The Fruit of My Ministry

The Fruit of My Ministry

The fruit of one’s ministry tells us if it is good or not. Almost every day, I receive private messages, emails, or comments on social media thanking me for my ministry. I don’t write these things to boast in me because without Christ and His Word, I am nothing and would have nothing of value to teach. It’s all because of Him, and I give Him all the glory. Here are a few of the messages I have received recently:

“Hi! I follow you on Instagram and I watch your YouTube videos. I have only been following for about eight or so months. In learning from you, I have turned into a completely different wife. For years, I ran on emotions and feelings, and my husband would often tell me that I am being irrational and impossible. Of course, I would be completely offended! But I have learned if I control my emotions rather than my emotions controlling me, we do not fight at all.

“I also quit my career as a nurse to be home with my family, and I cannot even put into words how life-changing that has been for us! I serve my husband and I am submissive to him. He recently said, ‘Grace, I have always loved you, but now I am completely IN LOVE with you.’

“Two years ago, he told me I needed to lose weight. I was extremely overweight, however, him pointing out my sin offended me. But now I realized he was loving me as Christ loves the church; he wanted me around for a long time. After I realized my sin, I had gastric sleeve surgery and have lost over 100 pounds and now follow Weight Watchers to control myself.

“In learning from you, I now ENJOY serving my husband, homeschooling my boys, and being a keeper of the home. I said all this to say, your ministry to younger women is often hated, picked apart, not understood, and mocked but please continue to do what God had commanded. It is changing lives! It has changed my life and saved my marriage. I just want to say thank you!”

“My dear Lori, please be strong and continue to fight this good fight. Though many may froth at the mouth in rage, yet even if only one woman were to be brought home full time or one marriage be mended for the wife’s submission to her husband, it will have been worth it in the end.

“In truth, it’s not just one, indeed there are many women who are benefiting from your ministry because it’s foreign to most pulpits. The under shepherds are starving the sheep so this ministry is of paramount importance.

“I like how you call it like the Bible calls it, no sugar coating, no kiddie gloves, just good old incisive scripture. The word of God is powerful and no one hears it and shrugs in their conscience. The response to God’s Word is visceral in everyone who hears it. Some respond in faith unto obedience and others with outrage unto condemnation. Still both reactions bring glory to God. The former in praise for His mercy in saving and sanctifying a sinner; the latter in praise of His holiness and coming judgement on all unrighteousness everywhere.

“There are precious Christian women tangled in feminist delusion out there who need to hear the truth. The truth will set them free. Many don’t know because they have not been told in their churches. Others do but need to have the idols of fear, money, prestige and autonomy torn down with the sword of God’s Word.

“Your husband and you are the best thing on the world wide web. Don’t ever think about stopping posting. You both are a blessing to Christianity. It’s an honour and privilege to read your posts. Thank you for giving us that chance.”

Let another man praise thee, and not thine own mouth; a stranger, and not thine own lips.
Proverbs 27:2

26 thoughts on “The Fruit of My Ministry

  1. Psalm 2:1 – Why do the heathen rage, and the people imagine a vain thing?

    Thank you so much for your ministry – it truly does change lives (because God’s Word always has the power to transform). I did not grow up in a home where Biblical principles were modeled but I knew that was the kind of family and marriage I wanted. It is so helpful to have somewhere to turn to know how to apply and live out God’s very best for our lives!

    1. God’s Word is the only thing that can truly transform lives for good, Kathryn, as you stated. I am so thankful that we believe it enough to obey it! God’s ways are perfect.

  2. Amen, a hundred times. There’s not one female blogger in a thousand (or male, for that matter, including pastors) who has the guts to say what you do, and it needs to be said. Thank you for your ministry.

  3. Amen. My marriage was decent but it is now wonderful thanks to your teachings. I am very grateful. Personally I’m extremely particular about the teachers I listen to and I don’t listen to women teachers for the most part. But I am beyond grateful to God that He has given us your teachings. Your love for the simplicity of His word and your tireless and daily articles are appreciated by me.

  4. I echo the sentiments of all those women who have commented today, Lori. I’m very thankful for your blog and the encouragement and wisdom you share. I am praying for you and your ministry. THANK YOU!!!

  5. Lori,
    You have been an encouraging voice and positive reminder of God’s ways. Often alone in a sea of feminists, just knowing women like me are out there gives me strength and courage when facing resistance. You also inspire me to stand up for God and not be afraid to go against the grain of popular culture and thinking. I am a modern woman, I am youthful, vibrant, and strong. I am full of life and joy while following God’s ways. I am not the handmaid, stepford, cowering, stodgy woman doormat as feminists would have me believe. I find quiet, dignified strength in God and his ways. Thank you for following his ways too….and being a beacon to those of us out here all alone!

    1. You’re welcome, Gwen. It actually takes a strong woman of God who is filled with the Holy Spirit to walk in His ways which are Truth. Others want to mock us and tear us down but these are weak women who know not the strength that comes from God alone. “On Christ the solid Rock I stand, all other ground is sinking sand.”

  6. I was shocked reading the critical comments on your post about women and safety. People are so misguided. You are speaking the truth for all of His children, and I am greatful..

    1. Thank you, Tay! I receive critical comments on almost everything I write but I have learned to not allow it to steal my joy nor keep me from doing what the Lord has asked me to do.

  7. Dear Lori
    I agree with all the lovely comments above. I found your ministry about three years ago. It was a time when I knew something has to change in my marriage because up to then I felt I was in competition with my husband, I felt he is not doing enough to help with chores around the house, we were arguing a lot and I realized I am not getting anywhere with my behavior. The more I nagged, the more my husband withdrew.

    At first I felt offended by your posts but your posts kept on stirring something inside me. I didn’t think I could submit to my husband since I was brought up in a secular, feminist environment and only found my way to Christ in my twenties. I started by controlling my emotions and I began to stop saying „but I think we should…“ every time my husband made a suggestion or decision. Reading more and more of your posts made me find joy in homemaking again, made me love serving my husband and children again. I began to actually enjoy and embrace my role as a wife, mother and homemaker and today my marriage is completely changed. My husband keeps on telling me, how he couldn’t be happier, we hold hands again, our bond is deeper than ever and I thank the Lord I found your blog.

    I am not on any other social media, I receive your posts by mail and enjoy reading every single one of them. I very rarely comment, so I think there could be many women like me whose lives you are changing and they are quietly grateful for your ministry. It’s just a shame that those disagreeing with you, can’t keep quiet and just scroll on instead of always voicing an opinion.

    Keep doing what you are doing Lori. You speak the truth and I truly appreciate your ministry

  8. Lori (my VT2),
    I couldn’t agree more with this dear lady, ““In truth, it’s not just one, indeed there are many women who are benefiting from your ministry because it’s foreign to most pulpits. The under shepherds are starving the sheep so this ministry is of paramount importance.” LET US PRAY TOGETHER: Father, we thank you for this dear woman of God, Lori Alexander whom you’ve chosen and set apart for Your glory! We ask that you would protect her and her family and that you would help her to stand fast in this dark world. Please, Lord, we pray that enormous fruit would continue to bear because of her loving boldness to proclaim Your truth! Please awaken the church elders and allow them to see their sin; in not addressing biblical manhood and womanhood as it should! We thank you for the work you are doing in “The Transformed Wife!” We love you God and thank you for the Scriptures that teach us to obey, we thank you for your Holy Spirit who guides and convicts us each day and we thank you God for your Son, Jesus Christ whom gives us Eternal Life. In Jesus Name we pray. Amen! You are loved, treasured and prayed for! Love to you!

  9. I love this blog, too. I get a lot of encouragement from it. Most of the time, it’s a safe space for women to learn. There are precious few safe spaces for us to learn, out in the world.
    My marriage has definitely been helped by the wisdom shared here.

  10. Truly only God’s teaching can ultimately change our lives and save our souls. How sad it is that most Churches are too afraid to teach God’s word when it challenges modern thinking or offends feminists.

  11. I couldn’t agree with these comments more! Since becoming a follower of your blog I have come home full time from working outside the home and now homeschool our children. Bliss is the only word I can use to describe our home life now. This is the way it should’ve always been! Please, keep on keeping on! To God be the glory!

  12. Even though you blocked me from commenting on your facebook page, I apologise if it was offensive. I appreciate your teaching and books but I think the problems started many years ago with the bad attitude of some single Christian women. They arrived like demons, not willing to learn, not willing to be submissive, certainly not quiet and gentle, they did not respect the leaders, and other things which I’m sure you are aware of. You could say, that while women like you are producing good fruit these other women are producing bad fruit.

    1. If you feel you have been unfairly blocked from my Facebook page, Heather, please email me with the name you use on Facebook and I will unblock you. I have had moderators help me, too, so they may have blocked you.

      Unfortunately, there are many young “Christian” women who aren’t being raised in the ways of the Lord. Parents must be diligent about teaching their daughters biblical womanhood!

      1. Thank you. The name on my facebook is, Heather Terry. Some of the details to confirm it’s me are. Married. Lives in London, United Kingdom. Joined on December 2016. I’ll be careful with what I write.

  13. For several years I had a strong yearning (urging?) to leave my life as a career woman and be at home. But I never felt I could justify it. My children are grown, so why wouldn’t I work outside the home? I conferred with other Christian women and even our Pastor about being a stay at home wife. Not one of them, NOT ONE, ever offered any encouragement. They saw no value in it since we are empty nesters now, and in fact criticized me for “putting all the financial burden” on my husband. In short, I was basically told I’d be a slacker and not pulling my share.

    I perused many many “Christian” websites, the same thing.

    My husband just kept saying the choice was mine. Unable to come up with any solid reason for leaving my job, I continued to work.

    Then something unthinkable happened. My husband suddenly became very ill. Life threateningly ill. He had several surgeries and lost 70 pounds in 4 months. I took leave of absence during this time to care for him. I cooked 3 healthy meals a day. I managed all his Dr appointments and medicines. We had to travel out of state to specialists. Miraculously my husband made a dramatic and full recovery. During this time I came across Lori’s blog and learned so much from her, and others, about how it is our God ordained role as women to be keepers of the home. Hallelujah!

    Needless to say, I did not go back to work. My full time assignment and purpose is to take care of my husband and relieve him of any undo burdens in managing our household.

    My husband quickly regained 30 pounds and is back at work….where he WANTS to be!

    Thank you Lori, and the rest of you Biblical ladies for helping me find my way toward Gods TRUE gift to us as women!

  14. Completely agree, you have taught me so much as a young wife and I am so grateful to you and to the Lord for helping me to find you. You help me realize and deal with my sin and help me to be a better wife.

    I’m wondering if you have ever considered posting your YouTube video audio as a podcast? I would love that format so I could listen in the car, while I do dishes etc.
    Thank you again for all you do.

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