Written By Pastor Aaron Brummitt
Men and women were not created equal in every aspect and are distinctly different emotionally and biologically. Based upon these differences, God gave each of the two sexes well-defined roles in the home and the church. The purpose of this article is to awaken God’s people to what the scripture teaches on this subject and to restore the original intent of the Creator.
PART 1: BIOLOGICAL INEQUALITY
Beginning with the biological wiring of men and women, we find three distinctions. First and foremost, the average woman is physically weaker than the average man. The Apostle Peter writes, “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the WEAKER VESSEL” (I Peter 3:7). According to the National Strength and Conditioning Association, “Women generally produce about two-thirds the amount of total strength and applied force that men produce.” Every study, to date, has concluded that muscular strength and physical stamina is higher, on average, in men as opposed to women.
Second, the Lord created man and woman with different biological organs for reproduction. God gave only the woman the great honor and privilege of bearing children and nurturing them from her own body. The sexes will never be physically equal in this area. That is divinely unchangeable. The scripture says, “I will therefore that the younger women marry, BEAR CHILDREN, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully” (1 Timothy 5:14).
Third, we find that the woman was created to be more emotional than the man. Scientific studies have proven this time and time again. For example, The Journal of Neuroscience found that “women rate positive and negative images as more emotionally stimulating than men, and that their brains are more active than men’s when viewing negative pictures.” Furthermore, Annette Milnik, of the University of Basel, discovered in her studies, “Women are more likely to develop major depression, anxiety disorder, and PTSD, all of which are related to emotional dysregulation.” Women are emotional creatures. They are naturally more driven by their feelings than by logic.
PART 2: ROLE INEQUALITY
Due to the distinct differences in physical strength, reproduction, and emotions, God has given men and women unique roles in the home and the church. The scripture teaches us, in the first two chapters of Genesis, the woman was made for the man, and not man for the woman. “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him” (Genesis 2:18 ). The Apostle Paul writes, “Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man” (I Corinthians 11:9). The word “helpmeet” in Hebrew is the word ezer neged, which literally means “worthy helper,” “proper helper,” or “well-equipped helper.” It is the woman’s divine purpose in life to fulfill this role unto her husband.
The first sin, ever committed by humanity, was committed by the woman when she listened to the serpent and not her husband. Paul writes, “But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was NOT DECEIVED, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression” (I Timothy 2:12-14). Christian author, Debi Pearl writes, “Satan could have tempted [Adam]. But Satan waited – waited for the creation of the weaker vessel.” She goes on to write, “Satan knew that the man could not be [easily] deceived, but the woman could. So, when she drew near to the tree, he convinced her that life would be better if she sought the higher state of being, ‘like the gods’ – gaining spiritual insight into the nature of good and evil.”
EVE WAS DECEIVED IN THREE WAYS:
1. She followed her flesh in desiring the tree for its food properties
2. She succumbed to its beauty, desiring it for its pleasant appearance. She did not follow logic; she followed her sensibilities.
3. She wanted deeper spiritual insights than those provided by God.
After Eve was deceived and tasted of the forbidden fruit, she gave to her husband and he ate also. Due to their sin and disobedience, both fell into spiritual death.
After the Fall, God firmly and protectively set up the gender roles for humanity. In Genesis 3, God said to the woman: “I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy DESIRE SHALL BE to thy husband, and he SHALL RULE over thee.”
The word “rule” in Hebrew is the word mashal. It literally means, to have dominion, to reign, to rule, to have power over. God’s divine plan is for the husband to have dominion over, to reign over, to rule over, and to have power over his wife. When that order is reversed, the husband and wife become the very antitheses of God’s plan. Their marriage becomes fingernails on the chalkboard of God’s holiness.
PART 3: GENDER ROLES IN THE HOME AND FAMILY
According to the scriptures, the woman is commanded by the Lord to obey her husband and be in subjection to him. As Christ is the head of the man, so also the man is the head of the woman in all things.
I Corinthians 11:3, But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the HEAD OF THE WOMAN is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
Ephesians 5:22-24, Wives, SUBMIT YOURSELVES unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the HEAD OF THE WIFE, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church IS SUBJECT unto Christ, so LET THE WIVES be to their own husbands IN EVERY THING.
Colossians 3:18, Wives, SUBMIT YOURSELVES unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.
Titus 2:4-5, That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, OBEDIENT TO THEIR OWN HUSBANDS, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
I Peter 3:1, Likewise, ye wives, BE IN SUBJECTION to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
I Peter 3:5-6, For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being IN SUBJECTION unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, CALLING HIM LORD: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
In the Greek, the word “submit” is the word hupotasso, which literally means “to obey, to place yourself under another, to allow yourself to be subdued by another, to subject yourself unto another.” Consequently, the wife is to obey her husband. She is to place herself under the leadership of her husband. She is to allow herself to be subdued by him, and she is to be subject unto him. According to the word of God, as the “church IS SUBJECT unto Christ, so LET THE WIVES be to their own husbands IN EVERY THING.” When a wife or husband refuses to follow this pattern in scripture, they are soiling the beautiful illustration of Christ and His church.
From Genesis to Revelation, God’s word does not bend on this topic. God intends the husband to rule the home, and the wife and children to be in subjection to his leadership. This apparent gender inequality is not to degrade women, but exists rather to bring honor to each gender uniquely.
A WIFE IS HONORED BY GOD WHEN SHE:
1. Bears children (1 Timothy 5:14).
2. Is a keeper at home and guides the house (Proverbs 31:27; Titus 2:4-5; I Timothy 5:14).
3. Has a meek and quiet spirit and is discreet (I Peter 3:4; Titus 2:5).
4. Is chaste and dresses in modest apparel (Titus 2:5; I Timothy 2:9).
5. Submits to her husband (Ephesians 5:22-24; Colossians 3:18; I Peter 3:1).
6. Is taught of her husband (I Corinthians 14:35).
7. Reverences her husband (Ephesians 5:33).
THE HUSBAND IS HONORED BY GOD WHEN HE:
1. Works hard and provides for his family (Genesis 3: 17-19; I Timothy 5:8).
2. Protects his family (Psalms 82:4; I Timothy 5:8).
3. Is bold and lifts up his voice for the truth (Isaiah 58:1; Matthew 3:3; Acts 7:51-52, Acts 13:46).
4. Does not lust over immodest women (Matthew 5:28; Job 31:1).
5. Rules over his wife and children (Genesis 3:16; Ephesians 5:22-24; Colossians 3:18; I Peter 3:1).
6. Teaches his wife and family the word of God (I Corinthians 14:35; Deuteronomy 6).
7. Loves his wife like Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25,33; Colossians 3:19).
It is impossible to be a genuine Christian (a Christ-like person) and reject the principles of Christ. Any doctrine that goes against the Word of God is the doctrine of devils. Furthermore, the modern feminist uprising and the neutering of men is the fuel of Hell to destroy the home and the very fabric of society. Even worse, gender perversion is a satanic doctrine designed to create a spiritual mutiny against God’s ordained plan.
PART 4: GENDER ROLES IN THE CHURCH AND MINISTRY
The distinct roles of men and women are not only found in the home, but also in the church.
I Corinthians 14:33-35, For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints. Let your women KEEP SILENCE IN THE CHURCHES: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law. And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.
I Timothy 2:10-14, But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works. Let the woman LEARN IN SILENCE with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to USURP AUTHORITY over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.
Based on these two passages, it is very clear that godly women should never usurp the authority of men or teach them in the church. Both of these passages speak directly to the heresy of adult women teaching adult men. According to I Corinthians 14, it is confusion in the church and a shame to the woman. The commandment of scripture is, “But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to USURP AUTHORITY over the man, but to be in silence.” Consequently, the idea of a woman pastor is an oxymoron. It is never a woman’s responsibility to teach men the word of God, it is always godly men’s responsibility. There are zero instances in the New Testament Church where women taught men the word of God by themselves.
Furthermore, we find zero instances where women prophesied the word of God to men, practiced street preaching, traveled as evangelists, or led church services. Instead the Bible shows 100 percent of all preaching was performed by men. We can look at the preaching of John the Baptist, the preaching of Jesus, the preaching of the Apostles, Pentecost, the Trial of Stephen, Mars Hill, and countless other examples. Every time there is preaching, men are the mouth pieces of God. The pattern of the New Testament is, without exception, men preaching the word.
The only instance we find of a woman “crying” aloud and “preaching,” is the demon possessed woman in the city of Philippi, “And it came to pass, as we went to prayer, a certain damsel possessed with a spirit of divination met us, which brought her masters much gain by soothsaying: The same followed Paul and us, and CRIED, saying, THESE MEN ARE THE SERVANTS OF THE MOST HIGH GOD, WHICH SHEW UNTO US THE WAY OF SALVATION. And this did she many days. But Paul, being grieved, turned and said to the spirit, I command thee in the name of Jesus Christ to come out of her. And he came out the same hour” (Acts 16:16-18).
Interestingly enough, when the devil left her, she stopped being a street preacher. A close look at this story shows everything she was preaching was true, and yet she was still full of the devil. The dark spirit inside her had changed her feminine nature from a discreet, meek, and quiet spirit to a loud and obnoxious presence. Solomon writes, “And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of an harlot, and subtil of heart. SHE IS LOUD and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house: Now is she without, now in the streets, and lieth in wait at every corner” (Proverbs 7:10 -12).
God never designed a woman to be a preacher. The word “preach” in the Greek is the word kerusso, which means “to herald, as a public crier, especially divine truth – the gospel.” God designed men with a stronger voice to handle situations that require being heard at great distances. For example, military commanders, in war time, are required to be heard over the sound of battle and at great lengths.
Edwin Vose Sumner, a general during the Civil War, had such a booming voice that he could be heard a quarter mile away, during the roar of the muskets. Preachers, such as, George Whitfield were said to be able to be heard at a half a mile, while holding outdoor revival meetings. In Matthew 14, Christ preached to five thousand men plus women and children. In Acts 4, Peter preached to over five thousand men gathered at the temple in Jerusalem. Biologically, God created men with a stronger voice to be the heralds for heaven. Incidentally, the pattern of the New Testament is men preaching publically, while women are listening in silence (unless they have a demon). There are no exceptions to this pattern in scripture.
PART 5: WOMEN SPREADING THE GOSPEL
It is clear in the Bible, God does allow a woman to help her husband witness to other men.
Acts 18:24-26, And a certain Jew named Apollos, born at Alexandria, an eloquent man, and mighty in the scriptures, came to Ephesus. This man was instructed in the way of the Lord; and being fervent in the spirit, he spake and taught diligently the things of the Lord, knowing only the baptism of John. And he began to speak boldly in the synagogue: whom when AQUILA AND PRISCILLA had heard, THEY took him unto them, and expounded unto him the way of God more perfectly.
One-on-one evangelism is the kind of ministry Priscilla did alongside her husband. If a woman does not have a husband, she should work with the support and assistance of her pastor and the church elders.
Acts 20:28, Take heed therefore unto yourselves, and to all the flock, over the which the Holy Ghost hath made you OVERSEERS, to feed the church of God, which he hath purchased with his own blood.
Hebrews 13:17, Obey them that have the RULE OVER YOU, and submit yourselves: for they watch for your souls, as they that must give account, that they may do it with joy, and not with grief: for that is unprofitable for you.
I Timothy 5:17, Let the ELDERS THAT RULE well be counted worthy of double honour, especially they who labour in the word and doctrine.
I emphasize the importance of a single woman having a proper authority in her life. Without a husband, or a godly father, a single woman needs to submit to the protection of her church elders.
There is no scriptural allowance for a woman to override her meek and quiet spirit to win a soul. When Priscilla worked with her husband Aquila to give Apollos the word of the Lord, she was working as a helpmeet to her husband. She was not usurping her God given authority, and she was not crying aloud as a public herald.
PART 6: WOMEN TEACHING WOMEN AND CHILDREN
According to the word of God, women are instructed to teach other women how to be godly. Paul writes, “The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; that they MAY TEACH the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, THAT THE WORD OF GOD BE NOT BLASPHEMED” (Titus 2:3-5).
Women teachers are given the sober task of teaching the next generation of ladies to be feminine. According to Paul, such teachers must be holy in their walk with the Lord. Their primary purpose must be to destroy feminism and any other humanistic ideology that violates the gender roles of scripture. Their message must be, if a woman is not sober, does not love her family, is not discreet, does not live chaste, is not a keeper at home, refuses to be obedient to her husband… she is blaspheming God’s Holy Word. Additionally, a woman who neglects this message and teaches women to rebel against scripture is a Jezebel in disguise (Revelation 2:20).
Lastly, Women are never forbidden from teaching children (In Jewish culture 1-12 ages).
Proverbs 6:20, My son, keep thy father’s commandment, and forsake not the LAW OF THY MOTHER:
Proverbs 29:15, The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth HIS MOTHER to shame.
Proverbs 31:1. The words of king Lemuel, the prophecy THAT HIS MOTHER TAUGHT HIM.
I Timothy 5:10, Well reported of for good works; if she have BROUGHT UP CHILDREN, if she have lodged strangers, if she have washed the saints’ feet, if she have relieved the afflicted, if she have diligently followed every good work.
Based upon the scriptures before mentioned, a woman who teaches children, must be careful to not usurp her husband’s authority or the authority of the church elders. She should do this task soberly and in the fear of the Lord.
PART 7: CONCLUSION
In conclusion, there is much confusion in the world today about gender roles. Satan has worked hard to raise up an army of feminists and counterfeit “christians” to blaspheme the word of God. The demon of divination and the spirit of Jezebel are both hard at work teaching women to follow many false doctrines. Tragically, these spirits are seducing the next generation of young ladies to usurp the authority of the man, cast off their God given role as keepers at home, and become street preachers, woman pastors, and New Age theologians.
The Bible gives us the destructive end of these women. “Let not thine heart decline to her ways, go not astray in her paths. For she hath cast down many wounded: yea, many strong men have been slain by her. Her house is the way to hell, going down to the chambers of death.” (Proverbs 7:25-27). The true church must cast off this hellish scheme and become the pure bride Christ intended it to be. The cost of further rebellion and forsaking the Lord is too high a price to pay. For the word of God declares, “The wicked shall be turned into hell, and all the nations that forget God” (Psalms 9:17).