The Shame of Public Nakedness
Written by Kenneth Wieske
A woman walked into my study a few days ago. She was nearly naked, wearing only a bra and panties.
There is just one woman in the world who, while dressed like this, can be around me: my wife. But the woman who walked into my study a few days ago was not my wife. I was very embarrassed.
She, however, was not embarrassed at all. Let’s call her: “Shameless.”
The reason Shameless was not embarrassed was because she had swallowed the lie of our modern society. This lie says the following: if the bra and panties are the same color and made of a fabric that can be used in water, then walking around in them is completely different than walking around in underwear because they are, after all, swimwear.
Shameless is a professing Christian, yet, because she has bought into this lie, she has no problem exposing her body to the whole world. I imagine she might be embarrassed to walk in the mall, or visit her grandparents, dressed only in her bra and panties. But for some reason, she does not see any problem in choosing a photo of herself dressed this way as her Facebook profile photo.
That’s how she came into my office: by my computer screen.
I have hundreds of “friends” on Facebook that I hardly know. I accept friend requests from anyone who professes to be Christian, because I want to expand my network of contacts so I can promote the work of the various Reformed organizations and institutions I work with.
However, when a contact posts things on Facebook that promote indecent thoughts, or attitudes or actions that are not Christian, I delete them immediately.
Three reasons:
Let me share with you the reasons why I deleted Shameless.
Her body belongs to her husband.
If she is not married, she must keep her body for her future husband (1 Cor 7:4). Her body is not to be exposed for the world to see, much less is to be displayed on my computer screen.
My passion belongs to my wife.
Seeing the body of another woman does not promote my sanctification or edify my marriage (Prov. 5:15-20; Job 31:1). God created man so that he experiences a very strong reaction when he sees the body of a woman. This reaction within marriage is beautiful and promotes true love. Outside of marriage it is shameful and brings destruction and sorrow.
In this world, mired as it is in immorality and sexual perversion, vigilance is necessary for a man to keep his sexual purity. When other women present themselves almost naked to him, that surely does not help in his fight against sin.
Public nakedness is a denial of Christ’s work.
When man fell into sin, his nakedness was exposed. God then gave clothes to cover the shame of Adam and Eve. An animal had to die so that their nakedness was covered. This was a foreshadowing of Christ’s work, in which He was exposed and naked on the cross, taking upon Himself our shame, and shedding his blood for us so we could be covered with the white robes of His righteousness.
The way we dress reflects something about our understanding of the Gospel. When Christian men and women expose their bodies in public, they are obscuring the manifestation of the power of Christ’s work in their lives – instead of dressing in decent apparel, with modesty and good sense, they mimic the world, which glories in its shame.
Conclusion:
Sadly, many readers will find this article too radical. Christian women can’t wear bikinis? Men should vigilantly avoid looking at such exposed women?
There’s a reason this seems radical: we’re so mired in worldliness that we don’t even notice it. Today’s worldly, superficial Christianity produces worldly, superficial Christians. However Christianity as taught by Christ and his apostles is a total transformation of life in all respects, accompanied by a radical commitment to holiness. The change in us is not meant to be a slight one – we are to be transformed into something else entirely: “Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come” (2 Cor 5:17a). Now that’s radical! And that is Christianity!
For many walk, of whom I often told you, and now tell you even weeping, that they are enemies of the cross of Christ,
whose end is destruction, whose god is their appetite, and whose glory is in their shame, who set their minds on earthly things.
Philippians 3:18, 19
Used with permission from Reformed Perspective
The original title was “Facebook and the 7th Commandment”
15 thoughts on “The Shame of Public Nakedness”
Spot on! The exact reason why my husband deleted is Facebook. He had so many friend requests from people in the church who had severely immodest pictures. So sad!
What do you think a Christian woman should wear? I try to stick to one piece suits, preferably ones with a bottom that looks like a small skirt, but even that doesn’t seem particularly modest to me. We have a lake behind the house and I don’t worry too much about that since it’s only ever just me and my husband who swim there. But I do wonder what I should be wearing at the beach. Even the one pieces I prefer, although better than bikinis, don’t seem modest enough sometimes. What swimwear type do you use for swimming in public places?
It is sad, Stephanie. I can’t imagine posting a picture of myself, even when I was young, in a bathing suit. I felt uncomfortable just walking around the beach in one so I usually covered up.
I wear a tankini top with board shorts so I am all covered up. I love wearing the board shorts since regular bathing suit bottoms always seemed immodest to me, even as a teenager.
That is what I wear too. I was so glad when they came out with shorts and tops, because I wore regular shorts and they do not do well in water. I don’t wear shorts in public, but my kids like to swim, so the board shorts are amazing.
Amen! This can’t be said often enough.
We’re in the process of seeking modest swimwear for myself and our girls. It’s out there! Here is one from whom we plan to buy this coming summer:
http://www.cuteandcovered.com/
Thanks for telling the truth on this matter!!
Those are so cute, Diana! They are cute little dresses that I bet your daughters will love.
I don’t even own a bikini these days. I did, once, but my views on modesty have changed, and I no longer find it acceptable for myself or my daughters (both pre-teen). I do wear a modest one-piece bathing suit, but with it I wear a long cover-up that is a big shirt that reaches mid-thigh. But I would never post a picture of myself wearing it on Facebook! Actually, I don’t post pictures of myself *at all* on Facebook – the one profile picture is it, and it’s just a smiling head shot.
The leaders of my church discourage people from having/using Facebook and this is one of the reasons why – it is impossible to control the content of what we see.
I wore them until I had children then I was convicted about wearing them since I didn’t want to model immodesty to them, KK. Interesting that your church discourages Facebook!
Diana, thank you for sharing this link! These are darling and I will be passing this information along to some friends with young girls. My girls are teens now and they choose the same sort of swimwear I have always worn; the tankini tops and board shorts, just as Lori mentions. Thanks for this guest post, Lori, it is spot on!
This has always bugged me. I don’t let my daughters wear bikinis and certainly wouldn’t. It’s the same as undies and a bra! EXACTLY.
I completely agree with this article! He is right-on! I am saddened, truly, when I see professing Christians wearing skimpy swimwear or just clothing in general (such as denim shorts that are as short as underwear!).
this is very true. i know i have pictures up where you can see a bit of cleavage but i crop my pics as much as possible to make sure i’m posting pictures that i would want my mother, my grandmother, and my daughter to see. of course i send my sisters silly pictures and things like that, but i don’t post these.
and my boyfriend would not want me to post any pictures like that! we have a friend who is married and his wife posted a picture of herself modeling on a motorcycle in lingerie on FB. i was so disgusted. they are married so why is she showing these pictures off?
this is also why i don’t understand the breastfeeding pictures. i’m in total support of a woman breastfeeding her child where ever and whenever in whatever manner she chooses. but i draw the line at taking a picture and then posting it publicly. i feel like this is just “look at me and what i’m doing”. i dont know why, but this bothers me
I found some great modest swinsuits on Amazon. They are like tunics and capris made of swimsuit material, and for a very reasonable price. I love them for my daughters and I.