Feminism Shouldn’t Get All of the Blame

Feminism Shouldn’t Get All of the Blame

Feminism shouldn’t get all of the blame as to why many women are the way they are these days. After all, Eve was the one who went against God’s will and ate the forbidden fruit. She rebelled against the authority in her life and went her own way. Let’s just call it what it is – sin.

The Bible was written LONG before feminism reared it’s ugly head. In His Word, we are given verses about quarrelsome and contentious wives. We are told that a wise woman builds her home up and a foolish one tears it down with her own hands. We are also told that finding a good wife is far above rubies and are asked, “Who can find a virtuous woman?” (Proverbs 31: 10). Godly, virtuous women are rare, but there will always be a remnant.

I am sure all throughout the generations since time began, women wanted to rule their husbands as we are told in Genesis 3:16. Our natural desire certainly isn’t wanting to please and serve our husbands. No, our desire is to control them. If you are as old as me, our grandmothers didn’t grow up in feminism. They knew they would probably marry young, have children, and guide their homes. Divorces were rare, but many marriages probably weren’t considered “happy.”

Many women simply stayed married because they depended upon their husbands to provide and protect their families. They needed their husbands. I bet in their old age, they were thankful they stuck it out together since studies have proven that the majority of couples who divorce would have been happier five years later had they stayed married rather than divorcing.

Feminism did do away with this need for husbands. Women are now taught to be strong, independent, and free. They can do it all alone and even slaughter their unborn babies in their wombs. They can seek higher education and have careers, thus fulfilling their “dreams.” Little knowing that careers don’t satisfy anyone long term. God created women to have children and He wants them to raise their own children. In our old age, we then have grandchildren to hug and cuddle with.

I believe the foundational problem with women these days is the lack of older women teaching the younger women what God commands that they teach them in Titus 2:3-5. What popular female Bible teachers are teaching these things on a consistent basis? Very few. The second reason is that few young women were modeled a godly marriage by their parents but this again stems from older women not teaching younger women biblical womanhood.

If you are serious about learning about biblical womanhood and becoming the woman that God wants you to be, I encourage you to buy my book Biblical Womanhood: A Study Guide and learn all about it from God’s Word. Yes, you will need a Bible handy. There’s nothing better to convict, challenge, and give you the strength to obey than to study Gods Word for yourself.

Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
Genesis 3:16

20 thoughts on “Feminism Shouldn’t Get All of the Blame

  1. Yes! This is why your site is such a blessing. Very very few older women teach the younger women . Often you’ll see younger women trying to step in and do the teaching to others but there usually isn’t a lot of wisdom with them. Currently a lot of older women don’t even know how to teach the younger to love their husbands and children and be busy at home because they themselves never practiced it. There is a great void.

  2. Agreed. Although femenism certainly hasn’t made the situation any easier, that’s for sure. It’s just convenient to blame.

  3. Yes! This is why I love your blog. I certainly don’t have a good example from my own mother, who cheated on my father multiple times and 20 years ago, when I was a teenager, moved in with her latest conquest.

    My Nan was the perfect example of a Godly woman who stuck by her man no matter what (and she had trials!) but she has been dead for 7 years.

    My own church is great, but doesn’t encourage women to stay in abusive marriages. They have supported me when I’ve stayed and battled through and when we’ve separated.

    I think feminism has changed from what it originally was – choices for women. These days it seems to be about hating men and no good can ever come from that.

      1. One that follows the bible?

        Marriages are to be saved and honoured according to Christs instruction. Abuse is not adultery which is the only get out of marriage card offered by Jesus.

  4. We’ve been reading through Matthew as a family, and we came to ch 21 where it says that Jesus lodged in Bethany, most likely with His friends, Lazarus, Mary and Martha. We learned that Bethany means ‘house of misery’. For Jesus, Bethany wasn’t a place of misery because his dear friends lived there. Better still, as soon as Jesus was in Bethany, this place was no longer a place of misery when He was present. Likewise, in our homes, they won’t be places of misery if Jesus is present. He can and will transform lives and homes as He did for Lazarus, Mary and Martha if we simply yield ourselves to Him. Our marriages don’t need to be misery. They can be blessed beyond measure with Jesus as the center!

  5. Dear Lori and Friends, Sam Powell preaches from the KJB and he isn’t afraid of preaching on for-real marriage. From the Bible, he talks about women being the “weaker vessel.” In other words, if wifey is not only working full-time and taking care of the housework, and even mowing the lawn, it’s only a matter of time before that wineglass breaks.

    We may think of broken women as mousy and servile. But broken women can become the opposite: tough feminists, who cuss, get in barfights and fix their own motorcycle.

    1. Yes! Broken women are extremely capable and are often quite masculine because they have to be – they’ve learnt that nobody else is in their corner and helping them so they have to do it themselves.
      I have been there. I can do pretty much everything because I’ve had to – but given the choice, I don’t want to. I don’t like it. But I can do it if I have to. If the choice is being masculine and independent or watching my children starve, it’s no contest.
      But most women, given the right environment, embrace feminity and thrive in it. We’d gladly let our man take care of those tasks for us. And the more he fills his role, the softer we become – if we choose to.

  6. The fundamental problem is that elders in the church are not teaching elder women to teach the younger women…

    Look at what the apostle Paul wrote to Titus, and in him addresses all elders:

    “You, however, must teach what is appropriate to sound doctrine. […] Likewise, teach the older women […] Then they can urge the younger women […] These, then, are the things you should teach. Encourage and rebuke with all authority.” Titus 2

    Where are the elders teaching this? Where are the elders encouraging such behavior and rebuking disobedience?

    1. Paul, perhaps it’s because these elders and pastors are puppets and their wives are the puppeteers. Can a pastor whose wife is in full time work outside the home, teach Biblical womanhood? Can a pastor whose wife is on birth control speak up about Biblical womanhood? Can a pastor who lives in fear of losing his office in the event of a divorce say anything to upset his wife?

  7. Exactly, women are not the whole blames, im proud my wife has a college degree, she was a debt free, tattoo free virgin like I was when we married. I like that she is willing to do the hard work, but I make sure she doesn’t have to. She can go from jeans, work boots , pebbles bun, covered in dirt, to a hot sexy girl ready for a date after she fixes up. I like her looking both ways. She will be teaching our daughter to take care of herself, get and education that is paid for that you can get from home online , as well as be a Godly wife and mother. My dad died when I was so young that mom had to raise us the rest of the way on her own. We just lost my wife’s dad to a tragic accident couple summers ago, my MIL was totally lost. If it wasn’t for my wife and her sister taking the first coordinating steps to get the churches involved and other help she would have frozen to death last winter. After that, we choose to continue my wife’s education so she can work from home and bring in a supplement income. I could be gone just a quick as my FIL, I will not let my wife and daughter end up in the situation that my MIL was in or that my wife grew up in.

      1. Yes, of course we helped them. Agreed, it is the churches job to help widows. It was also my wife and her sister that took charge for the initial contacts. My wife was still physical recovering from having baby. And then the pastors’ daughters who are married did a lot of the manual labor with the men. They are only in their 20’s. They know how to use all kinds of saws and tools. They are also married, with college degrees that are paid for

  8. Lori, as always, you’ve hit the mark dead-center. It isn’t just feminism, it’s the perversion of chivalry that lead to it. I ran across a fascinating quote from Dr. R. Albert Mohler Jr. (President of The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary) , and I’d love your comment. He said, “Put most bluntly, I believe that God means for a man to be civilized, directed, and stimulated toward marital faithfulness by the fact that his wife will freely give herself to him sexually only when he presents himself as worthy of her attention and desire.” This attitude serves to make men little more than the servants of a woman’s whims and their irrational expectations. It’s time for men to stand up to their wives, and say “enough!” But we won’t because we would be excoriated by both the world and the church for being bullies, and that is diabolical by design.

  9. most people were happily married before feminism the nation was a christian nation and even unbelievers were traditional in their marriage it was the good old days and the nation was blessed by God until satan came with this new false doctrine of feminism and it ruined all.

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