Happy to Say “I am a Wife and Mother!”
Once in a while, I listen to Dennis Prager on the radio. I enjoy him because his values are the same as mine and he is kind. Yesterday, he shared that he asked one woman what she does for a living and she pondered for a minute and answered, “I am a domestic engineer.” He went on to say how badly he felt that women today can no longer simply answer, “A wife and mother” but needs to make up some fancy description to describe the most important job in the world – raising children into adults.
Anyone can take the place of an astronaut, an engineer, a doctor, or name any other career out there, but no one can take the place of a mother in a child’s life. If you are married and have children, no one can take your place and your time and energy should be going to caring for these important people in your life, not given to strangers who could replace you in a blink of an eye.
Dennis also brought up something that happened in the Australian Parliament. A senator nursed her baby while the Parliament was in session. She has no problem showing her breasts to men while she is nursing her baby. Why not? Men can go shirtless and there’s no problem with it. Since men and women are now equal in every way, according to feminism, this shouldn’t be a problem, right? Wrong. They fail to realize that men will always have an attraction for women’s breasts. God made them this way: “Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love” (Proverbs 5:19).
Then I hear of Ivanka Trump trying to convince her father, our President, to create another enormous government program to pay for childcare for mothers so they can have careers and not worry about the financial situation. All of these are lies that our culture keeps screaming at us and trying to pull us away from the life that God has planned for us!
God made you a woman for a reason. He gave you a womb to bear children. He gave you breasts to nourish your baby and satisfy your husband. He made you soft for your baby to cuddle with you and your husband to enjoy. He made you the weaker vessel and your husband stronger to provide and protect you. He made you love beauty so you could use your desire for beauty to make your homes places of beauty for your families and all who enter. It’s all a part of His wonderful and perfect plan for you.
The job the Lord has given you at home is holy, women. Since God has created you to be keepers at home, being a keeper at home is set apart and as you clean, cook, and care for your family, you are doing it in service to the Lord and as an act of worship to Him. This culture is trying to tell you that these things don’t matter and you were called to more “important” things but it’s not true. It’s all a lie from the enemy of our soul who tries to continually encourage women to blaspheme the Word of God (Titus 2:5).
Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God (1 Corinthians 10:31). Raise your children to the glory of God. Clean your home to the glory of God. Cook nourishing food for your family to the glory of God. Dress modestly for the glory of God. Make love to your husband to the glory of God. All of this pleases Him and this is all that matters.
“God sanctifies our work. Feed the hungry. Give drink to the thirsty. Clothe the naked. Hey! I do that everyday! Who knew that I could be completing the corporal works of mercy right in my own home?” (from the article “Asking for a drink,” Soul Gardening, A Mother’s Journal).
Why do people today call us radical for following God’s plans for us? It’s not. They are the ones who have radically veered from the ancient paths set for them from the beginning. We are on the right path – the narrow path that leads to life! Never be ashamed to say that you are a wife and mother for this pleases the Lord and know that all of your work, if done for the Lord, in your home and for your family is not in vain.
Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye stedfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, forasmuch as ye know that your labour is not in vain in the Lord.
1 Corinthians 15:58
21 thoughts on “Happy to Say “I am a Wife and Mother!””
Amen! Gosh I love this truth. I have so much peace in my heart since reading your teachings. Hallelujah, God bless you Lori. ❤️
I asked a number of girls in my daughter’s fourth grade class at a Christian school what they wanted to be when they grow up… they said things like a lawyer, doctor, judge, and astronaut. Sadly no one mentioned wife and mother. It gave me a great opportunity to share about the high calling God has given me as a wife and mother. It’s all I ever wanted to be. Most responded by saying they wished their own moms would stay at home. Isn’t that interesting?!
Hi Lori,
My response is “housewife”. And I never add anything to that, like “just a…..”. Nor do I feel the need to justify what I do. I do say that I love being a housewife. And it’s because of blogs like yours that I have been able to come to this position; your encouragement and teaching have helped me so much in life. Thank you for all that you do.
Lovely post!
Here is an article I found on Facebook which is a sad but true example of how women today think of their role as being “just” a housewife and mother. So sad!
http://www.nzherald.co.nz/lifestyle/news/article.cfm?c_id=6&objectid=11857563
Thank you, Annie! Peace only comes from the Lord. I read this verse just this morning: “Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee” (Isaiah 26:3).
They are following along what they are being taught even at a Christian school, sadly, Holly. What they wish from their mothers they can’t see that it’s what they want. What a sad and mixed up world we live in and what’s most tragic is that even Christians are sad and mixed up because they have fallen so far from the Lord’s ways. Keep planting seeds of truth!
You’re welcome, Jessi, and yes, we should be so thankful that we are able to be housewives that we shout it from the mountaintops! It’s the best job in the world.
Very sad indeed, KAK. Women today are more concerned about their “happiness” than anyone else’s. It’s called selfishness, plain and simple.
I think women should be far more embarrassed to admit they work outside the home than saying that they are a homemaker. When some of my daughters were little, they would say they wanted to have jobs such as doctors, veterinarians, singers, etc., but I would gently remind them that God liked it best when they stayed home to take care of their families! Now, three of them are mothers and homemakers, and my youngest daughter is excited to fulfill God’s role for her once she leaves and meets a man.
I used to have my email signature as ” Director of Home Affairs” back in the late 90s when we first got email and internet what then called America Online. People were confused by that and I would explain that I’m a keeper at home with no outside job.
I read the article in the link and I can’t help but think how sad that makes me. She done the exact opposite of what I think I would have done. If I was told I only had two years left, I would want to spend every minute I could with my husband and son. There isn’t anyone else or any other “hobby” or “experience” that could ever surpass spending time with the ones God gave me to care for. Nothing could ever compare, no salsa dancing or traveling the world. My husband and I have been married for 22 years (been together for 26 years) and our son is in college, and yet I still have that desire to be the wife I know God created me to be.
How sad that she was willing to walk away from her family to “live her life”, it just sounds lonely to me, because what good is an experience if you don’t get to share it with the ones you love?
Agreed. It’s our relationships and the companionship with our spouse that should be the most valuable thing in our lives, not experiences. Plus, the greatest of all is the servant of all but without the Lord, priorities are all mixed up.
We already do this with our oldest granddaughter, Russanne. We explain to her how wonderful being married and having children is and how it is God’s perfect plan for her. It’s never to early to begin planting seeds of truth into our children’s lives!
I love the term “keeper at home” since it’s the word the Lord uses for us in His Word! Good for you for not being afraid to explain clearly what you do, Regina!
“I think women should be far more embarrassed to admit they work outside the home than saying that they are a homemaker. ”
Amen! Great comment, Russanne! 🙂
Totally agree with you. My husband and my child are the most important people in the world. I love taking care of them.
Wow this post really resonated with me. I’m from a younger generation, what some might refer to as a “millennial.” I just turned 30, and only recently have I become comfortable enough to say “housewife or stay home with my children” and not feel the need to justify or add on. It seems as if others my age feel that staying home with your children and caring for your husband is backwards and the easy route. I’ve gone to college, and worked when our oldest was a baby and it was heart wrenching, exhausting and I would come home and give my family scraps of what energy I had left. We have three children now and I love my role as a homemaker, and your blog has given me such encouragement and biblical truth. It has convicted me and shed light on things I struggle with. Thank you so much!
You’re welcome, Nicole! I wish as a young woman I would have been able to clearly see that what God wanted me to do was exactly what I wanted to do: be married, have children, and be a keeper at home. It was so contrary from what I was learning everywhere but it was my heart’s desire and to find it was God’s, too, was incredible!
I am a single mom, so I work, and don’t see anything wrong with it for myself. If I didn’t work, I would not be able to afford my home. I don’t get child support or alimony and the cost of living here is too high. I don’t like the idea of living off welfare or govt assistance. even paying my mortgage every month is more than I would get in assistance and they would likely say i don’t qualify because I own a condo and could take out a home equity loan. my mortgage is less than rent in my area, so i’m stuck.
It may not be wrong for yourself but it’s sure not the best for your children, Amy. Have you ever asked the Lord to make a way for you to earn money from home? There are so many ways to do this today and many mothers are finding ways by living frugally and doing something to bring in income.
I have 3 children whom I homeschool & this last November I tried to help out our family financially with a part-time evening job. I quit today. I agree, it felt embarrassing to tell people I picked up a job, and the number of congratulations shocked me. I hated the fact that I was picking up work and I bet once I tell people I quit they’ll tell me how sorry they are. Even though I worked 9 hours a week, it was enough to cause me great stress. My husband had to pick up my duties in the evening. It did not feel natural. I also the child who if asked, what would you want to be when you grow up? Responded with, ” I just want to be a mom.” Thank you for this article! It has encouraged me.