A woman emailed me and asked me these questions. They’re things I have been pondering lately.

“Is it wrong for Christians to watch movies? People kiss people who are not married in real life. Not to mention, those women most likely aren’t stay-at-home women. Are we partaking in adultery by watching movies (because of them kissing, etc)? And what about cooking shows on TV? I enjoy watching stuff like that, but those women are, again, not being stay-at-home moms and are instead on TV away from home. Are we partaking in/supporting their sin? He who laughs at sin is a fool and is guilty of that sin (paraphrased). I don’t want a ‘We aren’t responsible for what other people do’ answer. I want a real answer. We aren’t responsible for what other people do, but then again, YES WE ARE RESPONSIBLE by watching, partaking, and supporting, by the means of watching and enjoying those shows. Does God count these things as sin against us? Am I putting unnecessary burdens on myself, or do I seriously need to find other forms of entertainment? Either we believe what we preach, or we don’t. What about our children?

My husband, Ken, helped me with the response.

She brings up many good questions that should make us ponder. I know I wouldn’t want my husband kissing other women on a TV or movie set, or anywhere else! I am very careful about what I do watch, and do not want to see anything to do with nudity, bed scenes, and adultery. Our Christian homes are often filled with such things coming through the tube, and most Christians give very little thought to the effects of watching sin over and over again on TV. Each one of us must answer for ourselves what we as adults consume, but no matter what, protect the eyes and ears of our children.

Is watching a couple kiss on TV sin? No. If there is a film that is decent and shows women living good, decent lives, like “Seeking Persphone” (favorite movie ever!), should I not recommend it since the two main stars kiss? There was nothing besides a kiss: no swear words, nudity, adultery, or anything indecent. Some Christian families choose not to have a TV in their home. I do not think this to be an exaggerated response to the great amount of worldly indoctrination and sins found on TV. We have a TV in our home, and our conviction is to be choosy as to what we will watch. That is our freedom in Christ, at least until we are convicted by the Holy Spirit differently.

But the big question is: “Where does Christian liberty end and sin begin?” James 4:17 gives us a good part of the answer: “Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin.”  We can explain our own limits and ask others to ponder their limits, but liberty dictates that for things that are not specifically called sin in the Word, we must allow each Believer the freedom to choose their own way. That does not mean they are necessarily in God’s will, but it does mean they are covered by the blood of Christ. Our promised sanctification declares us holy in Christ Jesus and promises that God will grow us up into Christ to become more and more like Him. This means learning from His Word and allowing His Spirit to convict us of our sins, many of which we may not be fully aware of, or we have quenched the Spirit because we enjoy our sin and don’t want to give it up.

Is receiving services from a working woman sin? No! I go grocery shopping where there are female cashiers. I go to restaurants with female waitresses. I have flown on jets with female flight attendants. I go to a female gynecologist. Should I not go shopping, eat out, fly, or go to female doctors because many of them should be stay-at-home moms? It’s not my job to force women to obey God and His will for them.

Most CEOs and owners of supermarkets and restaurants are godless, with many supporting LGBT and abortion. Should we never buy their products? I do. This whole world lies in wickedness, but if someone is making a product I love, I will buy it. It’s not my job to make others holy and separate from the world.

We are in the World, but not to be part of this world? How is your life different? Jesus tells us in His prayer to the Father that “I have given them thy word; and the world hath hated them, because they are not of the world, even as I am not of the world. I pray not that thou shouldest take them out of the world, but that thou shouldest keep them from the evil. They are not of the world, even as I am not of the world.” (John 17:14-16). So we are in this world, yet not of this world. We are not to be under the influence of worldly things, but under the influence of the Holy Spirit who helps us walk in righteousness and truth. Unfortunately, too many Christians are more friendly to the world than they are to the Kingdom of God. Their lives look little different than the world except for a Church service. We are “set apart” (holy in Christ Jesus). We are to live this way, and others should see that we are different in our walk, talk, dress, and especially our love and service to others.

I teach women God’s Word that tells them to be keepers at home. And yes, that is different from the world. From there, it is up to them to live out their freedom in Christ as they choose. Not freedom to do whatever they like, and certainly not freedom to sin, but freedom to say “No!” to sin and “Yes!” to righteousness. Some women must work; some women are single or available to work without their families suffering, especially once the children leave the home. The rest need to decide how important it is to them, their family, and to God if they stay at home or go to work, often leaving their babies in the arms of strangers. And once they have made that choice, our job is to love them, pray for them, and teach them what God’s perfect will is, as mothers are the first in line for raising the next generation of godly offspring. It’s their choice, and they must live with the results, some of which will last an eternity. Our job is to speak the truth in love and to love all people, even those whose choices we may disagree with. This comes down to the conviction between a husband and a wife. Since he is the leader of the home, he should be the one who ultimately decides. This is between them and their God: right or wrong.

I love teaching biblical womanhood to women, and I am willing to teach it with great conviction both from the Word and experientially, with much of that experience doing things the wrong way before being convicted by the Spirit and the Word to repent and find God’s perfect will for my life. I love hearing the many stories of lives being changed just as mine was, where I came out from my blindness into the light of the glorious Word of God. I thought I was walking in freedom, but I was enslaved to the mind of this world until I discovered my new life in Christ Jesus. You have to want to be free to be able to walk in the freedom Christ gives us. Freedom to choose to walk in the Spirit of righteousness and not of this world. Not questioning every little thing you do in this world, but enjoying your freedom while asking the Lord to open your eyes and convict you of sin. Our focus should no longer be on sin, but on pleasing our Lord Jesus in the liberty bought with the price of His precious blood.

Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.
2 Corinthians 5:17

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God promises us a sound mind: “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” (2 Timothy 1:7 KJV)

He told us how to have a sound mind:

“Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.” (2 Corinthians 10:5)

“And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” (Romans 12:2)

Women have asked me how to do this, so I am going to give you some examples:

“My husband is driving me crazy!” Taking captive: “Love suffers long.”

“He’s being unkind to me.” Taking captive: “Love is not easily offended.”

“I’m feeling overwhelmed!” Taking captive: “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”

“I feel like I can’t take it anymore.” Taking captive: “The joy of the Lord is my strength.”

“My pain is so bad!” Taking captive: “For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, worketh for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory.”

“I’m so worried about my rebellious son.” Taking captive: “Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.”

“They hurt my feelings.” Taking captive: “Self-pity is satanic.”

“I’m having trouble sleeping!” Taking captive: “I will pray and sing praise songs in my mind, for God is my maker who gives songs in the night.” (Job 35:10)

“I’m worried about the future.” Taking captive: “She shall rejoice in time to come because she knows who holds the future!”

“I want to marry and have babies so badly!” Taking captive: “God is good, and His plan for you is good.” (Romans 8:28)

“I don’t know what I should do with my life.” Taking captive: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your path.”

“I have so many scars from my childhood. I will never be able to change.” Taking captive: “Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.”

“I’m not that bonded with one of my children.” Taking captive: “I will love that child as God commands that I love them even if I don’t feel like it.”

“I don’t feel like giving him sex!” Taking captive: “I love my husband and want to please him.”

“I really want to groan and complain because of how bad I feel.” Taking captive: “Just because I feel miserable doesn’t mean I should make my family miserable.”

“I don’t like how God made me.” Taking captive: “See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God. And that is what we are!”

“My husband is so lazy.” Taking captive: “Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt.” And, “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to use in edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.”

“They have it easier than me, a better house, nicer stuff, etc.” Taking captive: “Godliness with contentment is great gain.” And “In everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”

 “I am going to give them a piece of my mind!” Taking captive: “Let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.

“This battle is too hard.” Taking captive: “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.”

“They really hurt me, and I can not forgive them.” Taking captive: “And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.”

“I am fearful and worried. I am so stressed out!” Taking captive: “Be careful [anxious] for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus” and “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid” and “Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.”

“I’m suffering from extreme emotional shifts.” Taking captive: “Be still and know that he is God.”

“I don’t feel close to God.” Taking captive: “Nothing can separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

“He was rude to me.” Taking captive: “A soft answer turns away wrath.”

“I am exhausted and worn out.” Taking captive: “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” And, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”

There are many more, but now you have an idea how to do it! Remember, practice makes perfect. When you have any wrong, negative, or critical comment, kick it out immediately and replace it with truth.

*I didn’t add the Scripture reference to every verse since when I say them to myself, I don’t say the reference. Not all of them have references, but if you know God’s Word and have wisdom, you can easily remind yourself of His will for you, even if there’s not an exact verse.

Please listen to this sermon by John MacArthur on Godly Thinking.

Here is another great one by James Knox called The Battle in the Mind.

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This was written by Lindsay Harold on Facebook.

It does matter whether Lindsay Clancy killed her children. Her own confession, her husband’s testimony, and so on appear to all confirm that she did.

It doesn’t matter so much whether she was having a psychotic break at the time. Maybe she was out of her head on meds. Maybe she was not fully aware of reality. Maybe it was demonic possession. Maybe she’s just evil. In one sense, it doesn’t matter. We can’t access her state of mind. We can’t tell what she was thinking at the time. But we don’t need to to deliver justice. She killed her children. She deserves to die. We don’t have to become expert mind-readers before we can execute someone for murder. God knows exactly what she deserves, and He will give her perfect justice in the hereafter. It’s our job to send her to that judgment.

See, earthly justice will always be imperfect. We’re not God. We can’t see into hearts. We were never given the task of reading minds or determining a person’s mental state. God commands that murderers be put to death to uphold the value of human life.

It’s not just about Lindsay Clancy herself or about justice for her children. The effect that this case will have on future generations is profound. If we tell women that having mental health problems is an excuse to murder their children, we will get a lot more of it. That’s just the sad fact of the matter. Women with mental health problems will feel entitled to give in to their basest impulses and most disturbing thoughts. Society will have told them that they can’t help it. It’s not their fault. Even women who are not mentally disturbed can fake it. It’s not that hard. There’s no objective test. There’s no blood draw or brain scan that can find it. Doctors go mostly on self-reported feelings and sometimes the testimony of others about recent behavior. We have no objective evidence that there was anything physically or mentally wrong with Lindsay Clancy. We only know what she claimed about her internal mental state. That’s not evidence we can act on. We can act on the evidence that she killed her kids.

Given the disturbing support for Lindsay Clancy that is growing in some sectors of society, and the large number of women saying they have thought of similar things or that it could have been them, if we find her not guilty, we will see more children meet a similar fate. We would be telling more women that they don’t have to control themselves. They can act on their murderous impulses because it’s not their fault. They might even become a sympathetic celebrity if they do. And children will die because of that. The more sympathy we give murderers, the more murderers we will create.

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Man has always been capable of horrendous evil ever since sin entered the world. However, I do believe behavior in America is worse than ever before. In my mom’s generation, they rarely heard of anyone getting divorced. Couples stayed married until one of them died. They didn’t have to lock their doors or fear their children were going to be abducted and murdered. The worst problems teachers faced in the classroom were chewing gum and talking too much. Sure, people were depressed back then, but not like today.

Dr. Archibald Hart, a clinical psychologist for 45 years, said that 40 years ago the onset of depression was around 45 years old. Now, it is 14 years old! Something has gone terribly wrong; I believe it is a combination of things. Throwing out biblical principles is the most important one. With that comes divorce, abortion, and all kinds of evils. The breakdown of the family is destroying societies. Children need a father and mother. This is why God hates divorce. Divorce breeds anger in children.

The way children are being raised is another problem. Few parents are raising disciplined adults. They no longer say “no” to their children, teach them boundaries, or discipline them. This has raised a generation of selfish adults. It is all about them. When people were depressed years ago, they would be unhappy and maybe end up killing themselves, not taking down 20 children with them or their own children.

It’s also proven that mothers who are home full time raise far more emotionally stable and secure children than those whose mothers are in the workforce. Read “The Way Home” by Mary Pride to find the facts about the many benefits of mothers being home to raise their own children. God commands women to be keepers at home so they don’t blaspheme His Word in Titus 2:5. I believe this is one way women in the workforce blaspheme His Word. Do all you can to be home with your children! They need you.

We also have a culture of death. Abortion is death to millions of babies. Homosexual marriage is death to the procreation of children. Pornography is death to marriages and true intimacy in marriage. Television, movies, and video games trivialize death and destruction.

Our only hope is in Jesus. It always has been, and it always will be. He transforms the human into a new creature and puts His Spirit within them, enabling them to walk in love. Pray for this nation. Pray for your neighborhood and church. May all men come to see Christ living in you.

If you have trouble with your thinking and have a tendency towards depression, ponder these verses. I encourage you to memorize them.

Take EVERY thought captive to the obedience of Christ. Kick out wrong thoughts immediately and replace them with the truth of who you are in Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5).

The battle is in the mind. Be transformed by renewing your mind with Truth (Romans 12:1,2).

Remind yourself that self-pity is satanic. Keep your eyes on Christ instead of on yourself (Colossians 3:1-4).

Dwell on the true, the honest, the just, the pure, and the lovely (Philippians 4:8).

Stay focused on loving God and others (Luke 10:27).

Remember, godliness with contentment is GREAT gain (1 Timothy 6:6).

Be thankful rather than complain or be ungrateful (Colossians 3:17).

Finally, remind yourself that God has promised you a sound mind.

For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
2 Timothy 1:7

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From Chapter 1 of Reverend Zach Garris’s Masculine Christianity:

Masculinity is in peril. Women are being pushed into roles formerly held by men, which in turn is driving men out of society. Women are pursuing more advanced degrees, working full-time jobs, and sometimes even making more money than their husbands. In other words, women are pursuing careers outside the home.

The problem with this is that it comes at the expense of children and family life. Rather than aiding men as wives and mothers, women are competing with men in the same tasks. As a result of women displacing them, men are doing quite poorly overall. Fewer men are going to college, and a high number of men are not in the workforce at all.

Men are suffering high rates of divorce (often at the instigation of their wives), incarceration, loneliness, alcohol and substance abuse, and suicide. Marriage is in such a sad state that many men have decided to entirely forego traditional marriage and children. Yet when men suffer, everyone suffers. God has designed men to lead their families, and thus women are also suffering as a result of the decline of men.

The erosion of masculinity harms us all. Everyone is aware of the breakdown of the family in the West and its effect on children, many of whom are growing up fatherless or splitting time with their divorced or never-married parents. However, women too are harmed by this breakdown. There are many bad men in the world, and there are now fewer good men doing their job to protect and provide for their wives and children. Women are left vulnerable, and they are being used sexually rather than committed to in marriage.

Of course, it is not only the family that has suffered. The church and state consist of families, and both institutions are weakened by the breakdown of the family unit. The decline of men has coincided with the rise of the welfare state, as civil government seeks to provide financial assistance—and thus fills the provisionary role of the father—for children born outside of wedlock. Such policies have not only rewarded (and thus encouraged) bad practices, but they have also usurped the charity role traditionally reserved for the church.

Women have also sought leadership positions in the church traditionally held by men, with many churches now ordaining women as pastors and elders. Considering the clarity of the relevant biblical passages, as well as the overwhelming historical practice prohibiting such, the acceptance of women church leaders has undermined the authority of both the Bible and church history. There is no question that the church is weaker as a result of female leadership.”

As for my people, children are their oppressors, and women rule over them. O my people, they which lead thee cause thee to err, and destroy the way of thy paths.
Isaiah 3:12

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Written by Eric Conn on X

First, the argument that women need higher education so they can raise godly sons actually goes back to the French Revolution period. Proto-feminists and revolutionaries sought to destroy Christian families, so they used this nefarious line often: “A woman needs to have a university education outside the home if she is to raise godly sons.”

This was a subtle maneuver. What they really wanted was to brainwash the girl whilst away from her Christian father’s authority. This is why Marxists and Bolsheviks targeted and infiltrated education. Women off at school are easy prey for leftists.

Second, Scripture is clear that young women should not leave their father’s protection/headship, which means his household, until she is passed on to the headship of the husband at the altar. There should not be a period of “single womanhood” wherein she lives outside the authority of a head.

Third, single women should not be encouraged to go get an advanced degree (you get a degree to get a job outside the home, obviously a man’s domain, biblically speaking). If her main vocation/calling is motherhood, it’s obvious you learn that in a home with a mother, not off at college. Let’s be real: College is for training workers in the workforce. Women aren’t called to do that.

This whole notion that you should get married, but until then go find a career so you don’t waste your time, is not what women are called, biblically, to do. Now, this does not mean she “doesn’t work.” She can assist her father in myriad ways within the productive household, and her mother as well.

Fourth, young women should be instructed, in line with Paul (1 Tim. 5:14; Titus 2), to continue serving in the household, with headship, under a godly mother. The best place for her to learn how to be a mother is in the home, with a mother.

Fifth, her father should actively seek a husband for her. He plays a pivotal role in vetting suitors, even as Abraham sought a wife for his son, Isaac.

Sixth, when women pursue degrees, rack up debt, and then chase careers, this actually hurts their marriageable status—men would have to inherit a boss babe, debt, etc. They’re also far busier advancing in business, which often prohibits them from spending time looking for a spouse. And they become wildly independent, which makes them unsuited for a role in which submission is the main ingredient.

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