The Grave Trouble With Women’s Conferences
Recently, I listened to some of the women speakers at Charlie Kirk’s women’s leadership conference this past weekend. I’ve decided that I just don’t think it’s right for women to stand behind a pulpit or anything like that in front of a group of people and preach, teach, or anything like this. There’s just no woman in the Bible who did this. There’s no command for women to do this.
When I began teaching biblical womanhood, we met in a woman’s home in a large circle, and we discussed everything together. I would begin the conversation and the woman would add in their questions or remarks. And even on social media, that’s what’s happening. I teach something and then people underneath me ask me questions or make remarks or comments. I’m not standing in the front of a large group and just teaching.
How can these women be keepers at home if they’re out doing that, and it’s led to a huge explosion of female preachers in the churches, politicians, etc. I tend to take God‘s commands literally, and I do believe he wants us to be keepers at home, caring for our husband and children, homes, elderly parents, and women in the churches.
In pondering this, I was trying hard to recall any women in the Bible who left their homes to do what these women in the conference are doing. Here’s what the Bible says about Deborah:
4 And Deborah, a prophetess, the wife of Lapidoth, she judged Israel at that time.
5 And she dwelt under the palm tree of Deborah between Ramah and Bethel in mount Ephraim: and the children of Israel came up to her for judgment.
6 And she sent and called Barak the son of Abinoam out of Kedeshnaphtali, and said unto him, Hath not the LORD God of Israel commanded, saying, Go and draw toward mount Tabor, and take with thee ten thousand men of the children of Naphtali and of the children of Zebulun? (Judges 4)
She dwelt under a tree, the people came to her, and she helped settle disputes. Barak was the one to lead and be in authority, not her. His name is written in the Hebrews Hall of Fame, not her.
What were other women in the Bible known for? Being married, having children, working hard in their homes, ministering to the needs of others, and older women are to teach younger women to be godly women. BUT, always silent in the churches and none were leaders or in authority except for Jezebel in Revelation 3. The harlots were loud and their feet are not at home.
So, whatever you decide to believe on this issue, God is clear what our role should be as godly women. Our families need us more than anyone else does.
I was thinking of what would be good and beneficial conferences. I think they’re ones where the entire family goes like a homeschooling conference where godly children could meet other godly children. Maybe older marriageable age children finding spouses. Older women meeting with younger women and their children and talking about biblical womanhood together. Meetings where the men or couples share how they homeschool or how they raise their children, and what materials they found to be best. Maybe some pastors (men) preaching some great sermons to the families about living godly lives. Sounds good to me!
I attended women’s Bible studies and conferences almost my entire adult life up until about ten years ago. There’s only one that made a HUGE impact upon me, and it was the one the Michael Pearl gave on Hebrews. It radically changed all of our lives. My children will, to this day, quote things Michael taught that week. Debi had a one hour session where only women met with her, and we talked about her book. Most of her grown and married children were there. We were able to meet them all. Michael held a Sunday morning service, and I remember thinking, “This is how all church services should be!”
I used to love Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth. Her old books were right on, but then I watched a shift take place. She changed her mind about women being keepers at home and preaching in the churches as long as elders approve. Seeing women gain a platform seems to harm them. They grow lukewarm to biblical truth since solid biblical truth offends most women deeply. I know. I’ve been asked to travel and speak. I have no desire to do this and don’t believe I should. My first priorities are my husband, children, grandchildren, and home. If I lose any of these, I have lost everything.
I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1 Timothy 5:14
2 thoughts on “The Grave Trouble With Women’s Conferences”
I recently began attending a women’s Bible Study and I’m not sure if it was a wise decision. I was looking for Christian fellowship but I can see how it may have been a misstep to attend. Do you have any thoughts on this Lori? Thank you 🙏
Cara, this is what Women’s Bible studies should be: Have any of you ever attended a Women’s Bible study where they taught you to submit to and obey your husband and what this looks like? How about winning a disobedient husband by living in subjection to him with godly behavior? Or, being a keeper at home so they don’t blaspheme God’s Word? Or, learn in silence with subjection in the churches? Or, adorn yourself with a meek and quiet spirit? I wonder how popular a Women’s Bible studies that taught these things would be.
Lori I really like the point you make in this article. The church I attend has an annual ladies day, which consists of a female guest speaker teaching. Honestly after going this year I don’t feel like going again I also noticed it gave alot of the women from our church and other congregations opportunities to gossip, in a very unkind and unnecessary way. Thoughts on this? I have began to feel like women tend to gossip more in settings when men are not present.
Hi Liv, There’s no biblical mandate for women to gather in a church and be taught by another woman unless it’s solely on biblical womanhood as God carefully outlines and explains who is qualified to teach this in Titus 2:3 and what they are to teach in Titus 2:4,5. Only biblically qualified elders/pastors (men) are to teach in the churches everything else.