRTUE and if there is anything praiseworthy – meditate on these things.” Phil. 4:8

    When our minds are focused on these things, as well as remembering that we serve a Holy God, then there is no interest in being entertained by the culture’s “allurements.”

  9. Funny, I just had a conversation with my fiance about this. He said that millenials were having less sex (probably because of porn) than previous generations, but then he looked up the numbers. The average number of partners for this generation was 8! It was still smaller than the boomer generation (11) or generation X (10). The “greatest” generation (WW II era) was only 3. However, earlier generations got married sooner.

    So much of this depresses me. I’m an older virgin in a sea of non-virgin cohabiters and divorcees. My own cousins have made a mess of their lives through premarital sex, but if you asked one certain female cousin of mine, she would’ve told you that she was PROUD she did not wait! This is the same woman who tried to shame me into taking birth control. She said I was afraid. Ha! I’m not the one playing house in hopes of snatching a man. She’s in her second “long term” relationship and clearly wants to marry this guy. There’s no shortage of hints from her, but he seems to be taking his time. They started their relationship when he was still married, so I doubt he is in a hurry to be tied down again. Her first guy left her after five years of living together because he wanted to keep playing the field. I’m so ashamed for her because she doesn’t feel any shame for herself.

    This sort of attitude towards sex has hurt girls like me, who were crying their eyes out alone every night while everyone else was bedding each other. I even had one guy, while he didn’t want a serious relationship, beg me for two days straight to sleep with him. Apparently, by not giving in I had punctured his pride, and he proceed to look around for a “real” girlfriend while keeping me around for company until he found one. Needless, to say this did not end well.

    I’m dealing with future brothers-in-law who are of a similar mindset and who have asked my fiance inappropriate questions about me. The youngest, only about 20, wanted to know if he had “done” me yet a few times while we were dating. The other one claims that what I’m doing is admirable, but still suggests that having sex and living together first would be best. I have a few choice words that I want to say to them, but for the sake of my fiance, I remain silent. I don’t know how much longer I’ll be able to keep it up though. They will be the uncles of my future children, and I don’t trust in their choice of partners (long story, but I’ll spare you the details). The younger one even tried to put a wedge between me and his brother recently, almost as if he’s jealous. He’s also the one who openly flaunts his bedroom exploits in front of my fiance, knowing that even though his brother is 13 years older, he’s a virgin like me. It has been going on for about 2 years, ever since we made ourselves exclusive. This has caused some anxiety, making him think that his lack of experience while be a letdown for me.

    I don’t want my children exposed to this, and we feel so alone. I sometimes wonder what on earth God is doing making us feel abandoned in a world of debauchery that infiltrated everything, including our family. These family members never dreamed of doing such things when they were children. They expected to find “the one” and that would be it. What changed? Even the parents tend to whitewash everything, believing that it’ll turn out okay in the end. I don’t dare get into discussions with my aunts and uncles, lest I end up ruffling feathers. My mom was always critical of the way they raised my cousins. Sadly, she is no longer here to help me deal with all of this. I’d turn to my little sister who managed to make it to marriage without falling into “the trap” as I call it, but she’s too tolerant of what everybody else is doing.

    Over the years, I’ve allowed my own runaway imagination build up crazy expectations and allowed romance novels to saturate my mind with filth (though I still expected to marry as a virgin). Now, after what I’ve experienced with men, especially those who insist on invading my personal space if I wanted a relationship at all, the very idea of sex turns my stomach. I can barely read anything even remotely romantic and find myself immersed in daily events and news from around the world to make me forget the immense disappointment that is my generation. I guess it’s a good reminder that there are people far worse off than me and has made me aware of what is happening to our country and Western civilization in general.

    My fiance has gone through a similar experience, so we connect very well and had no problems going through a traditional courtship without any physical intimacy. It was the most freeing experience I’ve ever had. Allowing ourselves to not become attached until we’ve made a decision to marry was a real eye opener to what we have truly lost in our society. We are “in like” and not in love. That part can come later. All the other puzzle pieces are already put into place to enable us to take the next step with confidence. Oh, and divorce is not an option.

    I continue to pray that someday, all our loved ones will wake up and realize what they have done to themselves. I wish our marriage can be a trigger point for them. They all seem very excited for us (some even envious). So much is on my mind right now. I can’t seem to stop worrying about it.

    My rant is over. Thank you for all your work here, Miss Lori! Keep speaking the truth and don’t let they naysayers get to you.


  10. I watched the first 50 Shades movie. It honestly wasn’t that great. I won’t be watching the second one.

    Yes it is glorifying domestic violence.
    Neither my first husband (who was a very soft, gentle man) nor my currently husband (who is very much a command man) would ever treat me in the manner the woman in 50 Shades is treated.

  11. Do you think all that description you included from 2 Timothy 3:6-7 refers to the women? I don’t. I think only the “silly” and “laden with sins” refers to the women, and the rest is part of the list that starts back in verse 2.

  12. By writing this comment, I am not standing up for Beverly Lewis and Wanda Brunstetter. However, I have a friend who is a former Amish. There are many, many people leaving the Amish church because the church itself truly does not believe in salvation. They think it is pride to be assured of your salvation. The Amish are a group of people that truly need the Lord Jesus. Your friend may be from a group of Amish that is different than the ones I am talking about.

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