Raise Your Daughters in the Ways of the Lord

Raise Your Daughters in the Ways of the Lord

Recently, I wrote this on twitter: “Raise your daughters from an early age that their highest and best calling is to be a wife and a mother! They will hear the opposite from culture.” Of course, the reaction was fierce and highly condemning. K. B. Davies agreed with me and wrote a beautiful post in reaction to this.


I absolutely love swimming against the apostate tide of this world and going against its ungodly opinions/culture (so do I!). This is one such case and suffice to say, I agree with The Transformed Wife.

According to the Bible, the highest calling for a woman is to be a helpmeet unto her husband (Genesis 2:18), a homemaker unto her family (1 Timothy 5:14), and a mother unto her children (Psalm 131:1-3, Deuteronomy 32:11, 12).
This is not opinion. It is scripture.

Titus 2:3-5: “That the aged women…teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, KEEPERS AT HOME, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”

And if this isn’t good enough for some, 1 Timothy 5:14 even includes young women who have been widowed:

“So I would have younger widows marry, BEAR CHILDREN, MANAGE THEIR HOUSEHOLD, and give the adversary no occasion for slander.”

Do you know what it means to give the adversary “NO OCCASION FOR SLANDER”? It means do nothing that the Devil can go to God to accuse you of. In this particular case, the scriptures are referring to a woman’s primary purpose.

Unfortunately, this biblical truth is an abomination to a people who have departed from the ways of God and are simply operating through the god of Self and wisdom of the world.

This wisdom tells women to leave their households, to submit to other men outside, abandon their children to daycare centers, and devolve their motherhood duties to nannies and au pairs – all in the name of women’s empowerment and equal opportunities.

The sad thing is, many of those (husbands) appointed spiritual leaders and mentors over them, and who are meant to lead them in the ways of the Lord, are the ones actively promoting and encouraging this ungodliness and rebellion. Like Adam before them, they have partnered and become one flesh with them in disobedience.

More so, if a man is supposed to be a provider to his family – as the Bible states and many agree, why on earth are women leaving their homes, marriages, and children to work outside? Is it that his provision is not enough?

Of course, it is because many have bought into the lie of dual income households; all because of abject greed, crass materialism, and shameless covetousness.

If people were to let go of their desire to look a certain way, drive certain cars, live in a certain house, send their kids to certain schools, and live in a certain way, they will find one income is MORE than enough for a family to live on.

Inadvertently, people have sold their soul and become slaves to mammon. They are now trapped in a lie they cannot free themselves – because if they did, the illusory house of cards they built will come crashing down.

So back to the Bible…

Nowhere in the Bible can you find any verse telling women to go outside and submit to any other man in the name of employment. Nowhere will you find God telling them to shatter any glass ceiling or reach any heights in the corporate rat race of nine to five, whilst putting themselves under all manner of pressure and abandoning their homes in the process.

Even the famed industrious Proverbs 31 woman often mentioned was self-employed and working in the home.

Truth is, if you weren’t raised right, or you were and rejected the training, you can make sure this cycle of rebellion stops with you – by raising your daughter in the ways of the Lord, rather than in the ways of the world.

Now, all this is based on the WORD OF GOD, rather than the worldly wisdoms of feminist icons like Michelle Obama. So, if you’d like to opine on this post, please make sure it is also based on the word of God. It is the ONLY thing that reigns supreme here!

For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.
Hebrews 4:12

23 thoughts on “Raise Your Daughters in the Ways of the Lord

    1. I think that’s right girls should be brought up to rejoice in their femininity, to keep themselves pure and to look forward to marriage and motherhood as the fulfilment of their Godly purpose.

  1. “The scribes and the Pharisees brought a woman who had been caught in adultery, and placing her in the midst they said to him, “Teacher, this woman has been caught in the act of adultery. Now in the Law, Moses commanded us to stone such women. So what do you say?” This they said to test him, that they might have some charge to bring against him. Jesus bent down and wrote with his finger on the ground. And as they continued to ask him, he stood up and said to them, “Let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw a stone at her.” And once more he bent down and wrote on the ground. But when they heard it, they went away one by one, beginning with the older ones, and Jesus was left alone with the woman standing before him. Jesus stood up and said to her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?” She said, “No one, Lord.” And Jesus said, “Neither do I condemn you; go, and from now on sin no more.”
    John 8:3-11
    There is nowhere you can go that the love of Christ cannot.

      1. Dear Lori,

        Methinks what “the bible” is trying to point out is that love is what shall win, even o’er judgment. Though we all sin, as these feminist women do, the love of Christ still will wash over thee. Ye can raise daughters in the righteous ways of the Lord, but they still may stray, and when and if they do, thy love (and the love of Christ) is what will bring the sheep back to the flock.

      2. Lori,

        What would your advice be to those who have heavy college loans and debt in a marriage? I stay at home with my 11 month old and cannot foresee myself going to work at all, and my husband and I have chosen to homeschool later on. Though I’ve even been guilted by Christians saying that I have a responsibility to this debt (it’s over $80K) that needs to be paid off because it would be more harm than good to my child in the future. But I wrestle very much with this because of what scripture says and to me children are more important than money and our lives are in the hands of God and He has placed my husband as the provider. What advice would you give regarding the issue of heavy college debt and how it should be managed in a marriage?

        Thanks! Love your posts.

        1. I would, first of all, use your situation to try to encourage young women to be wise about going to college. The debt is a very heavy burden. For you, I recommend buying “The Tightwad Gazette” and living extremely frugal until you can pay off that debt!

      3. Hi Lori, my baby is 7 months old but my husband wants me to go out and work. I want to be a mother and a wife that’s what I feel God has called me for. My husband wants to keep baby at baby sitter. I don’t support this idea. What should I do?

        1. I am sorry, Joy, but this seems to be common. Buy “Home By Choice” and highlight some areas that explain the importance of mothers being home with their babies. Give it to him and ask if he’ll read them. Pray before doing this. Ask the Lord to give him a softened heart. In the meantime, be a godly, submissive wife to him as commanded in 1 Peter 3:1-6. Pray the Lord will convict and change his mind.

  2. Where a guest writer has used non-KJV scripture, as is the case here, it would be wise to replace it with the KJV. I can’t recommend posts that teach women using false scripture.
    A little leaven leaveneth the whole lump. To allow posts using corrupt scriptural sources is, in itself, a way of teaching women that sourcing their faith, beliefs and practices from somewhere other than Holy inerrant scripture is okay.

    This is a huge issue, not a small one and I hope you will consider it with sobriety Lori. Your other posts with KJV are great, stick with God and His Holy Word, not the corrupters!

    God bless you.

    1. Hi Lewis,

      My husband doesn’t agree with you. Yes, I LOVE the KJV and mostly use it but since my husband sees no problem with a few of the other translations (NASB and ESV), then I allow comments and posts with those versions.

  3. Wow! I just have to comment on this one! I am so thankful for 2009, for it gave me a voice. I hear all the time that, “We can’t afford to live on one income.” Just this week on FB a dear sister told me she wanted to quit work, but didn’t know how they could live on one income.

    In 2009 my husband suffered a severe set back and basically made equivalent to minimum wage that year. He struggled to find something adequate but worked delivering pizzas while he looked for something sufficient.

    The only good jobs he was offered required he either: work on Sunday, work intimately with women, or be part of a union, all things he wouldn’t do.
    But I can say, as I have been there, “Trust God, and watch Him be faithful to you.”

    Did we go without a lot? You bet! We ate a lot of beans, rice, and whatever was cheap that year. We had a small garden. We raised our AC to 85, we lowered our heat to 60. If it cost a dollar and we didn’t absolutely need it to live, we didn’t buy it. But that year my respect for my husband went through the roof as he refused to compromise what he knew to be right, and I stayed home to nurture our 5 children. If you are a woman who wishes she could come home, but thinks she can’t afford to, I will tell you, God is true to His word! He will provide if you will trust.

    Please believe me, time with your children and a less stressed household is worth far more than a new car, bigger house, eating out or new clothes.

    1. Thank you Lori for the glory of the Lord you shine into this world ! I have only recently stumbled upon your website ! Your uncompromising faith is admirable and encouraging! I am so thankful for your heart !
      Look forward to learning more from you! Shalom Shalom

  4. There is nothing about Pr 31 that suggests the wife was ‘self-employed’. Rather, she was tending to the ways of her household- hers, in this case, being the role of a queen. Ergo, many ‘high level’ tasks, duties and jobs given her husband’s status.

  5. Thank you Lori for teaching the bible and encouraging women to love their husbands and their children as scripture says. Thank you for encouraging young women in the value of being a wife and mother, serving others as we serve the Lord.

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