What About Barren and Single Women?

What About Barren and Single Women?

Written by Nancy Campbell at Above Rubies

A reader once asked me, “If motherhood is the highest calling of women, what about women who are single or married women who are barren?” This is a very valid question.

When we give birth to a baby and gradually add to our family we are propelled into the realm of motherhood. However, this is not the beginning of motherhood. Every female is ordained at birth to be a mother. Little girls love mothering from the earliest age. Did you know that a baby girl has approximately two million eggs in her ovaries when she is born?

Every woman is created to be a mother, whether she has many children, is barren, or single. God put within every female an innate desire and anointing to nurture. Even those who spurn motherhood, because of the brainwashing of our humanist society, can’t get away from it. If they don’t want to nurture babies, they will nurture a pet. They have to have something on which to pour out their God-given mothering instinct.

Some of the greatest mothers who have lived were not married women and never gave birth to children. Of course, we immediately think of Mother Theresa, who although a single woman, poured out her life in sacrificial love to the poor and the needy. In doing so, she was a great mother and a totally fulfilled woman. A single woman or a woman who is not able to conceive is still a mother.

There is a drought of mothering in our needy and hurting society today. Mothers are the greatest need in society, whether married or single. There are hurting children, disturbed young people, and lonely and needy elderly who are all desperate for the loving touch of an anointed and nurturing woman, whether married or single.

Single women should ask God in what direction He wants them to pour out His loving nurture He has innately put within them. God will lead them to many broken and messed up lives. Often the barren woman ends up with more children than the married. Isaiah 54:1: “Sing, O barren, thou that didst not bear; break forth into singing, and cry aloud, thou that didst not travail with child: for more are the children of the desolate than the children of the married wife, saith the Lord.”

The most important thing is for each one of us, married and single, to generously embrace the lifestyle of mothering God intends for us. Mothers with children, embrace your wonderful high calling of motherhood. Don’t hanker for another lifestyle; you are in the perfect will of God.

Single women or precious mothers who cannot conceive at this time, embrace the mothering anointing that God has given you and open your heart to mother all whom God brings into your life. There are so many waiting for you.

Love from Nancy Campbell

8 thoughts on “What About Barren and Single Women?

  1. Good points! Spiritual motherhood is just as needed in today’s fallen society! That’s why I think women can take part in helping charities, social programs etc… to promote traditional womanhood and societal values that are now being destroyed by feminism and radical liberalism. The “I can do anything I want consequence free” culture must be fought against! As women traditionally are the main keepers for mortality and virtue in society and in her family, she can extend that feminine duty to society at large by being an advocate for virtue in a society trying to undermine it. We need traditional women out in society to advocate for their virtues and hopefully show women on the fence they’re not alone, and there’s more than just the radical feminist take on womanhood.

    To your other point, I was adopted and my own mother could never conceive her own biological children. However, she is just as much a mother as anyone who gave birth physically! She loved me, nurtured me, raised me as her #1 priority as all mothers ought to do. She worked, but her greatest calling was her motherhood, and she dreamed of being a mother since she too was a very young girl. A TRUE mother is not about who can just conceive and pop out children they can’t care for and don’t want and resent. Anyone who can fit part A with part B can get knocked up! A REAL mother nurtures, protects, loves and raises a child as her #1 priority regardless of biological origin…. To be anything less to the children you conceived is no mother, just a skank who got pregnant…

  2. Oh, Lori, I think Nancy Campbell had the Lord anointing her when she wrote this article! It is incredibly encouraging to be reminded that, “He maketh the barren woman… to be a joyful mother of children”(Psalm:113:9).
    THANK YOU for posting this today on behalf of all women.

  3. Thank you, Nancy, for this. My husband and I recently celebrated our 25th Anniversary and sadly do not have children (NOT by our choice). We did foster care for a bit but that was too heartbreaking when the baby was moved to another home (the foster care program is broken here in Maine!). We are “Auntie & Uncle” to MANY – only a few biological, but that is what our friends children call us. But I still have yearned for my own. And to have early menopause at 36 sealed my fate (yet I know with God all things are possible). This article just really hit home and I appreciate it – and appreciate YOU – so much. God bless!

  4. Thank you for this-shared with a friend who is unable to bear children due to illness at an early age. This brought her peace as the concept of motherhood is often seen as having one’s own children. She’s been hurt and upset having had to explain to strangers in church (many assumed she and her husband were using contraception-so sad, and also unnerving to discuss one’s personal reproductive health issues.) This was refreshing for her to read.

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