Fighting the Women Seducers

Fighting the Women Seducers


Does the name Elizabeth Gilbert ring a bell? She is famous for writing the book Eat Love Pray with a movie about it.  Her book sold over ten million copies and women flocked to watch the movie. I never read the book or watched the movie but I heard about it like I am sure many of you have. She needed to “find herself” so she left her husband and went in search of meaning in her life. She supposedly found the “love of her life” and lived happily ever after. (She has divorced him because she figured out she is a lesbian and is living with her girlfriend.) I found all this out by reading another blog. It sure wasn’t something I went searching for!

In 2015, she wrote an article called Confessions of a Seduction Addict in which she shared the thrill she got from seducing men, even if they were married, to have affairs with her. She wrote, “Seduction is the art of coercing somebody to desire you, of orchestrating somebody else’s longings to suit your own hungry agenda. Seduction was never a casual sport for me; it was more like a heist, adrenalizing and urgent. I would plan the heist for months, scouting out the target, looking for unguarded entries. Then I would break into his deepest vault, steal all his emotional currency and spend it on myself.”

Then she told how she seduced the men and it reminded me of the chapter in Proverbs about the prostitute: “For the lips of the adulterous woman drip honey, and her seductive words are smoother than olive oil but in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave” (Proverbs 5:3-5).

Why am I writing about this woman who loves to seduce men, including married men? Because there’s other women out there like this. They love to destroy marriages. Guess who is behind all of this? It is the prince of the power of the air and if he can destroy marriages, he can destroy nations. What can we, as godly women, do who want to protect our husbands from women like this?

First of all, remember that you have no control over your husband or preventing this from ever happening but you sure can do all you can in your power to protect him and try to prevent it. I have and am mentoring women whose husbands have been seduced by these kinds of women but they are living out 1 Peter 3:1-6 as best as they can and trusting God to convict their husbands to come home. If you have a faithful husband, never take him for granted but continue to allow the Lord to mold you into His image. Be kind and loving towards your husband even if he is not always kind towards you. Pray for him daily to hate what is evil and cling to what is good. Pray that he will grow in the wisdom and the knowledge of the Lord and that God would put a hedge of protection around him.

Remember that when you are fighting for the sexual purity of your husband, you are engaging in a spiritual battle since you aren’t battling your husband or the many seducers out there but the enemy of your soul. You need to put on the armor of the Lord and fight it the way the Lord tells you to fight it (Ephesians 6:1-19) and remember that greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world.

Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.
Ephesians 6:11

20 thoughts on “Fighting the Women Seducers

  1. I am loving your blog, and cannot wait to read your book. Your writings sound much like my own thoughts, and experiences. There are men out there who have this same seducing spirit and can lead women away. The world diagnosis this as “Sex Addiction.”

    We must be vigilant to pray over ourselves, our spouses, and seek the leading of the Holy Spirit.

    Be Blessed

  2. The greatest evil to me is the selfishness of these women, not even caring about the children they are destroying when divorces result. They aren’t JUST trying to fill their insecurities, their destroying entire childhoods- and some people never recover.

  3. An adulterous woman consumes a man, then wipes her mouth and says, “What’s wrong with that?”

    Proverbs 30:20

  4. This is a great post! I’ve noticed that many of the pastor’s wives (at my church) are all in great shape (physically) as well as having a glow from the love of God in them. A few of these women who are my friends have stated that as their husbands are out travelling or leading worship services in the US or even in other countries, they know that there are women out there, such as what you wrote about, who have ulterior motives. Because of this they want to make sure they remain desirable to their husbands both physically and spiritually.
    Time to hit the treadmill. 😉
    Oh, I love the new blog site and can’t wait to read your new book!!! Congratulations!

  5. Thank you! This is true. Men are visual and women must stop fighting this and/or being disgusted by it and begin believing it and trying to do something about it. Most men don’t want their wives to look like Hollywood stars but they do appreciate them staying in as good as shape as possible, looking healthy, and not looking like a slob all the time at home.

  6. Excellent post!
    I tried to read that book, but just couldn’t finish it. And I fell asleep when I tried to watch that movie. I’m really not sure why it was so successful because it was certainly a boring read.

  7. Seduction is in the heart of EVERY woman [Gen3:16a] and available to her 24/7, yea, tempting her often.

    I had to look up Elizabeth Gilbert to view just what the face of destruction, of death looks like. Funny thing is, you can’t easily tell the difference between death and life at first glance. Men have to continually “prove all things” from the outside, ….but women have to continually “prove all things” from their inside.

    Gilbert states her heart well: “Seduction is …orchestrating somebody else ….to suit your own hungry agenda. Seduction was never a casual sport for me; it was ….urgent …I would …steal all his emotional currency and spend it on myself.” It was a critical part of her being.

    Now this does not sound much different than the words of Christian wives that have stopped to really examine their seducing destruction of their husbands. One husband explains about his wife: “She actually figured out the pattern at some point and came to me about it. She said she would get into a mood where SHE FELT ABSOULTELY COMPELLED TO PISS ME OFF. EVERY CELL IN HER BODY WAS TELLING HER SHE WOULD FEEL BETTER IF ONLY SHE PROVOKED A FIGHT. Then she would do it.”

    Or Rachel Smith at [I stumbled on this Lori looking for your site] – She was “WANTING TO PUNISH HIM” — her husband.

    That is the look of death, and it is on every beautiful face.

    “Such is the way of an adulterous woman; she eateth, and wipeth her mouth, and saith, I have done no wickedness.” Prov 30:20.

    That sounds just like Gilbert. But God has a remedy for this seductive nature in every women, if they desire Him. He is quick to forgive those that turn from their ways and regularly strive to keep His commandments.

  8. Sadly, I have a family member who is this kind of woman and it is heartbreaking to the core when I hear her boasting about it. She has caused divorces and broken up homes with children in it.

    One of the divorces she caused was between the man she was having an affair with and his Christian wife (he claimed to be a Christian and was serving in a ministry at church, but I don’t believe he was one). They had three young children and she seduced him, slept with him, stole his heart, and he left his wife and kids for her…right before she rejected him and said she was “over” him. She wanted the “trophy” of knowing she was seductive enough to cause a married “Christian” man and father to be willing to abandon his family for her. She especially loved that this happened with a man she thought was a Christian because she has a disdain for those of us who walk in truth. She smirked and she loved the attention.

    When asked how she felt comfortable having an affair and breaking up a family, she said, “Sure, it’s not IDEAL….but you can’t help who you fall in love with.”

    I have prayed many nights for this man’s wife and children (him as well). The wife was filled with so much sorrow, yet she remained faithful to the Lord and compassionate and forgiving. What a precious wife he lost.

  9. I wonder why it was so popular if it was so boring. Women are searching for answers everywhere except the Truth and they won’t find fulfillment until they know and love Jesus.

  10. I agree that all of us should be mindful of our health and to certain degree how we look. But my thinking has changed over the yrs. concerning my looks and the potential unfaithfulness of my spouse. I am 65 and I continue to dress modestly and have good grooming habits. When I was young I was caught up in trying to look my best and lived with the fear of my husband being unfaithful. I read many books on being the best Christian wife I could be. Now I see things much differently as I now believe that adultery has more to do with the offender than the offender’s spouse. I do not feel responsible for his sin and thankfully I am over thinking that if I would just do this or be this then I would be the “perfect wife.” I have a desire to be pleasing to God minus the pressure of what I need to do and what I need to be to be attractive or appealing to my husband. The desire to please God covers it all.

  11. Yes, we are transformed by renewing our minds with Truth and when we believe He makes us new creatures in Christ, thankfully. God is good at making beauty out of ashes if we only submit to His will for us. Thank you Dave.

  12. This is tragic TJFW. What destruction she is causing not only on herself, but everyone else involved, especially the children and even grandchildren of this family. Thankfully, God hears your prayers and hopefully, will one restore this marriage to wholeness.

  13. I have never lived in fear of Ken cheating, Linda, even though he traveled and was gone half of the year. I am not sure why but I knew we were committed to each other for life.

    God does command us, however, to learn to please our husband so we must do this since this pleases the Lord.

  14. You can’t give what you don’t have. Prostitutes and seducers may not empathy or sympathy or compassion for the other people involved. They may not be able to, if they were never given to start with. I’m saying the wife needs to be the one to extend it. But it is what is.

    Re. Eat, Pray Love. If it is like you all say it is, I agree. That is just stupid. People take things too far. If you want to find yourself, find yourself a hobby like painting or take college literature classes or volunteer work. You can do something for yourself and be happy without creating a tidal wave of destruction.

  15. If a man is truly committed to his wife it doesn’t matter who he meets, he won’t break that vow. It is a man’s decision if he cheats on his wife. Put the blame where it belongs.

  16. Just wanted to add that when I was younger my focus on being a Christian wife took time away from the study of scripture. I have found that the study of scripture encompasses not only being a wife but my relationship with others and the totality of living a Christian life. That is what I mean by saying “God covers it all.” And I believe that scripture teaches that each one of us will be held accountable for our sins. A man’s straying eyes and possible infidelity is something going on with his character and if he is a Christian his relationship with God. Pleasing God creates a pleasing wife. Even though this post is about the seductive woman I believe we as Christian women can also be seduced by the unrelenting media hype on how we look, how we can affair proof our marriage, etc. In contrast God’s word brings sanity and balance in all areas of our life.

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