God is a Patriarchal God
God is a patriarchal God. He set up husbands to be head of their wives. The wives are commanded to submit to and obey their husbands. Every great institution on this earth has one leader. Marriage is no different. Two heads create a monster with contention and disunity. God created men to be the ones in authority over their home for unity and peace. When wives obey God in this area, they will see the blessings of obedience to God. Everyone longs for peace. God and His ways are the only way to peace.
Since men are the leaders in their homes, is it always their fault when their marriages fall apart? No. Women, unfortunately, initiate up to 80 percent of the divorces these days. We are told in God’s Word that a wise woman builds up her home but a foolish one tears it down with her own hands. There’s a good reason for the verses in Proverbs warning men about quarreling and contentious wives.
Husbands have no ability to control their wives or make them love them. Yes, they can try but it doesn’t work. This is why God’s commands for the wives to submit, obey, and love their husbands is to the wives, not to husbands. God wants the wives to willingly follow their husbands’ lead. He wants us to obey Him.
God also wants older women to teach the young women to love their husbands. He also wants them to teach the young women to be obedient to their husbands (Titus 2:3-5) so they don’t blaspheme God’s Word. This doesn’t come naturally to young women. No, in fact, they rebel and are repulsed by this idea yet many will happily go off to their jobs and submit to and obey their bosses. They value their jobs and paycheck over the love of God and their husbands, sadly.
God’s original design is for women to be their husbands’ help meet. This is good and none of these commands to women are oppressive as we are taught by feminists, even by many in the churches. They are good, because God is good. Instead of rebelling against God being a patriarchal God and putting men in authority positions, rejoice, knowing that this is God’s will.
Feminists try to convince you how evil God’s ways are but they are deceived. When you love the Lord, you will love and willingly accept His ways. Remember, with authority comes much accountability. Pray for your husband in his leadership position and make it as easy as possible for him to lead you and your children.
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Ephesians 5:23
11 thoughts on “God is a Patriarchal God”
God is a patriarchal God no matter how much women want or try to change that.
God put the husband in charge of the wife and children.
That is what God set up as His “chain of command”.
God says that a husband can “null and void” a wife’s promise or vow.
Can you hear most women’s response to that “garbage” nowadays?
VERY FEW women nowadays want their husband to be in authority over them.
MOST women look to the government as their god and as a husband.
The government requires no accountability of her.
The government will give the woman everything she demands.
The government never tells her no.
The government never wants anything in return from her (yet).
You say the government isn’t your god and husband???
Why is it that you always pick up the phone and dial 911 or a lawyer when your husband doesn’t do what you want?
I’m not happy….
I don’t love him any more…
I changed my mind about the vows for a lifetime with him…
Many of the older women are teaching the younger women…….
But they aren’t teaching them God’s word.
They teach them Satan’s word….
Quote = There’s a good reason for the verses in Proverbs warning men about quarreling and contentious wives.
I can remember at least 2 different verses about that.
When God says something, we should be paying attention.
When He repeats something, we should be paying extra close attention.
Quote = Husbands have no ability to control their wives or make them love them.
That is so true.
I do not want a wife that I have to force her to love me or make her do things.
God is the same way.
He made us with free will, that we can choice what we do.
God could of made us without free will.
God could of made us so that we would always obey Him and love Him, but He didn’t.
A wife’s love for her husband is better when? When it is freely given? Or if it was a “forced love?
A little off topic here. Okay, way off topic.
Maybe Lori would do a post on this.
With the “virus” and the requirements of wearing a mask and the 2nd round of looming house arrests, er I mean lockdowns.
How does a man go about meeting a woman with those conditions?
Maintaining 6ft “social distance” and screaming through a mask to talk is not working.
Suggesting talking without a mask is taboo – government god commands the mask.
At least that weeds out women I don’t want in my life.
The remnant of real Christians is very small.
The OT prophet complained he was the only one left.
God said He still had 7,000 left that had not bent the knee to Baal.
Some rough math here.
Israel’s population is 8,000,000
8,000,000 divided by 7,000 is 1 person out of every 1,142 people.
US population is 320,000,000
320,000,000 divided by 1,142 is 280,210
Roughly 50% of those would be women = 140,105
It seems that my odds of finding a needle in a haystack or winning a cash lotto of $100,000,000 are much higher than me finding a Christian woman.
Please, before someone says there are more Christians than that in the US, consider the fact that there are a lot of pretenders out there.
Consider God’s word
Matthew 7:22-23 KJV
Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works? And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity.
Amen the bible is very clear, I use to believe in complementarianism until saw the confliction with the bible.
Thank you Lori. Its’s sad about the divorce rate, especially in Christian marriages. And I have to say, I was taught to love my husband from younger women who learned from older wise godly women.
There is a shortage of Titus 2 women out there so many young women have to pass what they’ve learned about letting husbands lead in the home, wives being keepers at home, etc to their peers.
Feminism isn’t just wrong, it’s also rather stupid.
In a Patriarchy, men are in charge, so they are forced to work hard, be responsible, and shield women and children from harm. Men willingly take the weight of the world on their shoulders.
Feminists say that, instead, women should take the weight of the world on THEIR shoulders. Thus making their lives harder, angrier, and more miserable.
Huh? How is this is a good thing?
Even the president has to submit to someone. For example, his security team. Their job is to keep him safe. If he ignores their orders, he puts his life at risk. No one is above submission. No-one.
Amen and Amen Lori!
My husband is the unquestioned leader of our family and certainly head over me. I love to obey him and submit to him in EVERYTHING! I gladly serve my husband and the Lord. My husband completely and totally takes care of me, provides for me and protects me. In turn I am his help meet and love and support him so he can be the best God centered man that he can be. We rarely argue because he always knows what is best for me and our family. I stay home where I belong and am so very blessed to have my three grown sons (and my dad) near me as well so I am surrounded by wonderful godly men to take care of me! To me it seems so simple, however I know the world isn’t that way and I am very sheltered but still have hope that if more women would turn toward the Word and biblical womanhood, we could strengthen our wonderful men and stay out of their way so they can be great providers and leaders and make the world a little better!!!
“Wade and Jade” are happily married. They faced a major decision. After much prayer, Wade made a decision. Jade supported him. However , her Mother is strongly opposed to the decision. She causes much stress to Jade as she criticizes Wade to her (and others). Jade knows she is under Wade’s authority , not her Mom’s, yet she wants to maintain a good relationship with her Mother.
Any advice for “Jade?”
She must obey her husband, NOT her mother. She is under her husband’s authority now.
Jade should tell her mother that she supports her husband and that her mother needs to stop criticizing her husband. The mother may be upset for a time, but it’s a boundary that needs to be set. She wouldn’t let her mother criticize her child without defending him, so why should she let her mother criticize her husband? She should be her husband’s biggest fan. In the end, having a healthy relationship with her mother requires that she let her mother know that this behavior is not acceptable. She can do it gently, but firmly.
Appreciated.
I was raised in a household that believed that men and women are completely equal. (Also worth noting, both of my parents, along with my step parents, have had at least 1 divorce, my dad has had 2.) I’ve only just recently come to realize the truth through the Bible and how wrong they are. Sad thing is, they think I’m trying to regress society when the subject comes up. All that being said, I appreciate your content and I’m learning a lot through your posts. Thanks for being a light in the darkness!